Dakota Johnson didn’t want to have Chris Martin’s babies, that’s why they split?

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Over the past few years, Jennifer Lawrence has made repeated references to how she’s been in at least one relationship where her boyfriend treated her poorly, or like she didn’t matter, or that the relationship just wasn’t good or healthy. She always maintained that she still has genuine warmth for Nicholas Hoult, so many of us believed she was talking about Chris Martin. She was Chris’s first official girlfriend after his split from Gwyneth Paltrow, and I’ve always wondered what that sh-t was like. Just as I wonder what it was like for Dakota Johnson to spend 20 months with Chris and have to be “welcomed” into the family by Gwyneth. It just feels very dysfunctional. So it was no surprise (to me) that Dakota and Chris are reportedly over. In my fantasy, Dakota just stood up one day and said “wow, I have no desire to plan my calendar around your ex-wife’s whims, we’re over.” But reportedly, it was another conversation which caused the split: the baby conversation.

Singer Chris Martin split with Fifty Shades Of Grey actress Dakota Johnson after months of arguing over whether to start a new family, their closest friends claimed yesterday. They say the Coldplay frontman, 42, and 29-year-old film star Dakota “could not have been further apart” about settling down and having children before pulling the plug on their 18-month romance last month.

One friend confirmed: “Chris made it clear he wants more kids as soon as possible but Dakota’s career has really taken off and that’s the last thing she wanted to think about right away. It got to the point, last month, where a light seemed to flick on in both their heads and they realised they were pulling in completely opposite directions – so they decided to call it a day.”

Chris already has a daughter Apple, 15, and 13-year-old son Moses from his 13-year marriage to actress Gwyneth Paltrow, from whom he famously “consciously uncoupled” prior to their divorce in 2016. Earlier this year, Chris splurged £4.5million on a beach house in Malibu, California, and his friend added: “He had hoped they would settle there and start a brand new family of their own, but Dakota told him she’s nowhere near ready for that.”

The daughter of Hollywood stars Don Johnson and Melanie Griffith “made it crystal-clear” to Martin that she wants to put her career first “for several more years at least” before having babies, according to the friend, who added: “Both she and Chris are broken-hearted that things didn’t work out because they made a fantastic couple.”

[From The Daily Express]

If this is true – and who knows? – I like Dakota better for it. Some women want to be moms and some women don’t. Some women want to focus on their careers before making any family-planning decisions. And I love that Dakota was the one who didn’t want to settle down and start a family at this point in her life. She’s brave to not give in to societal pressures and cultural pressures. Now, all that being said, sometimes the baby conversation is a Trojan horse for “where are we in this relationship and do we have a future together?” And it’s possible they took a hard look at their sh-t and Dakota was like “no, I don’t want to be tied down to a guy who is still being micromanaged by his ex-wife.”

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  1. hnmmom says:

    I have a hard time believing Goop is going to be in favor of her ex having more kids. I can’t see her willingly giving up the leverage that being his children’s mother gives her. So I would not be surprised if she wasn’t subtly sabotaging all this.

  2. JAC says:

    Where did this idea that Chris is an a-hole who treats women badly come from? From what I read about him he seemed like a lovely guy, he just had some hang ups about fame and all that.

    I always thought Jennifer was talking about Aronofsky.

    • SamC says:

      I thought that too. The thing with Chris Martin seemed a short term rebound fling for both more than anything, as she was also just out of the long term relationship with N Hoult.

    • Skeptical says:

      I think it’s possibly because he refused to attend any red carpets with Goop. There was an impression that he thought he was above it or unsupportive.

    • Amelia says:

      I remember Jennifer talking about dating guys who want to “establish dominance” and people thought she was talking about Chris Martin. And especially given that he use to refuse to ever be photographed with Gwyneth (even walking down the street), it seems to imply he couldn’t handle being with someone more famous then him. This was also before she dated Darren Aronofsky.

    • prettypersuasion says:

      I’ve listened to a lot of Goop podcasts, read all the GP interviews (I’ve had a 20 year love/hate relationship w/ Fishsticks), and Gwyneth subtly shades Chris ALL THE TIME when talking about herself and her relationships. Reading between the lines, he was selfish and emotionally immature and not a great partner. A difficult, moody creative type. Great dad maybe, but not a great husband. (and Gwyneth is admittedly a controlling perfectionist who has a difficult time with intimacy)

    • Carrine says:

      She definitely was not talking about Aronofsky, she said that he was amazing in the WTF podcast even after their break up if I remember correctly and that he was a very nice and good boyfriend. I think things just didn’t work out between both of them because of the age difference and the film they did together.

      The shady talk was prior to her dating him, so it was most likely Martin. I think she ended the relationship after she basically gave up on him being present for her or something like that, she also hinted at someone who made her feel insecure… He on the other hand moved on so quickly and was seen with that actress Annabelle Wallis immediately after.

  3. Valiantly Varnished says:

    She’s only 29! Of course she’s not ready for kids. Chris, like a lot of men who insist on dating much younger women needs to think about the fact that when you date women under 30 they are still in a place of growing their careers and figuring out who they are. Not every woman wants to be married with kids by 25. In fact statistics are showing that MOST women are moving away from that and waiting to have kids in their 30’s.

    • Anna says:

      Right??? I find it so strange that, if true, a guy looking to settle down and have more babies dates a twenty-something year old actress. Why not find someone a little closer to his own age and who is likely to want the same things…?

    • Mash says:

      youre singing to the choir —–i hope to have child by 34…but my fiance and I want to have solid 3 years of fun and travel before the kiddieboos

    • goofpuff says:

      They have this dream that dating younger means you can control the woman. Dating someone close to their age means they don’t have that “control”. Glad Dakota made him realize otherwise.

    • paranormalgirl says:

      I was in my 30′s before kids were even discussed. I wanted to be settled in my career before I even entertained the thought of spawning.

  4. Melly says:

    I could never date a guy who was so controlled by his ex. I get that Goop is the mother of his children, but healthy boundaries have to be established if Chris wants to have a real relationship with someone else.

  5. Rainbow says:

    Yay for Dakota 🎉

  6. Coji says:

    I feel like having his baby would essentially be letting Goop set the rules for how to raise your kids. Yuck.

    • PlainJane says:

      Agree! Goop seems to still run Chris’s life, she just has to do it long distance now. Also, their kids are 13 and 15, but I don’t see Goop letting go when those kids reach 18. She could come up with alllll the reasons to still run everyone’s life.

  7. tempest prognosticator says:

    Apropos of nothing, I think Dakota looks like a silent film star. She has a Maude Fealy look about her.

  8. Mtec says:

    I don’t blame her, who would wanna consciously co-parent with Gwyneth, yikes.

    • Jumpingthesnark says:

      The thought of that……..can’t decide whether to laugh or barf! Run Dakota Run!

    • Beatrice says:

      I can’t imagine wanting to have kids with someone that GOOP obviously controls. This nightmare ex would be intruding on every aspect of his new kids’ upbringing and Chris would probably side with GOOP over Dakota. I’m surprised that Dakota put up with the GOOP nonsense this long.

  9. Stephanie says:

    They are so bland, like a wallpaper

  10. blinkers says:

    Headlines if Chris was a woman: 42 year old Chris’s boilogical clock is still ticking! Baby crazy! 29 year old Dakota isn’t ready to settle down with the father of two teenagers with ex wife! Previously linked to the newly engaged and childless Jennifer Lawrence, when will he find the love he seeks who’s willing to have more kids?!

  11. lucy2 says:

    I’m sure Gwenyth’s involvement didn’t help, but I don’t see any issue with this. They both are entitled to want what they want, and if those things don’t match up, they separate and move on.

    If he does want kids though, perhaps he should date someone closer to his own age who is ready for that, rather than a young actress.

  12. Hey says:

    I really like the fact that she broke up with him and the black dress she is wearing in the last photo.
    Does anyone know whose designer’s is that, please? Thanks in advance.

  13. S says:

    Whenever these “he wants kids but she doesn’t” stories come out after a celebrity breakup you know the man’s PR team is churning hard to make him look like the “good guy” in the equation.

    If she was a a woman over 35 it would be that she was “baby crazy” and pushing him into something he wasn’t ready for.

    Message either way: poor fella manipulated by a gal’s ovaries, please pity him.

  14. tealily says:

    I’m not sure I buy this one. I have no problem believing Dakota doesn’t want kids or want kids yet, but Chris already has a couple children. Why would he be pressuring her to start a family? It just doesn’t ring true to me. I’m sure there are other abundant reasons.

    • Parigo says:

      I don’t believe it either. His kids are well out of the dependent stage, I can’t see him wanting to change diapers again.

    • stormsmama says:

      really?
      hmm that seems sexist

      maybe he wants a chance to do it again bc he was touring and cheating on G and just young and dumb
      and now he is wiser and more mature and maybe he just likes kids
      WHY IS THAT WEIRD?

    • Mego says:

      This. I don’t buy his wants more kids. I would believe it more if she did and he was like NAW.

  15. olive says:

    good for her. i hope she “settles down” with a man who doesn’t have an ex wife and kids of his own already. i wouldn’t want my first marriage/kids to be with a man who’s doing it for the second time around. who wants to deal with stepkids and an ex wife?

    • tealily says:

      Oh, plenty of people do.

      • Original T.C. says:

        But how many young women want to marry a man whose ex-wife is GOOP and want to co-parent with her? See JLaw now happy to have kids without GOOP involved. I think his best bet is a woman who already has kids of her own and who’s Ex is also famous. Or waiting until his kids are over 18 or out of the house for a young woman to desire marriage with him. GOOP would not be as involved in their lives since the kids can set up their vacations with their Mom independent of Chris.

      • Andrea says:

        I am 38 and have no intentions of having kids of my own due to PCOS but I would welcome stepkids. At my age, it’d be hard to find a man who didn’t have kids already.

      • tealily says:

        @T.C. well, that’s a whole other ballgame!

    • Mash says:

      olive i feel you… my ex was a teenage parent and secondary parent and thus when his son entered back into his life through a tantrum —it was shell shocking for me….i was like omg im not ready to be a parent let alone a step parent figure–but then i became one and saw the truly ridiculous ways my ex and his baby mama and the child operated…total dummies all of them (his child was manipulative spoiled brat and mom was a lacking parent and my ex was my ex ugh) —after that hooking up with men who had children i vowed NEVER AGAIN. I want to be with someone who’s experiencing it for the 1st time as well…. (yal can firebomb my comment, i said what i said) LOL

    • LAR says:

      Some people do. One of my friends had some medical problems that meant that she would likely not be able to have kids and she married a guy with young children. She says that she’s happy that she acquired a ready made family without having to do diapers.

  16. Andrea says:

    This feels like a Chris Pratt situation again.

    Chris Martin needs to date older women who are ready for kids if he truly wants more. They seemed like an odd pairing anyways much like Vikander and Fassbender.

  17. Malificent says:

    I guess I don’t get the rush to have more babies. If Dakota doesn’t want kids at all — then that’s a legitimate deal breaker and an honest choice for both of them. But if Dakota’s open to kids in a few years, than why the rush?

    Chris’s two children are already too old to be playmates to any new kids. And they’ll be in college (or whatever it is Hollywood kids do when they turn 18), by the time any new kids are old enough to really hang with. And he’s a guy — so his clock ticks at a lot slower pace than a woman’s. Parenting at 42 isn’t radically different than parenting at 47 or 48, especially when you’re not the one pregnant or nursing….

  18. Veronica S. says:

    Gotta be honest, it makes me vaguely uncomfortable how often Gwenyth gets pulled into conversations about Chris Martin’s dating capability. Like, he’s an adult. He’s responsible for his adult relationships. Gwenyth may be insufferable, but she’s not the reason these women are breaking up with him.

    • Alyse says:

      This

    • Endsoftheearth says:

      I agree. Goop may be difficult and out of touch. But she is not responsible for her ex’s mistakes. He is a grow man who knows what he is doing. He doesn’t like to be with successful or career oriented women, that’s for sure.

  19. Jackie says:

    I was so happy to here about the break up. When i first heard that they was dating, i was like no, no, no!. This relationship will not work. You have to be crazy to want to be apart of that freak show. She had no business joining that freak show. She is in her 20′s dating someone in thier 40′s whit teenagers. That relasionship should not went past the first date. Good for dakota, she should have ended sooner.

  20. Amelie says:

    I do think if Chris ever does have kids with another partner, Gwyneth will not be thrilled about it. She will no longer be able to claim their kids are more important and need more focus from him as a new baby will take priority. All kids are equally important of course but Apple and Moses are now preteens, they don’t constantly need their parents like they did when they were younger. They’re probably are at that age where they think their parents are uncool anyways (thank the Lord for small favors Gwyneth is not my mother haha) and don’t really want them around.

  21. sassbr says:

    I agree with others that J Law was talking about Darren Aronofsky, the “genius” director. That “Mother!” press junket was super embarrassing for everyone involved and I think she probably cringes thinking about that time-she even said that he would read her the reviews and he was an exhausting person to be around.

    Meanwhile, aside from Goop probably being an overbearing ex-wife, Idk where Chris Martin gets all this flack. I think he is a musical genius tbh and without much baggage. Making fun of Coldplay used to be very en vogue, but when I saw the Mylo Xyloto tour live, I became a pretty huge fan.

    • stormsmama says:

      coldplay is amazing
      I agree he’s a genius
      and so beautiful in concert

    • Endsoftheearth says:

      She actually has nothing but nice words to describe Aronofsky as a boyfriend, except for their movie’s reviews and its impact on them which many assumed she was bad mouthing him at the time when she in fact was just sharing a difficult situation that affected them. She still said he was nice and everything.

      The shady talk was years prior to her dating Aronofsky, she also said she is friends with all her exes including him, but except for one person she didn’t want to name. Martin may be a good person or a generous one, but he is obviously not a good boyfriend and I don’t understand the people who like to criticize Goop and her influence on his life. He is clearly the problem in all relationships if you have seen his immature concert videos calling for an ex name while he is dating another person. The dude has relationship related issues.

  22. Alyse says:

    If true, great for her! Especially as she will have the finances to help her be a Mum later in life…

    I’d love to be a Mum but also want to wait til late 30s (esp as I’m v single atm), but no idea if I’ll have the money to help things if fertility becomes an issue. Wish there were more options to help ladies afford to wait longer (I’m 29, went to a fertility session and looking at $10k for a starting point to freeze stuff, not that I may ever need to or need them… tough choices)

    • Ann says:

      I mean, that’s the tough choice for a lot of women, and there’s no single answer. More and more women are waiting until later in life to have kids, which I totally understand. Of course, waiting longer can also have biological repercussions. There’s no single “best” scenario and I hope you find one that fits you!