Actress Eva Amurri is a mommy-blogger, only her blogs are often hyper-dramatic. In the spring of 2016, Eva told a long-winded story about why she fired her daughter’s nanny – the reason was that the nanny was sending sexy texts to Eva’s husband, only Eva turned the whole thing into a five-act drama. Eva’s latest blog is much more upsetting and I genuinely feel sorry for her. She gave birth to her second child, a son named Major James Martino, about three months ago. Like many women of means, Eva and her husband hired a night nurse to help out during the first few months. And the night nurse had a terrible accident – the night nurse dropped the baby.
Eva Amurri Martino is not staying silent about her concerns that she may be suffering from depression. In a blog post shared on her website HappilyEvaAfter.com, the mother of two — daughter Marlowe Mae, 2, and son Major James, 3 months — opened up about her difficult end to the year.
“A couple of days after Thanksgiving, our Night Nurse fell asleep while holding Major and dropped him, and he cracked his head on the hardwood floor,” Amurri Martino, 31, wrote. “Kyle and I were sleeping at the time and were awoken by the sound of his head hitting the floor, and then hysterical piercing screams. He suffered a fractured skull and bleeding on his brain, and was transported by ambulance to Yale Medical Center where I spent two harrowing days with him to receive emergency care and further testing. To say these were the most traumatic and anxious two days of my life is an understatement. But here’s the good part: by the grace of all of his many angels, and every God one cares to pray to, MAJOR IS FINE. Completely fine,” she wrote. “He has been healing well, hitting milestones, cooing, smiling, and generally showing us that he is and will be ok as he grows and develops.”
Amurri Martino also expressed concern about telling the world her story, and feared people might judge her for using a night nurse.
“I chose not to share [for] fear of judgement. The internet can be a peculiar place, where some people forget about humanity and go for the jugular. I know that this news might reach many, and of those many there will always be the people who say that this accident was my fault. That if it had been me in there holding him instead of a Night Nurse, that this never would have happened. That I deserve this for allowing my child to be in the care of somebody other than me,” she wrote. “Well, let me tell you– the guilt I bore in the days and weeks after this accident was more intense and more damaging than anything I would wish upon my worst enemy. I had all those same thoughts and more. I wept in the hospital, telling anyone who would listen that it should have been me. That I was to blame. The truth is, even this woman who came so highly recommended, with a perfectly clean track record, could make a very human mistake. It “could happen to anyone”, and as they told me repeatedly in the hospital, it DOES happen to anyone. More often than you’d like to hear. Obviously, the (extremely upset and remorseful) nurse is no longer working for our family, though we forgive her. And even though I finally made peace with the fact that this freak accident could not have been avoided by me, it has continued to effect me to my core and in all aspects of my daily life.”
Amurri Martino told readers that she can no longer handle anyone but herself taking care of her children.
“It’s nearly impossible for me to trust anyone but myself to take care of Major now,” she wrote, adding that she no longer has help during the night. “Hearing Major cry hard immediately triggers my memories of the moments after the accident and instigates an immediate panic attack– my heart races and tears spring to my eyes.
Eva goes on to say that she hasn’t been eating or sleeping much, and that she overreacts to every little thing, which has led her to believe that she’s dealing with “some form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, possibly linked to some form of Postpartum Depression.” She says she’s in therapy to deal with it. You know what sucks? I totally get why one of Eva’s first reactions was “people will question why I even employed a night nurse.” That’s the culture of judgy-motherhood and mom-shaming that we have now. It can’t just be a terrible tragedy with a happy ending (the happy ending being that the baby is fine), it has to be a huge “culture of motherhood” moment about whether it’s appropriate to have help. You know that judgy moms and mom-shamers are absolutely side-eyeing her. But… isn’t it perfectly reasonable for women to employ a night nurse, especially if they have the means? And it sounds like it was purely an accident and it could have happened to anyone.
Photos courtesy of Instagram, WENN.
i just don’t understand how could someone as cool as susan sarandon bring up a daughter like her. she keeps having problems with nannies, i’m starting to believe she’s the problem.
As bad as it sounds, that was my first thought too. It’s like a constant drama…
Please explain how she had anything to do with 1. their nanny hitting on her husband 2. their night nurse dropping a baby on the floor.
Re: night nurse dropping a baby on the floor. If she’s asking the nurse to work too-long shifts, she could contribute to it. There are plenty of night nurses being exploited, usually those working off the books.
Susan is cool? That is news to me since she acted like an entitled jerk the election. I fault people like her who scream about their conscience, but their conscious doesn’t apparently care much about the increase in hate crimes or that it going to be very bad to be anyone but a rich white person in this country. Apple fell close to the tree.
+ 1,000
Susan Sarandon has a long history of standing up for what is right. Just because you disagreed with her opinion in the election doesn’t make her a jerk.
Bring ok with other people getting attacked or murdered is not standing up for what is right. I’m going to call out passive racism. At the end of the day she doesn’t care about those of us already under attack.
Calling Susan Sarandon a racist and someone who doesn’t care is so ridiculous that i am speechless. Almost.
This is a woman who stood up for Haitian refugees against the Clinton administration, risked her life to deliver food and milk to Nicaraguan women and their babies in violation of the Reagan Administration’s policies in that country.
I doubt very much that such a woman is ok with people being attacked considering she’s ALWAYS advocated for revolt against the system in her activism and isn’t afraid to put herself in harm’s way.
Two people embraced by the Clinton campaign, Kissinger and Negroponte, are such reviled human beings for their part in organising death squads, assasinations, disappearings etc in the countries that Susan has tried to help, but you want her to change a lifetime of opposing such people because otherwise she’s a racist and or it means she doesn’t care if people die?!?!
Hoping that people vote for a jerk to bring the revolution faster, screw whoever gets crushed in the meantime, meets my criteria for “jerk.
How is Susan “ok” with other people being attacked? She was a Bernie supporter ……and I’m pretty sure she voted 3rd party (Stein). Far from supporting violence. This “if you didn’t vocally support HRC then you support the devil” is the very essence of a term I’ve come to loathe…….false equivalence.
But yeah…..she raised a drama queen I think.
She proved she doesn’t care. A few minor PR moves don’t hide the reality. When it comes to those of us who face death for walking down the street with the “wrong” skin tone, self-proclaimed activists like Sarandon are never interested.
Sorry Kylie but I think you are wrong on this. LAKs note re SSs many contributions speaks volumes here and gives context to SSs actions. You can disagreee with her voting decision in 2016 but it isn’t a horrific act and it certainly doesn’t negate the good she has done for others through many years . You may not feel positively impacted yourself — but the people of Haiti and Nicaragua (with skin tone of color) do.
I don’t think everything is as bad as you think. The biggest issue we have right now is the flood of FAKE hate crimes that were proven to be fake with plenty of evidence after the election. Now no one really believes anything because too many people blew it up into something it’s not.
We’re all still more likely to be killed by a family member than a cop and most of the violent crimes against minorities are still perpetrated by other minorities.
It was an election not the apocalypse. It’s going to suck, but this type of stuff is making it worse not better. Susan Sarandon is a long standing human right activist, she voted Stine not Trump.
As someone who has been subject to quite a bit of profiling, I think most of you have no idea what it is like to be a POC.
Also this thread is a great example of whitesplaining.
@lingling
They are going to get social security and Medicaid. Women’s rights are under attack. There are white nationalists in the coming administration. But you can continue to claim it won’t be that bad it it makes you feel better. I’ll be realistic. It is going to be very bad for a lot of people.
I’m a Chinese immigrant, so you can let go of the whitesplaining angle. I spoke the truth backed by facts. Please stop making minorities look like cry babies.
We are strong, we will resist, but denying obvious well known facts and saying anyone who didn’t vote for Clinton is racist and evil won’t help anyone get more people out to vote in favor of minority issues and it continues to push the headspinning liberal image.
No not everyone who didn’t vote for Clinton is racist but Susan Sarandon’s commentary that she didn’t care about what would happen under Trump and that all the suffering was textbook liberal racism. She may have helped Haitians and supported other worthy causes but that doesn’t erase the fact that she was odious during the election. More that one thing can be true.
Totally agree; SS behavior during the election was ridiculous. She showed herself to be an entitled jerk. Get that she didn’t like Hillary but instead of seeing the big picture of what a lunatic Trump presidency would look like, she tried to prove some ridiculous point that’s not going to help people who will be kicked off their insurance, lose benefits, etc, etc, I have lost all respect for her. She is not cool.
Kylie, you are making alot of (untrue) assumptions about us. And you must be young if you think Haiti and Nicaragua were minor PR moves especially when she was going against the govt’s policies and in one case a govt using death squads.
Luca76: She supported Bernie and voted Stein.
LAK I’m not sure where you’re comment went but yes I’m fully aware of HRC’s statements and her apologies At the end of the day POC would be better off if HRC was president elect.
Still that has nothing to do with Susan Sarandon. I stand by what I said she was downright offensive during the election and I lost any respect I had for the woman, and I have every right to believe she’s shown her true colors as a racist.
I do think SS reeked of straight up white privilege in the way she approached the election. I’m not intimating she is racist, but I do feel she showed us that her politics are more important than my safety. I genuinely feel that those people who voted third party showed us very clearly that they don’t really give a shit about what happens to minorities – as long as they get to cast their protest vote (which let’s be honest, any third party vote was going to be). At best it is careless and clueless. This includes my best friend and her husband, who voted for Johnson and explained to me that ‘nothing will change’, even if Trump wins. The thing is – things already HAVE changed – we’ve elected a man who has won the presidency with a platform built on bigotry and racism. How anyone can justify NOT voting agaisnt THAT, is beyond me, truly.
@lingling- so fake hate crimes are our biggest issue? Fake hate crimes…our biggest issue….
….I’m genuinely concerned for you…
LAKE
HI!
I think possibly the point was worded wrong? I hope so. I had the same sort of view, but in this way.
Susan is outspoken. Her causes are just. And her methods can be aggressive. It gets done so, not a bad thing at all imo.
Here I think that aggressive nature just translated differently to her daighter. To have something to be passionate about just become a different focus.
Odk. I didn’t read below. I’m typing this from my phone on a Keiser bike avoiding the mass resolutionists.
Luca76/Clare: Thank you for your thoughtful replies, but we shall have to agree to disagree vis a vis Sarandon being a racist.
Luca76: i edited out my comment about Clinton because it was a distraction from the main point, but i will say that Bill doubled down on those comments when he was confronted by BLM activists during a rally in the summer and that makes HRC’s apology hollow because the 2 of them have always been a team as far as their professional lives are concerned.
Clare: call me an idealist who absolutely believes that my vote can make a change. I firmly believe that the political class is rotten to the core. And the public has been gaslighted into thinking it’s impossible to change. Outside of a revolution, change tends to be slow so a vote for JS/BS may have seemed a waste this time, but if people continue to vote third party without succumbing to revolution, eventually change will come or it scares the political class into listen and enacting policies that reflect the people’s wishes. Bernie may have lost, but his movement has shaken the DNC into listening to his ideas. We shall see if they take any of them up.
Plus the silverlining to Trump’s election is that the electorate are not going to passively accept govt policy. If you look at the past 30-20yrs, so many abhorrent policies have been put into place by politicians beloved by the electorate or there was blind trust that govt politicians knew best, but this time, continuation or new such policies will be opposed because Trump has woken up everyone to the dangers of horrid govt-led policies.
FLORC: where have you been? Miss you on the royal threads.
Thank you LAK for consistently being my favorite poster on here!
” or that it going to be very bad to be anyone but a rich white person in this country.”
Gay people and women are both arguably at greatest risk since the Republican agenda is pretty much based on taking away their rights to do what they want with their lives/bodies, so you might want to scale back on this whole “only minorities are in danger” because in case you didn’t notice, gay people and women come in all colors.
@lingling
When you dismiss hate crimes as fake, you show you have zero credentials ability.
LAK
Missed you all too! Total MIA. Moved. Career stuff. Life pretty much got really great and hectic all at once over the last year. It’s leveled off and I’m back!
I have lurked the royal threads. Sixes has me In stitches consistently😅
@Kylie
Calling someone like Susan Sarandon a racist is asinine and completely diminishes the meaning of the word. Don’t be ridiculous. YOU are doing more harm by calling allies like her racist at the drop of hat. There are other ways to criticize her and her political views.
(And before you accuse me of whitesplaining, I’m asian)
@Jess
Sarandon is a passive racist. She is a typical celeb white savior. If you think she did anything in Haiti or Nicaragua beyond a photo options, then you are delusional. While she was busy whining about her protest vote, I didn’t see her saying or doing anything about the disenfranchised black voters in North Carolina. The NC GOP even bragged about it. http://theslot.jezebel.com/the-north-carolina-republican-party-is-bragging-about-s-1788675543
You defending passive racism is what does harm.
Kylie: http://people.com/celebrity/susan-sarandon-arrested/
http://nypost.com/2016/07/24/four-arrested-in-black-lives-matter-march-attended-by-susan-sarandon/
http://fortune.com/2016/10/24/north-dakota-pipeline-protests-susan-sarandon-mark-ruffalo/
@LAK
Not a single one of those links addresses voter suppression. Still straight up whitesplaining. SS is a passive racist who doesn’t care about anyone other than herself. She is only interested in publicity.
@Kylie
God forbid a women in Hollywood actually speak up about issues she finds important without some keyboard warrior flippantly dismissing them as racist and saying she’s only interested in publicity. I guess women with differing opinions in Hollywood should just stfu and know their place right? /s
& Please tell me Kylie, what have you done PERSONALLY to help the standing Rock Sioux Tribe? What have YOU done to combat climate change? What have YOU PERSONALLY DONE ON YOUR OWN TIME to help disenfranchised black voters in NC since you seem to love shoehorning that point which has nothing to do with Susan Sarandon.
Lol@ Kylie. I give you a list of examples of Susan Sarandon supporting Black issues, South American issues, Native American issues, most unfashionable and dangerous when she was involved, BUT because she didn’t do your pet issue, she’s a racist?!?
As @Jen asks, what have YOU personally done? And why should we think it’s any more substantive than what Susan Sarandon has done if showing up means it’s just a publicity stunt according to your own estimation?!?!
Btw, whitesplaining?! Really?! Too bad everyone pushing back at you is Black/Asian.
@Jess
1. I participate in beach and other public clean ups, call and write my elected representatives at both federal and state level, and participate in protests.
2. The Sioux are not the only tribe in the county. I donate to NARF.
3. Fundraising for organizations that fight against voter suppression. And yes Sarandon and other whiny pathetic protest voters matter when it comes to suppression, because while they through away their votes, other people aren’t able to exercise their right to vote at all.
So once again Sarandon is still racist, her daughter is still pathetic, and their defenders are just fooling themselves.
@LAK
Totally agree to disagree…in fact agreeing to disagree without calling each other (or other people) names is actually one of my favorite things about many of the posters on here 🙂
I hope you are right and that the electorate DOES hold the govt (and he who must not be named) accountable for their shenanigans – but from what I’m seeing so far, I don’t know, man.
I also hope that we can have some tangible change in a positive direction before too many people are attacked, disenfranchised, demeaned, and othered for looking (or being) different to the monster’s version of ‘American’.
Paws crossed.
@LAK
That is a weak strawman argument. Omarosa and Kanye are also black, neither one has an outlook that is credible. But using your logic, they would be.
Wow. I never thought about it that way? Because it’s true. What’s the common issue here? It’s her… odd.
I’m going to say it. Wealthy people want to get out of the grit of life, yet, Life IS Grit. You have to train the puppy to bond. You have to change the diapers and go through the utter pain of feeling you’re so tired you might drop the baby. There’s no way to avoid the tough stuff. Someone she hired dropped the baby- isn’t that worse?!? And PS. Susan Sarandon is NOT cool.
I don’t judge Eva having a night nurse (if you can afford one, then who cares), but I judge the f- out of the night nurse who fell asleep on the job and dropped the baby. You had one job, lady, and you failed.
But the night nurse is human too. I do think if she felt herself getting sleepy she should’ve put the baby to bed but woulda, coulda, shoulda. I’m sure this poor woman is still distraught as well.
But every thing about babies is micromanaged now, from strapping up all the furniture, to the size of the toys, to putting them to sleep on their back in a crib without bumpers. How can a professional night nurse be in a position to fall asleep and drop a 2-month-old? I’m sure she feels terrible, but not putting a newborn in a position where he can fall on his head seems like childcare 101.
I have a baby, and earlier this year we had to hire a (day) nanny for a few months b/c we had no other childcare options. We did a nannyshare with another family nearby. We interviewed a few nannies and one of them let drop that she was ALSO working as a night nanny to a 6-week old baby. That was pretty much instant disqualification as far as we were concerned, because it’s pretty much unheard of for a 6-week old baby to sleep through the night, and I didn’t want someone up all night, then driving to my house, then having to stay awake with my kid + one other baby (i.e., no guarantee of any opportunity to nap during the day, since one baby might be awake while the other is asleep) for 9-10 hours, then drive home or back to the night nanny location. I did fall asleep while nursing at night couple of times when my baby was very young and waking up multiple times per night, so I could definitely see how it could happen. But honestly, it would never have occurred to me to ask if the nanny was working another job–it only factored into our decision because she mentioned it. Maybe Eva’s nanny was working a day job and didn’t mention it during the interview process?
Ikr? Accidents happen but I can not be rational about something like this. If you drop my baby on his head you better believe I will drop you on yours. Several times.
That is such a rediculous statement and hopefully a hyperbole for internet but you never know with some people. I have known people who get violent towards people even after accidents like it is accepteble.
If you read the blog post she talks about how it was an accident and the nurse came highly recommended.
Sorry to be the grammar police here but this is my biggest pet peeve…the misspelling of the word “ridiculous”.
@velvet Elvis: If you’re a grammar police (as I was) I highly recommend you read this article. It truly helped me.
http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/05/grammar-snobbery/
I’m split on this. On the one hand, accidents do happen, and I was told at the hospital that a remarkable number of children fall of the beds and crack their skulls when nursing mothers fall asleep. (Of course, I wish they made maternity beds bigger or provided cribs that attach or something, because as it were, my only safe choice was to put the baby in the plastic crib in the hours and days where babies need to be held and to have a lot of skin contact the most). So, accidents do happen even in the arms of the most loving mother.
On the other hand, if you’re hired as a night nurse, the presumption, I think, would be that you get plenty of sleep during the day and don’t fall asleep at night. I know it must suck for personal life, but hopefully, they are handsomely compensated for that and I actually know a couple of hospital nurses who work nights long-term and they quite like it.
Thank god I’m not the only one saying it.
I – almost – thought I was too severe. But seriously! If you’re a night anything then you should be awake for your job! No one is supposed to sleep on the job, especially when said job is to take care of a dependant and somewhat fragile being.
And for people that would say I do not understand, yes I did work nights, in a very technical and boring job. And I never sleep on it.
I totally agree with y’all. I Went from a daytime retail job to working second shift, then to third. I didn’t fall asleep for any of those jobs because I planned accordingly, and I wasn’t caring for a fragile baby, either.
Accidents do happen, but the night nurse shouldn’t have been holding the baby if she were that tired.
And I am one of the people who judge. Babies need their mothers. Only if she had some medical reason would I not judge her for not being there to comfort and feed her baby at night.
Maybe she has multiple jobs and was tired. Everyone makes mistakes. Yes, she could have made better decisions, but I’m sorry what has Eva Amurri currently been in? Take care of your kid yourself.
>I’m sorry what has Eva Amurri currently been in? Take care of your kid yourself.
What have you been in? Just cause she’s not on tv doesn’t mean she’s not working.
And women are not supposed to take care of their babies 24 hrs/day. Night nurses became a thing because people moved away from living with their parent and grandparents. Raising kids used to be a mutual effort for 2-3 generations. Now it’s all on the mother’s shpulders and that’s where the post-partum psychosis epidemy came from. You’re not supposed to be sleep deprived for 2 years straight.
She has a husband, doesn’t she? Why can’t he get up with his own child, too?
I guess there are two POV here. My husband came from a family where the wife went off to look fabulous and =of course= the kids were with nannies right out of the hospital. Hubby hired me a nanny and when she showed up, I let her babysit with supervisions a few times and then let her go. Why have a baby and let someone else hold and care? I personally did not mind the greasy ponytail and mom jeans. I was there to raise a precious being. My brain and heart just couldn’t justify someone else to raise my baby even with our family’s wealth. I needed someone to clean the house most days of the week and I needed to be around other moms. Nanny? No.
I don’t judge anyone for getting a night nurse. I will judge them for setting unrealistic hours. Not saying that’s what’s happening here, but I’ve met people who expected their night nurse to be on call during the day and awake all night, and it’s crazy.
+100000000 I don’t judge people getting whatever help they can (also, if I ever have a baby, best believe I’ll hire a darn entourage to get a decent night’s sleep if I have to haha!). I have met the exact same type of person you’re talking about and their definition of “night nurse” is completely unreasonable. Either hire sufficient help or pitch in on taking care of your own baby every little once in awhile, am I right?
She has a night nurse, I send my kid to daycare. Most of us have help, nothing to eat ashamed of. I would have loved a night nurse, haha. When my son was a baby, he fell off the bed twice and out of his high chair once when I was watching him. At daycare, he was bit and scratched all the time. It happens. It’s awful and you feel terrible, but it happens. I would sideyee anyone who claims their child made it through the baby years without a SNAFU.
I used to work in child care and if an accident like this occurred, that person would be fired immediately. I had a coworker fall asleep during nap time when she was the only adult in the room, and she was fired. I think you expect your baby to get some bumps and scrapes at day care or with a sitter/nanny (or night nurse) but a cracked skull is a whole different story. I don’t blame Eva, I do blame the nurse. Sorry, she quite literally fell asleep on the job!
I agree. If I pay you, it’s so you don’t fuck up period. I can mess up my own taxes, so I pay someone to do them and I expect THEM not to mess up. The same goes for childcare. Barring some small bumps and bangs (because kids amiright) making sure their skull isn’t fractured is pretty much priority number 1. If I hire you to do a job at night, I expect you to be awake to do it
I really hate the term “night nurse”. I doubt this person is a RN or LPN. Which makes the story confusing.
Only if you don’t have little kids!
What does that have to do with my post?
Agreed. “Night Nanny” is more appropriate.
That’s funny–I always assumed it meant the night nurse brought the baby in to nurse/or gave it a bottle during the night. Never thought of it as a term like RN.
Thanks Kylie. This is what I came to say. Well, two things.
1) the term “night nurse” is a problem for us in the birth industry. They are RARELY ever nurses. In fact, most of the times baby nurses are the ones who have the least amount of formal education, in the heirarchy of birth care professionals. There are NCS, usually very well trained who deal only with the babies, and then there are postpartum doulas (I am one as well as a CLE, IBCLC and Baby Care Educator) who take care of the mother and the baby, and then night nurses and night nannies who are usually nannies first then transition to night care. *typically* Dropping the baby while sleeping CAN be an accident, a very human mistake, but it’s generally rule number one that you don’t hold the baby for resting. This is a tragedy, and it might not have to do with her calling herself a nurse or whatever, but awake duty is also frowned upon unless there is a medical issue. When you offer awake care for a family, it is thought by some that this gives the family a heightened sense of security that in order to sleep peacefully with a newborn you have to have someone awake with them all of the time. The term “night nurse” is thrown out far too often and in so many cases simply isn’t the case. Same thing with other birth workers wearing scrubs at work,, which I think also sends a message that they are medically trained. I’m not saying ALL night nurses aren’t nurses, but a vast majority are not actually RN. Most night nurses that I’ve seen are more nanny, and usually FAR cheaper than others, even highly recommended. I work with TONS of high profile clients (I live in LA, and in fact I’m with a reality star right now, previously I was with a well known model) and my MAIN job is to get the baby sleeping unassisted in their crib during the evening. I will not do awake holding care. Compassionately, I feel for this woman because I can’t imagine the burden of harming the baby that you grow very much attached to.
2) Susan definitely showed herself to be quite the asshole at the end of the election, some of the things that came out of her mouth showed her major entitlement. Sorry to however else that offends but in my opinion, what I saw during the end of the campaigning from Susan turned me off FOREVER, I don’t care about all the great work she did previously. In this instance she was a jerk, and I stand behind that. CB posted plenty of articles which helped support that position in my mind.
baby nurses have the least amount of education? That is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard. it is specialty. They have the same RN university degree. And all nurses do rotations and train in many different medical areas before choosing to work and focus in one specific area.
New Kay, what you are saying is kind of my point, but kind of missing it. I said there are a TON of baby nurses who call themselves such who are NOT RN’s. If you are an RN, you usually label yourself as such, and not a “night nurse” or “baby nurse”. All I am saying, is that in MY personal experience working full time and then some in the birth industry, there are far too many “nurses” who really aren’t so. I say nothing about the actual nurses who work at night with babies.
@ New_Kay – you missed the part where folks explained that the term night nurse is misleading because many are actually not nurses (as RNs) but are, in fact, night nannies.
I think what Little Darling is trying to say is that many so-called ‘night nurses’ are not, in fact, nurses (RNs, or even RPNs or orther certified and trained health professionals.) They are simply nannies with no or little medical training. The word ‘nurse’ here is highly deceiving.
We don’t know who Eva hired: did she hire a nanny, or did she hire a RN, or what? She’s just telling us she hired a ‘night nurse’ with no comments on the person’s training.
Thank you, asshole indeed. Which is really kind of a euphemism given the outcome. Me, my kids and so many friends have faced the hate/racism that was instantaneous after the election, with plenty of signs and actions prior to it. So, nope I don’t give any slack to someone whose actions were as callous as SS’s. Especially as she does not have to face any of the consequences of her choices and rhetoric. To me entitlement is racism too. So she gets called out for it by me and if offends people, if that’s the least of your annoyances oh well.
I think night nurse might be more of a name for night “nursing” as in breastfeeding. Back in the day
I feel for the nanny, who made a terrible, human mistake and was no doubt going through her own personal hell dealing with it and now the whole world knows about it. Nice one, Eva.
She did fall asleep while holding the baby. It’s not like she was carrying him and then she tripped. Don’t get me wrong, I do feel bad for her – I’m betting she also has a day job and was exhausted. But put the baby down and take a nap in the chair.
That’s what I think too, @kNY. I think this “night nurse” had a second job, and that’s why she fell asleep. (Please note I said ‘I think’. Its just my opinion and I do not know.)
I do wonder now if she was an actual RN, or simply a night nanny well recommended, not well trained, and not well paid. Hence the need for a second job. Just wondering aloud.
Thanks for the info @LAK. Sigh. This election was hard on everyone. I support those who choose to vote 3rd party (as I did) because it paves the way for so-called outlandish ideas to be heard. Bernie Sanders was a phenomenon and he (rightly) shook up the Democrats. True democracy takes time, but the Bernie Bros had and will have an effect. jmo.
Her name has not been published which is good. Eva says she forgives her but I don’t think anyone else will hire her all the same.
But she had ONE job.
I doubt Eva would have shared the story on her mommy blog if she’d dropped the baby
Exactly, Eva is quite dramatic about throwing all these people under the bus for a simple job she could do herself. My godbaby is 5 months and lives with us at the moment as well as mom and we all take care of the baby.
@Nicole you contradicted yourself somewhat. You say Eva could do the job herself, and then proceed to list all the help your godbaby receives. That’s the point. Childcare takes more than one person and often two people in a working household is not enough to keep the parents sane and rested.
@NayeinVa
I help because the baby has a single mom. Is that enough clarification for you? Also, could you please clarify for me her ‘working’?
From the little bit I can tell she runs a blog while partnering with some major labels for direct advertisement. That qualifies as working. I’d say most of the photographs for those product placements don’t take place with her two-month old (and two year old!) in the room demanding her attention. This does not include the things about her that I don’t know, but probably include her still going on casting calls etc. Her husband is a television host so…also working.
What I pointed out was that your original statement did not meet what appears to be it’s intended purpose. You said that Eva taking care of her child at night was a “simple” job. Then wen’t on to show how you offer support to someone else for the same “simple” job.
As a single mother myself, I know how important it is to have help. Even the short while that my ex lived with us, we still needed some help, especially in the early months.
And not that I’m here because I find Eva to be a great person, but if I hire people to do a job and they suck at that job I will professionally let my opinion be known, whether by firing, or a writing a bad review, or refusing a referral, in other words, throw them under the bus. I paid you to do it. How well you perform is not a statement on whether I should have done the job myself (which again, it takes a village).
Seriously? That woman fell asleep on the job and injured her charge. This wasn’t an innocuous accident; this was a serious mistake. I have no sympathy for her.
I feel this way, too. I’m sure she feels terrible and I am sympathetic to that, however this was her job. She was being paid and that baby could have been seriously injured!
So if a bus driver falls asleep while driving and causes an accident that results in injury to a passenger is it not their fault? Everyone is human, accidents happen, but her responsibility was to care for that baby at night. Period.
I actually think Eva was pretty gracious about forgiving her, and making it clear it was an accident, she could have been much harsher.
I feel bad for her too – certainly she’s 100% responsible, but unless you’re a monster, that’s got to weigh heavy on you for a long time that your actions led to an infant being so badly hurt.
“Expressed concern about telling the world her story” — yet here it is, all over the internet, making us ask yet again, WHO is this woman, and WHY should we care?
If you are a mother and something similar happened to you you might feel some relief to read that you are not the only one.
The reality is that no one is a perfect mother, everyone is doing the best they can within the circumstances they were given. It helps to share our failings and fears.
I almost lost my first child at 10 weeks old to RSV and the flu. The first of which he caught at daycare because I had to go back to work at six weeks postpartum and had to leave him at a daycare I wasn’t all that comfortable with. My husband’s grandmother told everyone in the family how shocked she was that I could possibly leave my baby with anyone and that it was selfish of me to work. He caught the flu at the hospital where I was told that it was my fault for not advocating enough for my child.
i left that experience a complete mess and found comfort on the internet from other mothers doing their best and sometimes it not working out perfectly.
That’s not necessarily true. I’m going to be a mother of 2, working 40 hour weeks since my 1st was 3 weeks old. I can afford to employ a night nurse but I don’t for this very reason. My sleep is not more important than my newborns safety. What exactly is it that Eva does that requires her a night nurse? I would care more if she wasn’t just the spawn of an insufferable actress.
@Dani but your sleep is important to the safety of your child. A tired parent can easily be the one who drops the baby. Or leaves the iron on. Or overheats the milk. Or slips in a bath. Whatever it may be sleep is imperative to cognitive function. I don’t blame her for having a night nurse. She also has a pre-schooler, adding to the difficulties. By the time I have another kid my kids will be 11 and 7 and old enough that I can focus on the baby AND get their help on some things. Parents who refuse help don’t make a difficult situation better
Who are you? Oh that’s right. nobody
I agree that a lot of drama seems to surround her life. There is a recent instagram post of her husband in a hospital bed after he fell off a ladder while cleaner the gutters in a rain storm. A week later this nightmare with the night nanny would have happened. I’m glad the baby is okay, that is terrifying and I have no doubt that she should seek help for her PPD.
I hope baby Major is ok.
How in the world can you fall asleep and drop a baby?
Jeeze I’m so afraid to play with my friends kids so not to hurt them.
Very easily unfortunately, looking after babies at night is more exhausting than you can imagine.
As the mom, it can happen. I fell asleep with my son in my arms in a chair as a newborn after days without more than 3 hours sleep and woke up freaked out (he was still in my arms though).
However, if you were hired as a night nurse…WHAT THE HECK! This isn’t someone who just spent the last 48 hours awake breast feeding a colic child. This is someone working a grave yard shift (aka should sleep during the day to be awake at night) who was away from the child all day. So this is not NEARLY as excuse-able.
The only thing I’m judging the mom for is the name! Major James??/? Like seriously what were you thinking? Just name him James for crying out loud. James is a very nice name and adding Major in front of it is so silly.
Mom-shaming is nothing new. Its as old as motherhood itself.
PPD is one hell of a beast. Many women will even out over time, but some can escalate to some state of psychosis. Her blog reads like a bit of an escalation. I’m glad she’s seeking help and all women should feel comfortable admitting to and treating PPD.
She could always just be a really crazy dramatic person who can’t exist without chaos.
Both are likely here.
I’m sorry, I can’t. When these people speak publicly they have to acknowledge they live in a different world than the rest of us. Then, maybe, then I can deal with you. So I assume said ‘night nurse’ is employed even when Ms. Amurri and her husband don’t work a gruelling schedule, huh? These people are not even working exhausting 9-5s and yet they are incapable of raising their OWN children.
Stop it. How ridiculous. Have you ever had a newborn? Have you ever gone literal months without getting more than a three hour stretch of sleep at a time? I did this while recovering from a csection on top of it.
My son was the worst sleeper I’ve ever heard of. If I could have afforded a night nurse I would have had her come occasionally so I could get an actual night of sleep and not be up 5-8 times every single night.
Sleep deprivation is actually dangerous over time. I would have been a better mom if I had some help to occasionally get the very human need of a night of sleep fulfilled. I’m pregnant again and if I have another bad sleeper I WILL be getting occasional help even though I’m a stay at home mom. My toddler and baby don’t deserve for their mama to hit near-psychotic levels of sleep deprivation and be an exhausted and unsafe basket case who can’t even drive a car around town or think straight. You really really shouldn’t judge what it’s like to have an infant that doesn’t sleep. Help is human and help is deserved.
Patricia and KCat you are exactly right!
I was lucky enough to have my mom there to help when my kids were newborns so I could sleep through the night, and I often say I don’t know how I would have made it if I didn’t have that help.
I was scared of being completely useless to my kids all day long if I was so sleep-deprived over time.
Wouldn’t co-sleeping and breastfeeding on demand solve a lot of your problems? Idk, me and all of my friends co-sleep and breastfeed on demand-that’s what you’re advised in pregnancy workshops are hospitals organize. When the baby wakes up, you lift your shirt, feed him and cuddle while falling asleep. I mean, tbh, my baby wakes up at least five times a night, and I’m awake for 10minutes tops for all of it.
different cultures or different babies, I guess.
What a horrible accident, and i am sure the night nurse feels very guilty and remorseful but her actions were inexcuseable. If she was tired, she should have put the baby down. I don’t have a problem with having a nanny or needing help with a child, but having a night nanny is kind of ridiculous. Personally, i think bedtime is strictly for family, to have that bonding time and find your routine. Have someone there during the day so you can nap. I have had 3 kids and 3 c-sections in 5 years and never had any help past the first couple of days home from the hospital. Your body adjusts to the lack of sleep. And the natural mother instinct cannot be replicated with a nanny or even the father. I’ve fallen asleep laying with or holding my babies many times, but never dropped them or rolled over on them. Your subconcious won’t allow it. Even when I collapsed in a parking lot from a brain aneurysm rupture while holding my baby, witnesses said I cradled him as I fell and he didn’t have a scratch on him.
Kittyhawk, you sound ridiculous. Your body adjusts to the lack of sleep? If we’re sharing one-upsmanshipping stories on how we’re the most superest mommies ever, I had 4 kids in 5 1/2 years! And I nursed them all for over a year, and they consistently didn’t sleep trough the night until after weaning. Several years later, I concluded that I underwent sleep deprivation torture similar to that which violates peace treaties. If I had been thinking clearly, I would have gotten a night nanny. Sleep is awesome.
Kitty hawk, just because YOUR body adjusted to the lack of sleep that means squat when it comes to other people. Everyone is different!
My friend breeds the worst sleepers! The poor thing got so little sleep that she had terrible migraines. Her children wouldn’t take a bottle, so her husband couldn’t really help. She is expecting her third this year, and I hope this one is a better sleeper. She could have used a night nurse. Lord knows I could have those first few weeks!
@kittyhawk is most certainly a troll, right? I mean, that cannot be real.
I just want to ask y’all where the fathers are? The fathers could help bring the baby to nurse or give a bottle, too. The mother can sleep while the father does that. A night nurse or nanny doesn’t have to take the place of the father. And a father would be the help that y’all are saying you need or needed.
@kittyhawk, I coslept with my baby for her first month, until I woke up on her or dreamt that it happened. In any case, I was so sleep deprived and tired that in the morning couldn’t remember if it really happened or I just had a bad dream out of fear of lying on her. I still don’t know what had really happened, but from that moment on she sleeps in her bed, even if I have to get up 6 times during the night to feed her, I’m not buying these mother instinct or whatever stories anymore.
@Jag even a two-parent household under the best of circumstances needs help now and then. Nobody enjoys working a full day of work and then staying up all night with a baby and it’s a neverending cycle depending on how difficult the baby is. It’s not a simple as “where is the dad”
How do you know she isn’t raising her own children? I work from home should I not send my kid to preschool because my schedule isn’t grueling?
GEEKYCHIC: how dare you presume she or any other woman can just exclusively breastfeed, as if it’s as easy as turning on a faucet. Get off your high horse.
That is so judgemental of you. What is wrong with mom getting a good night’s sleep? You have to suffer to have kids? I would totally have a night nurse if i had a baby and could afford. The school of thought that you have to suffer to be a parent is ridiculous. These night caretakers often have more experience than a mom with her first kid. Mom gets sleep and is much more functional during the day. Many women who do this have a full time job as well. Either way, nothing wrong with it
No need to judge ANY woman for getting night help. To me it’s apparent Eva is high strung, and typically those women, working or not, have a higher risk of getting postpartum psychosis or PPD.
I don’t judge Eva or her husband for employing a night nanny/night nurse (as an RN, I also dislike it when people who are not LPN’s or RN’s identify themselves as nurses) but I do judge her attention seeking behavior. Does she act at all at this point or is her career blogging about her personal life? Aside from being Susan Sarandon’s daughter, is there anything interesting about her? Is she talented? I find her annoying.
I certainly don’t judge her or her husband for hiring a childcare provider but I do judge her attention seeking/drama queen behavior. I find her annoying. If she wasn’t Susan Sarandon’s daughter I highly doubt she’d have an acting or blogging career.
Oh yeah, to me, without this experience, and possibly even in this experience, I find her to be pretty intolerable. I understand this was a story for postpartum depression, but the article itself was so ego centric (which she has a right to, as it’s her blog), but I am not sure other people who need to hear the message about PPD will actually be able to relate, and that is unfortunate.
I still stand behind women, all women, sharing their stories about the imperfections of motherhood, about the reality of women having actual PTSD because they had a traumatic birth, about the reality of neurotic women who get postpartum psychosis because they can’t relax worrying something might happen to their baby, or the moms who actually don’t love or like their babies immediately, or feel they aren’t well equipped to mother. It’s all relevant and all needs to be told.
I’m just not sure that was Eva’s intent, but I truly hope it was healing for her to share with the world.
I have no problem with them hiring help, but good grief, have you seen how many pictures of her there are on her blog? When two photos would suffice, she uses six.
I would have a night nurse if I was a wealthy mom. Accidents happen but that is a major one! Tbh, I would be hysterical if that happened to my baby. Also feel sorry for the nurse, accidents do happen. But I can see how that would scare you off having someone watch your baby. Her husband is cute!
I do feel for the night nurse however it’s her job to stay awake. Glad the baby is ok, baby drops/falls are terrifying!!!
I once nearly fell over a foot stool when my first daughter was a baby, I threw it out and developed a weird 6th sense for stuff in the way!
The handle of the bassinet I used slipped from my hands and my newborn just rolled right out, onto some concrete steps. I freaked.
She was fine.
Then my 2 year old boy tripped and split his chin, neighbour rushed us to emerg, and I got to hear him scream while having stitches.
And that is nothing compared to the school traumas and friends and backstabbing and being teased, milk money taken, etc.
so I definitely feel for her and only wish I could have afforded a night nurse.
I’m so sorry to hear about her baby, that’s terrifying.
That said, she had me and then she lost me.
“Well, let me tell you– the guilt I bore in the days and weeks after this accident was more intense and more damaging than anything I would wish upon my worst enemy.”
I understand where she’s coming from, but that last paragraph descends very quickly into woe-is-me, over the top dramatics that I don’t have time for. She takes a story about her son and makes it completely about herself and about how she’s just so precious and fragile and is the biggest martyr in the world for hiring a night nurse, and none of us can imagine the anguish she’s bearing. Good lord.
I’m with you. I’d never read her blog prior to this and I was ready to be sympathetic but her tone — about this and in general — was really off putting to me.
Maybe she was just trying to get ahead of the nasty comments she knew would come her way, letting them know she has enough guilt about it and blames herself. Maybe, I need to go read the whole blog:)
Yes accidents do happen. There were times that I would be holding my son and walk by the wall and not be so good at judging the distance from the wall and my child’s head. However, you hire a night nurse so you can sleep while the nurse is there to take care of the few middle of the night feedings. That’s her job. If she’s falling asleep while being on shift at night to care for your child then she’s clearly not doing her job properly. I do judge the night nurse and I’m sure she’s devastated but what if the baby didn’t make it? This isn’t some small accident and she was very irresponsible.
Only the most snobbish of celebs have a night nurse. It all sounds very British:
Posh Spice interview (circa 2000)
“Whilst having tantric relations with Becks, our night nurse watched carefully over little Romeo.”
Did she really say that? Was she just joking around? I hope she was…
It’s really kind of funny, it’s like she is totally aware of the ridiculousness.
She’s a spoiled, privileged drama queen and I don’t feel sorry for her at all, which is what she wants us to feel. I’m glad her baby is ok and yes I know stuff happens. But a newborn baby wakes up in the middle of the night crying and wants to be comforted by its PARENTS. This woman is too much of a snowflake to comfort her own baby. Give me a break. If this were someone else, say Duchess Kate, the comments would be scathing and unforgiving.
yeah! to hell with those kids who don’t have parents! let them cry.
Lol a two month old demanding mommy only, right?
ITA, the other Renee!
As a woman with sleep issues and two kids who were up every two hours, let me tell you – there is nothing wrong with having a night nurse if you can afford one. Sometimes that extra bit of sleep means you will be a much better mother and wife. I would have loved to employ one, it would have helped out a lot in my house and balls to anyone who dare pass judgement on me for it – until you were experiencing what I was experiencing, you have NO IDEA and you have NO RIGHT to judge.
If a night nurse falls asleep on the job she doesn’t deserve forgiveness – she deserves to be fired and pay any associated medical costs. Unbelievable.
It was a horrible accident. I had a similar experience – my son was squirming while I tried to settle him in my arms one night and kicked himself loose. He too cracked his skull. I suffered from horrible guilt and trauma regarding that night for years. I still will get sick to my stomach when I remember and it’s been 23 years. I can well imagine she does feel horribly guilty – I don’t fault her for having a nanny, but I understand the reaction. I think it’s natural for a mother to blame herself.
The apple doesn’t fall far. A life lived with a mother in the spotlight who is ‘so cool’ will often churn out a drama llama who rarely gets enough attention or affection. Hopefully some of that will come up and be dealt with in therapy. And please, please, PLEASE stay in therapy, Eva. It’s about those littles now.
You cant get PTSD from Depression, post partum or not, you ONLY get PTSD from a traumatic event – what a goddam drama queen.
One’s child experiencing a potentially life threatening injury/illness is one of the most traumatic events I can imagine as a mother. My one-year old once bit the tip of her finger off, and while she would obviously survive that, nothing that has ever happened to me personally was more traumatic.
You mean a traumatic event like her son cracking his skull open and getting a brain bleed?
This is so sad, and the judgmental mommy brigade is real. The first place I read this story, ALL the comments were some derivative of “must be nice, serves her right…” in a super judgy way. My sister in law had her mother move in with her after she had her baby to help with the nights, and I don’t have that luxury and have considered a night nurse. I will probably think twice now. Accidents can happen to anyone, but I don’t know that I’d sleep any better after reading this.
Were you reading at GOMI aka the most judgmental place I know?
No, what’s that?! It sounds horrible. I think I clicked on it as trending news on facebook and all the posts were extremely judgmental. It makes me so frustrated that new mom’s face so much judgment, and that it often comes from other moms.
Can’t we all agree that we’re just doing our damn best?
Hmmm, I only read the blogger forums but I love GOMI.
@sharkbait..i use to love GOMI until some of Freckled Fox faux cancer stuff. that was really just too much. I found myself actually cheering for some of the bloggers because there was so much BEC about them
I’m beginning to think Eva is more high drama then I previously thought. Which is ashame because I used to like her before I started hearing the tone of her blogs.
How long was the night nurse holding the baby that she fell asleep on the job? Is it possible Eva was diva enough she didn’t want to hear a peep from the baby when she was sleeping that said night nurse felt the need to hold the baby extended periods of time to keep him quiet, so much so, she would fall asleep with the baby in her arms?
Yeah I’m speculating, but I’m not so sure Eva is the greatest employer.
All in all, thankfully the baby is okay.
We never know what time the night nanny is expected to get there and the other demands made of her.
Exactly! Eva seems that she couldn’t be bothered with comforting her own child – or hear her child fuss – to the point that the night nurse felt compelled to hold the baby so long that she fell asleep and dropped the child.
As I said above, why couldn’t the father help out with the baby? Why couldn’t they take turns? Many parents help out each other and are able to raise a baby and a toddler at the same time without a night nurse to help.
Poor Eva can find solace with you ladies. Meanwhile in the rest of the world……..
I hope her son recovers quickly. I do feel a bit judgy. I’ve had friends hire a night nanny or have their moms help for the first week but 2 months is a little long. She’s pretty into the natural parenting thing having a home birth and all but this doesn’t really fit.
However, accidents do happen to moms and other caregivers. I’m sure they’re both rife with guilt.
I had a friend with twins have one for six months, plus she had a full time nanny. She had another little boy of 18 months but she was on the 1 year Canadian maternity leave. I found it a bit much. Mind you, her husband is as useful as tits on a log, lovely guy, but useless around the home and with babies and small children.
I’m sure if this was posted on Facebook it’d be full of the sanctimommies screaming about her having a night nurse and how real moms don’t do that, but if I could’ve afforded it with my daughter I sure as hell would have. More power to her, My daughter had colic and screamed for 5 to 6 hours straight every single night for months, I would’ve loved being able to sleep a little more, so if you can afford it and want to have a night nanny why the hell not?! Accidents happen to everyone, this could’ve happened to literally anyone, even those who think this could never happen to them. I’m glad he’s ok and it all worked out in the end, what a scary situation. It sounds like Eva is beating herself up enough, hopefully that will pass and she can relax a little.
Who the f*** is this chick?
I’m really trying not to judge. When I was in college, I was with a nanny agency and once interviewed for a “night nanny” position (Ava uses the word nurse, but I wonder if that means a real nurse). The parents knew I was in college, knew I wouldn’t be sleeping all day to prepare for the night and actually expected me to sleep in their house and wake up to get the baby. The baby and I would be upstairs and they and their older kids had bedrooms downstairs. On the one hand, I totally understood wanting to have your sleep in order to care for your two older kids. On the other it seemed a little cold to me. You’d essentially ignore the baby overnight while some college girl who would be a stranger to the baby once they started sleeping through cuddled them and fed them and comforted them. In the end I felt uncomfortable and worried I’d never be able to sleep and didn’t take the job.
The other thing I wonder reading this story is…how much was this night nurse paid? Again, I wasn’t a nurse, but my pay would have been pretty low. The idea was I would mostly be asleep anyway, so I was getting paid to sleep and do homework and take care of a baby maybe 1/4 of my actual working hours. I say all this to say…was this the night nurse’s only job? Was she being paid enough/provided with enough benefits to ensure she didn’t have to work during the day? Was she expected/allowed to sleep at work or was the expectation she stay up all night, and was thus as groggy as any parent of a newborn would be anyway? And I’m sure Ava paid the going rate for a night nurse…I just think child care is a criminally underpaid position in this country. I think Ava’s blog would have been more interesting if she also addressed those factors.
Let me tell you as a survivor of some seriously bad PPD…if I had the means to afford a night nurse and keep my sleep in order, I would. Hands down. Mess with my sleep and I become a total emotional wreck, even out of the post partum months. Maybe she knew this about herself. Maybe it’s just that she has the means and why not? Who cares? I would rather her have a night nurse who helps her out than her go into a full blown episode of PPD that lands her or her kids in the grave.
Spot on, and I’m the same way without sleep after having a baby with colic for 4 months, I can’t handle no sleep. Some women are able to function and carry on normally, some can’t, and I wish people would think about that before saying hateful things, we’re all very different and react to things differently, just because one person can handle something that doesn’t mean everyone else could too. I fantasized non stop about killing myself or running away from my daughter every single night while she screamed for hours, and I was a single mother, I got lucky that I never acted on those thoughts and I’ll never judge another mother for having a night nurse if they can afford it, whatever helps you be the best mother possible I’m all for it.
I feel for her. I cannot imagine the guilt she must feel-that being said, hiring a night nurse because she does not work a grueling 60 HR work week is not anybody’s business. I had a variety of amazing night nannies with my twin boys. They were on different sleep schedules and feeding every two hours. If I had done that all night, then woke up the next morning to take care of them–eventually I would have cracked. She can afford child care so she would dumb not to use it. Her sharing this story is brave because this happens more than people admit.
Accidents absolutely happen. Parenthood is just one anxiety attack after another. I’d list all the freak accidents that have happened to my children but I wouldn’t want the mommy pitchforked villiagers after me.
The point is even with the most thorough, loving, and attentive care kids get hurt and sick. It’s a nightmare as a parent and if you’re prone to anxiety/depression the build up of the fears of motherhood could absolutely escalate into a serious mental condition.
I admit my initial judginess was probably due to jealousy. I’m one of the peasants who has to take care of her own kids, 24/7. But my actual issue is the way she talks about all of this. She just sounds like a brat. It seems like she’s complaining that she now has to take care of both kids by herself because she doesn’t trust anyone else–which is something that lots of people do, for lots of reasons.
That being said I’m really glad the baby is ok.
I’ll bet that night nurse will feel awful about it for the rest of her life. When I had my son, I was so tired that night that I fell asleep with him in my arms and I totally dropped him onto the hospital floor. I woke up to the “splat!” and him crying. Thankfully he landed on his little bottom and the poor thing had a big purple mark on him for 2 years! I felt terrible over the incident for years.
I don’t judge her for having a night nanny at all. Sleep depravation is absolutely brutal. I’m also really glad that her baby is okay. Parenting is fraught with guilt over so many things and even though it’s not her fault, I understand why she feels so badly. She really, really bothers me though. I’ve read her blog and she comes across like a complete and total nightmare of a person and totally self absorbed. This was a very dramatic and scary thing to have happened, but she’s overly dramatic about absolutely everything. I don’t find her likeable or relatable on any level.
OK, Kyle IS a hot dish, so I’d keep my eyes open too, lollll. And not a mother, but if I was and had the $$$, you bet I’d hire help too. Why not????
Out of curiosity, how much is a night nurse paid? Are they expected to not work during the day and sleep, so they can be up all night with the baby? And are they actually a nurse? Or is that a fancy term rich people use in lieu of a “babysitter for my bedtime?” Based on all of the comments, it seems all of the blame is on the night nanny. I’d love to hear how well she is paid. Benefits? Insurance? If it’s so difficult for the mom or dad to do themselves, then it must be a very difficult job, requiring help that’s paid well. But I’ll go out on a limb and say it was probably some young girl, paid like crap, similar to most nursing, daycare, nanny jobs I know.
I’m not going to make any assumptions as to how much she was paid, but she accepted this job knowing that it meant tending to the baby in the middle of the night as necessary. She had done it before, and was clearly aware of what the role would require. I’m all for workers rights, and I hope she was being paid enough, but as with any responsibility, if you literally fall asleep on the job and it results in an accident you are responsible.
I like the idea of having someone to help with my baby at night. But the thought of hiring a stranger, whose job it is to be awake in my home while I’m asleep, just weirds me out. I’d likely be awake worrying about that.
I kinda wish she said I could’ve easily dropped my own kid, you know? I feel bad for all of them involved. What a scary situation.
Susan, your daughter is Batsh#t crazy and abusing your grandkid, do something!
A clumsy night nurse, a slutty nanny/assistant, these are big red flags, Susan.
I’ll just say that every parent does the best they can. I have three kids, 4, 2 and a 4 day old. I’m a stay at home parent and my husband works. We don’t have much because how can you with a single income? But I love taking care of my kids. It’s so hard and I only really have a bit of help from my husband when he’s not working, but that’s OK. I’d rather be poor as a pauper and be with my babes then work. At the same time I think there are clear pros and cons to both working and staying home. Neither choice is a better choice. It’s your choice. I just get sad when I hear about mothers who want to stay home but can’t. That’s heartbreaking.
I’m glad avas son is OK. Such a tragic accident but it could have happened to anyone.
I like this website and how non judgemental you guys are. Regarding this post, I don’t blame her for having a night nurse. My sister and I grew up with a nanny, because my mom was a nurse and she worked outside of the city (no we weren’t rich, and this was outside of north America/America where having a nanny is pretty common). I dislike the comments on dlisted where most of the comments are so vile and blame Eva and laugh at her baby being dropped. You guys here on celebitchy are mature and understanding. I’m getting sick and tired of dlisted and their toxic comments and clique attitude.
Agree about dlisted, the original author on there is hilarious but I can’t stand how nasty the comments have gotten over the last few years, it’s not funny to be downright mean and hateful. I still pop over there for the articles occasionally but not like I used to. This place is much better:)
I very much agree Jess.
MK and his gang are hilarious, but I have noticed how mean spirited and narrow minded (sometimes sexist and casually racist) the comments have become. Plus it’s a group/mob mentality there. If a well know commenter says something nasty, most people in the thread feel the need to follow and kiss ass to be included with the group. I used to like their snark and wit, but I’ve noticed it’s no longer that, it has crossed the line into nasty territory (which is no surprise). When you try to point it out, they attack you and diss other gossip sites. It’ll just get worse from there, and I’m detaching myself from that 🙂
She has a very forgiving heart. So glad her baby is okay. Stories like this are exactly why the first several months of my sons life, nobody watched him but me and my husband. I was a mama bear to the fullest!!! Accidents happens, of course, but it’s stories like this that I know I wouldn’t be able to forgive the person…therefore they don’t get hired. What a traumatic experience for everyone involved!!!!
If I could have afforded a night nurse, night nanny, wet nurse, Ralph the Rex in night nurse nanny costume, I would have done it, so I could have gotten more than 4 hours sleep in a 24-hour period in 6 months. So what? And babies get dropped no matter how loved or cared for; it happens. I don’t know this person, or her husband, her blog, and I don’t watch their shows (?), but her mom is famous, ok. All I know is when I read those 2+ paragraphs what I read is all about her. The health of the baby got 2 sentences out of many about her. How she feels, post-partum, guilt, PTSD (love that one), her. And more her. So that tells me everything I never wanted to know about her, and I don’t need to ever hear anymore from, or about her. And I don’t pray to many Gods (WTF), but the one I pray to (silly monotheist me), is glad someone took care of the baby.
I’m sure she’s relishing the attention. To me this not about Mom judgment or who should be doing the baby care, it’s about why this woman won’t quit soliciting attention. It’s a tragedy that this child has a cracked skull regardless of who is responsible, but why does she need to tell the world about it? It’s not as though this is an issue that needs more awareness. Like everyone needs to “be aware of night nannies because they might drop your baby on the floor.” There’s just no justification except trying to promote herself. It’s gross.
Really really glad the baby is OK. I don’t judge her for the night nurse especially because she’s got an older kid. I have a 4.5 month old and a 2 year old, and a full time job, and a part time job, and I drive myself crazy on the nights the baby doesn’t sleep well. My parents recently came to help for two nights because I was going so crazy and my husband isn’t much of a help.