Bebe Rexha on Virgos: ‘We’re very intense, we’re perfectionists, we’re critical’

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True story: before I wrote about Bebe Rexha ahead of the Grammys – she couldn’t find anyone to dress her because she’s a size 8 - I really had no idea who she was or what she did. I had a vague idea that she was involved in the music industry, but I wouldn’t have been able to tell you any of her songs. That’s on me – I’m out of touch with the youths and the youth-celebrities. As it turns out, Bebe is a thing. She’s quite successful as a recording artist and even more so as a songwriter. Her father is an Albanian immigrant, and her mother is first-generation Albanian-American. She’s also a chatty, neurotic Virgo, which… I’m a Virgo too and so now I feel like I know her. Anyway, her Nylon cover profile is a great primer on all things Bebe. Some highlights:

How she talks & tweets too much: “I think I just get so anxious, I kind of have diarrhea of the mouth. I actually stop myself. I don’t want to be the person who’s complaining all the time. But sometimes I push myself to put it out because if I don’t have a voice or I don’t stand for anything… I don’t need to be just another pretty girl that makes a million dollars. There’s nothing wrong with that, to make money and be pretty and make music, but I want to know that I’m doing something out in the world.”

She’s trying to stay off social media nowadays: “I kind of try staying off, a little bit. I try to do a little cleansing. You read one stupid thing, gosh. It breaks you apart. It can ruin your whole day… I have to stay off the internet. I can literally lose my mind.”

She scares people: “Yeah, I think I scare men. I feel like everyone’s scared of me, guys and girls. Because I like to say things, and they’re scared I’m going to say something about them. Sometimes I get nervous, and I say stupid things. I’ll come off really hard. Guys especially, they can’t handle me. I break every guy. I feel like I always have to be—it’s terrible to say ‘the man’ and ‘the woman.’ Isn’t it crazy how it’s like, ‘man,’ ‘woman.’ I wish there were different terms for it.” She was frustrated because she wasn’t talking about gender, but about energies, vibes. Not so much man-woman, but a yin-yang groove, some sort of flow of giving and receiving energies, that relationship dream balance. The binary isn’t for Bebe; Bebe doesn’t identify as straight, explaining to me, “If I want to make out with someone, I’ll just make out with them. I don’t care who you are. I’m big on energies. Sometimes I feel like I’m so masculine in my everyday life and when I go home, I would like to not have to keep this wall up. Go home and let it all loose. Have somebody take care of me, because I feel like I’m taking care of everyone around me. I would like to be taken care of. It’s really hard.”

She’s bad on dates too: “I have a weird thing. Guys try to take me on dates, and I don’t do dates. I don’t like being so intimate with people watching. I’m the person [who] when I go to a restaurant and someone’s on a date… oh my god! I’m the biggest eavesdropper! I start giving everyone at my table the head’s up, like, ‘They don’t like each other, she went into the bathroom.’ A guy took me out one time and I was like, ‘Can we just get scratch-offs?’ Scratch-offs are my favorite. It’s all I do, I love it.”

On being a Virgo: “We’re very intense,” said Bebe, who, by the way, completely believes all this zodiac stuff. Her brother and father are chill, retiring Cancers, while she and her mom are the ambitious Virgos. “We’re perfectionists. We’re critical, but we’re very loving. We’re tough on the outside, but I think we’re very mushy. Very sensitive. Very sensitive.”

[From Nylon]

As one Virgo to another, Bebe, it does get better. As you get older, you’re less in-your-own-head. You stop giving a f–k about so much. But yes, at her age (she’s 29), the Virgo is strong. We front like we’re these super-organized unbreakable perfectionists but we’re really neurotic messes. And spending a date at 7-11, eating potato chips and doing scratch-off lottery tickets sounds like a great date to me.

As for what she says about energies and sexuality… I mean, she’s confusing gender and sexuality, but then again…I don’t know, the youths talk about sexuality and gender in completely different ways than my generation.

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Photos courtesy of WENN, cover courtesy of Nylon.

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  1. Léna says:

    29?! Wow! I would have given her 24 max…

  2. Rae says:

    Big up the fellow Virgos on the blog.

  3. CharliePenn says:

    I find zodiac signs so interesting…
    for some people they hold so true. I’m a full on Taurus, all the good (except being good with finances) all the bad. Spot on for me. My sisters are also 100% true to their signs, it’s actually crazy.
    But my husband is a Virgo and he doesn’t fit the discription at all. My kids are two Cancers but they are totally different. Maybe I’ll see their Cancer nature and similarities in time.

    • Lex says:

      Oooorrrr you won’t because it’s all complete nonsense 😊

      • CharliePenn says:

        Wow thanks Lex, what a wonderful contribution you’ve made there 🙄

      • billypilgrim says:

        I totally agree with Lex. They’re hogwash.
        I have friends the same as I and we’re like night and day.

      • SK2 says:

        Yeah – as if the date you were squeezed/pulled out into the world as a newborn can assign you one of 12 sets of personality traits.
        It’s pretty anti-intellectual to “believe” in zodiac signs

      • Arpeggi says:

        Lex is right, it’s absolutely meaningless, and fairly north-centric when you come to think about it… My ex and I were born a year apart, almost on the same day when you consider the time difference between Western Europe and NZ… Of course we’re totally different people (I’m caring, considerate, outgoing; he’s a typical tech nerd; the only thing we have in common in being blunt). Of course, everyone can find something that fits with their personality if they’re looking for it, but those descriptions are super generic and interchangeable. And there’s, of course, no science behind it.

      • I'm With The Band says:

        I’m a twin (a Gemini, actually). My sister and I couldn’t be more different as people. Explain that astrology?

    • vava says:

      I like the signs, too. I’m also a Taurus married to a Virgo and it’s a great match!

      • Kaiser says:

        Virgo-Taurus is a good match! Virgo-Gemini is a trainwreck though

      • CharliePenn says:

        It’s a great combo, even though my husband doesn’t seem like the typical Virgo.
        The other two people I feel closest with (outside my sisters) is my recently passed Dad, and one of my cousins. Both virgos, all with birthdays within a week of each other, and all people I click with deeply and naturally.
        I was in a long relationship with another Taurus once. NOT good.

      • elimaeby says:

        My dad is a Virgo and I am a Taurus and we have been thick as thieves since the day I was born. We’re both tough on the exterior and extremely loving and emotional on the inside. My poor mother was a Capricorn. She was odd man out.

    • Kebbie says:

      You should look up his natal chart. Some people have much stronger moon or rising signs.

      • NicoleInSavannah says:

        Natal charts are the most interesting part. I don’t live and die by it, but it’s helpful at times.

      • Aims says:

        My best friend of 26 years is a Taurus. She’s the best! I’m married to an Aquarius, which on paper isn’t supposed to work, but it does. Funny thing, my grandma was my best friend and she was born January 30. My husband was born on the 29th. They used to celebrate together.

      • cee says:

        I just broke up with an Aquarius – it was a trian wreck OMG

      • Thymic says:

        I have a sun sign that’s very different from my moon and rising sign (both the same) and my ruling planet and sign, and always I felt I didn’t fit my sun 100% until I read up on natal charts. That was when I thought, “Hmm, maybe there’s something to it.” But in the end I’m careful not limit myself or base perceptions of others by astrology.
        I love Sun in Virgos (though I have no personal planets in that sign). I’ve found they’re really humble, nice, intelligent, diligent, and helpful people. Just great friends to have around.

    • Harryg says:

      All Tauruses I’ve met are very elegant! They have great taste.
      Some people fit their sign spot on. My husband is a Leo and he need so much attention, oh my god. I find horoscopes fascinating.
      Astrolutely is a fun site, and I love Peggy Rometo’s readings too.

      • Juls says:

        My husband is also a Leo and also a massive attention wh@#e. He needs constant praise and petting. So annoying. I’m an introverted Sag so I find the attention seeking exhausting.

    • Wow says:

      I’m a Capricorn with Capricorn rising. The most Capricorn of all the Capricorns. I sort of get why we are the least liked sign in the zodiac and why Virgos generally can’t stand us.

      Many years ago I went on a date and the guy left money on the table, wished me well on life and left when he found out I was a capricorn. I actually work with a lot of other Capricorns. The medical field must attract us.

      • Naddie says:

        You dodged a bullet.

      • Kebbie says:

        The guy sounds like a lunatic. Maybe his ex was a Capricorn or something and he projected her issues onto the sign itself.

      • A Fan says:

        Actually, Capricorn and Virgo are very compatible. They are both earth signs and are considered trine (harmonious).

        Of course, a person is much, much, much more than their sun sign; therefore, there can be many other contacts that create friction (both in one’s natal chart and a synastry chart with someone else).

      • Thymic says:

        I love Capricorn men. I try not to pay attention to astrology as in not allow it to direct my life but 80%+ of the guys I’ve liked and dated have been Sun in Capricorns! Weird! They’re practical, ambitious, sophisticated in a street-wise way, and usually tell it as it is.

    • cee says:

      My sister and I are both Cancers and seem to be very different but we share a lot of similarities at our core. We love being home but she’s more social than me. I’m more nurturing and protective than her, but she still is, in her own way.

  4. Victoria says:

    At first she annoyed me but I saw a video of her with J. Balvin and she’s hot! As you can tell, I was surprised

  5. Shannon says:

    I will admit to being kind of low-key obsessed with astrology. My best friend since 7th grade is a virgo and OMG. She had some personal issues going on so she stayed at my apartment for a few days years back, and I came home from work and my entire kitchen was beautifully reorganized. I’m a gemini, though, so it didn’t stay that way LOL yeah, I don’t live and die by astrology, but there’s something uncanny about it to me. I’m pretty much a textbook gemini. But a caveat, my ex-fiance is also a gemini and he could not have BEEN less gemini. Maybe he aged out of it or something LOL

    • Kris says:

      Virgo here and this is so true!! I’m glad to see so many Virgos here, we sometimes get a bad rep. Now I’m interested into listening to her stuff.

    • Eliza says:

      Omg I’m a virgo and I’ve reorganized my friends kitchen too (after party i helped clean… but there was old moldy food in fridge so like after i cleaned dishes i just accidentally kept going without thinking) … if it wasn’t for the since 7yo I’d think we knew each other lol.

    • Giddy says:

      Another Virgo signing in! I never heard of this girl but I like her. She’s intense and honest. The part that really rang true for me as a fellow Virgo is being ultra-sensitive. I feel like it helps me have strong empathy for others, but I get my feelings hurt easily. Also, my favorite gift last Christmas was twenty $5 scratch-offs. I came out $350 ahead!

      • Anners says:

        Fascinating! Another overly sensitive/analytical Virgo here whose feelings are easily hurt (in my 40s now and thank heaven that part seems to be fading). My mum is a Gemini and we’re super close. Maybe it’s only a disastrous combination in a dating relationship?

  6. Faithmobile says:

    Textbook Virgo here, I’m an August Virgo and I think we are more stereotypical Virgos. My husband’s birthday is on the cusp of Cancer/Gemini and he drives me crazy in the best way. I love astrology but you really do need full chart done to make sense of it.

    • PixiePaperdoll says:

      Yes! Those September Virgos are behind in the game.

      • Melissa says:

        Nope, not true at all. At least in my family. All the Virgos born in September are super textbook, can’t say the same about the one Virgo cousin born in August. Then again, other factors in the astral chart may influence their personalities.

    • Lady D says:

      Also an August Virgo. We rock, and then we clean up the mess.

  7. Harryg says:

    I’m a Virgo too! Hello everyone!
    I still remember typos I made years ago, decades ago in fact. I worry that everyone else still remembers these typos too. I worry about the roof possibly leaking and also that I have polluted the world by ordering cheap Chinese shoes. And so on. I feel ashamed and worried all the time. I will never understand happy-go-lucky personalities.

  8. Tade says:

    She has Kylie Jenner face

    • JennyJenny says:

      She does!! Is it the make up and poses?
      I actually went back and looked at the photos after reading your post.

  9. BeanieBean says:

    After reading all these Virgo posts, I think I was born under the wrong sign. I’m a Scorpio, but I think I’m a misplaced Virgo.

    • Miss M says:

      I have many friends and an ex who are Scorpios. You guys are really cool. Stick to it!

    • Kebbie says:

      I’m a Gemini with a Virgo moon and I never believed in astrology until I learned about natal charts, suddenly it all made sense. You’ve probably got Virgo in your chart or 6th house placements.

  10. Miss M says:

    I don’t know if we should take horoscope so seriously. But the only people I dont get along with are usually virgos. I am aquarius and I dont like controlling neurotic people.
    *i will show myself out quietly*

  11. Cindy says:

    That cover is pretty tragic. The photography is horrible.

    This interview makes Bebe look more interesting. I’ve heard some of her music and, frankly, I find her really generic. I feel like there’s a sub-genre of singers now who only exist to be featured in songs by DJs or more famous artists, and Bebe Rexha is the prime example of it.

  12. Jaded says:

    Mr. Jaded is an August Virgo (the 30th) but he’s anything but organized. I’m obsessively organized (I’m a Libra) and when I first moved in with him I had to completely reorganize the place because you’d open a closet or cupboard and stuff would literally come tumbling out. He had tubs full of old papers like old junk mail, grocery receipts and 20 year old paint chips in every closet. We spent a week going through everything and managed to throw out or shred about 150 lbs of useless paper. He’s meticulous about everything else in his life but he’s a bit domestically challenged.

  13. Justme says:

    I’m a Virgo- and I’m completely uninterested in organizing anything. I’m also the opposite of a perfectionist. I tend to think horoscopes and astrology are funny but not connected to anything in real life.

  14. Marie says:

    i love her so much

  15. A Fan says:

    Astrology is far more than one’s horoscope or one’s Sun sign.

    At minimum, she has a Virgo Sun and Virgo Mars. It’s also possible (but not for sure, because her birth time is not known) she has a Virgo moon. That’s 2 Virgo personal planets, possibly 3 (in astrology, the moon is characterized as a planet). In addition, we don’t know her ascendant nor the houses the planets fall in – these, too, need a birth time to be calculated. We also don’t know if that potential Virgo moon is conjunct her Sun or Mars. So, there could be a whole lot more Virgo there that she’s feeling.

    Regardless, that’s some strong Virgo emphasis, especially in her identity and how she asserts herself.

    [*Another fellow Virgo here.*]

    • Kebbie says:

      Thank you for this comment! My biggest pet peeve is people dismissing astrology because they don’t understand it.

      • A Fan says:

        Yes! For many people, reading their horoscope (which is only based on a sun sign or ascendant) or a brief description of their sun sign is the basis of their dismissal. They say, oh I’m a _____, but that’s nothing like me, ergo, astrology is stupid.

        There is much more to someone’s birth chart than their sun sign. It’s a fascinating study.

  16. Solidgolddancer says:

    Virgos unite!!

    September 6 here. We have a hard shell and are perfectionists but we love deeply and are so loyal.

  17. BANANIE says:

    I’m still frustrated with her over the whole Grammys thing because – to my understanding – it’s not that designers refused to sell her dresses. They just refused to make her dresses FOR FREE, which they are not required to do. They save those perks for the more famous artists.

  18. cee says:

    wrong place

  19. Thymic says:

    There are actually 13 signs in the Zodiac, the currently “missing” one being Ophiuchus, the Serpent Bearer. This moves the dates around, so double check whether you’re actually another sign for your Sun placement.