The Sussexes ‘are in a good place’ after ‘removing themselves from a toxic situation’

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Yesterday was the Duke and Duchess of Sussex’s second wedding anniversary. It was an occasion widely covered on blogs like ours, and on British and American outlets. But the Sussexes are without an active social media right now, so they didn’t make any statements or release any photos. And… neither did any other royal office. Clarence House, Kensington Palace and Buckingham Palace all ignored the anniversary and did not make one public statement wishing them well. Interesting. As for how Meghan and Harry spent the day, we already heard that they were just spending a quiet day in lockdown. Omid Scobie at Harper’s Bazaar said much the same thing:

When Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan stood in front of each other at the altar of St. George’s Chapel in Windsor Castle to exchange their vows, it was a moment shared by almost two billion people around the world. But as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex celebrate their second anniversary today, May 19, the audience will be decidedly smaller. Although the couple have been busy with work at their Los Angeles home, understands that Harry and Meghan have made plans to take the day off for their second anniversary, enjoying a “lovely” family moment with their one-year-old son, Archie Mountbatten Windsor.

“The day will simply be quality time with one another and as a family,” a source close to the couple tells BAZAAR. “They’re not going to be doing any work and made sure they have no meetings or calls in the diary. Like everyone else, they are in lockdown at the moment, so they will just be hanging out together at home,” says the source. “But it will still be a lovely day.”

[From Harper’s Bazaar]

I bet Meghan made a cake! Or maybe she just baked something to mark the occasion. I also have an image of Harry grilling something while Archie plays in the backyard. Anyway, Scobie wasn’t the only royal reporter talking about the Sussex’s anniversary and the craziness of the past two years. Katie Nicholl at Vanity Fair also did a story and she had quotes from an unnamed source about how H&M are “reflecting”:

The past year in particular has been marred by stories of feuds and family fallouts, with the popular couple rarely out of the tabloid headlines. Last summer they faced especially harsh scrutiny for flying on private jets, even as they promoted environmental causes, and for not visiting the queen at Balmoral. It was that intense experience in the spotlight that prompted them to give up the perks and privileges of royal life for financial freedom and independence. Today they live thousands of miles away from England in California, where they plan to make a fresh start.

“I think today they’ll be quite reflective,” added the friend. “The last year has been pretty epic and all the changes they have lived through and gone through are huge. They’re in a new country, they’re still relatively new parents, Archie is only one. To be honest they’re only just coming up for air; they’re settling in and working on a clearer vision of what they want for the future.”

As they celebrate their second wedding anniversary in lockdown in Los Angeles, Harry and Meghan are said to be looking forward to the next chapter of their lives.

“They are in a really good place,” said a source. “Speaking up and removing themselves from a toxic situation has enabled them to create a life they’ll be able to flourish in.”

[From Vanity Fair]

Most of Nicholl’s piece was just a rehash of old stories about how Harry & Meghan found it difficult to deal with all of the “criticism,” criticism which Nicholl basically says was well-deserved. The line about removing themselves from a “toxic situation” is interesting. Because that’s exactly what they did.


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  1. WatchThisSpace says:

    I’m surprised her bosses ~ WilliLeaks and Unable ~ allowed her to use such terminology cause that implies they’re toxic

  2. Noki says:

    I dont think they acknowledge wedding anniversaries maybe unless its a big one.

    • Becks1 says:

      I went and checked on IG, and you’re right. Clarence House and Royal Family (the BP main account) did not post anything for the Cambridges wedding anniversary, so it must be only for big anniversaries or their own (like I know the cambridges/KP posted a “thank you” on their anniversary with a wedding picture.)

      • Mary says:

        BP did post something for their first wedding anniversary.

      • Becks1 says:

        That would make sense, the first anniversary is significant. I didn’t check the whole history of the accounts lol. If they had posted something for the Cambridges and not for the Sussexes, I would take that as a dig. Now maybe they didn’t WANT to post anything for the Sussexes so decided to skip the cambridges too, but I don’t know about that.

      • Mary says:

        Your last sentence was my first guess as well!

  3. Ginger says:

    Last week Harry was a sad sack and now they are in a good place and happy. They can never keep their stories straight.

  4. Lisa says:

    I know it shouldn’t surprise me that no royal office acknowledged the anniversary but I can’t get over how petty and small the BRF seems to be. It’s just so sad and needless. Glad H&M flew the coop.

    • Harla says:

      I did look on instagram yesterday and the Queen’s royal family account didn’t acknowledge the Cambridges anniversary either. This family is just so odd and cold.

      • June says:

        Why is it weird to not acknowledge anniversaries on social media though? I don’t wish my family members on anniversaries on social media either! Not to say that the RF isn’t weird of course, but I don’t find this particular thing an example of it.

  5. SomeChick says:


    Why, she’s holding up her own train! PROTOCOL BREAK!!!

    These photos… they both look so happy, but they are about to be put through the wringer. At least they got out.

  6. Ruby_Woo says:

    Is it just me or is Katie Nicholl doing the most?

    • Em says:

      She’s really angling for a job in American TV. Harry and Meghan trended in Australia, Canada, U.K., USA throughout yesterday and this morning. Global citizen, one young world, UN women, Meghan’s old sorority and a host of others including charities and foundations and friends acknowledged the anniversary. Nicholl knows where her bread is buttered. The Cambridges are loosing touch as they get older they’ll be like Charles and their kids will take over the spotlight. Meghan and Harry appeal to an international audience, they also know not to overdo the PR, daily zoom videos and posting pictures of your kids becomes predictable and tiring. You need to spice it up. The position the Cambridges are in keep them stuck in tradition and it’s really nothing to aspire too. The world is changing, women don’t only want to look at pretty dresses, we need action.

    • Harla says:

      I bet her contract with Vanity Fair is about to expire and she’s hustling for a new gig stateside.

      • Jaded says:

        That’s exactly what I thought. She brings nothing to the game but bitterly slanted old news and innuendo, and VF has morphed into National Enquirer for snobs since Graydon Carter left.

      • BayTampaBay says:

        I heard (read) on another gossip site that Vanity Fair is getting ready to undergo a complete revamp including a new editor as the magazine has been losing major amounts of money since Graydon Carter retired (i.e. left and slammed the door shut).

    • Nic919 says:

      She’s trying real hard to get a foothold in the US.

  7. Seraphina says:

    I will say this again, Harry needs time to adjust. It’s adjustment leaving behind what you know, regardless of the situation. My hope is they continue to do great things on a global stage and show the BRF how it’s done and can be done – without them. BUT who knows, maybe once QE passes, PC may have a change of heart.

    • Ali says:

      Harry was in the army for 10 years and travelled the world.

      He’s fine.

    • Jess says:

      California is honestly a really nice place. The sunshine alone can lift anyone’s spirits.

      Though I’m surprised they chose LA though because of celeb culture. I was thinking they’d be in Napa instead.

      • Bren says:

        Why would you be surprised? L.A. is Meghan’s hometown. Her mother lives there as well as many of her friends. After living in the UK for three years where she was vilified on a daily basis by the tabloid press and navigated around sharks in the firm aka Harry’s family, no wonder she wanted to return home.

      • CJT says:

        I agree, I always thought the San Francisco area would be a better fit for them, quieter, more lush/more rain, a bit more like Britain, plus it’s more old school, society/patrician than LA.

      • SomeChick says:

        Napa to LA is a schlep. LA is pretty nice, especially if you an afford the nice parts. Plus Archie’s gran is there. (Oh and Adele, LOL)

      • xo says:


        because Los Angeles, aka La La Land, would be something of a joke to some in Harry’s crowd.

    • Jaded says:

      You forget they were on Vancouver Island for 4 months, that was his so-called period of adjustment, but more to just decompress from the godawful treatment they received from family, firm and BM. He’s probably delighted with where he is.

    • tcbc says:

      Maybe, but I wouldn’t go back to the UK if I were them. Prince Charles won’t live forever, and when he does die, Harry, Megan, and Archie would be completely under William’s power. At least this way, they have time to establish themselves far away from William’s control, and for Archie to form connections that won’t drop him at the future king’s command. For all the hand wringing about LA and it’s supposed superficial showbiz inhabitants, it was Megan’s childhood and Hollywood friends who had her back, while the posh Brits that Harry grew up with were traitorous, racist, snobby gossips. The only leaks from Megan’s side were from her father’s lowlife family. The only support from Harry’s side were from the British entertainment industry and the armed forces.

  8. Nina Simone says:

    Happy Anniversary to them.

    As with a lot of people I know, I wonder if the coronavirus crisis has impacted their earning potential and some funding they were anticipating. If so, I’m sad for them. I know financial independence is something they strive for after leaving. I hope it works out ! 🤎

    • Em says:

      I honestly refuse to believe Harry and Meghan did not have previous investments and secret means of earning before all this.

  9. KellyRyan says:

    With H&M it’s easy to believe they lead a simple life. Meghan was not raised with servants cooking, laying out of clothing, every whim cared for. One or both have stated, staying home, baking chicken enjoying time together was their norm. And to the other two, K was raised to believe she was special and entitled, W to expect groveling because he has the P word.

    • Redgrl says:

      @kellyryan – I never bought the baking chicken stories they put out in interviews and always thought it was a code word for getting frisky!

      • Becks1 says:

        I find it hilarious bc I think there are stories about both Meghan and Kate roasting chicken – like Harry used to pop over to Apt 1A when Kate was making roast chicken, or Kate was always roasting chicken in Wales. It IS kind of hilarious because its the food that always gets mentioned.

        But, I kind of believe it for Meghan bc she did a promo thing for Suits a while back and mentioned that roast chicken was her favorite romantic meal to make.

      • Ginger says:

        When I saw the engagement interview and how Harry said “trying to roast the chicken” to me it seemed they were trying to make dinner and had sex instead and then he proposed lol. It’s just how Harry said it.

      • BayTampaBay says:

        @Becks1 – I agree with you as it is impossible to roast a good chicken without a killer rotisserie and a good three hours to waste. This does not work well in a conventional oven. I have ruined a good many chickens which is I why I stick to pre-cooked baked or smoked ham. 30 minutes in oven to warm up and one is ready to serve. It is actually more effort to open up the bottle of wine than cook the ham.

    • Still_Sarah says:

      @ Kellyryan : I don’t think it’s called “the simple life” when they are living in a gated community in Malibu in a $15 million mansion on 20+ acres with its own security staff. And of course that massive house would have servants to run it. I would love that kind of simple life.

      • DarlingDiana says:

        Agree. I’m sure that their working life will be more in control but they aren’t living “the simple life” as most of us define it.
        I am reminded of Green Acres!

      • BayTampaBay says:

        I think the simple life equals not having to wear hose/tights and close toed shoes every time you leave the house.

      • L4frimaire says:

        No one reads anything. The never said that. You can’t be one of the most famous couples in the world and have a simple life, nor is that the expectation. Then again, getting death threats and conspiracy theories devoted to you is not exactly simple either. Putting your family and sanity first, and having a say how you run your life and interact with is not the same as simple. They could be scheduled from dusk to dawn and meeting everyone left, right and center, but it will be their choice.

  10. Aurora says:

    Is it a requirement that every British reporter mention that the Sussexes flew on private jets in every story?

    • Rae says:

      It’s really the only tangible thing they can throw at them, so they keep using it as a quick dig in every report. Got to keep reminding the unwashed masses why the Sussexes are supposedly so bad.

    • Em says:

      It’s also strange how they conveniently forget to mention the jets are Carbon neutral.

    • Harla says:

      Yes, I believe it’s in their contracts. Just like never mentioning the chimp photo or the wildly racist reporting but yeah, the Sussex’s couldn’t handle the press surrounding their one private jet flight. (I still don’t acknowledge that their second trip happened. no photos)

    • L4frimaire says:

      I hope they get on the board of NetJets and become a major shareholder. Really do. This was way overblown. Every time they get on a plane, everyone will want to know if they flew economy, or business or private and all those people can suck it.

  11. Aang says:

    So either they are happy or Harry is homesick and regretful. We need to admit that all the stories are bs and we know nothing of the real situation. When will the constant stories with vague speculation loose their appeal?

    • Melissa says:

      They won’t, it’s human nature. Stories with a slant we prefer will be lauded as truth, those we don’t are obvious leaks.
      I personally believe all things can be true at times. Blissfully happy with family? Absolutely.
      Worried for the future? Who isn’t. Rudderless due to pandemic putting plans on hold? Makes sense.

      The tabloids thrive on this, they don’t need a cohesive message.

    • Aurora says:

      Oprah magazine has a more in depth article confirming the Sussexes satisfaction with their new life, their work and friend circle. Oprah is an actual friend so I trust her magazine as a source.

      • Ginger says:

        It was written by Carolyn Dunard the co author to Finding Freedom. She also wrote the article about Meghan spending Mother’s Day with Doria. And it was featured on Oprah Magazine. That would be cool if Oprah was one of the friends they spoke to for their book lol

  12. S808 says:

    Katie needs to find something else to do. Nothing she says is ever new info.

  13. Becks1 says:

    I’m sure they had a nice day. They are probably anxious to get the next stage in their life launched, but I can fully imagine they just hung out and had a nice day relaxing.

  14. SJR says:

    I can completely agree and understand removing themselves from a toxic situation.
    After my divorce I was so happy to simply be away. Away from him and his wretched family.

    New beginnings, safety, quiet, and zero drama.

    • L84Tea says:

      My stepmother is as toxic as they come. Just having to go see her and my dad for a day was completely anxiety-inducing. Ten years ago she stopped being sly and let her bitch flag fly in all its glory to me and one of my siblings in front of our dad. After that day, I refused to be in her presence ever again. Now my dad visits my family by himself and she stays home 2 hours away. The last 10 years have been so blissfully peaceful and drama free, and she has never gotten to meet either of my little boys. I am grateful that they will never be tainted with her toxicity. People who have normal happy families have no idea how fortunate they are.

  15. Prayer Warrior says:

    Do they routinely ignore each other’s wedding anniversaries or is this a specially ignorant, petty, small-minded and hurtful moment, just for our #PrinceWithoutBorders and his lovely wife?

    • Becks1 says:

      I took a quick look at IG and they ignored the Cambridges as well, I’m not sure if they usually acknowledge the anniversaries, but this year they did not.

    • Harla says:

      They all just seem to be cold and uninterested in anyone else, even family members, unless that person can be used by them.

    • Harper says:

      Posting a few congratulatory words and a photo would have been an easy, kind gesture, especially since the early anniversaries feel a little different than when the years start to pile up. It would have been easy PR for Cain and Unable. But this family’s brand is being toxic, so let’s not.

      • Harla says:

        I think it would have been especially nice if Charles had posted something. I’ve read articles that talked about how H&M worked with Charles selecting music for the wedding and he did step up to walk Meghan down the aisle after her father pulled out, so I think they had become quite close in the early days, but alas…

  16. Cosmo says:

    These articles are ridiculous. These people have no idea how Harry and Meghan are doing or how they are feeling. Why don’t they focus on the Dolittles that they idolize so much.

    • DarlingDiana says:

      There are always non-stories about them too. It is all for traffic and usually a rehash of past events, no true insider knowledge.

  17. Pork chops & Apple sauce says:

    I had to recently let go of a life long friendship because it became so contentious and thus toxic. Even though I knew it was the best thing to do, initially there was some anxiety, definitely a sense of loss. It felt as if I was losing a limb, but then all of that subsided and gave way to a real feeling of relief and freedom. I’m sure he is/was experiencing some version of that, but unlike with my friendship, I believe their ties have been completely severed and that there is room for reconciliation down the line.

  18. Awkward symphony says:

    I’ve said this on other posts but notice how the Kensington palace favourite mouthpiece is suddenly doing lots of interviews for Australian,American and Canadian networks. It’s as if she was given a list of Sussexs friendly places to go spread her poisonous lies!

    I hope the current situation kills their attempts to infiltrate international networks and people boycott them or at least dont give them clicks.

    • anon says:

      “It’s as if she was given a list of Sussexs friendly places to go spread her poisonous lies!” Makes one wonder, doesn’t it? Tentacles are being spread.

  19. L4frimaire says:

    Katie Nichols is so cancelled by the Sussexes so she should just move on. I feel like we are basically getting the same two articles about the Sussexes lately. Either they’re doing fine and excited about their future or Harry is miserable and missing something something. To quote another person, they are not a content farm and can only provide so much info in this lockdown, nor are they obligated to tell us anything at all. If they wanted active social media accounts,they would have set it up by now. They may be in lockdown but they may not necessarily be constantly housebound, as we have seen. I do think the distance from the UK is the best thing for them right now. Despite the bleating that Harry could do much more for Britain if he was there (whatever),the barbs don’t land very well from a far distance.

  20. Lowrider says:

    Katie Nicholl looks desperate and nauseating with her “sources” and a “close friend of the couple” .

    • Liz version 700 says:

      Yes indeed. The close friend of the couple who just happens to be my cube mate at the office…

  21. Vanessa says:

    It’s clearly that Katie Nicholl has been put on a mission to try her hardest to become a American Royal expects .She has about five different articles about Meghan and Harry this week she really trying to hustling hard to be the go to expects for the network in the USA it’s just Ridiculous and Desperate on her part because .Everyone knows she a true loyal Cambridge’s Stan so she will show her true color by making a passive aggressive comments about Meghan . I think she was told to go to friendly outlets to continue on the bullying of Sussex’s the British tabloids won’t let Sussex’s go their trying really hard to turn the American public against them . They want to continually to undermine them at any chance they get that’s why all these reporters are giving away free contents they want to be able to continually to bully and harass the Sussex’s. The British tabloids are Obsessed with Meghan and Harry they have successfully with the help of the royal family bullied Meghan and Harry out the U.K they help turn a lot people against Meghan with their racist actions and now their trying to do the same in America.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      @Vanessa – Katie Nicholl and her BM cohorts will not succeed one iota because the majority of people in the USA do not care at all about the BRF and those that may care a little bit only care about designer frocks, designer shoes, designer handbags and jewels from The Royal Collection.

  22. paddingtonjr says:

    Happy Anniversary H&M. Looking at all they have been through in the last few years it is unreal. I have faith in them; for all their money and privilege, it hasn’t been an easy start to their life together and there will be tough times ahead as they figure out next steps, but they have shown love, grace and strength through it all.