Rebecca Romijn claims she doesn’t have a full-time nanny: ‘That’s what real life is’

I really dislike Redbook’s redesign. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the way they did their covers up until this year. Redbook used to have a standard cover layout – an attractive woman, centered on the cover, with text and headlines on either side. But, beyond this awful cover, the rest of the photoshoot with Rebecca Romijn is pretty. I especially like that the magazine didn’t airbrush her eye crinkles – it’s so refreshing to see a beautiful 40-year-old woman who looks 40 years old, and who looks like she’s aging naturally.

Anyway, Rebecca is likely promoting that awful-looking new show with Jon Tenney, King & Maxwell, which comes on TNT. I like Tenney, and I like Romijn, but even the commercials for the show annoy me. Thankfully, she doesn’t talk about the show in her Redbook interview, she just talks about her family and how they don’t have a full-time nanny.

Two kids were always in the cards for Rebecca Romijn and Jerry O’Connell. Despite battling infertility, the couple planned for a future as a family of four — and were doubly blessed when they discovered that not only was Romijn pregnant, but they were expecting twins!

And while tackling twins is tough, the couple are taking on the task alone — without the help of a full-time nanny.

“We’re each other’s assistants. We pick up each other’s slack. Whoever is less busy helps the busier one: ‘Can you go pick up this for me?’ or ‘Can you book my flight?’” Romijn, 40, says in Redbook‘s August issue.

“That’s what real life is. Once you start paying somebody else to do the grunt work, who are you?”

Adding to the difficult job of managing multiples is Romijn’s work commitments. With the King & Maxwell star shooting on location in Canada, O’Connell is on full-time daddy duty, bringing daughters Charlie Tamara Tulip and Dolly Rebecca Rose back and forth from their Los Angeles home to Vancouver to visit their working mama.

But, due to the couple’s “very different” approaches to raising their 4½-year-old girls, watching O’Connell step up to the parenting plate hasn’t always been easy. Fortunately, Romijn has realized handing over the reins isn’t always a recipe for disaster.

“It’s hard for me to not make suggestions when I’m not on duty. For example, 10 days ago when he was bringing the girls up to Vancouver, I was like, ‘Oh, God, he cannot forget their jackets. I have to remember to tell him to bring rain boots,’” she says.

“Then I told myself: ‘He knows what the weather is like in Vancouver.’ Meanwhile, he showed up with one pair of shoes each, two pairs of pants, two T-shirts, a sweatshirt and no jacket! This was my worst fear and we were … fine.”

Still, the actress admits jugging both her personal life with her professional career is a constant challenge. “Sometimes I do get a little teary. Jerry and I will see the girls running ahead of us and say, ‘Look at them, they’ll never be this little again — not even 10 minutes from now,’” she says.

It has been almost six years since Romijn and O’Connell tied the knot — later welcoming their daughters and settling into their family routine — but a big part of the former model’s previous marriage is still a popular topic for the public.

“Oh my God, it happened to me last night!” she says in reference to still being called Rebecca Romijn-Stamos. “You know, getting through all that was a lot, and when I was finally Rebecca Romijn again, I thought, ‘I’ll just stick with this for a little while.’”

But not so fast, says Romijn — her surname is still subject to change sooner rather than later.

“At a certain age I think it’ll be my girls who ask, ‘Why is your last name different than ours?’ Once it matters to them, it’s going to start mattering to me. And also for Jerry,” she says.

“My girls have this funny thing that they always do when it’s the four of us — they go, ‘See, here we are, all together, a family,’ over and over again. I think ‘O’Connell’ will play a big part in that.”

[From People]

The nice thing about “Rebecca Romijn-Stamos” was that it had a good flow and it’s still fun to say. “Romijn-O’Connell” won’t be as fun to say. Not that it matters, because I do think Jerry and Rebecca are in it for the long haul. As for the nanny stuff… I like that she specifies “no FULL-TIME nanny”. Meaning that they do have help to do some of the “grunt work” but that their helper/nanny probably doesn’t live with them, I’m assuming. Also, I didn’t know they battled infertility. Has she discussed that before or is that news?

Photos courtesy of Redbook.

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  1. Emily says:

    Ahhh the last name debate…
    They could just tell their kids that they don’t have to have the same last name to be a family and that taking the man’s last name is never necessary.
    They could all be Romijn’s! Jerry Romijn – much more sophisticated!

    • L says:

      +1 Give kids and people more credit than that.

      I used to live in Quebec where women are legally not allowed to change their last names after marriage (men to) All of their kids knew who mommy/daddy were and didn’t seem to have any issues about it.

      Parts of S. America/Spain-the naming tradition is that kids get both mom and dad’s last name.

      Family is family. My parents divorced, my mom went back to her maiden name. Zero changed in our relationship-she’s still my mom.

    • Amelia says:

      I really like what Sam Taylor Wood and Aaron Johnson did; The Taylor-Johnson’s! I think mixing names together is quite sweet, but I suppose it works a little better when one person already has a double-barreled surname.
      I think changing (or keeping) surnames can be quite a personal topic; names can often play a large part in personal identity.

    • holly hobby says:

      I don’t understand the controversy about the wife not taking the husband’s surname. No it does not confuse the kids. They accept it as is. How do I know? It’s because I kept my surname after I got married (it’s much easier not to go through the legal process of changing everything on legal documents and accounts) and my kids know my surname and know that dad and mom are married! No confusion, no questions, no identity problems!

      Of course I still sign the school stuff under my husband’s surname (it is legal to do that, it’s known as an alias) and I answer if someone calls me Mrs. XXX.

      Sorry I come from a family of all girls and I want to carry my father’s name. Both my kids middle names is my surname.

  2. Dawn says:

    She sounds real to me! I like them as a couple and they seem to do things right with their marriage and their kids. And her new show is actually good, I’ve watched it a few times now on TNT.

    • Hautie says:

      I really like that new show too. (King and Maxwell) I did not realize the charters were based on a book series, until I read a recent article about the show.

      So now I am going to have to hunt down a few of the books. I like to get a better understanding of Edgar.

  3. Micki says:

    …”Once you start paying somebody else to do the grunt work, who are you?”…

    Well I’m obviously the paying one who gets to enjoy a bit of breathing space.
    Many “real life” mothers have a part-time nanny and juggle career and family.
    So does having a nanny make you less “real mother”?
    God I feel the inner bitch pulling at her chain so it’s better to stop now.

    • Emily says:

      I think you’ve misunderstood.. she is more throwing shade at people who have a nanny ALL the time and essentially never see/raise/look after their kids…

      Having a part time nanny or babysitter or whatever is a very different thing.. It’s essentially saying if you will never see them and you don’t raise them, why have them?

      • Micki says:

        I’ve read it again. She hasn’t stated whether she has one at all, I just assumed she may have a part-time help if she hasn’t mentioned it explicitly.

        As SAHM I can safely say I do spend my time with my kids. Not that it’s my FIRST choice. I’d love to work again.
        But I’ve read a book recently called “School years” by Remo Largo, a Swiss pediatrician. According to his data and research the parent population in German-speaking countries spends apprx. 40 min !!! daily solely with their kids. Reading, talking or playing.
        Mums in general a bit more and dads a bit less but the picture is rather bleak. Parents just share the room while doing things that have to be done. But that’s not “upbringing” in my eyes.
        The general “perseption” though is that parents with no nanny devote their time to the offspring.

  4. Sabrine says:

    A part-time nanny to enable me to have a bit of freedom sounds good, very good.

  5. janie says:

    I love this couple! They’re so perfectly matched. They are normal people with kids who both work. Her new show isn’t too bad, caught part of an episode. I love Jon Tenny!

  6. Anna says:

    Love the photo of her walking down the street, and I like the interview. I think she’s a good actress with great comedic timing and I wish she got more, better work.

    I can totally empathize with what she says about trusting your partner to take care of [the kids/anything] the right way. I am a total micro-manager, and if my hubs didnt pack all the proper stuff, I would have a major freak-out. She seems like she’s trying to be chill about it, so good for her.

    • PrettyTarheelFan says:

      I travel about 50% of the time for work. Before I leave for a trip, I lay out ToddlerTarheelBuckeye’s clothes for each day, with matching socks, shoes, hats (TTB got my whiter than snow skin and we live at the beach), and a morning diaper. If he’s traveling without me, outfits are rubber banded together with all matching pieces.
      I might have a slight control issue.

      • lucy2 says:

        Don’t feel bad, he’s still a toddler. I knew someone who still did that for her 20+ year old son. Now THAT was an issue!

      • StormsMama says:

        Haha I LOVE the rubber band idea!!!!

  7. Bijlee says:

    Thank you! The cover is atrocious. I honestly thought it was an ad for something. Who thought this was a good cover?

  8. tokeberry says:

    Love her.

  9. mimi says:

    Why are women ashamed to admit they have a nanny or several?

    It’s a good thing someone is helping out or watching the children when you have to run errands, work or sleep.

    Some women have a husband who is not very supportive and don’t have a support system (such as close family) that can help out.

    Some women have demanding jobs.

    Others don’t get to sleep at all in the beginning and need someone who will enable them to sleep in the morning after being awake all night, or having to wake up every 2 hours.

    For some reason, for fathers- this is not even an issue.

    • Becky1 says:

      Agreed @Mimi. If I had kids and had the money I’d definitely be paying for some kind of help. As long as the kids aren’t being raised by nannies I don’t see anything wrong with it.

    • Lemony says:

      Very good points, both of you. Everyone I know has needed help with childcare at some point, it’s often the case that people live close to their parents or siblings & that’s who helps watch their children. It’s really not that different fromemploying a sitter/nanny, people just like to pretend it’s different & they “never had any help.”
      Of course,I realize that there are many people out there raising children who don’t have all of the help that they’d like to have.

    • Kim says:

      Having a part time nanny or baby sitter so one can run errands etc is ok. Its the full time nanny that bothers me. You dont have kids to have someone else raising them.

  10. Kim says:

    I like her & Jerry alot & she does seem down to earth but notice she said FULL time nanny which leads me to assume she has a part time nanny which is still more than the majority of people raising kids have.

  11. Butch says:

    Love her too. She’s totally gorgeous, aging perfectly and she’s honest. Basically she’s saying, if you don’t rear your own kids, who the hell are you and why did you have kids? All parents require help from time to time, so quit the bullshit high and mighty attitude about what constitutes full time and part time help. Grandparent, a neighbor, a babysitter, a friend….all considered “kid help”. Nanny’s are generally a full time job, so I think some of you should blow it out your asses.