Teen Mom Farrah leaves daughter with her abusive mother for months (spoilers)

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I haven’t been watching Teen Mom this season, but I saw the second season and Farrah Abraham, 20, is one of the more troubled moms. Farrah has a difficult relationship with her mother, Debra, who has been abusive to her and was arrested for assault. Farrah is also a neglectful mom to her two year-old daughter, Sophia. On the show we saw little Sophia fall off a bed when Farrah left her alone, and turn on the hot water and burn herself when Farrah left her unattended in the sink.

Some of you have commented that Farrah is disrespectful to her mom and that they have a mutually dysfunctional relationship, which is true. However, Farrah is just 20 and was only a teenager when the show was filmed while Debra is a nasty mean adult. We can safely assume Farrah’s mom has been treating her terribly for years, probably since she was a little girl. Debra does seem to love her granddaughter Sophia, though, and is sweet and loving to her while openly snubbing Farrah.

This is all background to this story that Farrah is going to school in Florida and left her daughter Sophia in Debra’s care. I don’t give a whit about Farrah or her mom, but this is sad for Sophia. It’s good that Farrah is getting an education, but she makes over $250k a year on Teen Mom. She can afford childcare, no matter what fiction they’re trying to spin on that show. It’s clear from what she tells Life & Style that she just wants her freedom.

Farrah… made the decision to turn Sophia over to the care of her mother… In fact, while Farrah’s been attending school in Fort Lauderdale for the past few months, the vulnerable toddler has been 1,600 miles away, living with Debra in Council Bluffs, Iowa. For now, Debra has become Sophia’s primary caregiver.

Farrah frames her choice (revealed on the Sept. 20 finale) as the right one for her and Sophia. What the child needs, she insists, is a stable home life, not a single mom buried in homework. “My mom is the best grandma,” Farrah tells Life & Style. “I want her to be there for Sophia when I need to take care of my responsibilities, my education, and earning and income for both of us.”

[From Life & Style, print edition, September 26, 2011]

Meanwhile Farrah isn’t just hunkering down studying in Florida, of course. As Life & Style reports she’s been “dating, showing off her bikini body [ed note: and new boobs] and making new friends.” She also went to NY fashion week and bought herself a new puppy in May. This really pissed me off! She left her daughter with her mother and got herself a freaking dog! She also tells Life & StyleI’ve been trying to grow personally and emotionally. I’m very much taking time to get back to myself and enjoy my freedom… I don’t want to limit myself or Sophia.”

Farrah wants to party and not have a little kid to take care of. She can walk a dog a couple times a day, but she doesn’t have the emotional maturity to care for a child. That was abundantly clear on Teen Mom. I doubt Debra has it either, although she probably pays more attention to Sophia.

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  1. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    “why she gave up her baby”

    answer: because she’s a self absorbed twat.

    This disgusts me. If she was all about the education, she would attend a college close to her parents and leave Sophia with her mom while she studied and attended classes. Also, Universities in Fla. aren’t exactly known for academics.

  2. Delta Juliet says:

    WTF….stories like this make me want to slap someone. She’s not fit to be a mother and she should have given that little girl to a couple who WANTED to have a baby to love and care for.

  3. Jezi says:

    Totally disgusting. I was actually really impressed lately watching her with her daughter. She seemed to genuinely be doing a decent job and with her all of the time. My issue is, she can certainly get an education where she was, there is no need to move to Florida. When she chose to have Sophia, then she chose to have to change her life according to and around her daughter. That’s just the sacrifices you make as a mother. Your life is secondary to theirs. No reason she couldn’t continue her education where she was. She just wants to live like a teenager and that isn’t fair to Sophia. However, I do think her mother will do a much better job raising Sophia then she ever did Farrah. Hopefully!!! Farrah and her parents clearly have issues. I just think that she blames her mother for many of her issues and if that’s the case, why leave your daughter with the woman who you think screwed you up?

  4. the original bellaluna says:

    Farrah claims her mom was so terrible to her, but she leaves her daughter in her mom’s care?

    Perpetuating cycle much?

    Farrah is also abusive, verbally. If I attempted to talk to my mom that way, she’d have slapped the taste out of my mouth. And MY mom doesn’t believe in hitting kids!!!

    • Tasha Perez says:

      I too agree with this comment. Farrahs parents try to tell her how they feel and she talks to them like crap! she says she is grown up then talk like u have respect and not like such a whiney brat. Be grateful u have parents that care about u! and yes, if ur mom is so bad then why would u leave ur daughter with her??? I just think ur a spoiled brat!!!

  5. the original bellaluna says:

    Oh, and Farrah’s mother ENCOURAGED her to consider adoption due to her age and what she wanted in life.

    Dumbass should have listened. She’s a spoilt brat who had no business having a child.

    ETA: She reminds me of exactly what she is/was: an immature, angry brat who takes out her bad mood on everyone around her, to make them suffer as well.

  6. Melinda says:

    I don’t think this story is true. This is Life & Style after all. She has been pictured with Sophia several times over the past few months with Sophia in FL. Maybe she left her with Debra while she got settled temporarily?

  7. Lucinda says:

    I don’t know. It might be better for Sofia that her grandparents are raising her. Farrah’s mom seems to have gotten her emotions under control (at least for the cameras) and they seem to being doing a lot of the parenting anyway. Farrah clearly loves Sofia but she doesn’t seem to have the maturity to deal with having a baby all the time. And let’s try to be fair here, she was 16 when she got pregnant and the father of the child died before she had the child. I congratulate people who are mature enough to deal with that sort of a situation, but I don’t think everyone has the tools or maturity at that age.

    I don’t love Farrah, or the franchise in general, but I think a lot of these decisions are reflective of how young these girls are.

  8. faye says:

    dead eyes.

  9. grace says:

    she looks pregnant in the last photo – hiding in the dress and under a scarf?

  10. jc126 says:

    She dumped the last puppy she got on this season’s show. She put it in diapers and never bothered to try to train it; fortunately a neighbor adopted him. Idiot.

    I’m very surprised she left Sophia with her mother. I don’t think her mom is as bad as some think, but who knows. She’s going to some dumb for-profit ripoff school.

  11. YoursTruely says:

    I dont understand why everyone thinks Farah mother is so awful, mean etc…I think she is too nice to Farah if anything…am I the only one that notices how Farah speaks to her mother??? If i was her mother I would smack her around a few times as well Farah shows her parents NO respect unless it deals with something she wants…..

  12. Iggles says:

    Not surprised. I’m sick of the Teen Mom girls. All of them. It’s time for the cameras to stop rolling.

    I do like the Teen Mom 2 ones a bit more, even though they’re clearly dysfunctional too. Jenelle is reality tv gold!

    But even the more responsible TM 1 girl – Maci – is too hollywood now. And Amber sickens me!

    YoursTruely – I agree! I feel bad for HER having Farrah as her kid! She’s so rude and disrepectful!

  13. It is ME!! says:

    There are plenty of excellent schools in Iowa…and even in the MidWest…much closer to her daughter and her family.

    And your “freedom” ends the minute you bring a child into the world. They depend on you, and you need to be there for them.

    With so many options concerning birth control, you would think these girls would manage to avoid getting pregnant.

  14. The Original Ashley says:

    What happened to the dog on the show? She abandoned that one too?

    This is so sad for Sophia. Debra seems nuts. I can’t be the only one who is creeped out by her always calling her “my baby” and constantly taking her away from Farrah. It’s some Hand that Rocks the Cradle type stuff.

    Farrah is a brat but I can see her mom making it hard for her to move (like she did when she was house hunting in AZ), but also waxing on how great it would be for Farrah if she could give her rights to her.

    She’s certifiable. That poor kid is going to have one tough life. One can only hope that Debra doesn’t become abusive once Sophia moves from the cute baby stage into teenager. She’s not only passive aggressive but she plays some weird head games. Sophia doesn’t need that (in addition to her absentee mother and her dead father).

    I hope this means Farrah is no longer on Teen Mom. You can’t get be on a tv show for teenage mothers when you pawn your kid off.

  15. The Original Ashley says:

    YoursTruely – Rewatch 16&P and season 1 of Teen mom and then watch the seasons after, Debra is clearly putting a show on for the cameras. It’s hard to watch. She must have read all the bad press and she tries to present this zen like calm but you can see she’s livid underneath. I’m sure it all comes out when the cameras stop.

    I can;t stand Farrah either but I don’t think you can go 18 years of having an abusive mother and not feel animosity towards them (in addition to all of the other mental problems Farrah has. Clearly she was never allowed to express her pain when her boyfriend died. Her mother never allowed her too).

    It’s telling that her older sister doesn’t have a relationship with Debra either. Unlike Farrah though she’s made it on her own and can kick Debra (and Michael, who is also clearly abused aw well) out of her life.

  16. Jamie says:

    The best thing that Farrah could have done was excuse herself from her daughters life…

    We know she will never change, so staying behind and pretending to go through the motions would only cause her to become more bitter and resentful and that is a perfect storm into abuse.

    Farrah’s mother is an excellent choice. Give that little girl a fighting chance and beating the odds and not becoming a statistic.

  17. GreenGirl789 says:

    Actually, there have been conflicting stories about this. Some websites have her taking sophia and others have her leaving her with her mom. On Starcasm.net, they say that she left her for a week and her mom brought her to Florida.

  18. Cleo says:

    waitaminute, how does she look like littleloca from youtube in 3/4 profile?

  19. Truthful says:

    sorry but if Farrah were MY daughter and I was doing all I could to help her..and she spoke to me or my husband in the tone that she uses.

    I would bust her in the mouth too.

    I was never hit in my life but I knew and cared about how far to go with my elders.

  20. Isa says:

    They are both dysfunctional. Which came first? The batsh!t crazy mother or the disrespectful teen? Guess we’ll never know.

  21. Jen says:

    Well, if she actually graduates from a good school in florida, then I applaud her, regardless of whether or not she leaves her child in her GRANDMOTHERS care. Personally, I think she’s the teen mom with the most going on for herself, she just has a lot of growing up (and therapy) to do. GO FARRAH!

  22. Nudgie says:

    “Farrah wants to party and not have a little kid to take care of.”

    Remind you of anyone? Hello???

    Get ready for part 2 of “Zanny the Nanny” and chloroform…

  23. Isa says:

    She looks kind of like Lady Gaga with out the get up. Right?

    Anyway, I have to applaud her for going to school and releasing that the checks from reality t.v. aren’t going to be coming in forever. (Hello Kate Gosselin!)

    But two thumbs down for leaving her daughter behind. She can go to school and put her daughter in daycare! She doesn’t even have to work!

    I wish I could pick up my family and move (and I could with the money she makes!) and take them the college two and a half hours away it will take me to finish school. I drove it last Fall five days a week and worked 3 and it was not fun! Especially since I was a Biology major and two of my classes had labs. People do it all the time without abandoning their kids!

  24. JaneWonderfalls says:

    I don’t think Farrah’s mom is abusive. Farrah is an annoying c*&t. She never listens when her mom tries to offer advice. You have a daughter and the first thing you do is go get breast implants, what about saving money for a place of her own, college for Sofia etc.

  25. jennica says:

    I do not normally post on websites but felt compelled to do so in this case. Teen Mom is a despicable show, I do not know who this girl is, but all I can say is she left her child in the care of her mother. The other option could be more horrible. Do we want to see another Casey Anthony trial? This girl is a child and would rather party then care for her responsibilities. If I were the grandparents I would fight for custody.

  26. Jana Goodwin says:

    Farrah is, by far, the MOST annoying, selfish, disrespectful, self-centered brat I have ever seen on TV…her nasel toned, robotic voice is like nails on a chalkboard. Anyone who saw the episode where she tried to potty train the puppy by putting it on the toilet, knows she has no business owning a dog, let alone raising a baby.

  27. Sunnyjyl says:

    Farrah’s mom seems like a psychopath to me. I wouldn’t leave a stuffed animal in her care. This is disturbing. Poor Sophia.

  28. jlo1982 says:

    she bought ANOTHER dog?!didn’t she just giev that other one to her neighbor because she was over it?

  29. liz says:

    I have to agree with the person who made the casey anothony comment. It may seem like a bad think farrah left sophia with grandma, but honestly if Farrah is all about herself and partying, Grandma is the best place for her. Even tho grandma is a little unstable herself, Sophia is probably better off with her anyway. This show just stinks now. These girls make way too much money and now think they are celebrities. I personally think they should NOT get paid.

  30. Jenn says:

    Farrah’s Mom is CRAZY!! The ONLY reason she wanted Farrah to leave Sophia is because SHE would miss her… it was a totally selfish reason and not because she thought it was “right” for Farrah or Sophia. That woman is totally nuts and I would act like Farrah too if I had a Mother like that.

  31. Paula Rodriguez says:

    Farah is so damn annoying. She is ungrateful and disrespects her parents all the time. She talks to them like she is the adult and they are children. She is blessed that she has parents who help her. The sad part is that it will be no big change to Sophia when she leaves because Sophias mom is the one who actually takes care of Sophia most of the time. Its really all about Farah and what she wants (ei braces, unneeded brest implants). Really your a mother now and your child should come first. Your the one who decided to open your legs and get pregnant so now you need to learn how to be responsible and be an adult because the past 2 years you have still acted like a childish teenager. Oh and one more thing crying has never accomplished a thing. GROW UP!

  32. lynnie c says:

    soooo… sad… I am a full time student, I have a 3.7 gpa and I take care of my daugther! It’s possible. theres so many options now w/ online classes and night classes you can be a full time great mommy with a bachelors degreee!!!!!!!!!! I feel so badly for that baby who is missing out on a mom!

  33. alyssa says:

    omg farrah really what are you thinking i mean literally that was really flipin stupid

  34. Emily says:

    Farrah is awful! She is a spoiled brat who is awful to her parents! She doesn’t even call her father, dad. I can understand why she wants to move to Florida. Her mother is so controlling and micro-managing. If she was my Mother, I would want to flee too. But if her excuse for treating them so bad is because they are so awful to her, then why is she going to leave her daughter with them? Why doesn’t she just make a clean break to Florida WITH her daughter?

  35. LA Walters says:

    Seriously? Farrah says she is doing this for her daughter? Which part, the boob job, the braces or the abandoning her? She claims she is doing to for their future last time I checked none of those things are for a child’s future. She already has one degree and makes MORE then enough money off Teen Mom. So why wouldn’t you use the schooling you have to get a part time job, spend the rest of your time with your child and wait until Sophia is in school to finish your education? She is already 3, in 2 years she will be in school full time and Farrah will have MORE then enough time to finish her schooling. Because she is an ungrateful, spoiled, selfish brat! (thats putting it nicely!) Sad part is Sophia not having either of her parents. And Farrah is goin to regret it later when she realizes what she has lost n missed out on, if she ever grows up bc you can never get that time back!

  36. Billie says:

    It is obvious that you do not watch the show at all if you think Farrah is that awful of a mother. I think she and maci are the most mature out of all of the Teen Moms and they do their best to care for their kids. Also,She bought the puppy FOR Sophia. Every one deserves to be happy, we don’t know everything that is going on with her. This article is cruel on a number of levels.

    • Lisa says:

      Billie – her parents bought the baby, not Farrah! Macie & Farrah are my least favorite, Caitlyn & Tyler rule. Farrah is such a brat, it makes me not enoy the show, but hope the best for Tyler & Caitlyn. Farrah just needs to learn how to show respect on national TV, especially when her parents pay the bills, but they are to blame for raising her that way.

  37. Kelsey says:

    As a teen mom myself I feel that Farrah should have stayed with her child instead of abandoning her. I would neve even think of going 1,600 miles from my daughter. I support her and she always comes first in my life. Her father is not around anymore just like sophia’s father ins’t around. I still take care of her. I guess that just goes to show that not all teen mothers aren’t horrible.

  38. Anahi says:

    i honestly think farrah has come along way.. 16 & pregnant, yes she acted childish.. but on teen mom she has matured and acted more like a mom. Butshe is young and has had a hard life.. it is hard to be a teen parent when you parents critizing you all the time.. she is very disrespectful to her parents but at the same time her mom isnt so nice.. i give farrah props being a single mom with no babydaddy.. and if she wants to go to school to try and get an education to make a future for her and her daughter i dont see nothing wrong with that.. becoming a fulltime student and taking care of a kid is really hard.. and i dont believe farrah is abandoning her kid.. she is trying to focus on her schooling so her and her daughter can have a good life.. her daughter is still young..

  39. Sarah says:

    To all of those saying that Sophia is ‘still young’ and ‘won’t even remeber this’ you are so painfully wrong. That child is at the pivotal point in her life where solid, strong emotional attachment is as important as eating or breathing. For her mother to walk out now will be damaging beyond belief to all aspects of her development. I just hope that she has a strong attachment with her grandmother to counterbalance her mother leaving…

  40. Lisa says:

    Farrah is the worst of them all, unselfish and ungrateful! She is a spoiled brat & treats her parents disrespectful on TV. No mother/daughter relationship is perfect, but she is a cry baby and no it all; no kuddos for me. Moving to Florida and now wanting to give up your child all to lay with another man! Horrible! Get an education close to home & get a job! I love the show, but not watching Farrah! Tyler & Caitlyn are the bomb!

  41. ashley says:

    Farrah attitude is horrible. She dhows no respect for her mom or dad and when.I see her on Teen Mom she makes me sick. I can already see her daughter taking after her unacceptable behavior.

  42. Ronda says:

    Farrah is such a Bitch… I’m sure her mother has not been the best, but I’m so sick of her disrespecting her… They didn’t have to help her at all… Many parents let their children know that their children are their own… I wish someone would really help her to see how extremely nasty her attitude towards both parents is portrayed… She doesn’t seem to understand that Sophia will grow up one day and spew the same behavior towards her…

  43. Lindy says:

    Farrah is such a spoiled brat!!! She is very pretty, but that is gone when her personality kicks in.
    I think her parents need to back off & let her learn what the real world is about.
    God help any guy who ends up with her.

    She will learn, hope she doesn’t destroy her daughter in the process. Hope she gets help so her daughter doesn’t grow up to be a self centered brat like her mom!!!

  44. MomofTwo says:

    I think Farah is extremely disrespectful to her parents. I’d probably get physical with her if she constantly disrespected me. She is a terrible mom, an immature brat that needs to grow up.

  45. Brandi says:

    I just can’t believe you people are being so hard on her just because her daughters staying with her grandmother… and you’re all saying debra abuses farrah… Farrahs a fucking bitch. Constantly. Forever being short tempered with her mother and with sophia! Let the girl simmer down some and get her school shit done then maybe just maybe she won’t act like such a grade a bitch.. By the way if Sophia was my daughter… she wouldn’t get away with half the stuff Farrah lets her get away with.. I’d probably be spanking her little butt. I understand being a single parent and not by choice.. it’s hard when you’re the only one. i just hope she learns patience. not just with her mother but with her daughter