Terry Crews is sorry for ‘invalidating’ Gabrielle Union’s experience on AGT

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Last week we discussed Terry Crews dismissal of Gabrielle Union’s experience on America’s Got Talent. Terry tried to come off as neutral by stating that Gabrielle claims were not what he’d experienced. Terry added that AGT was one of the most diverse places he’d ever worked. Not only was he plunging the knife further into Gabrielle’s back, it missed her point since she was speaking out about racist behavior, not diversity numbers. And all of that was made even worse by his response when people pointed out how unsupportive he was being to Gabrielle, who’d supported him throughout his sexual assault claims.

On Friday, Crews had seen some kind of light because he sent out a series of tweets, explaining where he’d gone wrong and apologizing to Gabrielle:

As far as an apology goes, reading this initially, I felt Terry’s spoke to most of the ways he had mishandled the situation. However, in an effort to educate myself further, I read many of the replies and subtweets on his apology. I understand that Terry’s apology, no matter how thorough, does not do anything to address the fact that he threw Gabrielle under the bus the first time he opened his mouth on the subject, and that directly contrasts with Gabrielle’s first reaction to his circumstances, which was full support. I understand more clearly that this is a problem black women experience from everyone – all sexes and all races. In addition, an apology that comes after several days of backlash rings of damage control, not contrition. Which brings us to the question of whether Terry reached out to Gabrielle directly to listen to her first, and honestly apologize. If he did not, which I suspect he didn’t, then yes, his Twitter apology is merely performative.

As has been widely reported, Gabrielle has not publicly responded to Terry’s apology. But her husband Dwyane Wade did, and I think it safe to say he’s speaking for both of them. About six hours after Terry issued his Twitter apology, Dwyane posted this:

P.S. Gabrielle probably hasn’t had time to respond because she’s too busy getting ready for the Oscars, for which she nominated as a producer for the animated short, Hair Love, and doing amazing things like this.

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  1. Valiantly Varnished says:

    When someone shows you who they are, believe them – Maya Angelou

    Terry Crews can kick rocks.

    • Yup, Me says:

      I would tend to agree with you, but Terry Crews had been showing a lot of how to transparently learn and grow in the last several years. (which means we’re also going to see missteps in that process, too). If he’s actually learning from this (which remains to be seen and I’ll admit that I’m skeptical), I would be willing watch that progress. We need people to model how to be wrong (and how to course correct) just like we need people who can model doing things “right”.

      Gabrielle has talked about her own past as someone who was insecure and dismissed and mean girl-ed other Black women for years. She’s also discussed the fact that she now talks to people when they make missteps. So I hope that Terry reaches out to her to personally apologize (if he has any sense, he did it before he posted) and, if Gabrielle is willing, she and Terry can have a real (and really uncomfortable) conversation about it.

      Unless some of that behind the scenes tea she was talking about was in reference to him not having POC folks’ back on a regular basis- in which case . . . I agree, he can kick rocks.

      • Christina says:

        Good points, Yup Me. Not cancelled yet. I’m still disappointed and waiting to see the growth.

    • Liz version 700 says:

      Yep I agree. He could have listened to his wife and minded his own business, but he chose to go for the throat to protect his paycheck by an “out of left field“ attack against the woman who had his back when he was talking about his assault. Your PR apology rings hollow Terry. And I don’t plan to watch shows you are a part of after seeing this. To be fair, your silly clown stick is annoying so I don’t always enjoy watching you. But not going out of my way to support your work Terry since you don’t go out of your way to support others except your “Red bull Wife who gives you wings”

  2. paranormalgirl says:

    I really hope “Hair Love” wins… it was so wonderful and made me cry.

    • Hecate says:

      I do too. It’s a great short and Matthew Cherry’s promotion for it has been lovely. I hope it goes global.

  3. Jessica says:

    Much too little and way too late. It’s a damn shame after coming through his experience. Doesn’t he know from his own trauma that stating “That wasn’t my experience” or “I never saw any of that” is completely missing the point and very damaging?

    • paranormalgirl says:

      Yeah, agree. It’s “not my experience” to be discriminated against in my field, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen to others (I KNOW it happened all the time in med school) and it doesn’t mean I should be accepting of it happening to anyone.

      Terry gets “credit” for apologizing, but just the bare minimum of credit, since that’s the support he gave Gabrielle Union in said apology.

  4. lucy2 says:

    I’ll give Terry a little credit for thinking about it and apologizing, but…how many times is he going to do this, say something wrong and then have to do a big apology? Maybe thinking things through or talking to the person actually involved before publicly commenting would be a good idea.
    I believe in giving people the chance to learn and grow, but if you repeatedly find yourself in hot water, maybe stay off twitter for a bit.

    • Ronaldinhio says:

      This, 100% this.
      He seems to stumble into things and expect that we will all wait for and accept his apology after the fact.
      It is privilege to an extent although he would not recognise it as such.
      I appreciate he is trying and learning but he could listen for a beat before reacting

  5. Christina says:

    Terry disappoints me. I thought that he understood, but he still expects Black women to support him no matter what he does.

    He should have sent her a handwritten apology and then just said, “I was wrong” if journalists questioned him. That macho shit he is feeling with the men on the show mattered more; his maleness and feeling like he belonged mattered more than bias, racism, and sexism.

    Dwayne Wade’s simple tweet called out his hypocrisy. It was like anybody saying, “Take Trump’s phone”. Dwayne and Gabrielle are amazing role models.

  6. MellyMel says:

    Terry Crews it’s above me now

  7. Renee says:

    Gabrielle deserves so much better than Terry’s twitter apology. He appeared to be apologetic, but still misses the mark. He can apologize all day long. The bottom line is that when it counts, he cannot be counted on. He should have been an ally to her from day one (as she was to him years ago). Instead he chose to make HER experience about HIMSELF.

  8. Annie says:

    He’s so disappointing. After everything black women did for him while black men openly mocked him for “letting” someone sexually assault him. I also read the responses to his tweet and it was a bunch of white people accepting an apology that wasn’t offered to them. The tweet explicitly says “black women”, aka the women he offended, and you have a bunch of white people like “we forgive you, you did nothing wrong, great apology, I don’t know what’s going on but you’re forgiven.” What??

    If there’s one thing Twitter has taught me is how easily people throw black women under the bus. Even their own men “I only take care of my wife” STFU dude. We all have to do better.

  9. HK9 says:

    It’s a day late and a dollar short.

    • Shirleygailgal says:

      In Canada, we call a dollar a loonie, so yep, TC is more than a loonie short, he’s closer to a toonie short ($2.00Cdn)…..I’m still disappointed …..

  10. Alyse says:

    Side note, I want a movie where Gab Union and Tessa Thompson play sisters

  11. mash says:

    when i see this i shake my head and internally scream EVERYONE GET OFF THE NET ON APOLOGIES…do that ish privately and sincerely that way itll come off as truly genuine