Mel B’s ex is seeking spousal support and wants her to pay his legal fees

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The more we hear about the abuse and emotional torment that Mel B was subjected to during her ten years of marriage to Stephen “Belafonte” nee Stansbury, the more disturbing it is. One thing people wondered about is how Stephen was able to steal millions from her throughout their marriage. In her request for a restraining order, which was granted, Mel described how Stephen would regularly log in to her email account to approve large expenditures submitted to her by her accountants. Apparently it was worse than that and Stephen arranged everything so that Mel had no access to her own money. People Magazine has some insider quotes that explain the situation:

“She never knew where her money was or how she could get to it,” the source says, adding, “He set up the account, put the accountants in place; she literally never knew where her money was.”

The source says that with Belafonte, 41, in control, he would have Brown do “anything that would earn him a bit of money.”

As the couple goes through the process of divorcing, Mel’s lawyers will be bringing in a forensic accountant to sort through the finances, the source says.

[From People]

That sheds more light onto the situation, as does a new paparazzi video of Stephen posted on The Mirror. A photographer asks Stephen about specific allegations in the restraining order, including that he beat her before the Dancing With The Stars finale, and again when he was jealous of a home segment she did with Usher on America’s Got Talent. Stephen never says “no I never did those things” and instead shakes his head up and down as he listens, claiming it’s the first time he’s heard about this. The person off camera asks about an incident in 2012 when Stephen punched Mel in the face after he was jealous by a segment she did for X-Factor in which she visited Usher at his home. Instead of saying “no, I never did that,” he says “Usher’s not on X-Factor so how is that possible?” As for the threesome allegations he just repeats the question as a statement like “So I force her to have threesomes?” Stephen then tries to turn it around on Mel “I really distraught (?) my brain as to how this is going to affect my children and the depths that she’s gone to. I’m shocked at those allegations.” Ok, but the dude never said “no” once. He never said “I would never hurt her” or “abusing women is wrong.”

Stephen has filed a response to Mel’s divorce declaration. It’s not a detailed one and you can see it on The Mirror, he’s just checking off boxes in which he requests joint custody of his child with Mel and also spousal support and to have her pay his legal fees. As TMZ notes, Mel asked for joint custody in her divorce documents but then requested sole physical and legal custody in her request for a restraining order.

Meanwhile Mel’s sister Danielle put up a post on Instagram telling Stephen and the nanny, whom she calls out by name, to go to hell. She calls Stephen a psychopath and writes that he made “8 years of abusive calls” to her and her mom “stating we would never see Melanie again.” Apparently Mel was estranged from her family until her father’s death earlier this year. Abusers do that, they separate their victims from friends and family.

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  1. doofus says:

    just when you think he can’t be any more disgusting. stay strong, Mel B, you have a LOT of people rooting for you.

  2. Green Is Good says:

    Because OF COURSE he is. What a f*cking shithead.

  3. testmilk says:

    Ugh. That guy is an awful awful d-bag.

    Saw an Access H’wood segment on their split and they dig up all of these old clips where he’s commenting (before the split I guess they could give a flck, so they didn’t air) he was so rude and disgusting to MelB.

    In one she’s talking fitness and health and why you should stay in shape and he interrupts her and weighs in, ‘you better because there’s a lot of fine women out here and I might go elsewhere.’

    That makes her stop – she was floored he said that on camera- you could tell she was hurt and looks at him like she wants his head on a stick.

    He’s just gross. Some women no matter their station in life easily fall prey to slimy con-men. She appears to be one of them.

    • Jess says:

      My god what an awful thing to say your wife, and on camera! Wonder if she asked them not to air it, so incredibly sad.

  4. Singtress says:

    Wow. She was in deep.
    Glad she got out.

  5. jugil1 says:

    This POS needs to go straight to hell! As the saying goes “his actions speak so loud, I can’t hear a word he says”.

  6. Digital Unicorn (aka Betti) says:

    Of course he is, nasty grifter gotta grift to fund his wannabe lifestyle. AM WHAT movies has he actually ‘produced’ other than spending her money and sleeping around.

  7. Andrea1 says:

    I’m just going to say this once because stories like this destroy my emotions… this guy is the devil and he is gross and disgusting.. if he thinks he is going to get spousal support and his legal fees paid then i have a bridge to sell him.

  8. LAK says:

    Of course he did.

  9. detritus says:

    The sad/scary part, is that someone out there will believe all his lies and date him again. I just hope no judge falls for his lies.

    I believe Mel.

  10. Megan says:

    Their relationship has always been weird. Now the full extent of it comes out and it’s batshit insane.

  11. adastraperaspera says:

    So a guy who beats and terrorizes a woman has to go to jail UNLESS it is his own wife. Thanks for that stupid reality, patriarchy. He’s scum.

  12. Aims says:

    I have two teenage sons. For the past three years we’ve volunteer two Saturdays a month at a woman’s shelter . This shelter houses women who, along with their children leave their abusive situation with the clothes on their back . I did this with my boys so it left an impression on them, that as men. That their actions and reactions can cause damage more then they can imagine . We’ve donate clothing , money and our time . I am my child’s first teacher and they have seen first hand what abuse can do.

    • Lisaruns says:

      BRAVO to you and your boys. This is the kind of stuff that will stay with them forever and I commend you for taking the time to show them this ugly side of relationships and what they can do to be good men.

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

      Wow Aims, major respect to you and your boys, the world needs more people like you in it.

    • thaliasghost says:

      That is so so amazing. What a wonderful mother you are who really knows what a responsibility it is to raise the next generation of men.

      On a class trip my brother’s female math teacher took the class to a women’s shelter. It didn’t make sense to anybody (it was a trip to Rome) but I always thought it was awesome.

    • Otaku Fairy says:

      That’s awesome that you do that, because it’s really important to start working at an early age to combat the sexist, pro-abuse, victim-blaming, and pro- hatred, messages that every generation of boys and men get exposed to. I’m not a parent, but that’s one of my main concerns about the possibility of being one in the future, and it’s something we all can work toward in some way. What you’re doing with your boys is a great step.

  13. Claree says:

    F him so much. Disgusting excuse for a human being.

  14. BJ says:

    Boy Bye
    There is video and pics of Mel B and Usher at X factor in July 2012 so that’s how it’s possible.Idiot
    Sharon Osborne confirmed that Mel B missed a taping in 2014 and then came in the next day with black eye and bruises on her arms.So who beat her up?

  15. Abbess Tansy says:

    Horrible pos, hope he goes to jail.

    • B n A fn says:

      He’s a disgusting pos. However, if I had her money and connections, there is no way in hell I would have stayed with this monster. When I read some of the things they were doing I feel dirty and needs a shower. This is all I have to say about both of them. Also, I will not be reading anything else about them.
      This is jmo.

      • Jess says:

        I know it’s easy to say that from the outside looking in, but it’s not always that simple. Sometimes abuse starts out slow and builds over time in a way that you don’t even notice until it’s too late. Plus she has children, and he was blackmailing her, her self esteem has probably been reduced to nothing over the years and she was afraid to leave him. No doubt he promised to change every time something big happened, abusers can be very charming and manipulative.

  16. zwella ingrid says:

    I feel really sorry for her on the one hand, but on the other hand, there is no way I would ever let anyone control my finances, or make it so I don’t know what is going on with my finances. That part is on her.

  17. vespernite says:


    How do you stay a decade with someone like this??? And I have been there, so I can comment. I left within a year and half. And thank god no kids were had between us. But the damage to me and my daughter (previous relationship) was done. I can’t imagine what those kids have seen and heard. Poor babies. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children!

  18. thaliasghost says:

    From what I know, he managed to almost completely destroy the reputation of Mel’s family in the UK. Somehow they were the onces who were seen as money grabbing attention seekers.

    Since this story broke I got Ike Turner vibes from him. He exploitet her for her money and kept her working for him.

  19. serena says:

    I really hope he’ll go to hell. What a shameless bastard.