Jeff Bridges’ advice for a long marriage: “Lots and lots of good love making.”

Jeff Bridges has been married to his wife Susan Geston for 34 years. They have three daughters: Isabelle, 30, Jessica, 28, and Hayley, 25, and just welcomed their first granddaughter earlier this year. So when Jeff Bridges gives marital advice he knows what he’s talking about and he lives it every day. This is a faithful man who has only been married once to the same good woman and who also happens to be a Hollywood legend.

Last year I covered a really nice piece on Jeff in which he compared working through marital problems to exercising. (That story has more background on how he met his wife and proposed too.) In a new interview with Life Goes Strong, Bridges gives some more advice for having a healthy relationship for the long haul. I imagine him saying this in that awesome voice of his and my heart just melts a little. He also reveals that all the clothes he wore in the Big Lebowski were his and that he still has some of them!

On his low-key attitude
“I think my casual style came from being with my father Lloyd Bridges. I’m a second-generation actor. I saw my father go through all the fame.

“My Dad loved show biz and all the different aspects of it, but he wasn’t a Hollywood type of guy dressing up and going to all the parties.”

“I take my cue from him when it comes to running my life,” he says. “I don’t go around all dressed up with a bunch of bodyguards going, ‘Look at me. I’m a movie star!’”

“I’m just Jeff,” he says.

What he’s kept from his films
“I did this animated movie called ‘Surf’s Up’ and they gave me a stuffed penguin with a remote control. I push the buttons and the penguin farts,” Bridges says. “That’s in my office. A farting penguin! I also have the helmet from ‘Tron’ and all those clothes from ‘The Big Lebowski.’”

OK, here’s the big style reveal.

“They were mine in the first place,” he says, laughing. “I think they’re somewhere in the laundry hamper in my house right now.”

You can call him “The Dude” anytime
“Hey, I never get tired of being called The Dude because it reminds me of one of my favorite films of all time and working with the great Coen brothers,” he says. “They make it look so easy like you’re just there and falling off a log. But it’s really their mastery that’s behind the art.”

He loves to surf
“I’m really into surfing,” he says. “I surfed all the time when I was young and then I went through 25 years where I didn’t do it at all.

“It’s never too late,” he says. “You can start something again at any age. Five years ago, I picked up a board and headed for the ocean.

“It’s just the greatest thing on earth,” he says. “All I can say about surfing is you get out there in the ocean and it’s the most relaxing moments. It doesn’t even matter if you do it well. Just being out there makes the rest of the world just melt away.”

Jeff’s marital advice
“You just have to be in love. He’s your guy. You’re his girl. You need to be best friends and really think of each other as the other half and take advantage of that fact,” he says. “You need to love each other and share your feelings.”

“Give each other what you want to be given including space to be with your own person. Also, don’t try to mold each other into someone else,” he says. “That goes for the men, too. Don’t try to change the ladies.”

“Oh, I have one more bit of marital advice,” he says, chuckling. “Lots and lots of good love making.”

[From Life Goes Strong]

Jeff Bridges is just a great guy and he’s naturally cool as hell, he’s not trying to be something he’s not and he’s not all flash and talk. He has a new album out, Be Here Soon, which has a kind of country style, similar to his character in Crazy Heart.

Oh I should talk about the sex thing. I’m not naming names, but I know a couple that has been together longer than that and has sex more than I would have imagined. Like my mouth was hanging open when I heard how much. It’s surprising to me how much some older married couples are still hot for each other, I find that really heartening.




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  1. brin says:

    A testimony to what a great guy he is, and surrounded by women who keep him in line (lol). I love him, he’s talented and real.

  2. Thea says:

    It is time he got recognized for his work. I love him. He is a good actor. A good man. I think his dad is awesome too.

  3. Eve says:

    I don’t think it’d be difficult to have lots and lots of sex with him — it’d be like having sex with a sexy Santa (win-win, if you ask me!).

  4. Quest says:

    He is the real macoy…luv him

  5. Joan says:

    “I’m just Jeff.” That is why I love him. Great actor, wonderful guy. I dig how he keeps it real. Looking forward to the album!

  6. Hibiscus says:

    Totally love Jeff Bridges.

    One of my favourite actors and Hollywood persons.

    Why can’t I have a husband like him?

  7. Sloane Wyatt says:

    Hahaha. Wife Susan looks loved up!

    I especially like that picture with Jeff’s Oscar and his hand on Susan’s back, and his expression is pure ‘I’m getting a piece of that when I get home’!

    He’s right on about the secret to a good marriage is hot sex, as much as you can get.

  8. amurph says:

    And this is why I love Jeff Bridges. He’s just so relaxed and cool.

    Gives you some little ray of ‘awww’ in the acting world where every day you hear about who slept with who and who cheated on who. He’s been with his wife for almost 30 years!

  9. gee says:

    I need to find one like him. I love him to pieces!

  10. Honey B says:

    I want a marriage like that too.

  11. Jayna says:

    He gave an interview years ago about how. He met his wife and went back and found this girl with a black eye he met while passing thru town. He went back and found her and swooped her off with him to California. It was the coolest story. He then lived with her for years but wouldn’t marry until finally she really pushed it so he did. He said it’s a huge regret he made her wait because she’s the love of his life and didn’t deserve his foot dragging for so long.

  12. Faye says:

    I love him, he’s just so cool.

  13. Tiffany says:

    @ Jayna, I remember him talking about when he and his wife were going through a rough patch and he was thinking about calling it quits. He went to talk with his Father and it and Lloyd basically put his foot up his ass and told him that he loves her, marriage is not easy and go and fight to keep her. Yeah, the Bridges men were/are something.

  14. Melissa says:

    Love him. Such a great man.

  15. Harley says:

    I absolutely love him. He’s always been sexy, but the way he talks about his marriage makes him even hotter! *swoon* And talent in spades! Sigh…

  16. Jenna says:

    I must have grown up very oddly… because I just can’t twist my head around why so many folks seems surprised that older couples are still hot to trot for each other.

    EVERYONE in my family knew, from about 3 on, you knocked before entering ANY room in ANY family home/garage/potting shed/TREEHOUSE.

    Only take see greatgramma and greatgrampa getting freaky once to drill that lesson home. (Also drills the need to lysol flat surfaces before you eat if you left the room for a bit. I’m no prude, but that half set dinner table for Christmas was a bit… much. All I’m saying.

  17. MJ says:

    Love him! His wife is beautiful.

    When my hubby and I got married almost 4 years ago, some friends of mine (who have been married over 12 years and are just 34 years old) told us that the best advice they could share was to “always sleep naked.”

  18. Forever says:

    Ahhh I want to have this….

  19. Original Tiffany says:

    He’s awesome! I love him and I love the way he and his wife look together.

    He’s right about marriage, learn to live with your spouse and their behaviors, give space where needed…and have lots of great sex. After 22 years with my hubby, it’s still an almost everyday occurrence. Besides, it’s almost impossible to stay mad at someone when you are getting it every night:)

  20. Praise St. Angie! says:

    LOVE this man, and LOVED his dad.

    “It’s go time!”
    -Izzy Mandelbaum

    Friend of mine had the luck to meet him in a bar the night of the Oscars and said he was, truly, just “the dude” in a tux.

  21. DreamyK says:

    Nice interview.

    Jane Fonda and Ted Turner are no longer together but when they were, I read that they banged it out 5 times a day.

  22. Denise says:

    Lovely man; I have been a fan since I first saw him in Jagged Edge. A refreshing story admists all of the cracked out, fame whoring nonsense.

  23. original kate says:

    no wonder his wife always looks so happy.

  24. Alipop says:

    I have known these two for a while, and they’re honestly SO real and down to earth. They are both lucky to have each other.

  25. the original bellaluna says:

    LOVE him! He’s classic and classy. And he’s right. And I loved him Surf’s Up.

  26. Chloeeee says:

    i love this man. i want to be his best friend. best celebrity of all time, man. no lebowski pun intended but it worked.

  27. Penguen says:

    LOVE him.

    Have any of you guys seen the Last Unicorn? Awesome animated film based on the book by Peter S. Beagle. It came out in ’82 (Mia Farrow and Christopher Lee were also in it). Jeff Bridges voiced the character of Prince Lir – and he sang! It’s still one of my favorites, and I’ve loved Jeff Bridges ever since I saw it as a kid.

  28. fizXgirl314 says:

    DAMN! Why did you have to say that? Now my day is disrupted by thoughts of Jeff Bridges getting down… He’s so damn cool… agh, MUST FOCUS!

  29. Meadowlark says:

    I always scare my mom by uncontrollably blurting out how sexually attracted I am to Jeff Bridges whenever we see a movie of his. “He’s your grandfather’s age!” I just shrug.

  30. Anna says:

    He’s the guy every man should look up to.

  31. Mary Jane says:

    Truly a testament to Lloyd and Dorothy Bridges’ parenting. I heard Beau is also a great guy.
    I would love to smoke a doobie with The Dude (“I’m just Jeff.” YUM!)

  32. Kosmos says:

    It’s great that there are some totally authentic and down to earth people making films. I remember Jeff from his early acting years and wow, he was so handsome and had that totally masculine sex appeal. His father, Lloyd Bridges, was a good man and a great mentor. We should be thankful for Jeff. He does not need to be showy or be anyone other than himself. Compare that to many of the celebrities out there who need so much attention and adulation. Jeff is his own person. He makes movies because he enjoys doing them and does not depend on this for a sense of identity.

  33. mooshi says:

    Complete daddy crush. Yummy.

  34. AnnieC says:

    Talk about a real man living the best life possible and enjoying every simple and pure moment of it!!

    These reality “stars” should take a page from his book.

  35. Laura says:

    Talk about getting better with age. Love, love, love this man!!

  36. karma says:

    Seriously? Nobody’s going to bring up the fact that he’s admitted to having cheated on his wife? I love Jeff as much as the next person but I almost can’t believe this article made it onto the site.

  37. Camille says:

    He’s my ‘older man’ crush :D .

    I adore him and I think he is still gorgeous.