Dakota Fanning on Kristen Stewart’s affair: ‘You think you are the authority to judge?’

Dakota Fanning

Dakota Fanning covers the December issue of InStyle UK to promote her role as creepy Jane in Breaking Dawn: Part 2, and the cover shot itself features a white jacquard Chanel dress. Dakota looks very beautiful, youthful, and sweet here. I have mixed feelings about the other photo, which shows Dakota in a Dolce & Gabanna corset, a Roberto Cavalli skirt (which is gorge), and cat ears. I really think we could have done without the cat ears, but I get that the stylists wanted her to look youthful (she’s still just 18 years old) even though she’s going semi-risque with the corset. The interview isn’t very heady but does include a question about Kristen Stewart’s affair with Rupert Sanders and the resultant crumpled heart of Sparkles. Here are some excerpts:

Dakota Fanning

On the Twihard meltdown: “Everyone thinks they have the right to, you know, publicise the struggles and sadness and heartbreak and all of that. It’s like, ‘Why do you think you are the authority to judge people’s experiences?’”

Why she hasn’t lost it yet: “Why have I been able to stay sane in a sometimes insane world? The pure love of what I do. Making movies.”

On the Hounddog rape scene: “I’ve always been drawn to material that’s more kind of heavy, you know? Whether it be dark or dramatic or sometimes disturbing. And that can be hard to do when people think you’re still a kid.”

She’s only had 1 boyfriend & is currently single: “You know, I’m not the kind of girl or person who really wants boyfriends in my life. I’m also the kind of person… I’m very black and white in what I feel and I don’t wanna be with someone that I don’t foresee spending a long time with.”

[From InStyle UK]

I totally understand Dakota’s perspective on the situation because she and Kristen are very good friends and have not only worked together on The Twilight Saga but also grew very close on the set of The Runaways. Dakota only sees the good in Kristen, and she wants to defend her pal. However, I don’t really think the bulk of the criticism over the Kristen’s affair with Rupert has anything to do with “judg[ing] people’s experiences” in general. Instead, Kristen’s caught a lot of heat (from the non-Twihards, anyway) for pretending to be above all of the Hollywood clichés, and then she got caught behaving like a Hollywood cliché. Or rather, she got caught banging her married director like a so-called “typical” starlet.

As for Dakota, I hope she carrys on just as she’s been doing as an NYU student who somehow manages to squeeze in a bit of time for films on occasion. She’ll be just fine in life.

Dakota Fanning

Photos courtesy of InStyle UK

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  1. StephanieMarie2685 says:

    She looks so much like Sarah Polley, it’s unreal.

  2. HotPockets says:

    They airbrushed her to look like Amanda Seyfried. Oh yes and *yawn*

  3. Elceibeno08 says:

    Well miss Fanning, being famous is a two-sided sword isn’t? Kristen made a deal with the devil when she became a superstar. Now she would be able to deal with the criticism for cheating on her Pattinson. Of course we all can cast our opinion
    In the matter. Would you think the same way Dakota if Rob would have cheated on Kristen?

    • Elizabeth says:

      Exactly. If she didn’t want ppl to judge her then she should be working at a bank or sth. She made her bed…and Dakota should seriously think before she speaks.

    • Kim says:

      Well Kristen has her millions,her mansions and her man.So life for her is grand. She is still getting acting roles,endorsements,etc.While there are millions of folks who are upset about the their relationship some of whom are neglecting their own relationship. It’s not that serious ,people. She cheated on him,she may do it again but it’s their business.

    • ZenB!tch says:

      I think she is 18 and wants to defend her friend. It’s cute. She hasn’t been tempted to cheat yet and she has not made that decision. She also hasn’t been cheated on yet. Thankfully, neither have I.

      I judge because I’ve been Kristen and did NOT follow through.

  4. emmie_a says:

    It’s either fillers or photoshop but either one, her lips are waay plumper than they were before. Not a good idea to start fillers at 18!

  5. Rachel says:

    That doesn’t really look like a corset to me. More like the top of a leotard. A fancy, designer leotard, but nonetheless…

    Anyway, I actually would have preferred that show without the cat ears. The ears are cute, but ridiculous in that photo.

  6. Jill says:

    ‘You think you are the authority to judge?’

    Hell yes!!! I don’t have sex with married men.

  7. Cam S says:

    Not exactly in reference to this specific article, but- I don’t understand why so many people think judging someone’s behavior is bad. If I didn’t judge I wouldn’t be able to differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from.
    Everyone judges, its life. I’ve been judged for wrong things I have done. That’s how you learn shame and don’t make the same mistakes twice.

    The only people I hear whining “Don’t judge me” are the ones doing something they feel is wrong. I have NEVER heard anyone commit an act of kindness and say “But, don’t judge me!”

    • ORLY says:

      Cam S – I’ve never looked at it that way. You make a lot of sense here.

    • mainland says:

      Thank You!!! The best post I have read in a long time.

    • *Roxy* says:

      I’d apply “don’t judge” to situations when somebody had to deal with a lot of crap in life. Like he/she had real struggles with dysfunctional family, abuse etc. And I didn’t have any of that. So it’ll be very easy for me to sit and judge the life decisions that person’d made.

      I realized it only when I had to face some serious crap myself. Like judging is easy but “go and do it better than he” and we’ll see then.

    • megsie says:

      ahhhh sanity. Feels good. Thank you, Cam S.

      I don’t have the authority to condemn, and I rarely have all the evidence required to do so anyway. But I do have the right to form and voice an opinion, to discern, and, yes, to judge.

      In fact, I’ll indulge in that now: Dakota seems like a sweetheart and unlike some (ahem) can act. However, she’s 18 and doesn’t yet know what the hell she’s talking about. But I agree that she’ll probably turn out just fine in life. At least as far as young HW actresses go.

    • Corrine says:

      I couldn’t agree more or have said it better.

    • babythastarsshinebrite says:

      @ CamS Here’s the thing about being judgmental: you have never walked in my shoes nor I in yours.

    • jojo says:

      By making this statement you are going beyond playing the game (which is btw a fun one by me). Instead it seems to me that you readily indulge your own interpretation without questioning it.

      Sure, I bet there are some people who say “don’t judge me” because they are in fact doing something they believe is wrong – but in life things are rarely black and white. As we age we are confronted with morally ambiguous situations and there is rarely ONE RIGHT WAY TO ACT. Sometimes we have to make compromises or choose the lesser of evils.

      You may think you have morality figured out or that those who say “don’t judge me” are denying “reality.” I can’t be certain from what you wrote that you feel this way. But maybe, just maybe, sometimes the world is complicated. Perhaps these Don’t-judge-me-ers are just people who want to connect to you – despite having identified your proclivity toward black and white thinking. Maybe there are instances when people invoke this plea because they wish to be understood – because for some reason they feel like they could use your friendship.

      I mean, is it “right” to participate in a gossip site? Surely if you inspect it, this is quite a selfish mean exercise – which interestingly, enough, also has its merits (it does help us to define common values). If you consider it seriously, I think you will agree it is almost impossible to live without hurting others. Even the kindest of people can be moderately self-absorbed or goal driven at times.

      I think it is more fair to say that when people say “don’t judge me” they are detecting that their actions *might* be judged in an unfavorable way, and not that they know that they the actions are, indeed, wrong. There is an important difference and I am sad to see how many people were super excited by this comment.

      P.S I have actually said “don’t judge me” to others after disclosing that I read gossip sites and I don’t think it is wrong. At the same time, I also don’t think it is exactly admirable.

    • susannej says:

      Dear CamS,
      You stated earlier “I don’t understand why so many people think judging someone’s behavior is bad. If I didn’t judge I wouldn’t be able to differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from.”

      This can be read as:
      a) “I judge to interact with real, living, actual-next-to-me person (a.k.a. husband, wife, children, friends, colleagues, neighbours)”


      b) “I judge certain celebrities I will never, ever meet in person to HIGHLIGHT the kind of behaviour I WILL NOT TOLERATE from any person next to me (a.k.a. husband, wife, children, friends, colleagues, neighbours)!”

      If it is b)
      - You should relax together with some over commentor on this site, as none of you are in danger to socially interact with KS.

      If it a)
      - I’m with you. As any human being, honest with her/himself.

      We have a cultural shift in the last decade and HIGHLIGTHING some norms comes with it.
      For example: The stay-at-home-mother-and-wife was THE (west-)german blue-print! It was THE way to go! If you are a girl, you marry at some point in your life, you get pregnant, you quit your job and care for the children – and that’s it! It was a deal and it was working – as long as the husband was LEGALLY bonded to provide you as long as you live. Yep, even after a divorce the (now ex-)husband has to pay for you, all your life. Even if he is dead, you had some entitlement to a widow pension, based on HIS working record. This old system was great, as there was a solid structure, that you would be safe and secure [after quitting your job for the sake of your children]- even after a divorce.

      Then – a few years ago – there was a game change.

      The now really ex-husband doesn’t have to pay for you all your life! He pays for his children (this part doesn’t changed] until they finished colleagues/university/any-job-training] BUT he pays for you only as long as you are essentially bonded by child care! This is until your youngest child is three years old. So on Juniors third birthday it is for him “OFF to Kindergarten!” and for you “OFF to job market!!. In this economy.

      In this context: Infidelity doesn’t mean only hear-break and breaking up a family [bad enough] it means also the real danger to slip into poverty and completly loose you old life and social standard! And there a [more-or-less] young ex-wife in her mid-thirties might be able to get back on the job-market and to get/make a living, this situation is far more grim for a woman of fifty-years who is too young to retire and too old to get on the [any] job again.

      I see in in my mothers generation. There are woman, who gave up everything for HIM [sometimes even the desire to have children] only to pushed to the garbage after he hit a midlife-crises and decided to start a new family for HIM with a younger wife.

      Infidelity means social death for some victims. And therefore I can understand this HIGHLIGHTING the desired norm on anybody, everybody, even celebrities.

      This is a real Angst, growing in our (west.)german society during the last years.

      P.S. (east-) german woman don’t have his specific problem. They were fored to work [in and out of your home] all their life. They have other problems.

    • Elle Kaye says:

      Judging is nothing more than drawing your own conclusion on a matter. You came to the conclusion that Kristen Stewart is a bad person because you saw her kissing a married man in a photo. Not everyone will come to the same conclusion. Some need more facts, and some will draw their conclusion immediately.

      I feel that people become upset when they feel that people are drawing negative conclusions when all the facts have not yet been heard.

      If I were perfect, I would bash her too, but since I’m not, I’ll leave it to those who are.

      • Cam S says:

        It’s been interesting reading the comments. I guess if we didn’t judge people’s actions to some extent there would be no gossip sites at all. The author of these articles reports gossip and we comment on it. As you all did my post. To me, that is a form of judging. It is kind of like forming an opinion on a matter, but in which I have to judge using my instincts.

        *****Look, I just cast my ballot today for a man I HAVE NEVER met. I had to judge the candidates based on their actions and speeches they made. I was judging who I thought would be best candidate for President of the United States.

        I guess I don’t see judging as a bad thing. To me it is my natural instinct, and anyone that says they don’t judge in some form or another, I’d worry about their decision making capabilities.

        “Judge not yet ye be judged”- I’m not a Christian so I don’t adhere to this. I don’t have to know someone personally to know that killing, cheating, lying is wrong. And when people feel that I am in the wrong they can judge away. I don’t mind. If I know in my heart I’m doing what is right and honorable, it doesn’t matter to me if people judge me.
        I just think we are raising a whole generation of people that have no shame and don’t want to be held accountable for their actions. Partly because it’s not right to “judge” them. Sorry, I call Bull

    • Miss Bennett says:

      @Cam S
      Very well said and exactly what I think.
      You NEVER here of people doing what’s good and kind telling others that they don’t have the right to judge them. If celebrities (and the narcissists who think like them) are perceived as doing wonderful things they greedily eat up the praise that’s heaped upon them. If they do something selfish and mean, no ones censure or disgust is valid. The hypocrisy of this sort of thinking is staggering. This is why Miss Stewart continues to be so disliked. In no way shape or form does she believe that what she chose to do is wrong. Screw Liberty Ross and her children.

    • Lucrezia says:

      I think there’s an important difference between “don’t judge” and “don’t judge ME”.

      Everyone judges all the time – it simply means “to form a considered opinion”. But we should restrict our judging to specific things/behaviours rather than thinking we know enough to cast judgement on an entire person.

      There’s a quote I like: “judging a person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who YOU are.”

      In context of KStew: “cheating on your boyfriend is wrong” = perfectly fine. All that judgement says about YOU is that you think fidelity is important.

      On the other hand, a judgement like “She’s a whore” = not okay. That kind of blanket statement just makes YOU seem narrow-minded.

      /BTW – Those YOU’s are all generic, I’m not talking *at* anyone specific.

    • Mazunte says:

      I don’t agree. We all judge a little bit for sure, but judging someone’s behavior is bad because you have not been living that person’s life. Who are we to put ourselves in someone’s shoes?
      We have no idea what her/his emotions, pains, struggles, tumults and joys feel like. We have not experience the same things.
      We should try to be the judges of ourselves in order to improve as human beings and stop making mistakes.
      I have close friends who have done worse things than sleeping with a married man with kids. They have lived situations, related with marriage and relationships, which are considered very immoral in our society. I don’t know what I would have done if I had lived their experiences.
      Of course, I judge people who rape and kill, and especially, people who abuse children, the worst crime a human being can commit. But, even the ones who kill have often a traumatic life story, and frequently the abusers were abused.
      In less extreme and/or private situations like infidelity, judging is wrong. As Dakota says and very well, ‘Why do you think you are the authority to judge people’s experiences?’” I really like this girl.
      I differentiate between the people I want to be around, and those that I want to stay far away from according to what they can give me of positive and inspiring, etc, according to what I can give them, according to how we can understand one another, even if understanding a “morally wrong” situation is implied.

  8. Tapioca says:

    Dear Dakota,

    Kristen Stewart CHOSE to put herself in the public eye as an *ahem* actress, CHOSE to sign up for a role in a film series with a psychotic fan base and CHOSE to boink her married director knowing society has a tendency to frown upon that sort of thing.

    If she thought she wasn’t going to get any bad press from that particular episode then the pot has clearly eaten away at a goodly portion of her brain, because bitching about celebrities (+ porn & spam) is what the Internet is for!

  9. Jane says:

    In Hollywood being a cheater is something to be proud of it seems.

    Where’s your moral compass miss Fanning?

    • Elle Kaye says:

      For crying out loud, she is a kid, defending her friend. What would you have her do, tie Stewart to a stake and stone her to death?? Would that finally quench your appetite for blood? This hatred is just weird. Yes, she was wrong to sleep with a married man, but she was raised in Hollywood, where that is normal behavior. If you want to teach a person to do the right thing, guide them, don’t attack them. You want to talk moral code? “One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself”

  10. mel says:

    her face in the cover picture is so airbrushed it makes her look plastic.

  11. *Roxy* says:

    I think Dakota is in a situation where she can easily be misjudged if she says something this or that way. I’m sure she doesn’t support cheating. But she doesn’t want to get into a public tabloid fight with her co-star with Twihards picking on her.

    • lena80 says:

      Thank you for seeing the obvious, I think we are the only ones! lol

    • Riana says:

      I also think deep down she’s just stating the obvious.

      Yes Kristin participated in cheating and hurt a woman and her family, however at the end of the day she is a human being. She’s not Bella, she’s not an omni-being. She did something wrong and she is still going to live her life.

      A little secondary anger is fine, but when people take her action as the cause they have to carry and rant about they’re going too far.

    • megsie says:

      Yes, she’s defending her friend. She should be forgiven for that, of course. I wouldn’t be so sure about her feelings on cheating. HW is awash with moral relativists and believers in the old “if it feels good, do it” approach to life. I’ve listened to those sorts defend cheating as following your heart and being true to yourself. “Isn’t is wrong to deny your feelings?” It isn’t a place for middle class values.

  12. Amy says:

    She’s not cute and can’t act. Next.

  13. Reece says:

    2 thoughts:
    Snarky…Dakota, do you mean judgmental like your friend who judges other actors who develop skills to improve on their talent?
    Benevolent…Now here is where I would use the age and sheltered excuse. I remember how I knew and understood so much of the world at 18, then right around 21 it imploded. Life.

  14. I'm going to Guam! says:

    I love the white dress, who makes it?
    And they really photoshopped the crap out of her. Wow.

  15. Andrew says:

    All of you commenters are judging her opinion based on A FEW sentences quoted in a magazine. I’m sure she said and thinks a lot more than this. Talk about judging, you commenters are ridiculous. Focus your life on people you actually know instead of stars who have completely different lifestyles than you and who you don’t even personally know.

  16. Jess says:

    I don’t hold this against Dakota. Kristen put everyone in a tough spot. Trying to defend Kristen and her right to privacy must be hard when what Kristen did was so blatantly indefensible. You simply cannot defend coming between a marriage and a family. What Kristen did was wrong. People are going to judge. And when Kristen made her apology to Robert in public instead of in private like any sane person would have done, she invited us all into the drama, and invited us all to judge her.

    • mainland says:

      I agree and your last sentence is on point. The affair was bad enough, the way kristen chose to handle it starting with that public apology spoke volumnes to me.

      • Please........ says:

        I am also in the fence about that but she apologized but to me whether she did apologize or not people are still going to ridicule her this is the fact. They just used her public apology as an excuse but in fact they will still invite themselves in and criticize.

        Angelina did the same thing with or without children it is still wrong but Angelina has something else that in a way gave her a pass. Her beauty, sex appeal and her wild freedom(?). This made up a lot about the situation. Many People loved her whether men, women and etc.

  17. busy ramone says:

    She WAS still a kid when she filmed “Hound Dog”. It was a good movie but I don’t think I can ever watch it again because that rape scene is absolutely horrific.

  18. Blue says:

    Lol @ all the people judging people for judging. Everyone judges, it’s a part of life.

  19. sorella says:

    They really did photoshop her, hate to say it, but…it shows because she’s not this cute for real. She’s a good little actress, but her looks are not her calling card in Hollywood, never were, she is never cast as the cute girl, she isn’t going for that with her image, so she likely wouldn’t mind not being known as cute.

  20. Christy says:

    I have to say, some of the people here are too heavily invested in this KStew thing. Look, I love celebrity gossip and blogs; I read them because its entertaining. However, the way some of you are getting so worked up, it’s kind of scary. I’m not defending Kristen’s actions–what she did was definitely wrong. But it doesn’t affect any of our lives, so why get angry and so riled up?

    And don’t give me, “Well this site is called celeBITCHY.” Yeah it is, but that doesn’t mean we need to take any of this crap seriously. Now some of you want started bagging on Fanning who was probably just trying to keep it professional on her end. Would it have made y’all feel better for her to throw Kristen under the bus, a coworker and friend? Honestly…

  21. Devon says:

    Um, Dakota? Kristen gave us the authority when she issued that statement of “I love him, I LOVE HIM!”

  22. LittleDeadGirl says:

    I love her and her interviews. She sounds like a very intelligent girl most of the time and to be honest I’d have said the same thing in her shoes about Stewart. It’s bad form to attack another actor publicly (barring he/she like raped/killed someone)

    • A says:

      KStew is her friend, and while she could have kept quiet and not said a word it’s in our nature to defend our friends. I mostly agree with Kevin Hart more than Dakota, who said something along the lines of “people sometimes make bad choices…they learn something from those bad choices…now it’s time to move the fuck on.” He was talking about more then just KStew, but I thought that was a pretty accurate description of this shit storm. I really don’t understand the people trashing Dakota for defending her friend. It’s not like Dakota’s pulling a Jodie Foster and saying “oh she just made a mistake or she’s just a kid.” She’s simply saying that judging someone’s situation when you aren’t directly involved isn’t right. I agree a little…I get being a bit judgey, but what I don’t get is the total rage that KStew inspires in some people. Short of someone pulling a Rielle Hunter (trashing the dead wife), a domestic/sexual abuser, or DUI’s all over the place like Lindsay Lohan, I really don’t get that level of judgement and rage unless it’s against someone who personal had an impact on your own life or the life of people you care about (Politicians like Murdock ‘rape babies are god’s will”, etc.)

      That said, Dakota looks super cute here….She’s maturing nicely. My friend’s sister was a classmate of hers at Campbell Hall and said Dakota was a nice hipster girl. Perez Hilton is such a bitch, he claims to have become kinder but has made some quips about how Dakota is the “ugly” sister. I’m interested in how Effie comes out…that will be her first truly adult role, I believe.

  23. Camla says:

    OMG; she’s such a VALLEY GIRL, like you know? Girl needs some serious coaching…

  24. Gigi says:

    I agree about the corset, but she has a delicate beauty about her that I wish I had.

  25. N says:

    Here’s the thing – judgemental or not, we should be asking ourselves why in the heck do we care so much about this story? Bad things happen – people make mistakes. We either mend situations or move on. After all that is said and done, these types of things happen all the time. Its an unfortunate reality. Yes, she did a really bad thing…..but not to me….or any of you. So why months and months later is everyone still getting their panties in a twist about this? Her boyfriend is over it, why isnt everyone else? There are much more important causes to be fighting for and put energy into than figuratively burning Kristen Stewart at the stake. I for one am absolutely sick of hearing about it. How come Chris Brown still has a thriving career, Polanski is still revered and Rupert Sanders himself is still being pimped out by Universal? I’m sick of women cutting down other women whether it be harping on Kristen or her fans in turn vilifying Liberty Ross. It’s simply disgusting. Empathy is highly underrated these days.

    As for Dakota? She stuck up for her friend, as a good friend should. And she looks beautiful.

  26. Carolyn says:

    18-year olds don’t really have a great perspective on relationships :)

    Joining the chorus on the ridiculous amount of photoshopping done in mags these days. No-one looks remotely like the way these women are portrayed.

  27. dcypher1 says:

    Im just glad dakota isnt afected by the child actor curse that happens so often in hollywood l.l., e. Furlong, countless others. She will have the career all the other girls in hollywood are going to envy her about. She unlike other actresses can really act and well too.

  28. vvy says:

    She and KSTew have been lovers for a long time according to Blind Gossip.

  29. natalina says:

    Actually DAKOTA, the authority we have is in the constitution–free speech…we can judge all we freakin want

  30. thepastyousayyouneverknew says:

    Love that Dakota is such a good friend but this is a very naive way to look at the situation, OF COURSE she’s going to get judged! She’s the one who signed up to being famous, and with the whole circus that is Robsten, of course will have opinions about it! What? Were people supposed to just smile and say, “it’s Kristen’s business”, she made it public news by cheating in PUBLIC and giving a PUBLIC apology. I don’t understand how some people in Hollywood believe actions don’t carry any form of consequence. What a crazy way to live.