Princess Kate had big ‘reservations’ about taking on the ‘Princess of Wales’ title

When Kate Middleton married Prince William in 2011, Queen Elizabeth II gave the newlyweds a ducal title, and they became the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. In the Cambridge days, Kate’s “people” would often talk endlessly about how she’s “the future queen” and “don’t forget, she’ll be queen consort one day!” They always skipped over the actual hierarchy of the monarchy, which is that one day, Kate would become the Princess of Wales. As we learned in 2022, Kate never wanted to be called the Princess of Wales. Maybe her eye was always on the true prize (being queen) or maybe she didn’t actually want the title which was so closely associated with Princess Diana. Whatever it was, Kate wasn’t looking forward to being called “the Princess of Wales.” Well, as you can imagine, Russell Myers tries to spin Kate’s reticence (or whatever it was) into a positive in his new book, William & Catherine.

Kate Middleton had mixed feelings about taking on her title as the Princess of Wales, a royal styling that was closely associated with her late mother-in-law, Princess Diana.

In the new biography William and Catherine, The Monarchy’s New Era: The Inside Story (out March 10), author Russell Myers traces the couple’s journey, including the change to their royal roles following the 2022 death of Queen Elizabeth, which made Prince William the new heir.

King Charles, 77, announced in his first speech as monarch that William and Kate would be the new Prince and Princess of Wales: “Today, I am proud to create him Prince of Wales, Tywysog Cymru, the country whose title I have been so greatly privileged to bear during so much of my life and duty. With Catherine beside him, our new Prince and Princess of Wales will, I know, continue to inspire and lead our national conversations, helping to bring the marginal to the centre ground where vital help can be given.”

Although King Charles had discussed his plans with his son, now 43, and daughter-in-law, now 44, in the years leading up to his accession, Myers explains in his new book that Princess Kate was initially reluctant about taking on the title, as it had last belonged to Princess Diana. (When Charles married the future Queen Camilla in 2005, his new wife opted to be known as the Duchess of Cornwall instead of the Princess of Wales out of deference to Diana.)

“Courtiers said that while Catherine had a full appreciation ofthe history associated with the role, she was determined to find her own path,” Myers writes. “But Catherine had also privately expressed to William and to Charles her reservations about taking over the title, conscious of the British public’s exceptional feeling for, and connection to, Princess Diana even 25 years after her death.”

A former senior aide to William and Kate tells Myers, “This tells you how considered she is. She is benevolent with her intentions, but also wishes to carve out her own role for both herself and her family, which in many ways looks very different to how generations of royals have acted in the past,” the former aide adds. “She is very aware the pace that she wants to progress and the way in which she sees her future role within the institution, and I think when she was convinced to take the title on, and there was a bit of convincing, she felt that while there would be inevitable comparisons with Diana, she could manage it in her own way while having full respect for the way Diana carved out a very different role for herself within the royal family.”

[From People]

I actually think there was some self-awareness on Kate’s part that she would never really be able to compete with Diana or Diana’s memory in any way. Diana was a workhorse – it’s like pulling teeth to get Kate to do two events a month. Diana was one of the most trendsetting fashionistas in the world – Kate wanders around in doll wigs and Meghan cosplay. Diana was vivacious, funny, charming, charismatic and sassy – Kate is none of those things. Incidentally, this is why Camilla never wanted to be called “Princess of Wales” either, even though she technically had that title when she married Charles.

Anyway, I remember what happened right after QEII died – William and Kate immediately embraced the Cornwall ducal title, which came to them automatically. They immediately changed their social media to call themselves the Duke and Duchess of Cornwall. I think they were surprised when King Charles, in his first speech, called them the Prince and Princess of Wales. Everyone else was surprised too, because it wasn’t supposed to be automatic, and there was supposed to be some kind of investiture in Wales for the title. William and Kate have always refused to do that investiture though.

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33 Responses to “Princess Kate had big ‘reservations’ about taking on the ‘Princess of Wales’ title”

  1. Tessa says:

    She was looking forward to the bling. New title and she had every intention of staying with low work numbers

  2. Over it says:

    Waity wanted to skip Diana title and go straight to queen waity. Her and her mother put way too much into getting it to settle on just princess however, make no mistake waity and her mother dearest are absolutely happy that she is finally a princess because it means that they have come up with.

  3. Blujfly says:

    This is why all the picking and choosing of titles and who is called what started by Charles to gloss over Camilla is so damaging to the monarchy. The heir to the throne becomes the Prince of Wales. Period. Camilla was Princess of Wales from day 1. Edward’s kids are a Prince and Princess. Etc. once you start playing these games then what is the point of any of it? (Not that it has any real point.) but once you show it’s malleable then….

    • Tessa says:

      Camilla opted. Or was told to use one of her other titles duchess of cornwall instead of princess of Wales.

    • Becks1 says:

      Well, not quite though. the heir to the throne is the Duke of Cornwall. Prince of Wales is a special title that has to be given by the monarch. The cornwall title is automatic. Camilla was princess of wales from day 1 because she married the prince of wales. But Charles had a period of time when he was duke of cornwall but not prince of wales (he was named PoW in 58.)

      But regardless I think your overall point has merit. The titles either mean something or they dont. They’re either automatic or they aren’t. When they start talking about who can and can’t use prince/ss titles or whatever, it just makes the whole thing look optional.

  4. MSJ says:

    🫤 She and William sure did update their social media with lightning speed to Prince and Princess of Wales after the announcement though. If I recall well, the update to Duke and Duchess of Cornwall lasted mere hours before being replaced by Prince and Princess of Wales. 🤭

    • Becks1 says:

      it was kind of hilarious though lol. So desperate! Especially since Charles didn’t touch his social media handles until after the period of mourning.

      I’m not sure whether I believe that Kate was reluctant to be princess of wales. I can see a normal person not wanting the direct comparison to diana but she’s always courted that comparison. You dont cosplay as your dead MIL if you DONT want that comparison. Maybe it was a performative reluctance.

      • Nic919 says:

        They were not surprised at all because they updated the social media from Cornwall to wales within minutes of Charles making the announcement. I recall checking because I had noticed how quick they were on changing it to Cornwall within seconds of the official BBC announcement confirming the Queen had passed.

        This is some faux humility shit. Kate wants all the titles and all of the deference but none of the work. We saw in Spare how Kate expected deference from Meghan and at that time she was not PoW. In fact her entire hissy fit cut direct at the commonwealth service was because Kate had wanted to be in a procession with the Queen as well as Charles and Camilla, but they were excluded from it because they didn’t want Harry and Meghan to be a part of it.

        So yeah Myers is just lying.

    • Christine says:

      It was priceless to watch them scramble to rename themselves Cornwall, then Wales, less than 24 hours later. Yeah, they were really reticent. Uneasy lies the head, blah, blah, blah…

  5. Lady Esther says:

    The World, to Kate and the rota: SURE JAN

  6. Can’t wanted the perks of the titles but she didn’t think that she would have to work. Her mother sold her a lovely fairytale about what would be and she bought it hook line and sinker. She thought she could do whatever she wanted and that included doing nothing at all but school runs and lovely vacations. Reality sucks for her!

  7. Boxy Lady says:

    I’m guessing that KCIII thought that by referring to them as the Prince and Princess of Wales, Will and Kate would think,”Oh, since we have this title now, we should step up our work commitments!”

    Uhhhh…nope.

  8. IdlesAtCranky says:

    Ok, it’s been a sleepless night & I’m very cranky.

    That said, I frankly don’t give a single medieval f*ck about anything Kate-related unless and until she stands up and speaks out on the use and abuse of women by men in the “royal” family.

    I’ve had it with the women in that family propping up the men and taking public money to do it. Enough is enough.

    Abolish The Monarchy!

  9. Tuesday says:

    Kitty is really showing her age. Yikes.

  10. Digital Unicorn says:

    Don’t believe a word of it – she and Ma were desperate for Diana’s title, esp given all the Diana cosplaying they’ve done over they years.

    I remember H&M’s wedding and the drama over the tiara – IIRC Earl Spencer was going to let Meghan wear the Spencer tiara (Diana’s favourite) at which point its clear that someone relented and let Meghan get one of TQ’s tiara’s. Angela Kelly was a fault for tiara gate.

  11. Thelma says:

    These pictures (especially the second) show what Kate really looks like in real life without the endless and sycophantic photoshop. No comment on her looks.

  12. Cathy says:

    If you are looking for this book you will be able to find it in the fiction section, or the $2 clearance bin

  13. Jais says:

    The Prince of Wales title and the Princess of Wales title feel kind of cursed really. Probably bc they should belong to Wales.

  14. Jensa says:

    Thinking back to Diana, it wasn’t just that she worked a lot, it’s also that she had impact. She chose her projects well and they were not always easy choices. (Her work around AIDS, land mines etc).
    William is always banging on about “impact”, but he hasn’t the first clue what it actually means or how to achieve it – and nor does his lazy, vapid wife.

  15. Nanny to the Rescue says:

    There was no investiture for William because the people of Wales largely do not want him (not just William, any English prince). It would have brought protests and debates whether it is even necessary to have the title (it isn’t). So it was a smart move to just declare it and move on. I wonder if the title survives all the way to prince George.

  16. YankeeDoodles says:

    I’m actually not persuaded by the argument that either the whole pageant is pre-choreographed, or, it can’t happen at all. That all the titles, styles, orders of precedence, etc. are set in stone, or none of them are legitimate. I think the fascination is in the nuances, where you see them make changes. To wit: the late Queen adjusted the order of precedence in favour of born-in royals when Charles married Camilla, otherwise, Princess Anne would have had to curtsy to her. Elizabeth II made sure that would never happen. LOL. And hats off to her initiative. It was within her considerable powers of discretion. And she kept her powder dry for when she really needed to blast someone into submission. She was not a pushover, she just selected her battles *very* carefully. Which leaves the mess with Andrew all the more messy.

    • Turnawry says:

      Well done. A Swiftian satire of the monarchy’s descent into soap opera intrigue, where the late Queen “selected her battles *very* carefully” and devoted her “considerable powers of discretion” to the nuanced assignment of titles and avoidance of curtsies, thereby keeping “her powder dry” for the empire-shaking moments “when she really needed to blast someone into submission.” No finer call for a republic.

  17. Teagirl says:

    I am of the opinion that the stuff that is being said/coming out now is to make Kate look bad, unwilling to do the job, unable to do the job, reevaluating her life etc. etc. I’m suspicious that this is a planned rollout to a separation followed by a divorce sometime.

    • Harla says:

      I’m doubting this angle, it seems to me that the royal authors are trying to make WandK trying to make WandK into something that they just aren’t. Plus, what this author thinks are making them look decisive and strong are really exposing their jealousy and weaknesses.

    • Lauren says:

      I’m right there with you Teagirl, I have been thinking the exact same thing.

  18. QuiteContrary says:

    LOL at that skinny braid in that one photo and how we’re supposed to believe Kate’s wigs are her actual hair … as if a full head of hair could be braided into that teensy braid.

    Her hair is as real as the idea that she was reluctant to be called the POW (not least because she probably thought the role was all dressing up and little work — she totally missed Princess Di’s work ethic).

  19. Nerd says:

    I think that if there was any reservations about taking on the POW role, it had nothing to do with respect for the one and only true POW (Diana) but because she knew that expectations would be far greater as POW than as the Duchess of Cambridge and queen consort. She knew that she was a failure as DOC and would be a failure as QC but at least with those titles there wasn’t a real expectation or standard for her to meet.

  20. kelleybelle says:

    Bollocks, she chased it for years and Carole was determined to have royal grandchildren. Her own words were “We’ve put quite a lot of work into this,” when William began pulling back.

  21. Amy Bee says:

    She didn’t want the title because she knew that she would be required to work more.

  22. Magdalena says:

    Oh no. No, no no. Hogwash. It is a fact that more than one newspaper continued to call Kate “The Duchess of Cambridge” while calling William “The Prince of Wales” in the same article, and they referred to her as the former title more than once (and LONG after the title upgrade), in such an obvious way that it was clear that *someone* at KP was not keen to have Kate use the equivalent of her husband’s new title, or for the papers to get used to calling her “Princess of Wales”. But they didn’t want to go so far as Camilla and use the lesser title of “Duchess of Cornwall” instead.

    I think that unless William insisted on this as part of the “Camilla will be Queen not Princess Consort” negotiations, their sudden promotion came as a surprise (see the Twitter double name change episode before the Queen’s body was cold). Those papers clearly knew about the separate homes arrangement and had been prepped for a “change” re those two and it had apparently been discussed that Kate would remain “Duchess of Cambridge” after the official separation or divorce. So any reluctance to use the title was not on her part, though doubtless that is how it would have been spun by the “gold plated” buffoons on their communications staff.

    That Myers man just seems to be spouting all sorts of revisionist crap, but on whose orders? Is it, as Amy Bee says, William’s answer to Spare? Then why include so many proven lies? Yikes.

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