Gisele Bundchen thinks six months of breastfeeding should be a law

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I’m totally embarrassed I missed these quotes from Gisele Bundchen when I was covering her Harper’s Bazaar UK cover yesterday. While Gisele did not discuss Bridget Moynahan, she did decide to ponitificate further about how she’s an amazing mother and how we could all learn at her feet (the feet of a perfect mother), and I totally missed the quotes. Ah, well. Better late than never, eh?

First, a little backstory on post-maternity Gisele: she’s an insufferable bitch. I know, I know. I like her too, and I think she’s interesting and she gives interesting interviews. But she’s also an insufferable bitch. She’s like the Brazilian Gwyneth Paltrow, always deigning to “advise” the peasants how to live their lives. In her Vogue cover story earlier this year, Gisele talked about her maternity weight gain and how quickly she lost it, saying, “I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals. I was mindful about what I ate, and I gained only 30 pounds.” Then a month ago, Gisele claimed that her not even 7-month-old son Benjamin was already potty trained, because she‘s an environmentalist: “Diapers pollute the environment. Where does this garbage go?

Okay, so maybe she’s not as bad as Gwyneth. But wait until you read the excerpts from Bazaar:

Gisele Bundchen has risked the wrath of new mothers everywhere for the second time this year. The opinionated supermodel, who preached about pregnant women ‘treating their bodies like garbage disposals’ in March, has now voiced her views on the breastfeeding.

In an interview with Harper’s Bazaar magazine, the 30-year-old says, ‘I think breastfeeding really helped (me keep me figure). Some people here (in the US) think they don’t have to breastfeed, and I think “Are you going to give chemical food to your child when they are so little?” I think there should be a worldwide law, in my opinion, that mothers should breastfeed their babies for six months.’

The Victoria’s Secret model gave birth to son Benjamin Rein in December, and claims that the eight-hour natural birth ‘didn’t hurt in the slightest’.

Speaking in the September issue of the magazine, outspoken Bundchen says meditating prepared her to give birth to Benjamin.

‘It prepared me mentally and physically. It’s called ‘labour’ not ‘holiday’ for a reason, and I knew that,’ she says. ‘You want to go into the most intense physical experience of your life unprepared? That doesn’t make any sense to me. Then I was ready and I thought OK, let’s get to work. I wasn’t expecting someone else to get the baby out of me.’

The super-mum was up and about making pancakes the day after the birth, and famously modelled swimwear within six weeks.

[From The Daily Mail]

Would I like to see a national, even an international discussion about breast-feeding? Sure. Would I like to see breast-feeding friendly laws go into effect everywhere? Uh-huh. Do I think breastfeeding is important? Yep, I do, but I have to admit something: I wasn’t breastfed as a baby, and I’m just fine. So are lots of babies who aren’t breastfed. Of course breastfeeding is awesome and the health benefits for the mother and the baby are incredible, but it’s also not the end of the world if a woman doesn’t breastfeed. I also think every woman has got to make that choice for herself and her baby, just like every woman has got to make her own choices about every part of her reproductive rights and her own body. Even if Gisele was just being hyperbolic – and I don’t even think she was, honestly – even putting that idea out there, to suggest that there should be laws demanding that women breastfeed – just ugh. I’ve said it before: Gisele needs to get a grip.

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  1. Dorothy says:

    So if a women’s milk doesn’t come in (like mine didn’t) should she get a wet nurse?

    She is a twit, and I don’t like her.

  2. bellaluna says:

    Kaiser, you are so on it with that “insufferable bitch…deeming to give advice to the peasants” comments! She bugs the heck out of me, and I’ve breastfed ALL 3 of my children. While it’s best for baby, some mothers are unable (for a variety of reasons) to breastfeed.

    Let’s not make anyone feel like a second-rate mama for their feeding choices. Babies who aren’t being nursed are being fed formula, not crack dust! (Unless it’s White Oprah’s baby!) ;)

    Gotta go nurse my little boy – he’s been up since 4 and he is crank-ky!

  3. Katalina says:

    I think there should be a law that prevents Gisele Bundchen from speaking. EVER. Christ, this woman. She and Fishsticks really are cut from the same cloth. How long before Gis has a website with all her fabulous lifestyle suggestions for us fat peasants?

  4. lucy2 says:

    I love how she’s had one baby less than a year ago, but now feels qualified to tell every other woman how to do things – as if women haven’t been having and raising kids since the beginning of time, and were too stupid to understand it until a supermodel decided to do it too.

    She needs to adjust the way she’s saying things – if she wants to talk about what SHE chooses to do, great, but stop telling everyone else they should do it to.

  5. DanielleS says:

    I feel better now after knowing what Gisele thinks about breastfeeding. Hey Gisele, I think sleeping with someone else’s man while they are pregnant should be a crime, and I’m as entitled to my opinion as you are yours. What an idiot she is…..

  6. Larissa says:

    Oh seriously people, how dare she have an opinion? Like NONE of you here were OPINIONATED AT ALL!!!!

    Go on to pregnancy/maternity forums, like as if you never read those, and all you READ is WOMAN telling what other WOMEN should do and how much better MOTHERS they are, big effing news!!!!!!

    Don´t want to hear what she has to say? Stop reading her interviews for crying out loud!

  7. pookie says:

    She should write a book on how to make friends and influence people – this is exactly the way to do it! Ugh. What a biyatch. I am all for natural labor (gave birth in a pool in my dining room) and I breastfed for as long as I could (about five months) – and none of it was EASY or not painful in the slightest. EVERY woman feels terrified, insecure, unsure, and ineffective as a brand new mom. Way to make em feel even more crappy if they are unable to breastfeed or have a hard time with labor. Twit.

  8. Andrea-2 says:

    When I had my baby, for some reason, breast pumps would not work for me. I could only get out teensy bits of milk at a time. I was able to stay home and breast feed, but if I’d had to go back to work (like a lot of moms out there), I would have had to have given my baby formula.

    As for the “no pain”, Gisele is full of crap. I’ve NEVER heard anyone say it didn’t hurt; even my quilt-making, gourd-growing no-epidural hippie girlfriend said it was the most painful thing she’d ever gone through.

  9. momx3 says:

    At a time when a new mother is incredibly emotional and stressed out with caring for a newborn, the best thing would be to force her to breastfeed. *sarcasm* I nursed all three of my children for a year each, and I feel very blessed that my body allowed me to do it. Not every woman can do it or even wants to do it, and they shouldn’t be made to feel like lesser mothers because of it. Moms should stick together, not tear each other down.

  10. hzl says:

    Hey, Gisele, maybe some women would *like* to breastfeed for six months, but have to go back to working 40+ hours a week soon after the baby is born. Ever consider that?

  11. Samigirl says:

    My milk stopped coming in at 3 weeks…my son did the formula thing just fine. He isn’t even 3 yet, and he can count to 30 in English, Spanish, and German. He knows all his colors, shapes, numbers, and knows how to write his name, which is Emerson. He is also completely potty trained. That is allllll from a bottle/formula fed baby. The kiddo is smarter than Gisele, it looks like.

  12. Katalina says:

    @Larissa:
    Yes, we all have opinions. The difference is, we are not celebrities whose opinions (unfortunately) are given more weight and are broadcast throughout the world media. So yes, there is a BIG difference between Gisele pontificating on the cover of Bazaar or Vogue than the rest of us discussing on a forum.

  13. KeepTrying says:

    Well, this will sound snotty so I apologize ahead of time. My baby stopped latching at 2 months. I wanted her to have my milk anyway (I also had a C-section and my milk didn’t come in for 2 grueling weeks but we forged ahead). I pumped every 4 hours (24 hours a day, yes) for 8 months after that so she could have my breast milk. If you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it with some determination (to all you mommies who gave up before the 1 year mark). Just sayin’. And it was tough. And I own a small business. Is your baby worth it to you?

  14. Vicki says:

    I have nothing but respect for mothers who choose to breastfeed. That being said, both my children were formula fed, and at 10 and 6 they are both healthy, thriving, and do very well academically. They’re not overweight, either.

    I wonder if perhaps parenting plays a part in all this? Hmmmm….

  15. Ruby Red Lips says:

    I breastfed for 6 months, but there is no way I would dictate that all women should do.

    Also most women find that as you’re so hungry when breastfeeding you eat more & therefore is even harder to lose weight as you are in the habit of eating more after you finish breastfeeding! Gisele got her figure back because she is genetically blessed as a supermodel!

    Some women can’t and some just choose not to – its each persons choice what they do – what happened to personal choice?!

    @ keepTrying, you sound as bad as Giselle!

    This is the most narrow-minded bigoted not to mention offensive opinion that a celeb has made in a long while

  16. Katalina says:

    @KeepTrying:
    Snotty is not the word you’re looking for. It’s condescending. Also, this is YOUR experience. Medical science disproves your theory that if every woman just “tries really hard” they can breastfeed. That is untrue.

  17. tricia says:

    i’m curious if bridget moynahan breastfeed or not, and if this is a subtle dig at her

  18. Sandy says:

    Yes, KeepTrying, you do sound incredibly snotty. I never had enough milk – despite feeding every 2 hours, pumping after feeds to boost supply, and taking multiple galactagogues. My baby was failing to gain weight, week after week, but when I finally (reluctantly) switched to formula, she thrived. What additional “determination” do you think I needed?

    I’m glad you followed a path that’s right for you, and I’m pleased for Gisele that she’s had such a marvellous, easy time as a mother but she and you both come across as self-congratulating twits with no capacity to walk in another’s shoes. Just sayin’.

  19. N. says:

    Although, I try to support my other mom friends who choose not to breastfeed, I agree with Gisele. Some women physically can’t and they shouldn’t be made to feel like they are second rate momtyys but the truth is breastfeeding is hard at first. My nipples hurt for 8 weeks but I just buckled down bc I, too, believe that formula is a concoction of powdery chemicals. If you read the label, most will not be able to recognize two-thirds of the ingredients. It is the best, most natural, environmentally-friendly, affordable way to feed and bond with your baby.

  20. Anonymous says:

    Suffice it to say that pretty much the worst thing this beyotch could have done, is be judgmental toward other mothers out there. I truly hope that in reality she is a better person than she comes across, but somehow, I doubt it. I realize you like her, Kaiser, but I do not. And, I feel very badly for Bridget for having to allow her child to spend any time with this woman.
    Oh, and @Keep Trying – my son would not latch, and I pumped every 2.5 hrs 24 hours per day for months before going back to work and now I do the same at work (though he now nurses when I’m home). But I would never ever presume to tell others that what I CHOOSE to do is better than what they choose. I don’t think you should, either. I’m a lawyer, and I find time to pump more often than you do – does that mean my child is more important to me than yours is to you? Doubtful. So, don’t judge, lest you want to be.

  21. pookie says:

    Right on Sandy and Katalina! I must use this today: “self-congratulating twits with no capacity to walk in another’s shoes”. Perfection.

  22. nischi says:

    My baby is 10 months old and I’m still breastfeeding, but Giselle needs to zip it. There is enough pressure on young mothers already. We don’t need the breastfeeding police. Yes, breastfeeding is the best for you and your baby, but if you need to take medication or your baby won’t latch or your milk simply doesn’t come in, formula isn’t poison, you know. I wasn’t breastfed and I am 100 % healthy. I don’t have any allergies, I’m not overweight and I have two degrees. I’m pretty sure I can’t blame my mother for not being a genius.

  23. Delta Juliet says:

    Jesus, if she wants to make laws re: mothers and babies, how about a better maternity leave plan for US moms. A six-week leave sucks, and some don’t even get that.

    (And for the record, I am a full-time working mom who has been breastfeeding for 9 months and counting. Yeah, I know not everyone can do it, yeah, it’s been hard, and yeah I’m pretty proud of myself!)

    Oh, and Giselle is a bitch.

  24. mollyb says:

    You know, I was probably as insufferable and snotty about breastfeeding as she (and some of the posters here)–before I had my daughter. She simply could not nurse, no matter how hard I tried. We saw a lactation counselor twice a week and a physical therapist once a week. I pumped every two hours, 24 hours a day but could never produce near enough to feed her. Now on formula, she is a happy, joyous, healthy, delicious baby. Of course, obviously I don’t love her very much or I would have found a way for her to breastfeed, right? What bullshit. The worst part of this snobbery is it forces us to pretend NOT to know something we all know–namely, hundreds of formula-fed babies and adults who are healthy, happy, loving, intelligent people. We are all supposed to pretend that we could walk into a kindergarten classroom and pick out the weak, sickly, dimwtiting formula-fed children, right?

  25. Lynne says:

    I’m with keeptrying. Honestly, theree are far too many women claiming they didn’t have milk- just admit you didn’t want to do it, don’ lie. Would THAT many babies have starved in nature before there was formula? I think far fewer women have a milk problem than claim it.

  26. Andrea-2 says:

    @KeepTrying

    I think the part where you state that you “own a small business” is very telling. You’re the boss; you can stop whenever you want and pump. How many women have that advantage where they work?

  27. pookie says:

    Just to throw in another point here – even though I was adamant about breastfeeding, and was CRUSHED as I saw it becoming more and more impossible after four months, I also knew my mental health had to be attended to as well. I was away from my baby 10 hours a day, pumping was not working for me, I was barely sleeping, sad/depressed all the time because he was getting fussier and more hungry and I just wasn’t sustaining his needs. It got to the point (after trying literally EVERYTHING to increase my milk production) that I could barely pump more than two ounces at a time. I was pumping four times at work, and then four more at home. I was becoming a clinically depressed zombie. I would cry every time I tried to feed him and felt like a worthless pile of shit for not being able to ‘just make it work!’. So you know what, f**k you people who say that if only you loved your baby enough, or only if you tried harder. At SOME POINT, if you are turning INSANE from the misery of not being able to nourish your child as you thought you should be able to (cuz it’s just the most natural/easy thing in the world right?!) – then it is time to let go of the picture perfect mommy plan and get back to reality. Sometimes, shit doesn’t work, and you are risking being a bad mom by trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. I finally got to the point where I couldn’t even enjoy my time with my son because I was such a wreck over this. Once I forgave myself for not being able to go the full year as I had planned, and let go of the immense guilt/failure feelings, I got to focus on the other things I could do for/with him. I commend ANYONE willing give it their all with breastfeeding. I also commend any parent who has the sense to know what’s right for her family – balancing the needs of EVERYONE is a tough task. Cuz I am sorry, I disagree that once you become a parent you cease to exist as a human with your own needs – and I think that’s what a lot of these self-congratulating twits seem to be saying. So again, to you, I say f**k off and mind your own damn boobs!

  28. Luci says:

    she should totally be BFF with goopy

    update: I just read your comment about the brazilian Gwyneth Paltrow, jaja

    I wonder which magazine is going to sell more in the UK, this one or Vogue with my all time fave Kate Moss?

  29. Kolby says:

    Breastfeeding is hard. It’s not fun, it’s time consuming at first, and it’s incredibly demanding for a new mother. It took my son and me two months to find our rhythm, and after that it was smooth sailing (I nursed until he was one, and went back to work when he was 4 months). I’m lucky in that my body produced an excess of milk. Some women aren’t so lucky. It doesn’t diminish their ability to care for or provide for their children. Being a mother is hard work and we all do it the best way we can. Gisele should understand that by now. It’s a damn shame that she doesn’t.

  30. danielle says:

    I also think it’s best to TRY to breastfeed. I know some women who didn’t even try because it made them uncomfortable, which is a little odd- that’s what breasts are for. I certainly wouldn’t try to force them with a LAW tho!!!! Also, I know alot of other women who COULDN’T breastfeed, due to medications, or the baby just wasn’t getting enough to eat, and I sincerely hope they won’t torture themselves for it. And Gisele should STFU. I think she just passed Goopy as my least favorite celebrity. I hope Tom Brady is the next cheating scandal.

  31. tracey8051 says:

    My daughter breastfed for about 4 and a half weeks before my milk pretty much dried up and we switched to a bottle. How long do you think my jail sentence should be? Also, would I be in with the hard criminals or do you think they will section off a part of the jail for “bad moms only”?

  32. xxodettexx says:

    i wasnt breastfed and i turned out fabulously! i just couldnt take to my mom… my mom did tell me that every other mother she was around back then did their best to support her and not treat her like a second-rate mother just bc she couldnt breastfeed me, something she appreciated then

    giselle needs to stick to selling her body and making pouty faces, its what she is good at

  33. Barry says:

    ugly, arrogant, idiot
    This woman makes me sick.

  34. Ellen Smith says:

    She can say what she wants. She’ll raise a delightful son who will have an idiot for a mother. God help him.

  35. Amanda Hugandkiss says:

    I wonder what Gisele would say to a worldwide law that banned nannies looking after your baby?

  36. KeepTrying says:

    Wow, a lot of posters her are bristling with self-righteous moral outrage. Two things for those that are pissed off at my post: I cried every 2 hours for the first two weeks trying to feed my baby. (I mentioned it took that long for my milk to come in). I used a nipple shield which made my left nipple crack and bleed. So I tried feeding her with my right breast until that healed. I didn’t give up. Also, my job is more demanding than most people with “full-time” jobs – I work every night, every weekend, and occasionally 14+ hours a day. Women who use their jobs as an excuse not to breastfeed – you need to talk to your boss or HR. You should be allowed to go pump every few hours, and have a sanitary place to store your milk. So everyone shouting at me for being judgemental, take a look at yourselves.

  37. Scarlet Vixen says:

    I think she’s WORSE than Paltrow, actually. Goopy likes to give advice, but isn’t nearly as condescending or under the impression that her opinion is the be all end all. That being said, I don’t think she literally meant women should go to jail for not breastfeeding. She just chose a pompous, extreme and stupid way to explain her opinion. She does get paid to look pretty after all, not for her brain. That being said, having one infant does not make her an expert by any mean, and if she (obviously) doesn’t know what she’s talking about, she should keep it to herrself.

    I commented on the previous thread about Gisele, so I won’t go on too long. Breastfeeding is hard, and I had a super tough time, too. It can beSO frustrating and depressing, and make you feel like a failure and a bad mommy. It’s kind of a pet subject of mine, so I’ve conferred with tons of doctors, midwives, other moms, lactation specialists, etc. What I’ve discovered is there are women out there who are unfortunately incapable, and thankfully there are formulas out there so their babies can survive and thrive. But, there are also women out there who choose not to because they don’t want to get saggy boobs, or simply don’t try hard enough. So, while I feel for women who honestly can’t, I don’t sympathize much with women who basically went, “Oh, it kinda hurt and after 2 days I gave up cuz a bottle is easier for me.”

  38. Oh Please says:

    She had a natural birth? So did I – 3 Times and each time I went in I said “Give me drugs! I don’t want to be in agony”

    Pain relief doesn’t affect the foetus and surprise surprise – the babies came out the same way as hers – NATURAL.

    I don’t live in medieval times. I take an aspirin when I have a headache, I don’t fight infections or anything else with herbs or meditation. I go to the doctor for medicine as and when I need it.

    My brother in law said his wife wasn’t in pain at all having their child. Then again he did say his wife was a bucket!

  39. Meg says:

    Poor Gisele and KeepTrying—after all their “sacrifices” and self-congratulation, it must be a big disappointment when your little snowflakes don’t turn out any better than anyone else’s and there’s OMG WORLD’S BEST MOM prize waiting for you.

  40. Marjalane says:

    What is up with some of you self-important, sanctimonious posters?! It’s as if you come to this site JUST for the opportunity to pick a fight! For God’s sake, maybe breastfeeding is the most important thing you’ve ever done in your life, but get a grip! It isn’t.

    Having had, (and breastfed) two children, I have to be amazed at idiot mothers who act as if they invented childbirth and have ALL the answers- They don’t, and if your goal in life is to live in a nanny state where superior, condescending, know it alls like G.B. and Fishsticks make the rules, you are insane!

  41. KeepTrying says:

    Wow, I thought it might help someone to hear another person’s story…

  42. Steeze says:

    @Pookie, I sympathize with what you went through…

    Each mother is different, each situation is different, so you can only judge by a case by case basis. I would like to believe that every mother does her best for her child…

    Both my sisters had babies within 2 months of eachother… and they both struggled with breastfeeding to the point of depression. It’s harder for some than others and if you push yourself to the point of depression, that cant be good for the baby.

    A lot of judgy mothers need to get off their high horses and become human again and try to relate to others struggles and help them through them… Isnt that what a real mother should do?

  43. Cinderella says:

    Oh, Giselle. What you’ve stirred up.

    I did not breast feed. My adult son is healthy, in great physical shape and does not hate me, so I’m not going to cry over it.

  44. Anonymous says:

    Wait, KeepTrying? All Meg said was that your child won’t turn out better than other people’s just bc you breastfed and some didn’t. Didn’t realize that’s negative.

  45. pookie says:

    @KeepTrying – you didn’t present it as “this is my story” – you presented yourself as above all other breastfeeding moms who tried as hard as you but still could not go a full year. This is why you ticked people off. And rightfully so. To say that a mom doesn’t love her child enough because she was not as successful with breastfeeding as she wanted to be, is A HORRIBLE FREAKIN THING TO SAY. Not sure how you could miss that and think it’s ok to say such a thing. Everyone has their own limits and their own threshold for how much they can take. As I mentioned in my post, it was literally putting me into a complete depression. And being a depressed incapable mother seemed much worse than stopping breastfeeding at five months. So I picked my battle.

    And to put you on the spot like you did others, I am sure there are women who say you should breastfeed for more than a year. And if you don’t, you are a bad mom. So what would you say to them? You made it to the magical one-year mark, why didn’t you go further? Maybe the baby wasn’t ready to give up the breast yet? Maybe he/she will have oral fixation issues for the rest of his life since you stopped too soon? Don’t you love your baby?? Yeah, hurts doesn’t it?

  46. KeepTrying says:

    Ugh. Maybe she will? Why do you think I practically killed myself to do that for her? Of course I want her to avoid a myriad of health problems. Here’s a list people:

    BREASTFEEDING BENEFITS FROM TOP TO BOTTOM

    Breastfeeding is good for every part of baby’s body–from the brain to the diaper area:

    * Brain. Higher IQ in breastfed children. Cholesterol and other types of fat in human milk support the growth of nerve tissue.

    * Eyes. Visual acuity is higher in babies fed human milk.

    * Ears. Breastfed babies get fewer ear infections.

    * Mouth. Less need for orthodontics in children breastfed more than a year. Improved muscle development of face from suckling at the breast. Subtle changes in the taste of human milk prepare babies to accept a variety of solid foods.

    * Throat. Children who are breastfed are less likely to require tonsillectomies.

    * Respiratory system. Evidence shows that breastfed babies have fewer and less severe upper respiratory infections, less wheezing, less pneumonia and less influenza.

    * Heart and circulatory system. Evidence suggests that breastfed children may have lower cholesterol as adults. Heart rates are lower in breastfed infants.

    * Digestive system. Less diarrhea, fewer gastrointestinal infections in babies who are breastfeeding. Six months or more of exclusive breastfeeding reduces risk of food allergies. Also, less risk of Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis in adulthood.

    * Immune system. Breastfed babies respond better to vaccinations. Human milk helps to mature baby’s own immune system. Breastfeeding decreases the risk of childhood cancer.

    * Endocrine system. Reduced risk of getting diabetes.

    * Kidneys. With less salt and less protein, human milk is easier on a baby’s kidneys.

    * Appendix. Children with acute appendicitis are less likely to have been breastfed.

    * Urinary tract. Fewer infections in breastfed infants.

    * Joints and muscles. Juvenile rheumatoid arthritis is less common in children who were breastfed.

    * Skin. Less allergic eczema in breastfed infants.

    * Growth. Breastfed babies are leaner at one year of age and less likely to be obese later in life.

    * Bowels. Less constipation. Stools of breastfed babies have a less-offensive odor.

  47. Po says:

    She’s overcompensating for something. Every women that I have ever met who has tried to come across as though they were perfect and others should aspire to be like them was almost always trying to take attention away from something else. It could be a bad marriage, career, feeling as though you didn’t accomplish everything you wanted out of life, but trust me there is something there. Anytime you say that childbirth was a walk in the park there is something going on.

  48. KeepTrying says:

    Pookie.

    I stopped breastfeeding at one year because my daughter’s pediatrician told me to. I listen to what she says.

    Also, please don’t put words in my mouth. I never said any of you don’t love your children enough. I want to make the point, and strongly, that as a mother you need to be prepared to make sacrifices. And if you are capable of doing so, I think it behooves both you and your child to breastfeed in spite of scheduling conflicts, discomfort and even intense frustration. If it is something that can be powered through, it is ultimately worth it.

  49. tracey8051 says:

    From Keep Trying’s Post:
    “If you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it with some determination (to all you mommies who gave up before the 1 year mark). Just sayin’. And it was tough. And I own a small business. Is your baby worth it to you?”

    Keep Trying…..just fyi, that is not “telling someone your story”. What you did there is called being a bitch. Just sayin’.

    From your other post:

    “lso, my job is more demanding than most people with “full-time” jobs – I work every night, every weekend, and occasionally 14+ hours a day. Women who use their jobs as an excuse not to breastfeed – you need to talk to your boss or HR.”

    Wow. It must be really hard to be you. Just so you know, I also have a full time job (in a family business so if there is overtime to be had, yours truly does it), plus I work at the church on the weekends and volunteer with my daughter’s activities there several times a week. That’s seven days a week and way more than 14 hours a day, just so you know. And yet, I still don’t think you’re better than me because your boobs produced milk and mine didn’t. Screw you.

  50. Steeze says:

    @KeepTrying

    Everything you stated is already known by all informed mothers. Thats why they try to breastfeed. Not all can do it and some (like my sisters) beat themselves up and fall into depression. You simply cant empathize with others because you feel superior and thats why youre being attacked. Sometimes the best thing to teach your children is kindness and sympathy. Maybe you should research that.

  51. JustBe says:

    In the year of 2010, why the hell are there still people, especially women, even suggesting that there be a law to tell ALL women what to do with their own bodies.
    I’ve got two boys, now 9 and 4, who I breastfed well past the one year mark. For my oldest son, he was breastfed exclusively, but that was pure hell because he would NOT accept any milk (breast or otherwise) from a bottle. After the allowed 2 months off of work, I had to return to work and he had to go to a sitter where he spent a better part of the day distressed because he refused to eat from a bottle (I think he still has remnants of that initial anxiety period). I was a wreck, he was a wreck. I wouldn’t wish that experience on anyone and it taught me that there are no absolute rules in the realm of parenthood. Everyone has a different opinion stemming from their different experiences.
    If you’re a mom and you have kids that are relatively healthy and happy and you are healthy/happy enough to truly revel in the joys (and process the pains) of parenthood, give yourself a pat on the back and ignore the background noise.
    Trust me, whether or not you have or will breastfeed your child is one of the smallest/least impacting decisions you’ll have to make as a parent.
    More likely than not (barring milk allergies), your child will thrive whatever feeding method you choose. I don’t argue with the fact that breastmilk is best, but no one can deny that there are plenty of bottlefed babies that are doing more than fine.

  52. Whatever says:

    I agree that women who can breastfeed should. I also agree with the comments that we need to make policies that favor mothers and babies, NOT giant corporations as we do now.

    Breastfeeding is better and healthier for babies. It just is. That isn’t rude or unkind, it is simply fact. Read the label, it’s full of chemical ingredients and doesn’t provide the immune and brain boosting benefits.

    That said, I don’t care what other moms do. It’s better not to smoke, but some do. That is their health and choice. What I do have a problem with is formula in the WIC program for newborns with moms still at home. Give them lactation consltants and breast pumps, or formula only with the signature of a doctor and lactation consultant that states they can’t breastfeed. Often there are correctable problems, but mothers don’t get the support and professional advice needed to build a good supply, get good latch, etc. If they can breastfeed, but prefer formula, they can pay for it.

  53. Atticus says:

    The hottest topics on this board seem to be about breastfeeding – if to do it, how long to do it, where to do it…no one is harder on a woman than another woman. If it’s not your kid, what does it matter to you what someone else does with theirs? (not including abuse cases, of course)

    KeepTrying, it’s nice that you worked so hard at it and eventually it did work out for you. Please go back and read your post though and try to put yourself in the shoes of a woman who tried as hard as she could. As hard as SHE could. And hear something like “is your baby important enough to you”, as if she doesn’t feel that way…come on, you prefaced your remark yourself with “this may sound snotty” so don’t act so surprised that people are reacting to your self-admitted snotty comment.

    The entire issue of breastfeeing is very personal. That includes “how hard” someone tries. Full disclosure – I breastfed my first baby for 5 weeks. We were both miserable, she was hungry all the time, I was hungry and tired all the time, I was having an extremely difficult time adjusting to motherhood, I felt like a failure and was missing out on a very precious time of my daughter’s life because of the stress and utter misery. Pookie, you are spot on about it being more than just physical health. My mental health was rendering me useless to my child. So I stopped, after much cajoling by my doctor to keep going and after much guilt induced by the lactation consultant community. And my daughter started sleeping better and was eating better and what do you know, I started feeling a little better, too. I did it for two weeks with my second kid, saw it going the same way and called it a day, with a lot less guilt (though I still felt like a failure).

    I commend people who pump 24/7 and go to the consultants and take the vitamins and do all of that. It wasn’t for me. Period. My kids are 4 and 2 now and are doing great. I have no regrets.

    And one of my best friends never did it at all, not one single second. Not my choice but her kids seem just fine and also – NOT MY KIDS…not my call. I don’t think any less of her as a mother. She provides for them and is as loving a mother as I’ve ever seen.

    So you know what, if there are women out there who don’t want to do it because they fear what it’ll do to their physical appearance or because it hurts or for whatever reason…fine! NOT MY KID – NOT MY CALL.

    There is no more vulnerable spot in a person’s character than their relationship with their child. You want to hurt someone? Attack their parenting style. Talk about personal. And talk about totally inappropriate. A bit off topic from the argument at hand, but it’s what made me so mad about how the media and the general public treated Britney Spears after she had her first kid. People were all over her every move and blasting her for being a shitty parent, when truth be told, if cameras were on us every second we stepped out in public, I’m sure we’d all be caught doing things that others would judge.

    The world is a tough enough place as it is without people genuinely rooting for others to fail. This was a bit of a tangent and a rant…but it’s why Gisele making such a stupid, careless and hurtful comment causes such a firestorm.

  54. Molly says:

    I worked in research for many years and here’s the problem with all the studies espousing the benefits of breastfeeding: in order to truly determine if there is a difference between breastfeeding and formula-feeding, you would need to do a totally random study to account for other differences. You would have to take thousands of women of all backgrounds, races, ages, economic status, etc and RANDOMLY assign them to breastfeed or bottle feed and look at how their children differ. But women don’t randomly decide to breast or bottle feed. Women who exclusively breast feed are more likely to be white, older mothers, more likely to be affluent, more likely to be stay at home or work at home mothers, more likely to have received pre-natal care, more likely to be educated beyond high-school. To look at the children of those mothers and say “Look how healthy they are! Look how much better they do on tests! It MUST be the breastfeeding!” is a logical fallacy. In studies such as these, there is no conclusive way to say if you are seeing a causation (these children have these advantages BECAUSE they are breastfeed) or a correlation (these children have these advantages AND they are breastfed).

  55. Roma says:

    I was adopted and though I was raised in a time that people didn’t totally freak out over formula, my mother was constantly approached due to her lack of breastfeeding. I can’t even imagine the fire she would be under now from strangers.

    Why do women feel the right to judge what other pregnant/new mothers do anyways? Wasn’t it a thread on CB that erupted over pregnant women having an occasional glass of wine?

    I find the comments fascinating.

  56. pookie says:

    @KeepTrying: Also, please don’t put words in my mouth. I never said any of you don’t love your children enough. I want to make the point, and strongly, that as a mother you need to be prepared to make sacrifices. And if you are capable of doing so, I think it behooves both you and your child to breastfeed in spite of scheduling conflicts, discomfort and even intense frustration. If it is something that can be powered through, it is ultimately worth it.

    Yeah, well, it can’t always be “powered through” and you came off as saying that it CAN ALWAYS be powered through. Because YOU were able to do it. Well, good for you! But have some freakin compassion and empathy for those who could NOT. If I (we) took this completely wrong, then I apologize.

    Out of curiosity, how did you end up with a c-section?

  57. KeepTrying says:

    I don’t want to acknowledge anyone specific anymore here. I’ll say this – I can’t stand what Giselle has to say. But it makes me sick because she presumes to speak for the rest of us who did breastfeed. I’ll reiterate one thing: I had to pump my milk after my daughter was 2 months old. So you can’t exactly say I was able to “successfully” breastfeed my daughter. I was trying to make a point that I didn’t give up the idea of providing my milk to her. So I didn’t stop doing that.
    As far as the name-calling goes, good luck with that. Nice role model you’re going to make.

  58. pookie says:

    @Atticus – beautifully stated. And with far less anger than I have managed in my posts. You were right on the nose – I think we are horribly judgmental when it comes to how we parent, and it’s sad because it tears us apart as new moms. We need so much support in the beginning, and it is especially hurtful to get nothing but criticism and judgment. And congrats on trying to breastfeed and doing the best for you and your family!!

  59. KeepTrying says:

    I had a C-section because my cervix stopped dilating. I hesitate to even say this because I can already hear the chorus of “Poor You!”s (sarcasm, no doubt) but I had prodromal labor for a week before going into hard labor for 10 hours on the day of my delivery. My doctor was concerned about the stress it was putting on my baby so suggested a c-section.

    I also never said it can “always be powered through”. I wish women were more open to discussing things and not so quick to be defensive and outraged.

  60. Chrissy says:

    I feel for people like Gisele and keeptrying … it must be really hard to live up on that high horse!! I cringe whenever I hear a new mom – a perfect stranger – start rambling out justifications of why breastfeeding didn’t work for them as they feed their baby a bottle. It happens so often and it’s not right!!

    I don’t need to know why you are feeding your baby a bottle … you are doing what’s best for you and your baby! God bless you for that!! So what that I breastfed my own babies. WHO CARES??? It doesn’t mean I loved my kids anymore than any other mom out there. It worked for me … I was lucky … and if some women don’t want to breastfeed or CAN’T for some reason, that is their choice, their life.

    As for “Mommy blogs” and parenting websites … one of the reasons I avoid them now is b/c of the other moms that feel the need to tell others exactly what to do, how to do it, etc. I’ll never forget a beautiful photo of a stack of colored pancakes and sure enough, the know-it-all gang started beating up the mom for DARING to put some food dye in her kid’s pancakes. Seriously?? A mom is trying to make a fun treat for her kid and you want to tell her how awful she is for it?? These are people I would never bother to be friends with in real life. It seems as if Gisele is on that list too. :o )

  61. KeepTrying says:

    Thanks Atticus, I agree and appreciate your comment. Last thing from me (whew, I know you’re all glad). I love babies. I love children. I want the best for every child in the entire world. My heart breaks for children who are hungry, lonely, neglected. I wish I could save them all. I had to say something on this thread because I want someone, even just one person, to think about breastfeeding if they can. That’s all.

  62. pookie says:

    @KeepTrying – I only asked because it’s pretty standard now for women to turn to drugs such as pitocin and epidurals to manage their birth. Drugs which give women a 47% greater chance of ending up with a c-section. I personally did not go to a hospital because I did not want the pressure of doctors and nurses and all of the interventions they try to force you into. I am by no means a natural birthing nazi, but there are tons of women out there who are. And I would stake my life on the fact that many of them would say you screwed up and didn’t have your babies best interest in mind. And you could have done it naturally, and you could have made other choices to have avoided the drugs/surgery. And you would feel hurt, and they would be wrong. Because ultimately, every woman needs to make her own choices about what works best for her. So yeah, maybe next time you want to throw in your two cents, you can do it without the condescension and better than thou attitude. Can you at least admit that what works for one woman doesn’t always work for another and so long as you do your best, that’s all that matters??

  63. KeepTrying says:

    Well I can’t ignore your post Pookie. I think that even though you attempt to negate your comment that “And I would stake my life on the fact that many of them would say you screwed up and didn’t have your babies best interest in mind.” by saying that they would be wrong after the fact, you still said it. I’m trying to do something positive here, and my attempt to use a powerful story as an example obviously didn’t work with you. You are a negative person with negative intentions. I want women to try harder. You want to hurt women. Good bye.

  64. Meg says:

    I’m bored with KeepTrying’s smug ignorance. Can we get back to bashing Gisele’s smug ignorance? What about her snotty “It’s called “labor” not “holiday”!” That was pretty hilarious . . .

  65. H says:

    @ Atticus and Pookie great posts.

    Just because YOU were able to fight through YOUR challenges doesn’t mean those are the only challanges out there. Despite having a very large chest, I produced very little milk. I was able to partial feed my son for 6wks and my daughter for 3months. I thought I hadn’t tried hard enough with my son and had quit to easily so I tried everything for my daughter. I rented a hospital grade pump, I rented scale, I went to a lactation nurse and I took prescription meds to try to increase my supply. It cost hundreds of dollars for all these things. No matter what I did my daughter got 1 oz from one breast and and maybe 10-15cc from the other. I KNOW this because I weighted my baby before and after feeding for days. No matter how I thought she did or how it seemed to go, scales don’t lie. The same thing happened in the lactation office. No on could tell me why this was happening, my latch looked good and it seemed I had milk, it just didn’t transfer to my babies. If this hasn’t happen to you, you have no idea the sense of failure you feel not to be able to do something so fundemental for your child. I am an RN and well educated on breastmilk/feeding. I WANTED to be a mom who breastfed for over a year and it just wouldn’t happen. And then when I would pull out formula, I would get judged by other moms for not breastfeeding. I am happy it all came so easy for her but it doesn’t always happen that way for others of us. I am thankful for formula, 100yrs ago both my kids would have probably died because I couldn’t feed them.

    Sorry for the long post but it makes me angry when other mothers assume that I just didn’t want it enough or just didn’t try hard enough. Sometimes wanting and trying just aren’t enough.

  66. weslyn says:

    pretentious much..breastfeeding is great, but everyone is not able or even wants to and it doesn’t make you any less of a caring mother..she doesn’t really think before she airs her opinion as gospel, does she?

  67. Chickadees4me says:

    Wow, got up to post 49 and that was enough. I bottle fed both of my children, who are now 17 & 18 and low and behold they’re healthy! I think genetics play a good part in that list of problems that babies do or don’t have, quit trying to guilt new mothers. I know that’s BS from experience and no one should be forced into it.

  68. tracey8051 says:

    keep trying….

    I think the problem is that your “powerful story” is so completely overshadowed by your holier than thou attitude. Your story may be powerful….to you. As mine is to me and as every other woman’s is to them.

    You really just come off as judgmental and very hard to take seriously.

    Gisele, look what you have done!!!!!!!!

  69. Susan says:

    What about moms who have to take medication that passes through breast milk? I have a 10 week old and I want to breastfeed, but I cannot due to medical issues and medication. Reading this made me want to cry. I do feel second rate.

  70. tracey8051 says:

    Susan,

    There’s no way you are second rate. Don’t let these fools (or mostly one in paticular) get to you. I wanted to breastfeed more than anything, too, but I couldn’t. And not because of medication, either. Even though I tried just about everything, I just didn’t produce any milk. My daughter is five now and she is smart and brilliant and beautiful.

    Don’t let this get you down. Just find the best alternative for you and your baby and trust that everything will work out for the best.

  71. Melissa says:

    @KeepTrying – you just don’t seem to get it – what Pookie is saying is that, just as you are acting as if EVERY MOTHER could breastfeed if they only tried hard enough, others may feel that if you only tried hard enough, you could have avoided a C-section and it would have been better for your baby. How do you like being on the receiving end of the judging?

    I have multiple sclerosis and chose to go back on my medication immediately after birth to try and stave off a relapse, therefore I could not try and breastfeed. This was my choice and one I stand by. But I suppose you probably think I should have risked a relapse of my MS so I could BF my baby. Or maybe if I tried hard enough, through Jedi-mind control, I could will away my MS!

  72. Erin says:

    Trying to mandate laws regarding women’s bodies and forcing them to do things = very bad idea. She’s an idiot and I wish she’d just go away.

  73. Atticus says:

    Thanks Pookie! I cringe when I look back at those early days of the first baby. It was incredibly difficult. Thank God for Brooke Shields coming out with her story of postpartum depression, and breaking the silence on that issue. It took guts for her to bare all on a very painful experience, and she helped me tremendously to know that I wasn’t the only one who felt like that.

    KeepTrying, I don’t doubt that you have the best of intentions, and it is nice that you shared your experience as an example of breastfeeding not coming easily but eventually working out due to perserverance. I would have related better to your story though if you’d left it as, “hey, here’s one example of someone to whom it didn’t come naturally but it eventually it did, too…try to hang in there if you’re up for it, it might work out for you, too!” Tacking on the “If you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it with some determination (to all you mommies who gave up before the 1 year mark)” is the part that rankles people – and rightfully so. Unless you personally know those mommies who “gave up” before the one year mark, you really don’t know what their personal situation was. Also, to the list of ailments breastfeeding helps babies avoid: one of the reasons I had to go to formula with my first baby is because she had horrible, horrible eczema. From head to toe, she was rashy and itchy. Once she got on a special formula, she cleared up a bit. It’s not all black and white.

    Molly, THANK YOU for posting that. It’s an excellent point. I’m stunned at myself that more than 2 years after my last attempt at breastfeeding, with children who are thriving at the ages of 2 and 4, I still feel pangs of failure and insecurity and guilt when I am told that I should have just tried harder.

  74. McMe says:

    @Keeptrying…I believe in breastfeeding as well and I tried all of things you have suggested. Guess what…it didn’t work. I didn’t have low milk, I had NO milk.

    I understand why people are so offended and defensive in response to your posts. I feel neither, what I feel is sadness for you as I do for all women who feel it is acceptable to point fingers at others and to pat their own backs. It is a clear sign that either no one else ever pays them a compliment or they are suffering from low self-esteem. Either way…it’s just sad….

  75. tracey8051 says:

    Kaiser,

    You are a trouble maker! ;-)

  76. Chickadees4me says:

    @Melissa “jedi mind control” lmao made my morning

    @Susan don’t feel like a failure, taking care of yourself and baby mentally and physically is more important

    btw if you’re really stressed out or depressed your milk doesn’t flow as it should, and your not doing anyone favors in that state.

  77. Atticus says:

    H: I’m glad you posted again here, I caught your comment in yesterday’s post and meant to go back and give you a virtual hug…talk about going the distance…you are an amazing mother!

    Susan: sending YOU many virtual hugs! You are NOT second rate. Healthy mom = healthy baby…by taking the best care of yourself, you are taking the best care of your baby. I wish you all the best in your new mom-hood and with your medical issues. Stay strong!

  78. fugly says:

    omg giselle, posters, flame throwers: your breasts, your business. stop trying to force your will on other people’s breasteses. gosh.

  79. irishserra says:

    I too tried to breastfeed both of my children, but it was short-lived because I had to work and once I did go back to work, they didn’t want it anymore; not even if it was pumped. I suppose they felt the bottle was more reliable. Their choices, not mine.

    Do you think Gisele actually imagines the “u” in “labor” when she says “labour?” Or how about “colour” and “favour?” LOL. I’ll bet she does. She’s sooo much more cultured than we are. :o )

  80. KeepTrying says:

    There are women here with legitimate health problems that present barriers which make it impossible to breastfeed. I didn’t EVER say that’s unacceptable, and I would NEVER say that. Boy, people just LOVE a bad guy.
    I think women who think it’s “weird” or are worried about their breasts looking different or are just tired or have a job should think twice. I think what’s happened is that this thread has become anti-breastfeeding and I think that’s a crying shame. Best of luck to you all.

  81. tracey8051 says:

    keep trying….

    I thought you were going to quit posting to this thread. Oh, well.

    Okay, I may be the only one, but I don’t think there’s a single person on this thread who’s anti-breastfeeding. Anyone? Anyone? All anti-breastfeeders, the time to speak is now.

    I’m still waiting……

  82. SweetPea says:

    See what you guys did to poor Susan.

    I had post partum cardiomyopathy. I spent 5 days in the ICU. I couldn’t breastfeed because of heart meds that I was put on. My twins are now 2 1/2. They have had two colds a piece in their lives. They are smart as can be.

    Breastfeeding nazis always piss me off.

  83. H says:

    @ Keep trying- please go back and read your first post, read objectivly and you’ll see what those of us who had unsuccessful breastfeeding experience reacted to, your tone was that if we just tried hard enough we could do what you did. I pumped less than what my baby removed, I could not have given her exclusivly breastmilk by pumping. For ME, pumping did not provide enough stimulation to keep my milk production up, it just dwindled and dried up.

    I am very pro-breastfeeding, I do think it is best but I know from painful experience that it is not always possible. I also had zero chance at natural child birth, I had pre-eclampsia with both preganacies and had to be on medication to prevent seizures that nessitated the use of pitocin. In a third world country, I probably would not have survived pregancy. It sucks when your body doesn’t do what you want it to do.

    @atticus- virtual hugs to you too, and you’re a amazing mom. :)
    @ susan, you are NOT second rate, we all just do the best we can, Motherhood is the toughest job but the most rewarding.:)

  84. Atticus says:

    KeepTrying, you’re entitled to your opinion of course. And I’m not sure anyone here disagrees with the idea of giving it a try. But now you’re bending people’s negative reactions to your self proclaimed snotty remark into a blanket anti-breastfeeding stance, and that is just not accurate.

    The snotty remark wasn’t that women should think twice about breastfeeding, it was the “if you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it with some determination” and the “gave up before the 1 year mark” and the “Is your baby worth it to you” language that gets, well…snotty.

    For someone who wishes women could have a discussion without getting defensive, it doesn’t seem like you’re willing to try to see the other side of this.

  85. Ruby Red Lips says:

    @ KeepTrying – the thread is not anti-breastfeeding, its simply anti dictatorship that breast feeding is the only way & anyone who doesn’t do this is a lazy bad mum

    Each to their own, as long as the mother and baby are happy then who cares if the baby is breast fed or bottle fed

    There are advanatges to both & NOBODY has the right to criticise anyone’s personal choice

  86. Cruisin Through says:

    I never had much of an opinion on her, but I do now. She IS an unsufferable bitch and confirmed that with this latest interview. She needs to just shut up. Having a baby doesn’t make you an expert on motherhood.

  87. Bunny says:

    What about those women who don’t produce enough milk to breastfeed, let’s make those women feel guilty.

  88. pookie says:

    @KeepTrying – I don’t think anyone on this thread is anti-breastfeeding (did you read what lengths many of these women have gone to, to try to make their breastfeeding experience a success?). I think people on this thread are anti-sanctimonious preacher who has no business saying what other women/mothers should or should not do as parents.

    YOU could be judged by a million people in a million different ways because somewhere out there, someone HATES something you are doing to your kid. End of story.

  89. original kate says:

    breastfeed or don’t – who cares? the kid won’t starve. it’s a woman’s choice and she shouldn’t have to justify herself to anyone, especially to a bitchy supermodel with a douchebag husband.

  90. KsGirl says:

    I took the first 18 months of my daughter’s life off work and stayed home to care for her. Studies show that babies who are cared for by their mothers are better off behaviourally and emotionally than those cared for by nannies, babysitters, even grandparents. I see you work very long hours, KeepTrying. I’m not questioning your love for your baby but maybe if you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it (stayed home) with some determination? S/he would have been better off cared for by Mom. I hope if you have another child you care enough about them to correct past mistakes and prioritize *your child* over yourself/ your career.

    In other words: OH PLEASE, lady. Don’t be saying things like “you could’ve done it, if only you had been determined enough (i.e. to give your baby the best)” and then get all wide eyed when people get offended.

    Another poster touched on this but with regards to breastfeeding vs (modern) formula feeding, most studies showing better results for breastfed babies show such a small difference (breast vs bottle) as to be statistically insignificant. And some studies even show small positive results for the formula fed! You, as a mother, are never going to be in a situation where someone, somewhere cannot look at you and say “hmmm…she could be doing X and she isn’t – BAD MOMMY!” Get over yourself.

    Oh and I just finished breastfeeding my 2 yr old a few months ago. It was easy and wonderful. I mainly did it for the emotional closeness to her and because it was convenient and cheap. If I had had difficulty (and I have had difficulties in other areas) I would have had NO problem formula feeding.

    I’ve always found this to be profoundly true: “if momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Moms who may be feeling small due to this thread, DON’T. If babies could speak I feel sure pretty much all of them would prefer a calm, confident mom who feeds them formula to an uptight, nervous harpy who breastfeeds ‘em. :)

  91. Whatever says:

    Okay, I may be the only one, but I don’t think there’s a single person on this thread who’s anti-breastfeeding. Anyone? Anyone? All anti-breastfeeders, the time to speak is now.

    This is what it was like when I was born. My mother’s family looked down on her for breastfeeding. The older relatives who had their babies pre WWII and in the early 50s actually asked why she was breastfeeding, since she wasn’t “low class” or “poor”. For many in that generation, formula was new and a status symbol. If you didn’t use it, it meant you couldn’t afford it and were therefore judged.

    Mothers have always been and continue to be screwed up and make themselves feel better by judging.

  92. Delta Juliet says:

    Oh Christ are we really saying that all mothers need to stay home now? Because some of us CAN NOT. Unless we want to stay home and collect general assistance. Let’s not go there.

  93. Atticus says:

    Delta Juliet, that was pure sarcasm. I don’t think anyone is starting up that debate. But goes to show…there is always something to attack when it comes to other mothers, isn’t there???

    KsGirl: A+++++++++ for your post

  94. Molly says:

    Delta Juliet, she was being sarcastic to make a point.

    KsGirl–excellent post. It seems to be impossible nowadays to have a sensible, reasonable discussion about formula feeding with all the ‘breast is best and nothing else will ever, ever do’ hysteria. Is breast better? Probably, a little. Is formula just fine? Of course.

    It’s pointless to attack each other over what choices show that we love our kids more. As my pediatrician told me when I was agonizing over not being able to nurse my daughter: Breastfeeding isn’t bonding and it isn’t love, it’s just breastfeeding. Love and bonding are what you while are you feeding your baby, whatever it is they are eating.

  95. cantbelievethis says:

    @pookie I say f**k off and mind your own damn boobs!

    LOVE THAT!

    As for Gisele . . . I’d like to see her say how easy motherhood is if she was a ‘normal’ person. She can pick and choose the jobs she takes plus I am sure she has a nanny.

  96. Patrice says:

    You know, I was really a supporter of “Team Gisele” or whatever in the beginning. I think it would take a lot of strength and patience to stand by a man you had just started dating once you found out his ex was expecting (that couldn’t have been easy). But now I feel like b*tch needs to just SHUT UP and let peole live their own lives!!!

    The more I read about her waxing on about how other parents “should” raise their kids and how she does everything “right” and perfectly and we could all stand to learn a lesson from her etc, the more I feel badly for poor Bridget for the simple fact that she has to allow her son to be semi-raised by this hollier than thou, dillusional idiot. I mean, really? You felt “no pain” whatsoever when a 7lb+ human being was squeezed out of yout body?! Once she started in on that crap I had had enough.

  97. Patrice says:

    #6: Even though I now too find her insufferable, once and for all BRIDGET AND TOM WREE ALREADY BROKEN UP when he and Gisele started dating. I live in Boston and it was widely known for months that he and Bridget were already over.

    Why can’t people just accept that moving on quickly after a relationship is not a crime and hardly consitutes “cheating”. GOD.

  98. anjasmomma says:

    I am part of the crowd that would have loved to have breastfed but never produced ANY milk. I felt AWFUL about it at the time…..and that was without a law telling me I HAD to breastfeed. I can’t even imagine trying to get some sort of medical exemption to not breastfeed. That is insane.

  99. Jo 'Mama' Besser says:

    Hot snipes a-flyin’, and I’m the one with the psychiatrist?

    ***

    @Susan: Don’t cry. There is nothing to be gained from putting undue pressure and unearned guilt on yourself about a random stroke of misfortune. Instead, focus on feeling proud about taking your own health and the health of your new baby into consideration. You’ve been making the best calls possible under the circumstances you were given, so how can you feel second-rate about that? I’m not a mother, but watching from the sidelines over the years, it has always been more than evident that even the finest points of motherhood can bring out the vituperation in people–ack, love *does* hurt. I guess it’s all about people feeling strongly and in the most general and broadest of senses, for all of their disagreements (and sometimes shaming), there lies the common desire within all people for all babies to be comforted and happy. When you’ve chanced upon some sort of gold mine technique, you want to share the gospel, but passion and hostility are very closely linked, so I’d start thinking about calm blue oceans if white noise gets to be too much. As my unqualified sense views it, eventually, all of these little dust-ups along the way just end up falling away; I think it’s indisputable that showing strength and love and getting the job of mothering done, especially when it’s difficult, is what makes one truly good at her vocation. Now think, (and especially with your health concerns considered) don’t you already know that you’re proving yourself to be more than up to the challenge? If all of this is too fresh to leave your view unobscured, I’ll tell you with clear eyes, the answer is ‘yes’.

    Good luck with the future, congratualtions on the new baby.

  100. cantbelievethis says:

    @ksgirl I’m not questioning your love for your baby but maybe if you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it (stayed home) with some determination? S/he would have been better off cared for by Mom. I hope if you have another child you care enough about them to correct past mistakes and prioritize *your child* over yourself/ your career.

    This was great!

  101. KeepTrying says:

    You people are so vicious. I work constantly because I’m a single mother. My husband died when my daughter was 2 months old. Are you proud of yourselves now??

  102. tracey8051 says:

    Keep Trying….

    Okay, that is tragic and I’m sorry for your loss, but really, what has that got to do with your original post, which I obviously need to remind you was about why we all suck for not breastfeeding as long or as well as you did? That has nothing to do with being a single mom. I’m a single mom, too. Again, doesn’t make you better than me.

    Don’t sit here and tell me I’m vicious when you basically said I don’t love my child enough because I couldn’t or wouldn’t breastfeed.

    Talk about trying to turn the tables when things don’t go your way.

  103. Crash2GO2 says:

    Do I think breast is best? Yes! Do I think putting a very young child in daycare is quite less than ideal? Yes! That is my opinion.

    But the instant a nitwit starts talking about making something a law, I want to start slapping said nitwit.

  104. Cheyenne says:

    It’s stupid and irresponsible to say that if all women try hard enough, they can breastfeed. Before formula was widespread, millions of babies died in early infancy because their mothers were unable to produce enough milk to keep them alive. In some parts of the third world, millions of babies still do. Formula has literally been a life-saver for every baby whose mother can’t produce enough milk, and some women just can’t, no matter what they do. It’s not a matter of being unwilling to try hard enough; if you can’t, you can’t.

  105. Madison says:

    Just keep on breastfeeding Giselle whatever works for you but don’t tell other women what they should or should not do. Your a model not a role model take your clothes off, smile for the camera, look pretty and keep your stupid opinions to yourself.

  106. Molly says:

    Cheyenne,
    I would also like to add that women have been giving their babies human-milk substitutes for thousands of years, typically goat/camel/cow milk, etc. My father was given whole cow milk from infancy on when his mother was unable to nurse (now this is, of course, known to be nutritionally incomplete and a huge no-no but he grew up healthy, happy and went on to get a PhD). Baby “bottles” (more like tiny little tea pots) have been found in ancient Egyptian, Roman and Greek excavations. The idea that all women nursed all babies up until formula was invented is a total myth.

  107. Crash2GO2 says:

    @KeepTrying: You only breastfeed for a year?? Don’t you know that the WHO recommends 2 years at least? *I* breastfed for 2 years – I’ll bet I’ll get the ‘Best Mom’ prize at the end of the day, not you. No, don’t I sound like a bitch? And don’t try to pull the sympathy card only now – you are the one who started all this.

    @Lynne: Of course, ‘in the wild’ there were other women in the tribe who might be able to pitch in and wet nurse an infant for a mother who could not produce enough milk. If there wasn’t another woman available, then yes, the infant died. Plenty of infants were also raised on cow and goat milk before the advent of formula.

  108. Ruby Red Lips says:

    @ Tracey8051 – well said :)

  109. juliana says:

    @keeptrying:
    Yes, your story is sad, but you had it coming.
    Who are you to insinuate a mother isn’t doing her best because she didn’t BF?

    It’s a persons’ personal choice.

    My ex sister-in-law breast fed all 5 of her kids for at least 2 years, and all of her kids have gone to prison for one thing or another.

  110. Atticus says:

    KeepTrying, I am truly sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what that must be like. I wish all the best for you and your child.

    No one attacked you for being a single mom, though. Interesting how it changes the context to know the circumstances around a person’s life and sheds light on the choices they may have made…isn’t it? Do you feel worse knowing that other posters have medical conditions that make it impossible for them to nurse, or do you still think they just aren’t trying hard enough?

  111. KeepTrying says:

    This is my last post, honest to God. Screw you all. None of you know how to listen to what a person is saying. You’re so wrapped up in your own insecurities and absolute vitriol. Have fun with that. Have fun with your tiny little narrow-minded lives, and the children those produce as well (they will also, no doubt, be narrow minded and filled with hate because they’ll learn it from Mommy).

  112. Ruby Red Lips says:

    @ KeepTrying

    I hope you find happiness in your life…but don’t insult people’s children – that is extremely nasty and unneccessary

  113. pookie says:

    @KeepTrying: Sorry for your loss – with all sincerity.

    You kind of proved our point of why your post was hurtful though. You took a sarcastic post about being a stay at home mom, and took it literally. You were then VERY HURT by it because in YOUR CASE, there was no way for you to be a stay at home mom. See, everyone has their own lives and stories and situations that they have to cope with. Our point is that instead of telling another mom she is crap for not being able to breastfeed, you could instead say hey, that’s awesome you did the best you could for your child! And give them a high five, not a slap in the face.

  114. tracey8051 says:

    Keep Trying,

    I would be offended, but you’re so funny I can’t manage anything more than slightly amused.

    Also, I’m fairly certain every person on this thread heard what you were saying. What pisses you off is that no one agrees with you.

  115. Atticus says:

    But KeepTrying, you’re the one who is missing the point here. I find it hard to believe that you can’t just take a step back, look objectively at your original post and think, hmm, I can see how what I said was taken out of context and why it would sound offensive…this is all I meant…

    I mean, you even prefaced the whole thing with “this will sound snotty” so surely you must know why people are feeling rankled by it.

    This entire shit storm would have stayed focused on Gisele if you had shown just a little bit of ability to see the other point of view.

    This isn’t even about whether or not breastfeeding is good. It’s about whether or not it’s POSSIBLE, and for some women it’s not, no matter how hard they try.

  116. KsGirl says:

    KeepTryin: “If you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it with some determination (to all you mommies who gave up before the 1 year mark). Just sayin’. And it was tough. And I own a small business. Is your baby worth it to you?”

    (example) Reply to KeepTryin: “She simply could not nurse, no matter how hard I tried. We saw a lactation counselor twice a week and a physical therapist once a week. I pumped every two hours, 24 hours a day but could never produce near enough to feed her.”

    **********************************

    Me: “I’m not questioning your love for your baby but maybe if you wanted your baby to have the best, you could’ve done it (stayed home) with some determination?”

    Keeptryin’: “You people are so vicious. I work constantly because I’m a single mother. My husband died when my daughter was 2 months old.”

    *************************************

    What similiarities do you see in the above 2 exchanges, Keeptryin’? I even used your own words.

    And I *was* being sarcastic (you weren’t). Do I doubt your love for your child? No. Do I think you could have done more? No. I don’t know you, and it’s none of my business. But the same applies to you – you don’t know the women you questioned on this thread, and you questioned them in a fundamental way (really, is there anything more offensive than being accused of not quite loving one’s child ENOUGH?).

    I’ll end this with a quote.

    “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – Plato

  117. Majosha says:

    @Susan: I was in the same situation as you are when my boys were infants, and I also felt terrible. But now that my kids are older and every bit as happy and healthy as their peers, I’ve finally been able to let go of my guilt. So please, don’t let callous, mean-spirited people like “Keep Trying” and Gisele get you down — I’m sure you’re a wonderful mother, and your child(ren) will thrive as a result.

    @Keep Trying: I hope that, despite your negative influence (i.e. an inclination to callously prey on the vulnerabilities of others), your children grow up to be kind, empathetic adults who would never dream of behaving as atrociously as you have on this thread.

    Edit: KsGirl, I didn’t see your post before I submitted mine, but that quote is perfection. Thank you!

  118. Mrs. Kalifornia says:

    Do you know how much guilt women who, for whatever reason, have to stop breast feeding FEEL?

    We do not need this a$$hole making us feel any worse.

    Fu(k u. C*nt.

  119. Cheyenne says:

    @Molly: I agree, a lot of babies were given milk substitutes for breast milk if their mothers were unable to produce. Unfortunately, a lot of babies died from unsterilized substitutes. Back in the day, what saved a lot of babies when their mothers had no milk was being nursed by another woman who had milk to spare.

    @Keep Trying: Mind the doorknob.

  120. Chrissy says:

    ohhh … KsGirl … I love that quote!

  121. Ash says:

    I wanted to breastfeed. Believe me, I really did. But my daughter came prematurely and was rushed into surgery at a day old. Her intestines were kinked and she was unable to eat anything for 3 months. Then my dad died 4 days after she was born.

    My sister in law was chasing me down the hallway of the hospital as I was on my way to the hospice to be with my dad. “YOU NEED TO PUMP!!!!!”

    Needless to say, the stress of everything was incredibly too much for me. A nurse saw me in tears and said “Honey, a healthy mommy is way more important for your baby right now.”

  122. Camille says:

    I agree completely with your last paragraph Kaiser. I couldn’t agree with you more in fact. It is a womans right to do what she feels is best for her and her baby and not only that but some women can not breast feed- for a variety of reasons.

    With the stupid comments that she has been saying lately, GB has just jumped right into my ‘can’t stand that celeb’ list. Stupid, sanctimonious bitch.

  123. Crash2GO2 says:

    @Susan: Obviously, the most important thing your baby needs is YOU. And you need medication. As other posters have already pointed out, formula fed babies thrive. I understand this is hard for you – but if ever there was a legitimate reason not to breastfeed even if you were capable, your example is perfect. You are putting the baby’s welfare first and that already means you are head and shoulders above many mothers in that regard. I won’t tell you what you should or shouldn’t feel, but I will tell you that you are doing the right thing by providing your baby with a healthy mommy and a drug free environment to grow up in. Way to go!!

  124. Susan says:

    I was able to breast feed 4 times with my new daughter. It felt incredible to do so. When I had to get on meds and had to stop I was crushed. It ,made me feel so close to her. But I know she grew hooked to me inside (can you get closer?) and now I just have to be pleased she is healthy and beautiful. She had her 1st set of vaccines today :(

  125. Shawna says:

    Why can’t we stop judging each other?

    We need to change the laws about maternity leave and about the ALL workplaces’ integration with the need to pump.

    This is SO SAD that we’re yelling at each other.

  126. tracey8051 says:

    Susan,

    I totally get how you feel. I remember the day I realized I was going to have to switch to formula. The good news is eating from a bottle never once seemed to diminish the bond I felt with my daughter.

    If you are fighting diabetes, which is a really serious problem, then I say screw the breast. If feeding her a bottle will help keep you around while she is growing up, then the only question becomes, which formula is best? Honestly it took several weeks to find one my daughter could tolerate, so that was super stressful. Just know you are doing the right thing for you and your family and don’t worry about what anyone else says.

  127. Cakes says:

    Im expecting my first this spring and I hope to God that I never encounter Keep Tryin. What a mean, stuck up bitch you are! How DARE you insinuate any of these women are bad mothers because they couldnt breastfeed. F*ck you! To all of you who shared your stories: you scared the crap outta me but I hope Im only half as strong as you are!

  128. Shawna says:

    And @Cheyenne and @Molly, that was really fascinating. I was starting to wonder (erroneously), “What is wrong with our culture or diet or environment that makes us have some problems with lactation?” (as in, drinking water contamination, plastics, etc)….but that’s really interesting to know that women historically have needed help. It’s normal not to have enough milk, though terribly unfortunate. We need to know more facts like that.

  129. Susan says:

    We used to use Enfamil Premium but have switched to Similac Advance. During the pregnancy I was on 5 shots of insulin a day. That was hard and scary (had to give shots in stomach area). I had over 30 ultrasounds to assure my Maddie was growing right and Non- Stress Tests and AFI’s twice a week. Now my diabetes isn’t as bad, but required medication to keep it in check. What are some other good formulas???

  130. Persistent Cat says:

    I find everything that Gisele said just so insufferable and condescending, from everyone woman MUST breastfeed, to “it’s labour not a vacation,” to her making pancakes the day after giving birth.

    My sister-in-law got pregnant after years of trying. She had a difficult pregnancy. She’s a very tiny woman and the labour was painful and she required stitches so she was on bedrest for at least two weeks after the birth. The baby wouldn’t latch so she wasn’t eating or gaining weight.

    My brother and I grew up poor and my brother told me that with everything we went through growing up, that first week with the baby was the worst, darkest point of his life.

    They saw a lactation specialist and my SIL pumped and did everything she could. She used some type of tube that was placed next to her nipple so the baby could take in formula and breastmilk. After awhile, the baby latched and now my SIL can nurse her.

    All that to say, my brother and his wife were so depressed because they couldn’t make their baby healthy. Would they really need to read this insufferable bitch’s comment about how easy everything is? Or someone like KeepTrying to say they didn’t love their baby enough?

    @KeepTrying, I call bullshit on all your follow-up comments.

    @Juliana, you made me laugh.

    @irisherra, it’s a British magazine, they spelled it with a U, Gisele didn’t write the article. I’m Canadian, I write it with a U.

  131. tracey8051 says:

    KeepTrying:

    You may not be posting anymore, but we all know you’re still reading this thread, so one parting thought:

    I called you a bitch because from your post, which is all I have to judge from, I think you are a bitch. That’s about you. I didn’t bring your kids into it, but you on the other hand have tried to insult mine twice. Instead of feeling offended, as I’m sure you were hoping, I just feel really really sorry for you and no, it has nothing to do with your husband dying. I just feel really sorry for stupid people.

    My daughter is only five, and I’m pretty sure she’s already smarter than you are. She’s definitely more open-minded, kind-hearted and way less judgmental. All in all, I wouldn’t change a thing.

    And you’re a bitch.

  132. tracey8051 says:

    Susan,

    I’m really glad everything worked out for you. Diabetes can be really scary on a regular day, forget during a pregnancy.

    As for formula, we tried every brand on the market and she would either throw up half of it or spend and hour crying like she had a tummy ache, even with the lactose-free stuff. Finally out of desperation I bought the generic grocery brand and she never had another problem. Checking the ingredients, it was almost exactly the same formula as the leading brands, but with less iron. Of course, we tried every single other brand on the market before that one. So that is what we used until she was old enough to change to milk and rice cereal. Just goes to show that every single child is different and you never know what will work best. Don’t give up!

  133. Liana says:

    I wasn’t breast fed and I have a fairly high IQ, graduated Ivy League, have never missed a day of school or work due to illness (legitimate illness, not the mental health day thing), and am smack dab in the middle of my ideal body weight range. Whatever, you know?

  134. cantbelievethis says:

    @KeepTrying: There is a difference between encouraging others and being judgemental. Your original post was very judgement and was obvious that you feel b/c you did it then it everyone else should be able to (or want to).

    New moms should be encouraged and praised, not judged. No mom should get depressed or feel bad b/c they can’t breastfeed.

    There was a couple that tried to sell their baby in a Walmart parking lot. They were meth addicts and part of the article mentioned that the mother breastfed while smoking crack. Does that make her a good nom?

  135. Andrea-2 says:

    @Susan
    You’re daughter sounds delightful and so do you. You seem genuinely concerned for her well-being, which in my humble opinion, makes you a great mom…

  136. daisyfly says:

    I DO believe that hospitals/birthing centers/obstetricians/doulas/midwives should encourage breastfeeding. I DO believe that formula provision and commercials should be limited and that disclaimers touting the benefits of breastfeeding over formula feeding be in much larger print so as to not discount them at all the way they have been in current and previous ad campaigns.

    However, creating a law that requires a person to do something against their will with their own bodies is unacceptable in an age where we as women constantly struggle with our fight for bodily autonomy against a patriarchal society hell bent on controlling what we do.

    If you either a) do not want to breastfeed, or b) can’t, then you should be able to reserve the right to feed your child in the best way possible for YOU. If that means formula or goat’s milk (lactose intolerant babies can be fed on goat’s milk) then so be it. Neither I, nor you, nor a celebrity, nor the government should have the right to forbid such a thing.

    /mother of 4 breastfed children
    //rabid supporter of breastfeeding rights
    ///even more rabid supporter of women’s rights
    ////slashies

  137. Crash2GO2 says:

    While I was so dishearted by KeepTrying’s and Gisele’s judgemental attitudes/posts to other moms (btw, how are pancakes NOT garbage??) I am overwhelmed by the warmth and support that others have shown each other on this board. Rock on ladies!

  138. Mrs Odie 2 says:

    The vast majority of women are physically able to breastfeed. However, working and pumping sounds tough. I can’t fault a woman for not wanting to put herself through THAT hell. I have a lipase imbalance, so after I pump my pathetic 2-3 ounces, I have to scald it in a pan on the stove or it tastes like soap after being frozen or refrigerated. I can’t do that at work. No stove. When I go back in September, I will pump if I need to for my comfort, but I’ll have to throw the milk out.

    I think there should be a law that mothers get one year of paid maternity leave. Then they could all breastfeed more easily.

    But I’m a socialist.

  139. Sally says:

    I am neither a mother nor do I have any desire to have kids (yet), I agree with most posters on this board. Breastfeeding = good. Mother’s choice = better. Happy & healthy mother & baby = best.

    And reading through the comments, I must admit that KeepTrying made me lol (after the initial annoyance).

  140. bellaluna says:

    “Let’s not make anyone feel like a second-rate mama for their feeding choices. Babies who aren’t being nursed are being fed formula, not crack dust.”

    From all the f*ckery that’s ensued, I take it no one read my comment (and mine was the 2nd comment!).

    Mothers, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DEFEND YOUR FEEDING CHOICES TO ANYONE. There are a multitude of reasons why we mothers make the decisions we make, and unless those decisions are neglectful or illegal, NO HAS THE RIGHT TO QUESTION YOU.

  141. bellaluna says:

    @ Ash – Aww, how overwhelming for you! I hope everything has levelled off for you at least. That nurse is correct; a healthy mommy is just what every baby needs.

    I have large breasts, so when my milk comes in they are HUGE. I also happen to have babies who refuse to take bottles. All 3 of them, no negotiations, they just would NOT. Nursing each one of them was a challenge – how can my baby latch on when my boob is the same size as their head? It hurt; I cried; my nipples cracked and bled – no one ever told me these things! Anyway, we figured it out, and I nursed the older 2 until they were 2, and I’m still nursing the baby (he’s 13 months).

  142. Mouse says:

    I can’t really understand how most of you are feeling about this, I can’t physically have my own biological children (and I decided some time ago it’s nature’s way of telling me I’m not to reproduce) so I will never know what it’s like to breastfeed. Le sigh.

    I think it’s extremely unfeeling, thoughtlessly ignorant, and just plain cold of Jizz-ele to have said such a thing. What a cunt! To make a comment like that, that women’s decisions about their own bodies and babies should be governed by law…that is NOT something to just make a casual remark about, lady. That is way way WAAAAAY out of line and I hope you get major backlash for it. Think before you speak!

    @original kate#94 – Right on!

  143. Whatever says:

    btw, how are pancakes NOT garbage??

    Oh, it must be because Gisele is making them from whole grain flour and fresh, organic blueberries. Even her junk is perfect.

    PS I made pancakes the day after my second, with plenty of butter and syrup! Only a moron like her would think making pancakes is such a big deal that it requires bragging. It kind of shows how easy her life is.

  144. DetRiotgirl says:

    All this talk of nipple cracking and such is scaring the crap out of me! But, that’s part of why I don’t have kids.

    Even though I am very much childless and afraid of the whole birthing adventure, I was interested in what everyone had to say. I’m getting older, and find myself a slightly less freaked out by motherhood every year. I’m still not past the “omg! Your nipples did what??!!??” phase yet. But, I’m getting there.

    No loving mother should be judged for the choices she makes with her regards to her breasts. I’ve worked in daycare and occasionally do children’s events. I also have a really good friend who works in a preschool. I deal with kids a lot, and I really care a lot about them. The most important thing with children is that they get proper amouts of guidance, attention and love at home. As long as they are getting that; as long as they know they have that support and foundation, I think they will be fine… Breast fed or not.

    @keeptrying I’m not even a mother, and I understood why your post was insensitive. I’m sorry for your lose, but you seemed to have missed the point of all those angry responses. They were well deserved based on your attitude. But, your posts have already been picked apart enough here. So, I’ll leave it at that.

    Ladies, keep up all your good work! I’m sure you’re all awesome moms! Especially Susan! :)

  145. Crash2GO2 says:

    @Whatever: lol. If she was perfect, she wouldn’t be eating ground grains at all. I just love poking fun at people who think they are perfect. Don’t you?

  146. Jill says:

    I agree with her. She has good sense about her body and her child’s well-being. Her critics are probably so far below her league they can’t relate in any way to what she’s saying.

  147. Luci says:

    btw folks, this is her official answer to the public outcry

    “My intention in making a comment about the importance of breastfeeding has nothing to do with the law. It comes from my passion and beliefs about children. Becoming a new mom has brought a lot of questions, I feel like I am in a constant search for answers on what might be the best for my child. It’s unfortunate that in an interview sometimes things can seem so black and white. I am sure if I would just be sitting talking about my experiences with other mothers, we would just be sharing opinions. I understand that everyone has their own experience and opinions and I am not here to judge. I believe that bringing a life into this world is the single most important thing a person can undertake and it can also be the most challenging. I think as mothers we are all just trying our best.”

    GOD I cant stand her

  148. *Lee* says:

    I bottle fed all three of my boys. I never even tried to breast feed. Nothing about it appealed to me. I have a household to run, and a job to go to to provide. Aside from that, I wanted to get the whole lactating thing out of the way, it was uncomfortable and ugly.

    I have no excuse, and do not feel I need one.

  149. Liana says:

    Her critics are probably so far below her league they can’t relate in any way to what she’s saying.
    _____________________

    Are you KIDDING me? “so far below her league?” What the hell league is she in?

  150. just for comment says:

    OMG, seriously, @keepTrying, good for you, but what if you’re baby ‘wont’ breatfeed as my premature autistic son wouldn’t, also what if you’re milk doesn’t come in after six weeks of using a pump and trying to get him to latch? Some women are at the height of stupity even with their thoughts of self importance. By the way my son is great now after years of therapies but at the time I was devastated I wasn’t being a ‘good mom’ for not breastfeeding. However my daughter went at it with gusto and I loved it, she was breastfed until two years three months and was disgusted when I made her stop. She still trys for it a year later! Now haven’t I read somewhere too that it shouldn’t be stopped at six months but between twelve months and two years of age? If Giselle want’s to preach maybe she should ‘still be breastfeeding’ eh?

  151. Meanchick says:

    “27.Lynne:
    I’m with keeptrying. Honestly, theree are far too many women claiming they didn’t have milk- just admit you didn’t want to do it, don’ lie. Would THAT many babies have starved in nature before there was formula? I think far fewer women have a milk problem than claim it.” What you fail to realize is that “in nature,” a woman who couldn’t give her child milk probably had a another woman do it for her. Why are you judgin women for their own decisions? I didn’t breastfeed because I didn’t want to! There! I said it! My daughter is one grade ahead, taking college course while still in HS and has her choice of several Ivy League colleges already! We are very close and our bond wouldn’t change if I’d nursed her. It’s a choice, pure and simple. To accuse women of lying about lactating? LOL. You are warped.

  152. Katija says:

    There is a crap ton of bitch-calling in this thread. I thought that wasn’t allowed?

  153. irishserra says:

    @Persistent Cat: All in fun…all in fun…

  154. Shawna says:

    @Liana, I think that post required a “/sarcasm” to be understood!

  155. Emma says:

    A wise man once said “An empty can makes the most noise”. I do believe this is true in this model’s case. Not too much going on upstairs if you know what I mean. No gracious, intelligent woman would make such comments.

  156. karey says:

    It would be easy to resent Gisele for some of her comments, but ultimately I find her inspiring. As for the petty catty insecure women here, good luck to the people around you.

  157. Mathiea says:

    @153 luci

    why do you read about her?

  158. Rachel says:

    I dont understand why people are getting so angry about this. People are saying that Gisele is TELLING other mothers how to raise there children. If you pay attention the the article, you will know that’s not true. All she said was that she thinks that SOME other people dont eat healthy like they should when there pregnant. Thats true though…thats a known fact. So why are people not agreeing with her? Are you people saying that all mothers eat healthy when their pregnant? Because if you really believe that, your wrong… Also, it is true that breastfeeding is more healthy than formula food. She didnt say that she hates people that choose formula food, all she said was that she thinks its alot healthier and BETTER to breastfeed, which is true. The worldwide law thing was unrealistic because there is NO way that the entire world will ever agree on one thing…and people in other countries have religious beliefs to. When it comes down to it, what she meant was that mothers need to be informed and FOLLOW THROUGH with the correct way of taking care of children. She didnt say she knows EVERYTHING (even though she probably does because when you have alot of money you can pay people to teach stuff to you) and shes not “telling people how to live” she was just preaching her beliefs. That aws the whole purpose of this article, aws for her to ANSWER QUESTIONS AND TALK ABOUT HER BELIEFS. I think people need to relax…

  159. Isa says:

    Wow, I can’t believe some of the comments. They are so hurtful. Why would anyone lie about not having enough milk? As someone who didn’t, I find it very hurtful. It’s very depressing when you have these expectations and you can’t live up to them because your body doesn’t do something right.
    Not making enough milk is very common. I still remember the first time I realized it. My daughter was a week old and I sat and nursed her through an entire movie. She just kept crying. I finally realized she wasn’t getting anything, gave her an ounce of formula and she went to sleep.

    I still gave her breastmilk any time she was hungry, but would often have to give her a little bit of formula at the end. I tried pumping but the most I got was 2 ounces, the rest of the time an ounce to an ounce and a half.

    I hated giving her formula, I felt horrible. I loved to nurse her and after the initial soreness has an easy time. But at four months, I notice she wasn’t getting anything. I wanted to keep on until she was a year at least. But I couldn’t. I did my best, but apparently that isn’t good enough.

    • katie says:

      keep telling yourself this – i breastfeed my 18 month old baby who was born premature, everybody has enough milk. its what our bodies do, what if you were a mum 1000 years ago??? i can assure you you would have tried harder. i had cracked nipples, bleeding nipples, no baby (he was in his incubator) and i was in intensive care for 5 days, i managed to do it. im sick of people saying the cant. stupidity – admit u didnt want to

  160. Hane says:

    What’s wrong with the breastfeeding comment? The longer you breastfeed a baby, the better. 6 months is the recommended minimum. There a lot of benefits. No, it shouldn’t be a law, but she could have just been expressing her opinion in an exaggerated way. Everyone does that.

  161. really says:

    My sisters both said that the reasons that they did not breast feed their babies is because they were afraid of their boobs being saggy. At least they were honest about it… Now all of their kids get sick all of the time in and out of the hospital, allergies, etc, etc. All in the name of perfect boobs. Good job sis! I appreciated their honesty instead of making some BS excuse….. Just to show how selfish some women are. Kudos to those women who wing it with cracked/bleeding/peal off the nipple out there that stuck it out!! WOOT WOOT!!!

    And to those who really could not do it because their bodies “were not” producing… so sorry you guys missed out on such a lovely bonding experiencing. That is why the formula is made for, so don’t beat up on yourselves too much. xoxox

  162. EarthWindFire82 says:

    *Yes, we need better laws for moms who breastfeed.

    *True, breastfeeding is best for baby.

    *Not every mom can breastfeed.

    *Not every mom WANTS to breastfeed.

    *Gisele makes my armpit itch.

    *Breastfeeding rocks, but I couldn’t do it..and my Paul Bunyan of a son is just fine.

    • katie says:

      this comment made me laugh ”Formulas have government regulations that make them as good if not better than breast milk.”

      go on carry on telling yourself this – its so far from the truth, oh yer and maybe your baby is just fine, but if you had breastfed him he might thank u in years to come when he has good eyesight, good healthy teeth and gums, no cholesterol…….my my u make me chuckle carry on telling yourself this.

  163. EarthWindFire82 says:

    One thing I can say is that since I’ve been a reader of this site, I’ve never seen such vitriol chucked at others for their opinions. Breastfeeding is best, but there’s no need to judge moms who don’t do it. It doesn’t matter WHY she doesn’t/didn’t want to breastfeed because she has a right to do what she pleases. Formulas have government regulations that make them as good if not better than breast milk.

    I don’t knock Gisele for breast feeding. But what happened in this situation is that we as readers only have the words recorded on paper to formulate an opinion. Even I was like “Child, please” when I read her comments. I’m a mom who breastfed my 5 year old, but was medically unable to do so for my son. It bothered me, but instead of being depressed, I simply did what moms do..pick it up and work on a solution.

    I wished I had that chance with him, but he’s just fine even with his formula. My docs told me that the meds I was on due to my complications from a c-section would have made him sick anyway. Besides, your breast milk is only as good as what you put in your body. In the end, as long as you’re a good mom and your baby eats, you’re fine.

    And Gisele…we in the US don’t think we don’t have to breastfeed. We have this thing called Free Will. We have the right to whip out a boob or a bottle as we desire. She may have been exaggerating to convey her strong emotions, but it came off as pompous and arrogant. I bet if she has two more kids, her story may change. She made pancakes this time, but next time she may be out of pocket. I’m not being mean, but it appears as if she doesn’t know EVERY pregnancy is different! I have 2 kids, and while I walked off my 1st delivery, my 2nd kept me hospitalized 5 days and off work 4 months. She should kind of watch her tone and keep her hands on her head.

  164. LeSigh says:

    @katie I hope you will read this but I realize you are probably long gone..

    “its what our bodies do, what if you were a mum 1000 years ago??? i can assure you you would have tried harder.”

    Yep, I’m one of those couldn’t produce enough milk gals so I feel compelled to comment. I breastfed what little I had but always had to follow up with a bottle.

    Actually, there has ALWAYS been a percentage of the population that cannot breastfeed. That is why if you read novels based in times bygone, you will ALWAYS here mentions of “Wet Nurses”. Big families were the most common and women who could not breastfeed had sisters or female relatives breastfeed their babies for them. In fact, there was even a famous woman who breastfed babies as a wet nurse well into her 80′s (she was made as saint…too tired to google which one cannot remember offhand her name).

    My next point, there are people whose pancreases do not produce enough insulin, there are those whose eyes do not produce enough tears, there are people whose bone marrow doew not produce enough white blood cells, people whose stomachs who do not produce enough bile, even peoples mouths that do not produce enough saliva…

    so why is it so hard to believe that just like every other process in the human body that can be faulty, that many women have breasts that cannot produce enough milk?

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