Pete Davidson must really be hurting after Ariana Grande dumped him about two weeks ago. He canceled a scheduled performance immediately following their breakup, but to his credit he did perform at a charity benefit last week. Pete joked about the fact that people called him stupid for getting tattoos for Ariana, some of which he’s covered up. US Magazine has two stories with insider quotes from Pete’s side. He’s portrayed as someone who was hurt but is staying strong. A source tells US that Pete was “100% there for Ariana” after her ex boyfriend, Mac Miller, died from a drug overdose last month. What’s more is that after Ariana dumped Pete he changed his phone number, so there. There’s no word if Ariana was actually trying to contact him, but if she was she wouldn’t have been able to reach him, ok?!
“Pete was 100 percent there for Ariana [after Mac passed]” a source tells Us Weekly exclusively.
“She was not ready to be a in a relationship and she saw that,” the source tells Us. “Ariana pulled the plug, and then they decided to cool things off for a while.”
[They] “were trying to figure things out for a bit,” according to the source, but they “never had any set wedding plans.”
“Pete is still really depressed, but he knows that right now this is the right decision,” a second insider tells Us. “While Pete loves Ariana, he knows she needs her space. Pete and Ariana are really hoping for the best for each other.”
[Pete] changed his number after their split to “distance himself,” a source tells Us Weekly exclusively.
“He decided to focus on himself. He’s had the matching tattoo that he got with her changed,” the source explains. Two sources also note that “currently, they are not speaking.”
“This has been a difficult experience for Pete,” the source tells Us. “He’s always been an extremely private person and the Ariana Grande spotlight and social media were a lot of new pressure for him…
“Pete loved Ariana and wanted it to work, but they’ve both had such tragic events happen in their lives.”
Pete has “always been an extremely private person.” He did delete his Instagram content, but I’m pretty sure that coincided with trouble in his relationship with Ariana. It seems like too much trouble to change your number if you want to go no contact after a breakup. I’ve only gone no contact once and blocked a guy who kept calling me with weak excuses after I dumped him. We only went out for a few weeks and he was more trouble than he was worth. That seems like the case with Pete too, only it took Ariana longer to see it.
On Thursday Ariana tweeted a response to a fake story about the end of her relationship. I’ve never heard of the outlet she’s responding to, but they printed a story that Pete’s family didn’t like her.
Here’s Ariana’s tweet, which she sent on before these stories about Pete changing his number came out. I would bet that the stories from his perspective are a response to this tweet and his way of saying they’re not “supporting” each other as she tweeted.
none of this is true. it’d be so helpful if the media and everybody would please just drop it and drop makin stuff up so we can heal and support one another moving forward. it sucks to see this stuff. thank u guys for understanding. ♡ much love and appreciation.
— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) October 25, 2018
The tweet Ariana is responding to was deleted, but someone posted a screenshot.
— gabi 1⃣3⃣ é galo (@TilllFindAustin) October 25, 2018
Also, Ariana announced that she’s going on tour for Sweetener starting in March, Pete got a haircut and Ariana called her pig the “absolute love of my life.” This led me to google “how long do mini pigs live” and the answer is just five years. That’s sad! Think this through Ariana.
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Changing his phone number is a typical move by someone with borderline personality disorder, which Pete has. It’s the whole abandonment thing where the borderline does something over the top like changing his number so there’s no possibility of contact giving them some control back. I feel bad for Pete, he’s been abandoned and that’s the hardest scariest thing for a person with this illness
It could also be a way to stop pining, hoping the phone will ring.
This.
I agree with Sarah. I had a boyfriend who I knew wasn’t good for me, but I was unable to resist him when he called. I changed my number and deleted his to stop myself from calling or responding to him. And I assure you I do not have borderline syndrome. It’s a tactic used for a lot of “ normal” people to take back control if a relationship isn’t good for you.
I changed my number after a very difficult breakup not because I’m bipolar but because it helped me not expect a call/text and also helped me not reach out. I don’t think it’s that crazy, it’s just a way to create a very real communication barrier.
Whatever the reason there’s no shame in it and Pete has been very open about his diagnoses which are borderline personality disorder and depression, not bipolar disorder—different symptoms. I agree with the sentiment that people with mental health issues need to take care of themselves and that may be one way for him. I do feel bad for him, he’s very likable and funny on SNL
Ten bucks says she already blocked him and he wanted to get ahead of that story by pretending he’s the one that ghosted her first.
I was just about to type this.
My ex husband is borderline and when we split that was the first thing he did. It’s a classic move. I hope he is working with his health workers and getting the therapy he needs to work through this. I feel for Adrianna because if he isn’t this could get a lot worse.
PSA
Slacker, can we stop with the “oh, that’s typical BPD” bullsh*t?
I was diagnosed in my 20s, and yeah, abandonment issues are a component of the diagnosis… but you know what? It’s also a common fear for people in general, ESPECIALLY people in the midst of a breakup/broken engagement.
The stigma surrounding people with bpd, labeling is us as “unstable”, “crazy” and unable to have successfull relationships is false is extremely hurtful.
Especially with the help of DBT therapy, MOST people with bpd are able to function completely normally (personally and professionally). We often have very intense emotions, but that doesn’t make our emotion/pain any less valid.
Unless you yourself HAVE bpd or happen to have an MD in psychiatry, I’d ask you to please STFU.
Families of people with BPD and women with BPD partners have every right to share our experiences with BPD. We have every right to warn other women about manipulation, gaslighting, objectification, devaluing and other signs of unhealthy relationship dynamic – especially in a relationship this unhealthy that happens to have so many young girl fans.
As for the therapy – patients with BPD are notorious for refusing to admit to having a problem, refusing to cooperate with mental health professionals during therapy as well as dropping out of therapy at large percentages. Very very few do what you claim to be a majority case.
*long rant*
I, too, have been diagnosed with BPD. I don’t normally comment, but when I saw LadyLilith’s comment, and then the response, I got angry. When I was younger, and definitely more volatile and actually really damaging to others around me, I searched online for what I assumed I probably had (psychologists at the time insisted I only had depression). I found BPD and all I saw online were comments about how parasitic, how awful and how much of a waste of life and space people with BPD are. Of course I had other things in my life going on – funnily enough, BPD correlates very highly to significant trauma in childhood, which I did suffer – but this is the trigger I remember for a series of suicide attempts and feeling that everyone in my life would be better off without me. These words and stigma and generalisation are damaging.
@Hikaru
What, exactly, was so unhealthy about this relationship? That they got engaged so quickly? They didn’t get married, and they’ve broken up without a much drama, when you compare to lots of other young celeb couples.
From your comment and rude dismissal of LadyLilith’s concerns, I assume that you have had some negative experience with an individual diagnosed with BPD. This does not negate facts. LadyLilith’s comments are actually true. A basic google search can show this, literally first link: https://www.verywellmind.com/is-there-a-cure-for-borderline-personality-disorder-425468
“Very, very few”? No, not really.
As LadyLilith suggested, there is the option of just being polite and discerning and saying you hope that your *possibly* relevant story doesn’t apply to whatever case it is, and not grossly over-generalise and continue to perpetuate stigma around a disorder that is clearly agitated by both perceived and REAL discrimination.
But I am angry, and I found your comment rude and dismissive of a valid concern. So *max sarcasm*:
But hey. Why not paint everyone with BPD as a psycho and parasite with no hope of rehabilitation. That will make everything better for everyone else – those with BPD don’t deserve support or love, or to be treated like a person, especially when if they seek treatment they’re just doing it so they can drop out and say they’ve tried it.
That will show them.
I have to agree with other comments here @Hikaru. My mother had severe BPD and I, while not diagnosed, have many learned behavior patterns pretty consistent with the disorder. We are not unrepentant, parasitic people who only exist to hurt others. That stigma is a huge part of why many don’t seek help. A little compassion goes a long way, my dude.
Changing your number might seem dramatic but people with mental health issues really need to put themselves first sometimes.
Maybe he was obsessively attached to his phone hoping she would text or call (been there). Changing his number might have freed him a little or felt symbolically freeing.
Agreed. I’ve done something similar, though changing his number seems a bit like overkill-why not just block her?
I’d assume it’s because with blocking it’s just as easy to unblock the person. I’ve done the block and unblock thing with someone I was really missing before. Changing your number kind of takes that control out of your hands so it’s just done.
Are his teeth real?
No, he mentioned them a few months ago and I don’t know the process but they were “in process?” Don’t know if this is the final product or if they’re changed after caps or what.
I get ‘big dork’ energy off him more than anything else…..
@Smee, So do I. Perhaps someone who gets why Pete is said to have “BDE” can explain it? Most of the others (Rihanna, etc.) I understand, but not Pete.
@Knitter: Ariana was the one who said that Pete had “BDE,” so it’s obviously and purely subjective in this case. 😆 But I guess he has “BDE” to go for someone like Ariana outside his league LOL.
If Pete feels like phone calls from her are doing him more harm than good then I don’t see a problem with him changing his phone number. Also, media outlets may be calling him around the clock as well. Sometimes you need to make a clean break to keep your sanity during a breakup. Especially, if it’s very complicated and hurtful.
She already has the pig.
This relationship seemed like a train wreck waiting to happen from the beginning. That being said, the heartbreak is so visceral and it’s sad to watch. And it reminds me of why I don’t miss my 20s…
He’s such an intensely private person that we were all subjected to how many months of having to hear about his big dick energy and how often he masturbated to her picture and how great of a lay she was etc.
Right? She was the one who avoided interviews and appearances since September, he seemed to take every opportunity thrown his way to talk about their relationship.
Came here to say the same thing. Maybe if he grew up and kept his mouth shut he’d still have a fiancé. His “humor” about their relationship was standard issue toxic masculinity – not bipolar or BPD or trauma from losing his dad.
that is because he deleted his socmed account guys…..private person~
i cant rolled my eyes harder in case it will pop out from its sockets
if that is considered extremely private person, i guess i am hikikomori
@whybother lol, I love you
I don’t think it helps that her fans or whatever those random twitter users are seem to make up malicious rumors about him constantly. It seems like some people are hell bent on villifying him. It’s quite disgusting, especially as it’s clear he has struggles both with mental health and physical illness
Agreed. On top of all that, if his mental health DOES (God forbid) take some kind of hit because of the rumors and the death threats/ hate, some of these same people will try to blame Ariana for it (just like many did with Mac Miller) or in the very least try to make his mental health struggles something that negatively reflects on her as a person.
Ehhh 😧 have u read what he said about her getting fondled at Aretha’s funeral? He villainized himself.
Also having a mental or physical illness doesn’t absolve you from wrongdoing and basically just being a shity person in general which he has made pretty clear that he doesn’t seem like the nicest guy. I understand where both sides are coming from but he’s not an innocent victim that some people want to make him out to be he said some pretty repulsive things
The story she responded to actually said HER family didn’t like him.
Also, his “friends” have been sourcing a crazy amount of tabloid stories. If he really is avoiding her, I hope it’s part of a healthy strategy and not the splitting/devaluation common with bpd.
Finally I am super ashamed to admit that I think they’re cute kids who should see a shrink and work it out.
I think it’s a tactic because he mentioned something about dying in his statement where he compared himself to the U.S.. I hope that she stays clear of him if so. (An ex of mine used to threaten to kill himself when he thought I was going to break up with him. It’s not fun to deal with someone like that.)
Also, if they really still love each other and he’s just giving her time, then why is he covering up the tattoos that he got? Wouldn’t he wait to see if they eventually work out things?
It sounds to me that something was allegedly said that couldn’t be taken back, or that’s just how I read it.
Oddly, I was rooting for them, but this split looks to be the best for them.
My ex was an addict, and to this day, I wonder if I’ll get a phone call about his death. He was my boyfriend before I met my husband. It was a year and a half of chaos, and that relationship ended 12 years ago.
I think they only live five years if the owner doesn’t realize teacup pigs aren’t real and continues to underfeed them. There are probably issues with inbreeding as well, but it’s usually malnutrition because they’re not being fed properly that leads to premature death.
She moves on quickly. She’ll be dating again in no time. It’s sad they aren’t at least on friendly terms. Has she learned nothing from Mac’s death?
What would she have learned from Mac’s death? It is not the job of your ex-partner to emotionally validate and support you after a breakup, particularly if drug addiction was one of the key factors of the separation.
+1. People really need to rethink teaching girls that they’re to blame for anything that happens to an ex after a break-up.
@ Veronica
That’s not what I meant. I meant that life is too short to hold grudges and be upset with people. You don’t have to keep a special bond with them, but you can still be friendly. That goes for BOTH sides.
I’d hope what she learned from that death is that addiction isn’t something love can solve.
This. Exactly.
Don’t really understand your comment – what is she meant to have learnt? To be friends with exes? I don’t agree then – why should you be friends if you don’t want to be? It’s surely up to the individuals, and I don’t think many people would want to be friends with partners that had cheated on them, for example.
As for the rest – I hope she does move on quickly, and I hope she does date again soon if she wants to. I like her, and I hope she will be happy.
That’s so sad to see that micro pigs have such short lifespans! Regular domestic pigs have a lifespan of 15 to 20 years so whatever genetic abnormality that occurs to make a micro pig exist, tragically reduces its lifespan drastically.
Micro pigs don’t exist. They are underfed to be kept small, but “small” is a relative term. They still end up weighing 80+ pounds.
There is no such thing as micro pigs, they are only kept small by underfeeding them.
If you feed them properly they grow and live a normal life span.
And the blind out there is she is actually the one who changed her number after he was obsessively calling her.
Every owner of a micropig is feeding it less than it needs in order to keep it small? That’s so horrible to learn that’s how micropigs are created! I hope laws can be created to stop this sort of animal abuse!
@Susannah The breeders tend to lie to the owners and claim the pigs will stay small and recommend a diet that leads to malnutrition because it will stunt the pig’s growth. Once people realize the pigs don’t stay small they usually get rid of them. There are pig sanctuaries dedicated to taking in “micro pigs” from people who didn’t do their research before buying a pig.
That isn’t true, Mini pigs are a breed and they live 13-15 years. They are about the size of an English bulldog. I have one and can assure you he is not underfed. You can also check out the American Mini Pig Association.
How much does your pig weigh? I know one English bulldog and it’s like 40 pounds max. I’ve never personally seen an adult pig under 70 pounds, even the ones that are supposed to be teacup, micro, mini or whatever else they’re marketed as at the time.
If you’re saying it isn’t true that these pigs are commonly underfed and die prematurely, you need to do some more reading. It’s a massive problem. Maybe your pig is 50 pounds and not underfed, but you should know that it is not typical. Even the website of the association you suggested says you should expect your mini pig to be 50-150 pounds by age 5. Miniature in this scenario is obviously a very relative term.
🙄🙄🙄 I never said they should be under 50lbs or any weight for that matter as vary. They are the around the SIZE of an English Bulldog but pigs carry their weight much differently so the are obviously going to weigh more than a dog that is comparable size wise. I wasn’t even talking about weight I was pointing out that the 5 years life span is not correct, American mini pigs live 10-15 years and are a real breed, but you seem hellbent on picking my comment apart to find something wrong. Sure their are breeders that will try to sell you one and tell you it’s going to be tiny when it’s really not that’s why it’s import to always do your research. It’s the same thing with dogs like Frenchies, people want them because they think they are cute but don’t do any research and we have an abundance of young ones in rescues because people don’t realize that poorly bred ones are full of costly health issues.
Is there such a thing as a mini pig truther? i want them to be real 🙁
I’ve always liked Pete, I think he’s hilarious on Weekend Update. I was impressed that he spoke openly about his struggle with depression/borderline personality disorder. I hope that he’s taking care of himself. Kinda hoping that the reason he looks so much like a pasty ghoul in those pics is due to his hair color. He looks washed out. He’s said publicly the hair color was for a role in another show/movie. He needs to go back to his natural color when he’s done with whatever project he dyed it for. He looks better as a brunette.
From the perspective of their mental health perspective it was a good move for both of them that he changed his number. It’s good that he’s distancing himself. Considering the magnitude of the situation she is dealing with she needs to take care of herself.
It’s not a particularly good move to put your relationship on display. It is pretty much an invitation for the public to comment.
FWIW, he deletes his Insta content about twice a year anyway. That was not a brand new thing brought on by trouble in this relationship.
I feel bad for him…he knew deep down this wasn’t going to work out and went full steam ahead anyway with the hope that she truly did love him. I think she’s in love with love and moves on very quickly. I think she always intended on returning to Mac if he got sober. I kind of feel like she just used Pete because he’s a nice, funny guy. He’s the perfect rebound. Ugh. I hope she learned something form this and I hope he takes his next relationship slower and keeps it more private.
Yeah I agree. I believe she used Pete to make Mac jealous, to force Mac to get clean/fight for her.
Once he died, Pete was of no use to her anymore and she dumped him to grieve Mac.
I get that so much of everything “reported” on this is conjecture and rumors, but that’s some crazy fanfic right there. Mac said himself they both moved on, weren’t in touch post-breakup, and were all about positive things for one another.
I’m not a fan of either of these two actually.
But I find it very suspicious how fast Ariana rebounded with this guy Pete and flaunted the relationship in the tabloids. Regular people do this all the time to make their ex jealous but regular people use Facebook instead of the tabloids.
When Mac died, she unloads Pete? I mean, Pete sounds like a pawn to Ariana.
@Meme Well, a nefarious plot to win back the affections of a guy who ended up dying does sound more *interesting* for sure.
But more likely, it was that they got engaged after knowing each other for like a month. Once one goes through some extremely bad times (for instance, continuing aftermath of suicide bombing, media exploiting footage of you getting groped at funeral, death of a recent ex you have big history with) it shows you what you and your partner are really made of.
lol you’re probably right. Pete didn’t seem to stick around long and changing the phone number and such sounds like he folded pretty quick as a source of support
@Meme
Actually it was Pete who dropped Ariana name every chance he got, not the other way around. Most of the tabloids/media stories about them was because of somthing Pete said.
Not to mention Pete had just came out of a relationship too when he got with Ariana. He is not a victim and he was not being used.
Wow her ex-boyfriend who had a drug problem just died so of course that’s going to make her question her relationship with someone who has a drug problem on top of mental health issues.
I didn’t read too many of the other responses, so please forgive me if this one seems so random. I just want to express my concern for Pete Davidson. I have been a fan since he first was featured on SNL, and I hope and pray that he always hangs in there and never gives into any self-extincting impulses. BTW – I’m a 52-year-old woman, so I’m too old for Pete unfortunately. But I assure you, Pete, that you will have many more opportunities to have a committed relationship with an absolutely gorgeous and sexy age-appropriate woman. Stay strong, Sweetie. xo
Celebitchy, I loved that you googled about the pig. 😆