Is Madonna jealous of her daughter’s youth and beauty?

OK! Magazine has the most interesting story up on their website. It’s called “Madonna Jealous of Daughter Lourdes?” and it’s kind of blowing my mind. I had always assumed that Madonna, though self-absorbed and devoted to her 4-hour patented gristle workouts, was a half-decent mother. At least, a mother who would cede the spotlight in a natural, maternal way as her children grew up.

Madonna in a mini-van is not what I expected, let me be clear. But would Madonna feel some pride, some wistful “I made that” joy at seeing her daughter blossoming into a young woman? According to OK!’s “sources”, not so much. OK! claims that Madonna feels like she’s now “in competition” with daughter Lourdes for men and attention.

Not only does Madonna have to worry about young pop stars crowding her spotlight, she also has to contend with competition from an unlikely source: her 12-year-old daughter, Lourdes Leon!

“I think Madonna can’t stand that Lourdes is growing into a beautiful teen,” a source tells OK! of the 50-year-old singer. “She seems envious of her youth and looks. She knows Lourdes is going to be gorgeous and will get the attention of the opposite sex. Knowing Madonna’s taste for younger guys, it’s a matter of course that they’ll be dating men the same age. It’s disturbing.”

Not surprisingly, the superstar is desperately trying to keep her daughter in a permanent state of girlhood. Last year, the beauty team on Madonna’s Sticky & Sweet Tour had strict orders not to touch Lourdes’s bushy eyebrows.

“That was a battle Madonna eventually gave in to,” the source says. “Lourdes recently had them shaped.”

Cracks in the once cozy mother-daughter relationship first started to show at a Gucci gala benefiting UNICEF and Malawi last Feb. “Madonna refused to let Lourdes have a hairdresser. She probably didn’t want her daughter to look better than her,” the source tells OK!.

From OK! Magazine

The only thing I’ve ever criticized little Lourdes on was the eyebrows – I feel strongly that with those kind of bushy-eyebrow genes, it’s never too young to start plucking, trust me. It seems so weird that the image-conscious Madonna wouldn’t want Lourdes looking her best, especially for a charity photo-op. But it makes sense when seen through the prism of Madonna’s still-fame-hungry ways. And those are the genes she passed on to Lourdes. Give it a few years, and the Lourdes-Madonna Battle Royale will be something to see.

Lourdes is shown outside the Kabbalah Centre on 1/31/09 and 1/30/09. She’s also shown with her mom on 7/25/08. Credit: WENN

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  1. Scribe85 says:

    Lourdes is a beautiful girl.

  2. Megan says:

    Madonna does seem to have a problem growing old gracefully, the trademark crotch flashing is definitely stupid for a woman of her age. She needs to take tips from Helen Mirren and the like. Lourdes is beautiful, she has Madonna’s young beauty, but her father’s darker colouring. Madonna should be jealous.

  3. Ash says:

    First of all, I thought it was Miley Cyrus at a glance. Ha.

    She is such a pretty little girl. I’m glad the eyebrows got attention. I have a feeling she will be out of that house at 18. Peace Madge!

  4. kiki says:

    Is she in competention with her bud’ding teen, yes,yes she is, Madonna is going , gone thru menopause heres her daughter on the cusp of young womanhood. be interesting to see of Loudres is as big of a terror as her mother is or the opposite like Chasity Bono went.

  5. SarahS says:

    part of me can easily believe this, and part of me does not. i thought lourdes had her own stylist already? she really is a beautiful girl

  6. sally sue says:

    I hope this story is untrue.

    Chances are, Madonna just doesn’t want her little girl to grow up too fast.

  7. BellaB says:

    Why should a 12 year old have a hairdresser prepare her for a benefit? (Kids in Malawi don’t have stylists.) Madonna is a public figure, her daughter is not.
    Just because Madge is wealthy, does not mean she must indulge her children, especially before it is age appropriate.
    I think Madge was right to allow her the eyebrow shaping at 12. A good mom tries to preserve her daughter’s childhood. Lourdes is a beautiful 12 year old girl.
    I think Madge will let Lourdes shine in her own time and be proud of her. Our society criticizes moms that let their children dress like little “prostitots”, which is improper.

  8. Enonymous says:

    I call this bull, Madonna seems close to her daughter and if she tries to keep Lourdes from growing up too fast, then she is the same as any other parent in the world. Madonna has spoken in interviews how strict she is with her children and not wanting them to be spoiled by their wealthy environment, so maybe she does not want her daughter to turn into a spoiled rich brat. Besides, Lourdes, only being 12 years old, is still too young to often get her hair done and wear make up.

  9. Rosanna says:

    I’ve stumbled in *many* mothers like that. It’s unfortunate :( Way to go Lourdes!

  10. Embee says:

    There’s something about Lourdes’ face and demeanor thart reminds me of Prince. She’s enigmatic to me and I’ve only seen snapshots.

    It is very possible that Madonna believes that having a hairdresser and getting your eyebrows waxed is inappropriate for a 12 year old. After all, Madonna knows better than anyone that Lourdes has decades left to be sexy, and very little time remaining to be a little girl. She’s could be trying to instill a sense of self not tied to Lourdes’ striking beauty.

    Heaven knows Madonna herself appears to be wrenched around in life by her insecurities.

    I think I just expressed my wishes for Lourdes and maybe not the facts–oh well! I’m a control freak.

  11. Codzilla says:

    It’s disturbing that people would be so adamant that a 12 year old girl start plucking her eyebrows. She’s just a kid, ffs.

  12. carey says:

    I’m with Embee on this…and we all know how overblown the simplest gestures can become when we are talking about someone like Madonna. That said, I was just thinking the other day, as I watched my beautiful daughter getting ready for her first date, how ironic it is that as I feel old and shriveled…she is turning in to a glowing woman with her whole exciting life ahead of her! I wasn’t one bit jealous, but I certainly felt nostalgic for unlined skin and endless possibilities. THAT is what I think is to come of Madonna and child!

  13. ** says:

    It could be that Maddona just wants Lourdes to have a couple more years to be “au naturale” beautiful, without all the hair, make-up, nails etc…I´m guessing this is the case because I went through the same with my mother, it drove me mad! But you really don´t know what you really like at 12. Ali Lohan on the other hand is the complete oposite, and I think that looks worse. A middle ground would be best i think.

  14. journey says:

    while it’s certainly within the realm of possibility that madonna is jealous of her daughter’s youth and beauty, it’s also possible that she’s working hard to see that her little girl doesn’t grow up to be the next paris hilton. and after all, it isn’t exactly child cruelty to deny a 12 year old her own stylist.

  15. barneslr says:

    No question at all. Her children have always been mere accessories to her; it is not surprising that she would become jealous of her daughter now that she is growing up. She represents all that Madonna has lost. It’s pathetic, really.

  16. geronimo says:

    Very good, logical points made here in defence of Madge. Whatever negatives about her, she’s always come across as a good mother and this just sounds like her protecting her daughter from too much too young and all the shallow insanity about appearance that’s out there.

  17. EduBois says:

    Oh please! This “story” is complete trash. The “evidence” that Madonna is jealous of her daughter is that she wouldn’t let a 12 year old have a hairdresser and pluck her eyebrows?! People are so used to girls being attired like whores by the age of 10 so you’re actually giving it credence? Pathetic. The reason she’s a beautiful girl and not 40/14 year old Ali Lohan is because her mother watches over her.

  18. lrm says:

    Totally agree with those defending her;lourdes is 12! It’s tought these days to keep our children children….
    She’s not even a teen yet.
    As for the UNICEF gala-perhaps she wante dto make clear that it was a benefit for malawi,not fashion week in paris. i dont know what madonna worse to said benefit,but it’s definitely best to try to keep it real at those functions,esp. if you are bringing your child for either educational [for her] or publicity [yours/the organization] reasons.

  19. Butch says:

    Wins most stupid story about Madonna ever.

  20. Sue D. Nimm says:

    Actually, with her eyebrows done, Lourdes looks pretty good. I’ve always thought Madonna was ridicoulsly (I think I spelt that wrong) competitive, but I really hope she doesn’t try to outdo her own daughter.

  21. Dorothy says:

    Thank God i have boys because if I had a daughter i would keep her in a box. To many young girls are sexualized and that makes me sick. My sister has 8yo twins and is trying so hard to keep them young.

  22. Gigohead says:

    I don’t think the story rings anywhere near the truth. I am not a big fan of Madonna’s but I do understand her about not touching her daughter’s face so young. she also doesn’t need a hair stylist either. She’s a girl whose only job is to be like every other girl.

    I think this magazine has nothing more to write about.

  23. Zoe says:

    this girl is stunning and I love her eyebrows. Why would anyone touch them? I think she’s just protecting her kid, a twelve year old doesn’t need all that crap. I bet she’s just being protective.

  24. Cinderella says:

    I don’t buy the jealousy thing at all. I think Madonna is just trying to preserve Lourdes’ innocence. With everything Madonna has done and seen in her life, there’s no way she wants Lourdes to travel that path. I think she and Carlos have done a great job with their child.

    I have to agree, though, if Lourdes does decide to rebel, she will be a real ball-buster.

  25. Kaiser says:

    Yeah, I thought about the whole “letting Lourdes be a kid” argument, but Lourdes does make “public appearances” with her mother on red carpets. It’s not like Madonna doesn’t want Lourdes to be photographed, etc.

    I still totally buy that Madge is jealous.

  26. prissa says:

    “feels like she’s now “in competition” with daughter Lourdes for men and attention.”

    Lourdes is like 12yrs old, right? If Vadge feels that way, she’s sick.

  27. Diva says:

    So, if I had a 10-year old girl with an unusually hairy face, and I tweezed those areas, I would be making my kid grow up too fast?

  28. daisy424 says:

    @carey, your comment was sweet and brought back memories for me with my own daughters, thanks!

    Lourdes is in what 7th grade? When I was in Jr. High/Middle school most of the girls in my class were tweezing, shaving, wearing make-up at that age. I think that Madge should have shaped those brows before now, they were distracting.
    Lourdes is a beauty, she certainly surpasses her mother in the looks dept. Thank god for Carlos’ genes.

  29. Ria says:

    One of the girls in my junior had VERY hair legs and a moustache at age eleven, but her parents wouldn’t let her shave or wax till she was around fourteen. I can tell you she was teased mercilessly about it. I can understand not letting her grow up too fast, but if there is something that a daughter is uncomfortable about, the mother should try to help. The insecurities that develop during adolesence can stay with you for the rest of you life.

  30. Baholicious says:

    This is not jealousy on Madonna’s part, this is good parenting.

    A child doesn’t need styling, period. There’s plenty of time for her to be a woman and the best foundation to get there is gradually and appropriately.

    This is something Dina Lohan doesn’t understand and why her second daughter will likewise turn out with her head on entirely backwards.

  31. yadira says:

    She is really beautiful. Unless she is teased or has self esteem issues about it, then I can see why she would want to tame those brows.
    I think the story is crap. I don’t like the old Vadge but I don’t think she is crazy enough to be jealous of her kid.

  32. Chiara says:

    It wouldn’t be unusual for a mom to feel some nostalgia and envy for her daughter as she enters teen years and womanhood. At the time it becomes heartbreaking for the relationship is when the mother acts out her feelings.

    Lourdes is lovely … time will tell on their relationship.

  33. Annie says:

    I kinda like taht she isn’t caught up in that whole “maintaining beauty” craze.

    I didn’t wear makeup until I was in college and heck, even now I wear very little to no makeup.

    Yea, I keep myself coiffed to a certain degree, but come on, she’s 12, it’s bad enough we’re controlled by such an unreachable ideal of beauty, let’s not enforce it on a 12 year old just yet.

  34. Codzilla says:

    Diva: If your child looked the wolfman, you might have a point. But Lourdes’ eyebrows are, at worst, on the full side of normal, and considering her age, keeping her away from the wax/tweezers is the right thing to do.

  35. Diva says:

    While I didn’t grow up in the privileged lifestyle of Lourdes (whatever happened to “Lola”) Leon, if a girl had the kind of eyebrows she used to have, that girl would have been teased relentlessly by people at school. As such, if I had a child with that issue, I would more than certainly help them get rid of the issue. Lourdes had shit being said about her by people all over the world, on gossip blogs, in tabloids, etc. Madonna shouldn’t have put her kid through it, in my opinion. And I don’t believe it would have been classified as “styling”, either, I think it’s much more “grooming”.

  36. Diva says:

    They’re on the full side of normal NOW, codzilla, but they’ve been groomed! Before she had very dark, pronounced, long hairs between the brows. It was commented on in EVERY possible tabloid and gossip blog.

  37. prissa says:

    She’s so pretty in the pic with the hat!

  38. Codzilla says:

    So wait, the brows in the photo above HAVE been plucked, already? I thought those were her natural brows? Shit, I can’t keep track of all this stuff.

  39. Kaiser says:

    Diva – You’re talking about me! My mother didn’t want me to pluck when I was young even though I had very bushy eyebrows. I had to sneak around and pluck when I was just a kid!

    It’s worse when your mother doesn’t want you to groom.

  40. Diva says:

    LOL… I feel ya, Kaiser. Although, I was raised by a single father doing his best with no directions, so I was tweezing, shaving, coloring my hair and wearing make-up well before 13.

    And yeah, codzilla, she’s been nicely groomed in the pic! I’m glad to see they were left natural looking, for sure, but I’m very glad for her that she was finally able to do something about the rapidly growing unibrow the poor girl was given by genetics!

  41. ogechi ohalee maryjane says:

    get a life,,Madonna is a good mum..

  42. sissoucat says:

    I can’t get the sexualization of a 12-years-old Lourdes by this magazine. She’ll start attracting men very soon ? What kind, pedophiles ?

    So happy my kids will never be of interest for tabloids.

    Good thing to pluck the unibrow if she was being teased. But not in order to start attracting men, it’s beyond ridiculous !

  43. meloroast says:

    the two ‘incidences’ they describe could have easily misinterpreted. many mom’s do NOT let their kids wear makeup, certain clothes etc because they fear they are too young and want them to be unself conscious as long as possible. not allowing her to pluck her eyebrows until recently or having a hair stylist??? jeez people. i wouldn’t either! maybe she wants her kid to be as normal a kid as possible! for as long as is possible (i.e., not someone who has an entourage of stylists!).

  44. Diva says:

    Tweezing the crazy long, black hairs that join your brows between your eyes is tantamount to having an entourage of stylists?

  45. DaLeena says:

    This story is obviously total BS. Always some tabloid or other trying to stir up sensationalist nonsense. Clear out the stink of this garbage and move on.

  46. Mairead says:

    Yeah – I’m with the people giving Madge the benefit of the doubt on this one. It’s not beyond the bounds of possibility, but there’s also not a shred of decent evidence either.

  47. Ana' says says:

    I agree with those that call bullocks on this story. its just tooo easy. come on, yes, Madge has a problem with aging, hence the serial botoxing and extraordinary workout regimen, but its a really big leap to assume because she can’t grow older gracefully that she’s somehow jealous of her daughter. I’d say its the direct opposite. Most moms of gorgeous daughters see it as an extension of themselves. As for the brows, yeah, they should have been done a looong time ago. Glad Lola was able to broker a deal with mom to get them done. And for those who question whether she was too young, this is the kid that had a spa day for herself and friends for, I believe, her 10th birthday. What age were you when you had your first spa day?

  48. Elizabeth says:

    I call bullcrap. Madonna is OBVIOUSLY narcissistic but I don’t know, this seems more then slightly ridiculous even for her.

  49. Annie says:

    What age were you when you had your first spa day?

    *sobs* I still haven’t had one!

    I have this 1 hour massage certificate that was bought for me for Christmas that I STILL haven’t used.

  50. Theprettyembalmer says:

    I hope she’s not jealous. Maybe shes just missing her own youth. This story is a bit much. Anywho that little girl is gorgeous. That hair! The complexion! The brows and bone structure! I certainly am jealous :p

  51. Though I don’t think it’s out of the realm of possibility, I just don’t buy this one.

    I’d like to believe that beneath her hard, gristled exterior, Madge cares about her kids. Almost as much as she loves herself.

  52. Katherine says:

    No, no, no. This has got to be the worst story ever written, even for OK! magazine. Madonna is a lot of weird things (always has been; it makes her her) but any one that believes this for a moment should go listen to ‘Little Star’ on Ray of Light. No one that wrong a song like that for her daughter would start to resent her just because of a thing as stupid as looks. Any one that remembers will know how desperate Madonna was in the mid-90′s to be a mother. And we all know how much her own mom’s death affected her.

    Of all the celeb kids out there, Lola seems like the coolest, most unique little girl. It’s obviously due to Madonna being a parent that want to keep her grounded and age-appropriate. I bet she’ll turn out to be a great adult, which is rare in that world. Good for Madonna.

  53. EB says:

    Let’s just move on from eyebrows. Is this the most formative experience in your life?? She’s Madonna’s kid – she’s living a life of EXTREME privilege and believe me, kids want to be friends with her REGARDLESS of the state of her eyebrows. And if she gets teased, so what? If gossip blogs write about her, so what? Her mom doesn’t let her read it and if she’s like any OTHER human on planet earth, she’ll grow out of her awkwardness in her own time. I never thought that eyebrows made the lady. If so, that explains a lot about these chola bitches in the world.

  54. snappyfish says:

    I think for the most part, Madonna has been a good mother. She tries to shield them from the press (little David was flaunted a bit) and give them a normal childhood. She lost her mother at a young age.

    Is she jealous of youth. Certainly. Not necessarily her daughter who is very best. I think she might end up being a beauty but that remains to be seen.

    Good luck to all of them (the kids, not madge) She adores herself just a little too much. But that brazillian guy is exceptionally hot.

  55. for crying out loud says:

    Ok, so Madonna doesn’t want her only daughter to grow up too fast!!! Who does??
    She’s not competing, she’s hanging on to her only baby girl for as long as she can!

  56. Olivia says:

    I sincerely hope this story is not true. Hopefully it’s just an attempt by Maddona to not not let her beautiful daughter become a spoiled brat or tease. However, I wonder what Madonna’s doing to ensure that Lourdes has a good body image. Seeing her mom obsess over food and exercise cannot be a good message for a young girl.

  57. Anon says:

    EB: Let’s just move on from eyebrows. Is this the most formative experience in your life?? She’s Madonna’s kid – she’s living a life of EXTREME privilege and believe me, kids want to be friends with her REGARDLESS of the state of her eyebrows. And if she gets teased, so what? If gossip blogs write about her, so what? Her mom doesn’t let her read it and if she’s like any OTHER human on planet earth, she’ll grow out of her awkwardness in her own time. I never thought that eyebrows made the lady. If so, that explains a lot about these chola bitches in the world
    I thought the same thing EB. Lourdes is rich and savvy; she knows who she is,
    has a relationship with her dad and probably with her step dad too. I think she will be OK, she is a smart, pretty and rich girl. I think she will survive despite her eyebrows and her mother LOL

  58. FF says:

    I’d always assumed it was because Madonna’s done the wild and sexy route and she knows the perils of it. You really don’t get that innocent age back so why rush?

    When Lourdes is 14 it’s going to be all over. And it’s probably not going to be long before people start approaching the kid as a potential model, so… seriously – no rush. I can see it from both sides.

    I don’t doubt Madge has some ambivalence – any mother has some ambivalence but at the same time as a daughter of Madonna there’s a subtext expectation that I’m sure her mother doesn’t want her into before her time.

  59. sam says:

    aw, lordes is pretty(:
    & the eyebrows are a bit distracting, but not TOO distracting….

    & i don’t buy the ‘madonna is jealous’ crap. she knew her kid would be gorgeous. so, why would she have the child in the first place if she was going to envy the poor kid?!

    by the way, is it just me, or does lourdes look like she’s 14?

  60. Kashew_Nutz says:

    you know, how could someone suggest that someone would be jealous of their child? how could we allow ourselves to stoop so low? personally, I think we should take stock of our own lives first. and i usually depend on celebitchy to reasonable, i stand corrected.

  61. Armand says:

    What a bullshit story. An “insider” “THINKS”, give me a fucking break. This will be the first of an endless stream of Madonna vs. Lourdes stories that will continue till one of them is gone. Drool on.

  62. CB Rawks says:

    Her eyebrows used to meet in the middle, so she has had that part fixed, which is excellent.
    I know when I was 12, if there was something weird like that going on, you definitely wanted to change it! I agree with those that said the mother should help the child in that sort of situation. That’s not the same as getting all *tarted-up*. ;)

  63. CB Rawks says:

    Actually Kashew, it can happen that way. My mother and sister both really resented me and kept shooting daggers at me (eye daggers not pointy daggers) when I lost a couple of dress sizes.
    But then I’m sure most families are a lot more supportive and proud and affectionate than mine has ever been.

  64. o says:

    i agree with CB Rawks.
    when you’re a kid, it’s easy to feel insecure. this kid is in the public eye like no typical kid is.

    it would be loving if Madonna could put herself in her daughter’s shoes and know how it feels to have eyebrows or anything else calling lots of media attention to her in a negative light.

    if it’s true that Madonna withholds a little help in that direction, then yes — i think Madonna must be the same selfish, self-absorbed, self-serving egomaniac she ever was AND DOESN”T DESERVE TO BE ANYONE’S MOTHER.

    she has no love — not even for her own flesh and blood. not very spiritual of her.

  65. blondie says:

    In my opinion, I think that Madonna
    may have experienced more and more
    trouble trying to get her daughter
    to willingly return back to London,
    once she entered into the warmth and
    relaxed atmosphere of her real father’s home. Her American relatives
    probably shower her with all of the love and accpetance that she could ever possible want…but we never hear, see, or are informed about them.

    I will bet that they are marvelous people, and this may be the true reason that Madonna may have been rather forced to leave jolly old England behind.

    I think that Madonna’s daughter has reached the age, where she can choose
    Daddy’s home, over mother’s home.

    Haaaaaa haaaa ha.
    Do the “Teen Twist, baby!!!

  66. Silver says:

    Woe, such mean spirted responses all around! I am 50 years old, long blonde and beautiful only by virtue of the fact that about 30 years ago I knew the age card would be tossed into play sooner or later.
    Face it, girls are girls, inexperienced, fresh, compelling in a very attractive, superfical way. If a guy wants a girl OK.. But the differences between a girl and a woman are very layered and dementional.
    Considering the complexities of maternal relationships, the instinct of protection and caring.. perhaps we can agree the answer is oversimplistic to say a mother is jelous of a pubesent daughter. Perhaps consider how a child admires and seeks attention of the mother for reinforcement and approval. And often emulates the behaviors taught by the mother once the child matures.

  67. Terri Stansberry says:

    I remeber once my mother saying “I do not like madonna, but her little girl is beautiful”, this is when Lordes was three or four, we knew than she would grow up to be beautiful. Lordes is the spitting image of her mother (she has her fathers coloring) and it has seemed to me (not that I know them) that they are close. Madonna is just being a, well, MOTHER!!

  68. I cant wait for mini-madonna to come of age so we can see her see through underwear and watch her turn into a sl*t monger like her mother. Comming of age in this world means 16 so we dont have that long to wait. Hurry up! By the way who is that junkie looking guy she is with in that pic?

  69. bamse says:

    I think the article is simply outragous and whoever believes such crap is extremely gullible. It’s so obvious – Madonna’s preocupied with her phisical appearance; her daughter, on the other hand, is too young to start thinking about getting pretty (though kids are much more mature these days) and than wham! Madonna’s jealous of her daughter’s beauty.

    I’m not a fan of Madonna’s, in fact I’d wish she grew older more gracefully – but not in terms of phisical appearance: in musical terms – she’s not come out with anything up to her potential since Ray of light.

    However, from the few interviews and documentaries I’ve seen, she seems like a very strong, positive and intelligent woman, who would raise her children with a lot of care, especially judging from the fact that she was deeply affected by the lost of her own mother.

    To say that she’s jealous of her own daughter? Who in the right mind would? I mean, if she’s to be jealous, there’s a ton of competition out there, her daughter is the last person she’s gonna be concerned about. On the contrary, she’s always been an advocate for personal style and “not-caring-about-what-others-say” so I’m sure she wouldn’t want her daughter to feel compelled to “doll up” at age 11 because she’s in the media attention.

    And what’s all the yapping about growing old gracefully? What does that even mean?? My god, wouldn’t it be great if we’d be all as fit (and probaly healthy) when we’re 50? I think many don’t realise what an achievement that is. She’s a fantastic role-model. I know 30 year olds who look 70 compared to her. And btw, she’s actually heavily working out to be that way, on the contrary to becoming some plastic surgery monster.