Ben Affleck: ‘I don’t know all the answers. I’m only an expert in my own failings’

Ben Affleck keeps doing interviews where he’s saying the same thing in slightly different ways. It reminds me of all the “sourced” articles that came out surrounding his split and divorce with Jennifer Garner. This is Ben’s media strategy of blanketing the press with specific talking points. Since we last covered him he’s had interviews with Parade and the Associated Press released and he also told People about a charity he supports. I get it, he’s trying to control the narrative, but all this repetition comes across as quite controlling, for lack of a better word. I think that term describes Ben well.

In his interview with the Associated Press there were a couple of new-ish quotes. One was obliquely referring to the fact that he self sabotages. He also talked about his relapse and how that happened.

“I don’t know all the answers. I’m only an expert in my own failings,” Affleck says. “But the more expert you become in your own failings, interestingly, the less likely you are to repeat them, I’ve found.

“You notice how you never succeed and all your wildest dreams come true and you go: ‘I got to change something!’ It’s when you hit a stumbling block that you say: ‘OK, let’s be really honest.’”

“The times that I’ve relapsed, personally, have been not been because I’ve had some bad thing happen. It’s been when I thought I had it licked,” Affleck says. “I’m fixed! I’ve been fine! It’s been a year and a half, who cares! I can have a glass of wine! And the next thing, you’re on TMZ and it’s a disaster. That teaches me that it’s just not something I can do.”

[From The Associated Press]

Read how he phrased that part in the middle about success. “You notice how you never succeed and all your wildest dreams come true and you go: ‘I got to change something!” It’s like he’s saying that nothing is ever enough for him. Having his wildest dreams come true isn’t his definition of success. There’s always this hole he’s trying to fill. At least he’s aware of it now.

As for his new movie, The Way Back, I think it will do moderately well at the box office. It won’t matter as much because it’s not a big budget film. This is his redemption film and a way to kickstart his return. He also has Deep Water, with Ana de Armas, coming out in November. I wonder what his talking points will be in the fall.

These are photos from The Way Back premiere, with Ben’s costar Janina Gavankar. She looks lovely although that seems like too much of a dress for a movie premiere. I know she’s in a lot of things, but I’ll always remember her from True Blood, I love that show. Also Ben looks better clean shaven I think. This scruff isn’t doing him any favors.




Photos credit: WENN

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  1. Smalltowngirl says:

    This has long been my thought on Ben, that he is his own worst enemy and almost afraid of being happy.

    • iconoclast59 says:

      Well put. I totally agree. Like Ben, I’m the adult child of an alcoholic. Fortunately, I’ve managed to avoid alcoholism myself. But when you grow up in such a chaotic environment, chaos becomes your “normal,” and true normal feels weird and stressful. So, you self-sabotage and create chaos to bring yourself back to your comfort zone. It’s a really messed-up way to live, and I hope that Ben is learning to recognize these patterns so he can find better ways to manage his feelings.

  2. Ali says:

    He looks better than he has in a long time.

  3. Toot says:

    That’s Meghan’s buddy that took the Christmas card photo with Archie. I always remember her from the wedding in that bomb ass vintage orange dress.

  4. Mabs A'Mabbin says:

    Alcoholism isn’t, ‘fixable,’ so maybe he’s improving? I just think it sux how it takes all our lives to figure shit out then we die lol. But I tend to think men like him never change (narcissistic dreamers of wildest dreams). How many years of interviews and pics and pap strolls hurled at the public does it take to intrinsically learn? Can he ever keep his head down and focus on living and working? No he can’t. It’s all about him and his needs; there’s never a spirit of generosity. He’s simply exhausting.

    • Pineapple says:

      Mabs A’ Mabbin … this is a very well-written post. XO ” … narcissistic dreamers of wildest dreams …” How many humans have been hurt by those people?

      Addiction, that’s the kind of demon a decent person wouldn’t wish on their worst enemy.

      I am glad he keeps talking about it though. It does show addiction is a problem that knows no bounds. Socio-economic status, fame … nothing can protect you. I hope their children understand that. The ONLY difference between them and thousands, perhaps millions of other kids is that their alcoholic parent is on TMZ.

      Humans destroying perfectly good families. Maybe another addict will see his willingness to keep “trying to get sober” and make another attempt. XO Or maybe his story will make someone give up drinking, maybe it will be a warning. I know he seems very self-focused but I would like to think his talking about it is helping people somewhere.

  5. Andrew’s Nemesis says:

    He’s really pulling out all the stops to win this award, isn’t he?

  6. MC2 says:

    I like his talking points on this press junket (shrug emoji here). I’ve seen Ben do a lot of press, for a lot of different things, and this is my favorite version of him. He’s not a perfect redemption story, none of us are, but I’m always here for one.

  7. a says:

    I’ve found Ben to be more candid during this press cycle than he ever has before. I’m rooting for him. His talking points seem to be coming from a genuine place.

    The Diane Sawyer interview concerned me a little, he seems very raw emotionally.

  8. Ksweet says:

    I’m here for it. No one knows the pain of another person’s life. I hope he continues to learn and grow; that’s what we’re all here for.

  9. Whatever says:

    At least he no longer blames his misery on the tabloids and JLo.

  10. Carolnr says:

    I don’t think big budget films interest Ben. He seems comfortable doing smaller budget films like “The Town”& “The Accountant”
    I also think that Ben wants to do smaller films so he can spend more time with his family.
    I think this film will be decent but I think Deep Water should be really really good!

  11. Tiffany says:

    You know, I am not against The Accountant 2. I liked the first one.

    That’s all.