Last week, Selena Gomez dropped two new singles, “Lose You To Love Me” and “Look At Her Now.” I had no desire to discuss the singles on their own, for reasons which I’ll discuss in a moment. I ended up writing about them because Hailey Baldwin might have done something shady as soon as Selena released the first single, because Hailey is super-shady (as I’ve come to learn). The whole thing is basically that… Selena is still in her feelings about Justin Bieber, and Justin’s wife is like “I’ll kill you!” Or something. So let’s go back to the beginning. Here’s “Lose You To Love Me” again:
It’s such a sh-tty video, it’s hard to even concentrate on the terrible song. I’m not going to debate whether Selena had “the right” to make yet another f–king song about Justin Bieber. They were on and off for years, they were each other’s first big love affair, and they’re both emotional stunted to that era of their lives. Of course Selena has the RIGHT to make music about Justin. But I question the wisdom of it in general? Justin is truly married to someone else. Selena has supposedly been working on her own mental health for the past few years. This feels like a gigantic backslide for her. Speaking of, Selena said in an interview that she hopes Justin listens to her new songs. Girl, HE IS MARRIED.
After Selena Gomez dropped two new songs this week — both of which seemingly refer to her on-again, off-again relationship with ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber — the songstress admits that she’d love for the “Baby” singer to digest the tracks, especially the ballad “Lose You to Love Me.”
“Yeah, I do [want him to listen],” she revealed in an interview on the Zach Sang Show. “And here’s the whole point: being able to say something on your own, and being able to say something that actually is beautiful.”
The 27-year-old pop star released the sentimental record early Wednesday — along with a black-and-white music video shot entirely on an iPhone — and the song appears to be a Dear John letter to Bieber, 25, who has since married Hailey Baldwin, 22.
“For me, my intentions are never evil. They just aren’t,” Selena continued. “I don’t even know how to do that. My intentions can be a bit snappy but I always want to come from a place that’s genuine, and when I feel like some things haven’t been said, then I get to turn things into art.”
So she’s not trying to be evil and she “wrote” a Dear John-type song telling him that she’s over him and she really wants him to hear it and… he’s been married to someone else for more than a year. Again, she has every right to process all of this sh-t however she wants. She has the right to make music about Justin Bieber. But lordy, this does not seem healthy. And for all of the Selenators claiming that she’s really a queen telling her truth and all of this is amazing… yeah, again, Justin moved on almost two years ago and the fact that Selena is still doing this doesn’t bode well, I’m sorry.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Avalon Red.
Selena is WAY out of pocket regarding this situation…
Idk, I like the song and I like video. I don’t think it’s as deep as it’s being portrayed here.
When I think of all the writers who wrote the same story over and over — for example Philip Roth (always writing about his d*ck), Edna O’Brien (always writing about a failed relationship with a married man) — these songs of Selena’s seem both part of a tradition of artists working out their sh*t through their art and also extremely mild in comparison. Don’t understand what all the hype is about. So she wants him to hear it? Big deal. She wants him to hear that she made something worthwhile out of their toxic relationship.
Also, the video isn’t that bad. The other one for the other song gave me a horrible headache.
Same. I like the song; I like the video.
And the songs are EXACTLY the sort of songs other female pop singers sing, so why pretend this is interesting?
Of course, it is, and that’s the real reason she’s bringing it up–she’s got new music to promote, and here she is on a gossip site getting some coverage.
I very much doubt she really cares anymore about Bieber.
Yikes
She was also writing songs about him 5 years ago right? It doesn’t sit well for the moving on and up narrative. This is exhausting and self destructive.
Also the songs are terrible. I like the first video and song more. I’m trying to think of something positive and it’s not working.
Love her hair. I have such hair envy.
Don’t use this as a marker to judge your hair by. This is major extensions. If you follow her hair styles over the last year, she’s switched between short hair and long extensions many times. Even that gorgeous hair in the love you to love me video is a wig.
@FLEUR
Selena can’t commit to that shorter hair.
her music has taken a nosedive since 2017 sheesh. I hope she finds happiness. they broke up so long ago and she still seems hung up on him to a certain extent.
I think if he was single she may have a right to make a song about him, but he is married now, you have to have some respect for the wife and distance yourself from the past.
Honestly, why?
I agree that the fact that she’s still making songs about Justin at this point probably isn’t HEALTHY, but that’s a different thing entirely. It’s not “disrespectful” to Hailey to acknowledge that she and Justin had a long and likely impactful relationship. The relationship ended for a reason. There’s no reason for Hailey to feel somehow threatened by anything, and it’s weird to try and rewrite history. The fact that Justin dated before he got married isn’t a reflection on his wife.
Things are definitely amiss in Selena land. That girl who was a close friend that donated her kidney is apparently no longer on speaking terms with her.
Interesting. I always had the feeling that Selena was going to dump that girl after she got her kidney. Selena has always come across as a narcissist. Same for Biebs and Hailey. Just vapid little punks.
Wow i had the same gut response from her kidney transplant too. she’s very young yes but her and Taylor swift are two peas in a pod: both are filled with drama
Oh that’s some interesting gossip. Thanks for sharing
I was also surprised to learn how much of an undercover drama queen Selena is. She no longer speaks to her kidney donor/former best friend, had a falling out with her mom, and she is rumoured to be hiding a major drug problem. It’s clear that she tries so hard to gain public sympathy and attention from the Bieber relationship. I guess it’s the only thing keeping her in the public eye, but it seems genuinely obsessive.
Yeah @ KKC she Dumped Francia and her reason was that she didn’t wanna feel like she owed her anything, but the real reason was that Francia was upset Selena was still drinking and who knows what else after she got her Kidney. Francia was probably still healing while Selena was out partying with her new Kidney. Such a selfish person. And the fact that she can’t let go and move on from Bieber at this point is just sad. She needs help.
Wow she’s a horrible person and friend.
Selena Gomez’s only relevance is through Justin Bieber. Selena needs to start pursuing avenues outside of entertainment because her shelf life/relevance is just about expired.
I don’t think so. she is so loved. I’m not a fan nor a hater, but she has more fans than biebs.
She has every right to write songs about whomever she wishes. Most artists do!
And, newsflash: stuff like this creates major buzz and sells like hotcakes! From a financial and business standpoint, this is genius!
LOL!
She would be 18 y/o, maybe… But she’s 27 !! Time to move on
Teenage nonsense. As you said above, these people are stunted and there doesn’t seem to be any helping these people gain maturity and perspective.
On another note, I can hear both Julia-Michael Childs or some ghost singer hitting those high notes on these songs along with some heavy auto tune working for this girl. People have a right to work in this industry however they want, but I truly resent people like this who can’t actually do the things they claim to be able to. It’s deceitful and ugly in an industry with so many talented potential artists getting elbowed away from their own opportunities.
If she were truly healed, she wouldn’t care if he listened to her songs or not. She’s obviously spending a lot of mental energy on whether or not Justin will “hear” her side of the story. This sort of indirect messaging to another person is a far cry from speaking your truth for yourself.
Kesha is a good contrast here. Her music lately has been an exploration and celebration of herself, without looking for validation of her feelings from the people who hurt her.
Selena is still very young, and as long as she keeps working on herself, I think she’ll be just fine. One day she really will be “over” Justin, and she’ll probably look back in embarrassment at the effort she expended trying to get him to hear her and validate her long after the relationship ended. But right now, she’s still giving him a lot of power over her.
Selena is 27 years old. Not 19.
so what? don’t you know or know about some people who are in their forties or fifties and still immature, still in bad relationships,etc? people grown at their own pace. what can she do if she’s still not super mature and stable at 27?
@ValiantlyVarnished – I generally consider any woman under 30 to be “very young.” And there’s something that happens around 35 with women, where you stop caring so much about external validation.
Not to say that many people don’t continue to have bad relationships for much longer than that, and mature at different paces. There is no right or wrong way to find yourself.
If they were both still single I wouldn’t have an issue with this. And I don’t even take issue with her having one song about their breakup. But a whole album of songs written about your now-married ex? Inappropriate, juvenile and unhealthy. And then saying that you hope he listens to them?? YIKES. I honestly don’t blame Hailey for her shade at Selena on that score.
As the comments here mention, Justin married Hailey two months after he dumped/cheated on Selena. I agree that it would be for the best for her to move on and let it go, but it’s not like she’s had years to work through this yet, either. Especially since Justin and Selena were off/on constantly, and she probably thought they were going to get back together (again).
They broke up two years ago. So yes she has had “years”. And she spent those two years talking about all the work she was doing on herself and going to a therapist (her words). Like I stated- I have no issue with her writing about their breakup. But an entire album of songs about your ex that you HOPE he listens to?? That’s dysfunctional AF. And contradicts everything she herself has said about her “moving on”.
@Valiantly Varnished: To be clear, it will be two years since they broke up in March 2020, and it is currently November 2019. So it is not yet two years since they broke up, only about a year and a half.
Again, I do agree that it’s best for her to prioritize moving on, but they were together a LONG time. It’s not surprising that it’s taking her time to get over it.
Eh. I get the feeling Justin is still contacting her in some way, so this is her way of letting him know it’s over. Yes. I know he’s married. That doesn’t mean squat if the dude still has Selena on the brain. And I’m 100% POSITIVE HE DOES. It’s been less than a year and they had a volatile on and off relationship. Trust.
MY ex-fiance started contacting me about five years after we broke up (ok so maybe I dumped him) and he got married rather quickly to the girl he dated right after me (yes, girl, because we were all still in our mid-20s). We had ZERO contact. I didn’t want anything to do with him. But there he was, visiting me at work, calling me on the phone, sending me emails. That is until I sent him a polite yet firm email that we should not have contact out of respect for our current partners (yes, I ran it through a few guy friends, my boyfriend at the time, and my female besties first so I know it was respectful and clear).
He did not take that well. I got an angry email-rant telling me off and that he wished me ill and bad things in life and how he was so happy and loved and how the wife was a better woman that me, blah blah blah. Basically, indirectly letting me know he was still in love with me and bitter I broke it off, because NO ONE who is OVER someone does that.
So yeah. It happens “even if he’s already married.” And Justin, doesn’t strike me as someone “level headed” so I think this is her “calm and respectful” email to him.
Team Selena on this one.
sometimes it takes years to heal from a major break up, especially when it’s her first boyfriend. and hailey is defensive because of her own emotional issues. but, she married the guy, she should be secure in their relationship and let selena sing about her emotions. all those singers vent their emotions like that.
Idk. I like the song. It’s doing well with it’s intended audience.
Idk why she has to pretend like he wasn’t dating her AGAIN 2 months before his sacred and true marriage. She’s part of that narrative no matter how godly Justin wants to pretend he is now.
Yeah, I’m with you. I am past the song’s intended market, but I can appreciate it for what it is. And if I was on and off with someone for years, and then we broke up and within a couple months he was engaged and then married, I would need to work through that too.
Meh. I like the song for what it is. Wonderfully dramatic for her demographic. If there’s another Justin album, then I’ll side-eye. In the meantime, she’s mining her life for music. New experiences wouldn’t kill her.
I liked the first song, didn’t care for the second. I don’t think it’s wrong for Selena to write a song saying Bieber hurt her just because he’s married. It would be one thing if it was an ‘I want you back’ type song but it’s not. I don’t think Bieber gets to put a timetable on when she feels sad or angry about their relationship- especially since their relationship is longer than Bieber’s marriage at this point. If ten years from now Bieber’s marriage is going strong and Selena is still hung up that’s different
Reeks of desperation and trying and failing of proving you moved on. Right up there with posting hot pics of yourself partying on Instagram and claiming you’re so glad you’ve moved on and are now free but then watch to see if your ex likes or viewed your story. Damn girl get a clue…
She said aid she released these for her fans and they are the end of the Justin related music. Interesting that she has not said a word about The Weeknd even though he called her out on his last EP and she still has him pictures on her Instagram. Hopefully she has something else to talk about because she is running out of famous exes
Oh, dear. Oh, dear. This girl has not moved past where she was 4-5 years ago. This is not good, especially with her frail mental health. Since they swim in the same pond, it’d be difficult to avoid people speaking about him, seeing him in the media etc. It’s time to consciously let go of her dream to be with him. He changed platforms and took another train to a different destination. She desperately needs to do the same. This must be debilitating for her, and I’m embarrassed for her.
His marriage seems very insincere to me and she has every right to write songs about whatever and whoever she wants to. That is what songwriting is all about.
Didn’t we all have a friend like this at some point? Who never got over that shit? It’s exhausting to even be peripherally involved in listening to that girl.
IMHO (ok maybe not so humble). I am not a fan of Selena. I don’t think she is talented enough to be a singer or an actress of note. She’s just whatever to her young fans. IMO, she is crossing a boundary of adulthood. Yeah, the earth moved…but, it’s over. Keep it to yourself or be a gifted enough writer to mask it just enough to make people wonder. and BTW – apart from Bieber being a little nutcase, he’s REALLY talented. My son is a hip hop/rap recording artist and amazing writer. He is EXTREMELY DISCERNING in his music taste (he’ll listen to every genre of music and land on the most talented people/groups – who’s the best writer, best collaborator, best musician, best vocalist etc.). He turned me on to Bieber, and the kid is good. But, of course it is all subjective so…
I don’t think Hailey or her are EVIL. I just think they thrive on drama but don’t own up to it. It’s always been super obvious.
I sincerely hope this is just a ploy to drum up interest for the new songs, like a savvy business move, and that she’s not actually sold on any of it. But she does seem exceptionally vulnerable so I’m afraid that’s not the case.
She, like her friend Taylor and former (?) friend Demi, thrive off of drama. It’s exhausting.
I mean…I’d question her wisdom of it all if she’d been making several albums about this and it’s been ten years down the line of him being married to Hailey Baldwin. But it’s not like that. It’s all still fresh and fairly recent, and he moved on from her within a matter of months. I’ll bet a part of her genuinely believed that they were going to get married at some point, just not right now, without realizing that Justin Bieber wanted to get married so that he could have a wife who’d manage his life for him. I know people don’t like Justin Bieber all that much, but if you feel something for someone, you feel something for them, and yelling at someone to “get over it” doesn’t help. At any rate, I’d rather she make all the bad music she wants about this rather than cope with it through some other means. This seems healthier to me than what she’s supposedly gotten into in the past.
Those kids. I just can’t with all the narcissistic behaviour and tactics and manipulation. UGH.
“Look at her now” – MY EYES HURT FROM ROLLING.
I mean, she can write/”write” all the songs she wants about who she wants. But then to say she’s moved on? Like, girl… I really wish her all the best because of her mental health issues and how toxic the relationship was, but I don’t believe for a second she’s over him.
About the songs, they are bad and it blows my mind how much success she has even though she’s such a mediocre singer (and actress). But points to her and her PR team because they do an amazing job I guess.
She of course can write or sing about whoever she wants, but good Lord girl, it’s time to MOVE ON.
Selena seems extremely mentally unstable. She reminds me of Britney, pretty sad and lost but so nice they will always have a following.
I kind of feel for harry, he married Hailey after 2 months it’s crazy. Selena for sure still thinks that maybe Justin did this to get revenge and still has feelings.
Hailey was always waiting for Bieber. He was on and off with her too.
After reading about how Selena dumped her kidney donor and still drinks and uses drugs I think Bieber made the right decision for his own mental health. Selena is very toxic.
Bieber obviously messed with her head. Such an a-hole! What in the world (besides money, I see you Hailey) could motivate true love for him? Therefore, I feel Selena’s hang-up with him is some twisted mind games he did on her. He probably destroyed her self-esteem. Thus her neediness. Feel better, Selena. You always were WAY too good for him.
It’s all about keeping the money train rolling. She wants to keep the triangle alive. Anyone else notice how the video is very similar to Gwen Stefani’s big break up song Used To Love You?
I don’t think Justin Bieber is some huge catch, let’s be clear on that right away. Now, if she wanted to have her feelings and swim all up in them two years after they broke up, so be it. I’m not going to say I don’t know people that have or have had a seriously difficult time letting go of things.
What she should not have done, in my opinion, was make all of this so horribly public. There’s no real scenario where she looks great with all of this.
I actually don’t mind the song. Very tweeny in ways but sung from the heart, and she does have a pretty voice. But yeah, writing songs about your married ex seems awfully needy and a bit inappropriate? Plus flat out stating she wants JB to listen to them? I agree it’s a genius PR move. She knows people will listen if only because of the whole potential bermuda triangle aspect. But still, he is married. Even if the marriage seems more like an impulsive stunt than true blue committed love. I see shady trouble ahead for all three.
Her falling out with her friend, Francia, that gave her the kidney is all I need to hear. Francia literally saved her life and Selena’s attitude just proves she is a total ingrate.
I dont think anyone takes seriously Justin Bieber´s marriage
they dont seem to be in love, not before the marriage and not after the marriage
imho
I *usually* dont give a fuck all day about Selena or that bieber person, BUT… I was watching Supernatural on my Roku (on the CW app) and I had to watch her weird iphone commercial that’s just her video for that bieber song like 5, 000 times so now, unfortunately, I seem to have formed an opinion. I dont want to feel any kind of way about her or her epic romance with bieber, but… here we are. Now y’all goan hear about it.
The video sucks. Its like watching paint dry, if drying paint also sang emotionally fraught, irritating I’m-Over-You-But-Pay-Attention-To-Me songs. I’m not a fan of her vocal stylings, either. As a person who was only vaguely aware of her bieber thing, even *I* knew she was singing a bieber song. Artistically, it ain’t much (in my opinion). As a marketing strategy, I ain’t mad at it. I think it’s a little cringey to be an actual adult writing songs like this about a dude you dated back when you were basically a kid, but what’s a little more cringe? It’s *already* cringe-worthy, why not double down if theres a chance that doing so will sell more albums of your crappy music? I cant imagine her fan base is strong or dedicated enough to give a rat’s ass about her for much longer, so… she gotta get while the getting is still good.
My final thought is this: if its true about her friend that gave her the kidney, that’s fucking awful. That’s terrible beyond all reckoning. If shes also fucking up her more-or-less purloined kidney on top of it, THAT IS EGREGIOUSLY ATROCIOUS. I hope she lives a long time on her ill-gotten gain, and I hope she has diarrhea and intractable gas every single day of her long life as punishment. And I dont mean some loose stool every day- oh, no. I mean i hope she has the straight-up dribbling shits at least 6 times a day- every day- and I hope it happens at random times so she can never tell when it’s going to hit her. I hope she farts and shits herself into oblivion.