Gwyneth Paltrow teaches peasants how to love themselves & forgive cheaters

Here are some photos of Gwyneth Paltrow two nights ago in Paris, for the Louis Vuitton/Marc Jacobs event. Goop wore pre-Fall 2012 LV. She should really rethink those pants. And she should rethink her insistence on such dated hair styling, but that’s always a problem. I covered other photos from the event here – Kristen Stewart, Sparkles and Sarah Jessica Parker were also at the event. But I’m sure they all paid homage to Dame Goop, of course. Gwyneth is always at the top of the pyramid.

Did you guys get a chance to read the Goop newsletter this week? I’ll admit, I’ve stopped reading Goop for the most part. When Gwyneth “went on holiday” and didn’t update the newsletter for a month, I stopped paying attention. This week’s newsletter is particularly hilarious because it’s full of Goopy Chicken Soup For the Elitist Soul – it’s all self-helpy and “love yourself” and “take responsibility for you!” Here’s Gwyneth’s intro:

Close relationships of any kind require a certain level of awareness that I have only recently come to understand. I have never been much of a self-help person, but when Conscious Loving was recommended to me by basically the wisest person I have ever met, it had a huge impact on my life. The fact that we create and are responsible for the difficulties in our relationships was difficult to digest at first, but as I read on, I realized that Gay and Kate Hendricks’ approach was not only groundbreaking, but was changing the way I related to the people I love and also, myself.

Love,
GP

[Via Goop]

“I have never been much of a self-help person” = because she thinks she’s perfect. Because she has no room for improvement. Her job is to improve the peasants. Gwyneth then asks Gay and Kate (Dr. Gay and Dr. Kate) some pointed questions, and they answer – the whole thing seems like it was just cut-and-pasted from a long email. I guess it’s noteworthy that Gwyneth asked Gay and Kate “How can a couple recover from infidelity?” Their response was basically: feel whatever you’re feeling, take part of the responsibility for your partner cheating on you, don’t play the victim, talk about it and listen to each other, and “create a new relationship based on what they really want.” It’s interesting if you believe that Chris Martin was screwing around on Goop with Kate Bosworth and God knows who else.

But my absolute FAVORITE part is when Gwyneth asks, no joke, “Why is learning to love yourself important to making a relationship with another person work? How do we even begin to learn how to do that? Is there a short exercise you could provide?” OMG. Gwyneth wants a “short exercise” on loving herself. But of course, it’s not for her. She already adores herself. She can’t even understand the peasant-y mindset of NOT thinking that you are the best, most amazing person ever. Perchance the peasantry would benefit from a short exercise?

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.

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  1. Bite me says:

    Am still waiting for chris Martin to sue star magazine over that story that he cheated … I mean he did say he would 😉

    • Susan says:

      Um actually he never said he would. “A source” said he would. And the “source” said that to another tabloid. You really need to learn that tabloids don’t tell the truth. I don’t think that either of them cared less about this story. And she is aging so well. What a great example to hollywood.

  2. sassy says:

    I don’t know what you’re talking about Kaiser, that’s a great pantsuit! Goop is tall enough to get away with flared cigarette pants, or whatever they’re called. I don’t care for Goop at all, but at least I can appreciate when she makes a good fashion statement.

    • Lilalis says:

      Nah, she would look way better if those pants were tight 7/8… also not sure if I say what I mean by this (English is not my 1st language), but I don’t like the pants, she could have done better.

    • normades says:

      If the Goopster is wearing it, it must be in fashion. I didn’t get the memo, but I’m sure it will come.

  3. ladybert62 says:

    Like the hair – hate the clothes.

    • Evelyn says:

      I feel the opposite! I like the way it fits her body, it’s definitely for a slender person. But I hate her hair, I think it’s so dated. I want to give her an a line bob with a full stack. I think it’d really complement her bone structure if she changed her hair

    • Evelyn says:

      I feel the opposite! I like the way it fits her body, it’s definitely for a slender person. But I don’t like her hair, I think it’s so dated. I want to give her an a line bob with a full stack. I think it’d really complement her bone structure if she changed her hair

  4. Jackie says:

    ‘…was recommended to me by basically the wisest person I have ever met…’

    she always comes across very immaturely. she sounds like a teenager.

    • Agnes says:

      you’re so right, she totally does! a teenager enamored by the latest “hip” person she’s met.

  5. Fyofeelings says:

    Oh Goop you silly delusional hoe you crack me up.

  6. Agnes says:

    this outfit is terrible, ugh. what’s with the short pants lately? she can def afford full pants. haha

    and as for her advice to us, the peasants, stfu, goop. most of us have WAY better lives than you can imagine and WAY better relationships than you will ever have.

  7. Sumodo1 says:

    Somebody (her stylist) forgot to steam the wrinkles out of that suit. The FUG girls dug it, though. It’s Marc Jacobs for Louis Vuitton and she wore it to his Paris fashion show. Oh, BTW, Goop, was this interview a thinly (soooo thinly) veiled attempt to admit you know your husband cheated (cheats)?

  8. Shontay says:

    Love the outfit. The shoes are especially fantastic. I like Goop as an actress, so I wish she did more of that. I ignore her otherwise.

  9. Polkasox says:

    I don’t mind the pants but the jacket is too bulky and harsh. It ages her.

    I’m surprised she doesn’t wear hair extensions. Her hair is so thin, that’s probably why she rocks the same hairstyle all the time.

  10. marlee says:

    CAPRIS!?

    • marlee says:

      Also, her cheeks are sunken and her hair looks unhealthy. But I’m still most alarmed by the CAPRIS

    • littlestar says:

      Are capris bad? I wear them occasionally in the summer. Oh god…

  11. Devon says:

    “Each person should take healthy responsibility for the events that have taken place.”

    I’m sorry, I don’t care what has happened in a relationship but the person with the wandering genitalia is the ONLY one to blame for infidelity. Cheating is never the right or appropriate answer the same as no one ever deserves it.

    Goop is in such a completely different world.

    • Nev says:

      word.

    • poppy says:

      i read that and was wtF!?!?! ita with you.

      and how is the rest of this nonsense ground breaking? it’s basic cognitive therapy, goop, and it has been around for quite a few decades.
      in an interview back in the late 90s or early 2000s goop admitted she had a problem with monogamy.
      she is ignorant and insecure. i feel sorry for her kids.

      • ol cranky says:

        idk, it sounds to me like Drs Gay and Kate were giving her advice specific to her relationship. Maybe she had been actively pushing him away and undercutting their relationship and he looked elsewhere for a modicum of comfort. As douchey as Martin is, Goopy strikes me as even more self-involved than Madonna.

        As for her having a hard time learning to love herself? SMDH at that. It seems as though her problem is that she is way too enamored with herself.

    • Jean2 says:

      There are a lot of situations where both parties are responsible. A friend told me she ignored her partner for years to focus on work and was the one to blame for the affair (his)that came out of it.

      • Julie says:

        no, thats wrong. the guy could have talked about it and if she didnt change broken up with her. a clean break up is so much better than betraying and lying to people. moreover he endagered her health with banging other people. people always forget about STDs when they glorify cheating.

        she is not responsible for his cheating but she would have been responsible if he broke up with her.

        contrary to popular belife you dont NEED to cheat and its not cool. cheating is a flaw of character.

        there are thousands of reasons to break up but not one to cheat.

    • Julie says:

      thanks devon, i hate it when people blame it on the victim of the cheating.

      you can be responsible for people hating you, for people leaving you, for people not trusting you but if someone cheats he/she is the only one to blame.

      i read that often from married women when the husband cheated:”we have four children and are married for 15 years, i cant throw that away and disrepct our marriage”. well sweetie, your hubby just took a giant crap on your marriage, he is the one to blame, not you.”

      if you dont have sex for a long time for my point of view its alright to break up because of that but cheating is not.

      • As a psychologist, I always tell my patients that they are responsible for their actions and their actions alone. No one “makes” anyone else cheat. The person cheated on in no way has to accept ANY of the responsibility for the partner cheating. Should they accept their responsibility in a relationship falling apart or having problems? Yes. Usually relationship problems aren’t one sided. But infidelity is a CHOICE, a choice one person makes. If there are issues in a relationship, you talk about them. You try to fix the cracks in your relationship universe before the cracks swallow you up and make you forget about the relationship altogether (yes, a Doctor Who metaphor). If someone feels unfulfilled, cheating isn’t what you do to get that fulfillment. You try to fix the problem. If it can’t be fixed, you go your separate ways and are free to embark on other relationships. But cheating? No. Bad bad advice.

  12. mel says:

    I actually think her makeup looks good here. JMO.

  13. Holden says:

    What’s in the box? What’s in the box?

  14. Rita says:

    Goopy is full of love…and other stuff for herself.

    Her question about “How to love one’s self” is directed more to her husband whom she feels if he only loved himself that love would eventually spill over to her.

    As far as forgiving cheaters, see the paragraph above.

  15. sarah says:

    I really really wish this woman would just shutup, and stop talking out of her butt. Not everybody thinks she’ some sort of saint. except herself of course.

  16. Sumodo1 says:

    Excuse me for posting a second time, but does anybody in Celebitchy land think GOOP cheats, too? I am getting a vibe from the silly interview. (What’s good for the goose is good for the gander?)

  17. Gia says:

    I’ve always thought Gwenyth looks great even when her hairs stringy and she’s wearing no make up, she’s just got that enviable waify thing going on but having said that (and waifdom is what all the celebutants ‘strive’ for) she’s one of the most nauseating to watch.

    I like her movies, fake british accents and yes she can even carry a tune but when I saw her on that Mario Batali Spanish foodie series special where they travelled throughout the beautiful spanish countryside – I saw a very priviledged individual that while it wasn’t overt, coming off as a rich, smuggy, needing to be the center of attention type.

    There was another woman in the show that seemed to be relegated to 2nd rate when GP entered the picture. Mario Batali and GP are apparently good friends – or maybe it’s just all these celebs cross networking and getting in on the action with each other to boost their own brands?

    Like I said, GP comes from a wealthy family and has always had nothing but the best at her finger tips and it comes across in her shallow need for attention.

    • RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

      “shes always had nothing but the best”
      Yes, it also comes across in her OVERTLY humble bragging about her UES prep school childhood, her steven spielberg G*dfther and, oh, her also mentioning ad nauseum that she always has had nothing but the best, always, and that is the golden reason of WHY she created her newsletter dear heart. To broadcast to the world about how she knows all about the best of everything. I saw that show in Spain and instantly loathed her. It was upsetting because prior to that I HAD been a fan. Ive never seen a more dislikable person. If Chris cheats I am totally sympathetic, Im sorry. LOL

      • Jean2 says:

        And to broadcast it to a world going through a global recession… even though you want to stay popular with your fanbase for your career…and she doesn’t “get” the negative response.

  18. mk martin says:

    On the plus side, her face looks pretty untouched (besides the early stuff, obviously)

  19. sup says:

    2002 called… it wants its fugly shoes back and i would gladly have them returned…

  20. Minty says:

    I’ve always found her to be too thin and too brittle. I remember her pink strapless Oscar gown that was held up by who knows what, ’cause her nonexistent boobs weren’t doing the work.

    She’s this odd mixture of smugness and insecurity. Her father once said that she was a combination of Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly. Yeah, riigghhtt. And thus, the Goop monster was created.

    • sup says:

      aren’t all smug/narcissistic people really insecure deep down? isn’t the whole air of smugness a way for some people to attempt at hiding their insecurities? they actually dislike themselves. i have read some psychology articles which confirms these suspicions. you know, every snob you meet in real life actually reeks of fake self-esteem.

      • Minty says:

        That is a good point. Yes, her pretentious and snobby facade is to make people think she’s a woman who has everything and knows it all. Of course, her insecure behavior contradicts the mask. She exhibits this regular need to be validated, to be perceived as cool by the public. Her blog is only good for laughs.

        Correction: the 1999 Oscar gown had spaghetti straps. Still, it looked one size too big on her. Her 2002 Oscar outfit was worse. It was a tragedy of “sagging” proportions.

      • sup says:

        @Minty yes, thank you! Ever since she was a thing, fashion people held her up as some ideal when all the time I found myself going “wtf, she has no taste, at all?” and then her infamous pity oscar award dress. it was easily 2 sizes too large for her, you’d think they’d trim or at least pad that thing! the fabric was terrible, and the colour reminded me of strawberry ice cake! even before her win was announced i was scratching my head about why anybody would wear such a hideous dress let alone for an award ceremony. oh, and how the necklace and her cow-licked hair was terribly wrong, wrong for that dress too-how could anybody with a pair of eyes like that outfit? and it’s still called one of the best oscar outfits of all times. i still think we are all being seriously trolled!

      • dj says:

        Absolutely true. I use the analogy of a chocolate Easter bunny…it is hollow on the inside…no inner structure.

    • RdyfrmycloseupmrDvlle says:

      ….GRACE KELLY!!!!???? Wow, I guess doting fatherly love is blind?? I never ever would have said grace kelly. No wonder she thinks so much of herself if thats the brainwashing she grew up with. grace kelly? I dont think so sweetie.

  21. original sandy says:

    i agree she comes across very dumb, always relying on what others think, feel,say, observed, taking it as her own or name dropping, no insight of her own…so this question is valid, why do she have goop, news letters,etc? we know and experience loads more than she, i guess to stay relevant,she is embarrassing herself, again write-up had me giggling..oh, and yes she cheats, she cheated on brad.

  22. lucy2 says:

    She’s been married for almost a decade, and just now realized that close relationships need “awareness”? Good grief.
    I really don’t get her. I think maybe she needs a good therapist or something, she’s constantly trying to “cleanse” and whatever.

  23. darkladi says:

    someone please make this dizzy b**** shut up!

  24. labyrinth says:

    i know one of her nannies, Gwyn and her husband have been leading separate lives and she does not cook for her family – they have chefs for that!

  25. Gretta says:

    She doesn’t strike me as the MOMMY type all that much. Where’s her kids, not that she should be making them mug for the papz but her self importance makes me think she doesn’t spend a whole heck of a lot of time with the kiddies. Just saying.