New Melania Trump book: Melania is just as much of a monster as her husband

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As we discussed last Friday, there’s a new book out about Melania Trump. What makes this book different from all of the dumbass other books about Melania is that it was written by someone who was once pretty close to Mel. That person? Stephanie Winston Wolkoff, a former Vogue staffer who came to work for Melania for the inauguration and beyond. The book is called Melania and Me: The Rise and Fall of My Friendship With the First Lady. The first big headline from the book was that Melania hates Ivanka Trump, her stepdaughter and direct competition for Trump’s favorite woman. But the real headline is that Melania is f–king awful. She’s always been awful. Wolkoff spoke to Vanity Fair about the book and more, all from her New York apartment full of the literal receipts from her friendship and work with Melania.

Whether Wolkoff was fired because of shady inaugural spending: The truth, as Wolkoff lays out, was that there wasn’t a grift on her part, and she was told privately that her firing from the White House had nothing to do with inaugural spending, despite reports to the contrary. Melania did nothing to defend her at the time, and after more than a year of feeling like there was something amiss with the way the inaugural funds were spent and the events were planned, Wolkoff started to protect herself. Since then, she has participated in investigations into inaugural spending.

Melania’s “I really don’t care, do u?” coat, which she wore to a detention center holding children who had been separated from their parents at the U.S. border. Melania shrugged off the public firestorm around the sartorial choice—a common theme throughout the book. “I’m driving liberals crazy,” she told Wolkoff, according to the book. “You know what? They deserve it.” She added that people “connect stuff to my clothes” and that she wears what she wears “because I like it.”

Melania on the media: “They all went crazy about the zero-tolerance policy at the border. But they don’t know what’s going on. The kids I met were brought in by coyotes, the bad people who are trafficking, and that’s why the kids were put in shelters. They’re not with their parents, and it’s sad. But the patrols told me the kids say, ‘Wow, I get a bed? I will have a cabinet for my clothes?’ It’s more than they have in their own country where they sleep on the floor. They are taking care nicely there.” She added, “Did Michelle Obama go to the border? She never did. Show me the pictures!”

Why Mel didn’t move to the White House right away: Melania told Wolkoff that she would not move to D.C. until the shower and toilet in the White House residence had been replaced. She painted her office and closet bright pink, and she added a glam room to the residence in which she could have her hair and makeup done. She would pay no mind to wearing American designers, as Michelle Obama had. If Melania had her sights set on wearing Karl Lagerfeld, she wore Karl Lagerfeld. If she wanted to wear stilettos to visit a hurricane-ravaged town, she wore stilettos. If she wanted to be referred to on a Christmas card as “First Lady-Elect,” even though no other first-lady-to-be had used the term because, as Wolkoff reminded her, it is not an elected position, she did it anyway. “Melania,” she writes, “Did. Not. Care.”

Melania on her husband’s affairs & perversions: She’d brush off his “grab ‘em by the p-ssy” tape or settlements to Stormy Daniels with, “It’s politics.” Over the years, according to the book, when Wolkoff would express her concern, Melania would matter-of-factly respond, “I know who I married.”

On Melania’s hatred for Ivanka: Once they were in the White House, Wolkoff writes that Ivanka and her staff wrote to her and Melania about cohosting several events that were traditionally hosted by just the first lady. “Are you kidding me?” Melania asked Wolkoff about Ivanka’s request to collaborate for International Women’s Day. “Seriously? I’m not co-hosting.” For the annual luncheon held for the governors’ spouses that Ivanka wanted in on, Melania said, “We need to let her know that I know this is a First Lady event done every year…OMG. They just want to take credit for it.” After hearing that Ivanka had worn a KaufmanFranco dress for an event, Melania said, “Forget it.” According to Wolkoff, “If Ivanka was dressed by a designer, Melania would cross them off her list.” At one point, Melania apparently warned Wolkoff in a text: “You know how they are snakes.”

[From Vanity Fair]

You know what’s funny-sad to me? We’ve known this whole time that Donald Trump is obsessed with Barack Obama and obsessed with ripping apart Obama’s legacy, but we didn’t know that Melania had her own pathetic little obsession with Michelle Obama. Michelle Obama, who was grace, dignity, intelligence, wit, humor and compassion personified. And Melania only wants to both steal the superficial things from MO *and* rip apart MO’s legacy too. The only time I’m on Mel’s side just a tad – and to be clear, I still hate her and think she sounds like a miserable person – is the Ivanka stuff. Mel was actually right to keep Ivanka from all of that stuff. But refusing to wear the same designers as Ivanka? LOL. How juvenile. I bet that’s why Mel has never worn any of the American designers Michelle wore all the time too.

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  1. Wilma says:

    Not shocked.

  2. rawiya says:

    We done knew. Next.

  3. JennyJenny says:

    And, water is wet.

  4. Miranda says:

    See you next Tuesday, Mel…

  5. OriginalLala says:

    I mean, she *chose* to marry Donald Trump – she is obviously a trash person, now and forever.

    • NotSoSocialButterfly says:

      Total gold digger. She doesn’t GAF what he does bc she never loved him.

      • minx says:

        She wanted money, she got it. And a baby. Those are the things she cares about, not her husband, certainly not this country. When I look at her I just see a trashy imposter who is not the First Lady of my country. She’s a sleazy placeholder between Michelle Obama and Jill Biden.

      • Yvette says:

        @Minx … And lets not forget her parents, who were ‘anchored’ into American in record time.

    • lucy2 says:

      And participated in the racist birther nonsense ages ago. She’s as gross and horrible as the rest of them, always has been.

      I do kind of cackle at how much she and Ivanka hate each other and compete over garbage. I hope they make each other miserable 24/7.

  6. Lavande says:

    He raped a teenager, he signed off on policies which harm the earth irreversibly. He might provoke China to nuke us.
    Her stuff is callousness and interpersonal issues, not exactly the same kind of bad.

    She seems to Vaguely have the same body type as MO and wears some similar silhouettes. Those two brightly coloured dresses are very Michelle. Does she have a deep obsession or superficial?

    • Yvette says:

      @Lavande … “He might provoke China to nuke us.”

      Or he might provoke China to demand immediate repayment on the loans ‘Dubya’ took out to help finance the two wars in his first term. China would own most of our country (they already own a good chunk of American businesses). Does Donald Trump not understand that … or has no one bothered to tell him?

    • phaedra7 says:

      Her brand of narcissism is no doubt what attracted her to him in the first place, besides her looks.

  7. minx says:

    Anyone who thought she was helpless or victimized is deluded. She’s a snake.

    • Betsy says:

      I guess I’m one of those people you’d call “deluded,” which I find a little harsh.. I never didn’t think she was trash, just that she was abused. Even trash can be abused. But I see now that she’s just trash, and she was always all in. I guess I took some of her silence to be something else, which I guess is the point of the silence. But I feel dumb now, so does that help?

      • Lizzie says:

        He is a bully who will be abusive if he can and he probably has been brutal with all of his family. That’s just how he rolls and he is proud of it. There has been a power shift in Melania’s favor because the public would not put up with abuse in the White House. Multiple times he has tried to hold her hand in public and she pulls away. But she choose to renegotiate her contract and stay.
        Betsy, I too think she has been abused but she is not helpless.
        I’ve always suspected he pulled strings to get her green card and held the proof over her head. That is moot now, if he released it he is the one who would be looking at possible criminal charges and she and her parents are citizens.

      • minx says:

        She showed her true colors when she went birther on Obama.

      • Babz says:

        @Lizzie, you’re right, she is not helpless. She has more resources at her disposal to help her leave than the countless numbers of victims of domestic violence who are tragically stuck, and who would give anything for even a fraction of those resources. The fact that she stays, despite whatever abuse she may be receiving, tells me that, to her, whatever payoff she receives (emotional, financial) is more important to her than the treatment. I felt a tiny bit sorry for her very early on, but that didn’t last as some of her behavior became very noticeable. She can have him and the whole damn snake pit of ‘em. They deserve each other.

      • L says:

        Betsy, same. Except I dont feel dumb, I think its a good quality to not be so dismissive of someone you think is being abused, especially if their behaviour is bad. It shows you have a careful, deep heart. Instant dismissal and harsh words are weak. I still think Melania is abused, but she has learned to cope and my sympathy for her dried up with the racism.

    • shanaynay says:

      Agreed! Which is why they are all one big family of snakes…. sssss!!!!

  8. Lucy says:

    “Melania told Wolkoff that she would not move to D.C. until the shower and toilet in the White House residence had been replaced.”
    Pretty effing racist. I mean, we knew that. But still shocking.

    • DebraSam says:

      I caught that, too. She’s the worst.

      • Giddy says:

        I didn’t catch that, and am totally disgusted. She should have instead prayed to absorb some of Michelle’s dignity, class, and intelligence. Obviously that did not happen.

      • Babz says:

        @Giddy, she just plagiarized her speeches instead.

    • Jerusha says:

      I’m sure BO and MO knew they were shitty racists, but I feel sick to my stomach that they have to hear this. I’ll just say this, I’m the same color as Adolf and Eva and I would explode before I’d sit on a toilet they occupied. Too many syphilis germs lingering, I bet.

    • ThEHufflepuffLizLemon says:

      I didn’t catch that. I am horrified. Thank you for bringing it out.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      Wow! I missed that. I wish I didn’t realize now I need to go and have a good cry. How did we get here and why does so many people NOT care?

    • Just A Thought says:

      She a birther like her husband. There no surprise.

    • Lizzie says:

      What she says versus what she does – renegotiating her contract. She is scum for saying it but in truth she was making sure she got paid and got Barron in the will even with older children.

    • Blerg says:

      I think it is racist here, but it is also classist, and apparently a standard thing in some wealthy communities—new toilets when you move in, even if the existing toilets are not old. The first time I heard about it from a woman at my daughter’s preschool, I literally didn’t know what to say. (I just kept thinking “bleach exists!”) She said it the way you’d say, “I’m painting the walls,” as if everyone should know replacing toilets is standard.

      Later, a contractor told me he spends a lot of time replacing new toilets with newer toilets.

      • lucy2 says:

        I work with a lot of wealthy clients in home renovations, and it’s not uncommon for me either. Maybe half and half, depending on the condition of the house when they bought it. But definitely a few have renovated fairly new bathrooms. Personally I just bought new seats when I moved!

        Melania’s comment stuck out to me too though, and I can assume the racist meaning behind it.

      • aang says:

        We’ve moved 4 times and we always replace toilets and some tubs / showers. We aren’t rich. The toilets we buy cost $200 – $800 (depending on plumbing) at Lowes and my husband installs.

      • Abby says:

        This is total news to me. We have replaced toilets, but only when they stop working and the plumber tells us we need new ones. Why would you replace perfectly functional toilets??

  9. Rapunzel says:

    Release the tapes, dangit. Wolkoff supposedly has recordings. Let’s hear them. Come on, karma, bring it.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      It wouldn’t matter to their base, they would probably get off on it. Nothing harm these people, nothing!

  10. Darla says:

    She’s a birther herself, and is on video long before 2016 agreeing with her husband on that. She’s a vicious racist and euro trash. What more is there to say? People surprised by this must be new. I wouldn’t waste my money on this book. I’m not new.

  11. Mac says:

    What a bunch of terrible people. They deserve each other.

  12. Bananas says:

    I mean, what First Lady would think it’s ok to consistently wear the military aesthetic to her speaking engagements? The complicit wife of a dictator, that’s who.

    This is a family who competes with each other to win the title of most vile.

  13. whatWHAT? says:

    wow, that picture of the three of them on the convention stage? Nagini looks like she trying SO HARD to smile “normally” and it came out like a sneer. she looks like Kim Guilfoyle or whatever her name is. she REALLY shouldn’t grin like that; it only exposes how WEIRD she looks from all of the surgeries.

    that’s a grimace, not a grin, and her nose looks SO ODD.

  14. Lightpurple says:

    She only saw the kids who were brought by coyotes because that’s all she agreed to see.

    They are all monsters

  15. Tiffany says:


    This ain’t new.

  16. Jerusha says:

    Quelle surprise!!😱

  17. MissMarierose says:

    We’ve known she’s obsessed with Michelle Obama since she plagiarized her convention speech back in 2016.

  18. nicegirl says:


  19. MsIam says:

    Lord deliver us from this bunch of snakes. Yeah, no tears for Melania, she knows exactly which side she’s on.

  20. Goldengirlslover34 says:

    Hopefully this shuts up the “poor melania” people who want to act like this horrific woman is trapped and a victim. Melania has always been horrible. She was spouting racist birther nonsense years ago. She is selfish, racist and only cares about herself. She is fine with everything burning down around her.

  21. A says:

    I really hope this book at least dispels the notion that Melania is somehow covertly a liberal all along. She’s not. People really think she’s “on our side” for some reason, but the fact is, she isn’t. She’s supportive of Donald Trump, she’s hitched her wagon to his star, and that’s where her loyalties will always be. Making her a victim (which she isn’t), pretending like she’s secretly a liberal and whatever else is just stupid. She’s vile, just like everyone else in this family. F-ck her, f-ck the rest of them.

    • Sarah says:

      Exactly, the lack of direct interviews, quotes and whatever from her allowed people to build their own (hopeful) narrative. She chose to marry him, he has not changed, of course she has always been awful!

  22. says:

    “I know who I married.” There it is. She knows. She’s complicit, and as her former friend said: But we all knew that.

    Also, after the Rose Garden fiasco, her decorating style has been completely solidified. She is as cold and soulless as all of her Christmas decorations and gardening. Gosh, even Gomez and Morticia’s house had more warmth in it.

  23. Eugh says:

    She ruined the rose garden and toured kids in cages, of course she’s evil

  24. SJR says:

    Is anyone surprised by this? Bueller? Bueller?
    Of course she is just as bad as Trump is!
    She knows who he is, still married him, had a child with him AND stays married to him.

    Awful creatures both.

  25. Nanny to the Rescue says:

    This part i like. Not Melania, but her answer:

    Melania on her husband’s affairs & perversions: She’d brush off his “grab ‘em by the p-ssy” tape or settlements to Stormy Daniels with, “It’s politics.” Over the years, according to the book, when Wolkoff would express her concern, Melania would matter-of-factly respond, “I know who I married.”

    Fair enough.
    I do believe her. Not just money-wise. The more he spends chasing other women, the less she has to be with him. I think his affairs are her win-win situation. Mucho money and doesn’t even have to shag him anymore for it.

  26. Mumbles says:

    It always amazed me when people would speculate that Melania was a member of the #Resistance…”she won’t hold his hand!” “She has a body double!” etc etc. Gee, turns out the woman who married a gross racist pig and has stayed married to him for years turns out to be a terrible person herself!

    There are no secret members of the #Resistance. No “grownups in the room.” If they work for Trump, or associate themselves with him, they’re garbage too.

    • Lizzie Bathory says:

      I mean, she’s always been terrible & she also hates him. She “knows who she married,” but that doesn’t mean she cares about him. And she has a body double (who doesn’t swat his hand away) because Mel lives in Maryland, doesn’t want to do all the appearances & is often indisposed due to her roxicodone addiction. At the visit to the St. John Paul II National Shrine in June she was practically catatonic.

  27. Mina_Esq says:

    I am too used to First Ladies that value public service, so it still sometimes surprises me that Melanie only looks out for Melania. And that’s a weird detail about the bathroom renos being the reason for her delayed moved. I can’t tell if she was being racist or if she just likes to go on golden toilets.

  28. Veronica S. says:

    Melania is one of those people I suspect people make excuses for because Trump has such an obviously abusive personality. Sure, I have no doubt he treats her and his children (sans Ivanka) like garbage, but just because somebody is a victim that doesn’t mean they aren’t garbage themselves. I could frankly give a sh*t less if she suffers lol. His assault of Ivanka and the rumors of what he did to women were around before she married him. She just made her deal with the devil for the money.

  29. Michael says:

    This is an entire family of Pit Vipers. The White House will need to be fumigated for weeks after their stench has been removed. I know exactly why she wanted the bathrooms replaced. I am sure she was too good to use a bathroom that was used by black people. I literally hate every single one of them

  30. Zut alors says:

    She didn’t come from money, so where does she get off with this lady of the manor attitude? She is the last person who should be looking down her nose at others.

    • BnLurkN4eva says:

      Sometimes the people who didn’t come from money and suddenly find themselves with lots of it are worse snobs than those born into money. It’s something I noticed from attending schools with the super rich and working with the become rich.

  31. Nic919 says:

    She could have divorced him years ago when she got her citizenship. That she stays with him confirms just how evil and despicable she is as well. She deserves all the misery in the world for enabling that monstrous family.

  32. aquarius64 says:

    This budget long lost Gabor sister needs to take several seats. She sold herself to a marriage to a pig but this book shows she feeds from a truth herself.

  33. My3cents says:

    She is Evil.
    Evil face and evil heart.

  34. Valerie says:

    There’s so much wilful ignorance on display here and within his base in general. It blows my mind. How is a tape like that political? And then they accuse everyone of politicizing everything else? God.

  35. Bread and Circuses says:

    “I know who I married.”

    And that tells you everything you need to know about her character.

  36. L4frimaire says:

    This woman is so vile and mercenary. No idea why people tried to feel sorry for her, like she was trapped by Trump. They are two disgusting birther peas in a pod. Agree her one redeeming feature is her utter disdain for Ivanka, but just barely. Even her wardrobe has deteriorated. Her generalissimo outfit for her RNC speech looked like a costume from a Soviet-era propaganda film.

  37. KellyRyan says:

    Another Trumpie who steams with hate and Jealousy. Michelle is well educated and had a career prior to becoming First Lady. Melania lives to what? Shop, lunch with friends? I never refer to Drumpf as president and will never refer to her as First Lady. Arrogant, entitled, vacant.

  38. Lizzie says:

    Her clothing reminds me of every badly dressed Real Housewife. They all think that because they are rich they have good taste. Stylists exist for a reason.

  39. MrsPanda says:

    She sold her soul yeaaaars ago. I think she was a high-class escort when she met Trump. They’re actually very well suited and it’s a suitable business arrangement. He’s abusive but she was shrewd enough to know the deal from the beginning (as she says herself). The only real victim is Barron, imagine those two as your parents. I only hope her ice-cold heart has a tiny bit of warmth toward her son. Interestingly/paradoxically, I do think she genuinely loves her son and he’s the one person who matters to her. I truly hope this is the case, for his sake.

  40. Meg says:

    Ugh her dress in that top photo is gawd awful

  41. Yvette says:

    Kaiser … “We’ve known this whole time that Donald Trump is obsessed with Barack Obama and obsessed with ripping apart Obama’s legacy, but we didn’t know that Melania had her own pathetic little obsession with Michelle Obama. Michelle Obama, who was grace, dignity, intelligence, wit, humor and compassion personified. And Melania only wants to both steal the superficial things from MO *and* rip apart MO’s legacy too.”

    Yep. I’ve already said that Michelle can kiss her garden goodbye. Do we know yet where Mel plans on putting the new ‘White House Tennis Court’ she’s designing?

  42. L says:

    Replacing the toilet and shower before moving in? Is that because MO used them first? Ok. Melania is a C..U…
    On another thread I said i think she’s being manipulated by the Trumps. She probably is, but it sounds like she can look after herself just fine, so… yeah.. There goes the tiny slither of sympathy I felt for her.

  43. Misssmartypants says:

    I think what bothered me immensely was her comment about the children at the detention camps. That they were in wonder about a bed all to themselves. A cabinet for their clothing. That this was more than what they had in their birth country.
    It was her defining moment to see the wrong in that. That those children are so poor in their country they left, basics are a wonder. That she didnt see the vast disparities between her sons life, his friends life, and these waifs.
    No. She believes because they arent sleeping on a dirt floor, live in a crowded detention center, they “have it good”

  44. YesterToday says:

    WH handlers try to play her as Edith to his Archie – she’s soft he’s gruff, etc…boring & cliche. In reality she’s textbook dumb gangster moll, looking for the luxury life under any rock