Taylor Swift & the Enigma of Kaylor’s End: a theory of a friendship breakup


Taylor Swift hurries home after a morning workout

For a glorious two weeks, we got the old Taylor Swift back. She was doing daily pap strolls in New York, she was wearing “cute” new ensembles and showing off her collection of cat t-shirts and snake gear. Then it all went away for several days, as Taylor was hard at work on her tour. On Wednesday, she was back in new York and she got pap’d on her way into her apartment building. She wore really cute sneakers, track shorts and a hoodie. What’s interesting about these photos is that even though she seemed to be wearing a cute outfit on purpose, I also get the feeling that this stroll wasn’t really a stroll. Maybe she didn’t want to be pap’d. And I have some thoughts as to why.

Karlie Kloss got engaged last week, or at least that’s when she announced her engagement. Ever since Karlie’s announcement, Taylor has been in the wind – yesterday was the first time she got pap’d since July 22nd (Karlie announced on the 24th). Put two and two together: Taylor didn’t want to be seen right after Karlie got engaged. Maybe Tay doesn’t even want to be seen right now. It’s especially remarkable given that Karlie posted a video where she told all of her closest friends about her engagement – just quick reaction shots from an assortment of Karlie’s nearest and dearest. And Taylor was nowhere to be seen.

Of course it’s worth noting that Taylor has not made ANY kind of public reference to Karlie or her engagement. Is it possible that Taylor congratulated her friend privately and just didn’t want to do it on Twitter or Instagram? Sure, it’s possible. But… I just think that whatever happened between these two was so bad that Taylor doesn’t even want to be SEEN when Karlie announced her engagement. Taylor is the champion grudge-holder, and speaking as someone who can hold a massive grudge for a very long time, this is like looking into a mirror. Taylor and Karlie didn’t have a mature, adult “growing apart” as friends. They had a massive falling out and Taylor is still f–king pissed at her.

All of which to say… maybe Karlie doesn’t give a f–k about Taylor either at this point. Karlie’s already spent time with Snake Enemy Katy Perry. And then this week, Karlie was photographed with HARRY STYLES. The Snake Fam was in shambles. So there you go. Everything that’s happening is all about The Enigma of Kaylor’s End. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

Taylor Swift hurries home after a morning workout

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  1. Erinn says:

    I don’t know, man. I’m a year younger than Taylor, and I’ve gained and lost a handful of friends in the past 2-5 years. Some people mature, some people are still acting like they’re 20. Some people’s jobs just make it impossible to meet up regularly. I feel like it’s a pretty common thing in the late 20′s early 30′s that priorities can take major shifts.

    • HelloSunshine says:

      Yeah I’m wondering if it’s less conspiracy and more boring than people think. Sometimes people drift apart, especially with a friendship that started out very strongly and in your face imo. Idk if there was necessarily a big falling out. I’m the roughly same age as you and I’ve had quite a few friendships sizzle out with no fault to either person. Life gets busy and suddenly Facebook is reminding you it’s their birthday and you’re like oh man, it’s been awhile lol

      • Jen says:

        I was going to say, I think we’re forgetting who this story is dealing with.

      • Erinn says:

        I’m willing to believe it’s a bit of a mix. Maybe there was some kind of last annoying thing that caused it. But I’m leaning towards the idea that it’s just a fizzling out. I have a friend who I’m no longer tight with. We were best friends from 3 -24 or so. But life has just gotten in the way. We still talk to eachother, are happy to see each other when we do – but she has two kids and some step kids now, she’s bonded tight with her SIL and is a nurse doing shift work. I feel guilty trying to make plans with someone who has an unpredictable schedule and who has little kids and a husband they want to spend time with. I just started up a conversation with a guy I haven’t spoke to in ages other than saying hi in passing because Justin Pierre from Motion City Soundtrack just released a new single and I know he loved them as much as I do. There’s a lot of shifting in and out of social circles at this point in life, I think.

    • SM says:

      That is the case when you actualy grow and mature with age. What Taylor’s last album shows is that she still os stuck in petty high school drama phrase. So I want to believe amd would guess this is not the reason and there is drama. Man, God knows I miss it, just to read about mean girls for gossip instead of politics. So thanks for that TED talk:)

      • Erinn says:

        I know she can be pretty petty and immature – I get that. But I really don’t find her music any more so than someone like Charlie Puth who’s just a whiney little brat in most songs I’ve heard. There’s a lot of dudes that do the ‘scorned’ kind of music that don’t get nearly the same kind of flack she does. I just wish people would swing against the dudes who make a career whining about love more often haha.

        That said – I work with a LOT of adults who are 40′s, 50′s who are no more emotionally mature than this. So unfortunately it doesn’t get better with age in a lot of folks.

    • Josie says:

      Taylor is a perpetual 16 year old though.

  2. Snazzy says:

    I think they broke up over politics. Taylor’s s Trump supporter and Karlie wasn’t having it. Or maybe I’m just making stuff up cuz it’s fun 🤷🏽‍♀️

  3. Jess says:

    I believe that their friendship ended around the time of the Kimye drama.
    On Look What You Made Me Do, Taylor wears a t-shirt with the name of her friends, and Karlie’s name is not there. Blake, Gigi and Martha Hunt’s names appear though.
    And on one of the songs of her album, she sings “here’s a toast to my real friends, they don’t care about the ‘he said she said’”…

    In the mess of the Hiddleswift and the Kimye drama, Taylor “kept” only the ones that proved to be the most loyal to her, and apparently Karlie was not one of those.

    Thank you for coming to my TED talk!

    • Zapp Brannigan says:

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    • dlc says:

      I think it makes sense for the “breakup” to be kimye adjacent as well, for so many reasons. Karlie is rolling with the super rich now. If she’s looking towards the future, burning bridges seems like a bad idea. Staying friends with Taylor, avoiding the people she hates for petty reasons would be burning bridges. She was also pretty evil, stabbing Kanye in the back and then playing the victim when she was called out on it. That whole thing had a racist slant as well. All of those things would seem a good reason to back away from a friendship.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I think you are right. Back when all of the “receipts” happened, didn’t Karlie get asked about Kim and she said she was lovely? And then she wore Yeezy sneakers? I think she said she didn’t want to participate in women being pitted against each other, but maybe TS felt betrayed.

  4. TheHufflepuffLizLemon says:

    I love the shoes!
    As for the end of Kaylor, meh. Maybe someone will write a tell all.

  5. Jess says:

    I also don’t think that the timing of the pap shots was related to Karlie’s engagement announcement, because Taylor being papped now depends on the day of her shows, and those were planned long before this. It’s kust a coincidence.

    What I find interesting, is that Taylor and Joe Alwyn will be celebrating two years together in September. If they were planning on getting engaged, and they do so, the media and some fans will inevitably connect it to Karlie (jealousy, competition, etc.) even if that wasn’t the reason and they were talking about it before

  6. Cee says:

    This happens all the time in your late 20′s and early 30′s Sometimes nothing bad marks the end of a friendship, sometimes you grow apart, your job/career/family life takes you in different directions. Any relationship requires hard work.

    • TheHufflepuffLizLemon says:

      Yep. I was thinking about this with this article. I made a conscious choice to cut ties with what had been a very close friend in the last few years. It got to the point where it felt like I was doing all the heavy lifting in our friendship-driving, inviting, texting, and had been for a while and I just…stopped and let it die. I developed a very close-knit group of friends who made me feel loved and included and seen, and have continued to do so for years now. It made me realize how much work I had been doing on the last friendship-and how little my friend did. Nothing happened, it just ended.
      Also, her husband sucks. But that’s another story all together. :)

  7. LaraK says:

    I think Taylor had her glory years of the Squad – swanning around with her loyal followers and living her bes life. The peak I think was the 4th of July party with Calvin – everyone was like that photo with her on his back is he new photography and Annie Leibovitz is taking notice etc.
    And then it all kinda dies down as people move on and mature.
    Then she blew it with Hiddles and Kimye, and she just can’t seem to move on.
    I think Karlie was there for the fun stuff, and then she grew up. I mean, I would have loved to be part of the squad in my early twenties. By 25, I no longer had patience for other people’s bs.

  8. Jane says:

    Relationships like Marriages end.

    People grow apart and change.

    Does it need to be anything more than that?
    (clearly yes since I am on a gossip site)

    I bet Taylor got with Karlies then boyfriend now fiancee and that’s why they broke up.

  9. MerrymerrymonthofMay says:

    I’m a grudge holder too. I have a hard time forgiving and moving on no matter how much I want to.

  10. Shannon says:

    Happens. I was in my late 20s when a former BFF and I parted ways, and it was relatively dramatic. And we haven’t talked since and honestly even now I wouldn’t be in any hurry to congratulate her on jack, and probably vice versa. Luckily, neither of us are famous and wouldn’ have to deal with it. But I honestly don’t blame TS for just being like, whatever, let her have her moment. If she was doing anything else, she’d be accused of trying to steal the limelight. Honestly, KK seems to be acting more immature about it, going out of her way to friend TS’s ex and “enemies.” Whatever. They’re not friends anymore. It happens.

  11. cantgoogleme says:

    It’s well known they dated, They were caught making out and KK was all over her in multiple public appearances together. Their falling out was a bad breakup, yo

  12. L84Tea says:

    I definitely do not think Karlie gives a flying f*** about Taylor at the moment.

  13. Chaine says:

    Taylor wanted more commitment out of their relationship—whatever the nature of it was— than Karlie was willing to give. Karlie had enough of the drama and Taylor still hasn’t forgiven her for it.

  14. Jenni says:

    Just want to add that Taylor has really great legs

  15. Tiffany says:

    Swifty got with Sleepy Eyes and forgot about her squad and Karlie was not waiting by the phone or dropped her life when Swifty decided she wanted to hang because Sleepy Eyes was going out with his friends for the night.

    What….it can happen.

  16. Case says:

    Meh. You lose and gain a lot of friends in your 20s. I’m going through it right now. You grow apart because of distance or careers or personality differences and realize it shouldn’t be that much of a struggle to stay friends, so you let it drift. I’ve had friendships fade out in the past few years, and I’ve also had two legitimate falling-out situations with former close friends, which I never dealt with at any other point in my life because I’m quite non-confrontational, but sometimes it happens.

    That said, I think she lost a lot of the “squad” post Taymerica 2016. It could be because some of these girls liked the professional benefits of being seen with Taylor and didn’t want to stick around after she went into hiding with the Kimye drama, or they didn’t agree with her part in the Kimye drama, or they saw how public she was with Tom Hiddleston and realized she was playing games with them, too. Or maybe she cut them off because she wanted to be with Private Joe and didn’t think they fit her image anymore. Something bad definitely went down around that time, though.

  17. Amelie says:

    I think they had a pretty major falling out. Sure, you lose and gain friends in your twenties and it can be as simple as drifting apart and not having enough time to put into the friendship. But the fact she has remained silent on Karlie’s engagement, made sure not to be seen immediately in the days following, and also Karlie has dropped some major hints on social media that the friendship is over. Whatever happened was pretty big. Taylor is petty and she doesn’t forgive easily. Even if they had drifted apart naturally, it takes two seconds to post on social media “Congrats to my friend! So happy for you!” or something similar. We’ll know when Karlie gets married. If Taylor isn’t invited to the wedding, that’ll be the official nail in the coffin that Kaylor is dead.

  18. Cupcake says:

    Maybe they just stopped being friends? Tswift is cool with Katy Perry and Harry styles now. Also, Taylor’s legs look great.

  19. D says:

    Rainbow sneakers and being bent about Ks engagement does zero for the gay rumors surrounding these two nothings an accident with Tay. Why those shoes? Fox Mulder singing out

  20. Jensies says:

    Always hard when your ex gets engaged.

  21. PlaidSheets says:

    I know someone who repeats a similar pattern. Complete bffs for about a year or two, then boom! No longer friends and the other person’s name is never mentioned again. I see the pattern enough to know to stay out of the way. Taylor seems a bit similar from my vantage point.

  22. Other Renee says:

    Karlie grew up and told Taylor to do the same. Taylor didn’t like that too much and considered Karlie disloyal. Or it was a romantic breakup because Taylor refused to go public with their romance.

  23. shirurusu says:

    I’m guessing it’s a bit like Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie falling out, it’s always the people we think or imagine we are closest to that we hate the most if they say or do something “unforgivable” lol! Probably some petty bullshit that got out of hand.

    I’ve lost a friend recently who I didn’t really want to lose and it sucks. We just had such different views of what constitutes a friendship in the end, I felt like she was way too possessive and needy, she probably didn’t think I payed her enough attention, and I seriously felt like I was dealing with a jealous lover trying to guilt trip me all the time. Sucks because when she was in a happier place up until a few years ago we just used to have so much fun. It’s like she’s forgotten that fun exists now.

  24. Kathryn says:

    Those mean girl/regina george rumors have been around Taylor for years. She seems like the type that is very omg this is my bff pretty often and then has no association with that person whatsoever. Whatever happened with Karlie is debatable but it seems to keep happening? I was friends with the mean girls in high school and she seems to have that type of personality that sucks you in for a while before you wisen up and wonder why am I “friends” with this person?

  25. Daisy says:

    I too rather hang out with Harry Styles than Taylor Swift.
    Eh but tbh I think this whole BFF thing was blown out of proportion. Karlie was important for Taylor’s image during the squad era and that’s it. I think her actual bffs are Selena and that girl she’s friends with since before she was famous. The others are just famous people she’s friendly with and that gives press time to everyone involved.

  26. TJ says:

    It might be nothing, maybe they did grow apart, but there’s also a part of me that thinks Karlie is taking shots at Taylor, or trying to get her attention… Not sure. I wonder what happened here!

  27. A says:

    All the people in the comments talking about how “friends just drift apart sometimes”…yeah, that happens sometimes. But if I were as close with someone as Karlie and Taylor were to each other at the time (remember their Vogue cover??), it wouldn’t matter how much we drifted apart or how our interests diverged–if I thought of our friendship fondly, and I were able to get in touch, I would at least congratulate them for getting engaged if I could. We don’t know if Taylor reached out, but I have a feeling that if she did, we would definitely know about it by now. She has the means, we all know that. She sent Cardi B flowers for Bodak Yellow and they don’t even know each other, so being overly gracious in a really public way is her M.O. She could easily send flowers or a card or something if everything were perfectly fine between them. She hasn’t, which makes me think that Kaiser’s right and that something is really off here.

    On another note, at least the next album won’t be about her breaking up with yet another boyfriend. Can’t wait for that.

  28. Yes Doubtful says:

    That simple hoodie/short outfit is the best one she’s had in years.

    I’m not totally convinced that Taylor had a relationship with Kloss. I think there was some other kind of falling out that was probably so minor, but Taylor made a big deal of it because she’s petty.