A few weekends ago, Tory Lanez shot Megan Thee Stallion. There was a larger group of friends and they were apparently driving around LA, going to various house parties. Outside one of the parties, Megan and Tory got into some kind of verbal disagreement. There was a report of shots fired, and Tory drove off with Megan in the SUV. The LAPD later pulled over the SUV and there’s a video of Megan hobbling out of the car, her feet bleeding. We later learned that the police took her to the hospital and she had been SHOT by Tory Lanez.
What followed after that was the typical 2020 stupidity. People were mocking Megan, they were criticizing her for various things, like “why were you even with him” or “why didn’t you do such-and-such.” Last week, Megan tweeted about how black women are “so unprotected, we hold so many things in.” I took that to mean that as a black woman, she didn’t want to press charges on a black man, someone she thought was her friend or boyfriend, in this current environment, but that she’s hurting and she needs people to see her trauma.
Then yesterday, Megan did an IG Live and she could barely get out what she wanted to say because she was so emotional and on-edge. She says that she was shot in BOTH FEET but the bullets didn’t get bone or anything and the spirits must have been looking out for her and protecting her. “I was shot in both of my feet, and I had to get surgery to … get the bullets taken out, and it was super scary…I know my mama and my daddy, my granny had to be looking out for me with that one cause where the bullets hit at, it missed everything.” She also says: “It was nothing for y’all to start going and making up fake stories about. I didn’t put my hands on nobody. I didn’t deserve to get shot.” She cries about losing her mom and how it’s difficult to go through this without her parents, without people she loves and trust around her. It’s honestly a heartbreaking video and she made me cry. Poor Megan. The fact that she has to go on social media and beg for people to treat her with compassion, to treat her with humanity.
the full Megan Thee Stallion instagram live video of meg speaking out after being shot. pic.twitter.com/TvWoue2T3r
— c (@chuuzus) July 27, 2020
Megan posted this IG yesterday with the comment “Unbreakable”:
Photos courtesy of Backgrid, Instagram.
This upset me so much. As Black women we are expected to always be strong and never allowed to be emotional or vulnerable. I hate how people are STILL blaming her for being shot, she didn’t deserve that at all. People really need to show more compassion and empathy for her and Black women in general. We need to start asking why Black women are consistently left hanging by society, it’s not ok.
But do you realize that the people mocking and making jest of her are people from the black community we have no one to pin this on but ourselves. As a black woman I was appalled to see people making fun of her calling her a man and all that. It was totally wrong
And why hasn’t Tory Lonez been charged yet I only see a petition calling for him to be deported back to Canada what’s really going on?
Yes I did see several Black people, mainly Black men, making fun of Megan and I was livid. None of that takes away from what I said though so I’m not entirely sure why you felt the need to interject with that. Society at large does not respect Black women and Megan was absolutely right when she said we are not protected.
Tanesha is right. This speaks to a larger issue of how society views and treats black women. Where are all these women’s rights advocates??Where are all the women who speak out about domestic violence?? Do you see anyone other than black women coming to her defense? If she was white, this story would be all over the place.
There would be outrage. But no, the narrative is always around somehow she brought this on herself, not deserving of protection or compassion. It reminds me of how the response are different when a white woman comes forward with her Me Too story compared to when black women come forward. Not only do we have to fear not being protected outside the home but we have to deal with that fear inside the home as well.
Meghan deserves understanding and love. In my mind, our entire culture, Black and white folks included, works to stand up for Black men and give the benefit of the doubt if the dispute is with a woman because of the institutional racism against Black people. What happens to Black men with white men and police gets more media focus, and white guilt and a Black culture that works to protect Black men at the expense of Black women hurt women who are abused by Black men.
My ex is a Black man, and I am Mexican with that “one drop” of African blood. He stalked me and took my child, and his dad was a judge in the court system. Most police officers didn’t believe me about him. White judges wanted to preserve his relationship with our child, and they didn’t believe that he was dangerous until she told authorities that he knocked her unconscious while strangling her. We now have a permanent restraining order, and he went to jail for stealing money. Most of his family still believe that I am at fault for his diagnosed narcissistic sociopathy, and they reject my daughter for testifying about her abuse in court. I believe that they think that I should have sacrificed my life and my child’s life in the name of racism against Black men. Discussing this with anybody is hard because people’s bias for or against Black men takes over from the abuse against the women being abused, usually a Black woman.
Halsey explained how I feel: born and raised in a Black community, and nurtured by Black women all of my life, and having African ancestors but looking white, not even Mexican, I can feel like a woman of color all I want, but how I look keeps me from claiming to know the experiences of Black women like Megan. But I have experienced the complexities of being a victim of a Black man’s violence, for over 15 years in my case, and have negotiated the pain and politics of not wanting to destroy another Black man’s life, but having to protect myself and my child. I wish Megan all the love and protection she deserves, and I hope that she has someone close to her, close because of love and not the money and opportunity she can provide their lives, who love her unconditionally and completely and who help her put herself first in this situation. Based on my experience, she will have to testify against her assailant, but she doesn’t need to discuss that with anybody but authorities and her lawyers.
Christina you’ll have to forgive me but I don’t understand how my comments about how society mistreats BLACK WOMEN turned into a whole dissertation on your Black ex abusing you. I’m not trying to be rude but I’m not sure why you felt the need to hijack the conversation and make it about you. What you went through was absolutely horrible and you deserved so much better but I really don’t think this was the right place to dump your trauma especially since we were talking about Black women and you yourself said you are not. I’m really frustrated now
Tanesha86, I commented because I support Meghan, and she is having to negotiate, in public, being publicly abused and the politics of people inside and outside of the Black community wanting her to protect her abuser. I’ve discussed my abuse in this space before, but have never shared my ethnicity nor that of my abuser in posts about the abuse. And I have Black blood; I just don’t look Black, but I was raised and nurtured in a Black community, am still part of that community, and I’ve had to negotiate that painful space where I didn’t want additional harm to come to a Black man who hurt me, and I watched people believe him and protect him because they didn’t believe me and didn’t want to be the ones who took a Black child from their Black father. Meghan was abused, and she should be protected and cared for. ALL Black women deserve that. I remember Dee Barnes getting her jaw broken and hiding away while Dr. Dre’s career took off. Michel’le also lost everything as one of his victims. Black women are silenced about this and made to disappear and fight for their rights to just be.
Look at all of the comments on the Royals. You and I know who Meghan is. Why is no one interested in learning about Meghan and what what happened to her? I come here for the nuanced perspectives of all of you, for the fun gossip, and I click on other stories to learn about other topics. I see some familiar commenters here who also follow the Black centered stories on this site. I’ve commented about my experience on posts about other abuse stories and custody battles. Everybody should care about what happened to her and why: Tony Lanez is an abusive man who could have easily killed her, and he has created a situation that will slow her career while she recovers, and she deserves to be protected and not demeaned or ridiculed for being a victim of domestic violence. Instead, she has been shamed by people, not in this space, but in all corners of the internet. Forgive me for identifying with someone who has had to fight domestic violence against a man who is Black when the LAST thing I wanted to do was to contribute to ruining a Black man, but the Black men who commit violence against their partners should not be protected, and Black women shouldn’t be made to feel guilty about it, like I was. And Black women should be able to talk about their experiences, like I just did as a light skinned woman of color. I risked you being upset that I did, but I’m not afraid after watching her publicly negotiate this alone, and I have raised a proud Black woman who I hope to set a good example for. Nobody has to share their experiences, and I may look horrible to a lot of people, but sometimes it helps one person see that they are not alone.
@tanesha Don‘t be frustrated. I get what Christina was about. I am not worried about how ‚black‘ or not she is but I can see that she has been on the receiving part of victim-blaming within a POC community. She was indeed left hanging by our/ her own community. So I can relate and she could relate to what you said. I actually think your original comment made her feel understood.
I mean I’m glad she felt understood but I still contend this was not the right place for whatever the heck it is she’s trying to do here. We’re discussing Megan and Black women, we’re not talking about Black men so she has completely shifted the conversation for no reason at all. And one last thing, having “Black blood” does not make you Black. That statement alone has me feeling some kind of way. You’re a mixed race Latina woman who is white passing, you’ll never experience what Black women experience. Please let us have this space to discuss our feelings and experiences without thread jacking. Now I’m annoyed and frustrated.
I think the natural instinct of many is to first evaluate the incident by asking “Did they deserve this? Or “What did you expect?” .Based on those answers, they decide whether sympathy or reprimand is deserved. This is a larger societal question about who is worthy of sympathy etc. . Yes, driving around to house parties during lockdown not a good ideabut it shouldn’t mean getting shot either.
Has Tory Lanez been charged?
Also, what part of your feet doesn’t have a lot of bones?
What a terrible thing to have happen at what should be a great time in her life…..and the stupid backlash…she definitely didn’t “deserve to get shot”
What happened to the a-hole who shot her? Is he in jail now?
No one deserves to be shot EVER.
I do not know who this woman is but the fact that she felt the need to say that she didn’t deserve to get shot just breaks my heart. It should be self-evident that no one deserves to get shot.
This. It’s good that she knows she doesn’t deserve violence and that her trauma should be taken seriously, (and good for other girls and women, especially in communities of color, to hear). But society should already be there by now. We still have such a long way to go.
Agreed. I’m appalled that she even had to say that! That just breaks my heart. No one deserves to be shot. And that asshole that shot her needs to be in jail and she deserves our compassion and support. This is horrible domestic violence.
I love her. Wishing her all the healing and happiness.
My heart hurts for her.
This is so, so sad. Not to be vapid but I think she’s a stunning woman and looks particularly gorgeous with that lavender hair color.
Honestly, she really is a natural beauty.
I hope she has a speedy recovery and I hope people show more compassion towards her. I honestly don’t know who she is, have only seen her mentioned here, but it breaks my heart that she was shot and people are mocking her. The person who shot her should be arrested whether she makes a complaint or not, so I hope he’s being investigated. Someone mentioned the different treatment of women of color within the MeToo movement and I too have noticed the difference in response to the white women who come forward and the women of color who come forward. It really is shameful the way our society respond to different women suffering and that really needs to change. I wish Megan well.
Being a huge fan of Meg I saw this in real time yesterday. I was crying right along with her.
It is absolutely outrageous and heartbreaking that her story is not being given the attention and sensitivity it deserves. Tanesha upthread… you are spot on. She’s black therefore she’s treated less than. It’s sickening.
I have a lot of questions. Why is this guy even allowed to be in the United States right now (Americans aren’t currently allowed in his country)? Why was he allowed access to a firearm? Why was he not immediately deported?
My feet hurt thinking about this. She doesn’t deserve this at all. I hope she has a network of people. There is no place on my feet that doesn’t have bones. She is very lucky!
How heartbreaking is it that people feel she ‘deserved it’. To be shot by someone you care about is even worse.
I hope she heals quickly and well and can leave this behind her.
Wow we really need to address toxic masculitnity in the black community, how does that happen to successful black celebirties too?? I’m tired of black woman always getting the shittiest end of the stick. They need a healthier socitey to live in! This thing isn’t going to go away unless the glorfication of males and violence in that culture and poverty are addressed. This is pure stupidity!
She is very gorgeous. BTW the fact that she states shes getting a lot of hate from males is really troubling. I could expect one hate comment but the fact that there were multiple comments like this from men (I’m presuming black), that is really troubling that some of these men in these communities can feel so comfortable to express violence on a woman and be supported. Not good. Only cowards pick on woman and children, pick on someone your own size, coward! No wonder she wanted to break up with you, she’s going places and you’re holding her back. You are stupid to shoot a woman not once but twice, idiot!
This is sad. The internet can be very toxic. Or I guess it just exposes the shitty instincts of humans and enables the toxic positive feedback loop of being an unsympathetic ahole. This sounds awful and this poor woman has already been through a lot in the past few years. I hope she recovers well.
When a person shoots someone is bad. When a man harms a woman in any way, we know he is a misogynist and should be charged, because they repeat that behaviour over the years with other women. But when a man shoots a performer’s feet? That is another level of cruelty. Not only did he harm her as a human being, he could have ruined her career. And the fact that she had to make a video about not deserving any of this… It’s awful.
I’m just gonna say it.
Black men and women attack her because they cant stand to see a beautiful, talented, confident and young black woman winning. We stay looking for flaws
We stay looking for weaknesses
We wait for the takedown “she needs to get down from that high horse” “she ain’t all that” and men
Being insecure because she has a strong voice
Because she raps “like a man”
And she looks like she doesn’t take crap from anyone.
I think we as black women have a variety of “tall poppy syndrome” and only the chosen ones can shine. It irkssss me to my soul. And it’s not unique to the US.. I am a legit African woman and I’m tired of seeing and living the exact same things here. We deserve better. We should treat each other better!
So a lot of negative energy and vitriol has been spewed towards her for a long time. But GUESS WHAT? ALLLLL these insecure.. Bitches can go [expletive] themselves because she’s gonna keep on shining.
Stay strong Megan.