Robin Thicke: ‘If you don’t fight’ in a relationship, then ‘you need to move on’

Robin Thicke

Robin Thicke and Paula Patton are currently be sleeping off the party in NYC right now. These are photos of them last week all over London, and I’m not really sure what Paula is wearing. She usually does a lot better in the style department, but Robin looks just as sleazy as always. Kinda hot sleazy but sleazy nonetheless.

Robin has an interview in the November issue of Elle magazine. He doesn’t talk about his music but focuses on chicks. Mostly he talks about his wife and answers the obligatory big d–k” question. Then he once again lays it on thick(e) when talking about how much he loves Paula. The real kicker is his discussion of what he learned from his dad, Alan, about how to get with da ladies. Did you know that Alan Thicke was/is a womanizer? I’ll never think of Mr. Seaver the same again. Gross:

Robin Thicke

Alan Thicke’s womanizing rep: “My dad was single my whole pubescent period. [Laughs] He had Ms. Alabama, Ms. Dominican Republic–every week. I was like, Dang, Pops. He had an indoor Jacuzzi, and he frequented it. The first time I saw a naked woman was when I went to take a shower one morning before school. I was like, Who is this girl in my shower?

His dad’s dating advice: “He was always very intuitive. And very smooth. He didn’t really tell me what to do. He told me what not to do, which is actually more important. We were on vacation and some pretty girl walked by. I started ogling her like a 12-year-old boy, and he said, ‘I know she’s pretty, but you stared at her and followed her across the room. What if there’s a prettier girl sitting two tables away? Now she’s not going to feel special. She’ll say, ‘You look at all the girls like that.’ You’ve gotta play it cool so you don’t look like you’re desperate.”

How big is his wang anyway? “Listen, compared to my son, I’m packing. If I’m next to LeBron James? It’s probably not quite as impressive.”

: “I write songs like ‘The Sweetest Love.’ Of course I’m a little cheesy. Love is cheesy. Love is corny. But it’s also the greatest feeling in the whole world.”

On being with Paula since age 14: “I’m sure when your parents get divorced when you’re seven, maybe as a kid I thought, I’m going to take care of my wife. I’ll be a great husband. But the real reason is because of the person that I met. We’re pretty sure we’ve loved each other for a few lives.”

Does he get jealous of her love scenes? “Who wouldn’t? Those are my lips. I support her first. I never make it an issue while she’s filming. And then when she’s done, I ask a few questions. Oh yeah, you like that? Then it’’ gone. It was harder when I was younger. Now I’d be like, Okay, come on home. Me and the baby are watching The Croods.”

On keeping spice in the bedroom: “The spice is not our problem. We’re overspiced. We could probably take a few spices off the shelf.”

Does he listen to his own music while doing it? “Yes. In fact, she likes to do it more than ever now. Sometimes she’ll even play groupie for me.”

He’s so misunderstood: “My gift and my curse is that I really want to be loved. What drives me to make music is love–whether it’s shallow or deep or whatever. I want to do things that make people love me.”

How he romances Paula: “The rose petals all over the floor…. [I’m that guy.] I like to take her out to a fancy, six-course meal that lasts three hours and stare into her eyes. Of course it’s a little schmaltzy. There’s nothing women love more than an effort. You can even mess it up. The shoes that you bought don’t have to be right. You might have gotten the wrong chocolates. But she’ll know if you made an effort.”

Do they ever fight? “Oh yeah! If you don’t fight, then you don’t care. If you’re not fighting for the relationship, you need to move on.”

[From Elle]

Are you buying Robin’s script about what a wonderful, doting husband he claims to be to Paula? Part of me wants to believe it. She seems happy, and they talk a good talk. There are still those rumors of an open marriage and photos of blondes getting groped. It’s definitely possible they’re playing into the role of a lusty, satisfied marriage merely to attain power couple status.

As for Robin’s claim that fighting is necessary in a relationship, I guess that’s partially true. There are so many different types of “fighting” though, you know? Some couples claim to never fight, and some freely admit they do it all the time. The bottom line is that no one ever knows what goes on behind closed doors, and I’m convinced that far too many people (including Robin and Paula) might be lying about the true dynamics of their relationship.

Robin Thicke

Robin Thicke

Robin Thicke

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  1. Lark says:

    He’s so sleazy, but he gave an interview years ago where he basically out and out said he had an open relationship. I think he even said he and his wife had threesomes, in addition to the open comment. She said something along similar lines. So lol at the BIs and people being shocked at them…because this has been known in the black community for a long ass time. And I’m not saying he’s sleazy because of the open marriage, because different strokes for different folks, but just the way he talks about women and that ridiculous music video.

  2. Kit says:

    “I know she’s pretty, but you stared at her and followed her across the room. What if there’s a prettier girl sitting two tables away? Now she’s not going to feel special.”

    Ugh. I feel kind of dirty just from reading that.

  3. PixieWitch says:

    He should have said “if you bone other women, then you need to move on, you just don’t care”

    • Jenny says:

      I disagree wholeheartedly. If they love each other and support each other emotionally and she’s okay with him sleeping with other women, why on earth would he move on? That’s a sweet deal. And if the rumors of her being bisexual are true and they have threesomes, they’re both probably happy to be doing what they’re doing and it works for them. They’ve been married for several years and still seem very enthusiastic about each other. I think that’s more of an accomplishment than being unhappily married in monogamous situation.

  4. brin says:

    He just needs to move on.

  5. Diana says:

    It sounds like all the parading of women his dad did before him during such an impressionable period was really damaging. I do feel for him- he is a lost soul and has no idea!

    • Jayna says:

      He said in his Oprah interview the other day that both of his parents were off working a lot, and he literally was the white, privileged, rich kid in a mansion all to himself. His parents loved him, but he had a lot of freedom and money in his teens. He said Paula saved him and opened his eyes to a lot because she was passionate about so many things and would take him to movies and always pointing out prejudice, etc. He says that she is just a truly good and righteous person and without her he doesn’t know what he would have become, that she grounded him.

  6. lenje says:

    I know this is an interview with him and about him, but please… asking him how he feels watching his wife’s love scenes, while he dances around naked girls in the music video? Pffft.

  7. mrspatrickbateman says:

    His wife looks like a man.

  8. Mirna says:

    Nothing says devotion like a picture of you with your hand knuckle-deep in someone else’s hoo-ha.

  9. blue marie says:

    You know, I’m looking at his package in the photos and see a bit of cameltoe, so what does that tell ya?

    The rest, ugh, I don’t care about their relationship. Paula looks like she’s wearing Minnie Mouse’s disco outfit.

    • I Want To Live In New York says:

      I came here to say something similar.

      I looking, I’m looking, I’m looking, I’m looking, I do not see any bulge!

  10. linlin says:

    I don’t know who’s worse he or his father.

  11. doofus says:

    she REALLY needs a stylist.

    or a BETTER stylist.

  12. paola says:

    So not only he’s a sleazebag but he paints his father as one too! Alan Thicke was a respectable man before his big mouthed son started dishing the dirt about private life. This guy needs to STFU. No one needs to know all the details of his sex life and the sex life of his family. Once you cross that line you become gross and tacky. As if in the world’s standard having promiscuous sex is something you base your whole life on. Geez get a grip, everybody has sex but nont everybody is so stupid to share it with the world.

    • Tammy says:

      First, Alan Thicke has always been a douchebag. I watching Growing Pains when I was a teenager and I distinctly remember about all the gossip surround him at the time. It was well known he was the biggest womanizer in Hollywood at the time & basically lost Gloria Loring because of it. He also said some stupid shit about Tracy Gold’s eating disorder… the man is a pig. Second, Robin Thicke is a thousand times better than his father… as a husband and a father. So what if Paula and him have an open relationship? He has been with her since he was 14 years old… this says a lot about who he is as a person. Have you had a relationship last that long? So give it a rest already about Robin Thicke.

      • Christoff says:

        It is never “so what if they have an open relationship”. Nothing is sadder or sleazier. Don’t get married then

        And what of “being together since they were 14”? So–childhood pals grown up together. What of it? High school sweethearts marry all the time and don’t have “open” relationships.

  13. Naye in VA says:

    I like what Bedhead said about the type of fighting that takes place. I hate when some people really don’t know when to move on and use the excuse that fighting is normal,when their fighting is out of control. When your fights spill into public, and are littered with disrespect, and maybe even some violence, don’t try to sell me with that “we love hard ” BS. Respect is a hallmark of love, period.

    That being said, they do seem like a sweet couple. It’s hard to argue with people who have been together over 20 years, especially in this industry

    • Stef Leppard says:

      IMO a relationship doesn’t *need* fighting per se. It needs for both people to be open and honest, which can sometimes lead to a disagreement. I don’t know, my husband and I very rarely fight, but we make sure to communicate our feelings so hurt feelings don’t build up and bubble over into an argument.

  14. Erinn says:

    I get the fighting thing. I know people that dated a short period before getting engaged. They’ve never had a fight. They have never seen how the other person reacts under stress. That can’t be good. We fight occasionally but we don’t disrespect each other and always apologize afterwards. I can’t imagine marrying someone and not knowing if they’ll be disrespectful in an argument or how they react to stress in general

    • Stef Leppard says:

      Erinn, I agree that fights must be respectful in order for the relationship to survive. My husband and I never swear at each other or say hurtful things for the sole purpose of hurting the other person. We try to be respectful of each other at all times and just speak honestly.

  15. Babette says:

    If there’s nothing to the relationship than “fighting for it” every day, then it’s not the right relationship. My husband and I will celebrate 20 years together in the spring, and we’ve only had maybe five major fights in all that time. We have minor disagreements, but we don’t yell & scream. When I married him, I married the person he is, not who he was at the time, thinking of all the ways I wanted to change him. I think Robin is full of crap.

  16. msw says:

    Whatever. My husband and i are in a very secure, loving relationship, and we haven’t had a fight in two years. Disagreements, sometimes even anger? Sure. But when you have mutual respect, you don’t need to fight to be heard or taken seriously. Some people don’t mind it or even like to fight, but it certainly isn’t a tell tale sign that you care about someone or a guarantee of passion.

    When we were young (we were barely out of childhood when we started dating) we fought all the time, and it sucked. Thank goodness we grew out of it as we got older. I like a relatively drama free relationship so much better. Of course it doesn’t mean I don’t care about my spouse or my relationship; that’s just naive.

  17. AlmondJoy says:

    Aside from all his douchey behavior and his wife’s black tights with white shoes (a sin!) I agree with the statement he made in the title of this post. Other than that I think the Robin/Paula relationship discussion is overkill at this point. The story is basically always the same, the comments are always the same.

    • AlmondJoy says:

      So I was totally wrong, thought he said you need to fight FOR your relationship, not in a relationship. So I disagree with him.

  18. RHONYC says:

    “The spice is not our problem. We’re overspiced. We could probably take a few spices off the shelf.”


    hilarious. 😆

  19. MonicaQ says:

    My husband and I are too lazy to fight.

    Unless we’re playing Marvel v Capcom. Then he’s a cheating asshole.

    • doofus says:

      lmao…when I used to game with the bf, we would fight SO HARD while playing NBA Jam, and I’d accuse him of cheating, too!

  20. PoliteTeaSipper says:

    “if you have to tell someone you are a lady, you aren’t.” that’s what I thought of reading his statements. Also all those people on Facebook who are constantly spouting off about how perfect their marriage is, how perfect their spouse is, how wonderful and fulfilling their lives are…and then all of a sudden they get divorced.

  21. Sarah says:

    the first words of the advice from his father sounded nice but the ending really screwed it up. “dont stare, not because its creepy and she might not like it, no you limited your chances with women who are better because they are better looking.”

    for the sake of their child i hope they are fine in the relationship but we all know what happens when famous people gush about their marriage in every interview.

  22. RobN says:

    I always think that couples that fight and then brag about how passionate their relationship is are only fighting to mask the fact that they’ve got nothing else to talk about. It’s perfectly ok to be in a nice stable happy relationship but lots of people think that if you’re not living some sort of drama all the time, that there’s something missing. There’s not.

  23. pantalones en fuego says:

    I’m not going to judge. They’ve been together longer than some of y’all have been on this planet so they’re doing something right. Also, I think that he’s kind of onto something about the “if you don’t fight you don’t care” thing.

  24. Feebee says:

    He doesn’t elaborate on how they fight or what they fight about so I think it’s a little rough for us to judge him on the ‘if you don’t fight you don’t care’ wording. Also because the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference, so that’s maybe what he meant. If you just don’t give a whatever, you don’t even bother fighting, then it is time to move on.

  25. Terrile says:

    Some people crave drama, and this is why they want fights in their relationships. Its just sad.

  26. chalkdustgirl says:

    They both need to slow down with the partying–they’re not 20, and it’s catching up to them!