Sonni Pacheco & Jeremy Renner’s teams are still trading accusations

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As we discussed yesterday, Jeremy Renner and Sonni Pacheco’s long-settled custody battle has been reignited into another messy conflict. Sonni filed for sole custody last month, leading people to believe that something had happened recently. It took about a month for stuff to start coming out – Sonni said that Jeremy Renner has told people that he wishes someone would kill her, and he once threatened her with a gun, and threatened to kill himself. There were also accusations of drug use and alcohol abuse, not to mention a steady stream of women coming and going from his house. Team Renner says Sonni is a liar and a fantasist and a bad mother.

So what’s new? The Daily Mail had an exclusive which looks like “witness” affidavits from two young women who partied hard with Renner at his home. Maybe this exclusive came courtesy of Sonni’s legal team? These two women say that Renner always had drugs in his house and he was a regular user of molly and cocaine. He also had/has an X-rated Snapchat where he sends and receives all kinds of photos and videos. The women also say that he did all of this – drinking, drugging and banging – in front of his daughter, or while his daughter was in his home. He also introduced Ava to all of his ladies. How confusing for her.

Meanwhile, Renner’s team is still leaking to TMZ too – Team Renner says Sonni is “obsessed with Jeremy’s sex life and the sex lives of those in his orbit, including one of his nannies.” Team Renner also has a convoluted story about how Renner once sent Sonni naked photos of himself, which she then handed over to their lawyers and the custody evaluator. Which is just funny, kind of: “Your honor, look at it! He doesn’t deserve joint custody, period.” And Team Renner says that Sonni’s artwork (she’s a sculptor) is too “dark and graphic” and “sexual.” Oooh, next he’ll take issue with her Georgia O’Keeffe flower poster. TOO GRAPHIC.

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  1. Erinn says:

    LOL at him calling her ART too sexual while saying she’s OBSESSED with his sex life and the sex lives of those around him.

    This man is insane. God, he’s so embarrassing. I really worry about how this is going to shake out long term. I hope Sonni and Ava remain safe.

    • Bella Bella says:

      I feel sorry for their girl. Everyone I know who has divorced is really careful about their dating, keeping it from their kids and waiting until they feel sure about someone before introducing him to the child/ren.

      The scenario reminds me of Fosse and all that his daughter saw.

    • otaku fairy.... says:

      Can you imagine the reactions on both sides if it was said that a female public figure was drinking and/or drugging, and especially hook-up -culturing in the presence of her kid of any age- even without threatening suicide, having guns, or talking about wanting to have someone killed? Her reputation would be ruined, there would be no coming back from it. The anger would be at 100%. And anyone who ever used a misogynistic slur, or otherwise had any violating, stereotypical and toxic gender-based, ethnicity-based, sexuality-based, race-based, or rape-based things to say about her and other women to begin with would be having a field day. TBH it doesn’t even really take being a mother. There would be a lot more armchair diagnosing too, and it wouldn’t just be addiction. The often seeming a little drunk that people mentioned yesterday while over a certain age would be more controversial too.
      But if you do add the suicide threat, the guns, and the talk of wanting to have a male ex killed angle, that would amp up the ‘misandree’ crowd too, with no talk of the man being thirsty and out for money. Hopefully Ava and Sonni will both be safe, and Marvel fans will be empathetic about this.

      • Christina says:

        There are addicted, abusive women out who are cruel to their children, but Renner is acting like most men when you take away the addiction and money. Male entitlement and power over the women in their lives is encouraged in men by men. Look at Kanye’s crap about controlling Kim Kardashian’s sexiness in Kaiser’s earlier post today, and that entitlement hits dangerous levels when a woman tries to leave.

        This happens far more than people want to believe. Renner’s reactions are typical. Everyone should sit in a family law court for a few days and just watch and listen. Based on what we know, this isn’t happening because Sonni Pacheco is a selfish, sex-obsessed gold digger. It’s happening because Renner feels entitled to control the women around him, including his daughter. That child is a pawn for him to torture her, particularity if he is telling people she should be dead.

      • jenner says:

        seriously, you are ridiculous with your lectures

      • Sophia’sSideEye says:

        I love this comment so much, otaku. Thank you.

        Jenner, always feel free to just scroll on past.

      • otaku fairy.... says:

        @Christina: You’re right. Hopefully they have some kind of support.
        @Sophia’sSideEye: Thanks. 😉💕
        @jenners: 😴. Yipe, yipe…🐩💧💧!!

      • Joanna says:

        @otaku, I love your posts. 👍

  2. Leah says:

    I always knew he was a chauvinistic turd. He can barely stand to be around bright, intelligent and self possessed Brie Larson who probably doesn’t put up with his crap and loves Scarlett Johansson, although he started to defend the interviewer the one and only time she stood up for herself for being asked about her underwear. Scarlett still thinks being “one of the boys” is important. This guy has always rubbed me the wrong way for being a major asshole.

    • Xi Tang says:

      Leah this is very off topic but I kinda feel validated lol. I enjoy the marvel promo tour and can’t help but notice that about scarjo. She would laugh along at jokes at her expense.
      There’s an interview with Renner being a complete jerk to Brie. A (korean, iirc) reporter was expressing his gratitude for Brie for speaking out about representation in the press. Jeremy proceeds to completely dismiss everything and the whole interview he’s basically turning his back to her.

  3. DaisySharp says:

    Do you think Marvel will cut him loose? How can they have this s-show on their hands? Oh, how they must be cursing the decision to have Nat sacrifice herself. “I told ya, we should have launched Hawkeye’s ass over that cliff! Moron!” they are screaming.

  4. DS9 says:

    I see more and more shades of Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards the more that comes out.

    I hope Sonni and Ava are safe.

    • (TheOG)@Jan90067 says:

      I thought of this too. Everyone thought Denise was a jealous, spite-filled beyotch for all the things she said about him, and for leaving poor Charlie, taking the girls and restricting any access. And then, it allllll came out: the porn, porn stars, drugs, anger issues, guns…Brooke and their drug use, the twins born drug dependent on coke…

      And Denise was proven right.

  5. Jellybean says:

    This is really awful and I am very sad to read it, but nobody has said he threatened anyone with a gun but himself. They also haven’t said he threatened her directly, it has just been reported to her that about a year ago he was drunk and said he wished she were dead. There is plenty here to get upset about without making it worse.

    • DS9 says:

      I don’t think you understand domestic abuse.

      What he did is emotionally abusive behavior. It’s manipulative and dangerous. And it’s classic controlling, douchenozzle behavior.

      It’s terrorizing.

      Please don’t minimize this.

    • Lizzie says:

      oh well having guns and threatening to commit suicide is totally different – why didn’t anyone point that out YESTERDAY?? *EYES ROLL OUT OF HEAD*

      when you threaten to kill yourself over a breakup or divorce proceeding – that is an abusive control tactic. it is a threat not just to yourself but a threat to the other person that your blood in on their hands. it is 100% a threat. not to mention a suicidal drug addict shouldn’t have custody of their child so it is pretty damn relevant in terms of threats to her and her child.

    • Erinn says:

      I mean – there’s a chunk of men who decide to take out their entire family when they’re suicidal. So even if that’s ALL this was – there’s still absolutely a threat to more than just his safety.

      • DS9 says:

        And some of them kill everyone except themselves.

      • DaisySharp says:

        Thank you Erinn! This is almost epidemic! Of course a man threatening to shoot himself in front of you is ALSO a death threat to you. Always.

      • Erinn says:

        It’s honestly one of the most horrific things – I’ve been listening to far too many true crime podcast episodes lately, so my mind automatically goes there. It’s FAR too many men annihilating their families, and it’s genuinely a terrifying thing to even think about, let alone be personally effected by.

    • Jellybean says:

      I shouldn’t have put the ‘just’ in. But, it is a lot worse to stand in front of a person with a gun and threaten to kill them, that it is to threaten to kill yourself and wish someone dead without any expectation that they would hear about it and it seems that she didn’t find out for about 9 months. I do understand how bad it can be, I worked with a woman whose son in law killed himself and the grandchildren to punish his wife who was having an affair. My sister also had to deal with a boyfriend threatening to kill himself when she was only 14 and it was horrible. Killing yourself to punish someone is awful and cruel, but Renner didn’t do it and Sonni, unlike my little sister, was not haunted by the possibility that he would. !00% I do agree that a suicidal drug addict should not have custody of a child and he also shouldn’t have a gun.

      • DaisySharp says:

        “I worked with a woman whose son in law killed himself and the grandchildren to punish his wife who was having an affair. ”

        This happens. Men are monsters. They punish a woman by murdering her children, even when they are the father. This makes my blood run cold. Because it happens. The woman is left living in hell. Monsters.

      • Jellybean says:

        It was utterly horrendous. I didn’t know the mother at all, but the grandmother was lovely. She use to have a picture of the kids on her desk. The real horror is that they just knew he had it in him and were rushing over to the house, but it was too late.

        But… MEN are not horrendous, men and women who do that are horrendous .. Just like the woman who lived down the road from me who drove her car off the cliff with the kids in the back because her husband left her. I know it sounds like I am making these up, but I am not, I have just lived long enough that I have seen and heard about a lot of nasty things.

      • DS9 says:

        @jellybean, stop talking, for real.

        And honestly, she probably did dismiss the drunk “she needs to be dead” as some bullshite smack talking until he actually did pull a gun in her presence, put it in his mouth, and then fired into the ceiling.

      • DS9 says:

        Also, I would bet all the money in the word that the son in law you explained probably put his wife through this same kind of hell for some time before he pulled the trigger.

        These people usually don’t wake up one morning and with no previous threats, kill their loved ones.

    • MC2 says:

      He shot the gun into the ceiling & wasn’t the child sleeping upstairs?! Please stop minimizing this severely abusive behavior. Also, he doesn’t seem to have used that incident as a wake up call, feel remorse or get himself help. Soni, who may not be a perfect victim, should be scared for herself & her daughter.

      • Jellybean says:

        Based on what I know about his house I would say no, she wasn’t upstairs. He was probably in the music studio, since that is where most of this stuff seemed to go on, and that is in a separate building. Plus it is an upside down house, so if he was in the house and shot up it is unlikely to have anywhere near the child’s bedroom.

      • tcbc says:

        Even if the child wasn’t sleeping upstairs, no stable person would discharge a loaded weapon in that manner. That alone makes him a dangerous person and an unsuitable guardian.

        And for the record, I believe her.

      • Jensies says:

        @jellybean The mental circles you have to make to justify firing a gun into the ceiling with a child in the house as somehow okay? Normal? Not a serious sign of emotional instability? It’s really astonishing.

    • Christina says:

      Jellybean, this is classic male entitlement and domestic violence. Men are encouraged to believe that we are their property. Please read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Professional psychologists see this all the time. This knowledge should be promoted to all people, but men don’t want women to think that this is anything but normal. Our society conditions people to believe that this is normal when it is controlling, abusive, and potentially lethal.

      NO ONE believed me about my ex until he tried to kill our kid.

  6. A says:

    I just read that DM article and I feel so dirty right now. Renner needs to lose his custody, he is not fit to be a father. Ava and Sonni need to be protected. I hope Marvel fires him but considering how Hollywood works they will just postpone their Hawkeye show, let this mess die and then bring him back. Ugh.

    • DaisySharp says:

      CAN they postpone Hawkeye? I think their schedules are so plotted out and every single thing depends on the thing before it. I don’t know. It’s going to be a huge problem for me if they don’t fire him. I feel sick just thinking about it.

      • Lizzie says:

        one movie completely took kevin spacey out and recast his role, did reshoots and stayed on schedule…like a month before release. they can do anything they want.

      • DaisySharp says:

        That’s true Lizzie, I hope they replace him.

  7. Meg says:

    Read the text messages tmz has with their story

  8. Cindy says:

    I believe her, especially if the daughter is mentioned as a witness to some of this stuff. A 6 year old will not lie to make her dad look bad.

  9. Snappyfish says:

    I feel bad for the little girl. This is about money, there was a request for more & when it was denied all this poop began to be flung. Sounds like both are wanting & neither is a good role model for this child.

    • lucy2 says:

      That’s how I’m feeling too, worried and sad for the kid stuck in the middle of all this. Neither adult seems to be doing well here.

    • Meg says:

      No read the the text messages tmz has between Sonni and Jeremy. she comes across as very level headed and more calm than id be in the same situation because Jeremy sounds awful to deal with.

    • Piptopher says:

      gross, I don’t think Sonni is lying about this abuse for more money. That is classic misogynistic thinking and its not cool.

  10. Mamasan says:

    I feel for the little girl. Sonny had good inkling of whom she was dealing with by her history with him.
    Bad judgement all around.

  11. Sara says:

    Just another sicko.

  12. Elizabeth says:

    Yeah I read that. Renner looks so bad in all of this. He should be doing more to keep negotiations private with his ex. Or maybe he thinks (sadly, probably correctly) that because he’s a rich white man he will never face real consequences. Some of this reminds me of my worst ex. The best part was when he blamed his behavior on me withdrawing.

    • Christina says:

      My ex is African American, and he felt entitled to control me and he also expected to win. His dad is a judge and he comes from a law enforcement family of lawyers. He and his brothers were Police Explorers as kids. He still tried to kill my kid and destroy my career and life, and my husband and I are waiting for him to show up on our doorstep as psychologists have warned us for years.

      This is about male power and entitlement to control the women in their lives.

  13. The Recluse says:

    Poor little Ava. Stay safe, little one.

  14. DS9 says:

    Those texts are nauseating. He knows exactly what he’s doing. Classic gaslighting

  15. VeronicaLodge says:

    I’m paying my ex $100 per car load to get my belongings back. When I left him, it was congenial, even though in hindsight, he was emotionally and verbally abusive, it escalated to physical abuse. When I left, I’ll keep your stuff until you have more space. Two years later he is still charging me for my belongings. My daughter who passed away clothes and little toys? 100$ to get them back. He’s controlling and unhappy that I’m happy (great boyfriend, just bought a house together, looking into adopting). He can’t let it go, not because he pines for me, I think he never liked me very much. He just wants the control. This story brought up a lot. Sorry.