Emma Stone’s fiance ‘respects’ her career, he’s ‘unselfish in his desire for her success’

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In the lead up to Jennifer Lawrence’s marriage to Cooke Maroney, we got a number of puff pieces about how they were and are perfect for each other and how normal-guy Cooke “doesn’t care that she’s famous.” In interviews, Jennifer also talked a lot about how Cooke is “the best guy she’s ever met” and sh-t like that. Jennifer said she felt “honored” to become a Maroney. The vibe was very… yes, Jennifer’s the star of the relationship, but she’s “lucky” to be with someone who doesn’t mind that she’s the star. Which is a valid enough point, that Jennifer is extremely famous and that the guy she’s with better be cool with it, but it also seemed so retro and vaguely patriarchal too. I bring this up because… the same sh-t is happening with Emma Stone and her fiance, Dave McCary. We’re supposed to give this dude a cookie because he, you know, supports his famous partner.

Emma Stone has found support and love in fiancé Dave McCary. The couple announced their engagement earlier this month after two years of dating, with McCary, 34, sharing a shot to Instagram of the couple smiling wide as Stone, 31, shows off her engagement ring. The pair met when she hosted Saturday Night Live in late 2016 and have found a balance in work and life together.

“She is professional in every way, very talented and focused on her work, and Dave respects that,” an industry source tells PEOPLE in the latest issue, on stands Friday. “He totally supports her, and is unselfish in his desire for her success. Those are great qualities in a man for someone like Emma. She is impressed by his talent and respects him immensely.”

The industry source says the strength of Stone and McCary’s relationship lies in their ability to let each other shine. “Two highly successful people in the entertainment business don’t always give the other the space they need,” the source says. “But he encourages her, and she loves that.”

The pair “got a home together in Malibu over the summer” and are “a great match,” a source previously told PEOPLE. “Dave is a super down-to-earth guy. Most of his best friends are people he’s known since he was a kid, and he’s not affected by Hollywood,” the source added. “He’s very creative and funny, and he and Emma share the same sense of adventure.”

[From People]

All of this could be true and I hope it is true. But again, shouldn’t the bare f–king minimum of any relationship be “they respect each other’s careers”? Like, let’s give him a cookie because the guy isn’t throwing a tantrum whenever she signs on to a new project. Let’s praise him because he’s not a d-ck about how she makes more money than him. Ladies, we really are setting the bar too low. Except… the only reason why we’ve set the bar this low is because so few men are actually supportive and respectful of their super-successful partners.

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  1. vanna says:

    I am calling it: both these marriages will end in divorce. This isn’t a red flag per se, but I it feels weird and slightly wrong.

  2. detritus says:

    It’s like the Keanu stuff, our bar is set so low that when men do something normally decent it becomes a big spectacle.

    You should respect your partners career and want the best for them unselfishly. It’s sad that for many famous women this seems noteworthy. Or that it was so bad for them this is them shading previous partners.

  3. SJR says:

    The old saying “It is just as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor man” applies here also.

  4. Yup, Me says:

    I like that pussy bow to the side top she’s wearing. I do not like that Fawkes Does Parrot Chic dress, nor the Sun in My Eyes eyeshadow.

    That’s all I’ve got.

  5. Shirleygailgal says:

    for the most part, it’s only recently (last decade, maybe even the last 5 years) we’ve really learnt how low the bar is set for men, and how high it is for women…..we’ve known about ‘the patriarchy” for decades, but learning how it plays out in words and deeds is a whole new level of understanding…for both men and women. Beyonce notwithstanding, it is still men who rule the world and they want a low bar

    • tay says:

      Beyonce’s husband cheated on her (and got caught) publicly, and then she wrote a really shitty album trying to get us to accept that taking him back was the higher more evolved path, and not just super desperate

  6. Dabadass says:

    It’s true Kaiser we set the bar to low over and over. I’m so done with that.

  7. Dara says:

    OK, hear me out here. Could both these stories (JLaw and Emma) actually be some kind of signal to the industry that they will still be focused on their work and that – even though they are in committed relationships – they won’t start procreating right away and are therefore still employable?

    I mean, it’s still gross, just in a slightly different way. I can easily see a studio or franchise director read the news of their engagement/marriage and decide not to hire them for the next big blockbuster thinking there’s a chance the ladies will be knocked up in short order and not be available for a long shoot or a big promotional tour.

  8. Jillian says:

    I think that’s great and I really love her engagement ring

  9. Rapunzel says:

    I wonder if there wasn’t some jealousy on the part of Emma’s ex, Andrew Garfield, and that’s why Dave’s support of her career is so notable. Possible with J-Law and Nicholas Hoult too. I don’t think it’s coincidence that these two went from fellow actors to normalish blokes.

  10. shells_bells says:

    Seriously. Can we stop giving these guys a standing ovation when they do something that EVERY person on the plant can (and should be expected to) do?!?

    • jenner says:

      Lol. I know, right? But it’s true. I have a masters degree which is not a big deal in the long run, but I can pick up on when a guy feels threatened by that. I have no problem dating someone who does not have the education I have, my ex-husband quit college to start a business and he’s brilliant. He was also supportive and not threatened by my career. But when a guy gets intimidated by a women’s success, it really shows.

  11. Alberto Delano XO says:

    Nothing says “I’m super comfortable with my woman being more successful than me” than getting a puff piece.
    Seriously, learn from Darren LeGallo, Amy Adams’ husband, baby daddy and college to sweetheart. Do you ever read about him, any puff pieces about how fine he is with her success? No, because brother knows that when you’re married to Amy Adams, there’s nothing says else you should ask from life.

  12. Mo says:

    I remember an event with a female indie director back in the 90s. When asked the difference between being a male and female director in Hollywood, she said the guys get laid. All a dude had to do was say he was a director and he had a hot girlfriend, no matter what he looked like. A successful female director, not conventionally beautiful, will spend her nights alone.

    i also think some of this is from Emma and Jennifer is, hey dudes step it up. You could be getting women like this if you just weren’t such a jerk about it.

  13. Notafan says:

    I agree that we set the bar too low. But at the same time there are so few men that are truly OK with earning less, we should give them a cookie for not being jerks. I’m a surgeon and when I talk with my woman surgeon friends we get the same problems, even if we marry great men who are vocal feminists. We don’t live in a society that supports men being supportive partners to higher earning women. Most men don’t have the skills or understanding that more women have been raised to do. That’s why regardless of profession women still carry most of the mental load and make family-oriented decisions instead of self-oriented only. I know I’m describing this badly but I think it’s a good thing that at least at the beginning of their marriages these women send a signal that they are still autonomous professionals.

  14. jenner says:

    I think these Hollywood peeps are super insecure and competitive, even in and especially with romantic relationships. So it makes sense when they marry someone who is not in the business and then make a point to say this is why it works. Scarlett Johansen did as well, though her SNL dude is kinda in the business, she is more famous and well-known.

  15. ravynrobyn says:

    Emma’s smile is so radiant that I forget to look at her ring 🤗
    Congrats 💕💕