Ricky Martin finally comes out of the closet

Ricky Martin arrives at the 52nd annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles

Shocking absolutely zero people, Ricky Martin has come out of the closet. Finally! I’ve known he was gay ever since he gasped when he met Madonna live at the Grammys back in 1999. I knew he was gay when he tried to come halfway out of the closet by sort-of admitting he was bisexual. Don’t lie, he beeped on everybody’s gaydar. Anyway, Ricky chose not to come out on the cover of The Advocate or in one of the respected gay publications. Ricky didn’t even go the People Magazine route (aka, “pulling a Lance Bass”). Instead, he decided to come out on his website, and he wrote a long explanation for this whole thing too. Drama queen! No, I get it. He wants to explain:

A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And thisis something worth celebrating.

For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that’s the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It’s my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don’t ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I’m at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I’m feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.

Many people told me: “Ricky it’s not important”, “it’s not worth it”, “all the years you’ve worked and everything you’ve built will collapse”, “many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature”. Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.

If someone asked me today, “Ricky, what are you afraid of?” I would answer “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.

These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.

What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word “happiness” takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.

I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.

[From Ricky Martin’s website]

I love that sentence: “I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man.” It makes me giggle because I keep thinking that somewhere in this world, some dude is coming out of the closet by telling his parents “I am an unfortunate homosexual man.” I also liked that Ricky name checked his “fears”: “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” When you put it like that, how can we not accept his gayness, right? It’s not like he’s not a terrorist!

Anyway, congratulations to Ricky. Well done! Here’s what I want to know now – does he have a partner/boyfriend? I’m thinking he does, just because you never hear about Ricky going out to gay clubs and hitting on men. I would also bet that the partner/boyfriend is helping Ricky raise those cute little twin boys!



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  1. viper says:

    I did not see that coming… seriously what is going on with the industry? People coming out, people divorcing, people cheating, people ODing, people on drugs, going to rehab, this is crazy.

  2. Sumodo says:

    Ay, mami! Must’ve been La Coacha at http://www.chismetime.com calling him La Ricky Martin!

  3. Mistral says:

    Good luck Ricky! Love your music. Congrats on the babies and on finally feeling able to be your true self in public.

  4. SolitaryAngel says:

    Good for him.

  5. Kaye says:

    Good for him. I hope he does have a partner in his life.

  6. girl says:

    Good for him. What a wonderfully written essay. I hope that more people will find strength from his words.

    I hope that he feels better after having officially come out. And I hope that none of his fears of people shunning him are realized.

  7. hatsumomo says:

    I think this qualifies as one of the biggest ‘No Shit Sherlock’ moments in history.

    Moving on, show more pics of your cute babies!

  8. Kitten says:

    Was he ever in the closet ?

  9. d says:

    I’ve always liked this guy – he seems a good egg. I also like that he came out on his own site too, instead of to a tabloid. It seems to be a happy thing, finally feeling comfy enough to say it once and for all. Maybe sad that he couldn’t mention it earlier for fear of threat to his career, but … that’s his call to make. I like that he alludes to how keeping hidden something so crucial to inner peace can wreck you and how good it feels to just admit it and let the consequences be damned (being true to oneself). Regardless of what everyone already thinkds about him, it’s still a courageous move for him to make, so I applaud him for it. Good on ya, buddy.

  10. Carena says:

    I can’t wait for the day when people don’t have to be afraid for the end of their career based on their sexual orientation. That day is close…I can feel it…but I understand why he felt he couldn’t come out until now.

  11. KLaw says:

    But what about his wife? Is he not married? Clearly he likes women a little bit. He has children! Or am I missing something here? If he is married, we should be hoping his wife is okay with this news…

  12. Ricci says:

    Gad he is gorgeous

  13. girl says:

    @Klaw: Yes, you are missing something. One does not have to like women (in the sense, I assume you are referring to) in order to become a father.

    I am also about 99.99% sure he is not married to a woman.

  14. Deven says:

    KLaw…the kids are adopted. No wife!

  15. Lilias says:

    Yea, I’m not surprised. He has always pinged my gaydar and I just figured he thought it was none of anyone’s business.

    His babies are adorable! I think he does have a boyfriend who he’s raising them with, but I’m not sure. He tends to stay out of the media fairly well.

  16. risa says:


    I believe that he has never been married, he adopted those boys fairly recently….

    Beside the point….. another sweet, decent-looking man
    is taken off the ladies market….. boo hiss.

  17. manda says:

    huh. i thought he was already out.

  18. Aussie Mama says:

    What a beautiful, intelligent, honest, caring human being.
    The sexual orientation, who gives a shit.
    He’s more man, than most of the wankers in power, that think they are!

  19. Shannon says:

    I don’t remember a time when I thought he was straight!

  20. Maritimer says:

    I had no idea he was even in the closet.
    I have always thought this was common knowledge?

    His babies are beautiful. They were born via surrogacy, which he was very open about.

    And I am pretty sure he has a boyfriend. Every once and awhile the magazines have pictures of them on the beach together. His boyf is very good looking too (even better body if you can believe it!).

  21. the other mel says:

    Like we didn’t know! But congrats to him…I applaud him. He seems like a lovely man and a devoted and loving father.

  22. Carrie says:

    As soon as he had those babies I figured he’d fallen in love and settled down with a nice guy to start their family. The Spanish language tabloids have pictures every so often of Ricky with the same guy, hanging out with the kids and being normal- the guy is quite good looking as well.

  23. buckley says:

    This guy hit the genetic pool jackpot!

  24. OXA says:

    Who did he think believed he was straight.

  25. mhjmc says:

    I had suspicions but was still hopeful he’d come find me & sweep me off my feet .. damn now this just sucks!!

  26. Confuzzle says:

    The Spanish version is lovely too, thanks to the dodgy translator at Google:

    In recent months I gave myself the task of writing my memoirs. A project I knew would be one really important for me because since I wrote the first sentence I realized that the tool would help rid of things that came loaded from long ago. Things that were too heavy. Writing this thorough inventory of my life, I approached my truths. This is to celebrate!

    If there is a place that fills me shudder because my emotions, is the scenario, it is my vice. The music on the show, the applause, standing in front of a public makes me feel I’m capable of anything. It is a kind of adrenaline and euphoria do not want to stop running through my veins ever. If you, the public and the muse will allow me, I look forward to many more years scenarios. But today the serenity brings me to a very special place, one of reflection, understanding and great lighting. I feel free! And I want to share.

    Many people told me that it was important to do, not worth it, that everything works and everything he had accomplished would collapse. To many in this world would be unprepared to accept my truth, my nature. And as these tips came from people I love dearly, I decided to go ahead with my “almost true”. VERY BAD. Seduced by the sabotage was a real fear for my life. Today I completely take responsibility for all my decisions, and all my actions.

    And if you ask me this day “Ricky, are you afraid to? I would answer – “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war, child sex slavery, terrorism, the cynicism of some men in power, the hijacking of the faith.” But fear of my nature, my truth? NO MORE! Instead, they give me courage and firmness. Just what I need for me and mine, and more now that I am father of 2 creatures that are beings of light. Must be at its height. Continuing to live as I did until today, that would overshadow indirectly pure brilliance with which my children were born. BASTA YA! THINGS MUST CHANGE! I am clear that this is not supposed to pass for 5 or 10 years ago. This is supposed to happen today. Today is my day, this is my time, my time.

    To happen from now on? Who knows. I can only focus on what I’m experiencing now. These years in silence and reflection have strengthened me and reminded me that love lives inside of me that I find acceptance within me, and that truth alone brings calm. Today for me the meaning of happiness takes another dimension

    It was a very intense, distressing and painful but liberating. I swear that every word they are reading here is born of love, purification, strength, acceptance and detachment. That writing is closer to my inner peace, a vital part of my evolution. Today I accept my homosexuality as a gift that gives me life. I feel blessed to be who I am! —


    Good for you, Ricky.

  27. Erin says:

    Love him, and good for him! I’m glad he did it on his own time rather than be bullied into doing it by Perez etc.

  28. Allison says:

    i thought he came out like 12 years ago? seriously…back when i was like 8, my friends all knew already. But ok…well written anyway and good for him (again?)

  29. TG says:

    He is still hot! Well, I guess I never would have had a chance with him anyway.

  30. Leek says:

    I guess that ruins the odds for men in speedos doing yoga on the beach being straight. It makes sense now.

    Congrats on becoming a butterfly, Ricky.

  31. Renae says:

    WOW!!!! I’m mean Ricky we already knew that, but CONGRATS anyway.

  32. jane says:

    Well done Ricky! Congratulations.

  33. Kelly says:

    Sorry to all ladies. He really looks hot but he is a gay.

    Good Luck RM

  34. canadianchick says:

    Congrats Ricky, what a lovely family he’s made with his 2 son. Hope he’s found love too. Barbara Walters eat your heart out, he finally came out in his own time.

  35. KLaw says:

    When I said he must like women a little bit, I was under the impression he had sex with one to conceive his children. Didn’t know about the surrogacy. Glad he is happy and doing well. That is what is important.

  36. Popcorny says:

    Open that closet door a litte wider, I think I saw Kevin Spacey in there.
    Egad I can’t believe it’s big news that he’s telling us what we all knew all along. Danny Pintauro, Doogie, Ricky, etc., heck I think we all knew before even they did.
    Well, good for Ricky, hope it sells him a few extra books.

  37. Catherine says:

    And this is breaking news, how…..????

    Nothing new but kudos to him.

  38. GrrrrlGrace says:

    I’m shocked. I need to sit down.

  39. lucy2 says:

    This was sort of common knowledge already, but congrats to him for feeling confident enough to do it, and most importantly doing it on his own terms. He seems like a nice guy, and good luck to him.

    I did have to giggle a little at the idea of him writing his memoirs. Really? Didn’t he pretty much just have like 2 hit songs years ago? Does that equal a memoir?

  40. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    Congratulations Ricky!!!!! I wish you nothing but the best sweetie. Somebody in Menudo had to be gay.

  41. marie says:

    I always had my suspects but its not the same thing to suspect something and then confirming it, it was pretty shocking to me, didnt expect it. I though that it would always be a part of his life we would never entirely be sure of… And by the way he didnt adopted them, it was a surrogate thingy, idk exactly wath the process was… but the fact is that Mateo and Valentino are actually hes kids

  42. CiCi says:

    i hate this. we lambast them when they’re too flamboyant or overt, yet we badger them to come out until they feel obligated. pls just can’t we fcking leave everyone alone.

  43. Anthony says:

    GOOD 4 YOU

  44. Dawn says:

    Hey, Ricky doesn’t it feel good to be free. I will still buy and enjoy your music. Wish you the best!

  45. Kiki says:

    I felt a sudden loss of breath when I read this at work, yeah I had heard rumours about it but now it is a totally different thing that he accepts it. Here in Mexico, he is BIG so it is kind of shocking because he dated model Rebecca de Alba for many years -she is rumoured to be a lesbian; oh boy, the press is going to have a field trip on this one-.
    I am happy that Ricky is happy but I find this so unexpected… I guess I was the only one left in the dark. I’m so confused 🙁

  46. alexandra says:

    Those are his genetic kids. He had a surrogate

  47. Popcorny says:

    You know what I’d like to see?
    Prime time television (or the lap 5 laps of the the biggest Nascar event of the year) being interrupted by a tiger woods-type press conference where Richard Simmons announces he’s gay.
    It’d be the only way to put any shock value back into these announcements.
    Work it fellas!

  48. Emily says:

    @Porky D, he said he doesn’t have nannies or any sort of help.

    I heard this on the radio earlier, and I laughed. I mean, everyone knew. Still, I’m glad that he’s happy and feels that he can now come out. He used to be my favourite singer when I was younger, and I still like him. It’s much more fun out of the closet, Ricky!!

  49. jesy says:

    to my understanding when I saw his interview years ago regardig his twin boys is that the boys are his biologically and with some mexican sweetheart. He was engage with some mexican women who plays spanish soap operas and broke up with her when his careeer started to take off. I also understood he had adopted three inidian girls all sistes over 10 years ago. His interview was in the spanish show call Primer Impacto

  50. Dhavy says:

    I always had a feeling but he’s so gorgeous I was in denial (SIGH)

    I guess this is another George Michael moment, darn it!

  51. Aigul says:

    I am ok with Ricky coming out, but if the same happens to Wentworth Miller, then I am gonna be crushed(

  52. CandyKay says:

    Ricky did “date” several women, but a lot of gay guys do while trying to find themselves – even Elton John was married to a woman at one point. Freddie Mercury also had a longtime girlfriend whom he always remained close to; she was the heir to his fortune after his death from AIDS. Rock Hudson also had occasional affairs with women.

    Anyway, I’ve always liked Ricky, and as a woman I still find him sexy – after all, I was never really going to get with him anyway!

    Gossip columnists like Michael Musto have been calling him “Enriqua” for years, and alluding to a partner named Wilfredo. Not sure if that’s the man other posters have seen photographed with Ricky.

  53. Ursula says:

    Oh no, can’t he be bi?

    Now Anderson Cooper should just do himself a favor.

  54. PP says:

    Larry Birkhead is gay as well. His ex gay lover exposed him in public and Birkhead ddin’t deny it. Also Anna’s bodyguard Big Moe and Pol Atteu said Birkhead was gay sperm donor who had contract with Anna.

  55. isabelle says:

    Those boys are not adopted: he ‘used’ a surrogate mother to carry them for him.

  56. Jag says:

    Good for you, Ricky! God bless. 🙂

  57. alex says:

    you’re talking about rebecca de alba she’s known here in mexico for being the beard to a lot of gay artists,, some people has pointed out that she’s gay too but I can’t say that i know that for sure.., she’s very beautiful too

    I dont think this count as a NSFW but maybe


  58. Amy says:

    I never thought he was straight, even though he sang love songs to women.

  59. goga says:

    oe the following sentence make sense: where was he cold yesterday? (answer at school)

  60. mojoman says:

    Well, DUH!. Even my husband (whose gaydar is always broken) realized he is gay the moment he say him in that “she bang” music video.

  61. jez says:

    Those boys are biologically his. He had a surrogate. And seriously does anyone go over these posts? I know it’s al little things but words are missing and the spelling is wrong. I don’t know if it’s a play on words but come on.

    How we not except his gayness, right?

    You mean ‘how CAN we not ACCEPT his gayness, right?’

  62. scotchy says:

    i too cannot believe that people actually believed he was straight.
    i am glad he is finally out though, it must be nice to get to be yourself, after so many years of “pretending”

  63. danielle says:

    Good for him for coming out.

  64. Maritza says:

    He is such a sweet gentleman, I’ve always loved him and now even more. He did the right thing, people are more accepting nowadays, several years ago maybe it would’ve affected his career but not now.

  65. A.K.A says:


    “It’s not like he’s not a terrorist! ” …so Ricky is a terrorist as well ?!! ;)) Now I’m really shocked !!!

  66. Liz says:

    No more career for him in Latin America. Its OK to be in the closet but not out.

  67. Squirrel says:

    Finally! Good for him to be able to be himself and not have to pretend anymore. All the best and plenty of happiness and professional success for him!

  68. The Bobster says:

    And I thought he just acted fruity to appeal to his female fans.

  69. trvlbug529 says:

    Barbara Walters comments in recent weeks about regretting questions asked during interviews could have been the real reason Ricky “came out”.

  70. cara says:

    this is old news,I remember seeing the interview with BW way back in the day.It seemed after that you didn’t see him.
    It was not a surprise that he finally came clean,but why should anyone care which way he swings?

  71. Ann says:




    *ok drama over*

    Uff why all men I Run after turn into gay? :S

    is this world void of handsome straight men ……..coz all sexy hunks are gay and we straight women are left with ugly mongrels called straight men.


  72. julia says:

    My only question is “what took him so long?”

    Yeah like most of us didn’t know he was gay, you had to be from another planet not to have known.

    The answer to my question…Capitalism pure and simple he wanted money and fame and was afraid.

    Good to see that he is finally out of the closest and unlike George Michael, he is at least doing get works with his money and fame.

    I hope he finds happiness and love, it is after all what we all want and crave.