Elizabeth Edwards defends drunk, womanizing John, who insists he doesn’t see Rielle

LONG BEACH, CA - OCTOBER 27: Elizabeth Edwards participates in a panel discussion at the 2009 Women's Conference held at Long Beach Convention Center on October 27, 2009 in Long Beach, California. (Photo by Toby Canham/Getty Images)
I had the chance to read Elizabeth Edwards’ full interview in People Magazine, which I believe is the second time she’s spoken on the record since her maybe-pending divorce was announced. (I say “on the record,” because People has likely run unsourced quotes from Elizabeth in earlier articles that directly quoted her sister.) Earlier this week Elizabeth made an appearance on The Today Show where she said she identified with Sandra Bullock and the way she wants to “reclaim” her identity after the press covered her husband’s infidelity. Unlike Sandra, Elizabeth hasn’t taken the high road though. She will call Rielle pathetic while praising and making excuses for her lying, cheating husband.

Despite filing for divorce, Elizabeth hasn’t called John out on his blatant lies. She also doesn’t intend to make the divorce final unless he forces her hand, and you know he won’t. In the People interview, she explains away his behavior, including recent reports that he’s been drunkenly picking up women in bars. She even says that John still insists he’s not seeing Rielle, and she doesn’t say she doubts him or thinks he’s a son of a bitch. All she says is that his “conduct through this whole thing was terrible… on a personal level, he’s paid a lot [for it].” On one hand she’s being gracious, on the other hand she never says that she was hurt or devastated or that she didn’t deserve to be treated like this. It’s all about John and how he feels.

When she’ll be divorcing John: when he tells her he wants to remarry
Elizabeth is separated from John (who lives nearby in a gated Hillborough, N.C., neighborhood) but is not bothering with divorce. “I say, ‘Until you want to get married again, I don’t have a need.’”

On National Enquirer reports that John is picking up women in bars
“He’s made friends, and I think it’s important for me to give him room to do that. It was hard [for him] to live with somebody who’s disappointed in him, so to find people who aren’t is a really healthy thing for him.”

On whether John is still seeing Rielle
“I know what John tells me, which is ‘under no circumstances.’ But obviously, I’m the last person in the world who knows the truth about these things.”

An excerpt from her book on “saying goodbye” to John
When I see John, I don’t just see the today that others see. I see all the memories – the look on his face when he held our children as newborns, and embarrassed pride as he showed his parents through our first house, the loving way he looked at me when we were with others, the soft and vulnerable way he looked at me and held me when we were alone. We have raised four children, and we have buried one. So when I closed the door on the John of today, I also had to say good-bye to that sweet man whom I had loved for so long. It was not as easy as it might have seemed to anyone looking in from the outside, who knew only the John of today. And I have to wonder if he is sad, too, when he thinks of that young man.

[From People Magazine, print edition, July 12, 2010]

It’s sad that Elizabeth is somehow blaming herself for her husband acting like a dog in heat. Read what she said “It was hard [for him] to live with somebody who’s disappointed in him.” It’s as if she didn’t have good cause to be “disappointed”! Hell she had good cause to kick his ass to the curb, take half his money and talk smack about him to every outlet in town. The guy lied on national television and continues to lie to her, and she doesn’t even seem to question him. Did she even see or hear about Rielle’s Oprah interview? I understand why this lady is still in denial about her husband’s actions, and I understand that she must be desperate to keep her family together as she faces cancer and perhaps the end of her life. I feel sorry for her, but more than that I want to somehow convince her that it’s not her fault that John did this to her and that she no longer has to worry about him. It’s time she took care of herself, and told John to go to hell. He may have been a great dad and partner for decades, but he’s no longer that person. She realizes that, but can’t let go and see reality.

Elizabeth’s biography, Resilience, was re-released June 29th after first coming out last year.

WASHINGTON - OCTOBER 20:  Elizabeth Edwards, wife of former senator John Edwards (D-NC), prepares to testify before the Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on Administrative Oversight and the Courts on Capitol Hill October 20, 2009 in Washington, DC. Edwards, a senior fellow at the Center for American Progress, testified about how reforming bankruptcy law might help alleviate the impact of some medical debt.  (Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images)

Elizabeth Edwards, a senior fellow on healthcare issues at the Center for American Progress and wife of former Sen. John Edwards (D-NC) testifies before a House Judiciary Committee hearing entitled Medical Debt - Is Our Health Care System Bankrupting Americans? in Washington on July 28, 2009. (UPI Photo/Kevin Dietsch) Photo via Newscom

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  1. Dirty Martini says:

    What I dont get is why she feels so completely justified in talking endless trash about some skank, but moderating her tone toward the man who violated their marital vows, who lied to her, and who deceived her and their family? Why doesnt she place the real fault for who devastated her to the person who promised her lifelong fidelity–not the skank who never met her and never promised her anything?

  2. Lola says:

    these people need to STFU and work on their “shattered” lives instead of doing press tours.

    Oh wait, that wouldn’t get money. Riiiiight.

  3. bite me says:

    i don’t know maybe privately she lets john have it, for the sake of the innocent children involve in this mess she trying to be gracious to johnny boy in public

  4. Marjalane says:

    Never really cared for the Edwards, but I find it pitiful that she has more contempt for skanky Rielle- who never claimed to be anything more than a gypsy famewhore- than her lying sack of sh*t, holier than thou, son of a millworker, church-goin’, creepy husband! That’s all kinds of pathetic denial from someone who’s supposed to be a huge advocate for women’s strength.

  5. Hautie says:

    Wow, if there was a award given for Passive-Aggressive public behavior, she is a shoe in for it.

    What Mrs Edwards wants is for John to cry for her to take him back. In public for the TV camera’s.

    Which is not going to happen.

    Had he wanted to patch things up with her, he would have already done it.

    She is still desperately trying to get him to come home. And he is not going.

    And once again, she is out in public bashing Rielle and making excuses for John Edwards. She needs to move on. And get a new hobby besides the whole poor pitiful wife thing.

    And for a woman who has been terminal for years (3+) she sure seems healthy. Out on book tour and chatting up all the Networks about her plight.

  6. snowball says:

    Her eldest daughter said that her cancer is far, far worse than Elizabeth is saying, that it’s spread to her back, legs and I believe she said it’s in her skull (although not her brain).

    Maybe at the point that all this happened, with the state of her health, she just has never been in a place where she wanted to lop him out of her life that way. Not that she has any illusions about what he is, just that she does need to keep that picture of him, that idea that he was a good man that somehow just drifted into some bad stuff (mid-life crisis mode). She can’t or won’t see what a weak person he is.

    With all the things she has heaped on her right now, with what time she may have left, I’ll give her a pass on this one.

    Rielle is a piece of trash, and while John is too, I’ll let her keep her delusions because she still has to believe that she’s leaving her kids in competent hands.

  7. KsGirl says:

    “I know what John tells me, which is ‘under no circumstances.’ But obviously, I’m the last person in the world who knows the truth about these things.”

    The hell? Could that statement BE any more passive?

  8. llb says:

    Elizabeth Edwards’ eyebrows bug the shit out of me. Why why why does she pluck them so far apart????

  9. mln says:

    She was on Larry King a couple of nights ago and I watched it one really sad part was when she said she realized she would never be held in a romantic way again. I feel sorry for the woman. I think she just had the mentality of a loyal political wife and got stuck with the worst kind of cad.

  10. irishserra says:

    I think John Edwards is a pathetic trash, as is Rielle, but sadly, Elizabeth Edwards has flung herself into the trash heap with them. I find it very difficult to muster up any pity for this melodramatic famewhore.

  11. mimi says:

    Elizabeth Edwards needs to look up the word “privacy” in the dictionary. Then she needs to look up the word “narcissism”. Finally, she needs to read up on Jackie Onassis. If nothing else, it will keep her busy and off the airwaves.

  12. Wisteria says:

    “Did she even see or hear about Rielle’s Oprah interview?”

    Yes, I read in a recent interview that she said she wasn’t going to watch it, but then did end up watching some of it. So, she’s not uninformed, just in denial I guess.

  13. Jesus Christ Superstar says:

    Off topic (kinda): I suggest everyone run out right now and read “Game Change” by Mark Halperin and John Heilemann. It gives you a fascinating, behind-the-scenes account of the presidential campaign of ’08. While the Edwards are not featured as heavily as Obama and Clinton, the authors still reveal insight into their relationship with each other and with their campaign staff. I’m reading it right now and can’t put it down. So good and juicy.

  14. TeeTee says:

    all of that stress has advanced her cancer, I am sure.

    does he have money in her family??

    I hope she leaves everything to her daughter and he gets not one thin dime.

  15. Hautie says:

    Contrary to what seems to be consider fact, John Edwards made a fortune being a Lawyer.

    And because he is wealthy in his own right, she can’t cut him off and force him to return to her either.

    She is not the sad little trust fund girl whose evil husband is still living off her money.

  16. EMV says:

    I feel so awful about anyone who is suffering of cancer….however she is ridiculous and living a lie just like her husband. The audacity of what he did during the campaign ( lie and then gave obama his votes,knowing that his political career was over, not giving hil a chance) and she went along with it is despicable enough. She is living off of his money( of being an ambulance chaser and medical “malpractice” lawyer) and now has a book so that she can hopefully have her own money… I feel sorry for her because she is living either in denial or she is trying to fool us just like her husband has fooled people.

  17. jc126 says:

    I think she’s reluctant to REALLY trash her husband on the record given that she does have kids with him, and after she’s probably gone, she doesn’t want her kids to be thinking of all the terrible things she said. I give her a pass – she didn’t start any of this.
    I’m still hoping she has a miracle recovery, but it seems quite doubtful.

  18. Rosanna says:

    Me thinks that EE is trying to revenge and create troubles between JE and RH….

  19. YeaRight!!! says:

    Why doesn’t she just shut up already?

    We get it. John’s a cheater. Riehle Hunter is a nut job.

    And she has cancer.

    Big deal. There are thousands of people out of work, losing their homes, unemployment has been cut off for many more.

    I think her constantly yapping about being the poor little rich cheated on wife, is getting nauseating.

  20. Raven says:

    I’m cutting her a lot of slack. I’ve read up on the mental aspects of cancer since a colleague of mine got it. The cancer itself and treatment can affect cognitive functioning. I have sadly seen these effects in my colleague who continues to work part-time. Elizabeth needs a longtime friend or close family member to help her in dealing with various issues. That would include just staying away from the media which cannot benefit her in any way.

    I’m not surprised she has been affected by Sandra Bullock’s conduct in her similar situation. Bullock is a media genius as far as I’m concerned. I don’t remember anyone ever doing it better.

  21. machiavelli says:

    Elizabeth Edwards is as pathetic as John Edwards. They both milked the death of their child and her cancer as much as they could, for political gain. They are merely opportunists. Oh, those self-pitying appearances on talk shows during the election (Oprah’s confession couch, among others) was just PATHETIC. How low will one stoop? Integrity, anyone?

    Her behaviour, especially coming from an educated woman, is shameful. Cancer is no excuse. (This is not to take away from what cancer does to people/family.) If she can write a book and appear on many talk shows to promote her book or tell her ‘woe be me’ story, she certainly is cognisant and strong enough.

    Since this is all playing out in the public eye, she should just take a stand and acknowledge his lying, cheating behaviour and set an example to her daughters. Right now, she is teaching them that it is ok, for a man to cheat on a woman and not be held responsible. She is teaching them to be self-pitying instead of being courageous enough to kick a cheating husband to the curb or at least call him on it. ( I know, not all cheating needs to end in kicking to the curb. She does not have to trash him. Just acknowledge it, and go away.

  22. Just a Poster says:

    Raven exactly. I have wondered for a long time if it has spread to her brain also.

    Brain tumor and cancer treatments really can alter ones behavior.

    And lets face it, media outlets will print and air what she says without blinking an eye because it sells, and I bet they never ever have any scruples about her condition.

    I do not agree with her behavior nor do I like it, but in a strange way I can see how cancer is affecting it.

  23. Jeri says:

    Hautie: Are you giving her grief because she looks healthy while being terminal with cancer??? My Gawd, why don’t you just wish her away all the quicker!

    I certainly don’t agree with any of their behavior but I don’t begruge Elizabeth health while she has it.

    I hope their children take from this how they never ever want to behave, be treated or have their privacy made public for others enjoyment & judgement.

  24. jc126 says:

    What are you talking about, #21? She DID dump him. What exactly do you want her to say about him that will constitute kicking him to the curb?
    I think half the comments trashing her are just from people who disagree with the Edwards politically, frankly.

  25. Legend says:

    “The cancer itself and treatment can affect cognitive functioning. Elizabeth needs a longtime friend or close family member to help her in dealing with various issues. That would include just staying away from the media which cannot benefit her in any way.”

    While I think Elizabeth was known to behave somewhat irrationally before all this tragedy, I have to think there is some truth to this statement. I really, really, really hope she keeps the separation/divorce proceedings going though. He’ll remarry (probably Reille) two seconds after she’s dead and she needs to do something to protect the assets for her kids.

  26. Wresa says:

    I actually thought she was speaking unselfishly and coming from a place where she’s trying to find peace with the way things turned out….but apparently I’m the only one, ha.

  27. Kiska says:

    The woman is dying and she has been through hell and back. If I was her, I’d spend my last days far away from the press, John Edwards, and surround myself with my loved ones.

  28. denise says:

    Elizabeth looks so old for John. I could’nt believe that was his wife when I first saw her.

  29. Orbit says:

    Very interesting thread and some great comments. Perhaps she hasn’t divorced because something in NC law, a family trust, or a post-nup gives her heirs greater rights if she’s still married when she dies?

    She and Rielle must be the only people on earth who can’t see that John is lying, cheating scum. Even Rielle might see it, but, overlooking it, has parlayed the affair into fame, income, and child support.

  30. It is simple says:

    Of course Elizabeth has told John everything these posts have been harping about. She has certainly chewed him out and then kicked him out. BUT, what you unempathetic people do not get is this will be the remaining parent once she does pass away. Seriously, you think she should bash him in public to satisfy readers even though it will inevitably get back to the children who call him father and will live with him after Elizabeth dies? Come on, think before you type.

  31. domdom says:

    Just read “The Politician” written by the poor guy who once claimed he fathered John’s child with Rielle . The anger EE showed him only matches the one she shows for RH. It seems she is angry at all those who exposed the Edwards as being far away from Presidential figures. And she would have forgiven him all his misshaps if they had ended up on the Hill. She might even still has hopes for him which is why she does not want to go at him too violently….blows me away