Rihanna: “I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun.”

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Here’s an even better-quality shot of Rihanna’s assy Rolling Stone cover. You can really see the details on those fascinating metallic shorts! I still find them enchanting, by the way. And I don’t care if you hate me! Anyway, Rolling Stone has released some excerpts from Rihanna’s cover story, and she’s talking about sex, of course. Probably because that’s all that she’s selling? No, that’s not fair. This is actually one of the better interviews I’ve ever read with Rihanna. Yeah, she talks about sex and getting dick pictures (her comments on that are hilarious), but she also talks about her dad and she says something really interesting about Chris Brown. Here are the excerpts:

On S&M: “I like to take charge, but I love to be submissive. Being submissive in the bedroom is really fun. You get to be a little lady, to have somebody be macho and in charge of your s**t. That’s sexy to me. I work a lot, and I have to make a lot of executive decisions, so when it comes to being intimate, I like to feel like I’m somebody’s girl.”

She likes to be spanked: “I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun. I like to keep it spontaneous. Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned – you gotta stop, get the whip from the drawer downstairs. . . . I’d rather have him use his hands.” She goes on to recount a recent trip to a sex shop in Sydney called the Toolshed, where she left with two full bags of whips, blindfolds and dildos. The takeaway? “Don’t go to a sex store tipsy.”

Matt Kemp was her last lay? “I’m not dating,” she says. “I’m not sexing, I’m not even sexting. It’s on complete nil.” She says she hasn’t been with anyone since breaking up with Dodgers slugger Matt Kemp, which went down before the public found out in December, so it’s been at least four months since she got any action. “You think you’re disappointed?” she says. “Try being in this body.”

On Skype sex: “When you’re not with the person you want to be intimate with, a picture is the next best thing. Well, Skype is safer. But a picture lasts a long time. When you’re alone, and those horny moments come up, pictures can be very handy.”

On getting dick pictures: “I haven’t gotten a d*ck picture in a long time. I think people are a little afraid. It can turn out bad.”

On her name: Rihanna is actually her middle name. (It comes from the Arabic for “sweet basil.”) Her real name is Robyn, and that’s what most of her friends and family still call her. “I get kind of numb to hearing Rihanna, Rihanna, Rihanna,” she says. “When I hear Robyn, I pay attention.”

First kiss: When it came to boys, she was a late bloomer. “My first kiss was in high school, and it was the worst thing ever. He pretty much dumped his entire saliva glands into my mouth. It traumatized me. I didn’t kiss for, like, ever.”

On her father, and abuse: Rihanna says that if it weren’t for singing she might have been a psychologist, and she certainly has a deep sense of empathy. “I actually feel really bad for my father,” she says. He was abused too – he got beat up by his stepdad when he was young. He has resentment toward women, because he felt like his mom never protected him, and unfortunately, my mother was the victim of that. I’m not giving him excuses. Right is right and wrong is wrong. I still blame him. But I understand the source.”

On being a masochist: “I do think I’m a bit of a masochist,” she says this evening. “It’s not something I’m proud of, and it’s not something I noticed until recently. I think it’s common for people who witness abuse in their household. They can never smell how beautiful a rose is unless they get pricked by a thorn.” She thinks it explains her attraction to tattoos (14 and counting, including a skull with a pink hair bow on her left Achilles, a pistol on her right rib cage and the words Never a Failure, Always a Lesson on her collarbone), as well as her “love-hate relationship” with the media, and the fact that the darkest moments of her life are out there for public consumption. “When I think about it, I really do take some pleasure in the negativity,” she says. “I don’t want to say turned on by it – but I’m turned on by it.”

Having her guard up: In the months that followed [the assault], Rihanna says, “I put my guard up so hard. I didn’t want people to see me cry. I didn’t want people to feel bad for me. It was a very vulnerable time in my life, and I refused to let that be the image. I wanted them to see me as, ‘I’m fine, I’m tough.’ I put that up until it felt real.”

On Chris Brown: “We don’t have to talk again ever in my life. I just didn’t want to make it more difficult for him professionally. What he did to me was a personal thing – it had nothing to do with his career. Saying he has to be a hundred feet away from me, he can’t perform at awards shows – that definitely made it difficult for him. That was the only thing it was going to change, so I didn’t care. But you can never please people. One minute I’m being too hard, and the next minute I’m a fool because I’m not being hard enough.”

Extras: She’s trying to learn Italian – she got Rosetta Stone for Christmas – but right now, her foreign-language vocabulary consists mostly of swear words. She loves Jonah Hill and Michael Cera (although she calls them “the fat guy” and “the other guy”), and she says cheerfully that she’s trying to appreciate her body while she can, because she knows “butt and tits” are the first to go.

Metal & needing it to be even: “I hate the sound of metal on metal. And if something isn’t even, it weirds me out – like if my girlfriend hits me on the right side of my butt, it feels numb on the left.” She cracks her knuckles. She’s a compulsive boob-grabber. She’s seen the movie Due Date literally eight times this week.

She loves SNAPPED! She loves going to the grocery store and cooking for herself; enjoys a nice chardonnay at the end of the day; forgoes weed (or at least claims to); and has a killer story about getting blackout drunk on bathtub moonshine while on vacation in Mexico. She digs true-crime reality shows like Beyond Scared Straight and Snapped (“about women who snap”), and she says the last book she read was called Mafia Princess. She’s also chronically late and doesn’t have a driver’s license, but otherwise is as down-to-earth and un-diva-like as anyone with 1,500 pairs of shoes can be.

[From Rolling Stone]

I find her statement about Chris fascinating: “What he did to me was a personal thing – it had nothing to do with his career. Saying he has to be a hundred feet away from me, he can’t perform at awards shows – that definitely made it difficult for him… But you can never please people. One minute I’m being too hard, and the next minute I’m a fool because I’m not being hard enough.” It’s interesting that she shows concern for his career, and she doesn’t want to be seen as damaging his career. What Rihanna doesn’t realize – or maybe she just doesn’t want to be the one to say it – is that his PRIVATE actions affected his career when everything was played out publicly. Of course, Chris has revealed himself to be a violent sociopath who smashes things like faces and windows, and people tend to view that kind of behavior as “unprofessional”.

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Photos courtesy of Rolling Stone.

 

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  1. Melanie says:

    I would like to tie her down and fix her mop head.

  2. NayNay says:

    TMI Rhianna. Information like that needs to be private between you and your partner. It isn’t information that the whole world needs to hear. What goes on behind closed doors should be kept quiet. Especially, after what CB did to you. Girl needs to keep her mouth shut.

  3. coexxi says:

    @NayNay…. hear, hear!
    Exactly my thoughts. She is a role model (if she likes it or not) and this is not a good message she is sending out.

  4. danielle says:

    She sounds like an interesting person.

  5. malachais says:

    So her Rolling Stone interview had nothing to do with music, just her sexual preferences and random comments about her life experiences? WOW, great job Rolling Stone. When is the Beyonce’s album coming out so this mop head will stop getting so much attention?

  6. Valerie says:

    I wasn’t so sure about the cover shot, but the one of her in a bikini is AMAZING. I even think her hair looks good in that one!

  7. ruru says:

    It’s sad that she feels guilty for his career problems. She needs to accept that no matter what happened between the two of them that night, he went too far and is the one at fault.

  8. Riley says:

    Rhianna puts the “ho” in photo (bad joke cause I kind of love RiRi but seriously girl, you don’t have to try so hard). Oh, and about the shorts, they look like they would cause a massive yeast infection.

  9. PrettyTarheel says:

    I’m concerned about the long-reaching affects the assault had on Rihanna’s psyche. Some people are lightly into S&M for their own pleasure without any root cause, but I worry that perhaps her self-esteem and self-worth have been battered to where she only recognizes pleasure through pain. That’s a terrifying thought. I HOPE she’s just a “bad” girl who likes to have fun, but glorifying domination after being in a relationship where she was physically abused is difficult for me to wrap my head around, even as someone who appreciates all the varieties of sex.

  10. Rita says:

    Just a thought, If you like being spanked, tied up, or “party” with chains and whips, Chris Brown seems to be available.

  11. sasa says:

    While there are quite a lot of us who feel CB is a dick, his career is blooming and the majority are liking what they see. In that sense Rihanna shows she’s business smart, being careful about harming his career. The fact is, with everything he’s done it WASN’T harmed.

    So either she’s really business savvy or she’s chicken not wanting to “harm anybody”. I do get this feeling she would always choose avoiding instead of confronting if it’s within her power. That’s a tricky characteristic to have and can produce a lot of unwanted negativity (speaking from experience).

  12. sasa says:

    Reading through comments I just want to say I don’t have any problem with her talking about S&M and sexual preferences. Why is it bad to talk about sex? Good for her, I say.

    I have problems with totally different aspects of the interview.

  13. sandy says:

    well who don’t? really, why do we need to know that about you? like she’s the first one to say that, be more original and private next time, i lost my sympathy for her. N.E.X.T.

  14. Eve says:

    You know Brown’s defenders (while mistaking light, sex related spanking to what he did to her) are going to say “See? She likes being beaten. He did nothing wrong because she probably wanted that”.

    Ever since that episode, she should think twice before talking about SM and how she likes being spanked.

  15. lucy2 says:

    I don’t get the need she and others have to share personal stuff like that with a magazine, unless it’s all about getting attention.

  16. skibunny says:

    She’s talented. She doesn’t have to slut herself up. Pathetic!

  17. beth says:

    ok, too trashy.
    if you wanna wear trashy, talk up some class.
    if you wanna talk trash, dress classy.
    always turn expectations on its head so you don’t get stuck with a label.

    not to put sofia vergara and rihanna in the same class act category (they’re not) – sofia can’t get away being sexually objectified with a face and body like that, but she knows how to to dress sexily, even act sexily, without coming across as slutty – she could sooooooo easily slide this way, but she doesn’t, and it’s a lot to do with presentation, not just packaging.

  18. sasa says:

    She should NOT refrain from talking about spanking because dumb people cannot differentiate between sexual and violent behaviors. She should in fact raise awareness that these are two completely different things, being the right person to be able to reach out to others. As she does with speaking about it.

  19. coexxi says:

    I’m not per se against talking about sex or S/M as long as everything is consensual… but she can’t deny what happend to her and so the context doesn’t look good.

    And on another note: have these “stars” no wish for at least a certain privacy?

  20. lisa says:

    Other women have spoken openly about sex. RiRi is not the first. I don’t think her comments will shock many.

    that being said regarding CB I think she did it to cut the ties. If the order had still been in affect the story would always be Rihanna performs at (blank) Chris banned.

    I think she is moving on and wants to cut the ties between them. I get that and understand it on some level. And yes she may have gotten some flack from some outside sources. Fair.. NO WAY.. but that is how the music industry is.

    I have to say she looks amazing. But I hate that hair more then I can say.

  21. clorismetchum says:

    ME TOO GIRL!
    nothing gets my cooter quivering quite like a good spanking!

  22. Trillion says:

    Her body is absolute perfection, IMO.

  23. Onthefence says:

    I agree with the posters, including NayNay, who say keep this stuff to yourself. I don’t want to know about all your sex fetishes. Some people know how to talk about sex in a cute way, but this isn’t cute, it’s just gross and too much information. It seems like she’s trying to be shocking and cool. And I cannot believe that she would talk about S&M and her love of pain when she has become such a symbol for domestic abuse. Hello? Obviously she is the victim but doesn’t she think about the message this is sending? Yuck.

  24. Kar says:

    This chic has NO SHAME..who cares about your stupid sex life!!!! You think telling the world your dirt makes you COOL! It makes you look like you are starving for attention…AGAIN..STILL! IM SICK OF YOU and your music should be tossed into the XXX stores.

  25. Sloane Wyatt says:

    While it’s unfortunate that Robyn has an abusive past, she seems to be trying to be true to herself now. She’s not defining herself as a victim. IMO, she wants to simply live her life and be authentic. I like that she takes a break and doesn’t give herself away.

    I find her sex positive remarks refreshing. From her remarks, it’s more of a role play thing and that’s what does it for her, not pain and suffering. She’s a young woman who doesn’t want to pretend to be someone she’s not. I think in her mind she just wants to be free.

    Madonna, and maybe Taylor Momsen, and the like push the raunchy for commercial success. Rihanna seems real.

  26. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    Those who talk incessantly about sex are rarely interesting in bed. Also, if the person conducting the interview knew anything about BDSM, he/she would refer to it accordingly.
    Initially, I respected Rihanna for the way she handled the CB situation; but the more she opens her mouth the less I respect her. Bleh.

    @Riley, LMAO.

  27. sapphire says:

    She’s gorgeous, young and hasn’t learned to keep her mouth shut. I really hate this comparison, but think Raccoon McPantless and her attempts at being hard core. RI-Ri’s older, better looking and doing the same thing. X-tina has been doing it ala Fetish the Cat for 10 years. It’s boring and eventually pointless.

  28. Jaded says:

    Utterly cheap and trashy way of attracting attention. I thought she had more intelligence and talent than to sink this low…

  29. sasa says:

    Oh noes- a young celebrity who likes to attract attention! Impossible.

    If any of you who are calling her trashy for talking about sex have in any way endorsed real attention seeking behavior (watching sex tapes, clicking on Charlie Sheen stories…) I got news- it’s trash because you make it trash.

  30. original kate says:

    too much information.

  31. EdithP says:

    Sounds like Madonna, who talked it up about sex and dirty stuff and took pictures, but you just know she lies there in the missionary position and endures it.

    How is Rihanna, anyway? Should she really be talking about this anyway? Girl does have a slamming body.

  32. Katija says:

    I don’t think she sounds slutty or trashy. Personally, I think she sounds confident and cool. She reminds me of the Tina Turner of our generation – NOT because of the similarities between Ike/Chris Brown, but because of how she’s always on the line between R&B and rock and roll, in both her attitude and music.

  33. baby says:

    no comment on her “music”? isn’t that what she’s supposed to be famous for to begin with? what a dumbass. famous for being famous at this point, and its gettin old.

  34. sasa says:

    She’s nothing like Madonna. Enjoying spanking and being tied up VS pictures designed to be provocative to the average viewer (mixing S&M with religious imagery or semi sexual poses with animals). Rihanna is child’s play in that respect.

  35. Marjalane says:

    She’s an idiot. Take away her autotune and she’s an idiot with no talent.

  36. X says:

    She is totally sexy here; and for all the prudes, we had a feminist revolution half a century ago, didn’t we? Girl can’t talk about her sexuality? What she likes? Why not? I think the interview was fun, she’s terribly sexy, and I also want a pair of those shorts.

  37. Sassy says:

    Geez….was she ovulating when she gave this interview?! I agree w/the commenters who say trashy, TMI, etc.

    I’m saying she’s putting the “K” in Klassy!!!

  38. Lisa says:

    My jaw just hit the floor when I read that headline. So, you are going to play the victim over the Chris Brown incident but announce that you like it rough and it’s ok for men to treat you that way?

  39. Harley says:

    Beautiful girl, but I cannot get past that Ronald McDonald hair. And of course she likes Snapped – who doesn’t? That show is like TV crack.

  40. Estella says:

    The people who think Rihanna’s talking about BDSM is cool, must either be 25 years old or less or have NEVER engaged in true BDSM. This is a lifestyle, it is respectful, and it is for consenting adults who have not grown up in abusive homes. Rihanna is in need of serious therapy. She is submissive not by choice but because of her life experiences and people like her should stay far, far away from any “s&m” dabbling before they eff themselves up even more. I agree with those saying this interview is disturbing, particularly in light of her mentioning all the TMI sex stuff, Chris Brown AND her abused stepfather and mother in a few short paragraphs.

  41. Johnny Depp's Girl says:

    Get over yourself… you can barely sing, you look like raggidy ann and now you want us to listen to this crap?

    No thanks.

  42. hatsumomo says:

    This girl sounds like an idiot of the highest order. She needs plenty of serious therapy if she thinks voicing her sexual preferences of being dominated and humiliated to her fan base of 10-20 years old females is OK. Both of my sisters are Rihanna fans and when we went out in my sister’s car, they played all of her music. I couldn’t believe what i was listening to! She sings about sex, being fly, more sex, being rich and most of all SEX. Im the type of music lover who listens to the lyrics in a song. Give me Gogol Bordello, Flogging Molly, and the Killers any damn day of the week.

  43. ZZ says:

    LOL so she doesn’t talk even once about her music.

  44. Eve says:

    @ Lisa (#42):

    My jaw just hit the floor when I read that headline. So, you are going to play the victim over the Chris Brown incident but announce that you like it rough and it’s ok for men to treat you that way?

    She didn’t “play the victim” in that situation, she WAS indeed a victim and that’s why it’s disturbing to see her somehow defending/advertising violence now. SM is not for everyone*, it’s a very specific fetish, therefore she should be more careful when she talks about it (if she wants so much to expose about her sex life).

    *I’m betting is not even for Rihanna herself. I highly doubt she would enjoy real SM if she experienced it.

  45. Paris says:

    There’s nothing wrong with liking it rough. There’s a big difference in sexual preference and abuse. What happened to her sucks, and she broke off the relationship. It doesn’t mean her sexual preferences have to change radically.

  46. gee says:

    I think the reason no one goes to her concerts is because she’s a one trick pony.. just sexy, that all. And not really that sexy when she’s channeling ronald mcdonald.

  47. anti says:

    i don’t know about men,
    but i can’t see past the hair.

  48. RHONYC says:

    fool.

    that punk-ass MANGLED her f*cking face which is…

    ‘her’ MONEY MAKER!!!

    what if she left that situation permanently scarred facially?

    no one wants to see an ugly pop star on stage.

    so to me…on that note,
    it don’t get MORE P-R-O-F-E-S-S-I-O-N-A-L than that!

    why the f*ck is she so worried about HIS career when CLEARLY he didn’t give a f*ck about hers continuing?

    what is she NOT saying?

    this weak, pathetic attitude of hers is the kind that perpetuates violence against women worldwide…this forgiveness bullsh*t!

    women should be infuriated and merciless to men that abuse them. nothing less!

    now i’m mad at her again. :twisted:

  49. Melanie says:

    @Harley, I am a Snappedaddict. My husband calls it my “getting ideas” show. The woman narrators voice lulls me into a good place even when there is blood spray on the ceiling.

  50. jaye E says:

    @RHONYC…what is her having a lifelong vendetta against CB really going to profit her? Nothing. Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for the person issuing forgiveness.

    On a completely superficial note, homegirl’s ass is like WHOA! And there ain’t a damn thing wrong with her hair.

  51. YAY says:

    Well now I can identify with her! BOOYA!

  52. Clavin says:

    Always amusing when a 20 year old starts pontificating on her “life experiences” which mostly consist of singing, dancing, having sex & buying things. Note how she has almost nothing to say about actual music; it’s all sex, sex, sex, things I like, my body, sex, sex sex. So contrived.

  53. sasa says:

    Clavin, you know what sells? Sex, sex, sex. You know upon what many well respected artists built their careers? Sex, sex, sex. She’s young, she sings, she has relationships. What do you expect her to talk about?

    I love it when people act like they’re blind to the culture we live in, while are at the same time a part of it, participating via gossip sites, magazines, media…

    I won’t even go into why someone dares to think she deserves beating up because she likes to get spanked in bed. Beyond my scope of understanding entirely.

  54. LadyBert62 says:

    In my opinion, this is a troubled young woman. She flaunts, teases and shows no shame. Obviously I do not like her and if I had a daughter I would not want her to have this package of trash as a role model – I do not see any respect for herself, her body or women in general.

  55. Eve says:

    @ Sasa:

    I won’t even go into why someone dares to think she deserves beating up because she likes to get spanked in bed. Beyond my scope of understanding entirely.

    I hope you don’t think I said or suggested that — if that’s the case, you must have misread my comments so far. What I did was to point out the fact her very personal sexual preferences will certainly help the one-sided, flawed, mysoginistic arguments used to defend Chris Brown by his supporters.

    I don’t think Rihanna is any different than every single young pop star trying to look and sound like a sexy badass — not better nor worse. But considering the very delicate subject that is women’s abuse and the fact she’s been once abused by her then boyfriend, she should think better about what she says in interviews. That’s all.

    Regarding the fact she uses sex to promote herself, it’s not a big deal actually. But it does get tiresome after the billionth interview where she basically talks about sex related topics, and not her music.

  56. quest says:

    After watching these photos I have a sudden urge to find a a good pair of sheep shears to use on RIRI, pronto

  57. sasa says:

    Eve, I wasn’t talking about you. I just looked- I was talking about what Rita, Leticia and Lisa said.

    I think that the fact she was a victim of violence puts her in a unique position to be able to really empower young women about their sexuality. Saying: I like what I like, it’s not a big deal.

    Man, and I don’t even like her music at all.

  58. truetalk says:

    i may not agree with talking and singing about sex all d time but maybe she doesn’t want to be a role model for young girls. people who buy her music apparently love what she sings about.

  59. Eve says:

    @ Sasa:

    All right. And I get what you say about her. Frankly, I don’t want to prove you wrong and I don’t think my point of view is the right one.

    My problem is with quotes like “I like being spanked” and “I’m a masochist”, when so recently we all have seen her being a victim of (an unwanted) violence. She talks as if she’s completely unaware that many people will relate these two different situations and use this against her.

  60. Beatrix says:

    I think it’s unfair to blame that abusive relationship
    for her interest in S&M. She was showing her interest in that during Good Girl Gone Bad.

  61. sasa says:

    She’s either unaware or doesn’t care. And why should she?

  62. orion70 says:

    “Those who talk incessantly about sex are rarely interesting in bed.”

    Hear hear.

  63. Zoe says:

    How does liking S&M make you a bad role model? Why should she have to restrict herself when other celebrities don’t have to, or even in light of the Chris Brown incident? Sorry, people, but there’s a big difference between a consensual sexual activity with someone you trust vs. getting the daylights beaten out of you for real and someone trying to kill you. You don’t have to be abused or even damaged to enjoy S&M, especially for a woman like Rihanna used to being in such a powerful position, I can understand why she likes to be on the receiving end sometimes. There’s a difference between a spanking and a beating, I should think people would be intelligent enough to see the difference. I can’t believe anyone is giving her a hard time about this. She’s a grown woman and adult, she can talk about anything she wants. She’s also a singer, not a politician. She doesn’t need to have an agenda or standard she lives up to just for your benefit. Good for her for being honest and owning it.

  64. Susan says:

    Geez, how come Bruce Springsteen wasn’t asked these kinds of questions in RS interviews? Of course, back when he was getting interviewed is the last time I read RS, so for all I know it’s an S&M publication now.

  65. Myra says:

    Fuck her being a role model, she doesn’t have to be one, she doesn’t owe that to anyone. And I don’t see how discussing her sex life would affect her status as a role model, because she’s an adult.

    But I still agree that it’s TMI. Everyone has their sexual preferences, but they don’t share them to the world. I did NOT need to know about how submissive she loves to be.

  66. Red in Denver says:

    I know this may sound like I’m blaming the victim, but WHAT IS THIS GIRL THINKING! She reportedly struck the first blow in the altercation with Chris Brown, I don’t condone what he did, but, as a former victim of domestic violence myself, I NEVER instigated a confrontation by striking my husband. And now, in addition to her lyrics, she’s making public statements about liking being spanked and that she is (to a degree) a masochist. Makes one wonder if she tends to provoke things because she kinda likes the rough stuff.

  67. sasa says:

    @Red in Denver
    Because that makes it so much better if she provoked him?

    It doesn’t make any difference how it happened. We could maybe argue about provocation if they just slapped each other and then regretted it. But after you do what CB did it becomes pointless to discuss the circumstances.

    I’m sorry that you had to go through violence but I don’t think anyone who goes through it should be labeled as more or less deserving of it. It just doesn’t make a difference.

  68. Sigh. says:

    I read this thinking that she would be more interesting to read than to hear sing or look at. Maybe that will sway me into paying more attention beyond the hair and clothes theatrics.

    I was wrong.

    Since she’s a SINGER, and I don’t think she can SING any better (or worse, I guess) than the next auto-tuned nymph who don’t impress past their marketing campaign, AND I don’t find her interesting off-stage (like say, Pink, who I don’t own any of her music, but she seems like a firecracker-of-a-gal) I guess I just will never be a fan.

    And don’t bother trying to rationalize MY tastes to me. She’s just not a kin to my tastes. She’s still “Meh,” to me.

    But her ass does look fab on the cover.

  69. truetalk says:

    if slapped,some uncultured guys will slap back. they most likely, however, [d sane ones that is] won’t BITE!.
    can u imagine d level of derangement that will make an 18 or 19yr old guy bite???!

  70. Red in Denver says:

    I don’t know how you read in my comments that I was saying she deserved it. Provoking and deserving are two different things.

    I’m just saying that her comments and admitted behavior which initiated the physical confrontation give rise to questions and certainly indicate the situation MAY not be as cut and dried as many of you feel.

  71. RHONYC says:

    @ jaye E:

    turning the other cheek is to leave the door open for that person to come back and abuse you and/or someone else.

    turning on a faucet of whoop-ass that dude to teach him a lesson, well sh*t, that’s just called street justice, my friend.

    if a photo of that douche surfaced with HIS face caved in (i don’t care ‘who’ did it) in her defense, i wouldn’t feel this way.

    an eye for an eye then lets call it square.

    keep your hands to yourself, f*ckface! :twisted:

  72. 123isme says:

    1. @Estella: I agree. I think her fetish has a lot to with her history as an abuse victim.

    2. Why are people being so zealous in their protection of her when she’s criticized? She’s not some coquettish, fragile China doll–you’d know this if you’ve read her Twitter or seen candid videos of her. Just because I don’t don’t want to hear about sexual turn ons and don’t think she should be talking about them publicly doesn’t mean a) I’m a Chris Brown stan, b)jealous, c)a prude, or d)a misogynist.

    I couldn’t care less if other mainstream female celebrities have shared their turn ons and fetishes, it still isn’t something that should be shared publicly. If S&M/BDSM turns you on, fine, but call me old fashioned, I think people (women AND men) should have some mystery. Given her sexualized on-stage image, but especially because she was attacked by Chris Brown, she should have kept this to herself. A-holes are just going to use this to say she deserved getting beaten and/or was probably turned on by it.

  73. sasa says:

    Provoking and deserving ARE two different things however the definition of “provoke” is to be the cause of a negative reaction (make angry). When you say she provoked him you are implying she was the cause of a negative reaction. When you count in just how extreme Chris Brown’s reaction was and measure everything up- in that context “provoking” becomes “deserving”. Words less strong become insufficient because of how severe the situation was.

    “Just because I don’t don’t want to hear about sexual turn ons and don’t think she should be talking about them publicly doesn’t mean a) I’m a Chris Brown stan, b)jealous, c)a prude, or d)a misogynist.”

    Consider simply not reading about her sexual turn ons if it bothers you. No one is calling you those names. Well, except maybe prude but I don’t think it’s a negative thing, just a personality trait. I’m a prude in my private life.

    I’m personally bothered by stories about people who’s claim to fame is a sex tape or self destruction (drugs, booze..) or fame whoring your kids. So I make sure not to read those stories and I don’t click on the Kardashians, Lohans, Charlie Sheen and similar threads. If it bothers you, don’t endorse it.

  74. Clavin says:

    Her last tour suffered from poor ticket sales. This is all a hype job to generate interest and make Rihanna seem more relevant and interesting than she actually is in the hope it’ll drive ticket sales for the summer tour season. That’s how desperate the music business is these days.

  75. mymy says:

    I don’t think talking about what you like sexually is a very interesting angle. It has been over done. Being cutting edge now would entail not talking about your sex life.
    Why is it considered necessary in this day and age? We are saturated with everything sexual and noting spiritual. It is harmful to teens.When there is nothing but this.
    We already had the sexual revolution. It’s done. We all have sex and woman are not hung up about it anymore. Give it up.
    It is no longer empowering. In fact it is the reverse. Who the heck needs to know about her dildo purchases.
    She looks cheap and easy.
    Love the one eyes shot again. Vogue had one. Illuminati bull

  76. Theresa says:

    @Rita: You are disgusting. Just because a woman likes to be spanked does not mean she deserves to be beaten. That is like saying that a woman who likes sex deserves to be raped.

    I can only hope this was a poor attempt at humor. For future reference… not funny.

  77. vanessa says:

    While I don’t find anything wrong with women talking about their sexuality, the fact that she likes s&m is very telling considering her history of abuse and witnessing the abuse of her mother. It is probably her way of feeling in control, being submissive by choice instead of being forced to submit.

  78. sasa says:

    @mymy
    I disagree that we had a sexual revolution and now it’s done. If only it worked that way.

    First to note there are parts of the world where sexual revolution is an unknown term. But even when I put that aside, women are still treated as objects on daily basis pretty much everywhere. Which is not going to just disappear. So actually the only logical step for improving the situation is giving more and more objects a face and a brain. It makes sense. You embrace being objectified but don’t play into the typical role of a cute brainless girl but actually say something about what you think and what you like.

    Yes it has been done before and Riri is in no way original but it still hasn’t been done enough. When a new girl comes along who is smart enough to play it in an original way I will be very pleased. But for now there is Riri and there are girls who tried to address it in an ironical way like Katy Perry and Lady Gaga.

    Katy is very subtle in differentiating between when she is playing up sexy for real and when she’s doing it in an ironical way. She just goes over most people’s heads in that regard, mine included.

    Lady Gaga goes for the shock aspect of sex, she’s like Madonna in that regard. People probably see her more as a project than as a woman.

  79. Crystalline says:

    I don’t see why anyone is assuming she likes BDSM as a result of abuse or that its unhealthy for her, as if victims are forbidden from an entire section of sexuality. I am a victim, and have met others with similar views, and I actually find it very empowering to do BDSM, but its not the sole reason why I enjoy it. For all we know, Rihanna could feel the same and its no one’s place to dictate to victims what fetishes are appropriate for them.

    As for whether she should be discussing it like this, I agree that this can be very easily misunderstood and that she should’ve been more careful. As wonderful as it is to see her being a strong, sexual woman after going through that, I would’ve preferred she kept quiet about the details of her sex life.

  80. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    @Theresa, I’ve read enough of her posts to know that Rita is in no way being serious.

  81. GeekLuva says:

    Zoe & Sasa:
    ITA. As a victim of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse from important men and not so important men in my life (Mostly all at very young ages.) I can realize the ‘rough sex’ that my fiancee and I partake in, in no way validates any of the disgusting behavior that some scum find acceptable.

  82. Allison says:

    ….and the world needs to know this because…..????

    TMI, Rihanna. TMI. Leave a little mystery, have a little class. I cant stand these attention hungry people thinking the world should know their every thought and preference.

  83. Patt says:

    TMI (I mean the article, not any of the posters)

  84. Hakura says:

    @NayNay“What goes on behind closed doors should be kept quiet. Especially, after what CB did to you. Girl needs to keep her mouth shut.”

    I completely disagree, & am shocked that so many do. This isn’t an interview for Bop or Seventeen magazine, & if you don’t care for the subject matter of her interview… stop reading it?

    Being open about sexuality & how it effects the choices she makes in her career & personal life isn’t TMI.

    I don’t think she should be expected to do anything differently simply because of what he did to her, which includes the way she runs her private life. There’s a HUGE difference between the light-kink she described, & what CB did to her. Anyone with half a brain should be able to see that.

    @Vanessa” It is probably her way of feeling in control, being submissive by choice instead of being forced to submit.

    I agree completely. I always viewed these as a method for her to be in control of her life after what she went through before making her feel powerless. She’s been around abuse so much that she seems to understand where it comes from.
    Re: changing restraining order – I think she just wants to be finished with him & that chapter. I don’t blame her, really.

  85. Ana says:

    She has a mental problem and needs the help of a psychiatrist not an interview. I won’t be surprised if she commits suicide anytime soon, cause she’s depressed. Just talking from my point of view as a Doctor.

  86. Ana says:

    And even in this interview, she sounds like someone who wants people to pity her. She’s got all the money she wants, fame and still she doesn’t have the inner peace. She’s moving too fast and very soon she might be crashing, if she doesn’t slow down. She needs God in her life, more than anything else.

  87. Vickyb says:

    Ugh. Actually, I really like the hair, I think it’s fun, but she’s soooooo tedious. So boring and contrived and trashy. ‘I like it rough, I shop in sex shops, I’m dark, I like tattoos, yeah – give me whips and chains and tie me up, big boy’.

    Definitely true that those who talk incessantly about how ‘exotic’ they are in bed turn out to be the most vanilla. She’s a young girl but all the trash is oooooold.

  88. Enny says:

    I’m not buying it, Rihanna. You’ve been out multiple times with Colin Farrell and you’re NOT hitting that? Sure. Okay.

  89. Hakura says:

    @Ana“She has a mental problem and needs the help of a psychiatrist not an interview… I won’t be surprised if she commits suicide anytime soon, cause she’s depressed. Just talking from my point of view as a Doctor… She needs God in her life, more than anything else.”

    I fail to see anything at all that suggests she’s depressed or ‘likely to ‘commit suicide’. I can’t speak as to whether or not she has a ‘mental problem‘, & neither can you. Being suicidal or accusing someone of that is a serious thing.

    All due respect… It sounds to me more like you (personally) dislike her behavior (Her openness with her sexuality in clothing, music, & her personal life ) due to the fact that they don’t match your ideals. But that certainly doesn’t mean she has a ‘problem’ of any sort, mentally or otherwise. Just because someone’s opinions are different doesn’t mean they must have a ‘mental problem’.

  90. sasa says:

    @Hakura
    I was also shocked at the number of people who have a problem with Rihanna talking sexuality. I didn’t even see it coming.

    For me, that’s about the only interesting thing she has done- the fact she didn’t succumb to the victim role and to people’s expectations of what the victim of violence should or should not be talking about.

    I also find it interesting when people say: oh, those who talk sex, they are the most boring lay ever. Maybe they are maybe they aren’t, so what? Do you think that somebody talking sex is a personal add directed precisely to you, that you feel the need to respond to it? What the hell does it matter if she is good or bad at sex in her personal life? It’s not your life and you won’t have to deal with it. Only if so many of you are actually planning to bang Rihanna.

  91. jessica says:

    she is really sexy and beautiful and pretty i love her songs lol :)

  92. Lydia says:

    Wow! It must feel great to be such self righteous prudes. So she talks about what she likes sexually, so what!

    Obviously the excerpts that RS would release would be the sex talk and not the stuff having to do with her music. It is not rocket science.

  93. Hakura says:

    @Sasa” the fact she didn’t succumb to the victim role and to people’s expectations of what the victim of violence should or should not be talking about.”

    I really was surprised. You make a very good point about how victims are expected to behave. Society imposes all these rules on what’s appropriote & politically correct for a victim, thus making it much harder to heal & move forward with their life.

    Victims are to become ‘shrinking violets’ because of their experiences… Why the hell should she be expected to change her life/habits/preferences because of what someone else did to her? So she can’t like the things she used to, can’t be rough or confident, but he’s welcome to go back out & be the same asshole he was before?

    So what if she enjoys latex & a smack on the rear, it’s disgusting to see anyone drawing comparisons between THAT & what was done to her by CB. She’s in complete control of her sex life… She had NO control in that car. (End rant xD I get so annoyed by this sort of thing)

  94. JuneJulyAugust says:

    First: Read the article. These quotes really don’t reflect the story, which was pretty well written.

    Second: Are you kidding me, keep your sexual preferences to yourself? They asked her a question in relation to the song and she agreed that it was true to her feelings. Is it really that perverse? I mean come on, so the girl likes to get tied up? If you read her explanation its because she has to be in control of her career all the time and likes the role reversal. Its really not that racy.

  95. Aspie says:

    @ Zoe:

    “How does liking S&M make you a bad role model? Why should she have to restrict herself when other celebrities don’t have to, or even in light of the Chris Brown incident? Sorry, people, but there’s a big difference between a consensual sexual activity with someone you trust vs. getting the daylights beaten out of you for real and someone trying to kill you. You don’t have to be abused or even damaged to enjoy S&M, especially for a woman like Rihanna used to being in such a powerful position, I can understand why she likes to be on the receiving end sometimes. There’s a difference between a spanking and a beating, I should think people would be intelligent enough to see the difference. I can’t believe anyone is giving her a hard time about this. She’s a grown woman and adult, she can talk about anything she wants. She’s also a singer, not a politician. She doesn’t need to have an agenda or standard she lives up to just for your benefit. Good for her for being honest and owning it.”

    -ITA

  96. Hunchback Geek says:

    We didn’t need to know this. She should have thought her words through before blurting out this statement. Bad choice.

  97. Hakura says:

    @HunchbackGeek – Not to sound argumentative (As I’ve already given my opinion here), but I honestly think she said exactly what she wanted to say. Not everyone has to like it, of course, but disliking the subject matter doesn’t mean she’s wrong in saying it.