This ^^ is a photo of Olivia Wilde and her ex-husband, Tao Ruspoli, the Italian prince she married when she was 18 years old. Tao and Olivia lived like boho hispters for years, and then Olivia started getting a real Hollywood profile, and suddenly she and Tao were over. They separated in February 2011, after which Olivia had a lot of praise for her ex. She also spent many months dating around and being seen with various eligible men (Ryan Gosling, Justin Timberlake, etc). Olivia finally settled on Jason Sudeikis at some point, and they’ve been inseparable ever since. This is the backstory for this Olivia Wilde interview/monologue. Apparently, Olivia has now taken to discussing her lack of a quality sex life during her marriage to Tao. Which really sucks for him, right? After all, HE MADE HER A PRINCESS.
Olivia Wilde’s ladyparts cannot tell a lie. At These Girls (an evening of monologues, hosted by Glamour mag) in NYC Monday night, Wilde discussed trying to fake happiness with her ex-husband Tao Ruspoli towards the end of their eight-year marriage (the couple divorced in 2011). Ultimately, she says, she should have just listened to her, well . . .
“I felt like my vagina died,” she shared (via Vulture) of her sex life with the filmmaker and Italian prince, 36. “Turned off. Lights out . . . you can lie to your relatives at Christmas dinner and tell them everything on the home front is just peachy. But you cannot lie to your vagina.”
Wilde, 28, has since moved on from the heartache surrounding her split from Ruspoli; now, the Butter star (and her you-know-what) are happier than ever with her love of nine months, Jason Sudeikis.
Explaining that she is currently “blissfully, hopefully, wildly in love,” the actress boasted that she and the Saturday Night Live standout “have sex like Kenyan marathon runners.”
After delivering her monologue, Wilde caught up with Vulture, where she elaborated on her personal relationship manifesto.
“Sometimes your vagina dies,” she explained. “Then you know it’s time to go. There’s no reason to sacrifice your womanhood and femininity for some sort of weird feeling of responsibility to something that may not be right. I feel like far too many women do that.”
Added Wilde, “[Men] are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals.”
Sudeikis sat in the audience to show his support during his girlfriend’s impassioned Monday night speech. (Recently, a source close to Wilde and the comedian, 37, told Us Weekly that the pair are “totally inseparable” and “living together now.”)
Although they’re going strong, marriage is something they’ll most likely hold off on, for now. (Sudeikis has also been married before; he divorced actress and screenwriter Kay Cannon in 2010).
“They’ve both been married, so they’ve already experienced that and know what it entails,” the insider shared. “It’s something for down the road.”
I understand the point she’s trying to make when she says men “are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals.” I get it. She’s saying that sex/intimacy is important in any relationship and in any healthy marriage, and that men shouldn’t be the only ones who get to use the “biological necessity” excuse. The problem? It’s certainly f—king deeper than that, isn’t it? Olivia is making it absurdly simplified – like, “I didn’t have much of a sex life with him, but I have a great sex life with my new guy, so it was obviously my ex’s problem.” It might very well have been Tao’s problem. But very rarely is it so cut-and-dry. It feels like Olivia is just throwing her ex and his (malfunctioning?) dong under the bus and declaring victory for her vadge. What about self-reflection and communication? Or should we just applaud her for getting out of a marriage because of sex? Eh. How would we feel if a man had said this? Like, a dude comes out and says that his ex-wife made him feel like his dong had died, and he wasn’t going stick with a woman if he couldn’t get his rocks off? I feel like the reaction would be very different.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.
How crass. I hate to tell the princess, but every relationship goes through passionate ups and downs. If her vagina (gross) is the boss of her relationships, I feel sorry for her. I don’t see her having a lasting, deep relationship with anyone other than a vibrator.
Yup. It takes more than just marathon sex to maintain a healthy long lasting relationship. And how very classy of her to broadcasting her past marriage problem in public.
+1
Definitely does take more than marathon sex, but it takes sex too. If you don’t have a good sex life with emotional intimacy, your marriage will deteriorate. And it takes work to keep it going.
@bluhare : Yes. You need to balance both side. Your physical need and your emotional need.
When I said it takes more than marathon sex for a healthy relationship, it’s because some people confusing a good sex with making love (which IMO has a real emotional intimacy like you said). Example Meyer and Simpson. They have a realllyyy good sex life (according to them, anyway 😀 ) but in the end it’s not enough with just that.
So true, well said!!
She seems like such a bitch, I really don’t like her and hate seeing films with her! Some people shouldn’t be famous. It’s too exhausting to read or hear what they have to say to the world.
I Agreed with all of you.
plus her vagina must be really stupid if she things Sudeikis is the answear for good relationships.
+1
@ Maria_Spain:
Thinking of her having a stupid vagina just gave me my first good laugh of the day! That is, honestly, a great put-down. 🙂
Exactly. Any mature adult realizes that long-term relationships have their ups and downs. It’s not going to be wild sex all the time forever… communication between the partners is key.
And you CERTAINLY don’t turn around and tell the world what a lousy sex life you had, you bitch. What a gross and ignorant thing to say in public.
+1
I don’t care what issues she had with her ex-husband, it’s completely tacky and gauche of her to air their dirty laundry, not to mention describing her sex life with her current boyfriend.
What’s gross about vaginas? Seriously. What a weird thing to say.
My thought exactly.
Canda did not say that. She meant it’s gross to DISCUSS this in such a public way.
Definitely Kaiser I agree with you, if a man had said this people would call him all sorts of names. This is a horrible thing to do to someone whose only “marriage crime” seems to have been lack of excitement in bed.
You know what is gross, Jason Sudekis. Blech.
THIS.
Your sex life may still be fulfilling after five, ten, or even fifteen years, but it won’t be the same as that wild phase at the beginning. And if she thinks for one second that sex can make up for the emotional connection and teamwork a marriage requires, she’s going to be sorely disappointed.
To continue the metaphor-Yes you need to water the garden-but if all you’ve planted is weeds that that’s what your going to end up with.
Maybe she lost a bet to Jason and had to say in her speech they had sex like Kenyan marathoners? Nothing else makes sense. Half kidding.
That’s a terrible analogy, too. She’s saying that their sex is monotonous, boring, takes a long time, and is pretty dull to watch?
LOL – that’s too funny, Canda. I’m a bit sympathetic to Olivia, though. While sex can go up and down in a marriage, if it goes away completely (like it did in my marriage), not only does it make everything else harder but it can also force you to wake up and realize that there are lots of other problems in a relationship. And while she shouldn’t have said anything publicly, it can be really hard to keep that kind of stuff in because it becomes such a big part of your existence (I wanted to scream to everyone how awful my sex life had become in the final two years of my marriage).
yeah, don’t people shit their pants while running marathons?
If she’s only been with this new guy for nine months, OF COURSE the sex is good – any relationship, after eight years, is going to need a bit of effort to retain the spark.
Amen. This must really be only her second long-term relationship. It’s easier to demonise a past relationship than accept that “kenyan marathon runners” sex years into a union isn’t likely nor is it a sign of a “failed” marriage. Seriously naive.
Agree. Umm.. marriage and long term relationships do require some feeding and watering.
It was crass. How would be responding to it if Brad Pitt said, “my marriage to Jennifer ended because my d*** died”.
Ok, now I just made myself snort.
He kind of did say that 😀
Lol yeah BP basically said Jen was boring..or that he was bored in their marriage..either way
Yes!!! She got married incredibly young and of course its going to be intense. Go figure that it’ll cool down by the time your 21,22,23. It takes work to keep things interesting and to keep the spark in a long term relationship. Her speaking this way was incredibly crass.
Total douche, sex or not, is disrespectful.
Plus: she could have talked about this with her ex husband, while they were married. And they were married for years, while she was starting her career, her ex husband was there supporting her. And now she says this. How class.
This is bad. I feel dirty, having read this and being witness to such a humiliation of an ex-spouse. Olivia isn’t my fave actress and I think she will disappear as quickly as she arrived. She obviously doesn’t think so, or she wouldn’t say on-the-record something so short-sighted, careless or arrogant. Have some shame, girl.
Yes, that’s the other thing – it’s a bit tasteless to discuss such intimate details in public when you know he’s definitely going to hear about it!
+2 it certainly rude and thoughtless.
+3
In what way did she humiliate her ex?
I felt she was being very candid, that’s all.
Sometimes it happens. Even if I were married to Brad Pitt, I may end up like that. And better leave the marriage than to cheat just for the sake of your woman parts.
And we don’t know what happened. May be her ex felt the same way too.
I feel like its too cute by half. Like, she had to know that people were going to assume he’s bad in bed by the way she phrased it, but now she has an out, because she never actually said it explicitly.
@Diana-you wouldn’t be pissed if your ex-husband told the MEDIA (not just a personal friend but the MEDIA) that his d*ck died when he was married to you?
It wasn’t like she said “the chemistry between us faded” or something that was inclusive of both of them or indicated that it was a mutual problem. The subtext of her comments is that he wasn’t satisfying her sexually.
Rude and crass X 1,000.
@theoriginalkitten
You’re right. I’d feel offended.
But I felt her statement was addressed to women in general. So if her ex feels offended because of her statement, I’ll agree with you that she was rude and crass.
But I felt like she made the statement without thinking much rather than with any intention to humiliate her ex. I think too much interpretation is being drawn out of her statement though.
Her vagina may have died while his p-nis was wandering around to water other dying vaginas for all we know.
I can forgive her crassness. She got married young and this is probably only her second big deal relationship.
Too many women stay once the sex is gone and fool themselves into thinking it is fine (unless you have a low sex drive. In that case, it probably is but I am sure your partner disagrees, unless they do as well). You need a sex life. Okay. Maybe some of you don’t, but I know I do.
Emotional, sexual, spiritual, mental…yes, you do have to work to have them, but you do need all four or someone is at risk of looking else where…
Agreed- rude, disrespectful, and humiliating for him.
well, I’m tired now so maybe I’m reading this wrong. But she doesn’t say he’s bad in bed, does she? Isn’t it more like at the end their sex life died since they weren’t in love anymore? maybe I need to re read it…
Yeah, that’s my interpretation too.
Mine too. I did not read it like she was accusing her ex any way.
And I think she’s right. Many women I know just stay in a sexless marriage for the sake of their children, when their spouses get it on the side.
And even worse is silently subjecting themselves to ‘conjugal duties’ when it does nothing for them.
But I don’t think quitting the marriage is an option for everyone. Good for her if she got out of a marriage like that.
But… a) if a man said this we would call him a dirtbag for prioritizing sex before love;
and
b) “my vagina died” is crass and tasteless. If what you mean to say is “over the years we became more like friends than lovers and I will always respect him” then you say that, not “women should think with their vaginas.”
Please, if you are reading something into her quotes about it being the love that died, go re-read.
Agree – I really dislike celebrities talking openly about their sex lives to begin with so saying her vagina died was just way too immature and vulgar.
When a relationship fails, of course the physical part of it does too, but there are more delicate ways of phrasing it, like “we lost that special closeness” or whatever.
She’s crass, crass, crass.
I think we’re all reading it wrong. From other, longer quotes I’ve read, she’s talking about how she felt AFTER they split up. She was separated from her husband and felt lonely, and that’s why she felt like her vagina died. I think that’s what she was saying, anyway.
I do not read in any part that she is trashong him. She is the one that felt that she was not sexual anymore. It happens when you are in depression. Lust goes out of the window, another symptom pf problems in the marriage.
Of course realising that your long marriage, dreams whatever ere going down, it IS depressing.
@ ally
I don’t think so dear…
[quote]Sometimes your vagina dies,” she explained. “Then you know it’s time to go. There’s no reason to sacrifice your womanhood and femininity for some sort of weird feeling of responsibility to something that may not be right. I feel like far too many women do that.”[quote]
Clearly that’s how she felt whilst they were still together – in there she realized it was time to go, time to end it – not after they split.
That’s how I took it too. Sometimes you still feel attached to a person (love), but aren’t in love anymore and the first place that shows is when you are intimate. Just not feeling it.
princesses have vaginas…?
The princess vagina diaries!
Yawn and Aussie girl
+100000000!
For real??? I can’t with this woman , Who the hell says my vagina died? This whole thing is ridiclous, and you know damn well how pissed she would be if he was saying my penis was a wet noodle during our marriage or was like a turtle in his shell all day long – hey guess it’s time for a divorce!
I’m embarassed for her.
+1
+2
Not so great or sporadic sex is a problem that often has a solution. Being an insensitive bitch is something one is stuck with for life. Tao is well done with her.
That is a mean comment
Too bad. Her comment, no matter how it was intended, was insensitive. It was phrased badly, and her further comments cemented that insensitivity and inner bitchiness.
And yet, it’s accurate.
And that is putting it nicely – I agree with you 110 % She is totally being a bitch
I think everyone is misinterpreting this. She’s not saying the sex was bad, she’s saying that you can’t lie to your body when you’re not in love with someone anymore. Why does everyone always interpret things in the worst way possible ?
Exactly this. Could she have phrased it more gracefully — definitely.
Yes. I totally agree. How are so many people not understanding this?
That’s ridiculous. You are reading something into this that just isn’t there. “Her body was not in love with him”?? Nowhere does she even MENTION the word love. She wasn’t hot for him anymore, so she dumped him, and then she did some BS artsy monologue about. That is cold.
Sorry Skipper — I have to disagree with you on this one. I think you are giving her too much credit for subtlety here. I don’t think she was having some mind/body revelation. I think she was trying to be funny/crass/cutting edge and it failed.
Instead of throwing an ex ever-so-publicly under the bus. How about, “We had some wonderful times. We grew apart and it was time to end the relationship.” What we tell our friends and family can be different 🙂
Absolutely agree. In the last yr together my ex husband and I had little sex and it was completely lack luster. Our hearts had moved on after 9 yrs. and we just didn’t have fun in or outside the bedroom. Simply couldn’t connect. Although, out of respect for her friendship with the ex and their history together she should have been more subtle.
Absolutely agree. In the last yr together my ex husband and I had little sex and it was completely lack luster. Our hearts had moved on after 9 yrs. and we just didn’t have fun in or outside the bedroom. Simply couldn’t connect.
That makes her sound like an a-hole.. whatever, I still think the bobble-head dumped her husband for fame-she wasn’t getting enough recognition married..
Agreed. She’s chasing the hollyweird dream
Yes, she is fame hungry like Elsa Pataky, dating high profile men to augment her publicity. She even changed her last name to be more Hollywood-friendly (born Olivia Jane Cockburn). Her original surname seems more appropriate now, LOL.
Such a tactless, zero class thing to say in public, especially about someone who she supposedly once loved. Then for comparison she describes the awesome sex she’s having with Jason Sudeikis (who is not much of an upgrade). Her meaning was quite clear, so it’s silly that some here are whitewashing her statements.
You’re right, Marie. She does have a big head, literally and maybe figuratively.
ha ha ha I forgot about the name change
She’s a douchette.
LOL!
If she thinks she’s going to have marathon sex for life with one man then she is sadly mistaken. Wow, grow up. Sex gets stale in long term relationships. Effort is generally required. Tool.
word.
how do kenyan marathon runners have sex? i would imagine very quick and not very often since they need to preserve their energy for running. what a dumbass statement to make. I actually think that speaks for the Prince. good riddance.
“how do kenyan marathon runners have sex?”
Thank you! I am fascinated to study the sex lives of Kenyan Marathon Runners now.
That is just too much gross information. NOT EVERYTHING needs to be made public, and it’s really lousy and classless to talk that way about her ex.
How would she feel if he publicly stated that his dick died during their marriage?
She’s a douche, no class or shame. I can’t imagine saying something like that about, well anyone. That’s just rude and no on needed to know that.
While I agree with her to a certain point, I just find this super tacky.
If she felt this was an issue that needed to be discussed (which I agree it is), she could’ve talked about it on a general level and NOT make it personal.
Low class, Olivia, low class…!
“men are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals”, while true is not enlightened thought or empowering.
the fact that women can think with their brains and not exclusively with their genitals is what makes women better than men! any human that chooses to think with their brains over genitals is better- they’re not acting like animals. men that use their penis as an excuse to have what they want sexually without consequences are called DOGS for a reason.
AND she dated/sexed on ramenhead timberlake!?!?!
not surprising with an iq as low as hers seems to be ignorant comments abound.
Men are just as capable of thinking with their brains as women are, and I always feel like this type of sentiment just lets them off the hook. Like, “of COURSE he cheated….he’s a man.”
We are none of us animals, although some of us choose to magnify our evolutionary imperatives and follow them over logic or care/respect for others.
It is base and crass no matter who is following their genitalia.
wow, women are better than men? how would you feel if a guy says “men invented languages, science and went to the moon, so they are better than women!”?
just by those examples you should realize that there are quite some men out there who can use their brain and there are women out there who can only use their vagina.
its all just an excuse, guys use their dick as an excuse, women use their feelings or horomones as an excuse.
see it in a positive way, men and women are equal. equal scum.
How do you know men invented languages? I would think that since women generally talk more than men that women invented it.
Christina proves she is a by-product of “Idiocracy” with that comment.
I think there is a lot going on here that she can’t/doesn’t want to discuss so she’s hitting him where it hurts. I’d love to know what’s behind this statement – what really happened. There’s a lot more to it than the sex in my interpretation.
thats a good point but still she comes across very badly with that statement.
You could be right. Either way, it’s classless to discuss, even though sexual chemistry is a real thing in my opinion, that you can’t just “talk through” sexual problems and be satisfied 100%.
Yeah, for all we know he could have cheated on her or hurt her in some way…we dont know the truth. IF thats the case (his foul play), those words must have felt pretty good coming out…still, shows lack of class and maturity.
Pretty s-!tty. I wouldn’t say something like that publicly about even my least favorite exes. Privately, to a close female friend or current boyfriend, sure – make a speech about it? That’s a pretty horrible thing to do to anyone.
Can’t comment on the whole sex and relationships thing, I’m still a virgin, though I might be asexual….anyways, who is this woman? Every guy I know thinks she soo hot, but its like Megan Fox, they’re not that beautiful, their acting is mediocre at best, and yet they’re relevant for some reason. Wtf?
My only reaction to this….;how the hell do Kenyan marathon runners have sex?
i bet 100$ that she uses the “i fell in love” when she cheats and not that her vagina wanted it. thats another double standard i always come across. most women take pride in having a sex drive but when they cheat its feelings because you know you cant argue with love but men are the pigs who just can think with their genitals.
Talking about your ex like that in public is so tasteless, complete lack of class.
great point. With the ex, it’s bad sex, but the new guy it’s all about love.
Let’s see how long the “love” lasts when the new sex thrill wears off.
While I do not agree with her verbage, I am not sure she is saying they never had sex. I think what she is trying to say is that she lost that passionate feeling for her husband and couldn’t “fake” it any longer. This choice of words is for shock value I guess.
I agree with you. She’s making a statement about going through the motions for a long time with someone she didn’t really love anymore. Sometimes people THINK they’re in a passion rut, and it turns out they’re not in love anymore and they’ve wasted a lot of time waiting out a rut that didn’t happen.
Obviously she said it in a crass and abrasive way that makes her come off totally unlikable.
Although I think all these people acting like she’ll fade from the spotlight faster than she came into it are wishful thinkers. I know a lot of women don’t like her around here, but she is beautiful and a better actor than a lot of the women we discuss.
It’s just too bad that when she opens her mouth ugly things come out.
I REALLY don’t want to picture those two going at it. Anyway, I’ve always thought she seemed like a super bitch.
I feel embarrassed for her.
First I agree with Kaiser on all her points.If I guy does what she does we will all scream: What a doushe!!ets.ets.
Second there is much more to a relationship than mere sex.Animals mate and go separate ways but we pride ourselves to be “more” than that.
She was faking it for 8!! years.Why?! I think it suited her to be a princess and there was nothing better around.
Third: talk about putting no pressure on the partner. As if he/she HAS to be an always operating sex maschine! No stress or whatever else is allowed to lower the libido.
And what if SHE wasn’t exciting enough for him?
I feel so tired of oversharing stars.
I agree with the others. That was such a rude comment. I see this women wanting the instant love, affection, but not willing to put the work in for it to remain lasting and stable. She seems flighty and would easily dump someone, if the relationship doesn’t meet her unrealistic standard.
This is something you tell your therapist after like ten sessions, not something you tell the whole world. What a bitch. I don’t want to hear about your great sex with Jason Sudekis, let alone hear you throw your ex under the bus because you could’t keep the passion going for eight years. It’s called marriage, dipshit.
Exactly. On a recent Ben Affleck post, women came out in DROVES to comment about what a jerk he is for talking about J. Lo and what he said was completely benign, vague and impersonal compared to what Wilde is saying here. She is giving DETAILS about an ex AND about her current BF.
Nevermind the fact that it’s Sudeikis she’s talking about. GROSS. *shivers*
Hi Ho the prince is gay.
No woman that beautiful and that horny should ever go to sleep at night not satisfied.
You are really simplifying things there. Beauty is great, but there are things under the surface that count for a lot more in the long run: compatibility, shared values, trust, a sense of humor, honesty, etc. etc. And passion (what you call horny) fades in a relationship if sex is the only thing you have in common.
See also: comment #54
If a man said this about a woman, he’d be called a disrespectful pig. She’s a pig too. Why is it that a lot of women these days who would be the first to call themselves feminists seem so content talking about themselves in nothing but a sexual way? So, you’re just a vag/uterus then? Congrats.
yes, lots of women dont get anything about it.
being a feminist doesnt mean to act like the biggest male douchebags.
but it seems thats how it will end like, not the genders getting closer together, sharing their best qualities, just both genders adopting the worst qualities of the other…lowest common denominator…
That comment is appropriate for a dinner with girlfriends not to be spread worldwide. Shame on you, Olivia!
her maiden “real” last name is “Cockburn”
Hee hee hee
She should shut up … it’s just too gross and inappropriate.. nobody wants to know about ur dried up V,, seriously >___> before sex, i suggest she gets some proper manners and education…
I don’t know which is worse : revealing the intimate details of your past failed marriage or comparing your “new found” sex life to African athletes (on the latter she’s almost making Mariah Carey pat herself on the back regarding the comments she made on Ethopians)… I’m…I’m… **fighting back ignorant comments**
That Mariah and Ethiopian comment was made up.
She didn’t say it, though. It was made up.
My bad. Oh well still find it very funny the made up story.
Oh, it’s definitely that. I assume that’s why the bogus statement had such legs. I think Mariah got ‘Hillfiggered’, there.
I know it’s wrong, but if the rumors are true that January Jones is thisclose to exposing her baby daddy for his lack of paying up…then it would be amazing if it was Jason, just for the drama of it all. Olivia seems so over the top.
Wait – what? Is JJ going to call out the dad?
*runs to IMDB*
Oh, I see she is not signed on for X-Men: Days of Future Past yet. This should get interesting…
that prince whatever that is, his hair is awful and he looks like he has a tiny tiny penis.
How does someone “look like they have a small penis”?
It might make some people uncomfortable to hear someone talk about their sex life so candidly, especially a woman..but that mentality is old fashioned in my opinion. Sure, maybe her choice of wording was a little tacky, however they were her words and her feelings. She did not give a full disclosure briefing on what led to her divorce. This was probably just a part of it and this is what she chose to share for her monologue. While I agree with most, that marriage is hard work and sex is not the end all and be all of it and sometimes marriages go through dry spells or whatever the case may be, we do not know the whole story. We don’t know all the details about their divorce, so one cannot assume that the part of it she chose to share in her monologue is the only reason it happened. I also think that these particular sentences from her monologue were taken out of context of the whole thing and that she may have been trying to be funny. I read some other parts and that seemed to be the case. Also, if I may be brutally honest…just looking at her ex husband makes my vagina die a little..**shudder**
agree! i think that mentality is old fashioned, too.!
Imagine what would be MEN’s reaction on a site where 98% of readers are male and some male celeb were talking about his penis ex wife, sex life.
I guarantee men would not react the way these posters here do.
I mean, is it because we are women and we see woman talking so open about sex and her satisfaction? i don’t know… -_-
It’s not about sex, it’s about her being an a-hole towards her ex-husband.
Just because she wanted this information to be public, HE necessarily didn’t.
To me it’s not about being old fashioned, and the tiresome “woman vs man” double standard thing. It’s not about being uncomfortable with what she says either. It’s about the fact she made it public, what exactly is her angle to made her past intimacy public, to get some applause? I highly doubt you’d like your ex/current significant other to share all your intimate ups like downs of your past/present relationship. It’s not exactly like the dude was an a**hole who behaved like a scumbag towards her or violent and she denounced it to make an example (now unless she’s going to make a next announcement on that one too?). We all have some dirty laundry, but I highly doubt that we want *EVERYONE* to know about it, except the trusty friends we confide to. Now that a woman saying she’s very happy and blessed with her sexual life is one thing, but then bringing up the shady past is another. So I find it very tacky, and my reaction would be very much the same if it was a man who made such comments.
Agree — I don’t think this is a man/woman thing. It was a tactless way to express herself. I would say the same thing if it was a man — tactless.
There is of course a better way to put it. Scientist have already proved that some women have more testoterone in their bodies causing them to be more sexually charged. I’ve been in both kinds of relationships. I prefer the one where I am getting more orgasms. I communicate better when I’m sexually satisfied. I feel happier, prettier and less stressed. Just less pissy. I’ve talked to both my mother (married 31 years) and grandmother (married 56 years
There is of course a better way to put it. Scientist have already proved that some women have more testoterone in their bodies causing them to be more sexually charged. I’ve been in both kinds of relationships. I prefer the one where I am getting more orgasms. I communicate better when I’m sexually satisfied. I feel happier, prettier and less stressed. Just less pissy. I’ve talked to both my mother (married 31 years) and grandmother (married 56 years) they both agree that sex is incredibly important in a marriage. Not the only important thing but definitely VERY high on the list. Like #1 communication #2 sex #3 picking you battles carefully and so on…
I agree in general with your 1,2 and 3 points of importance.
But I feel she should put more value on (1.) and comunicate her problem (2.) with him and if there’s not the expected response and talk a bit more with a terapist and THEN separate if that’s the only way.
About choosing the right battles: she’s a complete scank for taking about it after such a long post-divorce time.
She supposedly moved on, no one cares if she had a good sex with her ex and even why you got divorced so why the drama?
She could of said it more tactfully. But I agree with a few of the other posters above, that they were having problems and their sex life faltered for it.
I guess I’m just a pretty private person then, because not only would I refrain from talking about my sex life with exes publicly, but I would expect the same courtesy in return. Maybe I’m a prude but if I let myself become vulnerable with someone, I expect a level of respect and protection of something that was once sacred to me, even if we’re no longer together.
Where is Amelia? I think she said the other day she hated O. Wilde and I asked her why. I think I’m starting to understand now because she seems pretty insufferable.
And maybe you are not prude but you have proper manners. Or I am old fashioned.
If I went so far as to leave someone and there was NOTHING good to say about him, then I don’t demean myself dissing him afterwards.
One may ask: What on Earth made you choose him on first place?-Ergo I am a stupid cow to begin with.
Exactly. It’s not so much WHAT she’s saying, it’s the fact that she’s saying it publicly. And then add to that the fact that she’s boasting about how great her sex life is now with her new man?
That’s just a really hurtful thing to do to someone you were with for EIGHT years. Ugh.
If a guy did this, we’d all be coming down on him like a ton of bricks.
Holy Scary Ex-Wife, Batman! There was a time, a long time when she seemed pretty on the ball to me. That time’s over. So unnecessary and cruel, especially when she waxes orgasmic about how much better her current sex life is now than it was with the dude who let her social climb all over him. Those comments come off like those of a more vindictive Taylor Swift with a self-editing button malfunction.
I’ll join Team Prude with you, OKitt. I’m pretty open about a lot of stuff, but I would never say something so demeaning about an ex PUBLICLY. This is something I might say to my very best friend behind closed doors, with the knowledge that it would never get back to my ex. Clearly this dude is going to hear this and be mortified. Sucks for him.
OKitt, et al. I’m just going to throw this out there:
Sometimes women are physically (and/or emotionally) incapable of having an orgasm (“achieving climax” in PC-ese) until they reach a certain age/developmental level.
It’s not right to blab about this kind of thing to ANYONE but a closest confidant/friend who will keep their mouth shut!
She was 18 when they married, and this whole matter is not something she should be sharing, period. And I maintain that she’s an asshole.
That was really rude of her to insult her ex-husband like that. Comparing the sex in a marriage that lasted for 8 years to a current romance that is only 9 months old is ridiculous and immature.
Just terrible. And yes, if it had been a man that said that, my Lord would the outrage have been deafening! If she wanted to say the passion died or they fell out of love, she should have said just that. All this nonsense about her ladyparts dying is just crass and she HAS to know would immediately make her ex look bad. Great that she’s moved on and is having a great sex life but she doesn’t need to share that with anyone. Just crass and classless behaviour.
She should also wait on having kids if sex is so important. Yes, I agree intimacy wth your spouse is high on the list…but having kids will change that. You can’t just h*mp all day and night when you have a newborn or a toddler that has needs every few minutes.
Sex, comes and goes in a long relationship. I understand wanting it and not getting it as you use to (dating/honeymoon phase/pre-kids).
Just kinda tactless she told the world about it.
We get it, you’re having sex very often with Jason…
….but it’s not something we want to know…or jealous of.
While female sexuality has been discounted and marginalized or centuries, this balls out (excuse the pun) discussion of her sexual activities with her ex and Sudekis are low class, degrading. and undignified. Does she really think this is what female enpowerment is about – so we can talk locker room like guys? I want to scream when I see woman acting like this – keep your private life private. Women’s rights are all about making us EQUAL to men, not IDENTICAL. Try maintaining your femininity and discretion, and you’ll get much further than conducting yourself like a sailor.
I never understood why a person chooses to be in a relationship with another soul yet the second it’s over with their ex they instantly become the scum of the earth- it reflects poorly on you when you tear into them publicly. How awful for him and how low class of her
I’ve never understood how a person can share a period of life with another person and before the words ‘it’s over’ have even been said that old love is barely a memory and the new one is miles better than the one who just wasn’t good enough. Sometimes makes you wonder if such a thing as feelings even exist. Oh well.
It usually means they didn’t make the effort to build a true friendship before they jumped into a romantic relationship.
There’s something to that. Funny though, the types of people who relate to people that way are so frequently the ones who can’t be ‘friends’ with a person without an eye to romance. We’re strange animals, that’s what I know.
Leaving a spouse because for whatever reason the sex life is not to their body parts liking… That’s their business. Telling the world, making sure they know… don’t care if your my neighbor, a Princess, or Mechanic…unless your a Comedian and it’s part of your act…. It’s just low class!
I think I get that she’s trying to say that her poor sex life was a result/vicious circle of the emotional unhappiness in her marriage. In which case, just come out and say so, and maybe bring up the fact that your ex wasn’t too thrilled with you in bed either — just to be fair. “Art” is not an excuse for targeted incivility toward an individual. If she needs to turn this into art, maybe she should paint a portrait of her dead vagina to help her work through it all….
So, so, SO true. You can hate how things ended or hate what a person did or how that partner changed–I’m not an authorized biography, so I don’t know what brought the parties involved to this place. But to do this to an ex just marks you down as hateful and whether it’s deserved or not, you kind of vindicate the other person when you choose to express the depth of your difficulties this way. I don’t know what kind of man her ex is, but now he gets to wear the ‘Well, At Least I Didn’t Do That’ crown and if played right, that position gets you very far in the court of public opinion. So, there’s another tiara she’s relinquished.
Who throws an ex they screwed over under the bus because they had a bad sex life? It doesn’t matter, be an adult and move on without publicly emasculating the guy who was guilty of trying to make you happy.
So when is Hollywood going to stop trying to make her happen?
I haven’t commented here in awhile, but I just have to agree with you here. If I let my V dictate my life, I’d be in one of the worst relationships ever (with my amazingly great in bed, narcissistic ex), and I wouldn’t be married to my wonderful husband. Because, yes, it goes way deeper than the V. Moreover, I totally agree with the fact that she threw her ex under the bus for something that was, no doubt, her own issue b/c she married him so young and was over it. Total double standard and not as women’s lib as she’s thinking…a misguided attempt, IMO. She comes across as emotionally immature and trying too hard for laughs–at the expense of her (previously) friendly relationship w/Tao.
Reminds me of the classic, for every stunningly beautiful woman there’s a guy who’s tired of her s**t.
A vagina and everything under her command, dies every 28 days.
Elevator flood scene from “The Shining” > bad marriage.
I think shes saying, that the relationship ended, and as a result, her libido/attraction to him disappeared. Its not saying he is defective or incapable as a lover, but that women are hihgly emotional when it comes to sex, even if their libido can be as high or higher than a mans.
Maybe I misread it LOL
I’m guessing her boyfriend came up with her speech. Sudeikis is a comic and using his man brain he probably thought this would be hilarious.
Wow. I’m not usually annoyed by v-jay-jay talk but I felt like if I had to hear about her vaj one more time I was going to saw it up for her.
I generally don’t want or need to hear about some strangers sex life. Now if OW and I were BFFs I’d laugh and take another swig of my margarita but to tell the whole world is just, well, childish and silly. Maybe she’s punch drunk on lurve chemicals and just doesn’t know what she was saying, it happens, but if she keeps talking like this no more free passes.
What an a-hole she is!
I didn’t like her much before now I don’t know if I will be able to stand her EVER!
I wasn’t if fan either but now I’m really not going to go out of my way.
While her comments are funny, I hate when people badmouth their ex or talk smack about their relationship so publically. I think some things should be private.
That “high” of a new relationship wears off eventually. Hopefuly she is happier now but she shouldn’t expect her “Kenyan marathon sessions” will be the norm throughout any relationship. Relationships ebb and flow.
To kiss and tell in any relationship past or present is terribly crass…I prefer to be a lady. Everyone knows how happy I am with my husband by the smile on my face! (2 years married today!)
So true! And: congratulations!
Thanks!
What’s that saying? “Those who talk about the amazing sex they have aren’t having any”
Quite typical for a Hollywood actresses. Usually people in the showbiz have unusually high level of sexual appetite. Luke Ford reported that college athletes were recruited by celeb handlers to satisfy the voracious sexual appetite of female celebs. Maybe it has something to do with psychological profiles of people who go into showbiz.
It’s probably better they divorced for Him as well as her. Hopefully, he will find someone who will rock his socks in the bedroom. She should not have announced that to the world! Even if it was a problem they had, it probably had a lot to do with growing apart and her(meaning she should be taking some fault in the failed relationship too). People who are intelligent are going to think she shouldn’t just throw him under the bus.
Ugh, what a jerk. If you’re going to badmouth your past sex life like that, do it with girlfriends, not in a public interview. It’s just low-class and disrespectful to your ex-husband.
That’s a respect killah right there.
I didnt need that visual of Jason Sudeikis having sex like a marathon runner… Ew
Yes! Keep it to yourself please!
I agree. TOO MUCH INFORMATION COCKBURN!
STFU please.
After reading what she said and the way she said it, I wish that I would never, ever, ever hear or see anything she ever says or does EVER again.
One of the most crass, crude, low-brow rants I could have possibly imagined.
One other thing I just thought of.
I hope that Jason Sudeikis never gets on her bad side.
He should dump her right now while she’s publicly hailing his prowess. That way she won’t ever be able to get away with attacking him the way she did her ex husband.
Run Jason, Run. Get free while you can.
Wow, that is harsh. Poor bloke.
This sounds like the sort of thing John Mayer would say. It’s crass no matter who it’s coming from.
I’d be mortified if somebody I had once trusted and cared about enough to be MARRIED to threw me under the bus like that. I agree with the commenter who said it was likely Sudeikis who came up with this…all sorts of not funny.
Tacky to say even if it Is true. No one wants to know the details of your sweaty bedroom romps, girl! However, I am finding much of her choices since dating the sudeikis dong questionable. Hmmm… connection???
I don’t think she meant it the way she said or she didn’t say it, if I can still a line from Mitt “eloquently”. I have been in a relationship that I knew was over not because we weren’t having sex but I did not respond to him during sex. Usually lack of response is a symptom of a bigger issue. Lack of trust, communication or something else.
She’s an asshole. That is all.
I wanted to like her, but she always comes off as such a try-hard tool. She’s trying so hard to be hip, funny, intelligent, and cool but she just sounds stupid and crass.
Oh well. Any PR is good PR. We’d never be discussing this if she hadn’t said that quote about her lady part. Good thinking by her script writer!
I don’t care who says it, man or woman: it’s just way, way, WAY too much information. Her vagina, her business. Please. Don’t over-share that much with the world! That’s for wine and girlfriends, surely to God.
I have zero problem with a man or woman talking about their sex life. So let’s get this out of the way right now. This is not about some kind of prude desire to not hear people talk about sexual satisfaction. I also totally agree that we don’t allow women to talk about these things enough.
But frankly, this was a nasty thing to do to a man that she has acknowledged LOVED her.
She has gone on record many times saying that he ex-husband cared deeply for her and that he was a good man.
Why would you embarass someone you were married to like this? Why? It’s awful and wrong.
If a man did this, I would be disgusted and angry. I would hurt for his ex-wife.
I can’t let her off the hook for being truly insensitive and awful because she’s a woman. This was poor behavior.
She’s right about not lying to your vagina. I told mine we were going to disneyland, but we were actually going to the Gyno.
It was pretty upset.
Ha ha. Mine can always tell the moment we get to the parking lot. Freaks out.
I did not need the details about her sex life with jason sudekis. Gross!
Classy lady….. -_-
What a bitchy, hurtful thing to say. Her ex is better off without her. So her vagina got bored? Apparently her vagina got bored again recently. She supposedly hooked up sexually with Alexander Skarsgard, even though she’s in a relationship with someone else. She sounds like a real slut. And not a very nice person either.
Cannot trust the judgment of someone whose vagina woke up for Jason Sudekis.
This x 100,000
Oh snap!
(double snap)
I don’t care whether these comments are coming from a male or a female. It’s incredibly crass and disrespectful. This shows what kind of a person she really is. I wouldn’t want to know her.
We don’t really care about your dead vagina, Wilde…or that Jason brought it back to the land of the living. It was still a bitch move to throw your ex under the bus.
She seems like such an insufferable twit. This isn’t the first time she’s knocked her ex. She also said once that being married so young and for so long stunted her growth. I wish she would just shut up and go away.
Lol at everyone saying she’s airing her dirty laundry, then following it by complaining about the lack of or bad sex in their marriages. Yes she said it to the media, but you all can’t help but criticize her while also airing your own dirty laundry. Hypocrites. If you don’t want to eat about her sex life and vagina, how about refraining from telling us about yours.
Puh-leeze! Everyone here is anonymous, so if someone airs her dirty laundry, who’s going to know the true identity of that person or her significant other? No one and thus, no repercussions. Who really is going to care? Certainly not the media. You seriously cannot compare any of us to Olivia, a celebrity who makes a living being in the public eye. Sit down because you didn’t make a good point.
Exactly! I’m actually interested in anonymous sex lives, I find it educational without the crassness because I have no idea who is who so I think about how I would handle the situation and how it applies to my current one.
It gets TMI when I know who is involved and visualize. I REALLY DO NOT WANT TO VISUALIZE ANY MAN FROM SNL!
Not sure why I cracked up at the line, Sit down because you didn’t make a good point’, but cackle like a goon, I did.
Are we reading the same posts? I see *three* comments on people’s sex lives.
The vast majority of comments are about Ms. Wilde’s interview.
Italian prince huh! Not impressed. One of the featured bachelor in The Bachelor was an Italian prince. He’s cuter and richer.
Liv, girl…you know you wrong!! lmao
First her vagina died, then her brain died!
That was way harsh, Tai.
I know I’m biased because I’ve never been able to stand her but holy crap. Talk about oversharing. That’s the kind of thing you say in private to your friends after a few glasses of wine. Then it’s fine. In print, broadcast to the whole world, is beyond crass.
What exactly does she mean her vagina “died”. Was he just a bad lover or was she totally turned off by him for some reason. I’ve had the latter happen and yes, it is time to leave not because I am some sex crazed skank (I’m under sexed if anything) but because I couldn’t bear to have the guy touch me anymore.
If he is just not doing it for her anymore but he has not done anything to repulse her, she is very cold. If he did something to repulse her she did the right thing but it should not be said outloud because it sounds crass.
Did that make any sense?
In short, my first reaction was to think Sedaikis (sp) better watch it, she is just like a stereotype of guy, it’s all about sex…. then I remembered my ex and that feeling of revulsion – ironically TMI because I felt that all HE cared about was sex and he made me feel like a blow up doll.
Maybe HE went off HER. Bet she never deigned to think of it like that huh? Wouldn’t be surprised if that was indeed the case, she’s smug, arrogant and as we have all come to learn, classless and incredibly bitchy. Total turn off.