Julie Bowen spoke to US Magazine at an event for Baby2Baby, a Los Angeles-based charity which provides needed supplies to low income families. They asked her to name a celebrity mom she admires and she drew a blank, said that it’s really hard being a mom (Julie has three sons, ten year-old Oliver and eight year-old twins, John and Gustav) and then threw some verbal side eye at Tori Spelling, who welcomed her fifth child earlier this year and is deep in debt (which Julie didn’t mention of course). The whole conversation sounded so funny to me that I came away wishing there was video. Years ago I covered an interview with Julie when her oldest was three (holy crap that was seven years ago!) in which she told a hilarious story about going hiking with a mom’s group and not having any baby wipes for the toddler. I remembered that because she captured the essence of being a mom so well. She’s still telling it like it is, and the way she segued into discussing moms who pretend like they’re perfect made me think she was still referring to Tori Spelling.
When Us Weekly asked Julie Bowen to name a celebrity mom she admires, the Modern Family actress drew a blank.
“I usually have a good answer to this, but I can’t think of anybody,” the 47-year-old told Us at the Tiny Prints Baby2Baby Holiday Wrapping Party in L.A. on Wednesday, November 29. She then changed the topic to Tori Spelling, who has five kids.
“I don’t know if I look up to her or I’m just confused,” Bowen confessed to Us. “I look up to anyone who clearly loves being a mom because it’s really hard. It’s hard to be a mom. It’s hard to be a dad. It’s exhausting and every day I feel like I’m three steps forward and one step back. I apologize a lot.”
Bowen, who shares Oliver, 10, and twins John and Gustav, 8, with her software developer husband Scott Phillips, admitted she makes a lot of mistakes. “Anybody who pretends that they’re a perfect parent, I automatically resent. I’m like, ‘No, you’re not. None of of us are. We’re all guessing and doing our very, very best.’”
The two-time Emmy winner was equally candid about her 13-year marriage. “Butting heads is part of life. I’ve spent a lot of time in excellent therapy and butting heads is part of life,” she told Us. In fact, Bowen thinks it’s healthy for her sons to see her and Phillips hash things out. “Being perfect is not a good role model for your children,” she said. “They need to see that there are arguments and they need to see how those get resolved.”
I love that Julie follows celebrity news and knows all about Tori Spelling and her five kids and the bullsh-t she feeds to the press. Julie wasn’t too harsh on Tori and she turned it around into admitting that she has her own issues, but that part about parents pretending they’re perfect was telling. Look at Tori’s Instagram, she’s referring to Tori and her constant mantra that the fifth baby saved her marriage. In reality kids are hard, marriages are messy and you work on it. I also loved what she said about apologizing a lot. I do that too with my kid.
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