Cardi B filed for divorce from Offset a month ago, and we all thought it was finally the real deal, and that she was finally over him. But she confirmed last week that they were already back together. When she first left Offset in 2018, just months after she gave birth to Kulture, Offset wormed his way back into her life within a month as well. That 2018 split felt less final at the time, and it felt like Cardi was getting a lot of pressure from her family and her team to take Offset back. This time it did feel different but we got the same result. Throughout it all, Offset has cheated on Cardi and she’s always taken him back and defended him.
Throughout Cardi and Offset’s marriage and breakups, there were conversations about emotional abuse and emotional manipulation, and I think it’s important to have those conversations because… well, a lot of women look up to Cardi, and a lot of women (especially young women) don’t always have the language or the experience to understand when they are being manipulated or emotionally abused. I also think that we just need to listen to women about how they feel about their (dysfunctional) relationships and let people work through their sh-t in their own time. So, with all that being said, here’s Cardi talking about why she took Offset back and why she’s not in an abusive relationship.
Cardi B continues to be candid about her relationship with Offset. The “WAP” rapper took to Twitter on Friday to address the criticism she’s received after getting back together with her husband after calling it quits last month. In her voice message, Cardi expressed that she decided to file for divorce to teach the Migos rapper “a lesson.”
“If I take a break from my n**** and I decide to work things out, that’s regular relationship s**t. If I want to go to an extreme to teach a n**** a f**king lesson and f**king file for divorce, I can do that. It’s my life.”
Cardi — who shares 2-year-old daughter Kulture with Offset — also touched on fans expressing concern that she’s in a “mentally abusive relationship.”
“I’m not getting f**king abused. If we work things out, if we sit down and work things out and I tell a n**** what I don’t like, what I want to change. When he tells me what he wants me to change, what he wants me to stop doing, we can do that,” she said. “Why y’all trying to make everything abuse, abuse, abuse. Why? Chill?”
“Our relationship is not only about gifts,” she further noted, addressing the presents Offset got her over her birthday weekend.
“If that divorce s**t didn’t went through the court, y’all wouldn’t even never knew what the f**k was going on,” she added. “So please stop.”
I think the language here is notable and interesting. I do think that Cardi and Offset have a toxic marriage, but Cardi has called it “dysfunctional” in other statements. Which it is! But is it emotionally abusive? I don’t know. I mostly think Offset is a compulsive cheater and that Cardi is addicted to the drama and toxicity of it all. So no, it’s not abusive, but it is exhausting and dysfunctional. And in this day and age, who files for divorce to teach someone a lesson? My God.
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I get the feeling that a few years down the line when she’s a bit older and has a bit more self confidence and self-awareness there will be some interesting stories that come out. I hope I’m wrong but …
I think you are right. She appears to be incredibly candid. However, that might change as she becomes more savvy
My thoughts exactly! She is very clever and in a few years she’ll have more wisdom, more experience, she will have older kids who will listen and be aware of things around her or them… Like Jane Fonda and so many women out there, it’s a journey to enlightenment but I do think Cardi B has it in her to overcome this dysfunctional and materialistic life she’s in.
This is where I think I’m getting old. This is too much drama for a relationship. Cardi B stopped being interesting after her first album. And as much as I like to read gossip, whatever she is doing is not healthy and her daughter is learning those behaviours. Where’s the awareness not just to provide a better lifestyle with the money earned but also better values and ways to live with others.
Yeah it would be juicy gossip if there wasn’t an impressionable little girl in the mix. This is where I get off because here’s another generation learning to accept toxicity in a relationship and worse and her parents not having the awareness to recognized this until way down the road when it’s too late.
“I also think that we just need to listen to women about how they feel about their (dysfunctional) relationships and let people work through their sh-t in their own time.”
this right here. I’m sure she isn’t happy all of the time, but I don’t know if what he is doing amounts to abuse, because, as Cardi pointed out, I really don’t know much about what is going on with them. It seems to me she has heard what people have said and at this point it is up to her to figure out what is right for her.
I would also think that the only people that could possibly get through to her would be people who actually know her, as opposed to strangers and fans on twitter. So, if something really bad is going on, hopefully she has some genuine people in her life who care about what’s best for her that will say something
What does that say about a relationship when you have to throw in separation/divorce to get your partner to sit down and talk things over (for now). Welp.
To me it says neither of them is a nice person.
yes. I believe this too.
What a spectacular example for her young daughter…no matter how many times daddy disrespects me and our marriage, I’ll take him back…
Agree, this sets such a terrible image for her daughter of what a relationship should look like. This behavior from Cardi B does little to demonstrate self-empowerment and a sense of self-worth. Instead it’s teaching her daughter that relationships should be dramatic, rocky and filled with unfaithfulness. It’s also teaching this message to women across the country. If Cardi B needs emotional support to leave Offset, I hope she finds it and enters a more healthy situation. Otherwise, this is just disappointing.
it’s nobody’s business who she chooses to be with but my god every time she comes up with these dumb lies to save her face that ain’t fooling nobody.
Oh, you aint gonna teach him snit. If you gotta go that far….
Either (or) both of yall arent able to communicate, neither of yall are able to listen,
or one or neither of you care.
And that, isnt fixed by someone cheating (!)
I think it boils down to the fact that Cardi and Offset each have the emotional depth of a penny. Cardi is smart, don’t get me wrong, but an empath she is not.
And again, they have no chemistry (at least it’s never been caught on camera or video or in any interview, any award show, etc.). I’ve gone back and back again to a man who wasn’t good for me, but I’m really really struggling to sympathize with her when I see no real passion between the two in a dang photo.
Personally, I cannot stand her. She’s nothing more than a redo Nicki Minaj, who herself is nothin’ more than a remake of Lil Kim.
There are three very different women…
Not really…
Nicki and Cardi are nothing alike. Both were influenced by Kim, but she’s the Queen B so that’s bound to happen.
so what was the lesson? that no matter how much he disrespects her and how often he cheats, she’ll allow it and/or take him back? even if divorce has been filed, all he has to do is say “I won’t do X or Y again, I promise”. which is all he’s been saying each time?
good plan, Cardi. thumbs up, you got it figured out.
*MASSIVE EYE ROLL*
Who files for divorce to teach someone a lesson? Rich people.
Attorneys drawing up documents and filing with the court is expensive.
They both sound toxic and abusive and unbelievably immature. Probably they deserve each other. I just wish they wouldn’t bring children into their world of dysfunction.
Offset *is* manipulative, and he emotionally blackmails Cardi all the time. Cardi is dramatic and childish, and it sounds like she verbally and physically abuses Offset. What a stinking cesspool of a marriage.
Some people get off on creating a lot of relationship drama or being in a relationship where there is a ton of drama. It really sounds like Cardi is one of those people. But she needs to decide if she’s going to stay or go because this back and forth will harm her career.
Why does this whole episode and “teaching him a lesson” make me think that she’ll be pregnant again soon? Like they go through the cycle: messy public drama, public reconciliation, and then we’ll see a period of happy times again with lots of family time and possible new baby… before more cheating/drama/lesson-teaching has to happen again with him? Cause I do think it will happen again with him. And again. And again. 🤷🏻♀️
This whole marriage seems so unhealthy! My sympathy for her is waning and if she wants to continue being with a cheater then that’s her choice though!
If you have to make that drastic of a move to get your partner to listen or change, then they are both too immature to be married. People don’t change anyway unless they WANT to, so good luck with that Cardi.
Those two are pure trash. I pity their daughter.
She lies all the time, I’d bet my paycheck she’s abused. This is a horrifically toxic relationship. She lied about being pregnant, she lied to herself about him cheating, now she’s lying about why she filed for divorce- unless she truly was just abusing the court system, wasting everyone’s time bc she wanted to play games… I’m really sick of her crap. She acts like she’s empowered and a feminist role model inspiring girls. She’s not. She’s insecure and desperate. Maybe her dream is for them to become the next Bobby & Whitney, how sad.
I believe she’s abused because she acts just like aunt and my sister and my friend who were all in abusive relationships. Lie, deny, dig the hole deeper, always go back,rinse&repeat.