Giada De Laurentiis: Your husband will cheat if you don’t treat him like a king


Star chef Giada De Laurentiis is the cover girl for the February issue of Redbook, and she’s talking up gender roles. Now, Giada comes from a huge Italian family, and I think that her idea of “traditional” is a little bit skewed, in general, but I’m not hating on her for it. Feminism means every woman gets to choose what’s right for her. And Giada’s choice is to never “upstage” her husband, and never reminding him that she’s anything other than his wife and mother to their daughter:

Is a woman’s place really in the kitchen? Yes – in a manner of speaking, anyway, says feisty TV chef Giada De Laurentiis.

“I think it can be hard for any man to sometimes be upstaged by his wife,” she explains in the February issue of Redbook. “So when I’m home, I work very hard to be Todd’s wife and Jade’s mother. I have no problem going back to those traditional roles.”

The star of Giada at Home, 40, is married to Todd Thompson and mom to Jade, who turns 3 in March. She adds that it helps in the romance department to put the focus on her husband.

“I try to be Giada, the young girl that he met 20 years ago and fell in love with,” she says. “All men want to be treated like kings in a relationship, and I think if women don’t indulge that sometimes, their men are likely to stray and look for someone who can give that to them.”

De Laurentiis also tackles past rumors that she cheated on Thompson with notorious lothario John Mayer one weekend when both were staying at the same hotel in New York – along with her husband.

“The John Mayer incident was completely unexpected,” she says. “I was shocked. And not so much for me, but for my husband and family … Todd was embarrassed that his family in Michigan would see it and think, ‘What is going on over there in Hollywood?’ ”

Adding that she hasn’t had any contact in years and barely knows Mayer, she says, “Maybe we chatted for five minutes, but I wouldn’t consider that intimate.”

De Laurentiis also talks about the importance of food in her life, and makes no bones about her favorite restaurant. “Uh, my house,” she says. “It’s more intimate. Food can connect people in a forever sort of way.”

[From People]

Must. Not. Judge. UGGGHHH. Really, Giada? “All men want to be treated like kings in a relationship, and I think if women don’t indulge that sometimes, their men are likely to stray and look for someone who can give that to them.” Thank you, Mamie Eisenhower. All you have to do to keep your man happy is act completely subservient to his fragile little ego? And if you ever put your own needs or your own career ahead of your husband’s, you’re basically giving him permission to find subservience somewhere else? Suck it, Giada.


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  1. Rita says:

    Great write up Kaiser and I would like to add this.

    Make him always feel like he’s your hero and he should always make you feel like he is fortunate to be with a beautiful woman.

    Works in my house, even if I have to clean pee-crusties off the toilet seat from time to time.

  2. liz says:

    Isn’t she known for cheating on her own all over Hollywood like a little cooking, whoring tramp? whatever. we shouldn’t worry about our men cheating as if if they do, then we must have done something wrong. ugh. despicable woman.

    • Big johnson says:

      Giada seems happy, successful, and a hard worker. Being happily married is a tough job, and certainly a dynamic relationship, which needs love and care, to stay healthy. all you haters crack me up… I’m not a woman, but she must be easy to hate, most of you are not in her shoes, a tv show, books, happily married, gorgeous woman. Lol, it’s doubtful she surf sites like this, worried about what you think.

  3. flourupot says:

    I dislike everything she said. What the hell does gender have to do with anything at all? It’s thinking like this that will set us back. What a dumbass.

  4. Roma says:

    I thought Giada was known to step out on her husband?

  5. samihami says:

    A man who would cheat is not a worthy man.

  6. trollydolly says:

    Well a husband probably will cheat if he is treated badly. Women who relentlessly nag their husbands and belittle them and withhold sex drive their husbands into the arms of other women.

  7. bubbles says:

    your husband will cheat for sure if you have a face like hers. WTF is up with that beak?

  8. tiki says:

    i don’t agree with her, but this is her choice and her opinion. as a long-time feminist (my credentials stretch back to the 70′s), i strive to be consistent in my support of a woman’s right to choose her own life. i wouldn’t live this woman’s life nor do i share her opinions about what a man needs, but she has the absolute right to choose her own destiny and to talk about it.

  9. emine says:

    lol@bublles i couldnt have said it better myself

  10. PrettyTarheel says:

    I don’t have a problem with what she said as it applies to her life-it works for her. She’s comfortable shedding her “public” persona and being a wife-what’s wrong with it? Speaking generally, and not for every man and woman, men need love in the form of respect, women need respect in the form of love, and the cycle can grow a harmonious house. If she’s happy-then so what?

    That being said, supposedly she’s skanked around with Matt Leinart, who I can’t stand because a) he went to USC and played under Pete Carroll b) he ruined his g/fs senior year by knocking her up and then running around with Paris Hilton and c) he sucked at Arizona and isn’t fit to carry the jock of Roethlisberger, Manning, Brady, Werner, Sanchez, Ryan, Flacco, Brees, etc.

  11. eva says:

    @tiki, I totally agree…. and further more it’s good she married him. This removes him from the pool of prospects for the rest of world hoping for a more progressive mate.

  12. Bee says:

    She would be a great match for Jake “Don’t undermind me” Pavelka.

  13. Ally says:

    Either spouse treating the other in a degrading manner is poison for a marriage. That would include deriding as insignificant the work your stay-at-home wife does, for instance, or mocking your husband in a way that embarasses him in front of his friends.

    What I don’t like in her statement is the idea that women should degrade themselves for a marriage to work. That’s offensive. I’m really tired of women constantly being asked to give something up to make things work.

    If BOTH partners try to be humble, respectful and kind to each other most of the time, there is no problem in sustaining a marriage.

  14. Marjalane says:

    LOVE that last picture in the white sweater! Giant headed Giada sounds like she’s working a little damage control on the husband front….there has been way too much information out there from various sources that make me believe the worst of her. Which I wanted to do anyway because she irritates the shit out of me with her over e-nun-ci-a-tion, and her (aforementioned) GIANT head!

  15. KLO says:

    The hungry always talk about the bread. I don’t think she really practices what she preaches.

  16. womanfromthenorth says:

    I treat my Father like a KING. He was in WWII and Korea and worked hard all his life.

    My Husband worked hard all his life but treats me like crap most of the time. So he gets what he sows.

  17. luciana says:

    SO TRUE!
    can’t be an effort,needs to be real. It’s a matter of reverence, for life, and for the ones you admire. Reverence is not submission and it can’t be contrived. When you looooooove men it’s easy to treat them like kings.
    Thing is, with our hectic lives sometimes it’s something we have to remind ourselves to do – and it feels good when we do! Now, if u don’t like the man u r with enough to revere,what r u doing with him in the first place?

  18. Stronzilla says:

    And you must never, ever change. If you have children you better get that body back in shape ASAP and make sure those brats don’t disturb hubby after he has a long, hard day. Never be tired, or unhappy, or crabby. And God forbid you age and show it. That’s another surefire way to drive him into the arms of another woman. And while you’re doing all this make piles and piles of money and give it all to him. Don’t keep any for yourself, then he would think you don’t trust him. And if you do all this then he’ll be so satisfied that you can go out and bone all the disgusting douchebags you want and he’ll never, ever know.

  19. LOVE ANGELINA says:

    Well Giada said indulge that sometimes…she didn’t say “I treat my man like a king all the time.” LOL. Why all the dislike her for her? She is so delightful. Love her cooking shows.

  20. brin says:

    Someone please tell Giada we are no longer in June Cleaver times.

  21. anon33 says:

    I’d rather be alone than subscribe to that bullsh8t.

  22. teehee says:

    Ugh. No woman is responsible for a mans ego. He needs to deflate it for his own good, and once he does, he will be happier and so will every one else around him, because in reality he is NOT a king and no one will treat him like one all the time and therefore, he will also not ‘need to cheat’ to fulfill this ridiculous ego fabrication. Yes, welcome to real life, homeboy, your not king and you will never be. Guess what, Im not the queen, and Im happy anyway, and Im not cheating, too.
    So you aint got no excuse.
    Men just need to be loved for who and what THEY ARE, not treated like someone and somethign they are not. IMO that only increases their fragility and insecurity as well as encourages them to think foolishly. You dont have to be superman or king or whatever to be respected, admired, and adored. When someone loves you it’ll make you feel those things, though. So it works the otehr way around. Be you and let people love you for the peasant you are, and then you will feel like a king.

  23. malachais says:

    Giada, my career is ahead of my husband’s and guess what? He’s an egomaniac but still supports my goals and achievements 100%. Sucks to be you.

    I doubt she made that comment without it applying to her life. I also find it odd that she would make a remark right after the tabs released a story about her cheating.

  24. Megan says:

    Awesome writing, Kaiser! I love that you articulated my exact thoughts ;)

  25. Reality says:

    How is “indulging him a little” because a man likes to feel like a king the same as acting “completely subservient to his fragile little ego”? I don’t think she’s suggesting we all get lobotomized and do nothing but bake cookies while barefoot and pregnant all the time.

    I agree with Tiki, if that works for her, fine. If she wants to make being a good wife (and mother) her number one priority like a 50s housewife, I may not agree, but I’m not going to rag on her for it.

    I’m much more of a “treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen” girl myself…

  26. I Choose Me says:

    Why does her smile always looks like a grimace? I want to like her. I’ve tried to like her but she pings hard on my bitch-o-meter. Oh and I’ll treat my husband like a king if he treats me like his queen. It must be mutual. Also, I know several women who treated their man like a king and he STILL cheated. If a man cheats it’s likely a character flaw and no ‘how to keep your man’ advice is gonna change that.

  27. Jill says:

    What’s wrong with treating your husband like a king? Geez, I thought love was sacrificing, not self-serving. If she feels like a queen then good on her for sharing royal titles with her husband instead of expecting him to treat her like the rest of the sycophants in Hollywood probably do! I would rather my huband and I royally suck up to each other rather than royally suck as a couple.

  28. Jayna says:

    I agree with her in one respect. Once you get very familiar in a relationship and you see flaws in your husband and they’re not as smart or as strong as you thought, there can be a tendency in fights to emasculate them. It helps to really keep that level of respect and give that feeling to him that you look up to him and still flirt with your husband. I say you have to be a girlfriend sometimes, not just mommy and wife to your mate.

    But having said all of that, she’s leaving out an important component. If your husband either doesn’t pay attention to you anymore or is highly critical or is an alcoholic, on and on, kind of hard to make them feel like a king and want to jump in bed with them all lovey-dovey. It works both ways. A woman needs to feel important and special in a relationship to want to make her husband feel like a king.

    And men do cheat on doting wives.

  29. Mia135 says:


    Oh my God, I am NEVER getting married!

  30. Delta Juliet says:

    All I can say is “ugh” and “wtf”

    I’m with #16 you reap what you sow. I’m not going to kiss anyone’s butt and threat them like a king. You treat me like a PERSON and I will treat you the same way. To expect more is ridiculous.

  31. guesty says:

    major eye roll to this chick. gawwwd. lol @ kaiser.

  32. sharylmj says:

    It has to go both ways in any relationship or eventually it fails. I bet she gets treated like a queen a lot of the times, and she treats him the same.

  33. normades says:

    The blinds say she’s banging Matt Leinart and doucheking John Mayer. Just saying…

  34. rubenesque says:

    Waiting for the divorce announcement in 3…2…1…
    Every time a “celebrity” starts going on about how they treat their man so well it seems to be followed by the marriage implosion. I offer into evidence the Sarah Evans, “Women, you have a responsibility to your men.” Her drivel about never turning them down for sexy-times & keeping yourself looking good for him. Evidently they can develop a third trimester beer gut and that’s fine? This was, of course, followed by the announcement that her husband was surfing for sex on Craigslist & an ugly divorce. Me thinks Giada doth protest too much. Hell, I’ve been married for 12 years & together for 20 (we met in college). I’d NEVER presume to give marriage advice!

  35. maria says:

    Ugly on the inside. Obnoxious bobblehead skank.

  36. Emily says:

    Let’s be honest, despite what her massive, massive head would lead you to believe, she has never seemed like the sharpest tack in the box.

  37. dread pirate cuervo says:

    I can see what she’s saying, even if I wouldn’t have said it’s a recipe for a cheat-free relationship. See what I did there? No-one likes being taken for granted. Every weekend, I make coffee (which I don’t drink) for my fiance. I don’t make him get up if he wants another cup, I go get it for him. Subservient? Who cares? I don’t mind & he seems to like it. You know how many times I’ve had to dig my car out of the snow since we’ve been together? Zero. I treat him the way I want to be treated & so far, it seems to work both ways.

  38. Ginevra says:

    It’s okay, don’t stifle your urge to judge! I could not stop the eye rolling when I first read it. She is entitled to her own definition of feminism, for sure — but perpetuating the idea that it is acceptable for men to stray when you are not stroking their ego is just wrong.

    Of course it is important to uplift and support your partner in any relationship, but the way she phrased it — ugh.

  39. jc126 says:

    The timing is very suspect, to be sure. She might be just meaning “treat him very well” and wording it very poorly.

  40. Lady D says:

    I’m also a very strong believer in treating people the way you want to be treated.

  41. koala says:

    i hate this woman. she is a snob and a dimwit if she thinks we can’t see through her bobble-headed ruse.

  42. Attagirl says:

    She gets on my last nerve. Her cooking is meh. My 88 year old mother once asked “Why does she have her boobs hanging out all the time???” I told her it was because she’s hardly a stellar chef so she has to sell herself some other way.

  43. icantbelievethis says:

    Umm, okay. People cheat b/c there is something wrong in them, not b/c of the other spouse. You can ‘make’ your spouse cheat and lots of men cheat on women who given up their career to SAH and take care of the house and kids.

    I am lucky b/c my DH loves that I am ambitious and he brags to his friends about my success. I brag about his too.

    I don’t clean up pee-crusties, LOL. We have a deal, I clean up girl messes and he deals with the boys messes. We split kid stuff as 50/50 as possible.

  44. Cheyenne says:

    So does this work both ways? I mean, is a woman justified in cheating if her man doesn’t treat her like a queen? Or is this more of the same old double-standard bullshit?

  45. Linda says:

    To the caption of this article, fat chance!! If you’re real nice to your man, maybe he won’t disrespect you? Doesn’t she see the flaw in that theory? I mean, is that an Italian thing??? Does she have a brain?

  46. sickofit says:

    @rita: this is why he must sit. I think the secret to a good marriage is real love and loyality, respect and patience on both sides and a deep and true friendship.
    But nothing of the sh*t she preaches.

  47. lynn says:

    @sickofit i couldn’t agree more. i have a friend who adores her husband and she recently discovered he was cheating on her. had nothing to do with how she treated him. i believe to be a cheater, you are just a selfish, narcissistic individual who cannot communicate. respect yourslef, respect your spouse and make sure you pick an emotionally healthy partner who would not resort to cheating if you didn’t wait on him hand and foot.

  48. JenJen says:

    Bullshit,my best friend has always been like that with her husband and he is usually threating to leave her,or he does and has flings. Men don’t respect a woman that is a doormat. Men respect women that respect themselves.

  49. eternalcanadian says:

    Giada is right. Always tell your man you appreciate and love him. Never take each other for granted. Marriage is a job 24/7/365.

    Gary Neuman’s book hit it on the nail why men cheat and it has nothing to do with women degrading themselves or being subserviant.

    It’s all about communication, respect, appreciation, and acknowledgement of his ablities. Remember who he works with–the young intern who fawns over him and thinks he hung the moon or the older boss who looks like Bea Arthur and says “well done, here’s a raise/promotion”–that’s the kind of attention he wants.

    It also wouldn’t hurt to workout and eat right (even Michelle Duggar with 19 kids looks pretty good) and stop schlepping around in sloppy clothes, untidy hair, and oily skin. Look good for yourself and for your man because men are visual people and if you let yourself go that’s just opening the door to cheaterdom.

    Have date nights, and yes, schedule sex on the calendar. Busy lives mean things fall on the wayside. Especially if the woman has a better or more demanding job than the man. Also, taking control of the way things are done at home–not appreciating anything he does. Like “you didn’t dress the kids right” or “why is the garbage still here” or “how could you forget the milk, it was on the list!” Appreciate that he tried. That sort of thing. I think that is what Giada is trying to say here. Not that we’re supposed to go back to June Cleaver days, but to compromise, be respectful of each other (and to respect and love yourself too!) and make an effort to work at the marriage.

    So you go Giada, treat your man like a king and he will treat you like a queen! :)

  50. Xx says:

    I have to agree with you on this one Kaiser. If your man is inclined to cheat, he’s going to and no amount of ass kissing, coddeling or laying down like a door mat is going to change it. You have to do the best you can and treat him with respect and dignity and the rest is up to fate and circumstance.

  51. Anti-icon says:

    The fragile male ego — is no different that the fragile female ego, Giada. I don’t believe that she has been faithful all those wedded years; and therefore, any advice she dishes out is suspect to me.

  52. hairball says:

    “All you have to do to keep your man happy is act completely subservient to his fragile little ego?”

    If that is the case (Giada), then your husband is really a little mama’s boy with very little self-worth.

    “Well a husband probably will cheat if he is treated badly. Women who relentlessly nag their husbands and belittle them and withhold sex drive their husbands into the arms of other women.”

    If a guy feels he is being treated badly, then he should be an adult and talk to his wife about it. If he is still unhappy, then he can divorce.

    Blaming the person who was cheated on is pretty pathetic and simpleton thinking. Cheating has everything to do with the cheater – period.

  53. Bodhi says:

    If your husband is going to cheat on you, treating him like a king isn’t going to stop him. Guys who cheat are too chicken shit to talk to their spouses about their problems.

    IMO a happy marriage is based on love & mutual respect.

    Edit: If your husband leaves you because you haven’t lost the baby weight or you are too tired to shower & do your hair, you are better off without his shallow ass

  54. Grace says:

    @rubenesque: I was thinking the same thing. That Sara Evans article was nauseating. If I recall correctly, she also went on to say that divorce was almost always the fault of the woman for nagging their husbands.

  55. hairball says:

    Giada’s comment just irks the crap out of me, I have to comment again.

    My husband is from a small town in Wisconsin and basically we moved across country because he couldn’t get far enough away from the loser town.

    My mother-in-law, his aunt, every woman in that area is her husband’s servant. The guy sits down and eats what wifey made for him and then he walks the f*ck away while she cleans up. Doesn’t even pick his effing plate up.

    His aunt is retired and the husband gets up at 5 a.m. and expects her to make breakfast for him. You know what breakfast for my husband would be at 5:00 a.m.? A rock thrown through a window.

    They treat their loser husbands like ‘kings’ and guess what? Their husbands treat them like the doormats they are and are complete *ssholes to their wives, barely acknowledging them.

    Giada, you are such a loser. And fyi Giada, it’s called a grimace, not a smile.

  56. 4Real says:

    Well its official…I now can’t stand her. Funny I think making tabloid news as an alleged adulterer is considered being “treated badly” so she’s just preparing herself for the inevitable. Men with “fragile egos” can never handle such rumors.

  57. anti says:

    every time i see her name “Giada”, i think of “giardia”…

  58. Leticia says:

    I see a physical resemblance to Natalie Portman. Both are super short women with huge bobble heads.

    There is some truth to what Giada said, although it is not fun to hear.

  59. Cheyenne says:

    Cheaters — men and women — are narcissists who cheat because it’s fun and they can get away with it.

  60. MissyA says:

    I don’t mind the lovey-dovey coddling message, as long as it’s implied that you get coddled in return.

    The part that I take issue with is that this bobble-head really expects her “adoring fans” to take her opinions on love and fidelity seriously. Homegirl has been spreading her buttah all over Hollywood, and now that her chickens are coming home to roost she wants to play Suzy Homemaker?

    Maybe she can fool her target audience into bankrolling those recipe books, but those of us with a high school education can see right through it.

  61. C-DUB says:

    She’s old school and I get what she’s saying. If it works for and her relationship, then it really doesn’t matter what everyone else has to say.

  62. original kate says:

    dear giada,

    a real man would never be threatened by his woman “upstaging” him; a real man would be proud of his woman’s success and perhaps brag to friends and family about her. sounds like your husband is a douchenozzle. sorry.

    secure men all over america

  63. The Bobster says:

    “All men want to be treated like kings in a relationship, and I think if women don’t indulge that sometimes, their men are likely to stray and look for someone who can give that to them.”

    Every word she spoke is true. Ignore them at your own peril. The self-centered feminists who recoil at them are the reason why society is in the shape it’s in today.

  64. bluhare says:

    What a bleeding hypocrite. She’s all over the blind websites for messing around (including one with John Meyer), and one site even outed her as messing with some NFL dude.

    So if they outed her, they’re willing to get sued on it. Innerestin.

    And her name makes me think of intestinal parasites.

  65. melinda says:

    Rita- I couldn’t have said it any better!

  66. JustBe says:

    IMHO, women who subscribe to this line of thinking are doing their best to control an uncontrollable situation.

    If I make sure I’m pretty (with exercise, hair salon trips, makeup, botox) and cook/clean and don’t nag/talk and be available for sex whenever/wherever, etc., etc., then I know that he won’t cheat.

    It’s scary to admit that you don’t have any control over someone who has so much influence over your happiness. But, accepting the truth, that if you demand the love/respect/honesty you want/deserve and treat your partner how you want to be treated, the man’s only option is to behave like an adult in an adult relationship or devolve into a douche and lie/cheat, etc. You only have control over your actions and your reactions to a situation. Nothing more.

    Love truthfully and openly with all of your heart, expect to be loved completely and respected. If the love/respect isn’t there, deal with it honestly. But, always be self-aware of what’s going on around you and honest enough with yourself to assess/leave if necessary.

  67. DB says:

    She is telling the truth. That’s why there are so many divorces now. Women don’t know how to be wives and men don’t know how to be husbands. Women’s liberation is a destructive concept.

  68. daisyfly says:


    A husband will cheat if he wants to cheat. It doesn’t matter WHAT you do. If you think treating him like a prince, a king, a God is going to guarantee you nothing but fidelity and love, I’ve got some ruby slippers to sell ya.

  69. Kim says:

    Sounds like Damage control on Giadas part.

  70. Andria says:

    Thankfully I’m not attracted to men who are threatened by strong women. Doing nice things for each other is one thing, but simpering about because a “young intern” (gag) might be making googly eyes at your partner is not my thing. I’m not married to a guy who needs me to pretend I’m less than I am. If I were – and he left me – good riddance. I’d respect my husband much less than I do if he needed me to play dumb.

  71. hairball says:

    @JustBe: Well said. Totally agree.

    A wife who does everything for the house and kids, remembering details for everything in their lives (including remembering in-laws bdays etc) and does it thinking it’s her job to be a good wife, I have found (from listening to their own complaints) is very, very unhappy, over-whelmed, low self-esteem, and feels trapped.

    Oh and the guy doesn’t treat them any better.

    Expect respect and love from both sides or don’t call it a marriage. Call it a free housekeeper/servant.

  72. Stephy2585 says:

    @Ally..I appreciate your perspective…Each partner needs to make an effort for the other. It isnt about a woman doing behind-the-scenes running to make a marriage work and function like it should..

    @DB…I considered not even bothering to engage with your comment because I fear it might be what is commonly known as “trolling”, but in case you’re serious…Women’s liberation as a destructive concept?? Seriously?!? Before such a concept was invoked women were literally dying in empty marriages and children were raised in homes without love.
    Divorce may be on the rise these days but I applaud a person who realizes life is too short to remain in a union if there isn’t any love.

  73. Isa says:

    “Feminism means every woman gets to choose what’s right for her.”
    I love that.

    Anyway, her comments are very one sided. She doesn’t talk about what he does to make her happy in the marriage. Which makes me wonder…
    But then again, maybe she gets her happiness in thinking that her husband is at home not straying while she’s out sleeping with other celebrities.

    I think the comments about treating your husband like a king were perfect in distracting from what seems like an oddly worded denial to me.

    She has old woman features.

  74. Cakes says:

    I disagree with Giada. My friend treated her man like a king, gave him everything he wanted, cooked, cleaned, raised the kids AND went to school full time. He has emotionally abused her to the point where she feels like its acceptable to let him have a girlfriend just to keep him happy. Its disgusting!!!
    If a man is going to be a cheating scumbag then thats his choice. Theres not much you can do to stop or prevent him from doing it. If Mr. Cakes ever cheated on me I would leave him. I couldnt forgive that and I know he wouldnt forgive me if I cheated. I tell him that if he wants to leave me for a piece of ass, go ahead! But he would be stupid; a good woman and a good home is more fulfilling than any one night stand you could ever have.

  75. Mshuffleupagus says:

    I’m sorry, no one named Todd deserves to be treated like a king.

    In all seriousness Giada is such a bitch. I hate it when women try to mask their fear about their husbands cheating on them by saying any man will cheat if you don’t treat them like they’re superior. If you’re worried about your husband cheating on you, he’s going to cheat on you, whether or not you act like he’s better than you.

    And that sh*t about how she tries to act like the “young girl he met 20 years ago”?? what the hell? I’m pretty sure a man that truly loves you will look forward to watching the woman you grow into, not wish you were still a young girl. Ass.

  76. Judy says:

    Can’t stand this phony bitch, her ever-present boobage, or her rectangular smile. Blech!

  77. original kate says:

    “Women’s liberation is a destructive concept.”

    exactly how are concepts like the right to vote, equal pay for equal work, restraining orders against abusive husbands, being able to serve on juries, to own land, to go to college, to not be sexually harassed at work, and to have access to birth control destructive?

    and also, what century are you living in?

  78. Westcoaster says:

    Maybe we are all reading this the wrong way. When you read between the lines it comes across like Giada’s husband caught her cheating and now she is being all “adoring wife” because he threatened to divorce her and spill all her dirty secrets.
    Her whole televison persona is happy wife and mother. What would it do to her career if her husband came out and told the world she is a lying cheating tramp?

  79. Liana says:

    to paraphrase my friend Pete: “Girl was born with a full set of shark teeth.”

    You should treat each other with respect. JP’s the king of my world and I am the queen of his (well, I gladly share that role with the princess, his daughter). We do nice things for each other all the time and every Tuesday night is date night, even if we’re on opposite ends of the world – we’ll skype our date!

  80. RHONYC says:

    @ rita

    @ eternalcanadian

    ditto. :-)

    as an independent woman who is the opposite of a doormat, i don’t think there is anything wrong with treating your mate special and not for granted. it certainly can’t hurt matters.

    if you don’t cherish your significant other, then what the hell is the point of being together? :-(


  81. charmed says:

    kaiser, i love you but you disappoint me on this one. Being a feminist myself, I feel that the ‘feminist’ message you convey in this post somewhat callow.

    obviously, marriage is about reciprocity. you ought to treat your man like a king, if you want to be treated like a queen. and if that kind of mutual generosity does not exist in the relationship, then sadly the two souls are not compatible for marriage.

    i don’t think giada is saying she loves being ‘subservient’ to her husband. isn’t she simply saying that she loves making her husband happy (and knows how to)? she is a successful woman on her own, and perhaps she feels a desire to maintain a sense of ‘femininity’ in her role as a wife to balance out her marital relationship, since such a relationship is always a work-in-progress. regardless, a healthy, loving relationship transcends any such power struggles.

    i am pretty saddened by the utter carelessness and selfishness that the notion of ‘feminism’ gets tossed around in contemporary America. perhaps it is because America is too deluded with the desire for ‘power’, that a lot of women confuse feminism with a sense of unwarranted entitlement to be selfish and uncompromising.

    so what is feminism? it is having the self-awareness of your true individual power, as woman, as a human being, as the culmination of everything that has made you who you are, AND harnessing this power to bring positive changes your life and your world. that, my friend, is true empowerment. it has no gender labels.

    to think of the special gifts that the universe has granted specifically to women (most fundamentally our ability to bring life — which in the grand scheme of things directly connects us to most divine process of all….creation, both physically and metaphorically) should not and does not undermine our need for social and political acceptance. but i think it’s wrong to downplay or reject such aspects (‘gifts’) merely to align ourselves with inherently masculine inclinations such as [social status, power, wealth, etc] because they are, fundamentally, what makes us who we are.

    that being said, men and women are above all inherently interdependent, we need each other, and we’ve got to take care of each other. if you want to be an empowered woman, know yourself well and love whoever that is. it’s then that you find true love, the kind that transcends selfish desires, gender power struggles, inequality, etc. you experience oneness, and everything else, all the sacrifice and compromises, adds to the synergy of was once two separate souls.

    i know i rambled. thanks for listening.

  82. Moops says:

    Whenever someone says, “All men are like __” or “All husbands are like ___” they are really saying, “MY husband is like this.” All Giada is telling us is that she has this particular relationship with her husband. Everyone should treat their partners with respect and love – but that’s not really what Giada is saying, is it. She’s saying that “every husband” (read: HER husband) likes to think he’s in charge, so she indulges him and pretends like he is. What a joke. I feel sorry for her, and her husband, for that matter.

  83. Bodhi says:

    Women’s liberation is a destructive concept.

    The Taliban would agree with that sentiment.

  84. redlips says:

    ***rolling eyes***

    Thank you Giada, for setting women back to the dark ages! Really tired of the “double standard”…..

  85. melinda says:

    Awesome post Charmed. I consider myself a card carrying feminist as well. However, I really enjoy doing “wife-like” things for my husband and showing him that I appreciate him by making a happy and comfortable home for us. We actually wrote it in our wedding vows that we would BOTH use our abilities to do so. It is not a matter of being subserviant. This behavior is reciprocal, as I suspect it probably is with her husband.

  86. Rita says:


    Wow, what a beautiful comment. I am so absorbed by your clarity that I’ve nothing to say. Simply put, I have never read much less understood a better expression of your point of view. Congrats and thanks.

  87. Mistral says:

    Your husband will cheat on you if he is a douchebag. This is really the only criteria. Being faithful/unfaithful is a choice one makes.

  88. mii says:

    i hate her. she’s so annoying

  89. orion70 says:

    @eternalcanadian: I’m all for being grateful, and not harping on someone for anything, but that part of your post makes it sound like they need to be patted on the head and told what a good boy they are because they attempted to do something that is part of living in their own household.

    I grew up in a pretty traditional home, but I also saw my father cooking and cleaning and doing all kinds of stuff along with my mother.

    I know people who do everything short of wiping their husband’s butt for him. I can’t relate.

  90. Isa says:

    Okay, here is a better quote from the article.
    “What made it all even more surprising is that I haven’t had any contact with John Mayer in three years. You know how you’ll briefly get introduced to somebody? Maybe we chatted for five minutes, but I wouldn’t consider that intimate…. I think the only things that could have possibly have tied us together is that we were at the same hotel that weekend in question–which, by the way, my husband was with me there as well.”"

    Also, she looks soooo thin on the cover except for her belly. Idk if it’s the dress but she looks like she has a baby bump although I don’t think she’s pregnant.

    Michael K said she looks like Tweety Bird and I agree!

  91. Megatrona says:

    I agree with charmed! Well said

  92. Cheyenne says:

    melinda: This behavior is reciprocal, as I suspect it probably is with her husband.

    I suspect it probably isn’t, and she’s protesting too much.

  93. Crash2GO2 says:

    Thanks Moops. I’ll have to remember that, ’cause I hear it a lot around here…

  94. jemshoes says:

    I have no idea who this woman is, but I’ll take her as I take Gisele and Goopy: with a grain of salt.

  95. SassyOne says:

    Holy shite, wow… as if the smile in that first pic isn’t the equivalent of the Cheshire cat’s smile…

  96. Kelly says:

    Pff! Will you listen to this dumb bitch? It’s female liberation that gave you the literacy to be able to spout that shit in the first place!

    Frankly, I don’t think there’s a man on the planet that I DONT upstage, and Im not even trying, so the dicks in my life can just sit down and wait til Im finished talking, and they can love every minute of it as far as Im concerned.

    Treat him like a king or he’ll walk? Can I just take a minute to pick myself up from rolling around on the floor in hysterics? If a man can’t deal with every single honest uncut part of you, he’s not worth having. Take that to your grave.

    As Mme M once said in DL- ‘I was born to dominate your sex and avenge my own.’
    Word. Some of us are born to rule, some of us are born to eat shit. Guess we know which one this piece is destined for. Good luck with that.

  97. Grace says:

    @Charmed: I can’t speak for Kaiser, or the other people who find Giada’s interview a bit repulsive, but the part I don’t agree that Giada is speaking in terms of treating her husband well. Had she simply stuck to the treating her husband like a king thing then I might agree with you. It was the part about how hard it is for a man to be upstaged by his wife that I found sickening. I can’t imagine a man being apologetic in an interview for being more successful than his wife. So I do find it disheartening to see a woman who, rather than be proud of her success, feels like she somehow has to make it up to her husband for being more successful than him.

    But it’s her life, if she wants to spend her time trying to make it up to her husband for committing the horrible sin of being more successful than him, that’s certainly her choice.

  98. Grace says:

    Oops, my last post was riddled with typos. I just learned a valuable lesson about not leaving comments while incoherent because of illness. Apologies to anyone who had to read my last comment.

  99. DrM says:

    @ Kelly – RIGHT ON! Two short stories: 1. My first husband fooled around on me…my father said it was my ‘responsibility to ensure my husband’s sexual proclivities were kept in check’ AND that if I did leave him he and my mother expected me to live a celibate life (as my older sister did). I left, got over it and had a ball (literally and figuratively).

    2. I have a PhD, my current husband does not. He’s incredibly proud of me, introduces me as Dr , cried from happiness at my convocation and supports me in everything I do. He has been asked if he feels ‘uncomfortable (ie emasculated) by my education. He looks at the person like they are insane (which they are) and doesn’t even bother answering the question. He just walks away.

    Men who can’t ‘handle’ what you do, your education, how much you earn or that you have your own life, voice and choices need to be told to go jump. Their reaction to the woman/women in question says MUCH more about themselves and their own issues than it will EVER say about the woman or women involved.

    Never liked this woman’s TV show much and now I understand why… B***H PULEEZE!

  100. Hakura says:

    @Mia135 (#29)-
    Quoted Rita (#1)- “…pee-crusties!!!”
    Mia- “Oh my God, I am NEVER getting married!”

    xD! LOL. I wish not being married prevented me from having to deal with such disgusting bathroom habits. My 18 yr old brother unfortunately does the same thing. (There’s no way in fucking hell I’m dealing with it, though.)

    I’m torn on this issue… I agree with those who comment about feminism being the belief that women should have the power to choose how to live their own lives. There’s nothing wrong with making the comment that you should do special things for your mate from time to time to help a relationship.

    But if she means that it’s entirely a woman’s responsibility to do such things (and not that said special treatment should be expected in return), then I definitely don’t agree. It’s hard to tell if that’s what she’s saying, or if it comes across as more of a general statement.

    But it’s interesting timing on releasing these statements. If she HAS been doing something like stepping out, perhaps this release of statements is a ploy to improve her current situation with her husband… If he was embarrassed by the press of her possibly cheating, making public statements about how to ‘treat a man’ in which she praises her husband… might help her smooth things over a bit.

  101. Matt says:

    @ Kelly, the fact that you have to upstage every male in your life and you think some people were born to eat shit makes me feel very sorry for you.

  102. teehee says:

    Im glad the defenders are the minority, is all I can say.

  103. Hakura says:

    @Kelly – Wow, what a fiery post! =) I admit my reaction to this story was a resounding “You’ve got to be kidding…” before others suggested that some of her statements may have been perceived in a way other than she intended.

    The ‘man having trouble accepting being upstaged by his wife‘ comment cannot be misconstrued, however. She’s playing right into an irrational sexist idea, which implies that the man’s ego is more important than anything else in the relationship.

    It’s not unusual for one partner (either gender) to feel insecure about their position in the marriage/family, especially when their spouse is much more successful than they are. But it’s why you feel that insecurity that makes a difference. But I don’t think one should *need* to upstage every man in their life to prove a point… only to focus on their accomplishments & happiness with their own life, which is the best sort of revenge against someone.

    @DrM – It’s so wonderful that you found someone to support you so completely. =) I can only hope for that at some point too.

    Having to follow certain ‘rules’ in order to make sure your husband isn’t driven to cheat… because if he cheats, it’s YOUR fault, >i>YOU failed as a wife, & deserve to be cheated on as a result. That sort of bullshit makes me so incredulously angry that I end up shaking.

    I hope you won’t take offense to this (they are your parents), but your parents are complete idiots. Makes me wonder what sort of life your mother has had, married to a man who thinks that way.

  104. Dallas says:

    If this story was of a male celebrity treating his wife like a queen, would the reactions be as harsh? Why are some women today so offended by the mere thought of treating their husbands with anything other than contempt?

  105. Hakura says:

    @Dallas (#105)- I, personally, would react negatively if a man insinuated that he had to do something specific (like subservience/gifts) in order to prevent his wife/partner from cheating.

    I think both should be equal in a relationship, & there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going out of your way to do something positive for one’s spouse/partner.

    It’s just that it shouldn’t be a one-way street… The way it was phrased in this case made it sound like unless Giada acts subservient (in a way) to her husband (& downplays her own career success), it would be her fault if the husband strays. Which is just ridiculous.

  106. Jeannified says:

    I think she just said that to deflect the rumors that have been swirling around her about cheating.

  107. DrM says:

    @Hakura – cheers girl! my mum (unfortch) things exactly the same way as my father…so it works well for them :) You just have to live your own life…your parents may have given birth to you but you don’t ‘owe’ them your autonomy…

  108. Hakura says:

    DrM (#108)- I agree with you entirely. =) I don’t think 1% of children grow up to think *exactly* like their parents. (Thank GOD)

    But that doesn’t mean it can’t be stressful to push away from that way of thinking. But yeah, with me especially, cheating & sexism has always been something I have NO tolerance for.

    If there’s something wrong enough in your relationship that you feel like you want to cheat… then either confront the issue, or end the relationship. I know it sounds black & white (& it’s not always that simple, especially with a marriage or when children are involved), but cheating is wrong, no matter what. So disrespectful to one’s partner. I don’t think I could ever forgive someone for doing that.

  109. Whitey Fisk says:

    Ha! They’ve only been married 6 or 7 years. I wish her good luck in her marriage, because with that philosophy, she’s gonna need it!

  110. aury says:

    Christ. thanks for setting the women’s movement back a hundred years, giada. freaking dumbass.

  111. GN says:

    I don’t consider myself a feminist but Giada’s comments are very low and demeaning to all women. There is never a good reason to cheat – if the marriage isn’t working, leave. But it sounds like she puts all the blame on a woman if a husband cheats.

  112. snowy says:

    1) What husband would like his wife to show her assets on TV…? She really has her boobs displayed ALL the time. It’s frankly very annoying!

    2) Her husband seems to be a gentle soul, can’t imagine that he’d be the type to stray. But then again, she is the better looking one of the two. Her husband looks really old, weak and dilapidated.

  113. mike says:

    All of you jealous women should take a lesson from Giada. Not only is she gorgeous, but she knows what men like. I suspect many of you are either single, being cheated on or with subservient wussy men you aren’t happy with. The whole feminist movement just got you 40 hours per week at 3/4 the pay of men. Italian women know how to treat their men.

  114. Chris says:

    Does every man want to be treated like a King…heck yes. Should every man treat their woman like a Queen….of course! Nothing wrong with her statements there. What I hate is that she says all this and cheats herself! Definition of a tramp! I totally agree with how annoying it is to constantly see her breasts and this is from a red blooded heterosexual male. It does make sense though. From her philandering ways she obviously needs male attention and gets it at any expense…whether it be by advertising what she has or giving it away. Trashy whorish tramp!

  115. Chris says:

    On another note…I thought the “woman’s movement” was about determining your path and not about having conform…..isn’t she also just speaking out what she wants and think is right? What is wrong about that? I bet she likes the color red…is that wrong too?

  116. kissmekate says:

    I understand where Giada’s coming from. She’s basically saying that if you have a good man treat him right as long as it goes both ways. Mutual love and respect make a relationship worth the time,love,and investment. I adore Giada. She’s a tiny bundle of sweetness. Her voice is soothing (unlike Rachael Ray) her recipe’s are easy to follow and she has the prettiest smile. Pure joy to watch.

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  118. Gina says:

    Dear God, a lot of comments here are so ridiculous. What is so wrong with someone saying they love their husband enough to put his needs first sometimes?? Last time I checked, she’s spending a huge amount of her time persuing her own interests and talents. So while she’s home she shouldn’t make a fuss over her husband and child? It’s called being in love, being happy, being a loving, caring adult. It’s not being self-centered every moment of every day. I’m sure he must be very good to her in return, by the way, or she wouldn’t love him so much. People who wrote derogatory comments about this must have very sad, sad lives and must not know what it’s like to be in a truly loving relationship. I feel sorry for you all.

  119. Johnny D says:

    she is beautiful, talented,happily married,cute kid,her own high-paying TV show,tons of friends, so I see: JEALOUSY AND ENVY rear ugly heads..gee, doesnt average wife/mommy wish she could have a life…SIGH…so sad..just my opinion, such as yours….thank you and say goodnight Mrs Calabash wherever you are….

  120. JJ says:

    Totally agree with Gina and Johnny D. Giada is a talented and attractive person who is in love with (and clearly loved by) her husband and child. Obviously she will attract immediate hatred from a large percentage of women who don’t have that type of success in their lives. All the pointless commentary on irrelevancies like her “large head”, “giant teeth”, “boobs” etc. are simply people trying to grasp at absolutely anything easy like someone’s looks when there is no serious fault that they can find to take her down. As for her king comment, that’s her personal life and it works for her. I am female and do not feel “taken down” on the feminist front by her comment. No criticism I have yet found from these “haters” has demonstrated any kind of real fault with Giada that I can take seriously. A lot of the women on this site appear to have never mentally left high school, given that these comments are the best they can come up with regarding Giada’s alleged “faults”.

  121. Zed Zordaan says:

    Think what you will, folks. To my mind, she’s only solidified herself as the perfect woman. Don’t get me wrong – it’s not as though I’m waiting and hoping to buy her from Todd once he tires of her – but I think it’s refreshing that she’s willing to be so much for those who matter the most to her. That’s her whole message, at least as I read it.