Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler file for divorce, deny that he cheated

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Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler have announced that they’re divorcing after ten years together and three children: sons Camden, 7, and Jaxon, 5, and daughter Saylor, 4. The last time we talked about them was earlier this month when they had to extend their vacation to the Bahamas, having left New York with their kids, hair colorist and his fiance in Mid-March, well after we knew about the impending virus. Kristin’s colorist defended their decision and complained about the situation, which we know about because they all Instagrammed photos from the beach with captions like “social distancing.” Well Kristin and Jay were already broken up by then, according to a new sourced article in People. They sure didn’t look split up in the photo Kristen posted with their arms around each other while staring at the Ocean. Supposedly the lockdown gave them enough space and time to file. I’m so sure it was that and not having to deal with each other 24/7.

There are also rumors that Jay cheated on Kristin with her now former best friend Kelly Henderson. Apparently that played out on Kristin and Jay’s reality show earlier this year. Kristin said she didn’t believe that Jay cheated with Kelly, but that she’s no longer friends with Kelly because Kelly didn’t handle the rumors well. In this People article and on E! and US, sources say this was a long time coming and “they’ve been trying to make it work for a while.” They also deny that cheating was a factor.

Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler surprised fans with their split announcement but a source tells PEOPLE that the pair were struggling months before.

“Kristin and Jay had been having problems for a long time. They hadn’t spent much time together in recent months,” the source says.

On Sunday, Cavallari, 33, announced she and the former NFL quarterback, 36, are getting divorced after seven years of marriage and a decade-long romance. They share sons Camden, 7, and Jaxon, 5, and 4-year-old daughter Saylor.

“With great sadness, after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce,” Cavallari wrote. “We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of. This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect our privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family.”

“On their recent trip, they already knew they were splitting up,” the source tells PEOPLE. “The reason they announced it now is because it’s a quiet time for them to work through all of this and try to move forward.”

“On their recent trip, they already knew they were splitting up,” the source tells PEOPLE. “The reason they announced it now is because it’s a quiet time for them to work through all of this and try to move forward.”

[From People]

Us Weekly also has a bunch of quotes about how their split wasn’t “scandalous or suspect” and that “they just fell out of love and grew apart.”

I don’t watch that show, but from the clips I’ve seen and what I’ve read online, they’ve been having problems for a while. What’s more is that they already filed for divorce on Friday, so that supports the story that this was in the works for weeks. I would ask who goes on vacation right before a split, but we all remember Brad and Jennifer. It wouldn’t surprise me if that’s what Kristin was going for. Plus she filed on a Friday like she was a big star and when none of the celebrity outlets picked it up she made the announcement on her Instagram.

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  1. Ali says:

    They broke up many times publicly and privately.

    I hope that the kids get vaccinated.

    • Whatsinaname says:

      Yeah I almost said this too. I thought they had broken up? I am totally lost on their whole timeline.

    • Yoyo says:

      Funny, you should Say that, someone on Twitter was telling Jay, grab the children and get them vaccinated.

      • Léna says:

        If he let his wife not vaccinate their children, he is complicit and most likely agreed with her. Poor children, I hope they get vaccinated too somehow

      • Veronica S. says:

        I assume he’s just as bad as she is, to be honest. They tend to flock together in their anti-science arrogance.

      • lunchcoma says:

        Yeah, if the anti-vax stuff was a problem for him, there would have been fault lines in the marriage before now. It sounds like his crowd is the same as hers, which makes sense for a couple who were together for so long, but also means that he’s surrounded by people who believe this nonsense.

    • Valiantly Varnished says:

      That was before they were married and had kids.

    • A says:

      The guy she’s posing with in the ocean is her hairdresser, not Jay

      • Melissa says:

        is it? What an odd pic to select for the break up announcement if that is the case. He puts up a pic of them as a couple and she puts up one of her walking into the sunset with her hairdresser? Would explain the protests that ‘he’ didn’t cheat (which is always the first assumption).

      • Kebbie says:

        The one in the ocean isn’t Jay, the one she posted of them walking down the street with the breakup announcement is Jay.

  2. Onomo says:

    I get confused between Jay Cutler and Tim Tebow? They both have very similar faces imo and then they also both won’t eat carbs.

    Kristin has seemed unhappy for a long time? Just really blah and like she lost her joie de vivre. I hope they get any therapy they or their kids might need.

    Eta oh god I hope their kids get vaccines too. Ugh I forgot about that.

    • Esmom says:

      Tebow has always looked like more of a meathead to me than Jay, who looks more haggard to me all the time. Jay has Type 1 Diabetes, which may explain the carb thing. Although with T1D you can eat as many carbs as you want as long as you offset them with insulin.

      • WriterMarie says:

        You obviously know nothing about Type 1 Diabetes. You can’t just eat all the carbs you want. That’s ridiculous. Type 1 Diabetics have a higher risk of going into Diabetic Coma. My mother had the disease for 47 years before she passed. I know a little about it.

      • Esmom says:

        Um, my son has T1D. His endocrinologists, nutritionists and nurse practitioners — and the medical literature — all say T1 diabetics can eat EXACTLY what everyone else eats, as long as you count the carbs and take the appropriate doses of insulin. That’s what insulin injections are for — to do the job the pancreas no longer does. In fact, clinical studies showed that a low carb diet among T1 diabetics resulted in less glycemic control than just eating normal carbs with appropriate doses of insulin. That’s what my son does and his a1c readings have stayed in the normal range for years as a result. I know a little about it, too.

      • Ashley says:

        I was going to say, he has glaring eye bags and looks like he hasn’t slept in days. That’s the difference in looks.

      • Jaded says:

        Mr. Jaded is T1D and has to have a certain amount of carbs at every meal otherwise his blood sugar crashes and…well…having had to rush him to the hospital after a sudden crash in his sleep because he had such severe spasms he dislocated his shoulder was not a pretty sight. Otherwise, his A1Cs have stayed in the safe range for 30 years.

      • I'm With The Band says:

        @esmom that’s true. My partner has T1D. He tries to eat low GI, but if he has a carb heavy meal, he needs extra insulin to offset it. We’ve had two incredibly scary situations where he had too much insulin and his sugars dropped so low he started fitting. If I wasn’t there, he was have slipped into a coma. We now have a glucogel and glucose injections on hand in case (pray tell) it happens again.

        He hasn’t gone into ketoacidosis since he was diagnosed, but he knows the signs of high sugars (esp muscle cramping and blurry vision). It’s a shitty illness. My partner has accompanying sleep apnoea, hypertension, and mild heart disease (although, he was diagnosed at age 35 which is most unusual and lived a hard partying life prior to this).

    • Audrey says:

      Jay Cutler doesn’t have chin. ;) Can’t stand him and I’m sure he cheated on her. Surprised they lasted this long.

  3. Michael says:

    I love how they ask for privacy while advertising everything on their social media accounts when nobody else really cared

  4. Melissa says:

    I get that they are celebrities (sorta) but why do people, any people, put this crap on instagram?

  5. Veronica S. says:

    At least we know the discount sale was probably to fund her lawyer now. 9_9

    • Laura says:

      Truth! Divorce is expensive.

    • Tiffany says:

      Naw, she held out for seven years of marriage. She will get something along with child support.

      • Ashley says:

        Hopefully she filed in California. If it had been 10 years she might have gotten more. But it’s only 7. And most “celebs” tend to leave their athlete husbands after they retire. The athletes no longer bring in money, most of them go bankrupt, so what’s the point of having them around.

        Sorry but I’ve never liked Kristen. She was a mean girl on Laguna and I never followed her after. I never liked her. She was a mean girl and a bully.

      • Kristina says:

        Ashley: No need to apologize. I think she’s an asshole too!

  6. Shannon says:

    Not that it matters but that first linked pic is her and her hairdresser looking at the ocean not Jay.

  7. LULU wang was robbed says:

    How many more quarantine relationship casualties do you think we’re going to see?

    • Darla says:

      oh, the numbers will be epic. in my building alone i’ve already seen some isht go down. i know for sure the woman who lives across from me left with her daughter. and i’ve been hearing fighting when i walk down the hallways here. i think celebrities have it better in some ways, because they are likely living in much larger spaces, giving them more of a buffer zone. but i still think we’re going to see a lot of famous splits. and a lot of us are going to be hearing about some surprising and not so surprising splits in our real lives.

    • lunchcoma says:

      In the real world, I think it’s more that there will be a bunch of people who discover they hate each other but can’t afford to live separately, and the breakups will spike later on.

      The rich, famous people splits will start right now, though.

      • Darla says:

        That’s a good point, with all these job losses. You’re right.

      • Veronica S. says:

        That’s unfortunately why I suspect we’re also going to see (and are seeing in some places) a spike in domestic violence. People are angry, scared, broke, and have no outlets. They turn on each other. They take it out on each other and their children because they can’t escape. It’s particularly frightening to consider how many places are seeing a *decrease* in DM calls because that tells you how many are now completely under the thumb of their abusers.

      • Darla says:

        It’s the children I think about the most. It’s horrifying. I personally think we made a devil’s bargain when we closed the schools.

      • Veronica S. says:

        Darla – The colleges and universities disgusted me the most, to be honest. They completely screwed students over, particularly those from out of state or foreigners. What they did to international students was beyond the pale – imagine being in six digit debt to a university, and they literally just throw you off campus with no help, no ability to work with a student visa, and possibly no way to even get home to your native country. And the government of that country does nothing to stop those universities AND specifically singles you out as being ineligible for the CARES act, despite the fact that you also paid into that system.

        I hope we see class action lawsuits on behalf of those students after this is over.

      • lunchcoma says:

        Veronica – I’m most worried about young children, but I’m probably the most angry at the universities. One of the ones I attended treated its international students exactly that shabbily, and showed no consideration to the many US based graduate students who did not have a parental home they could relocate to. To top it all off, they then used the students’ absence as an excuse to layoff low paid food service workers. There’s a reason I ignore their fundraising emails.

      • Prof Trelawney says:

        off topic prob but just to add re the complaints here re colleges and universities, it may not be as bad as how students have been treated, but faculty have also been treated brutally where I teach, I could go on but suffice to say the combination of threats and bullying one minute, cajoling us into extra work the next, with no concern for our well-being on any level and certainly no gratitude, is just the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen and I’ve worked in some notoriously tough orgs. Students and faculty are being abused to support bloated execs at the top…v disillusioning…

  8. lunchcoma says:

    So now they’ll both find new partners and have more unvaccinated kids.

  9. Victoria says:

    She looks exhausting and he looks over it.

  10. Winnie Cooper’s Mom says:

    Not shocked. They both seem like super miserable people. Two boring D-listers get divorced. Next!

  11. I'm With The Band says:

    I’m really shocked to hear this. Said no one.

  12. Case says:

    I don’t know anything about them and this still wasn’t surprising.

    I think it makes sense to take one final trip because they have kids, and this will be a nice memory for them of time as a family when things felt normal. I still don’t get why Brad and Jen took a final vacation.

  13. SJR says:

    Don’t care about either of these too, really.
    But, I have a theory about togetherness, officially married or not..
    The early years are fun, learning about each other and shared interests/goals, plus for most people those years are about pulling together and getting started.
    For wealthy or celebs, they can very quickly use their $$ to buy/build homes, vacations, nannies, etc.
    They live such easy comfortable lives re: money that they feel no rules apply or they lose interest in what they have together. More $$ means more options so..affairs, luxury, kids as accessories, etc.
    The rich Are different from us. Also, she is an idiot. Anti-vaxxers are idiots. Period.

  14. L says:

    I really don’t understand these ‘we’re splitting up’ notifications with a picture of the couple in a seemingly happy place.

  15. angie0717 says:

    He always looks so unhealthy and fatigued. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s an addict. I hope they all walk away from this happy.

    • Summer says:

      I just watched some clips and I had the same thought. He looks like he constantly doesn’t feel well.

    • Melissa says:

      He has had fairly public struggles with diabetes – he was diagnosed later in life and had difficulty regulating with his football career. Even with the technology, testing and information available on managing DM, he may still be very brittle.

    • Jaded says:

      An addict? Ummm no, he has what’s called “brittle” or labile type 1 diabetes where his blood sugar levels swing so dangerously back and forth it’s hard to control. When you’re diabetic the first symptom of low blood sugar is pale, yellowish skin tone, dark circles, confusion and lethargy. Maybe you should look into his medical background instead of automatically attributing to drug use. The only drug he’s using is insulin.

  16. amilou says:

    See I never watched The Hills or whatever show she was on — I was only aware of her through gossip blogs. But I started watching Very Cavallari because I’m from Nashville, and I was bored. Sure I fast-forwarded through most of it (because her friends and employees are waaaay more exhausting than she is), but I actually ended up liking Kristin and Jay and found them funny together. Ah, well. 🤷

    • MadagascarBlue says:

      Kristin and Jay are anti-vaxxer idiots.
      I don’t know what is good about that.
      Some people never learn, even during a pandemic!!!

  17. Other Renee says:

    Explain to me why this anti vaxxer has four million followers??

    • Quincytoo says:

      She bought those followers?
      I always thought she was a mean girl

      • Ashley says:

        Exactly why I’ve never liked her. She IS a mean girl. On Laguna Beach she was so awful. Granted you could say “she was just a kid” but the fact that she tried to get herself back into the limelight later on just shows that the Laguna producers did not portray her in a negative light. She is that person.

    • StormsMama says:

      Yeah that’s what struck me. She has 4 million followers?????

  18. Chaine says:

    Not surprising. From my personal experience with anti-vac moms, they are usually really strident about a lot of other things, too. Probably pretty difficult to live with.

    • Kebbie says:

      I agree with this. Know it all, I know best types.

      She’s requesting primary custody and saying he wasn’t available to be a caregiver, so he’s about to see what fighting an anti-vaxxer is like!

  19. Frenda says:

    I know someone who grew up with her . They said she was a very nasty person. So there ya go.

    • Sparkle says:

      I always got that impression about her. And add in her anti-vax crap and her insane elimination diet, she is unlikeable to me. She is your stereotypical anti-vaxer personality. She is so self aggrandizing and contrarian on things, she thinks her opinion as a television actor deserves as much credibility as the medical community. She spreads dangerous misinformation with her health choices and with the coronavirus, we all have seen how dangerous people like that can be. full stop. That energy is pervasive her personality in everything she does.

      • Eda says:

        I side-eye anyone who makes their own baby formula (one of the most heavily regulated substances by the FDA) because they “know better.”

        Ugh.

  20. Lily says:

    Kelly didn’t “handle the rumors well” because they’re true.

    Reality tv = kiss of death for most marriages

  21. Leskat says:

    Didn’t they break up before they got married due to cheating rumors? I’m too lazy to look it up. But in my head they broke up a lot. Shaky foundations make for poor houses.

  22. S says:

    Curious how your best friend is supposed to “handle” according to them you totally unfounded, gossip and rumors that she’s sleeping with your husband. Like, after you both agree it’s insane and untrue—which is the story they’re going with—what’s left to handle? Not sure why/how the friendship would need to be ended due to this, again according to them, libelous untruths . It’s a bizarre story in the extreme—more so that it apparently played out ON THEIR OWN reality show—and anyone who thinks this is somehow saving any sort of face is the exact sort of nuts that would put their family on a reality show in the first place.

    And the extended family vacation, that was documented daily on Instagram, just a few weeks ago? Like, I hadn’t even heard of these people before the vacation-stranding story here, and this whole story and timeline is just so bonkers banana pants, I find it low-key fascinating.

    • A says:

      Kristen said that Kelly continued to post things about Jay on social media, after the rumors came out, and she couldn’t understand why she would mention him at all at that point.

  23. Sayrah says:

    They’re goopily lovingly divorcing. Sure.

    TMZ just reported that she’s accusing him of marital misconduct. That loving divorce didn’t last too long.

  24. Kebbie says:

    She’s claiming some kind of marital misconduct on his part and asking for primary custody in her filing, so it might get ugly.

  25. Darby says:

    She’s very very smug. I watched the first two seasons of her current reality show and she full on dismissed claims that being on a reality show might be hard on their marriage and she acted like she’s so far above that and better than that.

  26. Izzy says:

    I’m surprised it lasted this long. Didn’t he dump her when they were engaged? Then they had some kind of hookup and she got knockup, so… marriage, tah dah! Always a solid foundation.

    • april says:

      I never thought it would last either. Yes, I remember when she wanted to marry him more than he wanted to marry her. She chased him.

  27. I’m confused. She takes her hairdresser with her and that’s the best thing he can do with her hair?

  28. Nancypants says:

    Oh gosh.
    I’ve always heard that Jay is a snot and seems kind of dumb AND he and Tebow don’t have much in common at all except that they are both good-looking dudes who play football.
    I think they are good looking guys.

    Jay and his sister used to live near my store; pre-Kristin.
    Jay often hosted parties and his team mates and he would stop in and drop some serious coin (No, he doesn’t drink.) which is nice for a small, local biz and they were all so polite and would sign autographs, beer mirrors, jerseys and stuff for our customers and some of our customers nearly PEED their pants to have that.
    One got Jay’s autograph on his arm and had it tatted.
    These people love their Broncos.

    Kids are allowed too as long as they are with a parent and Jay was always so friendly to everyone and would make sure to chat with the kids.

    I’ve heard that he changed after he left and took up with KC. They say he’s withdrawn and depressed.
    This might be a good thing for him.

    Peyton is well liked. Elway is kind of an ass unless you are a pretty, young woman.

  29. JaneDoesWerk says:

    Not surprising. I find her more irritating than I would expect for a woman who HS made an effort to establish her own career despite her husband having plenty of money.

    She just comes across as so smug and arrogant. It’s weird to me that she always shows up at award shows like the Oscars and attends without Jay. As if she believes she has a reason to be there or that people care that she is? She started doing it well before she had her reality show or businesses so the only thing she was promoting was herself.

    • Kebbie says:

      I think her invites to those things are because she does panels on E during them. She’s one of the ones sitting with three other people talking about the fashion from a roof on the other side of the street or whatever. But she poses on the red carpet before the actual famous people walk it. I don’t think she actually attends any of the shows.

  30. Oliviajoy1995 says:

    Weird that they denied Jay cheated. In her divorce filing she accuses Jay of ‘inappropriate marital conduct”. I’ve never liked her. She has always seemed like what the definition of a “mean girl” would be. And her vocal fry is like nails on a chalkboard to me.

  31. Elisabeth Smith says:

    maybe jay took the kids and got them vaccinated :P

    • livealot says:

      you know what… that maybe it if it’s not infidelity: “inappropriate marital conduct”

  32. SURFCHICK says:

    I feel really bad for them regardless of “why” they are getting divorced. That’s awful. They seemed happy, he calmed her it seemed and she put a fire under his butt. It has to be tough to retire and then your life completely stops. It’s a rough adjustment. She is on a completely different path with her new venture. I like both of them. Whatever happened, only they will know. Sorry to hear this.

  33. EG says:

    She is a truly terrible person.

  34. Bucky says:

    They don’t seem like a couple who woukd have grown old together. If divorce was more of a “when” than an “if” to her, she might have wanted to get it over with before selling her brand in order to avoid sharing that income with him.

  35. Vanessa says:

    If they hadn’t taken that Bahamas trip, they wouldn’t have gotten the perfect shot for the divorce announcement post.