Demi Lovato & Trace Cyrus split while rumors of her cutting resurface

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I have to admit this at the beginning – I barely know who any of these people are. Demi Lovato is a 16-year-old actress and singer of the Disney-fied Miley Cyrus variety, only without all of the sketchy photographs. Demi and Miley are around the same age, and apparently they’re kind of friends, because Demi was dating Miley’s older brother Trace. I just looked up pictures of Trace Cyrus, because I didn’t believe the photo People Magazine had up. The kid looks like the love child of Joey Ramone and a goat. Trace is 20 years old, and from the sound of it, he seems to have been the one to do the dumping. Dude… she’s 16 years old, and you’re going to release a bitchy statement about “busy schedules” to People Magazine? Douche.

Age and distance put a strain on Demi Lovato’s fledging romance with Trace Cyrus, and the couple has split, Cyrus tells PEOPLE exclusively.

“Demi is one of my good friends and I definitely became very, very close with her in the past few months, and it’s something I really wanted to make work. But unfortunately, we both have very busy schedules – we’re both on tour right now,” says the Metro Station singer, who is also brother to Miley Cyrus. “I’m always on the other side of the world and so is she, so it just seemed like something that can’t work out at this time.”

Despite the split, there are no hard feelings between the two. “We gave it a shot and that’s all you can do,” says Cyrus. “Every time I hung out with that girl or talked on the phone with her, it was amazing. She’s someone I can totally relate to.

“But she is a lot younger than me,” Cyrus, 20, adds of Lovato, 16. “When someone is that much younger, you’re looking for different things in relationships. Maybe when she’s older and we’ve both matured, we’ll be looking for the same thing and it can work out.”

Even without Lovato in his life, Cyrus has plenty on his plate, as he kicks off a headlining tour in Texas with his band Metro Station. “Then right after that I jump on tour with my sister Miley,” he says, “and we’re going to be going all across the U.S. for a few months and then headed to Europe and the U.K.”

[From People]

Demi has been in the news the past week because several media outlets/gossip sites claim that she’s cutting herself again. The rumors about Demi’s cutting started last year, when E! obtained photos of what looked like recent scarring on her wrists. Now Star Magazine has photos up that look similar – Demi with small, red X’s or slashes on her wrist. If I didn’t know there was a history of people claiming she was a cutter, I would have only suspected she was drawing on herself with a red pen:

Disney darling Demi Lovato is showing disturbing new signs of cutting — a secretive self-mutilation ritual girls sometimes use to deal with traumatic emotional issues. A little more than eight months after shocking pictures first revealed Demi’s scarred wrists, new photos of the 16-year-old leaving MTV’s NYC studios are even more alarming.

There now appear to be at least five nasty-looking slashes, where previously there were only a few.

“Demi has been really stressed out about her new show, Sonny with a Chance,” a source tells Star. “She’s not getting enough downtime because there is so much work involved, and she’s always being pulled in different directions.”

Unfortunately, that constant pressure may lead to destructive behavior. “Cutting is how she can let go of the stress that has built up inside — when she cuts herself, it’s a way to cope,” explains Dr. Jennifer Austin Leigh, a San Francisco–based psychologist who specializes in treating teenagers.

But there is hope, adds Dr. Leigh, who has not treated the actress. Besides counseling, Demi “needs to surround herself with family and friends who will have a positive impact on her.”

[From Star Magazine]

In high school, I knew a girl with severe emotional problems who was an extreme cutter. Her forearms and thighs were heavily scarred from years of self-abuse. She later had to be taken out of public school and put into a facility where her problems could be dealt with. Cutting is as much a cry for help as a full-fledged suicide attempt, and should be dealt with as such. Maybe this recent report about Demi’s alleged return to cutting has no merit, or maybe it has nothing to do with an older guy breaking her heart. But I suspect the two are connected. Poor girl… I hope there’s someone in her life telling her that all of this is not her fault. Sometimes sh-t just happens, and there’s no reason to internalize to the point of extreme self-abuse.

Here’s Demi Lovato in NYC on June 24th. For pictures of her cutting scars, see the link to Star’s article above. Credit: Fame Pictures . Trace Cyrus pictures from WENN.com

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  1. SW says:

    “Cutting is as much a cry for help as a full-fledged suicide attempt, and should be dealt with as such”.
    Nope, not always. Mostly it is a way of letting emotions loose that have been bottled up. Or letting emotions loose that you otherwise feel you can’t let out. Trust me. I used to be a cutter.

  2. Annicka says:

    Another ex-cutter here.

    It sounds like she’s just doing tiny surface cuts. Those are harmless, she’ll heal up in a few days and there won’t even be a scar. More than likely, she’ll just grow out of it.

  3. Annie says:

    Of course it’s a cry for help!

    If you can’t let your emotions out in a healthy NON-SELF-DESTRUCTIVE way, then you are crying out for help, whether you are willing to admit it or not.

    Self-mutilation is NOT harmless!

  4. Katharine Jaynes says:

    I’m sure the public attention really helps. People, this is a young girl. I think she should be given some privacy especially regarding her mental/emotional health.

    On a different subject – Trace Cyrus has really covered his whole body in tattoos at a young age. I hope for his sake, he doesn’t grow out of the look and want a change… Personally, I have never cared for tattoos on the face.

  5. Anoneemouse says:

    I have a cure for people who like to cut themselves: let a friend do it so they can really make you hurt so you stop doing crazy things to yourself! Where is this 16 year old’s parents?

  6. princess pee says:

    The thing is… the cutter might not mean it as a cry for help. She might just mean it as a way to let out intense emotions she doesn’t know how to deal with. However, it should be seen as a cry for help by any witness. Because clearly, self-mutilation is a symptom of deep, intense suffering. Once a person is harming themselves to deal with their emotions, they are IN NEED of help regardless of whether they think so or not.

  7. fxb says:

    Sorry, but Trace is just not attractive in the least it.

  8. Iggles says:

    He looks gross!

    Sad that he’s only 20 and looks like Travis Barker. He needs to eat something. To quote the fabulous Katy Perry:

    “You’re so sad / You should buy a happy meal
    You’re so skinny / You should really super size the meal!”

  9. Sarah says:

    “The kid looks like the love child of Joey Ramone and a goat.”

    LOLOLOL!! ROTFL!! There are no better words for him indeed!

  10. Catherine says:

    Jesus, he is fugly!

  11. Rob Redstone says:

    When I was a kid, you never heard of cutting til it was on that movie ’13′ then all the kids started copying it.. Talk about FOLLOWERS!

    TheRobRedstoneShow. com

  12. X says:

    Am I the only one annoyed by Demi Lovato? I had a really hard upbringing, and I also used cut, but I hid it for 5 years, no one knew until I was over it, I never called attention to it like she is.

    I knew girls in my school who also did it for attention, and they were minor cuts like the ones she is demonstrating.

    Its so OBVIOUS, she totally wants the attention of being a cutter, she wears short sleeved shirts and cuts herself on her arms. I think she believes this is edgy and causes her to be in the tabloids.

    Give me a break. She needs to stop with her nonsense & Disney needs to put her spoiled ass in check.

  13. chunk says:

    i don’t get cutting at all. i can’t believe people do that to themselves. where does that idea even come from?

  14. Marie says:

    maybe she cut herself cause she just couldn’t believe how bad her taste in men was!!!
    I’m kidding…
    If it is a cry for help (or attention)hope she will grow out of it..

  15. CeeJay says:

    Annika,

    I think your comment is totally wrong.

    Self-mutilation, in any form, is not “harmless”. It is a sign of emotional stress that needs to be addressed STAT!

    Cutting releases endorphins that create a “rush” for the cutter. It becomes habit forming as much as any drug, alcohol or any other action that increases endorphins and modifies the brain’s original chemistry.

    It worries me that you have made this comment. It is either an excuse for yourself based on experience with the issue, or a complete denial that you may have a serious issue.

    My son got involved with a group of young kids who promoted others to cut themselves. He was a follower at the time and ended up doing harm to himself and his family relationships. It is now several years later and he is left with small scars that will be a life-long reminder that he made a big mistake when he was younger. He hates the scars and rarely removes his shirt because he doesn’t want others to see what he did. Cutters become quite creative and find places to mutilate that cannot usually be seen by others.

    WE had no idea our son was into this behavior and were devastated for him and his friends when we found out. It took 6 months of therapy for him to recover because he literally became addicted to the endorphin rush.

    Cutting is like a drug and it WILL ruin your life if you don’t get it under control. I pray for those of you who don’t take this seriously in your life or others.

  16. Hieronymus Grex says:

    She has wealth and privilege beyond my wildest imaginings whereas I grew up in a small town and had to work,scratch and claw my way up the ladder to get my butt into college and I never once cut myself because of the unbearable stress and pressure I was under. So seriously Demi- WTF?

  17. Laura says:

    I’ll help you out Kaiser. Demi also dated an older guy named Alex Deleon when she was barely 15. There is some shady stuff going on there that you’re going to have to look up for yourself, but he was a douche too. She has a habit of dating older guys

    What strikes me as odd is that no one makes a big deal out of this like they did with Miley. The only people who know are Tweens or people who have tweens as siblings (yours truly)

  18. tt says:

    i used to cut myself to punish myself, because of me self-loathing and rejection…and the endorphin rush was just what i needed…i think parents should worry about cutting cuz it is a cry for hwlp but most of the time, it wont lead up to suicide

  19. Cinderella says:

    Maybe I heard wrong, but isn’t her father supposed to be as big of a loser as Michael Lohan? Oh, these screwed up Disney kids.

  20. “The kid looks like the love child of Joey Ramone and a goat.”
    ROFLMAO.

    Sad to Say
    BUT
    IT’S TRUE

  21. G. says:

    @Anoneemouse: I’m sorry, but how does that help? As someone whose best friend is a cutter, I can tell you that what you’re suggesting wouldn’t do a damn thing. In fact, it would probably encourage the person to cut more.

    As for Demi, all I can say when I see her is someone who needs help. Yeah, I think it’s a cry for help, but also, seeing the cuts, I think it’s a way to draw attention to herself. There are two types of cutters: those who do it to escape the pain and those who do it for attention. I know people who do it for attention, and these people do it in a fashion where it’s hard NOT to see the scars; they make it so it looks like they’re showing off their scars, as if it’s cool and edgy. I’m not trying to make light of this, but I know someone who cuts for attention when I see them. Either way, the girl needs help.

    Just my two-cents.

  22. Joe says:

    uhm…hello….he’s 20 and she’s 16. ILLEGAL. that is unless he’s not banging her. But that would only make him pervie.

  23. eternalcanadian says:

    ewwwwwwww, and triple that at what trace looks like.

    what is it with 20 year old guys like trace shagging 16 year old gals? wonder why they didn’t check out someone the same age as them or maybe even a few years older?

    pervs, that’s all i wanna say. bleh.

  24. Bapril says:

    Either that’s not Demi Lovato or she’s had a nose job since I’ve seen her last.

  25. Iggles says:

    eternalcanadian – I totally agree. The age different is gross.

  26. Sarah says:

    You know, it’s so stupid how some people defend self-harmers. Saying things like, ‘We don’t know what they went through, it’s not their fault if they felt so low that that was their only choice, they got bullied so that was the only way to make themself feel better, nobody should judge them, it’s just their way of dealing with things, etc…’ and especially ‘I totally understand what she’s feeling’ is only sympathising with people who self harm. And once something gets sympathy, it’s seen as acceptable; fact. If you say you understand they’re doing it, that it’s just their way of dealing with the pain, it becomes something that is alright to to, and the fact is that it’s not. It’s a stupid and irresponsible thing to do, under any circumstances. Ignore them, even laugh at them if you have to, but don’t make self harmers feel that what they’re doing is right or acceptable in any way.

  27. kelly says:

    “OMG I make tons of money and have people fawn all over me, I am so depressed. My life is awful!”

    GIVE ME A FREAKIN’ BREAK!

  28. Cute Babe says:

    She is obviously doing this to get some attention.. Gross.