Amber Heard bashes closeted gays for “playing into this horribly detrimental lie”

Amber Heard has been with her girlfriend Tasya van Ree for a while. I think Amber has been an out-and-proud lesbian for years, but she got a lot of attention in late 2010 when she verified her lesbianism to After Ellen during a GLAAD event. Since then, Amber’s career has grown – she was on The Playboy Club (before it got canceled), and she’s got a supporting part in The Rum Diary, and she’s probably one of the “Fashion Girls” of the year. My point? Everybody knows she’s a lesbian and it’s probably helped her career, because it helped her stand out from the crowd of interchangeable blondes. So Amber is taking her experience and saying that should be the experience for other gay actors, and that those closeted gay actors should just come out of the closet:

Amber Heard is bashing Hollywood stars who are not open about their sexuality. In Women’s Health magazine, “Rum Diary” star Heard, who stepped out with girlfriend Tasya van Ree at a recent GLAAD event, says, “You can’t respect yourself if you’re afraid to be who you are. It requires bravery to do something no one else around you is doing. But the risk was outweighed by the possibility of playing into this horribly detrimental lie that some in Hollywood perpetuate.”

[From Page Six]

In Hollywood, there are levels of “In The Closet.” There are people like Anderson Cooper, who everybody knows is gay – he has a hot, beefcake boyfriend, they live in a firehouse, and Coop doesn’t “pretend” to be anything he’s not, but he’s never confirmed his homosexuality and no one ever directly asks him about. That’s what’s known as The Glass Closet, and it‘s an issue, and maybe Amber is talking about that? And then there are the gay people who want desperately for people to identify them as straight, who maintain heterosexual relationships or beards, and who probably aren’t even honest with themselves. Like… oh, I don’t know… perhaps ALLEGEDLY John Travolta? Which is the bigger issue in Gay Hollywood? The guy who doesn’t have a problem being gay, he just doesn’t want to talk about it, or the guy who is self-loathing and maintains a façade of heterosexuality?

At the end of the day, I understand the message Amber is trying to send, but I can’t help but think that she’s had it much easier than most, mostly because she’s a really hot lesbian, you know?

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  1. Taytay says:

    Ugh stfu amber! Her experience is NOT normal, exactly because she’s a “hot lesbian” which the patriarchy is totes cool with.

    • Taylor says:

      Hot lesbian is just a whole different story. She is an ultimate fantasy for man and women – straight, gay and bi. Gay man no matter what how hot he is will never get that level. So yeah she should STFU.

    • Lee says:

      Well I have to say that just because she can remain a fantasy for straight men doesn’t make it all that much better. I’ve had men try and force themselves on me after I’d told them I was a lesbian because they just don’t believe me. If I kiss my wife in public, men lear at us as though it’s entirely for their pleasure. Putting out the message that gay women are not just objects to be desired but rather people with their own desires is still important. I agree it may be easier for middle America to swallow, but she still has a right to speak out about it.

      • Bitchbelying says:

        Lord. I had to stop reading after the first line. She and Tasya have been broken up for MONTHS…write about that ish Kaiser. That’s more entertaining that this ish she’s talking about. ANd she’s not gay, she’s bi!

        She;s not talking about John Travolta..she’s talking about Wentworth Miller who is gay, gay, gay, and gay!

      • Anna says:

        Yeah, I’m with Lee. The amount of men who think they can ‘change’ you is pretty astounding. Basically, whilst it might seem easier on the surface the sad truth is it’s often extremely hard to be taken seriously and not just as a gimmick when you’re a ‘hot lesbian’

      • KK says:

        It definitely sucks for certain women who are gay – men just don’t beleive them. And it’s awful.

        Only Amber Heard’s not gay. She is with a woman but she’s said she’s not gay. I think there are a lot of problems for the LGBT community – lesbians treated as though their relationships only exist for the straight boys, and that bisexual people don’t exist. A woman with a man doesn’t necessarily mean she’s straight, just as a woman with a woman doesn’t necessarily mean she’s a lesbian.

    • KK says:

      But Amber Heard’s not a lesbian. I don’t know why people are saying she’s gay. She has said she’s not. Just because a woman is with another woman doesn’t mean she’s a lesbian.

      I do think that she’s lucky because she’s a straight boy fantasy

  2. mln76 says:

    I don’t think she was bashing anyone just telling the truth as she sees it. I’d also bet she’s talking about some of the actors/actresses who actively fake relationships and put on a show for the media. Not the Anderson Coopers of the world who just keep their personal life separate but don’t live a lie.

  3. normades says:

    I agree being a hot lesbian actress isn’t the same thing as being a hot gay actor. The hot lesbian can still fit in the fantasies of straight men.

    I think there’s a HUGE difference between someone like Cooper (or say zack pinto or NPH before he was outed by Perez) who just don’t want to make it an issue and people like Travolta et al. who are downright living a lie.

  4. Kaboom says:

    I’d say it’s entirely a decision a gay individual has to make for themselves and nobody else’s. Being gay doesn’t come with a PSA obligation and flaunting your sexuality, whatever it may be, may be just a degree of exhibitionism and – as Kaiser properly observes – marketing in a look-at-me profession.

  5. Helvetica says:

    Ha, she just potentially insult many actors.

  6. Lee says:

    I love amber. A few notes, she and tasya have reportedly split after several years and she’s been papped kissing one of Portia’s exes. Also, she doesn’t necessarily identify as lesbian, but queer of some sort. She has been open about having had successful relationships with both men and women in the past.

    I definitely agree that it’s a lot easier nowadays for a hot lady to come out, but her message is still a good one. People in the public eye who continue to actively hide who they are send the message that it’s something to be ashamed of. And there are so many kids out here who really need role models to look up to. I’m positive that if I’d had women like Amber and Portia around as a kid, coming out and even just realizing I was a femme gay lady would have been a lot easier.

    That being said, there is still a lot of hate out there and a lot of people have internalized it and can’t even admit it to themselves. At least Cruise and Travolta aren’t actively spreading hateful messages and trying to pass oppressive legislature while hiding their own proclivities like many politicians.

    The word “bash” seems a little strong in this context…

    • WillyNilly says:

      You do have a point about conservative politicians being the worst of the two but I don’t really think we have room for either messaging groups with that sort of power. It should be socially frowned upon so it stops happening. One day…. *sigh*

  7. fabgrrl says:

    Really easy to say, Amber, when you are Generation Y and had a comfortable, middle-class upbringing in a large, American city.

    Okay, maybe not “easy”. But wow! Does she not understand that older generations have an ENTIRELY different view of homosexuality and gay people? That there are MANY cultures, religions and ethnic groups that still frown on it? People could lose their jobs and lose child custody in the 1980s just for being gay! Someone who grew up in a repressive environment can’t just flip a switch and undo decades of conditioning and internalized homophobia just because some parts of society are becoming enlightened.

    • Lee says:

      I think she’s specifically referring to people in Hollywood, not every person everywhere. There are many reasons why some people have no other options besides staying in the closet. And from what she’s said elsewhere, that’s exactly why she feels a responsibility to be an out public figure and try to change attitudes.

      And it wasn’t just in the 80s, the federal employment non-discrimination act still hasn’t been passed so there are places in the US today where you can still be fired for being gay.

  8. Ari says:

    I think she is right. I personally don’t have any issue with the “glass closet” choice. At least there is no denial going on but no-one says you have to go around proclaiming your homosexuality. Straight people typically don’t so why should they lol….so dumb. Anyway yes, closeted actors who are male would become type casted for sure but like Quinto who was a glass closet dude…didnt seem to hurt him too much and he really isnt all that good looking (sexy as hell yes) so maybe thats the catch? If yer hot, dont come out – if yer not, its okay because no-one gives a crap? *shrug I dont even know if that made any kind of sense :L

    • Kimbob says:

      @Ari, I agree w/all you said. Like you, the “Glass Closet one’s,” at least TO ME, are NOT HIDING it, & very much live their lives much like hetero’s. As a hetero, I certainly do not have this burning urge to “come out” & scream my heterosexuality to the world.

      That being said….let’s talk about the VERY CLOSETED GAYS…you know…the one’s who live their lives as if hetero, but are GAY TO THE BONE!

      I, MOST UNFORTUNATELY, was married to a dude that was a CLOSETED GAY. He presented a VERY MANLY, HETEROSEXUALITY FOR ALL TO PLAINLY SEE…..but…..he was GAY!!! I was married to him for 7 YEARS, or just over, before discovering the BASTARD’S LIE! Counting time going through the divorce….8 YEARS OF MY LIFE WASTED. As soon as I discovered, I IMMEDIATELY filed for divorce. Since he was so “sensitive” to his “closeted stature,” I filed for divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences….so he wouldn’t be “FOUND OUT” in public records…because he was SO EFFING CONCERNED about his “status.”

      I’ve yet to marry again. Honestly, I have DEEP SCARS from this all. So….YES…I VERY MUCH AGREE W/AMBER when it comes to the very closeted gays…the gays that are living a lie ESPECIALLY AT THE EXPENSE OF UNSUSPECTING HETEROS! There are many “closeted gays” living out there in “regular marriages,” and they are creating problems and chaos….they just don’t realize it yet….until they are “found out” by the trusting, unsuspecting, innocent heteros.

      Actors, politicians, WHATEVER…these closeted gays are WREAKING HAVOC….and it is most certainly NOT RIGHT AND NOT FAIR!

      • Jezi says:

        In your situation where there is a unsuspecting party and the person is lying to their significant other, then I would say that’s a shame. I think that goes with anyone who lies in a relationship at all. Playing with someone’s heart is never right. Ruining someone’s life is just as wrong. Sorry you had to endure that pain. I hope you have found some peace and happiness after all of this.

      • Lady D says:

        My friend came home recently to a note that said “I’m gay and I’m leaving you for ___.” They were married 20 years with 5 daughters. She is having a hard time understanding. Pain and bewilderment are her new constant companions.

      • Jay says:

        you go girl, closet cases should NOT bring a woman into a relationship like that. it is based on a BIG LIE, what a way to start a relationship, huh? sorry for your sorrow, stay single awhile, see how things go.

    • WillyNilly says:

      Well, then you would think that Kevin Spacey would have casually come out by now too. That would be epic though, mostly because he is so well respected that I would hope it would set a firm example for the non-type-casted folks.

  9. Rhiley says:

    I don’t disagree with what she has said but with the way that she has said it. Coming out is a very personal experience, and I know a lot of people who have come out and the reception wasn’t positive, and so coming out was quite traumatic and painful. Also, I think coming out is a lot easier when a person has gay role models, a queer network of friends, coworkers, and family memebers, but for some people, that kind of support does not exist. I don’t think it is necessairly shame that keeps some people in the closet, but real fear of being ostracized and treated like an outcast.

  10. Lara says:

    I feel for young gay actors, mostly the men. When do they come out? When they first start out therefore potentially cutting of part of their career as a romantic leading man – some people wouldn’t be able to believe them in that type of role. Or do they establish their career and then come out potentially alienating the fan base they have built up? And after trying to put my ideas in an eloquent manner I can only sum it up by saying – it sucks!

  11. Victoria says:

    I truly respect her, even though i don’t think she is all that hot like everyone is trying to ram down our throats, but whatev.

    If you are gay and you just choose not to talk about it then that’s fine. I mean technically it’s nobody’s business what anyone’s sexual; orientation is, but someone like Anderson Cooper is so clear to see that he is that perhaps that’s what makes the difference.

    If you wanna stay in the closet, feel free. Some people just aren’ ready to yet. I get that. What I don’t like closeted people having rally’s for this that and the other about gay rights, being a part of the Hollywood bandwagon that wants to come at people who don’t want to support homosexuality and they themselves won’t come out of the closet. Talk is fucking cheap so put your money where your mouth is and come the hell out.I’m looking at you Queen Latifah. Pretty much anything Hollywood supports, I immediately do the opposite because they are evil, but things like this really piss me off because they do more harm than good.

  12. Jezi says:

    Am I the only one who thinks that it’s no one’s business if a person is gay or straight? I believe that one’s sexuality is a personal thing and it’s up to that individual to either out right say “I’m gay” or not. If they choose to live a lie then the only one they’re really hurting are themselves. Why do people feel like they have to know? Yes, I understand it’s important for people to have role models and that they are proud of their sexuality and the fact that some aren’t afraid to scream it from the rooftops. But that’s their preference and people can look up to those who don’t have a problem with doing so. But I just feel like it really isn’t anyone’s place to judge how a person “comes out”.

    • Delta Juliet says:

      No you are not the only one. I don’t go around saying “Hey! I’m straight!” all the time. Why should a gay person have to do it? Live your damn life.

    • cici says:

      No, you’re not alone. I don’t think a gay individual has ANY personal responsibility to others to be a role model. If someone feels differently then good for them for taking on that role model “role” themselves. Let others live their own damn lives.

    • normades says:

      I respect your opinion, but if you believe this then why do you cruise gossip sites? Really, NONE OF THIS is our business.

      Is it our business who is doing who heterosexualy? Who is on bump watch? Who is on drugs. Anorexic. Ill. Trouble with the law? Should we allow ourselves to be snarky and mean about people’s looks and the way they dress? Nope, we should just admire their work as “actors”, right?

      Gay gossip and bearding is as old as hwood itself. It comes with the territory. I feel bad for JG if he’s not really Toothy Tile, but we all have the right to our opinion whether he is or not.

    • Lee says:

      This argument always baffles me. I agree that no one necessarily has an obligation to come out, but most straight people don’t realize that you come out almost every day. It’s not just announcing “I’m a lesbian!” it’s everytime someone asks me if I’m married or anytime I tell a story about my wife. It’s when I hold her hand walking down the street. Straight people may not shout their orientation from rooftops, but they do display it with the little statements and actions they make every day. Gay people do the same.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        I hear what you’re saying Lee, but not EVERY straight couple walks around holding hands or even displaying affectionate gestures. I think Jezi’s point (or my interpretation of the comment) was that people are individuals and handle their sexuality (including the display of their sexuality) differently, whether straight or gay. It should be up to the individual to determine if/when/how they want to come out, regardless of their sexual preferenece.

      • Lee says:

        Yeah, I definitely agree that it’s a personal choice and all, i just wanted to point out that coming out in little ways is just as relevant as the grand declarations and most of us hint to this information about us in some way or another on a regular basis. Even just the casual use of a pronoun makes it clear. My wife’s first language is French, and it’s especially hard to avoid female pronouns. I’m very much out, but when I was working in customer service, I never found it relevant to let people know my partner was a woman especially with older people who seemed like they may not be ok with it. Making small talk about your life without letting it slip (especially in French) was really difficult. I feel like we often forget that it’s the little things like that that constitute being out, not just the people magazine covers.

        But you guys are right, it’s great when someone chooses to be a role model, but no one has a responsibility to be one.

        Ok, I really need to stop procrasting and get off this thread. Ha. :)

      • Jezi says:

        Yes, that was my point. Thank you Kitten :)

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      1,000,000,0000 % agree with you, Jezi.

    • Pia says:

      I disagree that you are “only hurting yourself” by staying closeted. Read Kimbob’s story somewhere above and you will see what I mean. Not all gay people string some straight person along in their lie, but doing so is extremely selfish and hurtful to someone you claim to love.

      • normades says:

        Good point. Staying in the closet and living a lie is just not right. I was saying Jezi was prolly right in regards to that it’s none of our business.

        That said I will continue to speculate because it is a big part of hwood gossip culture. But I would never say “he is”, rather “I think”.

      • Jezi says:

        I did read it and responded. I guess I have to be extremely specific when I write. What I meant is that it’s not the public’s business what sexual orientation you are. Of course if someone is lying to a significant other, well that is different. But that can be said for any lie in a marriage. Right?

      • Pia says:

        Yes I agree that the public speculates too much and it really is none of our business. Except if somebody say… John Travolta or Tom Cruise really is gay and living a lie, not only is he hurting his wife and family, but it is an insult to the fans, the general public, and more specifically gay people, I think. Though there I go speculating, I can’t help it!

      • taksi says:

        Jezi: Some lies are worse than others.

        It’s one thing to lie to someone but I think it’s somewhat justifiable if ultimately the feelings are mutual, i.e. I’m in love with the person, they’re in love with me but I made a mistake. But lying about your orientation just makes the whole relationship false.

        Not that you didn’t have good times or that it wasn’t some affection but at the core of it one person is deceiving another for their own purposes. Or taking it outside of orientation, a guy lies to a girl for sex; he wants it to be more casual and she wants it to be serious. It’s unfair and selfish to not be forthright about that. I would say it’s not so bad when it’s a casual relationship but when there are serious feelings involved on, it’s just douchey to keep leading someone on.

    • freeloveforall says:

      Well said! I agree with you. Everyone needs to mind their own business.

  13. Delta Juliet says:

    She is a product of her generation. Homosexuality is considered more “normal” among teens and 20 somethings than it is among some older folks, therefore her acceptance was probably easier than it would be for some older actors and actresses to come out. The fact that she is beautiful doesn’t hurt either. Why can’t people just live their own lives? Worry about yourself, let other people make their own life-changing decisions.

  14. Jessica says:

    she looks like the fe(male) version of Scarlett Johannason (spelling is WAY off there but I dont care)

  15. SEF says:

    It’s kind of awesome how far things have come. It was SUCH a big deal when Ellen came out in the 90′s, and now, it’s just not such a big deal. It seems like it’s maybe worse for the closeted actors now – the “is he/isn’t he” pressure gets so built up – than the out and proud ones. That’s great.

  16. Talie says:

    She recently broke up with her girlfriend and has been seen out and about with Joseph Gordon Levitt. She’s bi.

  17. irishserra says:

    I totally thought that was a photo of ScarJo.

  18. bored says:

    She’s very young and didn’t experience the crap we all went through coming out, even 10 years ago. People stay in the closet for thier own reasons. I’m glad the world has progressed where her viewpoint has room to exist – even if I don’t necesarily agree with it.

  19. laylajanelovesgossip says:

    I’m guessing that 95% of the men are gay in Hollywood. Most of the WORLD is NOT ok with homosexuality. Some countries are still imprisoning people for that!!

    Yes, some of us may be ok with it, but apparently not everyone is or they would have voted yes to let them MARRY already!!!(Hopefully this will all change now that Kim Kardashian has married and will soon divorce).

    Being gay in Hollywood will cut many peoples paychecks. Its not a personal choice(they are not hiding from themselves), its more a financial decision(they keep it from the media but trust me among their peers EVERYONE knows).

    Most guys will avoid going to see their favorite action star if they knew he was gay. Many will assume he’s not the tough guy he is portraying. Or will think people will think they are gay if they are going to see him. People would get bullied left and right just for their movie choices(potentially).

    If people were ok with this then we wouldn’t need a campaign telling bullied kids it gets better. Obviously things are not changing like we hoped they would. People aren’t as open minded as you think.

  20. T.C. says:

    Officially I believe she is Bi, not Lesbian. Not sure if she too is hiding behind the safer “Bi” label but it’s curious that she says people should be honest yet doesn’t want to “label” herself as either Lesbian or Bi.

    • Bitchbelying says:

      Pretty much. She’s ‘out’ but doesn’t ‘label herself’ is sort of an oxymoron isn’t ?. And really, I love her and all, but being brave behind her bisexuality? Who isn’t bi in hollyweird. Be brave and be gay and label yourself as a lesbian, rather than all these inuendos.

  21. Evelyn says:

    She’s still with her girlfriend, and she is certainly a lesbian. And I don’t think she was or was not talking about anyone in particular

  22. theaPie says:

    She’s got it backwards. The only reason any of this is an issue, is because people apparently think it is their business to know other people’s sexual orientation. The real issue is not ‘gay’s coming out’ it’s ‘people keeping their noses out’ and getting off their judgmental high horses.

    • Lee says:

      But if pregnancy and dating habits are of interest and up for public consumption, sexual orientation should be no different. By painting it as no one’s business, we’re placing it on a more shameful plane than the other crap we gossip about. None of it is really our business, but people are still interested and celebs still use their personal lives to promote their careers. That’s why we’re all here on celebitchy isn’t it?

  23. spinner says:

    Amber needs to sit down!! This is a very personal issue. Why is it so important to know a persons sexual orientation? She reminds me of the Anne Hesche type.

  24. Callumna says:

    She’d be boring and average looking if she didn’t play up the I’m a hip lesbian angle.

    SO STFU. I see what’s she’s saying here as stupid, self-centered, and mostly out to remind everyone for the fiftieth time that she’s an out lesbian. Other people aren’t using it to be hip and need to figure things out for themselves without a poser among them putting on even more pressure.

    Ellen’s girlfriend is actually hot. When I knew or didn’t know. This chick is just a selfish stupid airhead.

  25. DarkEmpress says:

    I dont think that lesbians get as much hate as gay men do. There are so many men who bash gay guys but lesbians are their fantasy.

  26. failla says:

    Amber’s Bi, she dates guys too.

  27. Sara says:

    I dont know if helped her career at all.
    The Playboy Club was canceled. She did the horrible with Nicolas Cage Drive Angry. Only thing good she did was The Rum Diary this year. That’s all. The next year she will be on Syrup. And is not a big production.
    She is a good actress, but I disagreed with you when you said that helped her career.

  28. Rook says:

    No one should ever tell anyone else to come out and no one should ever judge anyone else for not coming out. This is an incredibly arrogant thing for her to say.

  29. Cerulean says:

    Bearding is a shameful thing to do. To produce children in that kind of lie just to look straight is disgusting. Just live. No need for announcements but no need for a big lie either. Celebs forfeit normal right to privacy when they sell their souls for public consumption. It’s the price they pay for living indulgent entitled lives.
    Being gay is no big deal. It’s the lying that revolting.

    • LeeLoo says:

      I couldn’t agree more. It’s one thing to not talk about it and it’s one thing to not come out but it’s a huge problem if you force other people to cover for your lie and lie to them to save your reputation. Besides the public will eventually find out what you truly are.

  30. NM9005 says:

    You can so much about that but Kaiser summed up it good:

    “mostly because she’s a really hot lesbian, you know?”

    Lesbians: a fantasy for men and no threat for women (some even use it to come across as edgy or sexy for other people)
    Gays: a threat for men who are afraid of their own sexuality (generally not perceived as “hot” by straight men), women can’t fantasize about them

    Take it to a Hollywood level and it becomes even worse when you have to sell them for a certain audience.

    • LeeLoo says:

      Maybe my friends are just weird but I have had a ton of my straight male friends say that if they had to go gay they would want to be gay with NPH. So for the open minded individual I don’t think being a gay man is a threat. I mean this isn’t the 80s anymore. I sometimes think Hollywood social mentality is stuck there.

      • NM9005 says:

        NPH, the gay man who is practically straight. His masculinity, funnyness and charm make up for the “gayness”. He’s able to reduce the sexuality stereotype to his advantage and more power to him for being successful without compromising to who he is. At the other spectrum there’s is Tom Cruise who can’t even convince people of his masculinity of heterosexuality (he’s gay though) by hanging of the Burj Khalifa or call Gyllenhaal out when we think he’s being “akward” when holding a girl in a not so comfortable way so yeah, it depends on who you talk about I guess. NPH, Quinto, huge exceptions + NPH is not a film star.

        I don’t have a problem and my friends neither (lots of homosexuals and lesbians so maybe that doesn’t count :) ) but clearly the world and societies in itself isn’t ready otherwise gay marriage wouldn’t be an issue and gay teens wouldn’t be bullied and subsequently kill themselves. People like to believe we’re evolving to positive changes but I would disagree. It’s getting worse.
        Like you said, for the open minded individual it’s not a problem :) .

        + Co-sign with your comment #32

  31. LeeLoo says:

    Amber needs to stfu. It’s a personal choice to come out and everyone has their reasons for staying in the closet. As long as no one is being hurt by an individual’s choice to stay in the closet (i.e. bearding) then I don’t see the problem. It’s fine if she wishes to discuss her sexuality openly but she has no business telling people how to live their lives as we have no business tellibg her how to live hers.

  32. Roma says:

    When I read her statement I felt as though she is talking about the stars who are gay but have beards. Hollywood has been doing it since its inception.

    Your sexuality is no one’s business – right up until you try to use a “straight” relationship for publicity. And then it is fair game.

    I don’t think every Hollywood actor is gay with a beard but there are enough stories to have some validity for certain men (and women).

  33. Jayna says:

    A hot bisexual actress her age isn’t brave. So please don’t tell closeted male gay actors what to do.

  34. Shaz says:

    Ellen Degeneres was the brave one, Amber is just walking a well worn path. Gay men face even more prejudice than gay women did, so she’s not quite as brave as she thinks, although it isn’t easy for any gay people.

    • Emily says:

      Exactly! I’ve been out for years, and faced my share or homophobiaq, but I can’t believe how much crap some of my male gay friends have been through. For whatever reason, gay women are much more accepted by the straight population than gay men are, and I don’t think she can just say they need to come out and everything will be sunshine and puppies.

  35. atlantapug says:

    Yes, every gay person should just “come out” because Amber Heard said so.
    Don’t worry about getting disowned, disinherited, fired, teased, beat up or KILLED by people who can’t deal with it!!
    Amber Heard says so!! So just do it already you damn closeted gays! (sarcasm)

  36. Kim says:

    She is 100% right and i so applaud her for being honest. Finally someone in the gay community is admitting closeted gays really help hold up the scary mentality that there is something wrong with being gay and its has to be kept hidden. The majority of gays who come out are not beaten, disowned or killed. Kudos to her!

    • Minty says:

      Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual. But not everyone is open-minded. Gay men (especially) are still beaten up. Gay teens are still bullied to the point of suicide. Gay marriage is still not legally recognized. Maybe you live in an area where the gay community is accepted, but there are many, many places in the world where being homosexual or bisexual is a crime, where they are openly discriminated against or killed without legal repercussions, where lesbians are raped by men as a sick method of “straightening them out”.

      Good for Amber. But let’s not deny that it is much easier for her because she’s a young woman who is very pretty, bisexual, and “feminine” acting, thus attractive to the majority in power: the straight male population. She can still get roles as a traditional romantic lead. An openly gay male actor can’t. Amber lives in a more tolerant part of the world. She also stated that her family has accepted her sexuality for years. Not everyone has that support. Coming out depends a lot on where you live, what laws protect you from discrimination and hate crimes, what emotional support you receive from family and friends, and whether or not you will keep your job if your employer finds out. The end result is not the same for everyone. If celebrities want to promote their movie or album but keep their sexuality and personal life private, that’s their right.

  37. ohnoshedidnt says:

    Uhm…Amber dumped her girlfriend for a guy.

  38. Horrormovie fan says:

    Actually their was a rumor that Amber was cheating on Tasya with Francesca Gregorini and that is why they broke up.She hasn’t been linked with any manalso JGL is dating Scarlett Johansson.

  39. normades says:

    I wish she’d named names :-)

  40. Seal Team 6 says:

    I’ve always said that if everyone over 18 came out all at once, in a week the only homophobes left would be sociopaths. It’s hard to hate and sneer at someone when that person is your brother, sister, friend, beloved teacher or neighbor, mother, or whomever.

    That being said, in some areas of the US, coming out while get you at best harassed, and at worse raped and murdered. It will get minors thrown out of their home or sent to torture camps aka “Ex Gay” camps.

    Amber is lovely and a nice girl and a good role model for closeted minors.

  41. marie says:

    Amber Heard is soooooooooo over rated. She’s a not so horse faced Scarlett Johnasson. Who is she to tell people what to do? Respect other people and their choices. If someone is Gay they will come out when it is appropriate for them.