Kat Graham cries talking about her hair: I’ve never had to do my hair on my own

I tend to be a night owl who stays up to about 1-2:00 a.m. While I have found several new shows to watch, during my late nights I like to watch Youtube videos, especially the skin and hair care routines of celebrities from Vogue. Half of the time I want to try everything if I haven’t already. It is also a way I keep up with beauty and makeup trends since I no longer do makeup professionally.

So I was excited when I saw the newest Vogue video featured Kat Graham, whom I have loved since she played Bonnie Bennet on Vampire Diaries. She starts the video off talking about part of her hair care journey then shares her skin care regimen which consists of Anastasia BH brow gel, L’Oreal’s Unbelieva-Brow (which I’d like to try), but I currently use L’Oreal’s Makeup Brow Definer Stylist. She also uses Aveeno Makeup Remover Wipes (love these) and Dior’s Capture Youth Serum (which I’d really like to try but at $95 it’s a bit out of my price range) instead I use Peptide Complex Serum by Eva Naturals. Below is the order she uses the products and why as well as the complete video.

“When I first wake up, the first thing I want to do is my eyebrows,” Graham says with a smile. She starts off by shaping them with Anastasia brow gel, followed by L’Oréal’s Unbelieva-Brow (which keeps them in place even through her daily workout). Now, for cleansing time: Aveeno’s makeup removing wipes ensure any excess dirt gets removed, while Dior’s Oil Cleanser goes the extra mile to deep clean. She follows up with Dior’s Capture Youth serum for moisture.

[From Vogue]

What got me emotional was around the 2:44 – 5:15 part of this video. She starts talking about her hair and how wearing it in a big afro was like therapy for her. For those who do not know, Graham is biracial with a white Jewish mother. She says her mom did not know how to do her hair so she would drop her off at the hair salon every week after she turned nine. But because of social distancing protocols she had to learn how to do her own hair. She also talks about her favorite products that she’s been discovering for her hair and around 5:00 she tears up when talking about how her hair stylist Rachel Lee sent her Cantu’s Avocado Leave-In Conditioner at the beginning of the shut down.

Graham’s quarantine hair journey was partly inspired by her hairstylist, Rachel Lee. Before quarantine officially began, Lee gave her Cantu’s Avocado Leave-In Conditioner. “It’s almost like she knew I was going to be on my own. And I’ve never had to be on my own with my hair before,” Graham says with tear-filled eyes. “This was the product that really helped me figure out that my hair will work with me, if I don’t give up on it.” She then slicks her curls back into a bun with Briogeo Curl Cream, the second holy grail product that has transformed her relationship with her hair. Otherwise, it’s all about oils: Manuka, Argan, and Black Rice are her favorites, along with her own concoction of Mustard Seed oil and Jamaican Black Castor. “You only need a little bit over spots that have given you trouble,” she notes.

I love Cantu products but right now I personally use Suave Leave-In Conditioner with Shea Butter and Coconut Oil which defines my coils making them soft and a bit bouncy and I combine Black Cumin Seed Oil and Chebe Powder mixed with Jamaican Black Castor Oil or Bronner Bros Super Gro Thickener with Sage and Sulfur (I have dermatitis on my scalp).

I like how she keeps her makeup simple, but love how she learned how to do her makeup from Drag Queens in West Hollywood when she used to do music. She said she would also hire them to do her makeup earlier in her career but learned to tone it down over time. I, too, was trained by the Wonder Woman of Drag, Kelly Kline in Austin, TX, who was instrumental in getting me hired at Mac Cosmetics back in 2004. Queens know how to snatch the face for real. But when you live in a humid place, lighter is definitely better. For my foundation I use the Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer with Fenty Beauty’s concealer. But enough about me, below are what Kat says she uses daily on her face.

Now, on to makeup: Graham does hers so that it lasts all day—and takes a layered foundation approach to ensure it does. “We women have hormones. Our skin changes. Sometimes we have dark spots and light spots.” Dior’s Skin Correct foundation, L’Oréal’s lightweight foundation, and Fenty’s Match Stix do the trick to shade match the nuances of her skin tone. After concealing, she contours her nose with a technique she learned from her days performing music in West Hollywood drag clubs. Her liquid blush from Benefit gives her a rosy glow while still allowing her freckles to shine through. Next, it’s her favorite part: Doing her mascara. “To the point where I ask to do it myself when I’m on set,” she says. A flick of shadow from her favorite Dior palette, a swipe of lipgloss, and a swoop of the baby hairs helps to tie everything together. “Hopefully you guys have enjoyed my self-care routine and have learned a little bit more about my journey,” Graham says, glowing. “I love you guys.”

[From Vogue]

Watching this video has made me stan Kat more and it warms my heart to see her fall in love with her African hair. Trust when I tell you, black hair is an emotional thing and learning how to deal with it can be at times frustrating and enlightening. I’ll definitely try some of her recommendations in the future, when I get my coin together. I am looking at you Dior Capture Youth.

Here’s Kat’s video!

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  1. McMom says:

    Perhaps a stupid question, but is it problematic that her mother never learned to do her hair? I understand that Black hair is more involved and requires more talent and skill probably best done by a professional, but doing your daughter’s hair is also usually a bonding ritual between parent and child. *Should* her mother have learned to do her daughter’s hair?

    • mynameispearl says:

      I’m pale white Irish with frizzyish waves, and let me tell you that my mother and I never bonded over her trying to do my hair 😂. It was a crying match every day before school, I’d have been thrilled if my ma had sent me off to have it done properly. Literally the opposite of a bonding experience to have her brushing out tats and giving me wonky trims every few months.

      • Bella DuPont says:

        I love this comment, you made me laugh so hard….😁😁

      • paranormalgirl says:

        Yeah, it’s a true battle of the wills. And when the person getting the tangles out of your Merida rivaling ginger mane is a nun… yeah, no bonding there. LOL

      • Zantasia says:

        Any tips for me with my daughter’s red, curly, and frizzy hair?

    • sunny says:

      Her mother ensured her daughter’s hair was done and I think that is all that matters although I wish her mom had learned to do it herself. Every family needs to make choices that work from them.

      I do wish in general though that parents of mixed race(black children) learn to do their hair or ensure their hair was properly taken care of. The amount of times I have seen a black child with a non black parent, whose hair was neglected is enormous and our hair has a lot of needs.

      Kat looks fantastic here and it was wonderful to learn about her hair journey.

    • F says:

      It’s fair to think parents should be able to take care of their kids hair regardless of hair type, but I also have a lot of mixed friends where their parents taking them to get their hair done was also a kind of cultural thing, making sure they’re around people with similar hair – maybe they took care of her hair until she was nine, and thought getting her hair done from that point would be a nice thing for her (and not just for her hair).

      (Also, like mynameispearl, when it was my mum who did my hair, it wasn’t always a positive bonding experience.)

    • Layday says:

      Honestly I’m on the fence about it as an African American myself. My mom was never a hair person, so I in turn never became a hair person. I got relaxers from a pretty young age, and decided to go natural given all the damage over-processing caused. My mom still relaxes her hair though I tell her she should go natural (but hey it’s a personal choice) and always took my sister and I to a hair salon to get our hair done to ensure it was taken care. I had amazing hair growing up thanks to stylists lol. Better than me trying to be natural on my own right now lol. My mom can not do my natural hair (probably because growing up she was taught the beauty was in straightening her hair) and it’s not something I would subject her too. I think people sometimes gotta be honest about their strengths and weaknesses, and hair has just never been her thing. I mean if you put a gun to her head, I’m sure she could probably make it look ok after a lot of time and energy, but I don’t feel less bonded to my mom or anything because she can’t do it. Maybe because my mother instilled in me an appreciation of Black culture in so many other ways as a Black woman herself.

      At the same time I have an interracial cousin, whose non-Black mother has the girl’s hair looking terrible. Her hair once ended up so matted, she had to get her hair cut off her head. That’s unacceptable, and the experience of it being cut was so traumatic for the kid. Do I think there should be a baseline of knowledge so that you’re not letting something like that happen to the kid’s hair? Sure, but if you know that it’s not your strong suit, and don’t feel you cal work/learn to master it you should at least be taking that kid to a stylist or salon to make sure the kid’s hair is appropriately taken care of. I will also say I think the non-Black parent of a Black kid should make extra effort to ensure that their kid is immersed in understanding, loving, and appreciating Black hair and Black culture if they find that they aren’t able to properly equip them with that so that issues of self-hate don’t emerge for the kid later on.

      • McMom says:

        Thank you all who responded with such thoughtful comments to my question! I know there are dads who do hair, but I’m a mom and I’m thinking about it from my perspective as a woman with daughters. I’m white and my eldest daughter is Asian, so her hair is NOTHING like mine (I have baby fine hair and her hair is like a dolls) so I was thinking about it from MY experience having a biracial family. As a mother, not being able to do my young daughter’s hair would feel like a rejection of her and her appearance in some way, but it sounds like most of you wouldn’t see it like that – so that’s good. Thanks for the perspective!

    • osito says:

      My opinion is that her mom should have tried to learn. Her mom not doing her hair led her to believe that *only* professionals could do it. And there wasn’t a super strong natural movement when she was growing up, so the message from stylists was likely that her hair was only truly beautiful when straight, though to be completely fair, that’s the message we all got back then (and we’re still destigmatizing). I’m not saying that her her mom is the worst parent for not using this aspect of their lives as a growing/binding moment, but she did loose an opportunity there to immerse herself and revel in her child, and to teach her child to love and appreciate herself. Hot oil treatments are *luxurious* and an opportunity to massage and relax and enjoy each other. I still love them.

      And this isn’t a universal, but something that makes me *so sad* when I see it, and I’ve seen it often: When parents say that they’re “afraid” of their child’s hair, I want to die inside. There’s nothing to fear. It others us in such a damaging way, and it’s so easy to not do it. Learn about products, learn how to do some very basic things (pony tails and pigtails are how the a lot of us live as kids despite race, right? Just do that and save braids and other styles for the professionals), keep up with basic hygiene, and don’t make faces or say mean things about your babies’ hair. Love *all* of them because they love *all* of you. Love involves learning about them and performing acts of service, even when your baby is tender headed and runs when they see the brush (that was me! My mom had to be quick!).

    • ennie says:

      YEs, she could have taken the time and effort, maybe. Simple bland straight hair does not usually involve long bonding. My fine straight hair was not a bonding issue with my mother, we bonded over different things.
      I am just terrible at doing my daughter’s hair, I am actually terrible at doing my own and even if I try, my kid’s hair doesn’t look neat, I can’t imagine myself doing a very curly person’s hair and doing it nice and stylishly.
      We don’t know her mother’s schedule or abilities, I think (as an outsider from a different ethnicity), that it was nice that she spent time with someone who could actually help her look good and was maybe an AA and could talk to her about, and understand her hair. One less issue to deal with as a biracial person.
      My white looking latin family over there has had issued growing up in the US handsome of them even deny/hide their ethnicity, I can’t imagine what it involves for POC or others who are many times otherized by their looks.

    • Annaloo. says:

      My Korean mother went to beauty school to learn to do mine. I think if Kat’s mom dropped her off at a salon (provided she was safe at 9 yrs old to be alone with strangers) wasn’t a bad thing. My mother has always understood the power of a good first impression and my brothers and I always looked fantastic as kids :-) Kat seems very confident as a person, she’s in a field that prizes physical beauty… I think her mother had assessed the situation and made the best choice she could at the time.

    • Reisam says:

      I am around Kat’s age and I am of mixed race, when I was little there really was no where for my mom to learn how to do my hair, and not a lot of products for my hair type while I was growing up. My mom did the best she could without a lot of options, we didn’t even have a salon to go to that knew how to deal with my hair. Until I was about ten, I had never come across black hair products. There are so many more options and products available today, it would probably be a different story.

      • mynameispearl says:

        Well like I said, I’m so white im nearly blue so I cant speak to the experience of being an biracial child (whose mum or dad was a different race attempting to do their hair). My mum was whiter than me though (a frizzy redhead, and I’m a frizzy brunette) and lord was she was harsh with that hairbrush. Literal tears for years.

        I guess it’d be good if her mum had attempted to learn how to do her hair (I’m assuming she did though as she must have been doing it until she was 9 at least) ,but like I say, my ma was horrendous at doing mine, and she had no excuse! Some people are just shite at hair. I cant imagine it ever being a bonding thing based on own tatty experience.

    • SoCalVibes says:

      In my opinion as a multi-racial person, I think that there is such a huge learning curve and knowledge gap when it comes to textured hairstyling and haircare that Kat’s mother in my opinion was definitely doing the right thing by having her hair professionally done. Styling textured hair incorrectly can lead to damage, breakage, chemical burns on the scalp, burns, and baldness. Also, maybe her mother was a really busy professional woman and didn’t want to invest hours and hours of her life in a tedious task that she could effectively outsource and create employment in a black business?

    • theotherViv says:

      My mom‘s white and struggled with my biracial hair. Because she is an unbothered Aquarian and had a busy career as a physician at that time in the 70s, she used to cut my hair while I was sleeping. She would cut one side on one night and the other side on another night – so I would sometimes have a wonky little afro. It took me until age 9 to figure out why my hair would never get long enough for braids or barrettes or pig tails like all the white girls in my class wore.
      These days I use Keratin to straighten it.

    • Skwinkee says:


      If by bonding you mean we both end up crying … then, yes.

      I am white and my daughter is mixed and honestly it’s hell. Finally we are getting into a routine. But she didn’t even have hair until she was about 2 and then POOF so it wasn’t a gradual learning curve. It was trying to get a toddler to sit while I detangle.

      But I do remember screaming and crying when I got my hair brushed as a kid-so yeah- kind of bonding ha ha . I can’t wait to get her in to someone who can talk her through what she’s doing and why and she will sit for them
      Because they aren’t her mother.

    • fluffy_bunny says:

      I’m white and my hair became curly during puberty and my mom did nothing to help me understand my hair. I just learned how to properly care for it from reddit last year.

  2. BlueSky says:

    I used to have a relative who was a hairdresser do my hair. I switched 6 years ago to someone else and realized how much I depended too much on her to take care of my hair. She had over processed my hair and I had scalp damage. I almost cried in the chair. I trusted her but I was beating myself up for not asking enough questions. That changed after that. I am more involved and ask my hairdresser questions about products, the best styling tools, wrapping my hair, etc. I did research on the best flat irons and hairdryers to purchase. I go to the hairdresser every two weeks. prior to the shutdown I asked her what shampoo she would recommend I use in between appointments. I’m a runner and especially during the humid months I will sometimes need to wash my hair. She recommended CHI (Cationic Hydration Interlink) shampoo, Infra treatment, and Silk infusion. This came in handy when all the salons were shut down. I also get my hair relaxed and I really try to push getting a touch up to every 12 weeks.

    I started using the ELF skin care products last week and I can already tell a difference. I’m also using the serum that was recommended on this site Seoul Ceuticals day flow serum. It’s $16.99 on Amazon.

  3. E.D. says:

    She’s is such a beautiful woman with terrific skin so I was amazed how much makeup she actually puts on in the video, despite how natural it ends up looking at the end. Girl knows how to blend and contour!
    I watched (and loved) her in Vampire Diaries for years yet I had no clue she was wearing wigs all that time.
    Watching her her get so emotional about her hair made me like her even more than I already did and I just hated hearing what she said about Hollywood not recognising a role for someone with her natural hair so I really hope that changes for her soon – as her afro rocks!

    P.S – I have that Dior Capture Youth Serum – there’s actually 3 different types in the line. The one she is using here is the Glow Booster version and has Murunga Plum which is a type of Vitamin C and AHA’s in it. It’s not bad but I have since moved on to the Sunday Riley C.E.O Glow which does the same job but costs a lot less here in Aus.

  4. Original_kellybean says:

    I don’t know who she is but she has awesome eyebrows. And her skin tone is perfect – coming from someone that is quite pale with splotchy skin and freckles.

  5. Paperclip says:

    Loooooooved this post and the vid!

  6. crogirl says:

    Why is noone criticizing her dad for not doing her hair? It’s always mums.

    • Yup, Me says:

      Excellent point – especially given the fact that her father is likely the one with hair most like hers.

      • Lavande says:

        That’s a great point, ladies!
        My first reaction too was why didn’t her mom learn to do her hair? I Admittedly didn’t even consider her dad. But then I realized don’t most Black girls go to the salon Anyways if they want extensions such as long braids or straightening? Or do Black mothers often learn How to do this at home?
        I feel like if I were ever mother to a black girl I’d be very interested in learning about her hair, combing and conditioning and braiding The actual hair. But I don’t think I’d be confident to put in extensions on my kids hair, and isn’t that what preteens are into? Coloured braids etc..
        Wow she is beautiful! I love the modest look with the turban

      • DS9 says:

        Dad’s hair most like hers?

        So if your white husband had your daughter’s hair type, you think he would magically know how to handle her long curls, what products to try and the mechanics of styling a girl’s hair, as a man….


        Also, no, it may not even be the same texture, even if all things are equal. The child is biracial. My biracial hair is not like my mother’s or like any of my three biracial children.

    • Mina says:

      Good point!

      @DS9 – Plenty of fathers learn how to do their daughters’ hair, nothing extraordinary about it. Sure, most probably aren’t salon level stylists, but the basics are easy to learn. I have fond memories of my dad brushing and braiding my hair as a kid.

      • Kate says:

        Exactly! I don’t know d!ck about how to cut or style very short hair but I figured it out through trial and error so I could cut my son’s hair. I am not going after DS9 here – but I am just sick of men leaving all the caretaking of their kids to the moms bc they’re too scared to try or worse they just don’t feel like it.

    • SoCalVibes says:

      Would you really want your daughter to be the one child in class whose father did their hair that day? Maybe both of Kat’s parents were busy professionals? Why are people now expected to do absolutely everything and are demonized when they outsource tasks to experts?
      I’m not sure how old Kat is, but going back a decade or two, there were fewer resources like YouTube for learning the finer details of a specific subject at your own pace.

      • Kate says:

        All very good points! I think the OP was possibly responding to the higher up comments questioning if her mom was in the wrong for not learning how to do her hair. So they asked ‘ok why criticize the mom and not the dad?’ But anyway I agree in general – let’s not criticize any parents who are able to outsource help for their child.

    • Oya says:

      Her parents divorced when she was 5 and I assume she wasn’t raised around him.

    • osito says:

      I didn’t grow up with my dad in my life like that, so I didn’t even think about it. He only saw me when my hair was already done for the day, so he’s literally never touched my head in that way. So that’s why I didn’t think of fathers doing their children’s hair in general — just not a part of my experience. Though I think it’s a fantastic idea, and I encourage it now that I am thinking about it.

    • bonobochick says:

      IIRC, she was raised primarily by her mother.

      Do you know if her parents are married and her dad is in her life?

  7. WilliamJoelene says:

    She can learn everything she needs to know from Quinta Brunson’s awesome series Hair Flick (combines natural hair tutorials w classic films). So stylish, so fun, just super awesome!

    • ClaireB says:

      Is that the same Quinta who is in Black Lady Sketch Show? (Now I’ve just got Black Lady Courtroom in my head, so I’m not even sure I’ve got the series title right.) She was so funny, I’d love to watch her do anything.

  8. Ochar says:

    I love Kat. I watched this video the other day & felt bad because it never even occurred to me that she was even wearing a wig or that her hair being straight (I had assumed it was her hair at the time) wasn’t her choice. Her character was kick ass and how she wore her hair wouldn’t have affected that.

  9. MarcelMarcel says:

    Hay Fran Hay has incredible videos on YouTube about DIY Haircare for black womxn and skincare.
    Anyhow I’m a white girl with curls. I learnt a lot from the black beauty community regarding oil treatments, Shea butter, avoiding damaging products and accepting one’s natural texture.
    Mind you, I realise the people who praise my curls will happily shame a black womxn’s natural hair.

  10. Mina says:

    Oya, I am so happy you joined Celebitchy. Your content is always fresh and interesting and I love getting to read more about black women’s beauty, fashion, celebrity, and media rep. Every time I see one of your articles I always click, because I know it’s going to something I want to read! (Especially the “The Old Guard” stories you were covering lately, I am SO obsessed with that movie!)

    I’ve liked Kat Graham ever since she did the song Black and Jewish for Funny or Die, and I can only imagine how emotional it must be to be doing one’s hair for the first time. I’m also biracial (White/Asian) but came out looking so white that my Asian mom nicknamed me Aryan Nation 😑 people fetishize mixed kids all the time but the truth is that you are always going to be treated like the race you look the most like.

    • SoCalVibes says:

      Your mother’s nickname is hilarious😂

    • Oya says:

      Mina, you are right, when you are mixed race you get treated like the race you look the most like. I have many mixed race friends and my sister who died was very fair skin because her dad was creole from LA so I can only imagine what her life would have been like if she had lived to be older. I also love the Black & Jewish song because at that time I had just converted to Judaism, altho I don’t practice anymore it is still a fun video that I enjoy.

      Also, your mom’s name is so wrong. Hopefully, it didn’t hurt you much, I know names can be funny but we eventually realize how they actually hurt us later. Hopefully you are able to connect to your Asian heritage despite looking more white.

  11. Charfromdarock says:

    I’m not a make up person, so maybe I’m misunderstanding the first part.

    Why does she do her brows before she cleans her face? Wouldn’t cleaning undo what she just did?

    • E.D. says:

      My guess is that she was really self-conscious about being filmed with no eyebrows on, so did them first.

      Makes zero sense to me though.

      You wash your face first, then do your skincare routine and THEN start in your makeup.

      I do my foundation before I start in on my eyebrows.

  12. ClaireB says:

    I am a white lady who grew up in the South, so I’ve been aware about natural hair issues for a while, but I’ve really gotten into watching Black women’s hair care videos on YouTube during the pandemic. I just watched one creator do some simple braids and the amount of conditioning products she put into her hair and the time she spent working them in was amazing to me. But then I thought about all the effort women with other hair types will put into blowdrying and styling, and that can take an amazing amount of time too.

    I’ve never been much into doing hair myself, which is why mine is cut short, but I really enjoy getting a peek into other people’s rituals and I’m grateful for the chance to learn more about the procedures Black/natural hair people use to work with their hair types.

  13. SoCalVibes says:

    Many great points to unpack here. I am also multi-racial and my hair texture was always a huge pain point in my childhood and adolescence.

    - Most people assume that nature haircare and hairstyling is less work since it’s natural, but it’s typically the opposite. Ask most women who relax their hair, they’ll tell you that they do it to save time and be able to wrap their hair at night and style it during the day. Particularly long, full, gorgeous, highly textured hair like Kat can be incredibly time consuming to properly wash, condition, detangle, and style. No wonder so many women who prefer a nice full afro style opt for a wig. Wigs are natural hair styling methods too as long as you don’t glue them to your hairline!

    - When you love your hair, your skin, your facial features, you are able to love yourself on a new, deeper level. I believe that taking care of your natural skin, hair, and nails, is actually psychologically beneficial compared to constantly covering oneself with artifice. Other people’s opinions stop to matter when you truly love and accept yourself, and every single one of us deserves that!

    • Layday says:

      Thank-you for this. Particularly highlighting that natural Black hair can be harder work in regards to styling and such. I have found that to be the case myself, and it’s frustrating that people don’t get it. They equate me embracing my natural hair with it being low-maintenance, and that’s just not the case (some people assume that’s why I went natural in the first place lol). It can be time-consuming, and quite intimidating for people who don’t understand the hair type, so I’m glad Kat seems to be on a journey of self-acceptance in loving and styling her natural hair!

  14. Valiantly Varnished says:

    I started getting my hair relaxed when I was about 6-7 years old. I never had natural hair until I shaved my head in 2018. I had been transitioning to natural but was tired of dealing with two different textures and just decided to shave it all off and start from scratch. Cut to two years later and I still am
    learning how to take care of of natural hair. It is a long learning curve. I have also come to realize that I dont love having to do my own hair. I was happiest when my hair was super short and required minimal upkeep.

  15. ennie says:

    I know makeup application is about preferences, and all that. I am just curious that some women with dark skin, or some who tan, like the Kardashians, apply their makeup seemingly with two or three different color foundations, or much lighter concealer all across the middle of their faces.
    Maybe it’s a “look”, like when the light of a lamp is directed at you, but then I see these women like Kat Graham or Jodie Turner-Smith who don’t do that extra highlighting- heavy contouring as much, and they look absolutely lovely, and when they pose looks so much better than when the face has such uneven foundation tones. Makes me wonder if it is just a preference or just following a trend blindly.
    I hope I don’t offend anyone, uneven face tones and having a face with a different color than my neck makes me notice those things.

    • SoCalVibes says:

      Yep, trying to paint a pretty face over another face is called contouring. It was really invented by drag queens ages ago, and then co-opted by reality stars like the Kardashians. It looks insane on camera, and looks even more crazy in person. This is the horrible “instagram effect” I always talk about in regards to today’s beauty trends. Certain things done in controlled lighting look one way, but out in the world to be seen from all angles in different lighting, believe me it does not look good.

      Take care of your skin, love yourself, remind yourself that you are enough every single day, drink your water, eat plenty of healthy fats and leafy green veggies, and you won’t need to paint yourself with toxic chemicals just to leave the house!

    • ennie says:

      theatrical makeup, buy it looks bad in natural settings. I’ve compared some “models” to others and , sorry, the classier, understated makes the skin looks so much healthier, and the person much younger.

  16. LoonaticCap says:

    Looking forward to seeing the video later but. Kat is such a beautiful woman. It’s a shame she doesn’t get more work in Hollywood.
    Also, I grew up really hating doing my hair. As q child I relaxed it twice and both times it fell off – my hair was thick as a kid and since my teens it became soft and fine.
    I’m black but my grandfather on my dad’s side was mixed race and mine my two sisters hair are very different and just.. My hair is moody lol.

    Anyway. I got locs at 23yo,and Only at 26 I had to learn to do my own hair, when I went to study overseas. And it’s been a journey. Back then I did it because I had to, but…
    Now at 34 I care so much for my hair. I do hot oil treatments, got my vibrating massage brush for my scalp, and since isolation began I decided to do my own hair.
    Been loving it.

    Also I don’t blame her mom.. My mom is not a hair person AT ALL and she’s black but… It’s not for her. So she got other people to do our hair.

  17. SJR says:

    My daughter has naturally curly hair.
    When she was very young, her hair was simple, wash, fluff, let dry. Always had a fabulous head of shiny curls, I could trim it myself and any mistakes would just be covered by the curls.

    As she has grown, we have had a gazillion bad professional haircuts for her!
    Even the most expensive salons in our area have turned out some very bad haircuts.

    Why do some hairstylists insist on cutting bangs?
    She tells them no bangs! And it still happens.
    Longer layers all thru, trim the back in a flat line an inch across shoulder length, conditioner, defuser, done.
    Bring in photos, have the discussion, even had one stylist who made a point of “I have curly hair myself, I Know how to cut it.”
    Failure. She is 22 now, and getting a haircut/style has always been hit and miss.

    • Anna says:

      Same experience, always tears after the cut and feeling terrible about myself. Finally 4 decades into life have found a hairdresser who is skilled and amazing at what she does, sadly lives a flight away though…. My hair is combination like all of the ancestors are represented lol! Makes it hard to find products and figure out a style, but one of the best haircuts ever was my brother who picked out all of my hair and then carefully spent over an hour cutting it into the most perfect round afro. I was stopped on the street 3x over the next 24 hours for modeling gigs based on that cut. So maybe try that? Pick it out dry and then trim gently into a perfect sphere, wash, condition, and go!

  18. minx says:

    She is just stunningly beautiful.

  19. Stacy Dresden says:

    She is ridiculously pretty and I love seeing her onscreen.