This split story just won’t die! I’m kind of glad – it’s really juicy. So the morning after everyone confirmed that David Arquette and Courteney Cox were separated, and had been separated for months, David called into Howard Stern’s show for a long, candid conversation (recap here). The conversation included David’s admission that he had slept with Jasmine Waltz, that he and Courteney hadn’t slept together in months, and that Courteney was tired of “mothering” him. I disagreed with some commenters who claimed that this was all just evidence of David’s immaturity – I admired (and still admire) his instinct for honesty, and it struck me that he was falling on his sword and attempting to deflect from the rumors that Courteney was cheating on him with her costar, Brian Van Holt. David came out as the bad guy to many – and Courteney gets to be the beleaguered wife who has put up with his sh-t for years. It was too neat for my tastes, but I gave David an “A” for effort. Anyway, David took to his Twitter to apologize for his candid remarks with Stern:
Thank you all for your Love and support at this time. I’m trying figuring out how to be the best person I can be but it’s been a process of trial and error. I went on Howard Stern yesterday to provide clarity and honesty about what I’m experiencing but while doing that I shared too much…it’s alright for me to be honest about my own feelings but in retrospect some of the information I provided involved others and for that I am sorry and humbled..Life is a process of spiritual evolution. I’m sure Courteney and myself will emerge from this painful time better people for what we’ve learned.
[From David Arquette’s Twitter]
So he apologized for his overshare, but reiterated that he was coming from a place of honesty. Did Courteney read him the riot act? According to TMZ’s sources, no, she didn’t. They claim that she knew he was going on Stern, and that she approved:
Courteney Cox knew exactly what David Arquette was going to say to Howard Stern Tuesday, right down to the comment about having sex with another woman.
Sources in a position to know tell TMZ … David and Courteney talked before David made his appearance on Howard’s radio show, and she was “fine” with what David would say.
[From TMZ]
Of course she was just fine with it! She came out looking like a beleaguered wife whose estranged husband would rather admit his own indiscretions rather than face the possibility that the mother of his child had been screwing some jumpoff side-piece co-worker! Ugh.
UPDATE: Radar is reporting that Courteney is definitely “in love” with Brian Van Holt. Says a source: “Courteney doesn’t believe she was cheating on David because they had been leading separate lives for some time. But she is smitten and in love with this man, almost besotted… he seems to be providing something that David didn’t during the marriage. They’ve been secretly dating for some time, and now the split with David is official, time will tell if the relationship may well get even more serious.” This is what I believe. I think Courteney wanted someone else, and she destroyed her marriage to get laid.
Beyond the concerns I have about Courteney and her jumpoff, and David’s immaturity, and the bullsh-t fertility issue beings raised, not to mention the presence of two harbingers of doom, Laura Dern and Jennifer Aniston… well, I have another question: could you live day after day with a woman who was doing this crap to her face? At some point, that’s a deal breaker, right?
Photos courtesy of WENN.
The Scream 4 premiere is gonna be hella awkward. This really hasn’t held my attention, they were a cute couple while they were together and in the Scream movies but their relationship was getting forced…they weren’t having fun anymore. They were having to work at it and I mean really work. No body wants a relationship thats a full time job.
LOL and what I mean by that is I think they had to find reasons to be together, they had to talk to each other, they had to have a date night, they had to go counseling. In a relationship you don’t need a reason to be together other than I love this person madly, you should want to talk, want to have date night, and not ever need counseling. Want VS Had, I pick want. Love should be wanting to please and be with the other person.
Why are you all over her in this? He chose to go on Stern, he chose to bang a waitress, he chose to apologise, he chose to be an immature jerk. Why are you attempting to make her out to be the bad guy?
I am going to have to say that he deserves a medal for having put up with her. It is not a secret that she is a complete pill to deal with.
David has always came off as a decent man who was trying hard to do the right thing. And she probably was a good influence on him in the beginning, when he needed some one to keep him on a positive path.
But has anyone else ever notice all those Arquette kids are a little nutty? It was not just David with the bizarre behavior.
Makes me wonder about what kind of influences they all had growing up in the same house together.
I think I’ll just keep Courtney Cox in the same place I keep Jennifer Anniston- Monica and Rachel forever. Neither has done anything worthwhile since and their personal lives are kind of sad.
There’s something very strange in the fact that he is apologizing so much and so carefully. Almost saying that it’s all his fault and not hers.
@Raven Sparrow, I agree, He is taking all the blame. Its weird, dont know many men that would do this.
LOL, Jennifer Aniston’s grip to Courtney is more husband-like than the one of David with Courtney.
Hey guys maybe it’s MUTUAL? I believe that sometimes people just gradually grow apart. Why does there always have to be a villain? I think sometimes you find something in someone else that you’re missing in your current relationship and sometimes that is the catalyst that ends things. That’s why I’m not married though. I am looking for EVERYTHING. Might be waiting a long time! 🙂
Anyway, I DO admire his honesty and I do think he seems like a sweet guy but I stand by the fact that he seems like he would be a pain in the ass.
She was 40 and wanted a kid very badly/ found a man who she thought would made a great dad/discovered he might be a great dad, but also a pain in the ass/worked on her relationship in vain/ decided to move on. Sad, but i don’t see anything unusual or shocking. Kaiser, don’t you have any girl friend in the same situation? Do you really have to write things like : “she destroyed her marriage to get laid” ?!!
That update confirms my suspicions. She is really manipulative and I think it is going to take David a while to figuire out how badly he’s been played(along with all the minivans).
Hmmm They lead such low key and unified lives, what with working on a reality show together and having daughter to raise. I mean it really wasn’t until this year anyone even detected anything was wrong. I think THEY GREW APART around the same times, they tried couples counseling and crap and it just didn’t work. People break up and grow part. David has always over shared, thats not the first time he has opened up to Howard Stern of all people. Blaming Courtney doesn’t seem fair because to me she put a lot of work into that relationship.
I am Team Courteney. Imagine you are a woman who has the brains and the drive to achieve great success on your own. You have your own money, you own your home, you have learned to be a good business woman, you can buy whatever you want and go wherever you want to go. And, all you want is a great guy to share everything with only to find that the man you are with (who should feel lucky to be with you) in the end makes the people you know (in her case the world) think you are anal, difficult and don’t like sex. I agree that Courteney checked out of this gig on an emotional level a while ago, but I don’t blame her. What I hear D.A. saying is that he just thinks life is all about being whacky and having fun, being immature and sharing too much about things rather than just growing the eff up and realizing how lucky he is to be with her rather than someone like Lindsey Lohan. He sounded like a 10-grader in that interview with Howard Stern. Where is the sympathy for Courteney for having to listen to THAT for 11 years? She had created a STABLE life for herself before she ever met him…and she gave him the chance to be a part of it.
I do agree that you shouldn’t have to try that hard to make a relationship work…
I’m with you Kitten, it sounds mutual and I don’t know why there’s a need to paint someone as a villain.
She does seem uptight and he does seem wacky – but they knew that about each other going in, and made it work for over a decade in Hollywood. Sometimes things just don’t work out.
Glad he realized he over shared – honesty is great, but so is respecting the privacy of your family.
They are both responsible for their own mistake in their marriage. They share a common responsability in the demise of their marriage. He is immature and she is an idiot for chosing to stay so many years with an immature man as a husband thinking he would change.
If they stayed together so many years it is because they had that balance and she found it easier and more comfortable to have a man-child to control and lead and manipulate and him a woman-mother to be controlled and led with.
She should have known better…they both should have.
Now they will both get on with their life and the man-child will probably, ultimately settle down with a woman half Courtney’s age and have other children.
I agree that no one is at fault in a marraige but PR wise she is manipulating this situation to make Dave look like the jerk. There have been rumors (often denied) about her and her co star since the spring. Dave went as far as denying the reports to People, now that most of the public has forgotten that story Dave gets caught with some bimbo and now the separation gets announced and the story in the major media is about Dave betraying Courtney??? She (along with her PR people) are playing this to look like a victim and its working.
I don’t think she should be faulted for being smarter than he is. I agree that honesty is great, but NOT on a friggin radio program, dude! Why else would he have done that, if not to gain sympathy? But only she is seen as manipulative. Must be nice to be a dude.
Hey Kaiser why the hate on for Courtney? I’m with @Rose – dude is a child who told everyone that he slept with a 20-something fame whore. Somewhat humiliating, no? And if she is banging Brian Holt (yum) at least she isn’t going on the radio and bragging about her “conquest”.
@Love Angelina, I TOTALLY disagree that couples should “never” need counseling. Even couples who are in love experience major life changes and setbacks (unemployment, infertility/miscarriage/other child-related issues, serious illness, grief related to death of a loved one…), and couples benefit from having a skilled counselor helping them work through the issues.
Yea Kelly I can see the need counseling for those traumatic situations in a relationship. I just don’t know about if they grew part or out of love kinda situations if a 3rd party can really help in that way and maybe they can.
I’m with the folks who are wondering where all the hate for Courtney came from. I honestly don’t have a dog in this fight, but it seems a little intense to be making all of these assumptions about her based on rumors and his public actions.
I think counselors can help each person figure out what’s most important to him/her, and based on that, whether the relationship is still viable. People change considerably as they age, and sometimes people end up out of sync… It’s obvious that this is what happened with Courteney and David – the age difference, differences in how they want to spend their time, differences in social groups… David seems like he feels like he missed out on a lot of partying, banging cocktail waitresses, etc., while Courteney is more of a homebody. Seems like those issues were irreconcilable for them.
Courtny seems like a twat who instead of dating younger ‘pieces’, should go for someone who is 20 years older than her if she really wants a ‘mature’ relationship. Why hasent anyone offered this piece of advice for her? Doesn’t this twat have any friends? All I get from this dissection is she’s a pill and needs to stop going after younger ‘boys’ like it validates her belief she’s still a hot twentysomething.
It sounds like they were both drifting apart and found a little on the side. I don’t think there is a good guy and a bad guy here.
Ah well, bring on the super awkward Scream 4 promotions! LOL
He seems to be too sweet and honest of a guy for hollywood. Hollywood seems to eat people like that for dinner. That being said, he does seem a little like a man child. Poor guy, he seems very lost and confused. There are always two sides though and it is easy to hate one.
He seems like a great guy, most of his family seem down to earth even though they all (or most) are in the acting business.
Not sure what to think about Courtney, Always liked her but am kinda confused now.
She seems like a total puke. Punk-Rock-Points to him for putting up with her for so long- she seems like she wouldn’t be ANY fun. Fun might make her face crack.
I agree–why all the Courtney hate?
I think they’re both to blame for the split, and I think they’ve both done some things I dislike.
He was a huge doofus and went on air and make this all play out publicly. Very classless, regardless of his intent or whether she was OK with it or not.
Just like it was classless of her to have her husband escort her to the Globes show (and he held an umbrella over her on the red carpet) and then she draped herself all over her costar with a ridiculously smug look on her face.
They have a kid, and few short years little Coco is going to see how poorly her parents handled their breakup.
This is turning into another ‘Aniston vs Pitt’ situation again by the looks of it. Yep, CC has definitely borrowed some ideas from JA’s play book. (Yes, I went there 😆 )
I don’t hate her, but it does seem a little too polished or something. Team Kaiser. lol
are you nuts? she looks great. she used to have no upper lip and managed to acquire a lip with no dreaded duck lip action. she looks pretty.