Cameron Diaz: Women should have ‘lots of lovers’ instead of ‘one man’

Cameron Diaz

These are photos of Cameron Diaz in Sydney with The Other Woman co-stars Kate Upton and Leslie Mann. All three women may be ripping through a press tour, but it’s Cameron’s mouth that gains most of the attention. Cami likes it that way. She’s outspoken and strong in her beliefs. That’s fine, but she’s coming off as a little overbearing lately. I was excited about watching this movie in the theater, but now Netflix will do. That’s a shame because I usually enjoy Cameron’s interviews, but she’s gone overboard on this tour.

If only Cameron would qualify her statements with an “in my experience,” I think her recent interviews would be more well received. Cameron keeps telling us that everyone gets cheated on. Every woman wants to sleep with other women. No person is really naturally monogamous. Now Cameron says women should have “lots of lovers” instead of hanging with just one guy. She doesn’t specify whether this rule should apply over a lifetime or one day. Just do it, ladies:

Actress Cameron Diaz has said having “lots of lovers” is better than trying to stick with one man.

The star of The Other Woman, a film about fidelity, claimed it was almost impossible for couples to stay married for life.

Cameron, 41, said: “We can have all of these girlfriends, all of these friendships. I know with my girlfriends I do totally different things with each one of them.

“I have different conversations. We like things that others don’t like There are different commonalities in each one of them and when I want to do those certain things, I can go to that girlfriend and we do those things together.

“That’s perfectly fine that she doesn’t like to do the thousands of other things that I like to do. I’m perfectly okay with that with her.

“For some reason, we get into relationships and we expect one man to understand ‘all’ the parts of us and meet all of those needs. “I think that’s where everything fails.”

Asked if having lots of partners was better, the single star added: “Why not? Why would that be so bad?”

In an interview promoting the new film, she also revealed she is writing another book that will follow up her women’s advice guide The Body Book.

She said: “These things evolve. You start off with one concept, do the research and the pieces fall into place.”

[From The Mirror]

Cameron makes sense in a meandering way in this interview. She has trouble getting to the point. She has a point about girlfriends. Some friends are better for dinner conversations, some are good for gym sessions, and some are good movie buddies. I can buy Cam’s logic that not every man can provide every thing that a woman desires in a relationship. It still sounds like she’s demanding that every woman MUST bang every dude with one or two decent qualities. Enough with the sweeping statements already.

One thing about Cameron that doesn’t bother me: At least she’s not telling us what to eat. Maybe she’ll save that for The Body Book II.

Cameron Diaz

Cameron Diaz

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  1. Seapharris7 says:

    “Look at me! Look at me! I’m not insecure with my age & lack of a stable healthy relationship!”

  2. Sara says:

    I think a lot of pressure is put on relationships in general. I always feel weird when someone tells me their spouse is their “best friend”, as if that’s a great thing. Having fun with your partner is not the same thing as being a “best friend”. I’ll go further: I think it’s great to have your own interests, your own thing, even to have a few secret thoughts. Keeps things interesting.
    I’ve seen a lot of couples morph into each other. When they break up they have nowhere to go in a way…

    • Renee says:

      Hey Sara,

      What do you mean by “they have no where to go”? I’m not challenging you, I think I am missing what you are meaning.

      • Sara says:

        I mean, if you wrap your entire identity in being “the perfect couple”, if your closest friend and you get separated or divorced…where do you go? Who do you talk to? I’ve been cut out of my friends’ lives because “I don’t have time on the weekends, my husband and I do everything together”. That’s really putting all your eggs in the same basket.

        Look, I get that priorities exist. Also it’s hard to work, have a mariage, kids, whatever. But all relationships end, be it separation or death. And one day you’re going to need your best friends.

      • merski says:

        If I understand what Sara is saying correctly, and I agree with her point, is that couples who do everything together all the time for many years end up having the same circle of friends, the same habits, they’re not used to doing anything by themselves. And when they break up after a long time, it’s so very hard to find their own place in life. They kind of have to start everything from scratch.
        I’ve known couples like this, too. I really cannot imagine living like that – always together, 24/7, no life of my own.

    • That’s a pet peeve of mine too.

      Best friends are there for life, you can’t divorce them.
      That being said, I take it as more of an expression indicating how close someone is to their partner. I just think that there’s value in acknowledging the physical component that’s involved in a marriage/relationship. It elevates it to a different level that just “best buds” you know? Eh…

    • Lindy79 says:

      I totally agree with this.
      I’m married and I love my husband but I was my own person for 28 years before I met him, that isn’t going to change overnight. I hate that if you say something like that, some people look at you like you’re some sort of non-feeling freak. I have a pet peeve about the saying “other half” as it implies you weren’t whole without them, which is frankly bullshit.
      (I really should work for Hallmark, haha)

      I get what Cam is saying to a point but putting it with all the other shit she’s been spouting, I just can’t.

      • Hiddles forever says:

        I can’t with her anymore too… then the constant use of ‘should’ is annoying..
        It is like when one of your friends comes to visit you, you made a mess whilst cooking and you hear ‘oh, you should do this and that’… a frying pan is ready to fly through the room at that point… I feel the same about Cameron, really…

      • Lindy79 says:

        Hiddles, that is so bang on point!
        If she said “this is how I feel and it works for me” then no one would have issue. Its her sweeping generalising statements about how everyone cheats (they don’t), monogamy isn’t natural because we’re animals (it does for some people and some animals, and if you think we should act like animals lets not pick and choose what parts we want to do) and the fact we should or shouldn’t do something that rub me up the wrong way.

      • paola says:

        At this point I’m not even sure she believes in what she says. I think she found herself at 40 knowing that her whole career was based on her looks. She was never Oscar material and I believe she is average actress and she has been helped a lot because she was a stunning blonde girl. Now she knows she has to turn tables and ‘buy’ the female audience instead of the male one. Female audience is the one who supports actresses through the older years. So she write a book to us ‘her friends’ and is lecturing us on how we SHOULD live our lives, because let’s be honest.. before Cami came along none of us knew how to deal with men, pubic hair, sex and whatever she is now filling those books with. JUST GIVE ME A F-ING BREAK!

      • paranormalgirl says:

        My husband is one of my best friends, but I have more than one best friend.

    • Hiddles forever says:

      My husband is my best friend, but we also have interests and other friends, a thing doesn’t exclude the other…. The exclusive relationships (friendships included) rarely work…….

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        My husband is my best friend because he knows and understands and loves me more than anyone else, not because we are joined at the hip. We have separate interests and in some cases, friends.

      • Francesca says:

        Mine is def my best friend. That doesn’t mean he is my only friend.. Just that he is the most supportive caring loving fun person I know.

      • JenniferJustice says:

        Me too. He is the first person I think of to tell anything to, the first to share in my excitement, plans, even gossip. That does’t mean we don’t still do our own things and Lord knows, I need my alone time and my girl time. But he is by far, still my best friend. As far as the rest of Cameron’s blather, what would she know about marriage or spouses being eachother’s best friend? Word to Cam – just because you were a ho and it didn’t work for you, don’t try to lure the rest of us into your unhealthy and unfulfilling lifestyle just so you don’t feel alone in it. You’ve got Goop single now and I’m sure she’ll jump on board your “many lovers” creed.

      • Peppa says:

        I have other friends, but I would say that my husband is also my best friend because I have been burned and stabbed in the back by a few friends, and through it all my husband was there. I truly enjoy doing things with him and spending time with him. I like doing my own thing sometimes too, but at the end of the day he is my favorite companion. I think we all have different lives and different relationships, which is why blanket statements are so bothersome. Couples joined at the hip can be quite annoying sometimes, on that I will agree.

      • DotDotDot says:

        My husband is not my best friend. My best friend has been my best friend since we were children. He doesn’t have to be. There I said it.

    • Trillian says:

      I don’t see what being someone’s best friend has to do with not having your own thing? I generally dislike the term “best” friend, that is so high school. I have 2-3 very close girl friends and yes, my partner is my male “best friend”. But of course I have my own things, my own interests and certainly my own secret thoughts. We do things together and separately, being someone’s best friend doesn’t mean spending every second with them or telling them absolutely everything that’s on your mind.

    • FLORC says:

      I’m that person.
      Before we started dating though my now husband was my best friend. Love grew from there.
      I’m also the person who can stay really great friends with exs. Ending an intimate relationship is not ending a friendship for me.

      I get the better half argument. You’re your own person before, but then you find someone else that makes you better. You adapt to them and vice versa. After them you’re not the same person you were before them. This isn’t the same as the origins of the term “Soul Mate”.

      • Lindy79 says:

        Florc I agree with you completely about the adapting and changing. Its the term “other half” specifically that gets my goat. It just implies that if you never find it or the worst happens and you lose them, you’re not whole which I think is a dangerous way of phrasing it.

    • Macey says:

      I agree and see that quite a bit, same for women who dont know what to do with themselves after their kids are grown and off to school. It really happens, same when they split. There are a lot of ppl who really dont do much or have any interest in anything outside their family, nothing wrong with that but like Sara is saying, when it does end, they are lost.
      I used to work with a woman going thru a divorce and she said she lost all of her friends in the divorce b/c most of them were her husbands anyway. she never did much outside of the soccer mom thing while her kids were growing and now she is lost and joinng meet-up groups online. Nothing wrong with that but its not the same as being with friends that have been with you thru a lot.

    • Leen says:

      I don’t think that’s a bad thing. My ex-boyfriend was my best friend but we had different lives, different group of friends, didn’t even live together. But he was my best friend.

    • Kelly says:

      I agree with you. However, I believe some people did not have a best friend until they met their lifelong partner. Real best friends are hard to come by.
      But IMO, you should have a best friend who is not your sexual partner. Because yes, to be a best friend is to be there for life. And no amount of sexual problems, infidelities, personality changes and bad selfish decisions can change that. To me, real friendship is the ultimate type of unconditional love that just doesn’t occur in marriage. Because when you take sex out of the picture and when you are friends with someone merely because you enjoy spending time with them, regardless of what they can give you (in sexual or material terms), then it becomes something real and unbreakable.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Yeah this. You articulated it much better than I could have.

      • Birdix says:

        and when a friendship like that breaks up (either in one blow or a slow fade) it can be as painful as a divorce.

    • ParisPucker says:

      Agreed. am in a situation where many of my closest friends have ‘coupled off’ and now spawning. Dynamic has completely changed and find myself spending more time w single friends. Frankly, the coupled off friends (esp w babies) are now super boring to hang out with. It’s such** a cliche, but it’s sadly true. I don’t give a rat’s ass where you got a great deal on baby-product y, etc. I still love them, but man, the conversations are painful now.

    • Will says:

      Maybe it’s because I’m gay and I might have a different outlook on this, but I swear I mean it when I say this… my partner/boyfriend actually IS my best friend. we live together (along with two female friends) but we both have our own lives, We are both trying to establish our careers and have separate sets of close friends. Our identities don’t really revolve around our relationship – we have a lot of different things we do in our alone time or with our other friends. I have a few close friends who each know a different side of me, but the thing is – he knows every side of me, the good and the bad. We do “guy” things together when we hang out, we like to go to the pub and play pool, have a beer and watch sports, hit the gym etc, I have plenty of other guy friends at my job and female friends as well.. I understand that it’s a bit ridiculous and frustrating/annoying when people make their whole life revolve around their significant other… but I don’t think it’s completely unreasonable for someone to say that their bf/gf is their best friend if they mean it. I do! and it’s fun.

  3. “Cameron Diaz: Women should have ‘lots of lovers’ ”

    Done and done.

    I don’t think anyone “should” anything. Have one lover or have fifty-whatever floats your boat.
    That being said, I’m happy that I didn’t follow in my mother’s footsteps and get married as a virgin.

    • Kiddo says:

      Yeah, no ‘point’ of reference to gauge from there, being a virgin bride. :0

      I think we should have a traveling incessant yappy circus show with Diaz and Jones. They could have a cage fight, or duke it out playing dodge ball, or any number of competitions. Diaz has the athleticism, while Jones has the brains.

      Oh crap, I just noticed she has “written” another book. WILL IT NEVER END?

      • To be fair to both contestants, the show should be an obstacle course featuring both physical components (like running and climbing) and mental components (like puzzles).
        Also, we should have at least a half mile of hanging cords that deliver electroshock, just because that would be fun to watch.
        Can we get Goop in there too?

        The finale will involve the audience dousing the contestants with a 50 ft, 400 psi firehose.

      • Kiddo says:

        YES! of course Goop! The hose is a good idea, getting sprayed in the face would require shutting their mouths for a while in order to survive.

    • I Choose Me says:

      I get why everyone’s annoyed with her but I’m going to jump in defend her again because she doesn’t actually say that. The interviewer is the one who raised the question and she said quote. “Why not? Why would that be so bad.” Nobody qualifies their statements/answers all the time and I honestly don’t think she’s advocating that every single woman should go out there and do this.

      • Kiddo says:

        Kitten likes Diaz, you don’t have to explain. She was making a joke, in a sense, and tossing in her own experience.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        It think a lot of people just read the header and not the actual article.

        That happens a lot around here.

  4. Amelia says:

    Please Cammy – STOP with the prescriptive statements.
    Just stop.
    ‘Should’ can be a really damaging word.

  5. Dani2 says:

    CAMERON should do whatever the hell makes her happy and so should every other woman. She keeps speaking as “we” and I don’t know what that’s about, maybe it’s about her being more relatable but “we” are not all the same therefore won’t want the same things out of life.

    • FLORC says:

      She’s been speaking in absolutes lately. I think too many people have been telling her she’s insightful or gives great advice. Bad move people. Her word is not law.

      She’s becomig fairly intollerable.

  6. aims says:

    Ok, so when did Cameron become a life guru? She has opinion on pubic hair, how many lovers we should have, etc. Maybe she should stick to her sub par acting.

    • Life Guru is something that female celebs in my age category *forty-ahem! Cough! Sputtter! Excuse me!* seem to think we are all looking for. I can assure them they have been misled (I’m talking to you GOOP). Please don’t regurgitate readily available information on fitness and nutrition and try to sell it back to us a la Fight Club soap. It’s tired.

  7. Renee says:

    I like the idea of lots of lovers but I am worried about diseases and it is hard for me to maintain that kind of intimacy with more than one person. But that is because I am invested in the idea of a primary partner. Now if I had someone just for banging and had my intellectual and emotional needs met elsewhere maybe that could work…

  8. TheCountess says:

    I totally co-sign not limiting oneself to one guy. Stop focusing on “the one” and just enjoy yourself with as many as you want. It’s worked for me.

  9. Hiddles forever says:

    Is she at this again??

    Pls Cammy sthu…….

  10. blue marie says:

    I can see what she’s saying and agree for the most part, now if only I could convince my guy to let my harem join us at home. (I would be so on board with this, but sadly Mr. blue doesn’t like my suggestion, go figure)

    Seriously though, everyone’s different, what works for one doesn’t work for all.

  11. embertine says:


  12. tifzlan says:

    Well, i’m quite happy with my one man and lover, whom i’ve been with for almost 5 years now. It’s long-distance, which SUCKS, but i still get the butterflies when i see him on Skype. And that’s just Skype!

    Cameron can do what she feels is best for her. And i’ll do the same for myself.

  13. cro-girl says:

    I can’t hate on her for the crap she’s coming up with lately, it sounds bad given the context and the circumstance in which she is saying it. I see no problem in someone questioning monogamy, I see no problem in someone preferring not to have a relationship or at least not needing one to feel fulfilled. I get what she is saying and she’s not wrong, but its just not good PR. I cant hate on someone for not following PR etiquette, its nice to have some real thoughts.

  14. Eve says:

    Can anyone explain to me why we should be receiving love/romance/sex advice from a woman who dated Alex Rodriguez? I mean, isn’t he the guy who has a painting of himself pictured as a centaur?

  15. BratB says:

    OK…. either people need to stop asking her what she thinks or she just needs to stop talking because I’m pretty sure that she is no authority on everyone else’s vagina or relationship……. That being said I’ll take shut the hell up for 500 Alex!

  16. mrspatrickbateman says:

    I’m not a big Cameron fan and I definitely don’t agree with most of what she’s spouting off but I’m going to give her pass because I think she’s having a meltdown of sorts. I think 20 years ago she had a much different outlook and plan for her life and now that it hasn’t happened I think she’s trying to reason out it in her mind. My sister is 38 and she thought she would be in a much different place than she is right now and I think everyone deals with it differently, if she were to be quoted for some interviews anytime in the past few years or now I have a feeling it would be cringe worthy.

    • Christin says:

      A mid-life crisis is a real thing, and people handle them differently. I don’t understand why she’s giving all these blanket statements instead of saying, to each her own.

    • TheCountess says:

      Or, maybe she’s very content with where she is in life and feels a bit like advocating for those life choices in the face of constantly being told what she should want, or what she’s going to regret not pursuing. If anything, I’ve only become more steadfast as I’ve gotten older (mid-thirties myself) speaking out on behalf of women who are not interested in marriage or babies, but who enjoy and revel in all the opportunities single life affords. She works in an industry that very conspicuously discards (most) women after a certain age; I respect her for digging in and saying, loudly, “My life does not end after thirty-five, and I don’t need to seek marriage or a single partner to find happiness.”

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        This is what I think too…but don’t say that too loudly in here.

        The problem is that married chicks with kids simply don’t understand how often single women without children in their 30s and 40s get asked about our love lives, why we’re not married, do we want kids, etc etc. It’s effin TIRESOME.

  17. Renee28 says:

    It’s possible to have lots of partners outside of a relationship and not sleep with them. I have a handful of close guy friends and I have a different relationship with each one. The travel guy, the music guy, the food guy, etc. Our relationship is centered around that one interest and that ‘s it.

  18. Dani2 says:

    EDIT: The comment I replied to was deleted, and rightfully so.

  19. Kristen says:

    I can’t muster up any f***s to give about Cameron Diaz and her opinions on monogamy. Or anything else she says, for that matter.

    • Exactly. While the rest of us were going about our processes of self-discovery, the Camerons of the world were all knee deep in their own rhetoric….some Hollywood Yes Man blowing smoke up their arses. Now that their expiration dates are nigh, they have some making up for lost time to do…

  20. Maya says:

    And all women and men should know when to shut up and be quiet.

  21. epiphany says:

    Dear Cameron,

    Sincerely, Everyone

  22. TheCountess says:

    Oh wait, I think the comment I replied to is gone, so I’m editing away my response.

  23. Shiksa Goddess says:

    Oh hey, let’s all ho it up because Cameron Diaz says so.

  24. Algernon says:

    I would like to prepare my talking points for if/when I become a celebrity:

    Food: Eat what you want, when you want. You’re a grown up.

    Exercise: We should all probably do it more, right?

    Family: We’ve all got one, so we all know how it goes.

    Kids: Whatever.

    Relationships: They can be hard, and sometimes they end, and that’s sad. But if you’re happy and not hurting anyone/being hurt by anyone, then yay!

    Sex: Whatever feels good and isn’t hurting someone else is copacetic.

    Why is it so hard for celebrities to understand multiple viewpoints?

    • frivolity says:

      That’s great!

      May I add one caveat?
      Re: Food
      Eat what you want, when you want. You’re a grown up… Just be aware you may need to deal with the repercussions of bad choices.
      (Actually, that last line goes for everything, really.)

  25. Macey says:

    Cant say I’ve ever been a Cami fan but I actually agree with a lot of what she has said even tho she may not have worded it in the best possible way. I really get what she is saying.
    Now maybe thats b/c I can relate since Ive never been interested in marriage or children but she is absolutely correct on a lot of points. They may not be something everyone wants to hear or understand, especially if you have a always been married or settled down but there’s a lot of truth to what she says even about the monogamy. I know everyone thinks its b/c of the guys she’s dated but I hear about as many affairs from my married friends (men & women) in my every day life than in the Hollywood circles. Some ppl may be surprised at the affairs going on in their circles.
    Same for what she said yesterday about married woman having issues with single women ….TRUTH! I wont say all of them but for some reason if a married woman knows a single woman is in the house, they instantly rush to try and set her up with someone or odd looks if her hubs happens to talk to you. This happens a lot so its not just a person here n there and Im certainly not the flirty type or anything like that but you can feel the glares instantly as if you might be competition or something, its nuts. I should add I dont have this issue with my close circle of friends but whenever I meet someone new that happens to be married, its like here we go again…so annoying.

    • Francesca says:

      Macey… When i was single i came to realize the women who were always rushing to pair me off were the unhappily married ones. My friends in good relationships always told me to enjoy all the freedom and possibilities of being single.

      • Macey says:

        Yep, I know that now. Like I said, my close friends ‘get me’ its just when meeting new people i go thru the same ordeal over and over
        None my close friends have ever suggested I should get married and/or have kids, they were always the opposite, like yours in telling me not to do it and enjoy the single life. In fact many added the line “marriage is overrated” Needless to say Ive been thru as many divorces as marriages with my gfs.

    • TheCountess says:

      +1 Macey.

  26. Isa says:

    Meh I have no desire to be with any more men.
    I don’t understand why she keeps talking for everyone else. I like having a bush. I like having more than one lover. I don’t think monogamy is for me. Sounds so much more confident in the choices.

  27. Tadzio says:

    Why do they have to be lovers? Men and women can be friends (with no sex attached). You can’t just go out there fawking everybody because there are way too many diseases and nut jobs out there. Eventhough you can catch something while in a monogamous relationship if the person you’re being faithful to is out cheating and being a manw*%re. But if having many lovers is her thing then do you. I couldn’t do it. It’s too much. I only like to be focused on one person.

    I have to be honest. Even with Cameron doing all of these interviews to promote this movie, it still doesn’t make me want to see it. And why do they always have to make the black woman the sassy assistant (talking about Nicki Minaj’s role) in these Hollywood movies with a predominantly white cast (Jennifer Hudson in Sex In The City movie)?

  28. Lili says:

    Well, I do think that some people should live in poly-amorous relationships because monogamy doesn’t work for everyone. Some people would just be better off sharing their love, or sex, with many different people. That goes for men as well as women. Not everyone can manage living with the same person for the rest of their life- even among those who stay together forever, there might be secret desires or a wish that they didn’t marry so young, or that they’d married another person.

    But that doesn’t really apply for everyone, and that’s what’s so annoying with Cameron Diaz’s statements. She seems to think that EVERYONE should live by one simple rule, just because it worked for her or someone she knew. And I absolutely hate when women tell other women what to do.

  29. Tadzio says:

    @Macey – That happens because those are women who are not secure in their marriage. Being married for a long time is going to take some work. Monogamy isn’t easy. My grand parents were married for a long time never divorced (grandma died of cancer). My parents were married for a great period of time (25 years), but divorced. I see the “work” you have to do (and both parties have to participate in) to make it last. If you are a selfish person, then I wouldn’t get married because once you are married you have to leave your selfish ways behind.

    There are so many different reasons as to why people have affairs (bored, feel as if something is missing in their lives, loves the forbidden and the drama that comes with it, etc…). In all honesty, you don’t even have to be “flirting” with another woman’s husband. You could just be simply making small talk and the wife’s paranoia kicks in.

  30. Nance says:

    At least she is constant with her bullsh-t.

  31. Embee says:

    I didn’t see where she said anyone should do this or that. She’s in a movie about infidelity and was apparently asked questions about the topic. She made an interesting comparison between friendships (many and varied) and romantic relationships (all eggs in one basket). Then she was asked if women should have a lot of lovers and she countered with a question “would that be so bad?” Which is a clever way of continuing an exploratory conversation (Socratic method).

    She seems like an interesting, fun and nonjudgmental person.

    • prayforthewild says:

      Okay, I’m glad I’m not the only person who noticed that she never actually said, “having “lots of lovers” is better than trying to stick with one man.” It was editorialized that that’s what she said. But, she just answered a question about women having several lovers with, “would that be so bad?”

      I don’t think it was a sweeping statement, or a put-down to people who don’t do as she does. I think a lot of people on here are just on Cami overload.

    • TheCountess says:

      @Embee, co-sign to all of this. Thank you.

    • I Choose Me says:

      Thank you! For a second there I thought I was going crazy not seeing what everybody else was.

    • Moore says:

      No one says “in my opinion” before every statement.

  32. The Original G says:

    Remember when films were promoted with a few appetite whetting clips and an interview of the stars smiling together in a lovely hotel room?

  33. Tig says:

    Why is she being so strident all of a sudden? I like her as an actress, but saw her on a recent Graham Norton, and she was almost hostile to GN re him asking her about HER recent comments. And he’s hardly a hard-hitting interviewer. Lighten up a bit, Cammie!

  34. Amanda_M87 says:

    What’s wrong with being a one man woman Cammy?

  35. Inlike says:

    Interview 4 all on the same topic with Cameron.

    Cameron sounds like she’s just verbally vomiting whatever her PR department tells her to dribble on that day.

    Sloppy. Won’t see the movie. It’s a movie, right? I dont know anymore because of all this BS, it’s now how little I care about it. Zero interest.

  36. Victoria says:

    I don’t know these statements in context so I could be wrong, but I think you all need to stop griping and getting defensive about the word “should.” SERIOUSLY guys, how annoying would it be if every time you offhand say “ugh, he didn’t call me, men are such idiots,” you had everyone turn around and say “you really should qualify your statements and stop generalizing, not ALL men are idiots.” We don’t qualify every statement because it’s cumbersome, distracts from your actual point, and because (reasonable) people – not looking to nitpick at your every word – know what you actually mean. I suppose amongst you all I need to “qualify” this by saying that clearly, there are situations where it is essential to qualify your statements…like if you’re arguing an academic or policy point. Not so much random actor statements.

    I think the same goes here. I’m pretty sure if you took your complaints to Diaz, she’d agree with you that she doesn’t think every single woman should do this.

  37. Jayna says:

    Next year she will be in love with a guy that wants to actually be with her instead of a player like the baseball guy and she will go all Drew Barrymore on us.

  38. Bea says:

    She does realize that she is supposed to be getting people to go see her movie in these interviews, not drive them away because she is being … like this, doesn’t she?

  39. jess says:

    Shut. Up.

  40. QQ says:

    Can’t shade her for that, is the same advice i give my gfs, shoot ive told them to casually date multiples and wrap it up…. IDK makes for fun, interesting experiences and to not latch to the first fool that gives you the D for dear life, cause you have options, can execute them and have clarity instead of rose colored Disney Prince versions of a dude glasses??

    On the Plus side all three look like the are going to the same even, and not a 1950 picnic social, a late 50s Movie premiere and some cool even of the future

    Alssssoo will anyone answer me urgently WGOWLMF ?!? ( What’s Going On With Leslie Mann’s Face?!?) It is super weird and concerning, The lips! the expression!

  41. BooBooLaRue says:

    What’s wrong with her nose in the last pix?

  42. Wren33 says:

    To be fair, when asked she said “Why not?” She didn’t just get up and say women needed lots of partners. I do think it is a bit of a modern problem, with a mobile society people are cut off a bit from extended family and childhood friends, and your spouse is expected to fill the majority of your needs for deep connection.

  43. Jade says:

    Is this idiot still talking? Thanks for annoying me enough to boycott your stupid movie! Talk about an epic fail of a movie promotion.

  44. Emily C. says:

    One person cannot provide for everyone’s emotional needs. Of course they can’t. I do not get how this is a revelation for anyone over the age of 6.

    How so many people get from there to “you must bang a whole lot of people” I do not understand. You don’t have to bang everyone you have a relationship of any kind with! Seriously, it is not a requirement! Bang whoever you want (so long as you’re honest and it’s consensual), but don’t pretend it’s some kind of universal necessity please.

    I don’t know for sure that Cameron Diaz is actually doing that here, but she DID say that “we” all expect one man to fulfill all of “our” needs as if that’s a universal thing. And I have seen that as a lead-in to “therefore no one can possibly be monogamous” so many times, and coming from this woman who ALREADY SAID people can’t be monogamous and is buddies with Goop and her “conscious uncoupling” bs about no one really being monogamous… not a huge leap.

    Taking the quote about it not being a bad thing to have a lot of lovers out of context, it’s fine, but reading things completely out of context renders them utterly meaningless. IN context, it reads very differently. Combined with the constant “everyone is like this”, there is a definite implied “should”.

  45. LaurieH says:

    Don’t get me wrong, I like Cameron Diaz, but girl is projecting. She is doing that “thing” that many women over 40 do. I’m not passing judgment on it (I am in in the same boat at her) but it’s…interesting and bothers me. “Society” – as it were – seems to indicate that by the time you’re in your 40’s, you should be married or in a stable, long-term relationahip of some sort and have children. If you aren’t, you are considered something of a social failure or anomaly and there must be something wrong with you. Instead of just unapologetically embracing singlehood and childlessness as a choice, Cameron seems to feel the need to justify it with pseudo-psychological blather about how people should have lots of lovers and people aren’t naturally monogamous, etc…. It belies her insecurity and the fact that her lifestyle is not of her own deliberate choosing, but a matter of unintended circumstance for which she feels the need to quantify and justify.

    • GeeMoney says:

      I agree COMPLETELY.

      Honestly, I wish she had just started off her comments with “In my opinion” or “These are just my thoughts on my experience” instead of just making blanket statements. I think that’s the reason why so many people have a problem with what she’s saying in these interviews.

      At the end of the day, regardless of your age, live your life the way you want to live it. If you want to be monogamous, hopefully you find someone that wants to be monogamous with you. And if you want to be single, carefree and sleep around, find someone who wants to do that with you, too. And if you just want to be alone, then just be alone.

      I do think she needs to STFU a bit, though. And her interview would have been 10x’s better if she just said “My a** is 40, I’m single, and I’m going to do my own thing, regardless of what everyone else thinks.” She would have gotten major props from me if she just said that.

    • ParisPucker says:

      Also agree! Saying “My a** is 40, I’m single, and I’m going to do my own thing, regardless of what everyone else thinks.” would have won her a Twitter following like no other. I hear fear and self-justification in her voice. I recognize it, because I see a bit of myself in her. Her approach was wrong, but I think the message was right. Homegirl just needs to work on her delivery…

  46. janet says:

    I was kind of enjoying Cameron Diaz and her thoughts on woman and relationships but I’ve had enough. Woman need to do what is right for them. Also, Kate Upton needs to plant those saggy titties into a better fitting bra.

  47. John says:

    “She’s outspoken and strong in her beliefs.”

    I don’t think so. I think she just loves the sound of her own voice and expects everyone else does, to, and the words drop from her brain to her mouth like a gumball machine, no intervening thought as to whether it’s nonsensical, generalized bs.
    Which it is.

  48. qwerty says:

    I’m removing this website from my bookmarks, bye.

  49. Camille (The Original) says:

    Wow, she is really desperate for this movie to be a hit isn’t she.

    I wish she would STFU. And I have no desire to see her dumb looking movie, at all.

  50. rep says:

    If some guy showed interest in her, she would jump on it. If he Then asked her to marry him, she would jump on that and be monogamous or whatever it took to keep him. Girlfriend is just lonely.

  51. silly you says:

    for the love of god, stop with the daily ‘cameron diaz said THIS in an interview!’ posts. props to her publicist, tho.

  52. db says:

    Errrr, gettin’ kinda Goopy with the advice there Cammy. Put a lid on it!

  53. Skye says:

    good god, this chick is full of knowing. back off, cam. You’re too young for the mantle of crone wisdom. Have a seat.

  54. DotDotDot says:

    Keep on expressing your opinions Diaz because that is your right but keep on expressing your opinions and revealing what idiotic things come out of your mouth and I will exercise my right to never watch another movie starring you.

  55. D says:

    I don’t have a problem with Cameron. I don’t think she is the brightest, but she is harmless and answering questions she is asked. I do think she should be a little more careful in her wording, saying”for me” or in my experience. Etc. She is a star and people will take her words selectively a twist it. I think she probably gets a lot of shit because she is 40 and single and no kids which goes against most peoples expectations. Women get a lot of BS over this. I think she is simply saying there are alternatives and just because you aren’t married doesn’t mean your life sucks. Monogamy isn’t for everyone OR people would like to find that special person for a partner and it just hasn’t worked out yet. But that isn’t something a person should be criticized for. Also I know tons of married people in unhappy lonely marriages and they certainly question monogamy a lot of times and tell me so !
    Anyways. I think she is getting a. Bit over saturated telling her views on this movie tour and her book release. It seems the interviewers love asking her this stuff as well since it gets attention and people talking.

  56. DollyDeville says:

    I’m still a few years younger than Cameron, but I’ve been around long enough to know this one absolute truth: there is no “one size fits all” way of living. What works for you isn’t going to work for everyone. So thanks for the advice, Cam, but I’m going to keep doing what works best for me!

  57. LAK says:

    I can honestly say that somehow i’d managed never to see her interviewed live or at length until the graham norton show. Don’t quite know how that happened because I tend to like her films, and find her inoffensive, but going by the graham norton show, i’ve gone off her.

    Not for content, but delivery. She was so me me me look at ME, ain’t I cool and outrageous!!! By the way ME!!!