Here are some new photos of your boyfriend Tom Hiddleston, plus Mia Wasikowska and Guillermo Del Toro. I know he’s married, but I would imagine that Guillermo is a fun boyfriend too. I imagine dating him involves a lot of all-you-can-eat buffets and scary movies. What’s Tom Hiddleston like as a boyfriend? Lots of sonnet-performances and running, probably. Anyway, these are photos from the Paris premiere of Crimson Peak. Tommy’s beauty took a minor hit because – I’m almost positive – someone convinced him to wear makeup for the premiere. And it was a mistake. Whoever does his makeup needs to step away from the orange.
Meanwhile, did you know that Tom is especially close to his mother and sisters? So much so that when he’s looking for a girlfriend/wife, he’s looking for someone who reminds him of his mum. Is this creepy? Like, the headlines are creepy (“Tom Hiddleston wants a girlfriend to remind him of his mother”), but his actual words aren’t that bad.
The 34-year-old actor – who has been romantically linked with his ‘I Saw the Light’ co-star Elizabeth Olsen – feels comfortable around ”independent and capable” females, and is also attracted to ”decent and kind” girls, just like his dear mum Diana Patricia.
Asked what he looks for in a woman, he said: ”I like strong women. My mothers and sisters are very strong women, immensely independent and very capable and that’s what I feel comfortable with. My mother places a huge importance on decency and kindness and always has – and the older I get the more I realise how rare that is.”
The ‘Crimson Peak’ star enjoys living in London because his profession seems ”exotic”.
He explained to HELLO! magazine: ”I live in north west London near quite a lot of actors, like Damian Lewis and his wife Helen McCrory, who is a good friend, and occasionally I see Helena Bonham Carter – they’re all charming, lovely people. London has always been my home, it’s where I was born, it’s where my friends are and my family. I also like it because it’s still a little bit exotic to be an actor in London, whereas being an actor in Los Angeles is the norm.”
It’s what I’ve been saying for a while – Tom doesn’t go for ladies with an “edge” or vamps or ballbusters or party girls. He goes for Nice Girls. Girls-Next-Door. “Wife Material.” That’s his type. I personally don’t think it’s contradictory for Tom to say that he’s a feminist who likes women who are independent, capable and strong AND women who are “nice” and decent and kind. He’s not looking for the unicorn, you know? There are a lot of strong, independent women who are also decent and kind. (Except that a ballbuster would probably tell him to his face that his makeup is too dark.)
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
well, it sounds like he has found his mom.
Come to mama! 😍😍
I just don’t get the attraction with this guy. He’s like Chris Martin to me. I just don’t get the hype with him.
Don’t find him attractive at all.
I’m glad I’m not the only one that’s perplexed by all the adoration for this guy. Maybe he’s really talented and a deep thinker, but he’s such a boring gossip piece.
“he’s such a boring gossip piece.”
That’s what I love about him 😛
Wait! Didn’t Michael B. Jordon recently get crapped on for referring to women as females but Tom uses the same term and it’s all good.
@V4Real, Tom didn’t use the word females. It’s out of the quotes:
The 34-year-old actor – who has been romantically linked with his ‘I Saw the Light’ co-star Elizabeth Olsen – feels comfortable around ”independent and capable” females, and is also attracted to ”decent and kind” girls, just like his dear mum Diana Patricia.
Here is the full quote spinned to sound like he wants to date women like his mother:
“I like strong women. My mothers and sisters are very strong women, immensely independent and very capable and that’s what I feel comfortable with. My mother places a huge importance on decency and kindness and always has – and the older I get the more I realise how rare that is.”
and a similar quote from last year:
“I believe in the strength and intelligence and sensitivity of women. My mother, my sisters are strong. My mum is a strong woman and I love her for it. I believe in gender equality.” –Tom Hiddleston
@V4Real, no, he didn’t say that and what he actually did say has been taken out of context and re-packaged by a click bait site.
Someone enlighten me please. What’s wrong with calling women “females”? Why is that now an offensive term?
I had a crush on him after seeing him as Loki in Thor – dark and tortured type – but he’s too vanilla and nice for me irl as an actor crush. He’s a very good actor though, and such a lovely person.
me to so much gossip is pure speculation and what people want to believe .His father’s firm also had a good reputation in the area of work I was involved in -they contributed to medical research in an ethical manner so I have no problems believing he came from a strong caring family
”I like strong women. My mothers and sisters are very strong women, immensely independent and very capable and that’s what I feel comfortable with. My mother places a huge importance on decency and kindness and always has – and the older I get the more I realise how rare that is.”
AMEN!
What a breath of fresh air after the Cotillard crapfest.
+1
*sends in CV to his management*
“(Except that a ballbuster would probably tell him to his face that his makeup is too dark.)”
Or, she would very kindly and caringly offer to wipe it off. With her boobs.
And other special body parts.
Boobs? How dare you. Thighs would be much more efficient.
Boobs? You meant her undercarriage, right?
I would totally oompa-loompa up and proudly stand beside him (and if I see any boobs, thighs or undercarriages pointing his way, I’ll will(y) Wonka their chocolate factory)…
I think Mia’s pale complexion next to his makes the contrast seem more noticeable…
“With her boobs”
I love you guys on here…
females?? i hope they’re not quoting.
here’s the thing; I blow hot and cold with this dude, because while he seems well spoken and intelligent in certain interviews, there’s also something quite off putting. I can’t with men who want “strong women” wtf does it even mean??? can I say I want a strong man? it sounds laughable. and i don’t like men who want women like “their mums or sisters”, not because there’s anything wrong with it, but it seems super manipulative to me, and the type of thing one says to please because it makes certain women go “awwww, he wants a woman like his mother! he loves his mother!”. ew. ok then. i’m not impressed.
I agree with you, His “feminism” leaves a bad taste in my mouth. TH’s so slick I don’t believe a word he says, basically. He strikes me as so insecure he’ll say whatever will earn him points. I wish he’d show some edge for a change.
ETA: What else is he going to say anyway? “I like weak women with big tits who don’t ask a lot of questions”?
well, leo said his perfect woman is not a lot of drama (paraphrasing of course, but not by much). that’s at least honest.
— His “feminism” leaves a bad taste in my mouth. —
Agreed. Compared to the likes of Neil Gaiman or Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Tom’s “feminism” just comes off as fake. I don’t expect celebrities to have degrees in gender studies or anything like that, but he could at least put a little thought into it instead of merely regurgitating the “strong woman” line.
He didn’t – it’s from a very old interview.
my thoughts exactly.
Strong doesn’t mean over-powering or ‘king of the castle’ macho..just means you’re not overly reliant or needy and you step it up when it’s required..you can weather the bad times..nothin’ wrong with that.
+1
Yea I took that the same way. It just means the women he likes are self-reliant and don’t need to be damsels in distress.
why does it need to be point out that a woman is strong? it implies most women aren’t, and that they’re needy, weak or damsels in distress. i made the example of describing my perfect man as “strong” to show how jarring it is to hear. this strong woman idea thing really needs to go.
As a self-identifying “strong woman,” no it doesn’t. It’s essentially just a code for “independent.” A strong woman is one who has her own thing going on and is busy with her own stuff and isn’t waiting around for prince charming because she’s building her own effing castle. We don’t describe “strong men” because it’s the default assumption of society that men will have fully independent lives, but women are still expected to cede ground to male partners and are still most often defined by their relationships with men (ie, “She’s my wife,” not “I’m her husband.”) When that changes, we can talk about dropping the label.
Well said, Algernon. It’s not that women are not strong, but historically, they haven’t been the independent ones in society, nor were they expected to be. Wasn’t too long ago that women planned to get married in their late teens, have babies and be homemakers and while all of those things can be good in and of themselves, it did cause them to be dependent on their husbands.
Thankfully, that tide has been changing, but we’ve got a ways to go before women on the whole recognize just how strong they are and live according to that belief.
“We don’t describe “strong men” because it’s the default assumption of society that men will have fully independent lives, but women are still expected to cede ground to male partners and are still most often defined by their relationships with men”
and the assumption should be the same for women. i’m not gonna bend to society’s obsolete ideas, by ascribing to them.
i feel it might be a generational thing maybe, as my mum in her late 50s also talks of strong women. younger generations are very much starting to get over this idea, and again I believe it’s very much needed. we don’t need strong as code for independent; i want to be called independent, smart, or whatever just as men do. it’s important to change this sort of language.
Should be the same for women, but isn’t. And it’s definitely a young person thing to say “no labels!” but then you get in the real world where everyone else is using the label and if you don’t own and it and define it yourself, they’ll stick it on you with their definition which might not be yours. You don’t change the language by ignoring the word, you change it by making the definition your own. When I was younger, like in school, describing a woman as “strong” was like saying she was a man-eater or a ball-buster. There was definitely a negative connotation to it. I remember when I first started in the professional world a male colleague during a meeting said something like, “Oh so you’re a strong woman huh?” and laughed derisively. And I said, “Yes, I am. I can handle this because I get sh-t done.” It shut him up and over the years “strong woman” has lost some of the snide edge and become a point of pride. Now it means you’re like Beyonce.
Labels exist whether you like them or not. The trick is learning to make them work for you.
I was pretty much a single mum for 10 years and i found that my children saw me as a strong women so I problems with being called strong or caring.Words are only words -it is how you perceive them that matters and what you want to believe
While I wouldn’t go that far, I have to admit a negative bias for those words, ever since the “cool girl speech” from Gone Girl. Psychopath she may be, but Amy Dunn did imo get that part right: most of the time, “I love strong women” turns out to be code for, if not “I hate strong women”, at least “I’m not really into strong women, just trying to get into her panties”. So I tend to have a record scratch moment whenever I come accross a statement like that one, but I’ll give Hiddles a pass… at least until he starts dating some trust fund socialite, whose work consists entirely of showing up to various events.
Ell, did Leo really say that? I actually thought that he was one of those actors who said he wants a woman like his mother.
Brunch is served. I think the Tommy Tour of Europe is moving onto Germany, yes? So, lots of German specialties. Although Colin can produce any of the Spanish, Italian or French food you enjoyed over the past week.
Yes, I am strong and independent and kind.
And am sure Colin and Mark can testify to that.
I’m in the mood for a big sausage, myself.
I was thinking about a creme-filled cruller, extra large.
We prepared for both those contingencies
Don’t you ever give Colin a day off? 😏
Oh yes, Colin gets time off but he likes to help even on his free days. He can spend a little extra time with you when he delivers your beverage.
Well, I wasn’t really thinking ‘beverage’..😉
He is always willing to accommodate
@boredblond AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAAHA
Lilacflowers is the woman you are looking for Tom😀
And it is not creepy that you want a partner who has the same qualities as your parent.
I wanted a mentally strong, intelligent, independent, warm & kind man like my father as husband. More importantly – my dad always supported my mother in whatever she wanted to do and never made a decision without talking to her first and vice versa.
It’s not wrong as long as you don’t look for someone who looks (physically) like your parent.
Hear hear
There is nothing wrong with looking for someone who has the morals and ethics that you were raised with. I would be proud to find a partner that matched my father’s values.
I think it has been known for quite some time that Tom loves and respects his mother and sisters, so I don’t think this is just fluff for the press to print whilst he is promoting a movie.
If we all stop believing in rainbow-pooping unicorns, they will actually cease to exist!
“If we all stop believing in rainbow-pooping unicorns, they will actually cease to exist!” ➡️ Now that’s the truth 🎅
I want a man who vacuums. Like my dad did.
I’d settle for dusting.
I’m screwed because the roles in my family were reversed – my dad did all the house work, cooking, shopping, etc. My mom discipline us and put the fear of God into us while she was at. Show me a man who can do what my dad did and I’ll be golden. Or at least cooks because I don’t cook.
I agree. I am married. My husband has the qualities I value. He is a nice man, gentle, would do anything for myself and our children. When asked what you want in a partner you often think of physical things, of course you should be attracted to your partner. But when you really get down to it the things that are important to me is that he is kind, honest and is involved in our life. His father passed recently and he strives to be the wonderful man his dad was. I think TH looks to the people around him as role models and the kind of person he would like to be with. He sounds like a nice man. I think any time a celebrity says anything it gets over analyzed. If i were a man i would want to be with a nice person who has their life together too.
im very wary of men who feel the need to announce they love “strong” women. its sounds to much like he says it because he knows many women will love to hear it. like women who play the “cool girl”. it gives me strong predator vibes. im not saying Tom is that but in general im very mistrusting of men like that.
thanks, you said what I couldnt express myself. totally agree.
this.
Perhaps he doesn’t care for the needy, dependent types that look to a man to complete them? The kind of woman he describes is the kind of women I choose to be close friends with, so I don’t find that statement troubling.
+1
I think any actor/actress would need an emotionally strong partner for a relationship to last. Being clingy, insecure and emotionally dependant whilst your partner jets off regularly to work would be exhausting on everyone involved.
its not about that. just like there are lots of women who enjoy watching football, drinking beer and playing video games men should be careful with women who play that up to be seen as the “cool girl”.
look, if someone says “i dont beat my wife” that statement itself is obviously good but why would you mention it like that?
Ronda, I think you’re reading way too much into his statement and taking it to extremes that weren’t intended.
Agree with Squirrel that any woman who wants a long-term relationship with a celeb needs to be secure in herself, happy in her own company and not be too emotionally dependent upon her man. He won’t be around more than half the year so she will be alone and will need close relationships with others to fill the void. When he is at home, work will continue to be a priority, not her. Most women can’t deal with that and accounts for the short shelf lives of most Hollywood relationships. The expectations/demands/nature of the industry seem to work entirely against a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
Ditto. No one likes neediness.
@ Nutballs, and also has to accept that he will spend time with good looking leading ladies.
“Most women can’t deal with that”
seriously? i’m fairly sure that women, as well as men, are all different and able to deal with any sort of things. some women are fine being independent from their partner, some aren’t. some men are fine being independent, some aren’t.
“and accounts for the short shelf lives of most Hollywood relationships.”
as opposed to relationships between normal people, right? 50% of marriages end in divorce. again, normal people.
err, I stand by my statement based on decades of experience with women and listening to them. You can disagree if you want.
While relationships are dysfunctional across any spectrum, there are unique challenges that face those in the entertainment world — not being home for weeks or months at a time, being surrounded by beautiful people who want to get them in the sack, having agents, publicists, journos and fans that are telling them directly or insidiously that they are the center of the universe… a world where everyone is catering to their wants and needs. That kind of an environment will f*ck with anyone’s psyche. It’s a situation the average person has no experience with and adds extra layers of complexity to a celeb’s relationships.
i do disagree, especially as I have several female friends and co-workers with incredibly needy/possessive partners, while they’re far more independent. it seems just a stereotype to me, it depends on the person and has very little to do with gender. if anything, i know more men who act as if they need to be mothered by their women and are super clingy, (i even dated one myself and it was the worst) than women who are emotionally dependent on their man.
i understand what you’re saying about relationships with celebs though, and I agree it adds some extra struggles.
Of course, it goes both ways. I know of men raised in codependant households where the mother ruled the roost and they gravitate towards when who run rickshaw over them. They’ll do whatever is necessary to keep the peace because they have no concept of boundaries. But I believe history shows that women are more prone to be the ones who lack the courage to speak their mind and act as an equal in a relationship. As an example, just look at partner abuse — it’s the women that are the primary victims, not the men.
@Nutballs but the majority of the Hollywood relationships are actor with actress or model. I’ve said it before, the relationships actor with a person who may be partly in the industry or is completely out of it but in any case is not an actress, model, or similar, have longer life, overall, if and when the non actor stays under the radar mostly and doesn’t develop a fame hunger. Which makes the whole “strong, independent woman” thing more about a woman who is able to provide balance,an outside view and environment, not necessarily some pillar of strength. I know many actors and can’t really say they, as men, are so different if one sees them as humans and not icons. It’s the fan perception that’s twisted.
Well, in my neck of the woods “strong” means someone who will have her own job and finances and is not aspiring to be a stay at home mom. Many men are very weary of non-working spouses due to possible divorce ramifications.
And then some want “caring” which is double speak for a traditional wife.
To me what he says mean he wants a woman with her own career. But I could be taking it wrong also.
See, I got hung up on the word “capable” not “strong.” The man is nothing if not intentional and gifted in his speech, and I don’t think we’re over-analyzing anything by wanting to give meaning to his words. So I come back to what the hell does “capable” mean? She knows her way around the Tube to get to his house? She can microwave a shepards pie? She can handle the media attention of being married to a movie star? I don’t get it.
As for strong and independent, I just saw those words as posh speak for accomplished. Makes sense, I mean the man wants to further his career. He’s not going to marry the chamber maid or the barista at G&W. Not that those women aren’t strong and independent according to his feminist sensibilities. But he combined strong and independent with a comparison to his mum and his sisters and that translates to “accomplished.”
Btw, did his younger sister actually GET married this summer as planned? I never saw any announcements in the papers or online. Usually that set are quick to put out the word. Just curious.
I think if he said “strong, independent, and capable person” instead of “woman”, maybe it wouldn’t elicit quite the response?
the word strong is most definitely no posh term.
@jammypants: yes, probably, I admit it would have bothered me less.
@ell, I think if he really was pandering, he would have used the phrase, “strong person”. He works hard trying to please everyone 😛 I’m just guessing he’s straight, hence why he said “women” specifically.
I hope you’re not claiming you are a feminist as well. When did stay at home mothers become not strong and clingy? Haven’t noticed but from where I stand, a stay at home mom may need all the strength she was born with and some more.
And what exactly have his sisters accomplished? One is indeed a stay at home mom, which we understand is as low as it gets on CB,the other is a non successful actress aspiring to marry or already married a posh guy. His mother… had money,child support, and connections because she didn’t raise three kids on the arts administrator salary. If that kind of accomplishment is what he is after, he may very well marry the barrista at wherever and I’ll pay him my respect for that. He will then prove to me that my expectations from him were right, he has the balls and the brain to recognize quality wherever it is.
None of which stops them from being mentally strong Mary-Alice. Also his elder sister had her own career in India before she married. I doubt you would be weak, as a woman, to go an make a career in India. And you don’t know what else his younger sister has been doing off the radar. Of course, they have had things financially much easier than most of us, but it doesn’t necessarily make them namby pamby.
His sister has done some TV work and the sister in India is a reporter.Not sure that calling someone a person helps with the clarification-i am a women not a person and proud of it.I have both married and single friends. Sometimes they are strong and sometimes require support depending on circumstances,But i know my kids admired my independence so I had no worries there
@Mary-Alice, actually, his older sister is a photo journalist. Not sure if she put that aside to raise kids. She’s not really a public figure like Tom is.
@ice, actually we are all women and persons 😉
There’s a difference between having a healthy amount of respect and love for your mother and being Shia LeBeouf.
Hiddles seems to fall on the better end of the spectrum.
Someone please give this man my contact details. I have a daughter who is strong, kind, decent, hard-working, talented, extremely loyal, generous, gregarious, funny. She’s the can-do type – we don’t call her Wonder Woman for nothing… Then again, she’s quite accident-prone, so gets called Mutphy a lot, too. Oh, and she’s a stunner. I’d be ok with him in my family.
What I really learned from this is that Damian Lewis and Helen McCrory are married. How did I miss that? Never knew it. (P.S. I need S3 of Peaky Blinders ASAP.)
Anxiously awaiting S3 of Peaky Blinders and the fate of Aunt Polly
Lila -they have just started to film Peaky or will soon,
i saw Helen in a greek tragedy -(name i cannot remember)l at either the Barbican or National and she was outstanding and was nominated for an Olivier.
The last photo is creepy…it’s probably just a bad photo but Mia Wasikowska seems so uncomfortable that it’s a bit hilarious with the mother quote.
I find the Mia often looks uncomfortable at publicity events with or without Tom.
She is very shy
I saw her live at D23 in Anaheim talking about Alice 2 and she is shy in public.
I would have guessed that he likes strong, independent, sassy women based on the actors he’s been associated / rumored-to-be with romantically… Gwen Christie, Susannah Fielding, Kat Dennings, Haley Atwell, Lizzy Olsen. All of them seem very capable of expressing their strong opinions.
I’d presume based on her reported tweets that JArthy fits into that mold too.
Girl next door? I highly doubt that. He strikes me as having a naughty sense of humor. I think his vanilla persona is quite opposite to the way he is behind closed doors. He’d probably go for a woman who’s as open-minded and creative as he is.
And trail runners, ’cause we like it dirty. Real dirty.
Please… so he likes the strong, independent, sassy Elizabeth Olsen? The woman who, on their infamous “date night”, stood cowering in a corner or covered her face, while he completely ignored her?
Have her watched her interviews?? He’s opinionated as sh*t and not afraid to express it. She’s brash in comparison to Tom and his inability to express a negative opinion about anything.
ETA: Lizzy wasn’t cowering in the corner out of shyness or insecurity, she was keeping the paps from getting the “money shot” of her and Tom standing together with both of their faces in full view.
She’s was brash and opinionated until she realised that being linked to one (or more!) of her co-stars would keep her name in the papers. Then she was more than happy to stay silent and let the rumour mill run.
When he wanted publicity for his latest film, he was happy for everyone to spend months believing he was dating a blonde actress 10 years younger than him. Now he’s claiming to like strong, independent women.
He’ll say whatever is necessary to gain points.
See below thread. These quotes are recycled from old interviews. She’s 8 years younger, not 10. It’s not gross like the age differences between her sisters and their fiancees.
I agree with you on one point, he was willing to let the THEO rumors fester for six months and give them some weight being photographed with Lizzy ahead of their movie premier. With Oscar hopes dashed, there’s no reason to milk the PR from it so the rumor was shut down.
Like most celebs, they’ll use their personal lives for publicity if it suits their strategy at the time.
I think the rumor festering for 6 months is really gray area. They could be fwb and that technically labels them as “not dating”. Liz in one fell swoop denied all 3 dating rumors. I think Tom just doesn’t engage, but he will if asked directly at an interview instead of through his PR (same way he did with Jarthy), he seems to give the answer. His PR seems to function solely to promote his brand over his personal life, imo.
Wait, people were not saying this when Lizzie was rumored to be dating him. She was listed as different, dull, and culturally unaware. (I just think she was well prepared for TIFF), but now that she’s no longer linked, all of a sudden she is supposed to be strong and sassy like the others? Come on now.
I think it’s quite possible to think she’s beautiful, talented, strong opinioned, bland and possessing a nasally monotone voice. I don’t have any difficulty reconciling those various observations in one person.
Beautiful, talented and strongly opinionated were not the characteristics used to describe her jus a few weeks ago from some of the very same people now singing a different tune. Just saying.
Huh? I’m not sure what other people you’re referring to. I’m only speaking for myself and comments I have made. I have used those terms describe my impressions of Lizzy on various threads.
It doesn’t really matter, but no you haven’t. You said in the past that you wanted to give her a chance, but after her interviews you thought she came across as bland and not like his other girlfriends who were more lively. And you did mention some performances of hers that you liked, but your opinion of her interiew skills/personality has definitely changed its tune. It doesn’t matter if the recent interviews have changed your mind, but don’t paint it like you have always thought this when you haven’t.
Geez Madly, I know better what I’ve written than you do. I’m not gonna argue with you about it. I’m done discussing differences of opinion with anyone else today.
I knew nothing about her when the rumors started so I was open minded and formed an opinion after that. End of discussion.
Sorry, but you are changing history here. Not once, until the rumors were disproved, did you say she was sassy and opinionated. I distinctly remember you saying you watched three of her interviews to see what she was like and came away as dull and bland.
You can disagree with me all that you want to, but I can remember what I read.
*bangs her head against the desk*
I’m only answering you to show how f*cking ridiculous you are being. Read my words carefully:
I mentioned that she comes off as sassy and holding strong opinions because it’s relevant to this post. It is not mutually exclusive to all the other impressions I’ve stated previously.
I don’t consider this latest comment to be an insult, by the way.
I am not changing history and I know what I wrote. Go back and see for yourself. I formed impressions reading/watching her interviews between May and September. Why do you care if I developed a negative opinions as well as positive ones over time? I don’t get why that is such a problem for you.
I can’t believe I’m having to state something so obvious. I’m getting off this positively insane thread and going back where people are level-headed, logical and fun to interact with.
She is uncultured, quite simplistic to put it mildly, and not very intelligent but loud, unfortunately . At the same time, she has little of value to say because she is indeed bland. IMO and I stand by it as before so now.
LOL, you are also being ridiculous yourself, are you not? Calm down. Like I said, it doesn’t matter and yet you are taking it so seriously and getting offended over what, exactly? I know what I read, so stuff it. I don’t care what your opinion is one way or another, just that you act like you said one thing all along when you didn’t. Ta, see you later. LOL.
Thank you Mary-Alice for at least being consistent. I had no opinion of her one way or another except she had a questionable accent in the Avengers who may or may not have been shady with TH on a movie set.
At TIFF, I just saw an actress prepared. It was telling, however, when they were in a sit down interview and he was asked to sing something from a reporter and she *had* to butt in, like she couldn’t stand to see him get all the attention. I thought it struck me as rude, actually. He is the star of the film about a singer, after all.
Poor Tom, trying to win me over…I can be nice, but not ALL the time!
My grandma always says that its important how a guy treats his mother, because a lot of times is the way he’ll treat his girlfriend/wife. So maybe Hiddles will be a good husband someday.
I’ve seen this debunked so many times that I stopped counting. Some of the biggest jerks I’ve known were angels with their mothers. One thing they shared was an authoritative, matriarch kind of mother who literally issued orders,, so no, you couldn’t guess their attitude towards women from the start.
Ah, er, ummm . . . but until he finds her he’s perfectly happy to indulge his appetites with the undoubtedly extensive menu of gorgeous hard-assed ambitious climbers before him in the industry.
Of which we have no proof whatsoever either way. Either he is very discreet (good for him) or very boring!
Well, he doesn’t have a reputation for celibacy or fidelity. No reason he should engage in the former, she hastened to add, but he really does seem to spout whatever he thinks he is supposed to say. After all, have you heard any male film stars say recently that they are looking for emotionally dependent, insecure women who will cater to their narcissism, be grateful for the wealth, status, and occasional red carpet excitement, and in return bear their children, not impede them in their careers, and turn a blind eye to their occasional sexual peccadilloes?
They’re all looking for strong independent but kind nice wife material it’s just amazing.
I keep seeing people drop the “he has a reputation…” line time and time again but where exactly did that come from? Gossip sites and a few fan forums are the only time it ever gets mentioned – so much so that it’s taken on a life of its own. It’s sort of like the Disney Prince mantle, it’s gotten repeated so much that for many it has become fact when it is decidedly not.
Look, I don’t think he’s a monk who goes home alone to his knitting and his poetry when he’s done filming, but if there’s actual evidence that he’s some kind of manwhore who is incapable of being faithful for more than a week I’d like for someone to show it to me. I don’t need photographic proof or a notarized statement, but it better be something more than “a sister of a friend who knows his tax accountant told me at a party” type of nonsense.
@seesittellsit where is your evidence for your first sentence? I’m not saying you are wrong, but given that he has, as far as we know, been seen with two women in the last two years, unless you have a camera hidden in his bedroom, or a micro camera attached to himor you just know something you aren’t sharing……………………
Regarding the rest – actors get asked daft questions, the same ones over and again. Given that they get called out for the slightest slip, who can blame them for giving generic answers?
See this is where it’s appropriate to use the hashtag #notallmen
Way to generalize.
Those reports of his philandering carry no more weight than the ones you read here among the D’fly population. I’m sure he’s got his ways of keeping the pipes clear but there’s no evidence that he’s a horndog, tho’ he certainly could be.
I’m not naive enough to assume he’s lives by the highest moral code but I won’t automatically assume some anon is telling the truth about him when they post these stories on IMBD or Tumblr either.
Most of those “reports” come from that site whose “impeccable source” turned out to be imaginery.
I suspect many of the women he encounters are users and famewhores looking to climb the social ladder and achieve fame by association. The higher the star rises, the more wary the celeb should be.
Do you think this may have been the case with SF and he has learned a lesson?
No, not necessarily. She dated him in 2011, which was when things really took off for him. Based on his statement, I think she broke things off because he was too busy to nurture the relationship.
It’s possible that he’s still too busy and focused on work to give a relationship the necessary attention required and may be the reason he’s not been known to be in a serious relationship since SF.
On that I agree. TH is not exactly part of an industry that fosters decency but does foster a culture of opportunism. His friend Cumbers is the poster boy for the fruits of carelessness (IMHO, I’ve always thought it an Ooops baby situation, however it turns out ten years from now).
@seesittellsit, that is a base assumption. I could say the same about lawmakers, the medical industry, etc. There is a culture of opportunism in any industry and some like the mentioned do not foster decency.
Just a question as to when he made this statement? The TV3 article seems to be a cut and paste from older material. It cites Hello magazine for the info on Helen McCrory and has him dating Elizabeth Olsen
Exactly! This is a clickbait article circulating all the usual bottom feeder suspects, pasted together from material that is months old and used by dodgy sites to take advantage of how much media attention he is getting right now.
There’s a lot of re-hashed click bait stuff surfacing. And so long as they get reactions, like the ones here, they’ll continue to pop up. I haven’t seen any recent interviews in the past few months in which he talks about anything other than work, except to deny a relationship with Olsen. Even the humans are inherently good comment was connected to High Rise.
My thoughts exactly. It’s been driving me nuts all day!
ETA (it is now just after 3pm in London).
@Dara, I think it is even older than that and probably dates back at least two years or so. Back to one of the Elle or similar interviews. It is not recent and is an attempt by TV3 to get clicks
And this is in the wrong place
hm comment went to a black hole. There are some blogs out there that take old stories and give them “newer” time stamps. It’s pure clickbait, which I think has cost his probably already marginal chances of snatching the Morpheus Sandman role. Poor Neil Gaiman had to clarify about three times that they haven’t casted anyone, particularly Hiddles.
Yeah, I felt like I’d read similar statements from him in the past.
I think I’ve read this exact quote a long, long time ago – around the time the whole “I’m a feminist and I have this cool t-shirt to prove it” campaign was making the rounds. It’s over a year old – not sure why it’s being recycled now.
Can’t argue with the sentiment though.
@Dara, I responded to you but it landed above
@thanks lilac. As long as the drink orders don’t go astray, I won’t worry my pretty (albeit strong and independent) head about a wayward comment or two.
@Lilac…’I haven’t seen any recent interviews in the past few months in which he talks about anything other than work, except to deny a relationship with Olsen.’
I’m playing catch up – hadn’t read anything about Tom commenting re: Olsen. Would you have a link? Cheers.
Nothing against him, but I feel like (straight) male celebrities, when asked, will always say some variation of what he said. And then a good number of them go off to date/marry people who are not quite the type that they described.
exactly. he is pandering to his audience.
What could he say when asked that question? I’m curious as to what you think is the “right” answer.
Men IRL do exactly the same, say they want the smart & nice girl, and then marry the very opposite.
^^^^This . . . .
That’s not the real interview. He said these things many years ago in several different interviews and these weren’t about his Oedipus complex at all.
I was just about to post this: I have a feeling this “interview” has been cobbled together from previous quotations.
And some of it is made up (by whom) because most of his close family don’t live in London.
to true
Good on him to love his mummy so
I remember reading somewhere that most guys end up with someone similar to their mom anyway. Same for women and their fathers. As they say, when people choose long term mates, they always seem to go home. People like the familiar, even when it’s bad for them. Good luck to Tom. I think he is a decent dude, hopefully he’ll find what he is looking for.
Hate to admit it but in many relationships have discovered the guy I’m dating is a lot like my Dad, even looks wise. Maybe it makes us comfortable or easy to relate or something?
I am sensing déjà vu here… I’m sure this “interview” is years old tbh.
Exactly. It’s a non story, cobbled together with quotes from different, old interviews.
Pandering to his audience.
Leah, what would you and the rest of the critics prefer him to say when asked what kind of a woman he’s attracted to? “I like my women mousy, insecure, lacking their own opinion and dependent upon others for their happiness?” I’m asking seriously since I don’t find a problem with what he’s saying and wondering why you’re reacting so negatively to it. What do you think is a better response to the question?
Bear in mind, these quotes are being recycled from past interviews and being used a clickbait while he’s in full promotion mode.
Well said Nuttie.
“I like my women mousy, insecure, lacking their own opinion and dependent upon others for their happiness?”
LOL!! Pretty much any man I know also like strong, independent women who can do things on their own and are emotionally balanced. People get mad at that statement, but would they prefer the opposite? Pandering, not pandering, unless you’re Anthony Mackie, I’m pretty sure Tom’s the variety to let the woman do as she damn well pleases.
he could start by not using the rather corny and borderline offensive word “strong” to describe a woman.
I’d love to see an actress saying “my ideal man is strong”, but they don’t because when it comes to men they take it for granted. it’s infuriating.
ell, if you have a problem with the word “strong”, then that’s your issue, not mine.
I am a strong woman both physically and psychologically and I know who I am and my value in the world. My husband and children — as much as I love them — their presence enhances my life, but they do not define me or complete me. My husband values a woman who can take care of herself and he chose me because of my strength, among other things. I’m sorry that you find that so insulting. I’m quite proud to wear the title of strong and have no problem with a man who declares that he wants that kind of woman.
@nutballs, your reply is completely unrelated to my point, and it also seems you don’t understand what I’m saying.
good for you for knowing your worth in the world. I don’t find that insulting, and never implied or said I did. I find the use of the term “strong” to define powerful and smart women insulting because it seems to indicate that ‘strength’ is an unusual quality in women, and it’s somewhat surprising if they are. we never call men “strong” when they have the same characteristics, we call them smart and independent.
Men as a whole are physically stronger than women and care less about offending others than women do. Experience and history prove that. Women are less aware of their strength and capability as a whole than men are. Hence, it is refreshing to see more and more women who understand that and live according to that strength. It’s not as noteworthy when seen in a man.
ETA: I hope it’s clear that I don’t see different as unequal. I believe in the beauty of each gender and that that men and women have much to learn from each other. My husband helps me to become a better woman and I help him become a better man and that’s the way I think it should be.
ell, I’m sure he can use whatever word he wants. Strong is not a bad word. I like strong men. I like strong women. I don’t think using that word implies anything. My attitude towards it is gender neutral. I know plenty of weak, very needy men. I know plenty of weak, needy women. I steer far away from them. But I love being around strong men and women who can balance their emotions and attitude towards life.
ell i have no problems with being called strong be it physically strong or mentally strong -both to me are a compliment-if the man is lying that is down to him and is water off my back- i certainly would not dish his comments without more evidence.
Whatever is corny or offensive in using the word strong? It’s a compliment imho.
How can ‘strong’ be considered in any way offensive??
What’s he meant to say, that he wants to marry a doormat?!
The issue, for me, is that his statement sounds an awful lot like a generic rehash of what most men say to please women in their lives or, in Tom’s case, his female audience. It doesn’t sound sincere.
And, yeah, what else could he say besides “doormat”? I think every woman with a healthy self-esteem would consider herself “strong.” So saying “I want a strong woman” doesn’t really mean anything. He’s just trying to be vague so he could please as many female fans as possible … like a weekly horoscope or a fortune cookie.
I find that most people in general possess the qualities that’s he’s looking for in a SO. I also believe he’s met more than a few women who have them…so why then is he still publicly without a SO? It’s something beyond those qualities, those values. Something deeper, something he chooses not to share with his audience. Keep looking Tom, she’s out there.
Well, comparability does help, even though many try to do without it
Lilac, did you mean compatibility??
OMG! Yes! The autocorrect kept changing it and I thought I had fixed it but it sneaked the final change. COMPATABILITY!
And chemistry also helps.
Given the shit that get thrown at any public figure who makes even the slightest “mispeak” (like when Ben used the word coloured without meaning any offence) is it any wonder that Tom tends to keep his replies fairly vanilla and polite?
No kidding and still, the boilerplate answers generate criticism from some women. Geez, he can’t please some people no matter how much he avoids controversial statements.
Some women who are actually looking for something to criticise.
@neutral, true, especially when half the comments involve detailing personal experiences. I don’t want to diminsh these experiences in any way, but the thing is, just because you experience these things, it shouldn’t paint all men with the same brush. Like I have terrible trust in men because in my life, they have been abusive, liars, and hypocrites, but I can separate that and not paint other men with the same cynicism.
Good for you Jammy.
I’m flabbergasted that a man who over the years has always spoken about women in a respectful manner is getting lambasted for saying he likes strong, independent, capable, decent and kind women like his mum and sisters. He’s being nothing but complimentary, but woman take him to task. It boggles the mind.
No wonder men get exhausted being around women. You’d never see this picking apart of someone’s words on a site aimed at men. They seem to take things at face value.
or what about be respect the fact people have the right to their opinion and to voice it???
No one is disrespecting your opinion and you’re free to share it here. Disagreeing is not the same as disrespect.
stock answers it is!
Cute video of the Paris red carpet where Tom is asked out on a date…by a man. Starts at around :42.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suXsb4JtsGU
From the same event:
@MysteryWriter_ 20h20 hours ago
When I asked for a hug, Tom Hiddleston answered me “well you have to take me to dinner first” I’M SO DONE, BEST DAY EVER ❤️❤️❤️
He’s such a good sport.
You know that weirdo from IMDb will be spinning this for some time.
@Madly, I thought exactly that before I posted the link! It’s a funny, candid moment that I wanted to share, but I hesitated about posting it because I didn’t want to derail things into an IMDb sh*tshow. I don’t think we have any regular commentators who would go off the deep end on things like this, though.
He’s a flirt alright!
damn this man and his charming ways
And what have we learned about going out to dinner!?
Subtext – Mom and sisters better like you or you are out.
Exactly. If you don’t pass inspection with Emma, Sarah, and Diana, don’t expect to be around long.
The way he talks about them, I think their opinions of his girlfriends would matter a lot.
The other subtext I heard was, “Don’t demand too much for me, I’m focused on my career.”
@ browniecakes.
Huh? 🙂
i love the way he is just so calm and about it
He’s looking so fine! Damn!
Colin and Mark are glad they decided to leave the meadow amenities in place given the fray that has erupted in response to an out-of-context statement from years ago being used in a click bait article.
I’ll be back once I finish defending dear TommyAnna against this torrent of unnecessary criticism!
I swear, for some of these ladies he can’t say anything without getting flamed with arrows. Sheesh.
I guess they want him after the mousy needy types, sheesh indeed!
I always got the feeling that some of his more wacko fans cling hard to the fantasy that he wants someone who is more like what they are– mousy, needy, etc.
@Miss Jupitero
harsh but possibly true!
Interesting… Whenever I hear a guy saying he likes “strong, independent” women it makes me think he means to tell his girlfriend should be OK if he doesn’t pay her much attention because he is so busy. From my experience, if a man tells you that, it’s a code for “don’t be upset if I don’t call you for two weeks – you should have your own life!”
I’m an independent woman and have always been very self-sufficient, but I like a man paying a lot of attention to me and making sure we actually spend time together, instead of reappearing every once in a while in each others lives. I guess Tom wouldn’t make a perfect boyfriend for me…
TessD, you could be right. With the way his work could consume him and take him from home for months it would be tough for even an independent, self-sufficient woman to deal with. Relationships are like gardens that need to be tended to and it’s hard to do so under those circumstances.
As much as I joke about it here, I seriously don’t get why anyone would look at a celeb like Tom and think dating him would be awesome. Unless he was very solicitous with his partner (rather than narcissistic), I think it would be lonely and frustrating and much more difficult than a typical relationship. If he possessed the ability to nurture a long-term relationship. I think it to find someone who could go the distance, who wasn’t primarily attracted to his fame and money.
Someone like Kate Middleton, probably would be ideal for him. I cannot even imagine going for 10 years like that.
That’s the thing isn’t it? Celebrity and the nomadic nature of a film career add all sorts of complications to the scenario – I’d like to think I’d be self-assured enough to handle that extra pressure, but I’m just not sure I’d WANT to.
I just can’t wrap my mind around making something like that work in the long term. If you are independent and have your own life and career, you can’t just abandon it to trail after your SO while they jet off to an exotic location to film for three months. That sucks, because the whole point of being in a committed relationship means that you merge your lives and interests and actually want to spend time together. A few days or weeks between projects just wouldn’t cut it for me.
For arguments sake, let’s say you are willing and able to drop out of your own life for an extended period, chances are you’ll be stuck by yourself in some hotel or rental house while your SO is off filming for umpteen hours a day. Their focus will be on the work (as it should be), at best you’ll get their undivided attention for maybe a few hours a day. Again, that kinda sucks.
Neither of those scenarios sound especially appealing.
Dara, my thoughts exactly. Even if you had the type of job where you could do it anywhere and just tagged along, he’s likely to be consumed with work still. Not an ideal circumstance. So you’re stuck waiting months for him to come home so you can get reacquainted and start living life together over and over again. Military spouses that I know talk about how hard it is on the relationship with their partner gone for such a long time and they don’t re-enter family life without difficulty. They’ve been out of the loop for so long, there’s a catching up that has to be done. Close relationships just don’t survive distance well, even with modern technology. It takes a tremendous amount of emotional energy and commitment for them to survive.
TessD. my opinion of Lazy Kate would preclude me from agreement. I see her as wanting all the benefits of her position, but not wanting to take on the responsibilities. She seems content to shop and enjoy the celebrity hobnobbing and rugby matches, but not do the less glamorous parts that are expected of her. She and Normal Bill need to step up to the plate in my opinion and take a load off of QE.
my boyfriend often works away from home. he’s a musician so he tours and is away for long stretches of time. I do just fine. when he’s around I’m happy to be with him (we live together), when he isn’t I have my life going on. sometimes I join him and it’s fun, but most often when he’s touring I don’t go with him.
I’m not gonna lie, it’s probably not for everyone. but it’s also not as dramatic as some people seem to think; you get used to it. you need trust, the willingness to accept you can’t control things and the other person and to be fine by yourself, but it’s not like it can’t be done.
ell, your relationship sounds perfect to me. I am a very strong, independent woman who idealizes long-distance relationships. I’m so settled in my ways that I don’t think I’ll ever settle down with someone. I’m not sad about it – I really just enjoy my own company. It would be nice to get together with someone I am attracted to and with whom I could have fun, but living with someone would just kill me, I think.
Hello, Tom??? I’m in London next month! (Mimes “call me”).
@Dara, you know what this kind of relationship reminds me of? “Lost in Translation” movie. Johansson came to be with her man to Japan and was stuck in the hotel room for hours while her husband was away working. Sad, sad.
@NUTBALLS, I wasn’t talking about her life now – whatever she does and doesn’t want to do. I was talking about waiting around for 10 years for an occasional call, an occasional outing here and there.
The issue is trust not the absence and distance. They find it hard to trust because the majority of the people they would meet out of the industry are either fans or fans under cover or fame seekers and all those sooner than later will be tempted to sell the relationship. Once you’ve seen someone burned, you think not twice but ten times before going the same way. Those who find a decent person do have stable relationships and many of them are really normal people, not some emotilnal wrecks. Those stable relationships are not in the media though which is why they are stable. They get in the media if they become marriages and even then not always or not immediately. But it’s rare because, again, trust.
One thing I don’t understand is why actors are always pointed at when it comes to distance, absence, etc. How about the film crews? You realize they have families and these families work it out somehow, right? MaNy of those people are on location for weeks and months, lucky if they can get projects back to back, never will miss it. How about athletes? Not mentioning here the forces because some of them can move families but those that I mentioned are away long weeks and months. My family is the same. It works for us because we prefer to have time away from each other. It’s all about finding the person who thinks the same.
but do not forget all the other professions where husbands and wives live apart for long periods -navy ,tv reporteres etc and leave very strong women ,or even men behind to hold the fort-and single parents who take on both roles-why do we always have to squeeze couples/individuals into conventional roles and categories -lets praise the difference in who they are,what they think and how we see each other
Especially as he is about to go off to the jungle for a month or two!
I really need an independent man– one who won;t be upset if i can’t pay constant attention to him. *I* am the one who needs all that time and space. Call me Tom!
I need lots of space too. And no jealousy or possessiveness. I have platonic male friends and won’t give up my friendships because somebody is insecure.
We really are his ideal women, aren’t we?? Too bad someone’s already put a ring on it in my case. He’s all yours ladies. Just let me have my fantasy fling, ok?
Same here, the main reason I’m not married. Its a myth that men aren’t needy, they often want just as much time together as women. As a person that loves solitude & independence, it drives me nuts when they constantly need you.
I’m in. See above.
I’ve noticed that I’m this way – not caring if he doesn’t even call for weeks whatsoever, – when I’m with someone I don’t love. Then I really could care less what he does, where he is and whether or not he’s thinking about me. If he shows up and we do something together – fine. Otherwise I really don’t even think about him.
I’ve been in relationships like that and not interested to do it anymore. I like to to feel a real connection, to feel something for the other person. Otherwise, I’m very comfortable on my own and I really see no point in going out with someone I don’t genuinely care about.
@Tessd, I think that’s where I’m at too. I’ve done the casual, carefree thing – and it was fun…for a while. But I guess I’m more old-fashioned than I thought – I want more.
There is much truth in this. I stay away from the “I like strong independent women” crowd and happily let a man who never thought of it conquer me in the most old fashioned non feminist way.
@Mary-Alice I just have to say something here 🙂 – feminism has nothing to do with romance, chivalry and a desire to conquer someone. All feminism means is letting men and women have equal political, social and economic rights. I happily let a man to pay for a dinner when we are out together because I like a man who shows that he can provide and take care of me. However I am capable of buying my own dinner. I work, like to make my own money and I would REALLY mind if he would forbid me from having my own career because he is a man. That’s what feminism is all about – having a choice and not being forced to do or not do something.
Ok Tom aside, I quite like Mia’s dress. I don’t like her hair. And for a story about a strong female heroine, why don’t we hear Mia speak much on this? I feel like the press gets carried away with the Tom and Del Toro worship, but it would be nice to hear Mia’s thoughts when…after all, she is the protagonist!
I really like her dress too. We don’t hear too much from Mia because she doesn’t like to speak. And the statements being attributed to Tom in this article were made before he signed on to CP
It’s probably good that Jessica isn’t there. Poor Mia starts looking like the neglected third wheel with the combined force of Tom and Jess’s personalities start taking over.
yea! I think it’s just her personality, which is extremely shy. Very funny for an actress haha
Any conversation about the Dragonfly King is alright with me.
So, how many potential wives we got here? I’ll happily be a maid of honor , Because I I don’t want you ho’s cutting me!
I don’t understand the nitpicking. I want the same qualities in a man as well as someone who makes me feel like I am important in their life, but not choking me with their closeness.
Dating an actor would be hard though, especially a workaholic one like he is.
Right, what else is he going to say? He’s always careful with words and with Luke at his elbow constantly, he will stay that way.
Also I think TH will be good with someone in the business, who understands his job (which he seems to put above everything currently), and the personal nonsense that goes with (paps, fans) but I picture her to be less famous than he is.
True, or he’ll meet someone and it will change his perspective about his career and he’ll want to slow down and have something of a normal life on the side with her. Truth is we don’t know. I kinda like it that way than the verbal diarrhea we got from a certain otter last year.
Sigh. Do we have to par se everything single thing a celeb says? Everyone’s free to like or dislike a celeb as they will but it just feels like we’re reaching for anything to get mad/annoyed about these days.
Yep. Very succinctly and accurately put.
Yep. Offense can be found in the most innocuous of statements, it seems. I’m ready to sit on the porch swing and have a stiff, strong drink after this one.
Lilac, does Colin have any absinthe? Everclear? I’m ready to drink myself into a stupor.
We have plenty of absinthe, sugar cubes, and pretty glasses
@Nutty, if anyone deserves a stiff one, it’s you. Take that however you’d like to, I’ve declared it Double Entendre Tuesday and innuendos are two for the price of one.
You’ve had quite a day on this thread – I wish I’d jumped into the fray more than I did, but you defended yourself and your opinions admirably – and much more politely than I would have. But rest assured, you are amongst friends here – as long as you don’t hog the hooch.
Thanks Dara. You were missed. I always enjoy your logical and thoughtful comments. I’m feckin’ exhausted after “‘ballsplaining” and now I get to help my autistic son stay on task with his homework. Absinthe will have to wait, I guess.
I, as one of the many women who are both independent and strong AND kind and decent, would consider it my frikkin’ duty to tell my boyfriend that his make-up makes him look orange. That’s kindness, too, people!
He doesn’t look orange in that Youtube video.
Given that he always has the same splotchy orangey look in these kind of photos, I don’t think it’s make-up at all – because make-up would have been corrected by now, as it’s meant to even out skin tone. I think it’s just the way the gazillion-watt flashes those photographers use reflect off his sun-damaged complexion.
You can still see his Coriolanus forehead scar, which make-up would cover.
Funnily enough he doesn’t appear to have makeup on at all in most of the photos from TIFF up to date, it is just the odd one, and I wondered if it was more to do with the lighting. I do think he has sun damage to his forehead.
he looks better in candid http://yinye26.tumblr.com/post/130151427276/so-yesterday-i-took-a-selfie-woth-tom-hiddleston
It is weird isn’t it? Those you put up show nothing at all. I think it is more to do with where his hairline has receded because you would think if it was makeup up he would carry it back (following his hair so to speak!)
And wouldn’t you have thought that Luke would have put on a suit for the occasion?
I didn’t make it to the brunch. Are we setting up for tea yet?
Tea time is in full swing. There’s a lovely selection of scones, some tea sandwiches, and an assortment of teas, both caffeinated and herbal. Sherry too.
@ Lilac:
What about chamomile’s tea?
Or maybe beer since Mia and Tom arrived in Germany today:
instagram.com/p/8OfUMOjy8f/
And here is a new interview with Tom from United – NORWAY:
youtube.com/watch?v=aJ51Pon0dDQ&feature=youtu.be
youtube.com/watch?v=nlSIt0r1Ijk&feature=youtu.be
@Allegra, the chamomile would be covered under the assortment of herbal, so, yes, of course we have chamomile! Enjoy! And yes, we have beer and German treats for the trip to Germany. We discuss that above.
WHAT is Mia wearing?
@LIlac:
Well, I’m not sure!
Maybe pants from the 70’s with a blouse!
I don´t get it! She is pretty but she dresses like a person older than her age!
Here another pic:
twitter.com/Lothiriel_1/status/648971499236380672
She has terrible tastes in clothes. She’s so thin, but wears pants that add weight to her. What in the world?
Well, we are already up to nearly 200 posts on an article that most of us agree is based on a cut and paste of an old interview from at least two years ago!! 🙂
Is it any wonder Tom tries to keep his private life private?
You’re right.
And people wonder why he been quiet abou his private life!
In his case, better keep all things vanilla , don´t engage in any kind of controversial issues.
I just came here to:
– admire and lust over the man,
– read,
– aplaude Nutballs ( I totally agree with you and the same way I want a strong, non-whining, clingy man, I agree men want women like that too),
– have some chamomile tea and some scones
– AND ADD ONE MORE COMMENT… Hoping it’ll get to 200…
ihihihihihih
200 has been breached. Have another scone!
*blows a kiss to Nighty*
I take back my wish that Tom would stop issuing boilerplate statements, based on the OTT reactions we’ve witnessed today. Can you imagine the firestorm if he actually said something that was even slightly controversial?
Actually, since we’re all in Germany tonight, have some strudel or some Schwarzwalder Kirschtorte
Bravo! I recently had a whiny, needy, clingy man get up in my business. It’s just not attractive. I can’t even call him “strong” because of how emotionally unstable he is. There aren’t strong men everywhere you know?
@nuts, his answers are strategic for a reason! 😛
@Nut thanks for the kiss
@Lilac I just love Apfel Strudel, LOVE IT!!! (hate Schwarzwalder Kirschtorte, though, never been fond of cherry liquor , always make without the liquor…)
Guess I’ll have a slice of strudel…
http://www.indiewire.com/article/2015-virginia-film-festival-announces-lineup-including-son-of-saul-carol-and-more-20150929
I’m waiting to see him dating Emma Watson. Although he probably (a) figures she’s too young for him and (b) he’s already got enough wives around here anyway.
I dunno. He might also be remembering that while his mum is a strong woman, she also is divorced from his dad. Maybe that’s why he’s shying away from getting really involved with someone.
This post brought to you by someone who has absolutely no idea what she’s talking about.
I seem to remember Lilacflower mentioning Tom saying that Emma isn’t his type, some time ago.
That being said, you realize that Emma Watson is the same age as Elizabeth Olsen?
That had occurred to me too. When you see you parents divorce at the age he was it is very likely to make you a bit wary yourself.
Did he actually say Emma wasn’t is type or was it just reported by someone else that she wasn’t? Can’t imagine him coming out with such a statement.
Very complimentary article about Tom’s performances in High-Rise and Crimson Peak from the Fantastic Fest screenings. The last line is funny:
Now, will somebody please show us how to make High Rise gifs of Tom Hiddleston dancing?
http://www.movies.com/movie-news/tom-hiddleston-tumblr/19259?wssac=164&wssaffid=news&utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter
Thanks for the link to this article – “Laing is Hiddleston’s best work to date.”…that’s high praise indeed.
Oh, sure, he says he wants a woman like his mom, but if he ever has to choose between a strong, decent and kind woman who happens to be fat and plain and a slim, vapid beautiful *itch, we all know what he’s going to choose.
How about neither?
Why just the two? There are fat/skinny plain women who can be stuck up and there are beautiful women who can be strong, decent, and kind. I think people are projecting a bit much on the word “strong”.
Indeed. I’m a little wary of stereotyping people’s personalities based on their looks. In my experience, there are plenty of good and plenty of bad people at all levels of attractiveness.
As far as I can tell, Tom hasn’t dated anyone dreadful (and no, that isn’t an invitation for people to snark on his exes), and I don’t expect he’s likely to do so in the future.
reading back on some of these comments, I’m kinda laughing at the offense to the word strong. LOL. Flame away if you want to, but I think it’s a compliment to a person, regardless of gender.
Speaking of Tom’s mother, I heard a rumor that he said in an interview that she was a practicing Wiccan. Wish I could find the link. How cool is that?
That is TOTALLY cool! I could actually introduce him to some nice Wiccan girls the next time he’s in NYC.
So could I! I wish I could find the link. But if this is true, in my opinion it would explain many things about his outlook on life.
Pff. Tom’s mother is as Church of England as it comes.
O drat. That is sooooooo disappointing! What could be more British than Gardnerian Wicca?
!”What could be more British than Gardnerian Wicca?” Most things actually! 🙂
Oh god, you’ve started something now!
Not trolling by any chance are you?
I’m not! I can swear I read this in an early Q&A! Someone asked about his spiritual beliefs. He said he didn’t followed any organized religion himself, but felt spirituak. And mentioned that he new a lot about the occult because his mother was Wiccan.
I would be absolutely amazed if that were true Miss J. Can you post up the link?
I would if I could find the damned thing! I honestly don’t remember where I saw it, but I will try to find it.
@MissJupitero, my grandmother was Church of England in public and Wiccan at home.
Oh, God, he looks so beautiful that my eyes are bleeding!
By the way, I spent 30 minutes of my life walking around Allerdalle Hall aka Crimson Peak
http://www.crimsonpeakawaits.com/
OMG! This is amazing!!!
The tortured looks from Tom…. !
That is really cool! I cannot wait to see this film.
I have a sneaky feeling that this is going to be a slam dunk for Chastain.
I have the same feeling about her. And I fear for the little dog. The artwork on this film is amazing.
Miss Jupitero, did you see the tweets from Fantastic Fest? They were positively RAVING about Chastain.
I saw and noted! And given the few clips I have seen so far, I am not surprised. That one clip in which Lucille and Edith are looking at the portrait of “mother” is priceless.
Lilacflowers, I too fear for that little dog….. 🙁
I don’t take issue with his word choice here. Unicef photos popping up when he has three movies to promote, yes. I get actors use charity work for PR too, that’s fine, everyone wins, but he’s kinda obvious with the way his public charity acts always pop up during promo periods.
Erm, yeah, I admit I have noticed this…..
how do we know it was his decision-maybe Unicef thought this wasa prime time to release it to get maximum publicity
You know when we get the full promo for his Unicef trip, we’ll have something legitimate to take him to task over.
Not the trip or the cause itself, but sitting on it for 7 months and releasing it during the Tommy Tsunami of movie premiers.
Really?
I thought his first trip to Africa had taken place in January 2013 and the Thor movie had its premiere in October of the same year.
What timing! Like 9 months apart from one event to another.
And what kind of PR is that someone not Tom just realease 2 pics on his blog or site?
Well, Luke must be doing such crap job!
The Global Goals program he is promoting coincides with the opening of the UN’s new year.
The two pictures from March’s trip to Sourth Sudan appear on the photographer’s blog. People are just taking them from the blog. There’s pictures of Ewan McGregor in Africa on the blog as well.
Yeah, Neil Gaiman has a new book out, plus the last Sandman Overtures. He and wife Amanda Palmer delayed announcing the birth of their new son for a little bit, and Neil is in the same Global Goals campaign–in fact, he is promoting the same goal as Tom, #16– but I don’t think people see him as thirsty. Sometimes it really is just timing and stuff happening at once. Not to mention UNICEF has their plan of how material from one of their trips is released. It is VERY serious PR to them.
Unicef is a well oiled machine and knows exactly how to use its ambassadors. The publicity will be huge. All the celebrities will get their bit of the spotlight, but it is determined by unicrf not the celebrity. I am pretty certain though that it was Luke who made unicef happen for Tom.
yes Luke was already linked to Unicef and he set the first one up
When Tom did his Q&A on twitter a couple of years ago, he was asked how he became involved with UNICEF. He mentioned that Ewan McGregor had been working with them for years; that he was impressed by the work he had done for them and that it was Ewan who got him involved.
Well, he wouldn’t answer, ‘My agent thought it would be a great way for some free publicity.’
The EMcG is a more diplomatic answer, obviously.
That having been said, I do believe that he does care about the cause. It’s just a mutually beneficial cause,
I’m with Allegra–exactly what was he promoting (other than UNICEF’s mission) in January of 2013. And the pics of this trip were taken in March, we have no idea when the photographer who took them loaded them onto his personal work site along with shots of a whole lot of other people out on UNICEF trips.
Could it be that when Tom is getting a lot of attention is when the little Tumblr sleuths work overtime to ferret out stuff like this?
I have noticed some people taking issue with the new Unicef photos popping up when he has 3 films to promote. I don’t believe they are related, however. The photos were on the photographer’s website since March and no one knew. No one had any inkling Tom had even been to South Sudan until a quote from him in a magazine article last week where he says he had been to Africa recently but couldn’t talk about it yet.. That is when the little Tumblr sleuths (to borrow TotallyBiased’s phrase) got to work and found those pics.
The photos have since been removed, probably due to over zealous fans on twitter and Tumblr making them more visible than they should be. The Hiddleston fandom is a rabid one when new material comes to light, it certainly doesn’t mean it is all a big PR conspiracy.
It’s not that complicated. One of Tom’s tumblr fans found out that he mentioned his trip to Africa in an article which appeared right after the San Sebastian Film Festival. In the article when he was asked about his connection with the real world, he said he recently had opportunity to visit a war zone (without mentioning UNICEF). He also casually said that he would talk about it later. The article is mostly about his works and ideas.
http://www.revistavanityfair.es/actualidad/cine/articulos/tom-hiddleston-high-rise-san-sebastian-loki-thor-jg-ballard-1/21339
After two or three hours another fan found the photos which seem to be there for about months. It’s quite simple. Just google Africa, UNICEF, and TH, and you can find the photographer’s site. I don’t doubt that Tom will speak about his experience in South Sudan some days in the near future. When UNICEF brought a famous actor to that area, they must have some purposes. Tom surely has his PR plan, but UNICEF has their plan, too. In this case Tom is following UNICEF’s plan.
OK – I’m a little sleep-deprived so this may come off a tad more cranky than I intend, but here goes.
A) Those photos being found have absolutely nothing to do with any film promotion. If that was the intent, it makes much more sense to hold them to promo The Night Manager which will likely have a war-zone/refugee story as a major plot point. If anything, at this moment, they are a distraction that serves no purpose.
B) The photographer has since deleted them from his website, and there is absolutely no mention at all on either the UNICEF or WFP websites about Tom making that particular trip, not exactly a stellar pr-move if that was the motivation. That’s especially true since they’ve appeared no where else except on fan sites – nothing at all in the regular press.
C) The likelier scenario is that the UN is just now launching their Global Goals initiative and I imagine Tom’s trip to South Sudan will tie into that somehow (he’s already appeared in the launch video), which is why no mention has been made of it yet. It is part of a larger and more important global message and deserves respect, not suspicion or derision. I doubt very much Tom called the UN and asked them to time their launch so that he could take advantage and make it all about him while promoting his films.
D) Yes, Tom made a minor mention of visiting a war zone in an interview, but also said he couldn’t speak about it yet, which again isn’t exactly blowing his own horn as the great humanitarian, which is what a lot of fans give him crap for doing. He probably figured the sleuths would not figure out it was South Sudan, or the photos weren’t online yet to find. It wouldn’t be the first time an enterprising fan took a few breadcrumbs and found something interesting when they weren’t expected to.
I enjoy dissecting interviews, floating conspiracy theories and speculating about the motivations of celebrities as much as the next fan, but enough is enough.
edit – Heather and Gingerly beat me to it, they’ve said it much more succinctly than I did.
Lets face it Dara, some folks are looking to find fault with Tom for just breathing. And if they look they think they have found.
ITVs This Morning were advertising an interview with Tom a couple of weeks ago which never aired, he was still at TIFF so it wasn’t clear if it was prerecorded or he would appear live, it’s likely re UNICEF, so it’s probably rescheduled
https://twitter.com/Hidtordo/status/643785698508673024
I don’t see a problem promoting charity work during film promo, that’s the whole point you’ll get a wider audience and it makes sense to use the profile you have to highlight the campaign. When he did the trip to Guinea in 2013 he took Luke with him it was internet driven pr and the whole thing came across to me at the time as much more self-promotion (or maybe it was the squeeing fans on twitter who annoyed me) so it appears he and/or Unicef may be using a different approach thus time.
@ Catherine, ITV broadcast is about UN Global Goals, not UNICEF. The narrator listed a few celebrities who participated in the project – One Direction, Meryl Streep. I don’t know exactly what PR strategies UNICEF use when they work with celebrities, and Tom’s 2013 trip seemed to me just one of common things that UNICEF ambassadors do.
Anyway, we will see. Ewan Mcgregor appeared in a BBC documentary when he visited congo in 2012.
Gingerly, that makes sense I was getting the 2 confused. So I guess there’s a another pr plan re the UNICEF trip.
What more PR he needs now?
He has 3 movies coming out, there are several articles and interviews talking about his future projects: King Kong movie and Thor.
He is just one person and yet he has to promote 3 movies at same time.
And if he really interested in more PR why not speak about the international refugee crisis instead of talking about the problem of Africa .
Why did the pro have the photos on site to being with, particularly two that had not much to do with the relief but look like Tom’s audition for Top Gun, is the question.
@ Lyn, The photographer uploaded Tom’s photos, Ewan Mcgregor’s, along with the pics of other people he photographed. Some are social workers or officers, or soldiers. Pics of Ewan’s do not differ from Tom’s very much and you may want to describe them as an “audition for Top Gun” too. I am not sure whether he still keeps Ewan’s online after he deleted Hiddles’ photos though.
Many many professional photographers usually upload their photos in their site to showcase their work and portraits are an important part of photographers’ works. More so, if one works in photo journalism. The photographer have been working with Unicef for some years and won several awards in the past. Visit his website if you are interested either in Africa or photojournalism. Some of the photos are quite moving.
I doubt Tommy has control over the timing of the photos, but media outlets do. Like, it’s pretty clear he had no control over CP, ISTL, and HR all coming out at once. He’s now in full promo swing for them.
In their defence, I can see how to some people it may seem like a PR move that the UNICEF photos have been released now, while he is in the middle of a promotional tour. I had neither seen nor heard of the interview where he mentions the trip to Sudan until the link was posted here.
Well, my englsih is not good but anyway…
That happens because they jump the conclusion instead of looking for the facts .
Just look the timeline:
– The Vanity fair article in Spanish was published in September 23.
– Tom´s pisc in Africa start to hit the Twitter in September 26. Like this one from HiddleMemes:
twitter.com/HiddleMemes/status/647818042391576576
Allegra – I believe you may have misunderstood my previous post.
They were not jumping to conclusions. Not everyone was aware of the Vanity Fair article – only the tmblr obsessives were. Some people saw only some photos of Tom’s charity work being released while he’s in the middle of a promotional campaign for three films – which to them may appear to be PR move.
@Liz:
I didn´t saw the Vanity fair article too. It´s hard to keep up with some many interview, videos and pics coming up everyday, especially from a article wrote in spanish.
I’ve been in this blog since last year and everytime Tom is linked to UNICEF or same kind charity, people say he used them for PR.
Fo some people, Tom is unable to perform a good deed without him having any gain in material terms or to gain exposure in the media.
To me this is very sad.
@Liz, I think the key is that the photos were not “released”, they were “found”. If Team Tom had been involved in their distribution, then someone besides the fan sites on Twitter and Tumblr would have been the ones publishing them.
I guess I count as one of the Tumblr obsessives – or the blogs I follow over there are, because I saw the original post within minutes of it being published. Say what you will about some corners of that site, but there are some bloggers that find some really cool things and are very good about sourcing the material so you can track it back to where they found it.
Allegra, I think it’s natural for some of us to raise an eyebrow because the trip took place in March and nothing was said about it until Tom was in full promotion mode. I’m just pointing out that any awareness being raised for Unicef’s work in Africa appears to have been delayed until he was promoting three movies, that’s all. It does seem timed for maximum PR impact, when he’s giving interviews on a near-daily basis. Unicef might well have made that call since they seem pretty savvy in promoting the work they do. I do see the importance of promoting their work, but still feel uncomfortable with the PR strings that seem to be getting pulled in marketing charitable work. I don’t doubt that Tom cares about it and is sincere in his involvement in it.
In the end, I just hope it brings in the donations that they’re hoping for and not just bolstering Tom’s good guy image.
@NUTBALLS:
Do you really think 2 pics with Tom in Africa will make any difference in Tom´s PR right now? People only saw the pics, there are no interviews, no articles, nothing to hold people´s interest. Only his fans on Twitter, Facebook and Tumblr knows about it. Ordinary people really don´t care.
Right now, Tom, his castmates and Universal’s Machine are working hard to promote CR and although ISTL is an independent film, Sony is also pushing to promote the movie. Oh, let´s not forget HR.
I think from a publicist point of view, a great review from some major media outlet is more efficient to promote Tom´ s brand than a couple pics from a trip did last March. That will keep people talking about how talented you are, how great your movie is. That is kind approach I will use if I was working in media and PR.
@NUTBALLS:
Don´t get me wrong, be kind and promote good cause is equal or more important promote your work, they just are different.
Like I was saying, a great review will keep people talking about how talented you are, how great your movie is. That is kind approach I will use it.
And he really got good reviews from his 3 movies, like these: – from @Michael_Calia
He’s terrific in ‘Crimson Peak’ and the best thing in the Marvel cinematic universe.
– from @ErikDavis (who works to Fandango) : I’ve never enjoyed Hiddleston more than I do right now. And I told him that in person last week. Doing great stuff.
So I don´t think he needs those pics for PR.
@NUTBALLS, did you read the points Dara raised in thread #43, though? I think Allegra is trying to make the point that the photos *weren’t* released as part of some PR campaign, but some people were ready to jump on Tom about it without looking at the facts. Tom made a vague comment about a trip to a war zone in an interview with a foreign magazine; a couple of enterprising Tumblrites dug up the photos from March on a photojournalist’s website, which was probably when he posted them without any fanfare; and the photojournalist took down the photos by the next day. No one actually involved in this project has said *anything* about the trip, other than the one comment from Tom. That doesn’t seem to indicate that Tom, his team, nor UNICEF are doing a big promo push for this right now, but the knee-jerk reaction from some people was, “There’s Tom trying to pimp himself by using his charity work again.”
People can be skeptical or cynical all they want, but at least try to be rational, too.
@Nutballs, UNICEF keeps a very tight grasp on its PR and has strict rules for its promoters so they are promoting UNICEF and not their other projects. UNICEF has not dropped any PR about Tom’s trip in March to the South Sudan so nothing has been timed to coincide with his film promotion or even his promotion of The Global Goals. Whatever he was doing in the South Sudan in March, in a region that was suffering from a lack of food due to being inaccessible to anything but helicopters while two crop seasons had failed and local cattle were dying off due to a disease, remains a mystery because UNICEF has not issued any statements or pictures or anything at all. The two photographs, which were just two of many photographs in Africa, which also included Ewan McGregor, have been on the photographer’s website for months.
Ladies, I realize that the photos were published by tumblrites, I’m not putting that on Tom’s team. I hear all the good arguments being made and agree that these are very important causes to be promoted & supported.
My initial reaction to seeing the photos was borne out of the “look at me” promos he did for his last major Unicef campaign in 2013. The week of living below the line & tweeting his food. What helped was seeing his long-form writing, which did help to dampen my cynicism. I do think his heart is in the right place, even if I question the overall effectiveness of the promo.
It didn’t help that the first time I saw those most recent pictures, fans were squeeing about how hot he looked. Not his fault of course, but when real people are suffering, that sort of thing just gets in my craw. It’s a bit messy when an internet idol is so distractedly gorgeous fans can’t respond appropriately to why he’s there.
Bottom line, the less it is about looking at him and the more it is about helping those who are suffering and translating into money being donated, the more I embrace the campaign PR. It remains to be seen how this campaign will be run, so I’ll put a gag on my inner cynic in hopes that there’s less hairy-eyeballing this time around. I do hope that Dara’s suggestion that it’s a part of the much larger Global Goals campaign turns out to be true.
@Nutty, I said more than a few expletives when I saw how some of the fangirls were squeeing over Tom and completely missing the point about where he was and why – I’ve never been more embarrassed to call myself a fan if I’m going to get lumped in with those oblivious, tone-deaf idiots.
I loved seeing those photos, but a part of me does wish they hadn’t been found. The work the UNICEP-WFP teams were/are doing in South Sudan deserves a proper spotlight within the proper context.
On the bright side, most of these moments in the fandom usually burn bright then fade away, so this episode will be ancient history if the trip is part of the Global Goals message.
TBH regardless of where the photo comes from, people are questioning it because his public charity work is a bit sparse and always comes with big bells and whistles for his image. Look at the other Unicef trip, for example. We did not need pics of him packing or videos, that was all about what a great guy he was instead of the cause.
Hopefully, this time isn’t so aggressive, but the first photos look very posed when compared with other Unicef celeb pics in relief settings, so we’ll see.
I think there’s a lot of ‘fundamental attribution error’ in people’s response to this kind of stuff. People assume nefarious motivations and make judgements about the personality and beliefs of the celeb involved, when actually it’s the circumstances that determine what happened.
For example, everyone who does Live Below The Line is encouraged to spread the word – to blog, tweet and instagram about it. The campaign is about raising awareness of poverty, it’s as much a consciousness-raising exercise as a fundraising exercise. My colleagues who did it spoke about it an our quarterly company meeting, and sent emails around the company containing pictures of what they were eating and encouraging people to take part. Tom didn’t do anything different, it’s just that being famous means he has a far greater reach, he can get on TV to talk about it!
Kaye, you expressed my thoughts better than I. While I acknowledge that I don’t know anyone’s motives or reasons for what they do, more frequent, less showy charity work comes off as more authentic. It’s differences of perception.
Kaye–I LOVED the packing and headlamp videos! Not often you get to share the excitement, or that you even get to see that. He was just like I would have been, packing the night before a trip like that. Sure, he’s an actor–but he’s also human. You don’t have to believe he’s a Disney Prince to believe in his honest humanity. POV is everything (see KTE’s great post re ‘fundamental attribution error), and I am just not THAT cynical. I also wonder if CB posters’ reactions differ between those who were already fans (say those who became fans up through mid-2012) and those who saw those videos after the fact, as part of the mass pile of material available on him. It sure seemed at the time as if most of us enjoyed the gifs as vicarious excitement about the trip.
Nutballs, Kaye– two thoughts:
First, ‘less showy’ generally isn’t what UNICEF wants. It defeats the purpose of sending a celebrity on these trips. When they’re ready for us to hear about this trip, we will.
Second, on the non-showy front, we actually have no idea what his total charitable efforts are. If it becomes public knowledge, it is derided as pr, if it doesn’t, we are unlikely to know about it. A catch 22.
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The fact remains that the photographer posted the photos of the UNICEF trip on a public website. None of the galleries on his site is password protected or requires registration. If photos and information about the trip are embargoed, then he should not have published the photos and Tom should not have mentioned the trip to journalists.
The fact that Tom has said nothing about this trip for months, but now starts bating journalists about it during the middle of a promotional tour (“a charity asked me to visit a war zone. But I’m not going to talk about it”) does make this appear to be a PR move.
The PR stunt with Elizabeth Olsen backfired. I Saw the Light has been given awful reviews. High Rise has been given mixed reviews. Talking about feminism and his charity work is an attempt to get some good press and restore his image as the Disney Prince / perfect gentleman.
That is one hell of a stretch of the imagination.