Amanda Seyfried: You can’t talk ‘your vagina’ into being attracted to someone

Amanda Seyfried

Amanda Seyfried covers the August issue of Elle, and as always, she is ethereally beautiful as well as pale and interesting. Amanda is promoting Lovelace, which comes out stateside on August 9 in limited release; have you watched the trailer yet? The movie doesn’t look that great even if there’s a ton of talent — including Peter Sarsgaard, Adam Brody, West Bentley, Chloe Sevigny, and Chris Noth — involved. Oh and naturally, James Franco (who is all about classifying pr0n as “art”) is playing Hugh Hefner.

In this shoot, Amanda looks absolutely gorgeous, and the styling is lovely with the exception of the heart-print knickers shown in the below photo. The excerpts are rather revealing too. She talks about how her vagina always immediately knows what it wants, and she admits that she’ll always hold a torch for her ex-douche, Dominic Cooper. Plus some other stuff too:

Amanda Seyfried

On playing Linda Lovelace: “I read the script and I was like, ‘Wow, this is the riskiest thing that’s happening [in Hollywood] right now.’ The first thing you think about is that it could have ruined my career. At the same time, I was like, ‘This is my chance to show them, to show the industry, to be recognized.’”

On physical attraction in a relationship: “Everybody I’ve dated I’ve been sexually attracted to immediately. Sparks don’t grow — your vagina doesn’t become more inclined to wanting someone just because you’re around them.”

On her ex-boyfriend Dominic Cooper:: “We love each other … He’ll always be in my life regardless of what his girlfriends or future wife think. I’m never going to be with a guy that can’t deal with my friendship with him.”

On her current crush:: “[He's] someone separate from my industry life — I’ve known him since he was 16 … I picture him as the father of my children all the time. But it is a fantasy right now.”

[From Elle]

What I find interesting is that Amanda says that her vagina always knows immediately who she wants to sleep with, but she’s claimed in the past that she waits forever before sleeping with most guys because she’s terrified of being promiscuous. Of course, it’s totally possible for one to balance both of those things, but it’s just funny that Amanda is talking in terms of her vagina wanting what it wants. Like it’s an animal that needs to be trained or something. And I mean that in the best way possible, if there is one.

Amanda Seyfried

Photos courtesy of Carter Smith and ELLE

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  1. brin says:

    I like her…she’s smart, real and talented (and gorgeous).

  2. Maxine says:

    “We love each other … He’ll always be in my life regardless of what his girlfriends or future wife think. I’m never going to be with a guy that can’t deal with my friendship with him.” That’s an interesting statement. I wonder how she would feel if her future “guy” said the same thing about an ex.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Really. She doesn’t seem to consider the fact that he might have something to say about that. Sounds a little Fatal Attraction. Or just immature.

    • stellalovejoydiver says:

      To me this sound like he is still talking to her so can have sex with someone when no one else is around.
      He has her hooked like in that HIMYM episode , “you will always be important to me and we will be together again…just not yet”

    • Collar says:

      She must be young AND stupid. When Dominic falls for another woman, you will be shunted off to the side. If you are lucky maybe you get a xmas card with a pic of his lovely wife, two kids and golden retriever beaming with joy.

      The only ex-relationships that live past the new Loves are those that are willing to morph and give space. Dont cling.

    • Annie says:

      How can a man not have a problem with that though? She’s clearly still hung up on him. You can tell she still has feelings for him. And I wouldn’t want some ex around my boyfriend if I can tell she sees him as the love of her life. It’s like, girl, move on. I don’t like ghosts and you’re clearly waiting for your turn. That’s too much drama. Leave the past in the past.

      • Noreen says:

        What’s the origin of this oddly tight bond? I’m asking seriously. Did she lose her virginity to him or something? Was he her first boyfriend? Did he once literally save her life? Did they go through a trauma together and survive? I don’t get what the bond is that’s so strong that she wants to put him #1 in her life…while assuming HE will be totally a willing participant, hence the “future girlfriends and wife” comment. If he’s so awesome why aren’t they together? If it’s because he simply doesn’t love or want her then why is he such a #1 to her? This is a VERY bizarre statement she has made.

  3. Anna says:

    “He’ll always be in my life regardless of what his girlfriends or future wife think. ” – oh honey. That’s how we all delude ourselves post a ‘good’ breakup. You’ll move on some day.

    • Zimmer says:

      Yep, the problem with statements like that is the opposite almost always happens.

      And regarding physical attraction, the best physical relationship in my life has been with someone I wasn’t initally attracted to and it is so worth it.

      • Ginger says:

        @ Zimmer…me too! My now husband fell for me nearly instantly but it took a while for me to fall madly in love with him because I had just been divorced. But it was totally worth it because he’s the love of my life. I’m glad he was patient with me.

    • Isabel says:

      She admitted in earlier interviews a lot of her relationships fail because of her ex, she can’t get over him.

      I remember her talking about having dated Alexander Skarsgard and that she stopped doing that because her ex showed up (again?. Skars is always +1000 and tbh, her ex looks like an angry garden gnome, no offense to the ladies who love him. I would have climbed the Skarsmountain ;)

    • IzzyB says:

      Not necessarily. I was with my ex for 4 years, we’ve been broken up for 5, and we still email every week or two and meet up occasionally when we’re in the same county.

      He has a long term girlfriend who is lovely and I also email.

      We were friends for years before dating, and worked incredibly hard to get past the break up and become friends again. His girlfriend appreciates and accepts that because she said it takes maturity and a very good heart to be able to do that, and that’s the kind of guy she wants.

      But yes, in the majority of cases, one is really hung up on the other and the other just moves on. It’s sad.

  4. Tessa says:

    How many times I’ve thought I would stay friends with an ex, and how many times they get a new gf, and they just evaporate from the earth. I understand, and she should too. You should move on and let your ex move on. It’s so much healthier that way.

    • Jayna says:

      Yeah, I laughed at that. Her ex might fall head over heels and marry someone who cuts that friendship down to size and she barely hears from him anymore.

    • Annie says:

      Seriously. No woman is going to let another woman (especially one as pretty as Amanda) who is clearly still in love with her man, hanging around him, calling him, talking, etc. You shut that sht DOWN immediately, because let’s not be generous – no man is cool with us being super close to our exes. No man.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I was getting ready to fight about this and tell everyone that I’m still friends with MANY of my exes, when I realized that none of them have girlfriends, which is why we still grab a beer together from time to time.

      I completely agree that the dynamic changes when an ex (or myself for that matter) enters into a serious relationship.

      “No woman is going to let another woman (especially one as pretty as Amanda) who is clearly still in love with her man, hanging around him, calling him, talking, etc.”

      Not even just that but what girl would do that? Any ex of mine who moves on and into a serious relationship, I’m happy for them AND I respect their new GF enough to back the f*ck off. That is Girl Code 101. Do NOT pose a threat to an ex’s new lady-back off and let them be together and foster their relationship without being The Ex That Looms.

      • IzzyB says:

        When my ex first got his new girlfriend, she didn’t understand our friendship and was jealous, but she was incredibly mature and nice and met up the three of us and we talked it out for hours.

        Now I see them both regularly, we’re all good friends, and it’s not weird.

        I’m not in a relationship but have had a casual thing going with a guy for a while. Even when I don’t, we’ve both moved on and I’m not a clingy crazy ex like Amanda sounds like, and I think that helps.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Wow, that is some SERIOUS maturity!

        Sounds like your ex dates some stand-up ladies. Props to you guys for handling it like adults and communicating about it.

    • Ginger says:

      I’m friendly with some of my exes and past lovers but I would never have predicted that. I am still close friends with my first love and he has even met my husband. BUT I am very protective of my relationship so I am respectful of the feelings of those involved. He is married and has a new baby. I’m very happy for him. So, I think that sometimes it’s possible to stay friends with an ex as long as there’s trust and respect and clear boundaries. I’m not sure that Amanda currently sounds like she is respecting any boundaries. She needs to understand that being an ex-girlfriend does not trump being someone’s wife. That is a much deeper and stronger bond IMO.

  5. gorda says:

    She is so hung up on him but who can blame her, he is a hottie. Having said that, she should really move on. I used to like her in ‘Big Love’ but then she started looking and sounding like all the other hollywood actresses. I can’t explain it, sorry.

  6. HH says:

    I wish she would have stopped at the “sexual attraction” description. No need to bring your nether regions into the discussion. Perhaps I’m just old-school, but I feel there is a certain way you talk to the public and it shouldn’t be as though we’re one of your girlfriends.

    • Noreen says:

      That’s a HUGE problem with Hollywood: 95% of them have no filter. They really believe that everything they think and feel is wildly fascinating and interesting and that they should say it. I’ll cop to being being a bit old-fashioned, too, though I will not cop to being a prude (which is what people like me get called when we complain about a young woman discussing her vagina in a public interview, for example). I am not a prude. I just think there is a time and place for certain types of vernacular, for certain types of expressions, and for certain types of descriptives. I am constantly surprised by some of the things I read in celebrity interviews–all types of celebrities. Just incredible…the vulgarity, course language, and extremely intimate/private descriptives they use.

  7. Fatty Cakes says:

    I think the word choice in the Dominic Cooper excerpt is interesting. She could have just said he’d always be in her life and that any guy she’s with would have to deal with that, but she got kinda extra with it. It reads like she’s taking a shot at his current girlfriend.

  8. lisa says:

    not too long ago she did an interview where the reporter and dominic were both along for her waxing appointment, it may have been lucky or allure mag

  9. susiecue says:

    that picture of her on the bed is so distractingly photoshopped. Her legs look completely fake!

  10. embertine says:

    Hmm, it’s generally my lizard hindbrain that decides who I’m attracted to. My vag is just following orders, as the Nazi said to the war tribunal.

  11. Jayna says:

    Great photos and love whoever tge photographer is. Great job compared to the other crappy photoshoots we’ve been seeing.

    Most the time that’s true, but I have worked closely with a few men and become very attracted to them after not being initially sexually attracted.

  12. Gwen says:

    She’s so pretty. I hope this part works well for her.

  13. Maria says:

    ok, so she sets the rules his future wife has to follow. cool.

  14. JL says:

    So her Vagina decides, is this some crude analogy to the saying a man’s penis runs his sex life?

    I LOVE this guy always will but the big “V” takes over and I just have to go screw someone?

    Yep; that’s true love.

  15. Tessa says:

    I can’t date a guy I’m not really hot for and sexually attracted to. It makes my dating pool smaller, but it’s just the way I’m wired. I like to feel a really strong attraction before I sleep with someone.

    • IzzyB says:

      I think I might be the opposite of you. I tend to find myself sexually attracted to a lot of people. I could be a giant slut if I wanted.

      But it’s the personality that sells it for me. That’s what turns the sexual attraction into something…more. I can’t explain myself well.

  16. SallyBee says:

    She looks like an alien in that last picture.

  17. TG says:

    I have to google who Dominic Cooper is but it sounds like he is as good as John Meyer both of them have complete control over their women and call all the shots. I mean Dominic gets to date and have sex with other women and Amanda is still out there talking about how important he is to her and any future boyfriend better understand that and threatening his future loves. Someone needs to learn how to value themselves. Pathetic.

  18. stellalovejoydiver says:

    I am sorry to say this, but she comes across really bad in this interview.
    For one she sounds insecure about her career, which is natural since she never really broke through and has to compete against actresses in her age range like Carey Mulligan, Rooney Mara, Emma Stone, Elizabeth Olsen, Mia W, Saoirse Ronan and Jennifer Lawrence, and when it comes to casting they all get considered before her, she gets the roles they left over. She is only medicore talented and she doesn´t have the it factor.
    She also sounds really clingy and kind of dumb, like girl, your ex is playing you, he only talks to you because he needs someone he can fall back on when no one else is around.
    Also I found the statement that she is pictureing her crush already as the father of her children super creepy.

  19. JennJ says:

    I get what she means, but it sounds crass to talk about her vagina like that. She could have expressed the same thoughts without going there.

  20. aenflex says:

    She’s an idiot. Neurotransmitters and programmed responses.

  21. Boromir's Bytch says:

    Didn’t she break up with Dominic Cooper after he slept with Lindsay Lohan? He was the guy Lindsay was chasing when she didn’t come back in time for one of her court appearances. I think he was the one she “lost” her passport over.

    Why would any woman want him back after that?

  22. Rux says:

    I gotta agree with her about that Vagina statement however, that does not mean I am going to let my Vagina have its way; the id does not supersede my ego & superego.

    Dominic is a douchebag…with several STDs; compliments of LL

  23. paige says:

    she’s feeling more in touch with her sexuality after playing lovelace, i guess that’s why we got the ‘vagina’ comment…it is a major career risk that may pay off.

    i might be the only one here but i find her very unattractive-she should get her thyroid checked…those bug eyes look symptomatic….

  24. magpie says:

    “your vagina doesn’t become more inclined to wanting someone just because you’re around them”

    Take note Henry Cavil.

  25. I Choose Me says:

    I really like Amanda but oh honey no. She needs to let go of her ex. She will never really be happy until she does. It’s fine to still love each other while realizing that they can’t be together (sometimes you just can’t make it work you know) but she’s prioritizing that over any future relationships she or he might have and that’s just unhealthy imo, not to mention disrespectful to whomever they might date.

    As to the vagina comment – I totally get what she’s saying. I’ve got to have some kind of physical chemistry with you or it’s just not going to work. As someone upthread noted, I’m pretty sure it’s the brain that decides that though and not the vag.

  26. Holden says:

    I get what she’s trying to say but I’ve also grown incredibly attracted to people as I get to know them over time. I can think of a couple of women that don’t try too hard and are incredible sensual and you appreciate it more and more.

  27. Sloane Wyatt says:

    IMO, Amanda makes great sense to only date someone that makes your vagina sizzle, and then to wait & see if that guy has more to offer than a biscuit attractor beam. Surprisingly, respecting your own needs leads to your partner respecting you and also allows you to waste less time and suffer less heartbreak.

    Where she gets it wrong is to keep it going with the hobbit. Dominic, or any guy who doesn’t enthusiastically, unmistakeably, and wholeheartedly reciprocate your love, will happily take up valuable real estate in your heart and string you along – if you let him. Don’t let him. Amanda has to let go of her “Mr. Wrong” and cut off communicating with him, no matter how hard it is to walk away from the one that got away. Then, when that HOT guy who is also a keeper comes along, she’ll be in the right space and ready for a real love.

    Last piece of unsolicited advice – masturbate before your date ’cause that will give you the distance you need to keep a cool head & your panties on.

  28. Elena says:

    I find it funny she says you can’t grow attracted to someone overtime, yet she’s known her current crush ever since he was 16. Does that mean she liked him but had to wait ’cause he was way too young at the time?

  29. bettyrose says:

    She’s young but someday she’ll discover that your vagina might surprise you by falling hard for someone you barely noticed at first.

    • Sloane Wyatt says:

      You are correct. Sometimes you have no idea your vagina will sit up & beg before that first kiss. I call it the “Kiss Test”. After being bored silly on a first date with my husband of many years, I was pleasantly shocked and awed by the goodnight kiss that lasted ’til morning. (He grew more interesting and revealed unknown depths over time.)

  30. Chutzpah says:

    Has she has some cosmetic work on her eyes? They have always been huge and wide apart but they were also incredibly BULGY like someone with Thyroid disease, they always had to give her heavy make up to counteract it – now with hardly any make up they don’t look so freaky.

  31. Mandy says:

    I watched the trailer for Lovelace yesterday and thought it looked good. I can’t wait to see it.

  32. Meg says:

    I think amanda saying this about her vagina, ‘you can’t talk it into being attracted to someone’ is why she dates so many douches.
    I’ve been attracted to assholes, the worst people ever-I don’t understand why i get nervous around them and blush and get nervous, but for whatever reason I do. but that doesn’t mean I date them, because he’s an asshole!
    There’s the guys you have fun with, hook up with, and then the guys you date and try to build your life with.

  33. Thora says:

    “You can’t talk your vagina into being attracted to someone”

    All she’s saying is that she couldn’t be with someone she wasn’t physically attracted to. It’s really not that profound or controversial.

  34. choppersann 13 says:

    I once dated a guy who did the whole I’ll always-talk- to-you game with me… even tho he had since been married….I realized he had told his new wife this when she started contacting me… nothing mean or bitchy. just questioning our conversations, feelings,etc. I felt horrible about it and for her then came to the conclusion he was doing it is much to torture her as to stay in touch with me… total prick move… and I cut off all contact with him…

    seems ms. Amanda might be pulling the same low self esteem control thing with dc…

    » lost points with me :p

  35. Tony says:

    I honestly find this girl SO ATTRACTIVE. I’m willing to ignore her social awkwardness. If you are reading this Amanda, call me.

  36. CassT says:

    Sure, you have to be attracted to someone. But when your attraction window is really narrow, you may wind up like my friend: over 50, never married and still hoping.

    Anyway, classy ladies don’t talk about their privates with the public.

  37. Kosmos says:

    I find it a bit tacky to talk about what your vagina might feel like in a magazine interview, geez. Can’t you say that in yet another way, girl? She doesn’t look sexy to me in the bed shot..those shoes are too wide for her, and the printed panties or whatever she’s wearing is silly…just a try hard sexy expression. I guess she’s trying to branch out, to show every side of herself, hoping to be discovered & adored by the masses, gag….