Yeah, the Prince of Wales probably should walk Meghan Markle down the aisle

Celebrities at the ITV studios

How will the royals salvage Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s wedding? I don’t know. I really don’t. As I keep saying, once the wedding blitz is over, heads will roll. There will be people fired over how the “Markle Debacle” was handled. Richard Kay at the Daily Mail did a lengthy piece about all of the mistakes that were made, and he seemed to blame it all on Harry and the Kensington Palace communications team. Which… I somewhat agree with, although at this point, there might need to be some kind of internal investigation into what really happened and how badly everything fell apart in the final week.

So, again, I ask: what can salvage this mess? Perhaps they’ll get through it simply by pushing the reset button and acting like nothing happened. Put on a happy face and move on. But I think this move would be a power play too: ask the Prince of Wales to walk Meghan down the aisle.

Meghan Markle’s father will no longer walk her down the aisle; however, her future father-in-law Prince Charles could step in to fulfill the duty. E! News has learned that Prince Harry’s father could do the honor, but only if his son and blushing bride ask him to do so. While the decision is ultimately up to the couple, Meghan and Harry would likely have to consult Queen Elizabeth II first. Meghan seems to have a good relationship with the Prince of Wales. After all, she and Harry are postponing a honeymoon to attend Charles’ birthday (their first official engagement as a married couple).

Carolyn Harris, a royal historian and author of Raising Royalty: 1000 Years of Royal Parenting, also told E! News “there certainly has been speculation” that Charles might assume the role. However, she also suggested that Meghan’s mother Doria Ragland could step in or that Harry and Meghan could walk down the aisle together. She even proposed the possibility of Meghan walking herself down the aisle.

[From E! News]

I wasn’t on the “Charles should do it” train at first, but at this point, I think it’s the best option. It would be a powerfully symbolic move that showed the world that the royal family is on Meghan’s side. Plus, the photos would just be great – Charles treating Meghan like a daughter, looking proud as he welcomed her to the family. This is what they should do. This is the reset button.

Meanwhile, people are arriving at Windsor Castle:

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle visit the Eikon Centre in Lisburn

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Kathleen says:

    She should walk herself down the aisle. 1, she is a modern, adult woman who does not need to be “given away” like a child or property. 2, she is divorced. If we’re sticking with tradition here and not thinking about modernity, she has already been given away. Amy Vanderbilt and Emily post both say that divorced, remarrying women don’t need to be given away, since it’s already happened in the past. I don’t think that strict etiquette needs to be followed, but I’m just saying here is no real reason for her to be “given away” again. The only reason for her to be escorted imho is if she wants some moral support for that walk, which I could understand. But if she doesn’t need the help, don’t do it!

  2. Jamie42 says:

    The DM article is fascinating, and makes a great deal of sense. It’s clear, in a case of family estrangement like this one, that neither Meghan nor Harry has the perspective and distance necessary to make the right decisions, no matter how difficult they might be; and it also seems clear that there should have been contact with the Markle family very much earlier on.
    Easy for me to say, of course.

  3. Magdalin says:

    Charles should definitely do it.

    I think that what many people, especially non-people of color, don’t understand, is that you must sometimes think strategically. Meghan is breaking down many barriers by virtue of who she is and what she has already accomplished in her own right. Just the same with her mother’s nose ring…

    NO, it’s not wrong to have a nose ring.
    NO, it’s not wrong for a mother to walk her daughter down the aisle.

    BUT, it’s just too much or this particular moment. She’s trailblazing, but because of British society, she’s going to have to play the game a bit at least. They can’t just shun all tradition absolutely or they will be seen as disrespectful and they will not have an easy transition into royal life. I love how some posters are all like, “‘F’ this or that, she should just do ______.” That is incredibly easy to say from the comfort of our own homes or offices right now. Sure, get heated in a comments section on a website, but this is not always reality. And for those who have had your moms walk you down in the aisle in your own wedding, kudos to you. But your wedding was not a royal wedding, loaded with all the baggage this one is loaded with. No disrespect, but the stakes are higher and the situation is different.

    For me, it’s all about the end game and end result. You still have to be yourself and stay true to yourself, but the truth of the matter is, that as a person of color, there are times when you have to play the game a bit in order to stay in the game at all. You can just go screaming and yelling and pushing every button and changing every thing by force and right away, but it doesn’t always work that way.

    It’s not right, but it’s true in many instances. I personally think of my entire race sometimes before making certain decisions, because whether I like it or not, I am going to be judged by many according to my race and I don’t want to give certain people the satisfaction. I stay true to myself, but I stay in the game and therefore have more power to change it without always using force.

    This is all to say that for the reasons Kaiser and others have stated, from a PR perspective and to err on the side of tradition (since she’s freaking joining the BRITISH MONARCHY, a.k.a. bastion of tradition) while finding those other seeds to plant and other more overt ways to do things their own way, her mother should not walk her down the aisle.

    • MrsBump says:

      I’m a WOC, and ive lived many years in the UK. I really don’t see, at this moment, in what way Meghan has changed anything about the RF. Just a month ago, Charles made a racist comment about an Indian woman.
      I know we all want to feel as if putting her up there has broken some sort of glass ceiling but the reality is that very little will change. Real, meaningful change comes from us, the little people. Meghan will enjoy a lifetime of privilege, a privilege she would not have obtained if she wasn’t more white than black. She seems to not even have that many people of colour amongst her friends, and that’s ok, because she doesn’t need to represent us, but her marrying her prince isnt a victory for us either. I wish her all the happiness in the world but she’s trailblazing nothing at all atm.

  4. Keepitreal says:

    When have the RF not shown MM support and that they are not on her side??? They have been nothing but extra supportive. Meghan can walk herself up the aisle…she does not need an arm to lean on. She is empowered.

  5. No Doubtful says:

    Personally, I wouldn’t even be having the wedding if my father couldn’t attend, but whatever. Prince Charles doing it would be sweet, but I doubt if this will happen. She’s a grown woman and she can walk herself down the aisle just fine. Or with her mother. Regardless, the “giving the bride away” is a silly tradition anyway.

  6. Honey says:

    My message to Meghan:

    Just walk it like a champ. Embarrassed. Humiliated. Ridiculed. No matter. Take the a$$ whupping like a champ and walk the aisle with head held high as if you were QEII herself. The haters have scored points but you still won the game. F’em.

  7. iconoclast59 says:

    This is complete fantasy on my part, but I would LOVE for Barack Obama to secretly jet in and walk Meghan down the aisle! It would be the ultimate “FU” to that awful, trashy white family of hers!

  8. HannahF says:

    I’m 110% a feminist and believe that a father “giving away” his daughter is beyond outdated. Frankly, it’s insulting. That said, I think that Charles or Charles and Doria should do the aisle walking. First, Meghan will be watched by millions around the world which must be unnerving. As noted above, the dress, tiara and train will most likely be heavy. Therefore, from a purely physical point of view, an arm to lean on is almost a necessity.

    I also agree with Kaiser re the PR optics. If this were my neighbor’s wedding I’d most assuredly vote for walk alone. But this is vastly different. The press has been so negative the last few days, if Charles could temper the negativity by symbolically welcoming Meghan to the family it would make things much easier for Harry and Meghan going forward.

  9. The Original G says:

    OMG, what a nothingburger. The Daily Mail is hilarious, but not as hilarious as taking a word of this seriously.

    A mother walking her daughter down the aisle is so routine. I wish people would stop acting like the royal family are all fragile hothouse flowers. It’s insulting to everyone.

  10. Emily says:

    If Megan wants the world to know that she’s appreciated by the royal family even if not by her own than Charles.

    Personally, I think the strongest move is to walk herself or have her and Harry walk together. Marriage is something her and Harry are entering together as two adults and that’s that.

  11. minxx says:

    In my country many couples arrive to the church together (the groom collects the bride at her parents’ home and then they ride together to church), fathers generally don’t give daughters away. Meghan and her mom should arrive together and Harry should greet his bride at the entry (Doria should be escorted into the church first, by Charles or William). It would be modern and fitting the situation. Or the bride should walk by herself, surrounded by her flower girls and page boys. It would be a lovely sight.

    • A says:

      100% agree. The bride and groom should walk together. That is actual equality. Women are no longer the property of their families who live cloistered lives before marriage, and this is no less true for Meghan. I wouldn’t want my mother or my father holding my hand for what is truly the most grown-up of occasions. I would want my partner, my friend, my future spouse to walk with me.

  12. jferber says:

    I like the mom idea, but it would be a nice effort from Prince Charles to his son Harry, especially as Charles was so unkind to Harry’s mother. Harry is so like his mom in so many ways. I bet he and Meghan will do so many good things together. A bright point in these dark times.

  13. artistsnow says:

    I would be stunned if Dora Ragland did not walk her daughter down the aisle. These two very modern feminist productive yet vulnerable emotional ladies would NEVER give this chance away.

    It is the ONLY way to make this debacle something beautiful. Un(?)fortunately Meghans flawed father gave up his role at the very last minue but lemons make lemonade.

    Team Dora!!!!!

  14. Princessk says:

    Well I think Prince William will walk her down the aisle.

  15. Ann says:

    Let’s do away with “give away” and instead say “walk” or “escort” down the aisle. Personally, I love the idea of Charles escorting her. I love my mom to bits but wouldn’t want her to walk me anymore than I would want her to escort me to prom (I’m 53, btw). Same goes for my two adult daughters. If a prince offers to escort either of them, I say go for it and I won’t miss a thing!

  16. MavenTheFirst says:

    She’s 36. Divorced. A grown up. She doesn’t need an escort or to be given away.

  17. A says:

    This tradition has always been something I’ve never understood. I’m sorry, but I feel like at this age, given that many women have built lives of their own, separate from their parents, before they get married, what is the necessity for them to be “escorted” by parents? Or even by any of their family at all?

    Marriage is the start of a new journey for one and their partner. Your parents and your family are important, but they can’t undertake that journey with you. Only you can do that with the person you choose to be partnered with. The person you should be walking up that aisle with is your partner. That is proper symbolism for a marriage, where two people who have chosen to bond themselves together are walking to meet their future, side by side, supporting one another as equals, with your family surrounding you to witness the ceremony.

    However, given that traditions like this one are slow and resistant to change, I would want Charles to walk Meghan down the aisle. Not because she is a woman who has to be given away by a man, not because being given away by a man is tradition, but as a gesture of welcome and support on behalf of the royal family. She’s been through a lot, she knows her mother has her back always, but if Charles were to do it, it would send a powerful message to everyone. I don’t want her to walk alone. Everyone deserves love and support on their wedding day, and if it can’t be Harry like I think it should be, then it should at least be Charles.

  18. Brittany says:

    I am a strong independent woman.

    I am a strong independent woman who can trip over absolutely nothing. Imagine walking up that loooong aisle, in a long dress, with TV cameras and 600 people watching you.

    Did none of you stop to think maybe she WANTS to have somebody to hold on to? Maybe it’s not so much about ‘giving her away’ but more about having somebody to hold on to, somebody who can help calm her nerves, somebody who will catch her if she trips. I’d be happy with either her mom or Charles walking her. She’s an actress and used to being the center of attention but I would be so nervous about this, even if I was a person that could handle all of that kind of attention or I was somebody (somewhat) used to it. I see so many comments how its so archaic to ‘give her away’ and I do agree…but maybe…just maybe…it has nothing to do with giving her away to Harry but as somebody to support her as she takes that long walk.

    • A says:

      If she wants someone to hold onto, maybe she should walk with Prince Harry from the start. Do away with the whole “giving someone away” nonsense entirely. Women are not owned by their families, and people aren’t the property of their parents to be given away, period.

      At any rate, there’s no guarantee that even with someone to hold on to, the bride won’t fall over. I’ve seen people go down like dominoes and it was entirely the fault of the person escorting them down the aisle. Sometimes its very much the bride dragging the parent up the aisle, usually because said parent is ill but decided to do it anyway because they were obligated to.

  19. emerald eyes says:

    It should be whoever Meghan wants. Doria. Harry. Charles. Or her own damn self.

    This woman has had enough horror thrown at her this last week. She should get to choose how this goes down.

  20. Marjorie says:

    I think she should walk by herself in her hopefully fabulous dress and royal bling. If she needs an arm to lean on due to dress, stress, tiara, and shoes, then maybe Howie Mandel and/or her Hollywood agents? I mean, it’s just a wedding.

  21. Ponytail says:

    Yay – just announced, Prince Charles WILL walk her down the aisle!

  22. Sushi says:

    Charles will walk Meghan. Nice. It should be seen as him welcoming her to the family not give her away.