Camila Cabello is only 22 years old and she’s already done and said some things which piss me off. Not the Shawn Mendes fauxmance – I love that. But there is some evidence that before she got super-famous, she would say racist sh-t on the internet. I’m just mentioning that because I know other people will mention it, like there are a lot of people for whom Camila is “canceled” because of those (alleged?) racist comments. Personally, I just hope she’s grown up a lot since then and she understands that she’s under a microscope and little girls are watching her and all of that. I feel like Camila understands that now too. Remember those oh-so-natural and NOT posed photos of Camila and Shawn in a pool in Miami? In that photo-op, the photographer also took some full-length photos of Camila in her very unflattering one-piece swimsuit, which I’ve included here. Apparently, there were comments and headlines about Camila’s perfectly lovely curves. So Camila clapped back on the haters on Instagram:
“I haven’t gone on social media AT ALL with the conscious intention of avoiding things that hurt my feelings. But for a second I forgot while trying to find a pic to post about it being Havana’s 2 year anniversary and my eyes accidentally ran over a headline of people body shaming me.”
“Honestly first thing I felt was super insecure just IMAGINING what these pictures must look like, oh no! My cellulite! Oh no! I didn’t suck in my stomach! But then I was like… of course there are bad pictures, of course there are bad angles, my body’s not made of f–king rock, or all muscle, for that matter, but the saddest part of young girls growing up in an airbrushed world is they’re seeking a perfection that’s not real.”
“I’m writing this for girls like my little sister who are growing up on social media. They’re constantly seeing photoshopped, edited pictures and thinking that’s reality, and everyone’s eyes get used to seeing airbrushed skin, an suddenly they think THAT’S the norm. ?!!! It isn’t. It’s fake. AND FAKE IS BECOMING THE NEW REAL. We have a completely unrealistic view of a woman’s body. Girls, cellulite is normal, fat is normal. It’s beautiful and natural. I won’t buy into bullsh-t today!”
My generation had Jennifer Lopez and Beyonce normalizing curves, normalizing a big booty and juicy thighs and all kinds of body types as “beautiful.” I hope Camila is that person for Generation Z or whatever, because she absolutely should be. She’s got a great figure, in my opinion – the classic petite pear shape. I love that she’s not dieting herself down and I love that she’s telling young girls that they should not believe that “Instagram fakery” is the new Real Girl. It’s not.
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
Young boys are buying into the fakery too. My 16 year old son is constantly Dieting and constantly weighing himself. He wonders why he doesn’t have a six pack. He’s almost 6 feet and his weight is within normal healthy range. He plays basketball daily but is now weight lifting incessantly to get a six pack. He’s also skipping meals. We have a dermatology appt this morning because he needs his upper arms to be smoothe and it has chicken skin. I told him he is not a Ken doll, his body is not made of plastic. His self esteem is so dependent on his appearance.
That’s so sad. I went to the restaurant with my parents and two of my sisters on Thursday. On of them is 12 years old, she has a phone but only Snapchat on it (old phone from her mom).
During dinner I was taking beautiful pictures of her because we had a great sunset behind us. She looked at the pictures and told me “I hate my face! I prefer my face with the filters on it”. It made me so sad. I tried to tell her how her face was beautiful without the Snapchat filters and that they were not what a face is supposed to look like but she did not really care.
Sunnee, I’m sorry to read about this. It sounds like he needs a therapist who specializes in body dysmorphia and EDs before he goes to far down this road. You should talk to his primary care physician ASAP. Best of luck to you both.
Ouf that’s hard. As soon as diet and exercise become an obsession there’s a problem. There’s a difference between taking pride in your appearance and agonizing over it. I graduated high school in 2008 – we didn’t have nearly the kind of pressure that high schoolers have now, but it was starting to get up there by then. Social media is a blessing and a curse. All I saw from celebrities for the most part was airbrushed ad campaigns and movies/tv shows where their appearance was carefully crafted. It’s nice to see the celebrities on Instagram and places like that posting photos of their down days where they look much more like regular people – especially the ones who are speaking out against the kind of pressure that’s put on people to look “perfect”. But I can also see the absolute shit show that social media can cause.
As someone who thought breakouts were THE WORST when I was 15-18 I get the discomfort of having less than great skin. But looking back I didn’t break out TOO bad back then even though it seemed like it was awful. I still break out and I’m 29. I also remember thinking I was SO fat when I was like 125lbs and now that I’m a lot heavier than that I’d LOVE to be the size I was when I thought I was huge. Eventually those problems seem SO trivial but not everyone will realize that without the help of therapy. I also can only imagine it’s even more difficult for guys in some ways. We all know how hard it is for young girls but a lot of people don’t realize that it can be JUST as bad for guys too and they sadly don’t have the same kind of support a lot of the time.
You sound like a supportive mom so at least he has that.
That “chicken skin” is possibly vitamin A deficiency, or iron deficiency. Cod liver oil and omega 3 and vitamin E could help.
I’m not a doctor though.
It’s rough to be a teenager, it’s just awful nowadays.
Sunnee – get your son an appointment with a nutritionist and a mental health specialist. His obsession and food tracking/starvation need to be stopped before something more serious develops. I went through this my whole life and EDs are destructive for the sufferer and the family, too. We can be stubborn but at the root of it all we’re unhappy and need support. I wish you both the best.
Since superhero movies became popular, gym memberships for men are up almost 1000%, and men have become the fastest-growing demo in the diet market (think about the explosion of protein powders, “muscle” milks, and ads specialized to market the same old diet plan, but to men). This is the dark side of pop culture no one is talking about.
🙁 poor kids
I got “chicken skin” Keratosis pilaris in late teenage years/young adulthood. My Dad has is and it is genetic. I’m not sure if that is what your son has but if so, it’s harmless. I don’t like how it looks but exfoliating helps for me and it’s getting better with age. Essentially, It’s a build up of keratin. I had eczema when I was young and it’s similar in terms of skin conditions.
I get KP too and there is a lotion called Amlactin that cleared mine within a week. Just be careful in the sun if you use it because it makes you more susceptible to sunburn. it’s sold at most drugstores.
I wish people had told me earlier to just accept my natural body shape and try to find the best in it. We all have different shapes and apart from those who literally change their shapes through surgery that is just the hand we are given.
She’s great, she’s right and only Americans would think her racist
She’s been called a racist because she called her ex-bandmate Normani a nI@@er, not once but a few times.
Jealousy makes you do crazy things. Normani is so much more talented.
Wait what? When! I had no idea
Explain?
So she’s 22, when she was a teenager she said some silly, ignorant things she probably thought were cool. I think what she’s saying at 22 is fine and should be encouraged and people should be given some leeway for the dumb things they do and say as kids.
@Jten a teenager is old enough to know not to use racist epithets. Stop making excuses for her s*itty past behavior. Perhaps if she had come out and acknowledged what she did and APOLOGIZED for it then what you are saying would make sense. But she hasn’t.
@Jten at what age is it cool and trendy to use racial slurs? Asking for a friend
So where you live it’s okay to call people the n-word?? Cool. Let us know where that it exactly
Luckily somewhere where Trump isn’t President.
@Jten but someplace where it’s cool to call black people the n-word?? And you’re bragging about Trump not being your President?? Lol.
No, there’s nowhere that’s acceptable. But using stupid, ignorant language as a kid hopefully does not make you a racist for life. Anyway terrible day for America, and poor taste for me to use shorthand in my comment.
Yeah, I would never use that word even when I was a teenager. It just is not in my vocabulary.
I think her body is really cute! I’d love to look like her. It’s the bathing suit that she needs to be embarrased of 🤷🏼♀️
That bathing suit is HIDEOUS. It’s like a toilet paper wrap.
It’s horrible. Nothing wrong with her body, it’s just an ugly AF swimsuit.
Beautiful body ugly suit,that’s all I got
this is kind of related but – i went to an amusement park this weekend and could not believe the amount of breast implants, butt implants and lipo’d stomachs to look like an **extreme** hourglass. i counted seven or eight women who had obviously had butt implants and a few women who had what was clearly super intense stomach lipo and implants to match their natural thighs and butts. it was a cross section of races/ethnicities too. to each their own but when i say extreme i mean – if it was a photo i would assume it was photoshop and i have never seen a body like that occur in nature. never ever.
In 10 years we’ll have synthetic skin too, to avoid wrinkles. Just watch.
That swimsuit would be unflattering on any body.
I can’t stand this one. It wouldn’t shock me to have her issue this love yourself message and have her mock other women behind closed doors. As mentioned in this article she publicly liked racist comments about former band mates, is besties with the Queen of mean girls T Swift and more than willing to do pap strolls for attention. I’m sure she was heartbroken to see ppl “fat shaming “ her but sure she’s gives as bad as she gets.
Yeah, I don’t like her either. Something about her irks me to no end.
Yeah, I’ll take a pass on her too – but not for her body. Her body is lovely and I applaud anyone who makes a point to say stuff like this.
She is beautiful and people have absolutely lost the plot if they consider her overweight. I don’t even know who to blame for the popularization of these unhealthy, disproportioned fake curves that everyone is sporting. I know the Kardashians played a huge part, but I refuse to believe they can be that singularly influential. I’m English and the trend hasn’t caught on in my city as bad as it has in other places but there is a definite rising trend of terrible looking plastic surgery and it just makes me sad. I thought the point was to look like it was all natural?
I don’t want to “cancel” people who demonstrate a desire and ability to grow. Seems like she’s trying. I’m not excusing her racist comments and would NEVER have used that word on my dumbest teenage day, but I guess I’m saving my hate for Trump today and open to giving this one a chance to be better. Again, just OPEN to it.
Maybe I’m cynical but I feel like JLo and Kim Kardashian just adde one more thing women have to have to be beautiful. Now you not only have to be skinny but have big boobs and a big ass ( but no belly fat, god no).
And body positivity is the new “it” thing, just like feminism was a feew years ago, I’m not surprised famous women who have conventionally acceptable figures are jumping on the train.
Yep, they’ve done nothing to help on body acceptance. In my country skinny was never a thing, so those women were trendy since the beginning of times, and it`s shitty just the same.
Ok but that swimsuit is very unflattering and would be on pretty much anyone. Not only that but it’s very see-thru. In other pics you can see her nipples clearly. It was either a deliberate choice or she really didn’t think it through.
I think her body is great, and I’m sure her swimsuit is unflattering, but I’ll admit I was surprised she didn’t look thinner — mostly because I feel like in images from magazines she looks a lot smaller. So I don’t get why she’d be upset about fat-shaming and talk about body positivity but then also being okay with being photoshopped. I don’t expect her to be 100% consistent, but this message might mean a lot more if she followed it up with natural/unedited images of herself in the media by her own choice.