Dakota Fanning covers the December issue of InStyle UK to promote her role as creepy Jane in Breaking Dawn: Part 2, and the cover shot itself features a white jacquard Chanel dress. Dakota looks very beautiful, youthful, and sweet here. I have mixed feelings about the other photo, which shows Dakota in a Dolce & Gabanna corset, a Roberto Cavalli skirt (which is gorge), and cat ears. I really think we could have done without the cat ears, but I get that the stylists wanted her to look youthful (she’s still just 18 years old) even though she’s going semi-risque with the corset. The interview isn’t very heady but does include a question about Kristen Stewart’s affair with Rupert Sanders and the resultant crumpled heart of Sparkles. Here are some excerpts:
On the Twihard meltdown: “Everyone thinks they have the right to, you know, publicise the struggles and sadness and heartbreak and all of that. It’s like, ‘Why do you think you are the authority to judge people’s experiences?'”
Why she hasn’t lost it yet: “Why have I been able to stay sane in a sometimes insane world? The pure love of what I do. Making movies.”
On the Hounddog rape scene: “I’ve always been drawn to material that’s more kind of heavy, you know? Whether it be dark or dramatic or sometimes disturbing. And that can be hard to do when people think you’re still a kid.”
She’s only had 1 boyfriend & is currently single: “You know, I’m not the kind of girl or person who really wants boyfriends in my life. I’m also the kind of person… I’m very black and white in what I feel and I don’t wanna be with someone that I don’t foresee spending a long time with.”
[From InStyle UK]
I totally understand Dakota’s perspective on the situation because she and Kristen are very good friends and have not only worked together on The Twilight Saga but also grew very close on the set of The Runaways. Dakota only sees the good in Kristen, and she wants to defend her pal. However, I don’t really think the bulk of the criticism over the Kristen’s affair with Rupert has anything to do with “judg[ing] people’s experiences” in general. Instead, Kristen’s caught a lot of heat (from the non-Twihards, anyway) for pretending to be above all of the Hollywood clichés, and then she got caught behaving like a Hollywood cliché. Or rather, she got caught banging her married director like a so-called “typical” starlet.
As for Dakota, I hope she carrys on just as she’s been doing as an NYU student who somehow manages to squeeze in a bit of time for films on occasion. She’ll be just fine in life.
Photos courtesy of InStyle UK
She looks so much like Sarah Polley, it’s unreal.
a mix of Sara Polley and Amanda Seyfried for me here
Yes! You’re so right..
If you SPLICEd them together..;)
(…Also, that is a seriously weird movie)
And young Goldie Hawn.
Only when she doesn’t open her mouth.
They airbrushed her to look like Amanda Seyfried. Oh yes and *yawn*
The photoshopped the cover picture so much it doesn’t even look like Dakota Fanbing anymore. If you don’t like the way she looks don’t put her on your cover and change her face.
I understand her standing by her friend but there is right and wrong. When you do wrong everyone will judge you. Don’t have to be famous for others to say cheating with a married man is wrong.
Come on, Dakota, who publicised the whole dilemma? Stewart herself! I can’t bear the whining anymore. Do they think we are all stupid!?
Amanda Seyfried without any pores or skin texture!
LOVE the cat ears!
She scares me.
Well miss Fanning, being famous is a two-sided sword isn’t? Kristen made a deal with the devil when she became a superstar. Now she would be able to deal with the criticism for cheating on her Pattinson. Of course we all can cast our opinion
In the matter. Would you think the same way Dakota if Rob would have cheated on Kristen?
Exactly. If she didn’t want ppl to judge her then she should be working at a bank or sth. She made her bed…and Dakota should seriously think before she speaks.
Well Kristen has her millions,her mansions and her man.So life for her is grand. She is still getting acting roles,endorsements,etc.While there are millions of folks who are upset about the their relationship some of whom are neglecting their own relationship. It’s not that serious ,people. She cheated on him,she may do it again but it’s their business.
I think she is 18 and wants to defend her friend. It’s cute. She hasn’t been tempted to cheat yet and she has not made that decision. She also hasn’t been cheated on yet. Thankfully, neither have I.
I judge because I’ve been Kristen and did NOT follow through.
It’s either fillers or photoshop but either one, her lips are waay plumper than they were before. Not a good idea to start fillers at 18!
It’s also not a good idea to pose with a perfume bottle between your legs when you are like what, 17 years old?
It’s not a good idea to allow your 17 year old to pose with a perfume bottle between her legs. When I was 17, I would have done a lot of iffy things but my mom would have stopped me.
That doesn’t really look like a corset to me. More like the top of a leotard. A fancy, designer leotard, but nonetheless…
Anyway, I actually would have preferred that show without the cat ears. The ears are cute, but ridiculous in that photo.
‘You think you are the authority to judge?’
Hell yes!!! I don’t have sex with married men.
Lol yes, I was waiting for that response!
Isa waiting for a response. Get a life!!
Jill you do to have sex with married men. Stop denying it!!!
Not exactly in reference to this specific article, but- I don’t understand why so many people think judging someone’s behavior is bad. If I didn’t judge I wouldn’t be able to differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from.
Everyone judges, its life. I’ve been judged for wrong things I have done. That’s how you learn shame and don’t make the same mistakes twice.
The only people I hear whining “Don’t judge me” are the ones doing something they feel is wrong. I have NEVER heard anyone commit an act of kindness and say “But, don’t judge me!”
+1
Cam S – I’ve never looked at it that way. You make a lot of sense here.
Thank You!!! The best post I have read in a long time.
Ditto.
I’d apply “don’t judge” to situations when somebody had to deal with a lot of crap in life. Like he/she had real struggles with dysfunctional family, abuse etc. And I didn’t have any of that. So it’ll be very easy for me to sit and judge the life decisions that person’d made.
I realized it only when I had to face some serious crap myself. Like judging is easy but “go and do it better than he” and we’ll see then.
+1000
ahhhh sanity. Feels good. Thank you, Cam S.
I don’t have the authority to condemn, and I rarely have all the evidence required to do so anyway. But I do have the right to form and voice an opinion, to discern, and, yes, to judge.
In fact, I’ll indulge in that now: Dakota seems like a sweetheart and unlike some (ahem) can act. However, she’s 18 and doesn’t yet know what the hell she’s talking about. But I agree that she’ll probably turn out just fine in life. At least as far as young HW actresses go.
excellent points.
I couldn’t agree more or have said it better.
Jumping on the bandwagon here! Such a great comment!
@ CamS Here’s the thing about being judgmental: you have never walked in my shoes nor I in yours.
…but that is not a prerequisite to judging.
We’re a society of judgey judgers who judges and are judged.
It is what it is.
“who Judge”, not judges. Gah, grammar.
@orly – you’re right. i just try to be conscience of judgmental thoughts whenever i can remember.
Thank god! Somebody who doesn’t think that judging others is defensible, because it simply isn’t. Glass houses, stones, ths whole website is populated with stone throwers but not a whole hell of a lot of people with compassion or, I suspect, self love.
By making this statement you are going beyond playing the game (which is btw a fun one by me). Instead it seems to me that you readily indulge your own interpretation without questioning it.
Sure, I bet there are some people who say “don’t judge me” because they are in fact doing something they believe is wrong – but in life things are rarely black and white. As we age we are confronted with morally ambiguous situations and there is rarely ONE RIGHT WAY TO ACT. Sometimes we have to make compromises or choose the lesser of evils.
You may think you have morality figured out or that those who say “don’t judge me” are denying “reality.” I can’t be certain from what you wrote that you feel this way. But maybe, just maybe, sometimes the world is complicated. Perhaps these Don’t-judge-me-ers are just people who want to connect to you – despite having identified your proclivity toward black and white thinking. Maybe there are instances when people invoke this plea because they wish to be understood – because for some reason they feel like they could use your friendship.
I mean, is it “right” to participate in a gossip site? Surely if you inspect it, this is quite a selfish mean exercise – which interestingly, enough, also has its merits (it does help us to define common values). If you consider it seriously, I think you will agree it is almost impossible to live without hurting others. Even the kindest of people can be moderately self-absorbed or goal driven at times.
I think it is more fair to say that when people say “don’t judge me” they are detecting that their actions *might* be judged in an unfavorable way, and not that they know that they the actions are, indeed, wrong. There is an important difference and I am sad to see how many people were super excited by this comment.
P.S I have actually said “don’t judge me” to others after disclosing that I read gossip sites and I don’t think it is wrong. At the same time, I also don’t think it is exactly admirable.
*slow clap*
Everything Jojo said.
I tell people “Don’t judge me” after they find out I read comic books. And when I tell them I loved One Life to Live, oh and when I tell them I watch cartoons. They don’t say anything to my face but I feel them judging me with their eyes! People can so dang Judgy!
+1000 to Jojo. Great comment.
Life is not black & white indeed. We should try not to hurt people and/or hurt ourselves. But, life is so tricky sometimes…
I used to think I was sure about almost everything. Time prove me wrong.
Dear CamS,
You stated earlier “I don’t understand why so many people think judging someone’s behavior is bad. If I didn’t judge I wouldn’t be able to differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from.”
This can be read as:
a) “I judge to interact with real, living, actual-next-to-me person (a.k.a. husband, wife, children, friends, colleagues, neighbours)”
or
b) “I judge certain celebrities I will never, ever meet in person to HIGHLIGHT the kind of behaviour I WILL NOT TOLERATE from any person next to me (a.k.a. husband, wife, children, friends, colleagues, neighbours)!”
If it is b)
– You should relax together with some over commentor on this site, as none of you are in danger to socially interact with KS.
If it a)
– I’m with you. As any human being, honest with her/himself.
We have a cultural shift in the last decade and HIGHLIGTHING some norms comes with it.
For example: The stay-at-home-mother-and-wife was THE (west-)german blue-print! It was THE way to go! If you are a girl, you marry at some point in your life, you get pregnant, you quit your job and care for the children – and that’s it! It was a deal and it was working – as long as the husband was LEGALLY bonded to provide you as long as you live. Yep, even after a divorce the (now ex-)husband has to pay for you, all your life. Even if he is dead, you had some entitlement to a widow pension, based on HIS working record. This old system was great, as there was a solid structure, that you would be safe and secure [after quitting your job for the sake of your children]- even after a divorce.
Then – a few years ago – there was a game change.
The now really ex-husband doesn’t have to pay for you all your life! He pays for his children (this part doesn’t changed] until they finished colleagues/university/any-job-training] BUT he pays for you only as long as you are essentially bonded by child care! This is until your youngest child is three years old. So on Juniors third birthday it is for him “OFF to Kindergarten!” and for you “OFF to job market!!. In this economy.
In this context: Infidelity doesn’t mean only hear-break and breaking up a family [bad enough] it means also the real danger to slip into poverty and completly loose you old life and social standard! And there a [more-or-less] young ex-wife in her mid-thirties might be able to get back on the job-market and to get/make a living, this situation is far more grim for a woman of fifty-years who is too young to retire and too old to get on the [any] job again.
I see in in my mothers generation. There are woman, who gave up everything for HIM [sometimes even the desire to have children] only to pushed to the garbage after he hit a midlife-crises and decided to start a new family for HIM with a younger wife.
Infidelity means social death for some victims. And therefore I can understand this HIGHLIGHTING the desired norm on anybody, everybody, even celebrities.
This is a real Angst, growing in our (west.)german society during the last years.
P.S. (east-) german woman don’t have his specific problem. They were fored to work [in and out of your home] all their life. They have other problems.
Judging is nothing more than drawing your own conclusion on a matter. You came to the conclusion that Kristen Stewart is a bad person because you saw her kissing a married man in a photo. Not everyone will come to the same conclusion. Some need more facts, and some will draw their conclusion immediately.
I feel that people become upset when they feel that people are drawing negative conclusions when all the facts have not yet been heard.
If I were perfect, I would bash her too, but since I’m not, I’ll leave it to those who are.
It’s been interesting reading the comments. I guess if we didn’t judge people’s actions to some extent there would be no gossip sites at all. The author of these articles reports gossip and we comment on it. As you all did my post. To me, that is a form of judging. It is kind of like forming an opinion on a matter, but in which I have to judge using my instincts.
*****Look, I just cast my ballot today for a man I HAVE NEVER met. I had to judge the candidates based on their actions and speeches they made. I was judging who I thought would be best candidate for President of the United States.
I guess I don’t see judging as a bad thing. To me it is my natural instinct, and anyone that says they don’t judge in some form or another, I’d worry about their decision making capabilities.
“Judge not yet ye be judged”- I’m not a Christian so I don’t adhere to this. I don’t have to know someone personally to know that killing, cheating, lying is wrong. And when people feel that I am in the wrong they can judge away. I don’t mind. If I know in my heart I’m doing what is right and honorable, it doesn’t matter to me if people judge me.
I just think we are raising a whole generation of people that have no shame and don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. Partly because it’s not right to “judge” them. Sorry, I call Bull
@Cam S
Very well said and exactly what I think.
You NEVER here of people doing what’s good and kind telling others that they don’t have the right to judge them. If celebrities (and the narcissists who think like them) are perceived as doing wonderful things they greedily eat up the praise that’s heaped upon them. If they do something selfish and mean, no ones censure or disgust is valid. The hypocrisy of this sort of thinking is staggering. This is why Miss Stewart continues to be so disliked. In no way shape or form does she believe that what she chose to do is wrong. Screw Liberty Ross and her children.
I think there’s an important difference between “don’t judge” and “don’t judge ME”.
Everyone judges all the time – it simply means “to form a considered opinion”. But we should restrict our judging to specific things/behaviours rather than thinking we know enough to cast judgement on an entire person.
There’s a quote I like: “judging a person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who YOU are.”
In context of KStew: “cheating on your boyfriend is wrong” = perfectly fine. All that judgement says about YOU is that you think fidelity is important.
On the other hand, a judgement like “She’s a whore” = not okay. That kind of blanket statement just makes YOU seem narrow-minded.
/BTW – Those YOU’s are all generic, I’m not talking *at* anyone specific.
I don’t agree. We all judge a little bit for sure, but judging someone’s behavior is bad because you have not been living that person’s life. Who are we to put ourselves in someone’s shoes?
We have no idea what her/his emotions, pains, struggles, tumults and joys feel like. We have not experience the same things.
We should try to be the judges of ourselves in order to improve as human beings and stop making mistakes.
I have close friends who have done worse things than sleeping with a married man with kids. They have lived situations, related with marriage and relationships, which are considered very immoral in our society. I don’t know what I would have done if I had lived their experiences.
Of course, I judge people who rape and kill, and especially, people who abuse children, the worst crime a human being can commit. But, even the ones who kill have often a traumatic life story, and frequently the abusers were abused.
In less extreme and/or private situations like infidelity, judging is wrong. As Dakota says and very well, ‘Why do you think you are the authority to judge people’s experiences?’” I really like this girl.
I differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from according to what they can give me of positive and inspiring, etc, according to what I can give them, according to how we can understand one another, even if understanding a “morally wrong” situation is implied.
Dear Dakota,
Kristen Stewart CHOSE to put herself in the public eye as an *ahem* actress, CHOSE to sign up for a role in a film series with a psychotic fan base and CHOSE to boink her married director knowing society has a tendency to frown upon that sort of thing.
If she thought she wasn’t going to get any bad press from that particular episode then the pot has clearly eaten away at a goodly portion of her brain, because bitching about celebrities (+ porn & spam) is what the Internet is for!
Plus she chose to apologize publicly. That was the moment she invited us in.
She apologized to her fans not to you just to make it clear. She didn’t invited anyone at all. People invited themselves. Anyway she won, she got more famous and more mainstream. Both her and his equally emo and less talented guy so congrats to them. Just keep them both off the magazines( Praying)
In Hollywood being a cheater is something to be proud of it seems.
Where’s your moral compass miss Fanning?
For crying out loud, she is a kid, defending her friend. What would you have her do, tie Stewart to a stake and stone her to death?? Would that finally quench your appetite for blood? This hatred is just weird. Yes, she was wrong to sleep with a married man, but she was raised in Hollywood, where that is normal behavior. If you want to teach a person to do the right thing, guide them, don’t attack them. You want to talk moral code? “One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself”
her face in the cover picture is so airbrushed it makes her look plastic.
I think Dakota is in a situation where she can easily be misjudged if she says something this or that way. I’m sure she doesn’t support cheating. But she doesn’t want to get into a public tabloid fight with her co-star with Twihards picking on her.
Thank you for seeing the obvious, I think we are the only ones! lol
I also think deep down she’s just stating the obvious.
Yes Kristin participated in cheating and hurt a woman and her family, however at the end of the day she is a human being. She’s not Bella, she’s not an omni-being. She did something wrong and she is still going to live her life.
A little secondary anger is fine, but when people take her action as the cause they have to carry and rant about they’re going too far.
Yes, she’s defending her friend. She should be forgiven for that, of course. I wouldn’t be so sure about her feelings on cheating. HW is awash with moral relativists and believers in the old “if it feels good, do it” approach to life. I’ve listened to those sorts defend cheating as following your heart and being true to yourself. “Isn’t is wrong to deny your feelings?” It isn’t a place for middle class values.
Hush, little girl.
She’s only 18 so being naive is understandable but just wait when she walks in on her roommate with her boyfriend. Missy will be getting judgy all over the place.
She’s not cute and can’t act. Next.
No your not cute at all. She looks better than you!!
“your” = possessive form of “you”
“you’re ” = “you are”
Get it right.
I pass off the comment about her beauty but about her acting? I think we have an Oscar winner here commenting, she’s better than Dakota Fanning who was nominated when she was still 9 or 10.
2 thoughts:
Snarky…Dakota, do you mean judgmental like your friend who judges other actors who develop skills to improve on their talent?
Benevolent…Now here is where I would use the age and sheltered excuse. I remember how I knew and understood so much of the world at 18, then right around 21 it imploded. Life.
I love the white dress, who makes it?
And they really photoshopped the crap out of her. Wow.
All of you commenters are judging her opinion based on A FEW sentences quoted in a magazine. I’m sure she said and thinks a lot more than this. Talk about judging, you commenters are ridiculous. Focus your life on people you actually know instead of stars who have completely different lifestyles than you and who you don’t even personally know.
I agree with u! And yet lots of people on this sight love Angelina and she did even worse! Not that I don’t like her, just saying how biased we can be…
Cheaters that fall in love and start a family together generally get more slack. Angelina was single, Brad and Jen didn’t have kids, and Brad and Angelina fell in love. After Kristen got caught, she LOVES LOVES Rob? Well why were you sleeping with another woman’s husband then? It was beyond low and sleezy behavior. Impulsive and selfish.
Oh, come on…if they fall in love, they get more slack? Is this is the hypocrites rule book?
I don’t hold this against Dakota. Kristen put everyone in a tough spot. Trying to defend Kristen and her right to privacy must be hard when what Kristen did was so blatantly indefensible. You simply cannot defend coming between a marriage and a family. What Kristen did was wrong. People are going to judge. And when Kristen made her apology to Robert in public instead of in private like any sane person would have done, she invited us all into the drama, and invited us all to judge her.
I agree and your last sentence is on point. The affair was bad enough, the way kristen chose to handle it starting with that public apology spoke volumnes to me.
I am also in the fence about that but she apologized but to me whether she did apologize or not people are still going to ridicule her this is the fact. They just used her public apology as an excuse but in fact they will still invite themselves in and criticize.
Angelina did the same thing with or without children it is still wrong but Angelina has something else that in a way gave her a pass. Her beauty, sex appeal and her wild freedom(?). This made up a lot about the situation. Many People loved her whether men, women and etc.
She WAS still a kid when she filmed “Hound Dog”. It was a good movie but I don’t think I can ever watch it again because that rape scene is absolutely horrific.
I’m afraid to ask but….is the rape scene graphic?
Oh it’s just awful. It’s what the whole movie is about although you don’t really know that until it happens.
It is a good movie but could be extremely triggering and disturbing for people who have had that happen to them.
Lol @ all the people judging people for judging. Everyone judges, it’s a part of life.
They really did photoshop her, hate to say it, but…it shows because she’s not this cute for real. She’s a good little actress, but her looks are not her calling card in Hollywood, never were, she is never cast as the cute girl, she isn’t going for that with her image, so she likely wouldn’t mind not being known as cute.
She’s cuter/better looking than Kristen Stewart and no i’m not pitting the two against each other, I just think Dakota is better looking facially.
Kristen looks like an average girl you see all the time, like avril lavigne.
I have to say, some of the people here are too heavily invested in this KStew thing. Look, I love celebrity gossip and blogs; I read them because its entertaining. However, the way some of you are getting so worked up, it’s kind of scary. I’m not defending Kristen’s actions–what she did was definitely wrong. But it doesn’t affect any of our lives, so why get angry and so riled up?
And don’t give me, “Well this site is called celeBITCHY.” Yeah it is, but that doesn’t mean we need to take any of this crap seriously. Now some of you want started bagging on Fanning who was probably just trying to keep it professional on her end. Would it have made y’all feel better for her to throw Kristen under the bus, a coworker and friend? Honestly…
Um, Dakota? Kristen gave us the authority when she issued that statement of “I love him, I LOVE HIM!”
I love her and her interviews. She sounds like a very intelligent girl most of the time and to be honest I’d have said the same thing in her shoes about Stewart. It’s bad form to attack another actor publicly (barring he/she like raped/killed someone)
KStew is her friend, and while she could have kept quiet and not said a word it’s in our nature to defend our friends. I mostly agree with Kevin Hart more than Dakota, who said something along the lines of “people sometimes make bad choices…they learn something from those bad choices…now it’s time to move the fuck on.” He was talking about more then just KStew, but I thought that was a pretty accurate description of this shit storm. I really don’t understand the people trashing Dakota for defending her friend. It’s not like Dakota’s pulling a Jodie Foster and saying “oh she just made a mistake or she’s just a kid.” She’s simply saying that judging someone’s situation when you aren’t directly involved isn’t right. I agree a little…I get being a bit judgey, but what I don’t get is the total rage that KStew inspires in some people. Short of someone pulling a Rielle Hunter (trashing the dead wife), a domestic/sexual abuser, or DUI’s all over the place like Lindsay Lohan, I really don’t get that level of judgement and rage unless it’s against someone who personal had an impact on your own life or the life of people you care about (Politicians like Murdock ‘rape babies are god’s will”, etc.)
That said, Dakota looks super cute here….She’s maturing nicely. My friend’s sister was a classmate of hers at Campbell Hall and said Dakota was a nice hipster girl. Perez Hilton is such a bitch, he claims to have become kinder but has made some quips about how Dakota is the “ugly” sister. I’m interested in how Effie comes out…that will be her first truly adult role, I believe.
OMG; she’s such a VALLEY GIRL, like you know? Girl needs some serious coaching…
I agree about the corset, but she has a delicate beauty about her that I wish I had.
Here’s the thing – judgemental or not, we should be asking ourselves why in the heck do we care so much about this story? Bad things happen – people make mistakes. We either mend situations or move on. After all that is said and done, these types of things happen all the time. Its an unfortunate reality. Yes, she did a really bad thing…..but not to me….or any of you. So why months and months later is everyone still getting their panties in a twist about this? Her boyfriend is over it, why isnt everyone else? There are much more important causes to be fighting for and put energy into than figuratively burning Kristen Stewart at the stake. I for one am absolutely sick of hearing about it. How come Chris Brown still has a thriving career, Polanski is still revered and Rupert Sanders himself is still being pimped out by Universal? I’m sick of women cutting down other women whether it be harping on Kristen or her fans in turn vilifying Liberty Ross. It’s simply disgusting. Empathy is highly underrated these days.
As for Dakota? She stuck up for her friend, as a good friend should. And she looks beautiful.
18-year olds don’t really have a great perspective on relationships 🙂
Joining the chorus on the ridiculous amount of photoshopping done in mags these days. No-one looks remotely like the way these women are portrayed.
Im just glad dakota isnt afected by the child actor curse that happens so often in hollywood l.l., e. Furlong, countless others. She will have the career all the other girls in hollywood are going to envy her about. She unlike other actresses can really act and well too.
She and KSTew have been lovers for a long time according to Blind Gossip.
Actually DAKOTA, the authority we have is in the constitution–free speech…we can judge all we freakin want
Love that Dakota is such a good friend but this is a very naive way to look at the situation, OF COURSE she’s going to get judged! She’s the one who signed up to being famous, and with the whole circus that is Robsten, of course will have opinions about it! What? Were people supposed to just smile and say, “it’s Kristen’s business”, she made it public news by cheating in PUBLIC and giving a PUBLIC apology. I don’t understand how some people in Hollywood believe actions don’t carry any form of consequence. What a crazy way to live.