Tilda Swinton & her younger lover Sandro Kopp take a romantic stroll in Paris


God, I would love to live Tilda Swinton’s life for just a day. Here are some new pics of Tilda and her boyfriend Sandro Kopp taking a romantic stroll in Paris over the weekend. Tilda is 53 years old – Sandro is 18 years younger at 35. Badass. Tilda and Sandro aren’t photographed together all that often – I think they average about two or three sightings a year together. So it’s always an event when we see them. I’m glad they’re still together – I think they’ve been a couple since 2008-ish. More than five years, for sure.

Sandro is an artist and I’m still not really sure where he lives and where he works. I don’t think he follows Tilda around when she’s on location, but I have no way of knowing for sure. I suspect they mostly live in NYC or London. So why are they in Paris? Did Tilda just want a romantic getaway? Sandro has always had this beard, by the way. I suspect that without the beard, he would look like a dark-haired Tom Hardy. And I’m into it. I’m into both of them, quite frankly. I want to be invited to join in their lovemaking. It will be experimental, intense and beautiful.

Here’s the trailer for Only Lovers Left Alive (again):

PS… Does it amuse anyone else that Tilda and Brad Pitt have the same haircut these days?



Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.

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  1. TheOriginalKitten says:

    They look so sexy and chic together.

    I wish I was in Paris :(

  2. Really says:

    Is coconut water the secret to her youthful looks? MUST DRINK COCONUT WATER.

  3. aims says:

    She is badass, I bow to her. She’s incredible, I adore her.

  4. QQ says:

    …this fantastic Bitch!!!…i cant even step to..

  5. Lizzie says:

    That film looks so good.

  6. ag-UK says:

    I think they live in the middle of nowhere in some part of Scotland with her twins and EX :) AND she looks the same age as he does. He reminds me of the ad agency guys now all with beards.

  7. Jules says:

    I love that he is taller than her. (And very hot.)

  8. marina says:

    She has always creeped me out.

    • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

      Me too. She’s not a sexy androgynous like Bowie’s Ziggy Stardust. She’s the kind of person I cringe at the thought of having sex with anyone 😝

      • Tulip Garden says:

        I feel the same way! I was beginning to think that I was the only one that just didn’t get it. Like you, I find plenty of androgynous looks sexy, I’m thinking Jonathon Rhys Meyers right now, but she just makes me cringe too

  9. Anna says:

    Am I the only one who doesn’t understand her appeal?

    • Willa says:

      No you’re not the only one. And I don’t ever click on her links but I wanted to see what her boyfriend looked like.

    • BW says:

      I think it’s that she marches to her own drummer. She doesn’t wear makeup. She’s not botoxed or filled or tweaked or siliconed. She doesn’t have hair extensions. She’s not in some drama with her ex-husband. They still live together and raise their children, while both having new significant others. She dresses to please herself and not what Hollywood thinks a woman should look like. And she’s a good actress.

      • Camille (TheOriginal) says:


        In other words: She is awesome.

        (Plus her BF is from New Zealand, so that makes her doubly awesome hehe :) .)

      • Roberta says:

        I think she’s amazing, and she obviously looks after herself, but I’d be surprised if she hadn’t had some clever and subtle work done, especially to look that good at 53.

    • Tig says:

      To me, her range as an actress is what’s so amazing- if you have never seen her movies, check out I Am Love and We Need to Talk Abiut Kevin. You really have a hard time believing it’s the same actress.

      Her RC approach is hit or miss- but she clearly has fun with it. I hope this newest movie shows somewhere close to me!

      • YuYa says:

        We Need to Talk About Kevin was an awesome movie, and she was so so good and believable as the mother in that role.

  10. Zbornak Syndrome says:

    I wish I was her lover. Lucky bastard

  11. Abs says:

    My lord, these two.

  12. Stef Leppard says:

    Her hair looks so fluffy and amazing! I wish I could pull off that hairdo.

  13. hadleyb says:

    I used to like her, I guess I still do somewhat but finding out ( yes I know years later ) she sided with the whole Polanski deal put me off of her .. and so many other actors. Shame.

    I love her “look” and style ! She isn’t pretty or beautiful but she is striking in a way that is not all baby doll porn with pushed up tits and I love that. She wears outfits and carries herself in way I wish more celebs did without looking like they are insecure or trying too hard.

    • Veruca says:

      I feel the same way.

      While I do like her style and she is very talented, the fact that she defended Polanski (and that everyone overlooks that when worshiping her) is something I can’t get past.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        I don’t get that. Do these Hollywood actors know something about Polanski’s trial that we don’t? Or is it that they don’t know the whole story, so when the petition came around, they just signed it?

        Because I know that when I heard of Polanski’s rape trial, what I got out of it was that he had consensual sex with a minor (she was 14 or 15 right?). And I was grossed out, thought he was skeevy, but I didn’t get why it was huge deal still (which I hadn’t known that he fled after his trial).
        It wasn’t until a few years later, that I heard the full story–that he DRUGGED and RAPED a model. It was on the Emma Thompson post–someone asked her why she took her name off the Polanski petition, and she said it was because she hadn’t heard the whole story from her friend (who told her that she should sign), and was horrified when her fans did write to her and tell her.

        I think that we sometimes assume that just because they work in Hollywood, they themselves know all the gossip.

  14. V4Real says:

    I find it funny that no one is complaining about their age difference because a lot of readers on C/ B adore Tilda. Had this been another older woman/younger man pairing such as Madonna or JLow people would be ripping them apart.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      35 and 50 is not a big deal though IMO.

      I’m almost 35 and while I wouldn’t seek out a 53-year-old man, I could see how a guy with the magnetism and talent of Swinton would be really attractive to me.

      Lopez at 43 was dating a 25-year-old and Madonna at 53 was dating a 24-year-old. There’s just a huge difference in the emotional maturity between 20s and 40s.

      Additionally, Kropp isn’t just young arm candy for Swinton-I’m pretty sure they’ve been dating for 5 years at least.

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        My father-in-law married a woman 13 years his junior (she was 21, only 13 years older than my husband and 11 years older than his sister, and my father-in-law was 34). According to my husband and SIL, she was emotionally immature and tried to compete with the kids for their fathers attention. She’s now 47 and she still behaves the same way. She is my FIL’s second wife (his first was his age ). Now that I’m 33, my FIL jokes that my husband should trade me in for a younger model soon. I wonder if this is attitude of most people who date significantly younger than them? Do they need someone younger to validate them in some way? To make them feel more youthful or desirable?

        I’m unimpressed by Tilda’s ability to keep her young lover. After all, he’s an “artist” (with no apparent income) and she probably funds his chic jet-setting lifestyle. It just seems like another case of the younger person using their wealthy, older lover for the money/lifestyle and the older person using their young lover for some sort of validation/ego boost.

      • Kim1 says:

        I agree my slight issue with Madonna and her BF is that she is OLDER than his mother.Imagine you son having a girlfriend who is ten years older than YOU.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        @Mort-But Kopp is a very talented painter and while not known in the US, has achieved admirable success in the NZ art scene. His painting sell for $3K-$35K. I don’t think he has any reason to latch on to Swinton’s coattails for money or for fame.
        I don’t get why it would be so difficult to see these two genuinely loving each other..?
        Both are quirky, artsy and unconventional-they seem like a perfect match IMO.

      • Miss Jupitero says:

        Sandro Kopp isn’t her “lover.” I think they are actually married. And he sounds absolutely adorable. Here is an article about one of his projects:


      • Miss Jupitero says:

        As far as the age difference goes, I only feel squicked when the younger party is, say under the age of 25 and the older party is into the forties and beyond.

        There is a lot of growing up that happens in one’s twenties, and older relationships often don’t help. I speak as someone who had older relationships in my twenties. It really isn’t something I recommend.

        Sandro is no child. And Tilda is not like anybody else on this planet.

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        @kitten, I wonder what his annual income is? How many paintings is he selling? 10 at $3,000 a pop and the occasional $35,000? There’s nothing available as far as networth goes, so my guess is that he isn’t worth much and probably relies on Tilda as his primary source of income. Plus, he’s an aspiring actor with a few acting credits to his name (all as extras, might I add). So he appears to be a man of modest talent and means, riding on the coat tails of a successful, wealthy older woman. A classier version of Casper smart or baby Jesus, if you will 😉

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        See, I think I’m a bit more immune to age differences–my dad was 21 when he married my mom, who was 34 with three kids. And they’ve been together for 14 years.
        The only time I side eye it is when it is like JLo and Caspar. Jlo is actively promoting him in her shows–he was a (back, back,back) back up dancer, and now he’s one of the lead dancers in her shows and music videos. She made him a choreographer. Because they’re sleeping together–NOT because he’s that talented. And he’s a smug douche–earlier this year, on one of their posts, a woman posted on here that her son/daughter knew Caspar and said that he was acting like he’s hot shit because he’s with JLo. So if the relationship is like this^^^, then that’s when I side eye it.

        I mean one of my favorite couples is Ice T and Coco. Coco was 21 when they met/got married. He’s 15-20 years older than her, and I think they are amazing together. Until we see Tilda actively promoting her boyfriends work–then I don’t get why anyone cares that he’s younger than her. He chose to be with her, and they’ve been together for a while. If it wasn’t for this site, I wouldn’t have even known that she had a man.

        And I don’t know–I’ve always seen myself being with someone older. First it was because I always liked older actors (even when I was 13), now it’s because I know that I want to adopt older kids as soon as I am financially able, and I don’t really see a guy my age (mid twenties on) going for that.

      • lana86 says:

        @mort and kitten – what if both of u r right, and it’s a mix of genuine attachment and financial comfort what keeps him with her? :) Life is not black and white mostly )

  15. kct says:

    I love how the entertainment industry and media can make a pasty, bony, homely woman a subject of interest and a “badass” because she can get a younger man. Shows you don’t have to be beautiful to be popular.

    • Alexis says:

      I think she gets a lot of praise because in spite of her odd looks, she exudes a high amount of confidence and sex appeal. People really do gravitate towards that more than a “hot” girl who reeks of insecurity.

      • LeLe25 says:

        I think she is beautiful, but even if I didn’t, am I not allowed to like her? I can’t like her because she is an amazing actress with a seemingly great personality? I can’t like her because she has awesome style and a rad haircut and often rocks no makeup (like me). I mean, why can we only like “good looking people?!”

        Also, as an aside, IMO men often pick women they enjoy being around over a pretty girl they have no connection with. I’ve seen some amazingly handsome men with average looking women, and they are perfectly happy; I’d venture to say most well adjusted people don’t put too much importance on looks when searching for a partner.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      YOU don’t think she’s beautiful. If we’re talking specifically about her appearance-I personally think she’s an ethereal, unconventional beauty with amazing skin and bone structure.

      Beyond that, she’s an immensely talented actress with a pretty impressive body of work behind her. I’ll take talent and unconventional looks over a shitty actress with a pretty face any day of the week. You can keep your Biels and Albas, and I’ll take Swinton.

    • Jaded says:

      She’s never bought into the machine-made Barbie Doll conventional looks demanded by Hollywood. Tilda’s fame comes from the fact that she’s unique, intelligent, and a damn good actress, not from the entertainment industry and media “promoting” her unusual style.

  16. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I was getting all worked up about the double standard, then saw this guy. Ummm, well, I uh…holy cow. Go Tilda.

    • LadySlippers says:

      See, I’m in the minority as most May-Dec relationships don’t bother me. As long as both are okay and consenting adults (caveat: gotta be out of their teens though and solidly in their 20′s) I feel it’s not my place to judge.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        It’s totally not my place to judge, but I’m afraid I do a little when a man in say, his late forties or fifties makes it clear that he only dates women in their early twenties. It makes me think they want someone who is easily impressed or manipulated, or it’s all about surface. If two people of different ages happen to fall in love, that’s different to me than when it’s a pattern. But obviously, I can be swayed by a pretty face as much as the next person.
        Have you ever dated anyone significantly younger than you are? When I was 35, I dated a 27 year old. It actually made me feel older, not younger. To each his own, I guess.

  17. Janeite says:

    I have nothing but love for Tilda Swinton ever since I first saw her in Orlando. Her looks are not traditionally pretty but that is one of the things I like about her. The age difference between her and her boyfriend doesn’t bother me; he may be younger in years but it doesn’t seem as if he’s just some boy-toy.

  18. Julie says:

    I love her in Narnia.

  19. Kortnee says:

    That bleached out hair looks simply awful.

  20. Gia says:

    Omg he is hot as f-ck.

  21. V4Real says:

    I don’t like the excuse of emotional maturity. There are young men out there who are very mature for their age and there are older men who still act immature. I dated a guy who was 10 years younger than me but he had an old soul and very mature in every way.

    I’m willing to bet if this was another celeb posters didn’t care for she would be getting blasted for dating a younger guy or they would be questioning his motives for being with her. 18 year age difference is a big gap.

  22. E-v-E says:

    Tilda rules, grown to like her over the years. When I was younger I thought she was just creepy. There aren’t enough of Tilda’s in the HW today. Or at all? Also, Hiddles should consider permanent extensions, he’s something else with longer hair. #Swoontown.

  23. RHONYC says:


    the ‘Only Lovers Left Alive’ trailer looks amazing! my heart is in my throat!
    8O i haven’t seen a good dark romantic movie in forever. i SO can’t wait!

  24. Timber says:

    She looks like his male lover.

  25. Michelle says:

    Swinton lives in Nairn, overlooking the Moray Firth in the Highland region of Scotland with her twins and her partner Sandro Kopp, a German/New Zealand painter. John Byrne, father to their twins Honor and Xavier (born 1997), lives in Edinburgh with his partner Jeanine Davies.[33]

    Wikipedia. Took 2 mins.

  26. boo says:

    I love Tilda, her looks, her acting, are superb. So, not in the vein of the popular Hollywood actresses that look like they came out of a factory. All the same. She is such an individual in her looks, in her movies, and it appears, in her life. I say more power to her.

  27. vixo says:

    OMG, Tom looks super hot on the movie trailer !!

  28. nancy says:

    all i have to say is……ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!