Charles, the Earl Spencer, is such a spectacularly unique critic of King Charles and the monarchy. For the most part, even the biggest critics of the monarchy in general or the king in particular have to play the game or have to fight for access or standing. Many are written off as kooks or they’re casually delegitimized by the British establishment. That cannot happen with Charles Spencer – his earldom is one of the most powerful in England, and he’s always been a bestselling author and historian in good standing. People also know that he was close to his sister Diana, and that Diana told him about her life in real time. He’s so clearly trying to add to his family’s historical record before he’s gone and before the king is gone as well. Add to all of that, Charles Spencer is winning the IDGAF War. He’s giving interviews in real time, pushing back on the king and the palace. Speaking of:
Earl Spencer last night accused King Charles of ‘gaslighting’ him in a dramatic escalation of their furious row over Princess Diana. Speaking exclusively to The Mail on Sunday, the earl denied that he wrote his bombshell memoir because he was motivated by money and said his late sister would be ‘cheering from the rafters’ at his book. The Royal Family is reeling from a string of explosive claims in the memoir – entitled Swan Song: Diana, My Sister – after extracts were exclusively published by the Mail last week.
Earl Spencer’s incendiary claim that – days after Diana’s 1997 death – the then Prince Charles told him: ‘Rest assured, we’ll forget her soon enough’ provoked a highly unusual response from the Palace. But in a statement, a Palace spokesman last week questioned the veracity of Earl Spencer’s explosive account and said that fraternal grief can ‘cloud reason, affect judgment and colour memory’.
Now, in his first newspaper comments since the war of words erupted, Earl Spencer, 62, has hit back, describing the Palace’s statement as gaslighting, a form of psychological abuse where the victim is manipulated into questioning what they know to be true. He also said the Palace’s statement was a ‘poor imitation’ of Queen Elizabeth’s famous ‘recollections may vary’ retort to Harry and Meghan after their interview with Oprah Winfrey in 2021.
‘It is not every day you wake up to find you’ve been gaslit by the King,’ he said. ‘It was astonishingly provocative and below the belt because it was essentially trying to say I’d lied without the King being able to deny what I’d said. I also thought it was a rather poor imitation of the ‘recollections may vary’ quote, which was a much more elegant way of putting things, but in these circumstances entirely out of place.’
Writing in today’s MoS, the Mail’s Richard Kay – one of Diana’s most trusted confidants – recalls Earl Spencer telling him, in the week before the Princess’s funeral, that there had been a ‘furious row’ and that Prince Charles had been ‘utterly pathetic’.
Earl Spencer last night said: ‘I am a historian – I appreciate that a lot of the public don’t know that – and my primary responsibility as a historian is to tell the truth. My motivation in this book has been to tell the truth about Diana and all she had to put up with in her public life through the eyes of the brother who grew up with her. Along the way I’ve been able to deal with various myths that have grown up which needed to be dealt with once and for all. I’m in my sixties, neither of my parents made it to 70 and I wanted to do this while I could.’
Some royal commentators have claimed the earl is ‘cashing in’ on his late sister’s memory. Charles Spencer, however, strenuously denied that his motivations in publishing the book are financial.
‘Money has never even been the remotest consideration in my choosing to write my tribute to Diana,’ he said. ‘Diana always had an expression which is don’t judge others by yourselves – and I think this applies to anyone who accuses me of something so ridiculous.’
“…Because it was essentially trying to say I’d lied without the King being able to deny what I’d said….” Exactly. The palace can’t say outright that Charles Spencer lied, because if they did that, it becomes a real battle of historians and people who were actually there, and actually know what King Charles was like in the 1990s. Beyond of the PR gurus who were once on the king’s staff, people who actually knew and know the king will absolutely admit that Spencer’s recollections of the king at that time sound completely in character. A lot of people remember how the Windsors had to be dragged kicking and screaming into acting right. A lot of people remember how then-Prince Charles spent years gaslighting Diana and then lying about what he and Camilla did to her.
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- Earl Spencer, brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, meets members of the Rock Choir as they announce they will be supporting The Diana Award for a special fundraising project, at Althorp House in Northamptonshire, as the charity celebrate their 25th anniversary. Featuring: Earl Spencer Where: Althorp, United Kingdom When: 20 Sep 2024 Credit: PA Images/INSTARimages **NORTH AMERICA RIGHTS ONLY**
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- Earl Spencer, brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, meets members of the Rock Choir as they announce they will be supporting The Diana Award for a special fundraising project, at Althorp House in Northamptonshire, as the charity celebrate their 25th anniversary. Featuring: Earl Spencer Where: Althorp, United Kingdom When: 20 Sep 2024 Credit: PA Images/INSTARimages **NORTH AMERICA RIGHTS ONLY**
- Earl Spencer, brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, meets members of the Rock Choir as they announce they will be supporting The Diana Award for a special fundraising project, at Althorp House in Northamptonshire, as the charity celebrate their 25th anniversary. Featuring: Earl Spencer Where: Althorp, United Kingdom When: 20 Sep 2024 Credit: PA Images/INSTARimages **NORTH AMERICA RIGHTS ONLY**
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- King Charles III is driven by car from Clarence House, his London home, along The Mall towards Buckingham Palace. The King has been seen in public for the first time since a hospital visit for side effects from his cancer treatment as he waved at well-wishers while leaving Clarence House in London this morning Featuring: King Charles III Where: London, United Kingdom When: 28 Mar 2025 Credit: PA Images/INSTARimages **NORTH AMERICA RIGHTS ONLY**





















I just love the Earl Spencer. He’s absolutely smarter than the king and is giving a master class on making Harry’s father look like the monster and ass he is. If it weren’t so tragic, I would take more satisfaction in that. But clearly the Earl has outclassed the king.
“I am a historian.” Boom. That’s British upper class for “I keep ALL the receipts.”
Yup. This is basically “try me”. As a historian, I am sure he kept meticulous diaries.
“She apologized and brought me flowers and a NOTE. She’s a lovely person.” That was Meghan’s way of saying in the Oprah interview, that she had the receipts for the twisting of the ‘She made Kate cry’ lie. I always thought that was clever and the perfect ‘shot across the bow’ for the intended audience of two people.
Richard Kay is writing in the DAILY MAIL that he believes Earl Spencer. He’s saying it with his full chest, too.
God this is beautiful. Maybe this will shock people back into reality: that Charles was a dogshit husband to Diana and just as bad of a father to his sons.
I think it helps his cause, too, that he’s not remotely going after William. He’s acknowledging BOTH boys were traumatized. He’s not taking sides in William v Harry. He’s just reminding everyone of the total chaos and dysfunction they both grew up in.
Indeed – he’s also taking the palace PR team for a dog walk as he’s using their favoured mouth pieces to call them all out. The fact that there are journalists backing him up saying ‘yeah he told us about that at the time’ just shows that the Earl has played a long game.
He’s been off my radar since The Eulogy, but yes, he is a man to RESPECT. He sees the truth, and he says it, simply and well. Speaking Truth to Power is always devasting to power that is corrupt. Right now it’s like a MMA cage fight between him and Chucky’s mouthpiece Clive.
He was off my radar too until I found out about and read his memoir “A Very Private School” just a year or two ago. I didn’t realize he was such a prolific author and historian. Now I plan to read “The White Ship.” Good for him for doing something productive with his life and doing it very well, too. Obviously if he had just wanted to run his estate that would have been fine. But I’m so glad he picked up a pen.
I don’t know if he was writing at the time of Diana’s death but remember that he was in South Africa at the time.
So he would have been trying to coordinate the service, talking to the Archbishop, his sisters, the airlines, his staff in England, etc. He most certainly would have had a pad of paper and a pen in his hand taking notes while talking on the telephone, then added to them when he hung up the phone. And I’m sure that other people were in the room with him taking notes as well working on logistics, etc.
The natural reaction after hanging up on a prince would be to turn incredulously to whomever was in the room and say “Can you believe what that (jerk) just said?”
And he is saying it with his L’Oreal ( because I am worth it mane) is making this even more delicious! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me too. The fact that he knows who he is and doesn’t give a damn. He is probably one of the few people who can say straight to the King’s face, echoing Diana: ‘My title is older than yours [Phillip].’
Charles Spencer is so bad ass!
I mean, it was just a few years ago after Liz died that Charles was crashing out and swearing at people over fountain pens. You don’t even have to go back to the nineties to know Charles flies into unhinged rages.
THIS
I love how Charles Spencer is pushing back against the palace in real time and giving these great sound bites to the press (my personal favorite is “well is he furious or is he embarrassed?”)
The Spencers have kept their mouths shut for thirty years. The palace had to expect it was going to boil over eventually.
Spencer didn’t put anything in this book that can’t be defended in court. The publishers legal team would have seen to that, especially since it deals with the king. So of course the palace can’t say he’s lying, because they know he’s not.
That line took me out – doesn’t it kind of remind you of Oprah’s iconic “Were you SILENT or were you SILENCED” moment, and it stands out for not just the phrasing but because it underlines something essential: Charles didn’t deny saying it. If anything, the rather botched BP response brought more unwanted attention to the conversation.
The fact that this is being published in the DM is just 🤌. It’s clear that the Earl is at least four steps ahead of Charles and his sycophants and he was neither surprised nor unprepared for the palace’s statement. He might honestly have pre-drafted some of these responses – he has seen the machine at work close up and knew exactly what the palace would think were his weak spots – his marriages, his finances, and his grief/ devotion to his sister. All acknowledged, parried and easily and charmingly dispatched while making the king look petty and foolish. Apparently, he still hasn’t learned not to try to compete with a Spencer.
Gaslight is a classic film and illustrates exactly what it means to Gaslight. Gregory would start by saying his wife Paula loses things then she imagines things. The royals try this method and it usually backfires
Such a great movie!
It actually doesn’t usually backfire on the palace–look at how Harry and Meghan are treated for telling the truth. That’s why I love what Charles Spencer is doing. By calling them out in real time about every one of their distortions and lies, he’s shining a spotlight on what they’re actually doing. And this will retroactively lend credence to what Meghan and Harry have been saying all along.
The Earl is running rings around the Palace and their lackeys, including the sycophantic press. It’s very satisfying to see.
He has the truth on his side.
Jensa, 100 percent!
The Earl is tap dancing all over UpChuck’s neck and I love it.
So interesting to see the limits of Charles’ power. Spencer doesn’t need or want anything from Charles and he couldn’t care less what Charles thinks. It’s like they’re facing off as equals. And Charles can’t come out, admit his failures, clear the deck through apologies, etc., because the whole monarchy system is a kind of gaslighting that depends on the public believing the Emperor has clothes.
That’s the yummy part, isn’t it? The palace spent years saying that Harry and Meghan were only saying certain things to make money. They tried the same line with Spencer and he’s like, “Bitch, you know how much money my family has. What need would I have to make up lies for more money?”
Yup.
✅ he is incredibly rich (doesn’t need money!)
✅ he’s a historian (so he prides himself on being accurate!)
✅ hrs authored several books (so him writing another one isn’t new!)
✅he’s one of the only people on earth who bore witness to Diana’s entire life so his stories are incredibly worthy of a book.
Exactly. Love the “facing off as equals” line. After his eulogy I turned to my husband and said, “what can they do to him? Not invite him to a ball?” They can’t take his money, lands, title, connections and history. And don’t forget that the mourners outside the Abbey clapped and cheered so loud when he finished that it was heard inside the church.
What’s more the Earl Spencer said that he’s got a lot on Charles that he DIDN’T include in the book because “it was not relevant”. So, like Prince Harry, he’s also got some pages tucked away. 😀 And yet the palace the the press lackeys have launched an all-out assault and are poking the bear. I love that he’s rebutting the claims head-on, in direct time.
And that line about his being a historian and telling the truth is also brilliant: he knows that there have been numerous “historians”, known and claimed, who have also profited from spreading lies about Princess Diana. I hope he puts them all out of a job. The royal experts have not only been quoting each other’s lies in articles and television appearances (and now podcasts) to strengthen their narratives, they’ve also done so with their books.
More from charles Spencer please! The palace are really floundering with this one!
Eurydice, excellent comment.
Kudos to the Earl Spencer! good for him for having the courage and the moral integrity to speak the truth that is feared by the Windsors. Hopefully UK will become a republic in 10-15 years time.
Perhaps at this rate of exposures, the monarchy might not last beyond Chucky, never mind Willie!
They’re definitely trying the gaslighting without out and out calling the earl a liar. I wonder if they shudder uncontrollably in fear that he may have audio (or worse! video) recordings just ready to come out if they go that route.
They definitely are twitching scared and carefully throwing mud. As an American with no skin in this game except I admired Diana, this is exciting and such a welcome break from the horrors day to day in the US!
I think you’re correct that they are worried that Earl Spencer may have taped it. That’s why Chuck hasn’t outright denied saying it, he’s going with Charles Spencer is grieving and doesn’t remember correctly. The Earl has hit back with Chuck isn’t saying that he didn’t say it. The royals are terrified that the Earl has proof.
They also know that Earl Spencer has more horrible stories than he’s put ij his book, just like harry.
But unlike Harry, he doesn’t GAF about what chatles thinks so they cant control him.
I give the Earl all the credit in the world for his timing. Revenge really is a dish best served cold, and right now, as the BRF is circling the drain, he strikes the finishing blow. While H&M are in country, reminding everyone how brutally she was treated. Bravo. The timing could not be more spectacular. I do believe were are bearing witness to the end of the monarchy. They can’t survive in the modern world. Team Spencer.
“a rather poor imitation of the ‘recollections may vary’ quote, which was a much more elegant way of putting things”… OUCH!
So much said in just that sentence.
The pushback on the King’s gaslighting is stellar in itself. Then the implication that King Charles attempted to copy his mother Queen Elizabeth, but did so poorly, or weakly, is really shoving the knife in.
King Charles who is used to being surrounded by and yelling at grovelling sycophants must be absolutely choking with rage… and yearning for the days when an English king could send such an irreverent subject, however aristocratic, straight to the Tower of London.
“absolutely choking with rage” I love the image this quote creates. Charles infuriated all day long is a fun thought. I bet money the rottweiler took off for another spa trip to India.
He’s also indirectly saying that the original statement “Recollections may vary” was also gaslighting. He really does know how to use words for maximum effect, saying a lot by saying very little.
In fact, when that Kuenssberg woman said in her attempted interview: “Do you KNOW what the king’s office said???” Charles Spencer immediately said “He said ‘recollections may vary'” and I thought OUCH, and cackled. Same lying response to two truthful revelations.
Standing ovations for everything. Spencer’s timing is exquisite, his reasoning sound. He’s coming across as very even keeled, and the palace is screeching in hysterics.
No wonder the Royals hate therapy, it produces uncontrollable people like him and Harry.
There’s a line in the Crown when Liz hears that Charles is dating one of the older Spencer daughters: She says – “Johnny’s girl? Oh, I like that.”
Just a reminder of who the Spencers are.
Oooh and she was quite close with that Johnny until uncle Louis put a kibosh on it 😯
The Spencer women were always obvious choices. Isn’t it written somewhere that the older sisters were considered for Charles and Di was meant for Andrew or Edward? The older daughters would have been a better match and probably could have handled a posh style open marriage, but they didn’t want it enough to stay virgins.
Sadly for Diana, though, there’s no Windsor prince that would have made a good marriage for her and it was always going to be one of them.
The fact that he brought up the recollections may vary line as a way of saying and you were lying about that mess too, but at least you framed it in a nicer way.
My copy of “Swan Song” cannot get here fast enough tomorrow. But I appreciate being fed as I wait. Earl Spencer’s Posho sang-froid is delightful.
MaisiesMom me too! I am chomping at the bit for my copy to arrive ! Lord Spencer is spilling it all! I read on another site a poster referring to him as Earl Grey Spencer and I flat out laughed for 10 minutes.
🎶He always runs while others walk
He acts while other men just talk
He looks at this world, and wants it all
So he strikes, like Thunderball…🎵
I have to lay in provisions 🍰🍬🍫🍷🥃🥂I can’t wait to get my hands on this book.
Oh, no, all of the chickens coming back to roost, almost three decades later…
And Charles Spencer is so calm as he sticks the knife in KC. He’s not in the least bit flustered by the gaslighting. That’s also what makes him such an effective messenger for Diana’s truth.
He’s more regal than the supposed king.
Charles Spencer is showing the Sussexes how the PR/comms game is done. Hope they’re paying attention.
He is coming across very well, I have barely heard him speak after the eulogy but he has a wonderful accent and eloquence I have been enjoying his interviews.
That last sentence, OMG, such an elegant way of pointing out the hypocrisy of most people accusing him of selling Diana. The use of language in these comments are what politicians and PR experts aspire to
I’m here for the Earl Grey Spencer and have been enjoying his interviews. Watch that Laura interview for how silly she looked trying to provoke Charles with, “But the King is FUUUURIOUS!” Headass
‘Diana always had an expression which is don’t judge others by yourselves …” Chef’s kiss.
The man is telling all the vultures who have been profiting from his sister’s memory for decades not to assume that he’s doing what THEY have been doing all along. You know that they’re only protecting their own profit margins. Because if he reveals that the entire premise of their books is a tissue of lies, then they won’t be getting any more sales or royalties or invitations to discuss Diana on television, especially overseas. 😀
If the Earl Spencer and his current wife divorce, I might be available as Number Five. But I don’t have the necessary wealth to help him keep up Althorp (I believe that’s one of his requirements?)
I have to admit that I’m developing a crush on this man and that regal lion’s mane of his. 🙂
The Earl is using his great sense of humor to parry with the furious king. The Earl has panache. The king doesn’t.
I’m glad Charles Spencer wrote this book, and is giving us his perspective on his sister’s life and death, and what happened to her boys after. Even if he will make money off of it. Because A) What’s wrong with that, when you’ve printed the truth and can back it up; B) Grand estates don’t pay for themselves. I’ve been watching The Gentlemen. I know what happens underground at some of these estates, when aristo’s get desperate for an income stream. 😉
Now I think the timing of Harry & Meghan moving back makes sense. H&M and the Spencers are united. H&M even up rooted their lives to prove it.
Yep.. people who are intelligent and conscious and caring
uniting in support for each other…. Earl Spencer showing up for Harry when the Windsors did not.
Harry and Meghan back in the country for Invictus and Earl Spencer .. and the Spencer’s. Family together at last.
Charles Spencer isn’t profiting after his sister’s death. He’s maybe profiting about his sister’s life. Which I’m good with. As others have said, many others have profited writing books about Diana. And, they didn’t actually know her. Hacks. All the negative ones written by “journalist hacks”. Looking at you Tina Brown and others.
I will still not be disgusted by Angela Levin’s book about Harry. Which she claimed spending a year and half with him. 5-10 minutes at the most. He called her out in SPARE.
Chuckles IS trying to gaslight the Earl of Spencer. Not buying Buckingham Palaces nonsense.