Liam Neeson: Sex ‘is very, very special… It’s full of mystery and wonder’

Liam Neeson is talking about sex. Unfortunately for all of us, he’s not talking about positions or fetishes or how he would like to bone each and every one of us. No, Liam is talking about the difficulty of raising two teenage boys in a hyper-sexualized culture. Liam wants to teach his boys that sex is “very, very special… It’s full of mystery and wonder.” Which is super-sweet, and even though I know people are going to throw shade at Liam for talking like a prude after publicly admitting that yes, he’s got an Evian-bottle dong. But I wish more dads would talk about the example they want to set for their sons – we talk too much about the examples and role models for young women, and we act like nothing can be done about the way guys think about women and sex and respect.

A single parent since the death of his beloved wife, Natasha Richardson, three years ago, Liam Neeson says he has struggled to cope with the sexualised nature of society.

“I’d hate to be a kid now, because we’re all inundated with so much information about sexuality coming at us from everywhere – the media, the advertising billboards, just everywhere – and it must be so confusing for them,” says the actor, who has two sons, Micheál, 17, and Daniel, 16, by Richardson.

The Oscar-nominated star of such films as Schindler’s List and Love Actually says the sexualisation of society is ruining loving relationships. “There’s a problem that, if you become over-familiar with something, it moves from the sacred to almost the profane,” he tells The Catholic Herald.

“The act is very, very special, you know. It’s full of mystery and wonder, and I’d hate us all to get to the stage where we just treat it lightly, because it deserves more than that … but times have changed since I was young, no doubt about it.”

Richardson, the daughter of the actress Vanessa Redgrave and the director Tony Richardson, was 45 when she died after suffering a head injury in a fall while skiing in Canada.

The actress, who starred in films including Patty Hearst and The Parent Trap, had been married to Neeson for 15 years. Her first husband was Robert Fox, the film and theatre producer.

A year and a half after her death, Neeson, 60, began stepping out with Freya St Johnston, a public relations executive, but the relationship was reported last October to have “fizzled out” because he wanted to spend more time in New York with his sons.

[From The Telegraph]

That’s an interesting piece of gossip at the end! I didn’t know that we had established that Liam and Freya St. Johnston were over! The last I heard, Liam and Freya were still dating… when he was in London. And when he’s in NYC (with his sons), he has a “New York girlfriend” – or at least that’s what Page Six claimed back in September of last year. I’m not begrudging Liam! If he wants to date and have a few girlfriends, so be it. But I hope the girlfriends know about each other, and I hope that Liam is showing his sons how to respect women as he leads by example.

Photos of Liam in Rome, courtesy of Fame/Flynet.

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  1. RocketMerry says:

    Aww… kinda melting here. Such a romantic.
    Every man I ever met should take notes.

  2. k says:

    Interesting comments, considering he was well know n to be one of the biggest sluts in Hollywood before he met Natasha.

    • kdlaf says:

      Yeah but what he’s saying is that teens now a days are sexual due to the media as opposed to figuring it out on their own. I dont think he’s referring to merely being sexual at all. Just being sexual on your own terms, which can be very hard in our sexual driven culture in which there is so much “sex” but not much passion and knowledge about sex itself.

    • Violet says:

      Yeah, that was my first thought as well. Plus Liam started dating within mere months of his wife’s death.

      As with most celebs, his actions belie his words.

    • Belle says:

      It’s always possible that he actually matured in his marriage and came (no pun intended) to look at sex differently than he had back in his slut days.

      My past isn’t exactly a shining example for my girls, and I don’t try to use it as such.

    • DT says:

      I am about his age and remember that he cut quite a swath through LA’s single women. In fairness, the late70′s and early 80′s were very free wheeling. You’ll excuse the expression but we were all having a ball. I will say this about Liam – I never heard any of these women complain about him. It’s always been my impression that he was part rogue, part sweetheart.

    • Melissa says:

      Looks like the interview was done for a Catholic magazine, so I’m sure tailored his message to that demographic.

    • Marie Antoinette Jr. says:

      I agree k. Rolling my eyes here at the hypocrisy. He’s just recycling a line he used to slut around with back in the day and re-purposing it for the church and his kids.
      I don’t believe HE believes a word of it either! He’s just trying every tactic he can to keep his boys from getting in trouble; and also to maybe puppet what their mother would have told them…

    • sauvage says:

      I honestly believe that you can sleep around while respecting every single person you sleep with.

      Just my 2 cents.

  3. Hannah says:

    Seems like a very decent guy.

  4. MsAubra says:

    we talk too much about the examples and role models for young women, and we act like nothing can be done about the way guys think about women and sex and respect.


    All this talk of “Boy are easier” is lost on me as well, because if girls are difficult (not saying they aren’t at all), then some of the worry over how difficult they are to raise can’t be due in part to you wondering/worrying about boys and their ways, so there has to be an equal amount of difficulty…that saying never made sense to me

    • Mia 4S says:

      I think that it comes a bit from the added victimization risk that tends to fall on girls. However, I don’t believe for a second boys are easier. It is clear when you see things like the Steubenville rape case that some parents out there are failing massively at raising their sons. I’m not even talking about the rapists themselves, I mean some of the comments made by the other boys. If I were their parents I would hope I would have the decency to be devastated by their behavior.

      • bettyrose says:

        I’m not a parent, but you’ve perfectly verbalized what mystifies me about the “boys are easier” comment. I once got yelled at for saying I felt unsure of how one raises a boy to be a good man (not that it can’t be done, just that I don’t know how having not been around brothers, etc.) – and told that “not all men are rapists.” Well, obviously, and not all young women have low self-esteem, but parenting either gender is not a task to be taken lightly.

    • anotherrandom says:

      The talk of boys being easier to raise has nothing to do with raising them to be an upstanding member of society. It’s that you don’t have to deal with having a new dress and shoes for each party, the clique thing is more of an issue for girls (who are biologically geared to be more social) and things like that. Every parent worries about raising a healthy child, there are just certain aspects that some parents find more difficult about either gender.

    • Kate says:

      Yes, seconded. The horrendous situation in Steubenville is pretty much an object lesson in how badly things can go wrong, I think.

  5. lambchops says:

    One comment not on the topic, I wish he’d stop dying his hair. It looks bad and ages him. Join the silver fox club, Liam.

  6. V4Real says:

    I love me some Liam and I think it’s great that he talks to his boys about what sex should be and not just the act itself.

    Still I can’t help but to think about performing that act with Liam. He’s an older man but he’s still so sexy.

  7. aims says:

    I think thats an intresting point that was made. I have two preteen boys. My bestfriend is about ready to have her second. We talked about since weve had boys, do the rules change. Ane i say no. I’ve drilled it into my sons head that the have got to be responsabile. That sex is special and not dirty or shameful. That they have a responsabilty, if and when they do become active, that they need to protect themselfs and their partners. Theyre not off the hook because they are boys. So, yes lead by example always. When you show respect, it will be a teachable moment.

    • Chatcat says:

      I have done exactly this with all 3 of my boys when I had the initial “conversation” with them in their mid teens and continue to this day support the “both of you are responsible for your actions and you need to respect yourself and your girlfriend”…and though I was the vocal one my hubby supported it with his actions as well.

    • Belle says:

      I have two daughters, and when the first was born, a friend of my husband’s joked about how much harder it would be for him to have a girl than a boy. Said he didn’t just have to worry about ONE penis, but had to worry about ALL penises. Funny, but sadly, also true.

      The very same friend who made this joke already had one son at the time (though he was very young), now has three boys, the oldest is 17. He is a great dad and his wife, a wonderful mother. They not only teach their boys about shared responsibility, but about being respectful and caring with girls. Their oldest, though 17, has a curfew… and they find it a bit frustrating that none of his friends have curfews. It isn’t that the other parents don’t count on their sons being home by a certain time, but that they rely on the fact that the girl they are dating DOES have a curfew! I understand and appreciate their frustration, as it seems that even in this way, some parents are some parents are relying on ‘the girl’ to have to follow rules and be responsible, rather than setting the same standard for their sons. :(

  8. Jess says:

    Sounds like a good dad to me!

    Btw, he should always wear blue.

  9. Good_as_Gold says:

    How refreshing. And how true.

    Makes a nice change from his last dumb comments about Aslan (the lion from lion, witch and the wardrobe) representing ALL religions, when C.S Lewis has already knowingly said he represents Christ.

    • Jeanette says:

      Who cares? It was an animatronics lion.

      • LAK says:

        Clearly you haven’t read the books.

        Aslan is definitely the christ figure.

        That self sacrifice that enables him to beat the Witch in the 2nd book was pretty much alluding to christ’s crucifixion and ressurection. The whole thing is lifted from the gospels from the garden of gethsemane through to ressurrection and appearing to one woman [Lucy] who has complete faith in Aslan.

        Most people have only ever read the 2nd book in the series, so they don’t see the connecting arc of the story from the 6bks vis a vis Aslan as a representation of christ.

        There are many events and or places in the imagined world of Narnia that are clearly taken from the bible eg There is a garden complete with forbidden fruit [either book 1 0r 3, can't remember which] which is clearly about Eden.

        Ditto the arc that some of the characters go through eg the arc of the witch which is essentially about how evil enters a perfect new born world and threatens to destroy it.

        The blind faith in Aslan that enables one to see him and invoke him.

  10. janie says:

    I agree… How nice for a change. What a gentleman Liam Neeson is. Always loved him.

  11. bettyrose says:

    Wow, he’s beautiful in these pics – even more so for being such a strong role model.

  12. Annie says:

    Yeah when did sex become so meaningless for some people? I remember reading something online about “slut-shaming” and while I don’t like women being called whores, ESPECIALLY by men, I feel the term is being thrown around too casually whenever a woman is being questioned for her bad behavior even if you don’t call her a slut directly or are not even shaming her. Like, for some people reminding a girl to wear condoms and be safe is slut shaming. Really? Can we not? This shockingly cavalier attitude towards sex is why so many young women and men have HIV and other incurable diseases “Let her live her life omg she owns her body you go girl with your bad self”. Nope, sorry. It’s not ok to sleep with people you just met, not even wear a condom or know their name and then do it all over again with someone else, and I’m teaching my children that, because irresponsible behavior can endanger your health and hurt you emotionally not to mention ruin your life. And for women the consequences will always be a lot worse because society will never stop judging us differently and whoever advices you to engage in self-destructive behavior to ~bE yOuRsElF~ is giving you bad advice on purpose.

    It’s going to take a loooong time before we stop being judged more harshly than men, but boys definitely need this talk too. My idiot 19 y/o cousin got her gf pregnant, who’s 22 and already has a kid with someone else! It’s like, hey, condoms? It’s not the having of the sex, it’s irresponsibility of the act! It’s not the having of the sex, it’s irresponsibility of the act! And being called out on it is not slut shaming. Stop babying irresponsible people.

    And I agree with Liam, boys and girls are sexualized too soon these days and if parents don’t step in they’re letting their own kids down. I’ve seen so many 15 year olds pregnant at my hospital and this is the product of idiot parents being scared of talking to their kids about sex.
    It’s just sad that some people are all “Whatever! You do you! You’re free and you own your body!” That’s just bad advice disguised as good advice. Have a code. Be a person with a code and follow your own rules, respect your limits. Never throw caution to the wind and always think things twice. You wouldn’t share a needle with a stranger, sex is the same thing! Don’t ruin something as awesome as sex by getting in trouble, getting infections, getting hurt, getting pregnant as a teen, or ruining your reputation just to be *~FrEe~*

    I’m teaching my kids to respect themselves, to respect the women they sleep with and treat them like human beings, to respect their bodies, to be safe and to have a code. I don’t want to raise people who use sex to be liked and who see sex as just any other random activity. Thinking this way has made me healthier and happier than my friends who don’t give a crap.

  13. spinner says:

    I will make him mine now.

    He has the same birthday (06/04) as Jolie & myself.

  14. Ginger says:

    How is it possible this made me love him even more??!! he has some very valid points. I have a son who is entering the tween stage and I’m trying to teach him about respect and cherishing a partner. he has already commented on the affection my husband and I show each other. I hope we can lead by example as well.

  15. themummy says:

    Oh GOD, he’s hot. I don’t care how old he is.

  16. Jayna says:

    Can you imagine a dinner date with him? He’s such an interesting man. He has such an amazing voice, great and interesting face, and I think I would stare at his gorgeous hands most of the dinner.

  17. Jayna says:

    I swear I still love his skit with Ricky Gervais. The skit has a cult following now.

  18. KellyinSeattle says:

    Liam, shut up about the mystery and wonder and just do me!

  19. bondbabe says:

    Liam, you can bring your mystery and the wonder “twins” over to my place anytime….

  20. j.eyre says:

    I am so confused right now. I rushed home to read about Liam Neeson and sex and I got this beautiful essay with which I agree almost completely in all ways. I love that he said this and I love that it is being promoted.

    But honest to Christmas Kaiser, the next time you put up a by-line that sounds like Liam Neeson is going to describe sex as an art form and then lead with that scruffy “I will make you forget your name” photo, please – please – have him discussing activities that will have me glued to my seat in more ways than one.

    • T.Fanty says:

      ITA. Liam Neeson can keep the mystery and wonder. Give us the profanity and graphic suggestions!

      This article totally should have finished with “would you hit it?”

    • EscapedConvent says:


      Would you leave Mr. Rochester for him? I don’t mean permanently, so that life at Thornfield would be turned inside out & upside down (gasp!)—but maybe just for a little while, if you could be home by teatime?

      Just my 10 cents—I adore Liam. He & Natasha were so lovely together, & he talks so sweetly about her, & about their “bonny boys.”

      • j.eyre says:

        When last we left Rochy, he was blind and one-handed so yes, yes I would excuse myself for an afternoon to be turned inside out by Liam. Heck, I might even invite him to Thornfield to defile me if I thought it would expedite things.

      • EscapedConvent says:

        @ T.Fanty—Toby naked in Coriolanus, you say! How delightful! A young lady never forgets her first Coriolanus.

        It’s so great to hear that someone else loves Toby! It would be so great to see him onstage.

        @j.eyre—I am relieved to hear that you have no plans to leave Mr. Rochester. He would be lost without you, & he would fall down & bump into things. As for lovely Toby, I hope you have found your pearls, because you’re going to need to clutch them when you hear this: He’s the son of Maggie Smith & Robert Stephens! I think you can see him in both their faces.

        (check Robert’s IMDB page—I’m just trying to help.)

    • EscapedConvent says:

      Oh for the love of all that’s holy! Miss Eyre, I am shocked. Shocked, I say! I realize Mr. Rochester isn’t as dashing as he once was, but dear reader, “you married him”! It would break his heart to hear any defilement going on in the main house. I hope you will “shed-ule” your afternoon of delight with Liam to take place in the charming Temple Folly, beyond the stables. That little place is so cute.

    • EscapedConvent says:

      Also @ j. eyre:

      I’m about to settle in to watch Toby Stephens & Ruth Wilson’s “Jane Eyre.”

      I just don’t think you can have too much Bronte.

  21. Miss Thang says:

    What a sweet thing for him to say. Am I crazy for thinking that kids should be told not to have sex until they’re ready to have a baby? Not that that’s the only thing they should be told, but one of them.

  22. Cait says:

    He is so right! Liam really is the total package, isn’t he??

  23. Jayna says:

    I think Liam is one of those men that don’t just love sex. They love the romance of sex. They love every part of a woman’s femininity, every part of a woman’s body, looking into her eyes, not just hit it and get off. He’s the type that if you were a brief affair he would end it so kindly that you would feel it was a beautiful experience to remember, not just stop calling, no good-bye..

    I read recently an old interview from the early ’90s and he only liked to be interviewed by women. Probably because he could ooze his charm.

  24. cv2 says:

    You can’t really just teach it’s special.

    He’s probably done a thousand chicks. I mean, “actors” in the pr0n industry have had less.

    So yeah, you have to give the kids a whole moral system.

    Sorry, but religion would be one of those. It’s a good thing.

    And today’s schools are undoing real morality and truth seeking.

    Find out what college teaches 18 year olds and you’ll know school is not your friend for keeping your kids non-ho’s.

  25. argirl says:

    Is he wearing a wedding ring?

  26. Vee says:

    He is still with Freya by the way, my sister sat next to them in Anguilla at New Years and said he was with his sons and a big group and he and Freya didnt let go of each other all night! Apparently kissing and giggling like teenagers!! Soo.. If leading by example means showing your sons you are happy then he seems to be doing it!

    • Jayna says:

      Freya may be younger at 39 (maybe 40 by now), but she really doesn’t have a pretty face and really scraggly hair and even her teeth aren’t great. She kind of always had that look of Paul McCartney’s ex-wife, sometimes not a pleasant look. She has seemed to be looking better in the last year, though. She looks great in jeans being so tall. She trimmed her hair. Natasha was so sophisticated. I guess I just compare.

      In the beginning of their relationship you could see he was drunk. I think he was drinking a lot on his off time to kill the pain of his grief. I do admire him for being with an average looking woman, so with her for more than her looks, although, she is very tall and thin and looks great next to him heightwise, because he could be with a ton of gorgeous actresses of many age ranges after him in Hollywood, I’m sure. She obviously has been very patient and must really love him and has been very discreet and brings happiness to his life, which he deserves.

      Picture of them in their early dating at a Broadway play with her kids.