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Fox News’ Roger Friedman has a pretty good track record with exclusive stories, and he’s reporting that David Duchovny wasn’t technically cheating on Téa Leoni, his wife of 11 years. Many people speculated that there must have been some infidelity involved since Duchovny is in rehab for a sex addiction. According to a source quoted by Friedman, Duchovny was addicted to online porn, and was spending a lot of time in sexy cyber fantasy land. Duchovny made the decision to announce the situation because someone in rehab was able to tell the press that Duchovny was getting treatment there. Friedman also reports that the couple does plan to move to Manhattan once Duchovny is out of sex rehab:
“X Files” star David Duchovny’s announcement that was he was in rehab for sex addiction sparked a lot of rumors. One of them was that he’d been caught having an affair with his tennis instructor (a woman) and that he was undergoing rehab to save his marriage.
Alas, it isn’t so, says a close friend. Duchovny did not check in because of an extramarital fling. That much the friend is certain of. Even more so: Duchovny’s problem has been longstanding. His wife, Tea Leoni, was aware of it for some time. It had just reached a point where it had to be treated.
I have inferred from my conversation with Duchovny’s friend that this has something to do with an addiction to pornography, probably on the internet. It’s the sex equivalent of a gambling addiction, where the person is just hopelessly trapped in chat rooms…
By the way, I’m told that David issued that press statement about his rehab because the tabloids were about to issue their own story. What happened: A fellow patient “dropped a dime” on David to make some extra coin. Nice confidentiality!
Duchovny is not having the greatest summer. His “X Files: I Want to Believe” has been a bust, with just $20 million in the till after a month in release. Waiting ten years for a sequel has proved to be a mistake. The audience simply moved on.
When Duchovny is done with the rehab, I’m also told that he and Tea and their kids will complete their move to Manhattan’s Upper East Side from Hollywood. They will be very welcome here, as Tea is much in demand work-wise. Duchovny will have more “Californication” and plenty of offers. New York doesn’t solve all your problems, but it’s a much more realistic place to live than Los Angeles.
[From Fox News via Huffington Post]
People Magazine reports that Téa Leoni has canceled her appearance at the Toronto Film Festival, which starts Thursday, where she was due to promote her film Ghost Town.
If all this is true, and Duchovny was just addicted to Internet porn, it seems like something that’s a personal matter and that he’s dealing with it and shouldn’t have received as much flack as he did.
Is it cheating to get off with someone other than your spouse online? Where do you draw the line? Looking at porn, like movies or photos, is pretty common and seems harmless, but what if your spouse was text-chatting and having cyber sex with someone else? Is it cheating if there’s voice chat or a webcam involved? There are so many ways to connect with people now, and I’ve heard a lot of stories of people leaving their spouses for someone they’ve met online. It’s just a fantasy, though, and when cheating husbands and wives take it to the next level and shack up with the person they met online (or at work) they often find out that once reality sets in they’re no better off with their new partner than they were with their last. At least Duchovny didn’t go that far, if this report is to be believed.
David Duchovny is shown at the X Files - I want to believe premiere in London on 7/30/08. Credit: WENN
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Posted in Addictions, David Duchovny, Infidelity, Sex, Tea Leoni
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27 Responses to “Was David Duchovny addicted to Internet pr0n - is it cheating?”
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Good comment Megan. I don’t think that viewing porn is cheating.
An on-line relationship/Cyber-sex, yes, I would feel betrayed. -
well…addicts don´t follow their urges just for fun, it´s like you´re a robot, you HAVE to do it. i won´t consider texting or online sex cheating if it´s an addiction. if my man decides to do it just for fun and because he´s bored with me, yes, that´s cheating. but not when it´s compulsion.
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I think I have to go along with the “looking is okay” like of thinking. However, forming a sexual relationship online, even for cybersex, I think is cheating. Something along the lines of “lusting in your heart”. But I’m still thinking that to a great extent his “sex addiction” is just a nice way to say “slut puppy”. Not that there’s anything wrong with being a slut puppy, per se, but why not just admit it and stop making excuses for yourself?
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CB, idle curiously. Why is porn spelt ‘pr0n’ in your headline? Since the word occurs throughout the article and in the comments, it seems odd? Is it to appease the advertisers?
Agree with Megan.
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“pr0n” is a joke.
Internet jargon for geeks. -
Thanks, fab. Didn’t know that. The things you learn!
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I didn’t know that either and was about to pull a spellcheck hissy fit.
Is it cheating? No. I wonder if he ever wanked off to naughty photos of Tea.
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While it may not be technically cheating, it is obviously a serious problem in a marriage.
From my point of view (if it were my husband–thank goodness it’s not!–) there is the question “Why do you need to look at other women/other couples? What does that say about me/us and our reality?”
Then there is the time factor.
How pissed would I be if my husband was spending less time with me and our children because he was checking out porn on the Internet?
Obviously, DD must have been spending A LOT of time doing this if he had to go to rehab where he was literally cut off from a computer in order to force him out of this habit.
Also, I have strong disgust for the pornography industry itself. I think it badly uses men and women, often children (while the users of adult vs. child pornography may be vastly different, the production companies can be the same, just using other names. Also I seriously wonder who are the types of people making a profit from this?)
I wouldn’t be understanding about my husband paying money that should be for our family to support an industry I think is dangerous.
So, while it might not be “cheating” it is certainly not as harmless as “he’s just looking”. -
I wouldn’t let my man get away with it. If I am not enough for him then he will never be satisfied and I will never be able to believe that he will not cheat. But I am kinda jaded, I must admit. Luckily my husband doesn’t feel the need to look at porn (except the stuff we make ourselves!
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“…the production companies can be the same, just using other names.”
What are you basing this on, czarina? Fact or supposition? Personally don’t have a problem at all with porn, in its place, and when consenting adults are involved.
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Internet porn addictions are much more common than most people realize. I know two “gentlemen” co-workers who were fired from their jobs because they couldn’t control their addiction and viewed porn sites regularly at work. Both of them knew that management had spyware on all company computers. They literally couldn’t control their impulses. A friend of mine is a high school guidance counselor. She regularly has to deal with students who are disciplined for viewing porn sites on school computers…this despite the fact that there are filters and nanny guards on all the computers!!! My concern is the twisted view these kids will have as adults. It really is a pity.
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Honestly, I don’t have a problem with my significant other viewing or chatting. I wouldn’t consider that cheating at all–not that its totally ok with me. I’d be pissed if he was spending tons of our money on that and not spending time with me. But, I think honesty is paramount in a relationship. He’s got to tell me what he’s doing then I’m ok with it. Don’t lie, don’t get caught lying then do what you want in your private time.
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Bullsh*t.
No one is addicted to internet porn. Not every lack of self-control is an addiction. Some people just need to learn some damn discipline. Don’t be brain-washed by this ever evolving culture of victimhood, where nothing is ever anybody’s fault and everything is a disease or an affliction. He just needs self-control.
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I think the definition of “cheating” should be between partners. I know couples who are swingers (very happy people I may add) and they’re definition of cheating is very different from mine. So I don’t think you can say “viewing porn is fine, but chatting isn’t”, I think that is a decision that needs to be made between partners.
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I like your type-o on the story title.
Sounds like he has a shellfish fetish!
Prawn Porn (PRON)
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Engaging in “textal” acts with anonymous individuals? Sounds like cheatin’ to me!
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hmm, maybe Mr. Duchovny should withdraw from his part in Californication - seems to be adding to his offscreen woes.
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I totally agree with Wif. The definition of cheating is different for each person and each relationship.
Nonetheless, yuck! What a lame thing to be addicted to.
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geronimo: I took a course on criminal forensics (for my own interest) and the instructor was a former Toronto police officer with 30 years on the force.
Aside from many pictures and slides (shudder!) he liked to tell stories. One case we were studying of a man who was killed by the local mafia (and this is in a reasonably small town, a suburb of Toronto, so the fact that there WAS a mafia was kind of surprising), which was also involved in child pornography. Basically, the company who produced adult films and videos was run by the mafia who also, through another affiliate, used their equipment (whatever you use to create videos-this was a few years ago) and their distribution network to distribute child pornography. (This was not over the Internet and involved mainly videos as opposed to still pictures)
The instructor told us that it was very common for pornography to be affiliated with organized crime and that, very unfortunately, child pornography makes a lot of money for the sleazbags who produce it because, as it is illegal, people will pay more for it.
I do not know, however, if this relates to porn on the Internet.
I also do not assume that ALL producers of pornography are associated with organized crime or child pornography. However, even if there is a small chance, I wouldn’t want to feel I was generating money for anyone who would cater to pedophiles.
If I were ever tempted to want to view porn (and, for me, romance novels are about as close as I get!!LOL), I would want to know who made it and who owned the company, etc. -
I agree with czarina and CeeJay 100%.
In some cases it is just as bad or worse then gambling. A family member of mine took all the money from his, his wife, his kids savings account to support his inter-net porn addiction. He would barely come out of the computer room. His wife would leave him with their kids (1 and 2 years old)while she worked and he would not feed, change, or play with them because he was looking at porn. He would only give them milk in a bottle all day long to shut them up. She caught him with the nanny cam and had a family intervention (sisters, brothers, dad, mom, grandma, grandpa,….you name it).
He did not get his @ss kicked for the way he was treating his kids because god was looking out for him
I was ashamed when she played the freakin video and upset 
There is nothing wrong with porn but when it become excessive then that is when all the problems begin. She did not think he was doing anything wrong and next thing you know it all just went down hill and fast.
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It is cheating. my marriage ended over it. We had a good sexlife but he refused to stop.Spent more time on the porn than with kids and ultimately chose it over marriage. Lost his kids all for porn
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Sorry to hear that Sara. I know that must have been one of the hardest things to deal with. I hope you and your kids are doing well.
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Czarina, thanks for that, it’s a very pertinent point. But, the internet oddly enough, despite the negative things it’s enabled, has also been instrumental in putting the power back in the hands of those who work in the industry, rather than those who used to control it and this, more than anything else, has made for a huge reduction in exploitation.
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DAvid? The Californication star on sex addiction. I thinks he is not addicted. GRRRRR
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I wouldn’t use the word ‘cheating’ to describe a man looking at pictures of sex on the internet. It’s different if he’s having actual conversations with real women online and having ‘cyber’ sex sessions with them, because that’s like forming a sexual relationship with someone other than your partner, even if you never meet the online person.
If he’s just addicted to looking at pornography online, I wouldn’t say that was cheating in the traditional sense, but I would say that if he’s more interested in looking at porn than having a meaningful relationship with his wife, then he has a problem and he needs to get some sort of guidance. I’ve caught my boyfriend looking at porn before and I did not consider it cheating.
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