Kate Gosselin’s former BFF claims society bears responsibility for Kate’s behavior

Radar Online has been running a lot of exclusive stories about Kate Gosselin. We haven’t been covering them because they sound recycled from details we’ve already heard about a long-delayed tell-all that’s out about Kate. Plus Kate’s star has faded so much, I didn’t really care. Well now that Kate’s former best friend is speaking out, I’m sort-of interested.

Kate’s best friend and co-author on her Million Little Blessings book, Beth Carson, did an interview with Radar Online. Beth told Radar that many people close to Kate “knew a lot of stuff” about her, but that they didn’t speak out against Kate because they didn’t want to upset the kids. Beth doesn’t clarify what people saw, but it sounds like it wasn’t physically harmful to the children (Kate has been accused of that too) so much as controlling. That’s plain to see in any episode of her show. One thing that bothers me about this interview is that Beth seems to blame the viewing audience for the way that Kate turned out, as if it’s everyone else’s fault for giving her attention.

Radar also has another separate article in which Beth reveals how Kate tried to screw her out of the profits for their book, even though she wrote the entire thing and would regularly babysit Kate’s children. I’ll combine the quotes from the two articles here:

How Kate tried to cut her out of the book she wrote
“We agreed on a 50/50 split and it was fair, although I did do all the writing, absolutely, did all the writing… it was without a doubt Kate’s story. She told me the story and I wrote it. Absolutely, I wanted to take nothing away from the fact that it was her story. But I put a lot of work into it,” Beth told Radar.

“I didn’t know that Jon was even on the book until it was published and Kate tried diligently to get my name removed from everything,” Beth explains, admitting that Kate, 39, tried to change their 50/50 split to a third cut between the three of them, netting the Gosselins two thirds instead of just 50 percent.

“But luckily I’d covered my butt with a lawyer and fortunately I have a business-minded husband who basically said we had to take precautions when doing business with friends. If not, I would have not gotten one penny or had any recourse, because Kate tried very, VERY hard to get my name off everything and take my cut.”

Ultimately Beth says she got the 50 percent cut she deserved, but things with Kate were never the same…

“Wow, not only have I changed and fed your kids for years, at my house for a week at a time, all of them, then for her to not acknowledge me was a slap in the face. When we first talked about the book and how it turned out, we were excited to promote it so it was a shocker and stab in the back for her to be like, you didn’t do this.”

On how we made Kate the monster she is
“I think society has to take some responsibility because every person who tuned in and fed the fire , cannot turn around and now criticize her. You’re essentially patting her on the back, so who are you to turn around and say she’s gone too far?” she said. “I think it will be interesting — it’s kind of become this social project of society. Like, what has society done? They were so highlighted and so out there on TV, as real people, so the kids are the first products of that. The kids were really the first ones who had no choice , they were infants. It has influenced their every moment of every day.”

Why people close to Kate kept quiet about her
“I used to get calls regularly with offers to tell behind the scenes stuff. A lot of people who worked for Kate knew a lot of stuff, and every single person said no. They cared about the kids too much,” she explained. “It’s a tribute to the character and integrity of those who helped her. It’s also a testament to Kate’s character, for not keeping them in her life. I think she’s got to see that it’s sad.”

[From two stories on Radar Online]

We’ve heard this before, that Kate cut many people out of her children’s lives who genuinely wanted to help care for them, and who had cared for them from infancy, including her family members. I totally disagree with her that “society has to take some responsibility” for Kate. For the kids definitely, if that’s what she means, but not for Kate. I think there need to be more safeguards in place for children in reality shows, and Kate’s own family has tried to advocate for that. Society isn’t responsible for Kate being a money-grubbing control freak. She’s always been like that, and it’s TLC that enabled her, not society. Most A-list actors aren’t a fraction as entitled as Kate. She had a full time bodyguard (who has left her now that the money has dried out) when she was on a reality show. We’ve heard many times that she’s behaved badly in public and at charity events. No one is responsible for Kate’s behavior except Kate.




Kate Gosselin is shown in April filming Celebrity Apprentice and in June. Credit: TNYF/WENN.com

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  1. Lilacflowers says:

    I admit it! It’s all my fault! She does all this to get my attention and I have ignored her my entire life. I am sorry, world.

  2. CG says:

    I know I’m going to get mocked for this, but I’m so mad she’s on the next season of the Celebrity Apprentice! That show is totally my guilty pleasure, and she’s so completely awful she’s probably going to ruin it for me. Hopefully she gets fired in one of the first episodes, but I doubt it. #firstworldproblems 🙁

    • Anastasia says:

      Don’t worry, word is that season won’t even get aired.

      • eliza says:

        You may want to let NBC know that since they have it listed as a returning show on their official web site.

      • Bridget says:

        Probably Midseason. The way the show is made, with all the product placements and things like that, it apparently costs NBC very little to make. It’s cheap and easy to plug in, and NBC is always desperate by the time midseason rolls around.

  3. MrsBPitt says:

    Wow…the thing that shocked me the most was that Kate actually had a BFF at one time! I find that hard to believe…

  4. Brin says:

    Whew, I never tuned in…what a relief.

    • Christin says:

      We are innocent. So glad not to have this on my conscience.

      I guess viewers are also responsible for Octomom, assuming she copied Kate.

    • Tracy says:

      Neither did I!

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I’ll be skipping Confession as well, because I never washed this garbage.

      Sadly, by some unfortunate coincidence, I have had the displeasure of seeing her in daytime television interviews and she always came across as defensive, ungrateful, and just plain nasty.

  5. Meme says:

    Don’t blame me. I don’t watch these stupid reality shows.

  6. Jenny12 says:

    SOCIETY is responsible for Kate being an entitled witch who uses her children for profit? Unbelievable. Kate wanted babies, she didn’t want to be a parent and it shows in her kids. It’s just that now she is facing reality- true reality, not TV reality- with kids who are older and more independent and will tell her off and a non-existent career because she turned everyone off with her behavior and she can’t sell her kids or herself. TLC should have done more to protect the kids, but they cared as much about their cash cows as their alleged mother did.

  7. Anastasia says:

    Totally agree. She already had all the bad qualities in place, and then TLC just magnified everything and fed the beast. But now TLC is free of her (no contract–they recently did an update special that was boring as hell and had low numbers).

    I kind of agree, though, that as a viewing audience we should turn our backs on such horrid people so as not to encourage the networks to put more shows like that on the air. That being said, TLC is a total joke of a network.

  8. yuck says:

    I agree with you that TLC is the one most at fault here. Besides Kate, of course. She is one narcissistic, single-minded, impossibly greedy b*tch. The network and the poseur together created a perfect Frankenstein, and I can’t think of anyone more deserving of watching their “career” (LOLOL) go down in flames. If she truly put money away for the care and education of those children, they should be fine. If she didn’t, well, she’s going to have to GET A JOB, just like the rest of America. Eight kids or not.

  9. Rhiley says:

    Maybe not all of society but obviously some part of society is responsible for the rise of the Kate Goslings, the Kim Kardashians, the Snookies, the Duggers, the Octomoms in American culture. If we didn’t care, well then Kate and Jon Gosing would have likely received a cover of People Magazine when the babies were born and that would have been it. That is how it was in the 80s. But twenty years later, they get TV shows, endorsements, their pictures in tabloid magazines every other day. Of course the “fame” and money is going to go their heads.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Yeah I tend to agree with this and I think this is what Kate’s former BFF meant by her statement.

    • Ag says:

      i also agree with this, and took the statement to mean as much. the article stated that “it’s TLC that enabled her, not society” – well, someone is watching TLC. if these awful people existed in a vacuum, nothing would be known about them. they get a platform because we give them attention.

    • Kate2 says:


      I admittedly watched the specials they had on the Gosselins in the beginning as they were the first to really be highlighted in this way, at least that I can remember. So I will raise my hand as being partially to blame.

      But I will also say the resulting idiocy that followed with the Duggars, Honey Boo Boo and all the rest turned me off to ALL reality TV going forward.

  10. GiGi says:

    Fame is a magnifier. This woman was already a hateful rage-monster. The attention just fed her.

  11. GeeMoney says:

    No one forced that woman to be on a reality show and turn into a monster reality show crazy person. Society is not responsible for her becoming the way she is. If you say that, that means that she was absolved of all her free will and let TLC and the public dictate how she raised her kids, ran her life, and how she dealt with her fame.

    This is all on her. She could have decided to walk away from the show and make a living another way if everything was getting out of control or too hard for her.

    F*** the person who said it’s society’s fault for that woman turning into who she is today. More than likely, she was probably that awful before she got famous. And being famous just made it worse.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Maybe I’m giving the woman too much credit but I think what she meant was that it’s rather hypocritical of people to watch her show and essentially ensure her paycheck, and then turn around and complain about her. If you don’t like her as a person, then why support her?

      Crappy reality TV shows are here to stay sadly, but the shows that last are the ones that garner the viewership needed to keep them coming back for subsequent seasons. In that sense, the public could easily have made Kate go away by simply not watching.

      I don’t know. I don’t watch any of that brain-rotting reality tv sh*t.

  12. Sonia says:

    This was perfectly stated:

    She’s always been like that, and it’s TLC that enabled her, not society. Most A-list actors aren’t a fraction as entitled as Kate. She had a full time bodyguard (who has left her now that the money has dried out) when she was on a reality show. We’ve heard many times that she’s behaved badly in public and at charity events. No one is responsible for Kate’s behavior except Kate.

    Now can anyone do anything about the Kartrashians?

    • Christin says:

      I probably missed this, but did Steve the (ahem) bodyguard leave? He was photographed with her in NY. Maybe he just works when she has a gig (which would be hardly ever)?

  13. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Ok, so this woman tries to cheat you out of your half of the profits from the book, and that’s the fault of people who watch the show? Huh? She sounds confused or just stupid.

  14. NewWester says:

    I can’t look at this woman without thinking of her former hairstyle. The “rabid possum cut” as Michael K on Dlisted called it.
    The only person responsible for Kate’s behaviour is Kate. Unfortunately her children are the ones who really end up paying

  15. Teri says:

    Beth has a point. While Kate is ultimately responsible for her behavior, it was the viewers and ratings that tuned in for this family which ultimately lead to her narcissistic behavior and diva demands. Truth is, she fooled everyone and for a little while it was bought. I have to admit that I’ve watched the show in the beginning and remembered Beth, her sister in law Jody who was very active in watching the kids and they loved her. There were quite a few regulars as well. It only shows Kate’s true color that she turned these people away who helped her. Like Beth said, we as viewers are making these people famous: ie the Kardashians, Justin Bieber, etc.Only to turn on them later and complain why are they famous?

  16. Kcarp says:

    I hate it when I turn people into a biattttchhhh……kidding I didn’t watch couldn’t take her yelling. She makes Abby Lee Miller look like a teddy bear.

    • Mixtape says:

      This begs the question: who would win in a dance-off, Kate Gosselin or Abby Lee Miller?

  17. lucy2 says:

    Eh, there were stories about her greedy and demanding ways long before she got the TV show. She is who she is. TLC gave her a platform for it and magnified it.
    I don’t think being on reality TV, especially a show about your life, is healthy for anyone, but not everyone who does it turns into the money-grubbing fame addict that she did.

  18. bella says:

    I think this woman is vile and the stories re her are from former friends and associates are disturbing…
    She has NEVER looked so good, right?
    Gotta give her that 😉

  19. Dawn says:

    I think the saddest part is that people knew how she truly was and “didn’t say a word because of the children”. I mean really? I don’t buy that. I think people didn’t say a word because they were making money and didn’t want to in any way stop the gravy train. Kate has done hateful things to her husband, sister-in-law and children while on camera. Think what she was capable of doing off camera. And Beth sounds like she still wants to be friends. If someone tried to screw me out of money I worked for I don’t think I would be their friend ever again. I think what she should have said is that society is wrong for rewarding people with absolutely zero talent (the Kardashian, the Duggars, All the housewives and basketball wives) with so much when they give back to society nothing of worth. Yep Steve has left and gone back to his long suffering wife Gina who must be insane to put up the crap she did. We all know Steve did more than protect Kate from the fans she so desires.

  20. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    It would be interesting to have Kate Gosselin interview Octo-Mom.

    • lucy2 says:

      Only if it’s in a rowboat set adrift in the middle of the Pacific.

    • Mixtape says:

      KG: Why did you have all those babies?

      OM: I don’t know, why did you have all those babies?

      KG: To get attention and a reality show.

      OM: I guess that’s why I did it, too, but it didn’t work out as well for me. I am envious of your success.

      KG: And I am envious that you had the foresight to do it without getting an actual man involved.

  21. kri says:

    Ugh, she looks like a banged-up version of Kendra. I hope she goes away soon. Poor kids.

  22. Lizzie K says:

    There are about 300 million Americans. At its height, with both Jon and Kate, the show was watched by fewer than 10 million viewers. Even if the show’s viewers are responsible for the horror that is Kate Gosselin, that’s only 3-1/3 % of the country as a whole. So no, WE are not responsible for her.

    The only reason TLC, E, VH-1, MTV and all the other crap channels exist is because Comcast and Time Warner force us to buy cable packages, rather than the channels we want to watch a la carte. One day, despite all their pay-offs to Congress, that will change, and we won’t have to pay for this crap to see the shows we actually want to watch.

  23. Kerrboom says:

    I don’t understand these reality and famous for being famous “celebs”. I just…don’t get it. I try to put myself in their shoes and the thought of doing what they do, acting the way they act, fills me with shame and embarrassment. Like, do they know how freaking stupid they look to the rest of the world?