David Petraeus resigns from CIA after his mistress threatened perceived rival

This is such a hot mess. Last Friday, former general David Petraeus resigned as director of the CIA, publicly citing an extramarital affair. Petraeus had been married to his wife Holly for decades, and after overseeing the surge in Iraq and then succeeding General Stanley McChrystal as commanding general of the International Security Assistance Force in Afghanistan (after McChrystal resigned after his crazy Rolling Stone interview back in 2010.) In 2011, Petraeus left the military and was confirmed for DCIA. So he had only been at Langley for less than a year and a half, and apparently it was just a huge mess and it’s only getting worse.

(Note: from here on out, I’m just going to call him David because I’m tired of typing “Petraeus”.)

David’s mistress was a woman named Paula Broadwell. Broadwell was with David in Afghanistan, at first working on her doctoral thesis and then writing an authorized biography of the general. According to David, their affair only began when he left the military and when he was at Langley. Here’s what’s known:

*Broadwell is married to a doctor. And she’s a mom of two. She’s 40 years old. David is 60, and he and his wife have been married for 37 years.

*An FBI investigation was triggered when a woman named Jill Kelley began receiving threatening emails from Broadwell. Kelley was an unpaid social liaison to US Central Command, and the assumption is that Broadwell thought Kelley and David were having an affair, and Broadwell was warning off her mistress competition.

*When the FBI became focused on Broadwell, they found that she and David had been communicating extensively over email, some of the emails being sexually explicit, including a reference to “sex under the desk”.

*Broadwell’s emails to Kelley include warnings to “back off” and “stay away from my guy”.

*Pres. Obama maintains that the first inkling he had of any of this was last week when David handed in his resignation (Obama said he wanted to think about it, and he accepted the resignation on Friday). Most senior Democrats only heard about it on Thursday and Friday too.

*But! There were some senior Republicans who knew about it the week before (before the election) – some “disgruntled FBI officers” leaked to some Congressional Republicans. There are now significant questions about how the FBI conducted their investigation into Broadwell and David.

*Before last week, David Petraeus was considered one of the ideal candidates for GOP nomination in a future presidential race. For real.

*Most commentators and journalists are going relatively easy on David, even going so far as to make excuses for him, but I did see one dude who really went after him – apparently, David’s wife Holly is widely respected and loved in the military community, and she does a lot of outreach and support work for wounded warriors and military families. Holly has not issued any statements yet, and that’s just a reminder that while this sex scandal is pretty epic and interesting, the dude is still a douchebag for screwing around on a good woman who stood by him for decades and worked tirelessly with great military causes.

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  1. Amelia says:

    Well then.
    If the Director of the CIA can’t keep an extra-marital affair quiet, then I think it’s pretty safe to say no-one can.

  2. Maya says:

    Now on to the important question: who will be cast in the Hollywood version? I think Tom Hanks might make an interesting Petraeus, no?

  3. megs283 says:

    Ugh. DIVORCE IS LEGAL! JUST GET A DAMN DIVORCE!!!!

    One never knows what goes on in a marriage, but this stinks for Holly. And Broadwell’s husband. I wouldn’t wish this airing of dirty laundry on anyone.

  4. Cathy says:

    Any man who would cheat on his wife is a douchebag first class. I don’t care who he is. She’s stuck by him for 37 years, basically his whole military career, and what’s she get as a reward. A cheating, lying, used piece of toilet paper for a husband. I hope she takes him to the cleaners.

  5. boredsuburbanhousewife says:

    Love the hilariously named book Broadwell wrote about David — “ALL IN” –
    well, I guess he was!

  6. Wicki says:

    If there’s anything I have learned by working in technology, it is you NEVER put anything in email that you don’t want on the cover of the NY Times. If the Director of the CIA is stupid enough to email his mistress ANYTHING referencing their affair, he should resign for reasons of incompetence, not morality. What’s worse is he is not just one more powerful man who destroyed his reputation when he decided getting laid was more important than doing his job. Even more disturbing if that he could have been distracted enough by this situation (mistress with personality “issues”) that he wasn’t present for his very demanding job–and possibly made egregious mistakes because of it.

    • Jen34 says:

      Well said. He is too stupid to be in charge of the CIA. Who could ever trust his judgement?

      • Esmom says:

        Seriously.

        The other thing that made my heart sink when this story broke is wondering how will the Republicans somehow make this into a reflection of what they believe are Obama’s shortcomings.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        It took them, what .5 seconds? Actually, surprised it took them that long.

        Benghazi is and will remain an inexcusable disgrace but I’d stop with the ridiculous conspiracy theories.

        Then again, this is the party that is still in denial about why Bush invaded Iraq. Yeah, it wasn’t about oil AT ALL, it was all to “stop terrorism and keep Americans safe”.

        So yeah, I guess in the end we all cherry pick our conspiracy theories, depending on our political affiliation.

    • Stubbylove says:

      Couldn’t agree more – apt account of the situation.

    • jani says:

      I don’t think that people should lose their jobs because of affairs. However, when the head of the CIA uses freakin GMAIL to communicate with his mistress, it is clear that he does not understand how to keep secrets in the age of internet technology. Since keeping secrets is the main function of the CIA that makes him incapable of doing his job and his resignation was absolutely necessary.

      • Izzy says:

        @Jani, if they worked for a private company, I *might* be inclined to agree with you.

        But they both work in the intelligence community, with access to very sensitive information. Petraeus’ affair was a weakness that could be exploited by someone looking to pressure him into divulging classified information. Losing their jobs is completely appropriate, IMO.

        It now appears that Broadwell may actually have divulged classified information. In which case, they should lock her up in Collingwood with Ames and Hansson.

    • Moneypenny says:

      Seriously, right? I’m a lawyer and constantly telling people NOT to put crap in writing. I wouldn’t have thought I’d have to say the same to the director of the damn CIA!

      The phone sex would’ve been better anyway :-)

    • mimi (a different one) says:

      I second everything you said and raise it with the “additional” friend.

      The guy had time for a wife, children, a mistress and a new “lady-friend”…?
      When did he ever got any time to do his job?

      The guy was a living soap-opera.

    • Angel says:

      Wicki, you are dead on right. What struck me the most when this story broke is the obvious distraction the affair was causing this man. He sent her THOUSANDS of emails, apparently after they broke up. Trying to win her back? Keep her quiet? Who knows. But the simple fact that his mind was so preoccupied, not to mention the time spent emailing her….sheesh! When did he have time to focus on his job? For this reason alone, he is incompetent and I’m glad the douche resigned.

      This is one of the saddest parts for the loyal spouse if you ask me. It’s not just the sex. I think the hardest part would be knowing their mind was somewhere else, constantly trying to juggle the lies and deceit. Thousands of emails, god, just awful for Holly. And that broad’s poor husband and kids.

  7. Reece says:

    I’ve only half been paying attention to this story. So basically the DCIA resigned over Girl Sh*t. 40 yr old Girl Sh*t! There is so much wrong with that I can. not. even. begin. smdh

    I feel bad for his wife. 37years! Then again after all that time maybe she’s ok/used with/to it.

    Edit: The cover up line of thought makes more sense than him resigning over an affair. (in Washington of all places!) He’s not even military anymore. It’s not like he could be forced out.

  8. teehee says:

    I dont get it…. I dont see why this is such an issue and why FBI and CIA are into something as useless and meaningless as this. Are they really trying to distract the public after the elections?

  9. whatthehell456 says:

    I smell a smokescreen….who the hell cares that he cheated on his wife, that doesn’t prevent him from doing his job. Something else is afoot here, and they’re throwing this “extramarital affair” at us to keep us distracted and not asking too many questions.

  10. e.non says:

    of course petraeus is a celebrity.

    ugh… please – this is no place for a yammerfest about u.s. intelligence/national security issues. leave the petraeus fanboys/girls to sort it out; they must be feeling like chumps for how well he played them.

  11. Riana says:

    I don’t like political posts on this website tbh (celebrities are nothing, folks go POSTAL when it’s politics and it makes a fun escape suck).

    I feel incredibly bad for Holly and I kinda hate Broadwell, not because of the cheating. But because of the NERVE to email a 3rd woman with “Stay away from my man!”

    Are you f’ing kidding me? YOUR man?!

    She needs every tooth in her mouth knocked out for that one. Bad enough this whole thing is exposed, but how horrible for Holly THAT’S how it came out.

  12. Bowers says:

    It’s John Edwards and Rielle Hunter, only a tad smarter.

  13. Melymori says:

    Everytime I see Petraeus name I read it as Patronus hahahaha Harry Potter proud fan :p

  14. poppy says:

    no surprise a man threw it all away because a younger version of his wife paid some attention to him. wtf men. and her kind. so selfish.
    the fbi getting called out on another blunder is also not a surprise. the whole thing regarding decades of their dna “analysis” that ruined the lives innocent people and prevented victims from receiving real justice is probably just the tip of the iceberg of their awfulness.
    SMDH

  15. Beck says:

    Wait a sec. I think you may have left out an important part. From what I read on a couple other sites, the threatening emails came from David’s email account. Broadwell had access to his email account.

    Ugh! What a mess. It seems like David thought he was above it all to get caught. Or, he thought people would cover for him. He didn’t consider what a crazy jealous mistress might do. I’m sure he counted on her discretion since she is married too.

  16. kbomb says:

    I think this is all happening because the real CIA is jealous of the amount of attention fake CIA is getting from Homeland.

  17. Chatcat says:

    Please, he was vetted and polygraphed in June 2011 for his role as the CIA director. The affair started BEFORE the vetting and swearing in. This administration KNEW about the affair and they appointed him anyway and he accepted anyway. His wife knew and stayed anyway (Holly/Hilary…women who stand by their men and their peckers no matter where they’ve been…UGH). It is this simple, timing is everything and he resigned for only either 1. so he didn’t have to testify against the administration immediately and therefore put “distance” between a newly re-elected President that this could make look really bad in its handling of Benghazi or 2. so he could testify against the administration at his own personal expense and put his reputation of almost 40 years on the line because the 4 dead Americans and their family deserve it. “The truth shall set you free.” This not a “party” issue this is a human one.

    • Veruca says:

      Thank you for so eloquently putting my thoughts into words.

      :)

    • T.C. says:

      Take the tinfoil hat off because this conspiracy theory is bunk. He can be suponed to testify. Quitting the job doesn’t mean they can’t get him to testify.

      The director of the CIA had a secret mistress who was logging in to his email account to threaten another woman. We have to wonder what else that could be classified she has access to. That is some serious shit. Also remember this country almost overthrew a President over an affair that he was hiding. If David had an affair while in the military we could have been dishonorably discharged.

    • T.C. says:

      Chatcat,
      CIA agents also have honor codes. Everyone they are in a relationship with gets vetted. You are suggesting he didn’t quit because of the affair, breaking CIA rules, etc. which means you think it’s a cover up. See definition of conspiracy.

      • Chatcat says:

        T.C. – Yep that is what I am suggesting. I am suggesting he quit because he doesn’t want to be part of a conspiracy (def: plan to commit illegal act together: a secret plan or agreement between two or more people to commit an illegal or subversive act) after the fact on Benghazi that he sees is in the making. I believe he will do the honorable thing (well clearly too late on the “honoring” marriage vowels) for the 4 dead Americans and their families, along with the American public and THAT is unacceptable to many. See definition of honor … oh hell here it is … honor (def: personal integrity: strong moral character or strength, and adherence to ethical principles)

        Ironic isn’t it…he shit on the ethics of his marriage vows and yet his ethics as a soldier are robably leading him to do the most ethical thing of all…we will see which one of us right, me that he testify’s and it isn’t going to be flattering or you that this is all just a sore loser conspiracy theory non-event. Stay tuned.

    • ac says:

      The affair started after he was sworn in. Although some of his associates were concerned about the blurring of boundaries with the press.

      • Chatcat says:

        He was sworn in September 2011. So now, what according to a “close friend of Pertreaus” or an “inside source” it started 2 months after then…November 2011? It’s all damage control now dear. Like they say “it’s the lies that undo us”. One email, one picture, one inkling that can show the affair a second prior to November 2011 and he won’t be able to dig his ass out from underneath the pile of shit being heaped on his shoulders. But until David Pertreaus speaks the words ‘the affiar started 2 months after I was sworn in as CIA director’ I will put this spin material in the recycle pile.

    • Gayle says:

      This is such clueless speculation it’s absurd.

  18. C. C. Cedras says:

    All the “sources” very carefully claiming that the affair didn’t start until AFTER he left the military (huge eyeroll) and not while she spent the better part of a year “embedded” with him in Afghanistan, are desperately hoping to save his military career. Didn’t we get enough condescending lies shoved down our throats in the past few months? *goes off to read about Brandi Glanville*

    • Chatcat says:

      She was “embedded” alright.

    • Raven says:

      I believe it. They could legitimately spend all this time together overseas. I think it was a business relationship at that time because I think he has great respect for the military. Plus, in close quarters, there would be leaking if anything was going on. Then her book research was done and they didn’t have any legitimate way to spend time together, especially with her being here and him being overseas. Once he got back, in his new job, my guess is that she contacted him, they got together and one thing led to another.

  19. Xogami says:

    Is that his mom in the third pic?

  20. Guest says:

    I wish I thought about this:
    “Yes, as the old saying goes, behind every successful man there is a woman; however, what is not generally said is that behind every failed man there is also a woman.”

    Every time one, especially a successful man is tempted he should askand answer the question “What is it in for her?” before proceeding into anything. Do not let your ego dictate in this instance.

  21. Lauren says:

    I saw a photo of Paula Broadwell’s two boys, and they are YOUNG. Her husband should get paternity tests.

  22. I have never said this before, nor do I perceive that I will ever have to say it again but When I saw the General’s wife I said to myself no wonder. The woman has let herself go. He probably hasn’t made love to her in 20 years. He’s a good looking man and she has let herself become a mess. SOMEBODY, PLEASE HELP HER. I think if wants to appear attractive to her husband, she is going to have to become more glamorous. I’m not talking about overweight, there are beautiful fat women, but her hair, her wardrobe and just a little exercise to firm it all up and by all means a little make up.

    • hmmm says:

      Shallow much? Wait until you’re her age before you venture that opinion. Also, your comment is sexist and predictable. Blame the woman. Yeah.

    • Riana says:

      Based on your comment I don’t believe you’ve never said it before, nor do I believe you’ll never say it again.

      Also, if you consider that ridiculous hairline and comb over good looking you may wish to do some self-examination.

      Neither Broadwell or Petraeus are particularly attractive. Odds are very low she slept with him because he was just so good-looking, especially considering her husband.

    • Merritt says:

      Very sexist comment. How Holly looks is not the issue.

      If he is that shallow, divorce is legal in this country. He could have gotten one. End of story.

    • bluhare says:

      I applaud you for being brave enough to say what I was too chickensh*t to.

      Switch genders and ages for a minute folks. You’re in your 50′s, had a couple of kids and you’re sick of having to turn it on for the old geezer all the time. And old geezers (especially those with power and/or money) get hit on by younger women. Or they hit on receptive younger women. There wouldn’t be any trophy wives if this didn’t happen sometimes.

      All that being said, you don’t have to be older and frumpy to get screwed around on.

    • T.C. says:

      What about Broadwell’s husband, did she cheat on him too because he has let himself go? Did Tiger Woods cheat on his beautiful wife because she let herself go? What about Rupert Sanders? Did Liberty Ross gain weight and let herself go? Did Robert Pattinson become a fatty forcing Kstew to look somewhere else? What about Arnold and his housekeeper? These are nothing but bullshit excuses for cheaters. The blame it on the wife excuse. You should hook up with the Kstew fans.

    • i love knox says:

      Let us be honest here.When I saw the photo of Petraeus wife, i really could not beleive it is his wife.I am expecting someone glamorous.I know , people here will attack me but she is really so unattractive.Maybe she is smart and so kind that is why he stayed with her.But still what he did was wrong and i hate that Broadwell woman (she is not a beauty as well)

      • Cam S says:

        Perhaps Holly was just a LITTLE busy with her outreach and support work for wounded warriors and military families? I’m sure she is also involved in numerous other causes. Guess she should have took time away from all those in need to primp and preen more?

      • Kellie says:

        I agree with you. I was very surprised at the frightful state his wife of 37 years was in. I’m not saying thats a reason to cheat. My very first thought after I saw her picture was a vision of the very large under wear (in white, beige or black nylon blend) she no doubt wears.

        I’m sure she is a lovely, educated, giving, and supportive woman but none of that should take a back seat to grooming and personal presentation. Men are visual.

      • sweetshell says:

        And, ugh, Petraeus is no looker either.

    • videli says:

      Whatever. This is a very childish comment. Or a very old-fashioned one. Glamor as a preemptive measure against adultery. Good luck to you with that! When I’m going to be Holly’s age, I plan to be a frumpy, healthy, happy lady, not a bitchy walking collagen bag.

    • jwoolman says:

      Look around you and see all the very happily married couples who look like her, not like Hollywood types. Plenty of real women with quite happy sex lives have better things to do than try to meet your dubious standards. Have you looked at the woman’s activities?!? That’s a very busy and well respected person. She doesn’t need to look Hollywood. Not everybody is fixated on appearances.

    • Suze says:

      Good looking, in-shape, glamorous people get cheated on all the damn time. Someone upthread listed a bunch of famous hotties whose spouses/significant others have cheated on them.

      Hell, one of the most beautiful famous woman of the last century, Princess Diana, had a cheating spouse.

      This isn’t about what Holly Petreaus looks like. It’s about the actions and decisions of her spouse and the other woman (women, perhaps) involved.

      • Mauibound says:

        Best damn statement so far^^^^ !!
        What made me sad is I actually had seen a statement where Holly was taking part of the blame because of all the time they spent apart. BS Holly!! He didn’t keep it in his pants and that is on him! No matter what a wife deserves so much more respect than that

    • Angel says:

      Um, she’s been a little busy. Maybe you’d like to look her up before you go bashing her based on her looks. I bet Wounded Warrior don’t give a flying fk about her looks. Seriously SMH!

  23. Helvetica says:

    It’s always funny to me when a sidepiece warns another (3rd, 4th, and 5th) sidepiece to stay away from “her” man. Um, if he’s cheating on his wife then why the frick would you think you are the only one? It defies all logic.

    People are so idiotic.

  24. Rita says:

    This is a very shady deal. Even the Congress can’t get information they want from the FBI and Justice Department relating to very important matters of public interest.

    However, all of a sudden the most intimate details of a private affair come out of an FBI investigation. These confidential files and emails are released which discredits the CIA Director who is suppose to testify before Congress this week about the 9/11/2012 attack on our embassy in Libya. It looks like a set-up to me and somebody wants the general to be crucified.

    If Military Intellegence or the Administration is behind this, Obama’s second term is already finished. Something is very wrong here.

  25. Merritt says:

    I don’t care about the affair. I do think it is horrible that it happened and they are terrible people for doing that to their spouses.. I also think the fact that Broadwell was threatening someone makes her a worse person.

    People need to stop with the conspiracy theories and realize that he will still have to testify and the resignation does not change that.

  26. spinner says:

    This is all about Benghazi, which was deliberately held back until AFTER the election. Four Americans were denied help & now they are dead. Ladies & Gentlemen…meet the fall guy. Keep your eye out for Hillary thrown under a bus somewhere.

  27. Lotta says:

    I’m not american and for me it’s crazy how someone has to resign becuase of having an affair. OK, if it affects work but from what I’ve understood it was the mistress who wrote threats and not him. In Europe we don’t care so much if our politicians and officials are screwing around, it’s their private thing, unless it effects their job.

    Being unfaithful is not illegal (yet) in the U.S and the Weastern world. Hope it stays that way.

    • Grace says:

      Being unfaithful shows a lack of responsibility, poor character, and a failure of duty to his wife and family. These traits are unacceptable in high-level military leaders. Your country may be okay with it but America isn’t.

      I have no idea where you are but as America has the greatest military on the planet we probably protect your citizens too.

      • Jayna says:

        If you think our high-ranking military are all faithful, you are dreaming. They just haven’t been caught or the good ol’ boys network protects each other.

      • Lotta says:

        My country, Sweden, is not a part of NATO so you’re military is not protecting us.

        And my country is doing much better then the U.S if you look at our economy, life expectancy at birth, average health, and so on, so I guess that our way is working pretty good. We also haven’t been at war for the last 250 years.
        As long as a politician or official is doing a good job what they do on their free time is OK for me, as long as it is nothing illegal.

      • Chatcat says:

        Well Lotta, we are also only about a 250 year old ‘country’ and compared to the long established countries (i.e. Sweden) who have been around for say 1000 or more years – we are still young. I am not a great history buff but I would bet Sweden has been involved in it’s fair share of “wars” over those 1000 or more years. Hmmmm… I may have to do some investigating on that now that my interest has been peaked.

        You know the saying…maturity comes with age. We are still in the crawling stage as a country compared to 80% of the rest of civilazation. :)

        Oh and as much as I abhor “illegal” I find “immoral” just as disgusting. “Hey it’s my free time honey, I’m gonna go bang my biographer, who is also married with kids. OK. Don’t wait up…it’s not like I am going to do anything “illegal” or anything.”

      • Lotta says:

        My point was not to discuss history but to answer Grace that even though we draw a line between a person’s private and proffesional life, it doesn’t mean that we need protection. And drawing that line hasn’t kept the U.S out if war either, so I don’t see that it’s working.

        If his job has suffered in anyway because of his affair of course he should have to go. Otherwise I think it is a private thing between him and his wife (and those of us who like to gossip, I guess).

        I also would like to point out

      • Ange says:

        Lol put the ooh rah nonsense away Grace, nobody wants to hear it.

    • D says:

      There are several comments in this post explaining why it’s a problem for an intelligence officer to have an affair.

      This is not about American puritanism. I’m from Europe as well and you’re mistaken if you think that directors of European intelligence agencies have the freedom to hide their sexual affairs from their superiors.

      • Lotta says:

        As long as it doesn’t effect their work as I said. Look at Mitterand, Olof Palme, Berlusconi, etc. They all had numerous affairs that didn’t matter in the opinion of the people. Berlusconi made some very bad choices such as having sex with underage women, and that finally got him into trouble.

    • Bored suburbanhousewife says:

      Get real lotte. Sweden basically collaborated with the Nazis to stay out of WWII. And during the heyday of the Soviet Union it could have rolled up Sweden any day of the week if the US was not there to defend you.

      • Cam S says:

        @ Bored suburbanhousewife

        Your statement is VERY true.

      • jwoolman says:

        Oh, please. We aren’t defending Sweden. Modern weapons make it impossible to defend much of anything , we just haven’t realized it yet so we still play the warrior game, making a few weaponsmakers rich, while other countries have moved on to becoming so interdependent that war is extremely unlikely.

        And there were limits to what the USSR was willing to take on- they focused on their borders since that was their weak spot, hence the centuries-old habit of controlling countries through which invaders marched. Their leaders weren’t insane like Hitler, but the memory of what he did to them was very fresh. A whole generation of kids grew up fatherless, villages disappeared, whole cities had to be rebuilt. And yet their Constitution and the similar ones in the Republics gave people the tools they needed for dramatic and peaceful change when they wanted it, especially the need for a quorum of voters (so voter boycotts forced change by invalidating elections) and the ability to vote “no” to a candidate (forcing the Party to go back and try again). We need those two things ourselves, since we’re stuck with a winner-take-all setup that makes change very difficult. But all those economy-draining weapons of mass destruction and huge standing armies never protected anybody, here or there. War today is obsolete not because everybody is nice but because it’s just pointless, causing more harm than it might prevent. We have to look for other ways to feel safe if we want to survive.

      • videli says:

        That’s very unfair, not to Lotte, but to Sweden. America was not ‘there’ to protect Sweden. Sweden was very much aware that in case of opening of hostilities, it could be the first to be steamrolled, before anybody could protect anything. That’s why they did not want to have anything to do with the Cold War business. Hence Palme’s assassination, which, unlike a lot of the BS flayed around here, was indeed the product of a conspiracy.

      • Bodhi says:

        Which has what, exactly, to do with anything? Lotte is correct, the US does not protect Swedish citizen; it never has & it never will.

  28. Grace says:

    Holly will stand by her man because she’s too deep in the military lifestyle to change. As some have said her looks will probably prevent her from marrying again. She will swallow the humiliation, keep his secrets, and get strokes from all of the military families from now on.

    For those blaming one or the other…please…it always takes two to tango. Both of them betrayed their spouses and families. They are both in the military and knew from minute one that what they were doing is wrong.

    • Jayna says:

      Holly is going no where. As painful as this is for her, their marriage is probably based on a strong friendship and love and strong shared love of service for their country mentality more than passion anymore. He’s been gone for long stretches of time over the course of their marriage. I doubt she thought he had never been unfaithful. But the length of time on this one and having it hurt, humiliate and embarrass her is going to take some time to get over. Plus, they are both military. She won’t forgive him for tarnishing his own legacy which he worked so hard for over the years and to which his childten were so proud of. But they will get through it. Their marriage is too long to end it at this point.

    • hmmm says:

      Geez. Again with the sexist ‘looks’ opinion. And the sexist assumption that women only crave to be with a man, to be married. What era is this comment from? It’s belief locked up in patriarchal fantasy and demand.

      I’ll let you into a little secret- women at 60 that I know are not panting over a man but rather, happy to be rid of the old ball and chain and enjoying a rare and happy freedom. To care about hooking a man at 60 is just pathetic.

  29. Cody says:

    I was in a grocery line and there is a couple in front of me waiting to check out. They are looking at all the magazines and the wife is telling the husband in an annoying voice about the Petraeus incident and they are discussing it. He gets really defensive and says “I get in trouble for what Petraeus did?” Wife says, “thats right you better watch yourself, because all husbands are in trouble right now”.

  30. Belle Epoch says:

    DO NOT BLAME THE WIFE! Yes her haircut is unfortunate, but does that give him a pass? Don’t we all look like heck sometimes? If a woman loses a breast to cancer, is the husband entitled to go find a better looking replacement? What happened to staying loyal to the person inside? You’d think someone in the military, where people are maimed every day, would see past the surface. After 37 years she looks dowdy. She is ready to be a grandmother, not expecting to compete with a crazy woman 20 years younger. He is dumb AND a dickweed.

    • taxi says:

      Yes, Holly shows her age & lack of fashion awareness, but she is the daughter of one of David’s West Point instructors. They met on a blind date while he was an undergrad. Hmm, did his father-in-law get him any early career help?

      Holly was certainly steeped in the “good military wife” mindset before she met David & has done valuable volunteer service.

      • Elizabeth says:

        I can’t imagine that he got to be a four star general (same as Colin Powell, folks) without his wife being a solid career asset for him. If you’ve been married to an army man for 37 years and he ends up where this guy ended up, then you (Holly) have put in the time/hours/effort to get to the top. Her husband and her children have been her career. A bit old-fashioned by today’s standards but it makes him look like even more of an a**hole.

      • the original liv says:

        holly’s dad was a four star general and superintendent of west point, so i’m sure it helped his career.

    • ohiogirl says:

      It’s very possible that Petraeus has encouraged his wife to stay natural looking. My husband is very against costmetic enhancements, for example. I think Holly is very pretty actually. And what I really like about her is that she carries herself as a woman who garners respect for her mind not her appearance.

      And why would this Paula chick want to slurp on some old man peen when she has a gorgeous young (doctor?) husband? Maybe she was so taken by his accomplishments and charisma but as a married woman she should have turned her attention toward her husband’s good qualities.

  31. Mac says:

    Wow!! Peel back this scab and they’re gonna find a whole lot of pus.

    It will all most likely be swept under the rug and forgotten before long.

  32. JulieM says:

    To all the wingnut conspiracy theorists: Turn off Fox and get out of the closed information feedback loop. That’s why you lost the election. Oh, and some other reasons.

    Just saying.

  33. Amy says:

    This guy was the keynote speaker at the college I graduated from this past May 2012! (I graduated in 2010). His wife is an alum which is how the college got connections. I really wondered what he said in his speech… maybe some of the advice was “do not have an affair when you are the CIA director?” I wonder what the reaction was from the college administrators… I think he was given an honorary degree.

  34. Jayna says:

    I am more intrigued with the reasoning of the low-level FBI agent, who was local in Florida and friends with the Kelly, he reported the emails to the FBI. They eventually closed him out of it and handled it on a higher level. Behind his own employer’s back he contacted someone in Congress, a Republican, forwarding his concerns. How odd. The FBI was still conducting an investigation. They just took the low-level FBI employee out of the loop because of some if his behavior. I think he had ulterior motives not concern for his country when he contacted Republicans behind the FBI’s back.

    • Raven says:

      I was curious about this, too. I’m a fed and if I had gone way over the top of my agency, providing confidential information to Congress on my own, I’d be in big trouble. Of course, he may be protected by the Congressman he informed (and Congressman Cantor) so his agency wouldn’t be able to fire him, but his career isn’t looking too good these days.

  35. haarkonen says:

    Interesting that nowhere do you mention that he is the key to what happened in Benghazi, and because of this spectacularly coincidental piece of news he no longer will testify.

  36. jwoolman says:

    Great. Yet another reason for my Luddite brother to avoid learning how to use e-mail…..

    I doubt the resignation was over his upcoming testimony, they can and will subpoena him if needed. It’s possible he was a problem in other ways, maybe he wasn’t so good at the job. I doubt he was at risk of getting fired over the affair, unless he really bypassed all protocols for vetting romantic entanglements (no evidence so far that he did, sounds like a fluke that those e-mails were examined). Geez, all branches of government would be quickly depleted if that started happening… But even more likely, it really was for purely personal reasons. If he had two on the side, more likely he’s had others, a serial cheater. And more likely it was while still in the military, making it an embarrassing violation of the code and making him liable to court martial if anyone pursued it (and yes, people have been discharged for that). He might think he can shut down media interest by resigning. And/or he might want to try to salvage his marriage, and that’s going to take a lot of work.

    The weird way it surfaced, though, sounds very peculiar. Why would some Republican members of Congress be informed about this before the White House? Was it really just Republicans?

  37. Ok says:

    How come one of our top ranking officials could not score a better looking mistress ? Seriously. Look at that woman’s forehead and hairline !!!!! She looks like the villain from Megamind.

  38. lizzi says:

    I don’t know that much about politics, but I will say that I love it when mistresses of married men get jealous of OTHER mistresses. Are you serious?? LOL – the definition of immature. And then the scumbag guy feels like a pimp cuz 2 women are fighting over his (usually) gross ass.

  39. Issa says:

    In the words of my friend “don’t screw crazy.” Its what happens when you anger one mistress and she finds out about your other mistress. Never understand how men can rise to great positions of power to only fall and be defeated by the mighty vagina. Its true, sex is the best weapon.

  40. ShugAveryPee says:

    What is with you right wing folks making bengazi more of an issue than it was… Our citizens were in foreign soil and they were senselessly murdered… that happens everyday with our troops… ever since this war has started … I do not see you all screaming about that … you all are making it something it is not… innocent folks died and that is horrid and breaks my heart but Hillary took responsibility for it that is it .. let it go

  41. Trashaddict says:

    As a post-menopausal woman who feels likes she’s “losing” her looks (at least the one’s the media tells us we need) I’d like to offer an alternative picture of Holly Petraeus:
    http://www.politico.com/news/stories/1112/83722.html
    The other picture was kind of unfair to her.
    Pity the Director of the CIA can’t keep his pants or his mouth zipped tight. Grounds enough for me to want his resignation. And just underlines how hard it is to be a truly good man in this day and age.

    • ohiogirl says:

      I agree. I think Holly is pretty- gorgeous skin, eyes, smile, and seems like a radiant person. No crazy eyes like Paula.

      I think this affair is really telling about him. Who knows what other lusts he may have. Money? Bribes? who knows, really. But he certainly isn’t as disciplined as we need our head of CIA to have!

  42. deehunny says:

    thank you @kaiser for summing up this mess so neatly. I heard about it last week but heard no details.

  43. Paige says:

    Lol @ the Fox News watchers. Turn off the conspiracy theory hate speech. David will still have to testify about BG. There is no massive cover up. Seriously Fox News need to be banned.