Mena Suvari is pregnant: ‘I’m 41 and there’s this air like I’ve got one foot in the grave’

Mena Suvari is expecting her first child at 41 with her husband of two years, Michael Hope. I wanted to cover this because we rarely get the chance to talk about her. She was bigger earlier in my gossip career, in the mid-2000s. Mena just isn’t a self-promoter or a hustler and she’s content working steadily and doing her thing. She reminds me a little of Julia Stiles that way, they’re both strong actresses who seem like decent people and aren’t trying to be famous. They could be more popular if they were posting constant photos to Instagram or telling personal stories, but they rarely do that. In fact the last time we covered Mena was over two years ago! Meghan posted a photo showing her pregnancy in a cute sweater dress. She wrote a sweet caption to her baby boy and gave People an exclusive interview describing how hard she worked to get pregnant. She tried for months to conceive and when she let it go it finally happened for her. She’s due this Spring. Here’s what she wrote on Instagram and more from her interview with People:

The greatest, most precious gift has come our way. Through all the trauma, through all the struggle, through all the doubt, our little angel has chosen us. I will never have enough words to describe my love for this beautiful soul coming into our lives, but I wont ever stop trying to give him the best life possible. You’re all I’ve ever wanted and the most important thing that will ever matter.
We love you, #BabyHope.
We welcome, honor, and cherish you.

On trying to get pregnant for a few months
“It’s still this process for me of believing it and accepting that something this beautiful could happen for me,” says Suvari, who will welcome her son next spring. “It’s been a very emotional experience. It’s very weird finding out — I was like, I can’t believe it!”

“I’ve had to learn how to be a different way with my appetite and my sleep habits and not pushing myself, asking for help — all these things are hard for an independent woman!” the mom-to-be tells PEOPLE…

Earlier this year, Suvari and Hope decided to actively start trying for a baby — and what ensued was months of an emotional rollercoaster met with its fair share of disappointment.

“I was recording my temperature every morning and peeing on these ovulation sticks… You expect that it’ll happen and it didn’t. I got to this place where I felt overwhelmed and stressed out.”

“I’m 41 and there’s this air of like, I’ve got one foot in the grave and good luck,” she says…

“I was like, I can’t do this anymore. I’m so tired of stressing over this. I was trying to feel like if it’s meant, it’s meant,” she adds. “I was being really open like the Aquarian that I am — if this is my path or not.”

Suvari shifted her focus back to her work, traveling to Georgia in mid-July to film on location. It was there, she recalls, that she suddenly felt a sudden shift in her body.

“At first I thought I was having jet lag because I’m really sensitive,” Suvari remembers. “By the end of July, I had a couple of other symptoms and I decided to take a test and there it was. It was a huge surprise, an absolute miracle!”

Suvari continues, “It was something that we’ve always wanted, but a couple months before, I had stopped calculating. I pulled back and let go, which apparently they say that that’s when it happens.”

She’s doing a home birth with a midwife
“When I thought of what I wanted, [my midwife is] like the embodiment of Mother Earth. I was like, this is the vibe that I want,” she says of having a natural birth plan. “I know none of these things we can control and so much of it changes. We’ll find out what the real deal is, but that’s my plan and I hope it can go that way.”

“I’m still falling into that place and just feeling so honored that he came to us,” she says. “It’s all I ever wanted for years. Even before I met my husband, I always wanted a little boy and it just feels so beautiful and special.”

[From Instagram and People]

She really laid out her journey for People and I’m impressed with how open and matter-of-fact she was about it. I can’t imagine going through months of trying to get pregnant and my heart goes out to women who deal with that. I also like how she’s spiritual about her baby and what she’s gone through. That’s who she is. Plus she’s planning on a home birth but sounds realistic about it. Also at first I thought that she was naming the baby Hope and got confused that it’s a boy! Then I realized it’s her husband’s last name so that makes sense. I predict a somewhat unique but not too weird baby name. Congratulations to Mena and Michael!

They’re really cute together.

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  1. Ni says:

    Even her pictures on Instagram look like a happy, normal couple… albeit a very good looking version of normal. She seems very grounded. I hope she stays low profile! Seems to be working out very well.

  2. FHMom says:

    Aw. Best of luck to her. Fertility is so unpredictable. You just don’t know if you will be successful until you try. The only thing she said that I would disagree with is the narrative that when you stop trying, it will happen. That is anecdotally true, but very upsetting to those trying to conceive when they aren’t successful.

    • Arbelia says:

      Sadly ,when you’re over 40, it’s very Predictable that you’re going to struggle to conceive. The probability to conceive at that age is only of 6%.

      • A says:

        I have many friends who got pregnant at 40 after trying for a few months.

        A lot of the information that we are fed about fertility is incorrect and based on outdated information – basically, it might take women a bit longer to get pregnant past a certain age, and you should aim to have your last by around 40. (Of course, some women have fertility issues regardless of age, and may have no idea until/unless they start trying to have children).

        Also, why can’t the comments on this article just focus on being happy for her, instead of basically blaming her for waiting too long before she tried – I’m so tired of the shaming and fear mongering around fertility.

        This article in The Atlantic addresses this topic quite well:

      • minx says:

        I had my first at 39, my second right after I turned 47, with no fertility help. Every body is different.

      • RoyalBlue says:

        had my two at 38 and 40 years. my husband had to only sneeze on me and I got pregnant. and yes, they called it a geriatric pregnancy.

      • Valiantly Varnished says:

        @A thank you! Im so over the negative tone comments always take when it comes to women in their 40’s getting pregnant. If a woman is having a period and is ovulating she has a chance of getting pregnant. Stop treating women in their 40’s like they are old women.

      • Shirley Gail says:

        I was 29 when I got pregnant, 30 when I gave birth and they called me a geriatric pregnancy. He’s 37…….so things really haven’t changed. Men are still defining our “best before” dates….

      • Lua says:

        Actually, according to my obgyn she had a completely normal journey. It is 100 percent normal to try for a year. Months? Normal. Stress affects your body, she let go and bam. Got pregnant. Beyond one year or when you have miscarriages is when they start looking for something wrong. A lot of people are just doing it wrong (there are certain days during ovulation you are supposed to have sex). I did it wrong for months and once my obgyn corrected me we got pregnant almost immediately. No temperatures or ovulation kits, just knowing when to try. And I was 35. We’re having a “surprise” baby now at 38. And hubby’s having a surprise vasectomy next month to prevent any more 😂

      • ennie says:

        One thing: the eggs are best quality when the woman is younger, that means higher success percentage.
        When you have already had a kid, becoming pregnant at an older age is a whole different game than a first time pregnancy, the body already “knows” what to do.
        I was so confident about my opportunities to get pregnant at a later age, as I was born when my mom was 43. The hard news were delivered to me that it was different, she had her first at 34, and I could not have a successful pregnancy naturally or with apparently healthy embryos with IVF, no reason for our infertility whatsoever, even with a younger husband/sperm it did not work.
        I was sick of al the little pieces of advices “you need to hold/adopt a child because your uterus is cold”, you need to do this, do that… ughhh
        Life happens.
        Numbers are harder truths.

      • KL says:

        @ennie, cite your sources. “Best quality” really means nothing — what’s the rate of deterioration? Is it actually significant, or does it simply exist? (In the article linked above, it’s been found to be as low as 3% until age 45.) And saying getting pregnant once makes it easier to get pregnant older is confirmation bias to the belief the body “knows” what to do. What you really mean is, those women’s personal fertility was always strong and always would be through their lives, regardless of the first child.

        I am genuinely sorry for your struggles. But fertility really is so personal and so unpredictable, it’s much more than numbers.

      • Ennie says:

        The secondary infertility rate is around 30% +-against the primary infertility rate (over 60%) 🤷🏻‍♀️
        There is a matemathical reason (in my country) Insurance won’t cover fertility procedures beyond 34 years of age.
        I am not defending anything nor I need any pity.
        Many of these are anecdotes, versus reality and make some people wrongfully hopeful. I became a mother at 47. Not what I wanted, but I was going to be an older mother anyway.

      • Queen Meghan's Hand says:

        @Minx: No way! Really? That give me, a single 35 year-old woman, hope!

    • aang says:

      It is unpredictable. I have two close friends both in their early 40′s who had surprise pregnancies. One with her 4th child one with her 1st. Neither were trying and both thought they were “safe” because of their age. I quit using birth control in my early 40′s and my Dr always cautions me. She says as long as I am having regular periods there is a chance of pregnancy and that she sees women my age with surprises more often than I would think. My grandmother was born when her mother was 47, definitely a surprise, her oldest sibling was 25 when she was born. But it seems that when an older woman wants a baby it is hard.

      • Maxime duCamp says:

        @aang, years ago, when I was 40 and at the gyn for my yearly appt discussing birth control and I joked “funny thing is that I’m at the age where if I was trying to get pregnant I probably couldn’t” and she responded that 40 and over was her largest patent group with “oops pregnancies.” Not discounting that it can be difficult for many people to get pregnant as they get older but I’ve heard that for some woman there is a “surge” in fertility before the shop gets ready to close. I’m not sure if that’s true but I was born when my mother was 42 and had had her last viable pregnancy 17 years prior. She legit thought that she was going through early menopause.

    • This Here says:

      Yes, as someone going through infertility, I cringe when I hear “It happened when we let go”, particularly coming from someone who didn’t go through infertility. If it takes under a year for you to get pregnant, you didn’t have infertility problems.

      Every infertile person understands the stress of it not happening month after month, even before you hit that year target. But we then have to go through that fear being confirmed, often several losses, and years of trying and failing, sometimes with no baby to show for it in the end. “It’ll happen when you least expect it” is anecdotal bullshit.

      I am truly happy for anyone who gets pregnant that wanted that, but little sayings downplaying infertility hurt. It is a medical problem with a diagnosis (even unexplained infertility) and these tripes put the blame on the infertile person (If you didn’t want it so much, it would happen!). Nope, pregnancy doesn’t work like that.

      Also, anecdotally, I started trying at 26 years old and still have not had success at 31. Stop telling older woman that infertility is their fault.

      • Lisa says:

        That’s awful. It’s not easy at all.

      • dizzy says:

        I just came here to say thank you for posting this. We started trying when I was 36 and I am 44 now. We couldn’t afford to go to extreme lengths like IVF but we did everything up to it and none of it was easy. No baby. We are looking into adoption now, but Mena’s comments stung deep and I know I didn’t appreciate them.

      • Kate says:

        Same here – I hate hearing that for the same reason. Maybe if people could figure out what it is about “letting go” that makes it sometimes work out it wouldn’t feel so trite and unhelpful. Like does increased cortisol lower your fertility a lot? Is it more productive to just have sex every other day or every 3rd day for like 10 days after your period ends rather than figuring out your exact ovulation day and/or sexing too often? Let’s give specific, do-able advice not impossible suggestions like stop wanting what you want.

        When you want a baby, every month you have to wait to try again feels like a year. When you add in fear of not knowing whether something is physically wrong with one of you it can feel like an impossible ask to just “let go” and stop worrying. It’s impressive Mena was able to do that.

      • Suz says:

        @This Here – thank you for saying this.

      • This Here says:

        Dizzy, I am glad if my comment made you feel less alone! Infertility is so isolating.

        Kate, I don’t think Mena getting pregnant has anything to do with her letting go. She got pregnant because she was not using birth control and she (most likely) does not have fertility problems (again, infertility is when it takes over a year and she says she started trying at the beginning of the year).

        Anecdotes about infertile people getting pregnant right as they have given up, well those are just anecdotes. Sure, it happens because infertility does not always mean it is impossible to get pregnant, just that it is highly unlikely. Some people win the lottery, but most do not.

  3. SvB says:

    Awwwwe. Always like to hear about her. Good luck to them.

  4. fern says:

    after all that and you want to possibly throw it all away by having a home birth as a first time 41 year old mother? go to a hospital. have an unmedicated birth with your midwife in a place where a doctor can save yours or your babies life.


    • Züri says:

      I wasn’t going to comment on this at first, but mind your own business. Her body, her right. So long as she and her baby are healthy, it is her right to give birth in the manner in which she chooses. I would imagine she’s under a doctor’s care and there’s a good chance they are working with the midwife.

      I understand that there are risks with home births, but there are with hospital deliveries as well. So again, it’s not your place to judge how another woman wants to deliver her child. I’m sick of women infantilizing other women in this manner instead of offering support.

      • fern says:

        actually it is. i’m an obgyn. i’m the doctor responsible for these women when they get transferred to the hospital and we become responsible for saving the baby or mothers life with no information on anything that’s happened up to that point. i’ve seen seizures, dystocias and fetal death due to home births gone wrong.

        so yes. i will judge and comment that i think home births are unsafe and that you can have a “natural” birth in a safer place.

      • Lady Baden-Baden says:

        I’m with @Zuri. It doesn’t matter who you are @fern – in fact, I imagine your job may make your opinion more biased than most. As @Zuri says – her body, her right.

      • fern says:

        it is more biased but also i have more experience than most. she can do whatever she wants but i can also think it’s a bad decision. that’s my right and when you put your plans out there, people will share their own opinions. and my opinion is that it’s bad.

      • Lady Baden-Baden says:

        You may have more experience at one type of birth (hence the bias) – but OK, fine. MY opinion is you are judgemental and should maybe think again about commenting on a pregnancy announcement with ‘Ugh’ and implying her baby might die if she does things her way (especially considering you don’t know her full birth plan, just the basic details she offers in a celebrity interview).

      • Als Em says:

        Her body her right! I have had two home births… one just three weeks ago in the U.K. I know that if I had ever gone to the hospital, I would have froze up with so many random people in and out of the room. I was able to build a relationship with my two midwives throughout my two pregnancies and felt safe in their hands both times.

        The majority of home births are safe once the women are cared for by midwives. This has been written about and studied here in the U.K. Only ‘risky’ births are sent to the labour ward and handled by doctors. My friend, who is over 40, just had a baby via home birth on the NHS.

        Her body… her choice.

      • AMA1977 says:

        I hope this winds up in the right place…@Als Em, midwifery in the US and the UK are two vastly different animals. My understanding is that midwives in teh UK are highly trained, work under the supervision of a doctor, and are more akin to a nurse-practitioner. In the US, credentialing standards vary by state, and many midwives who attend home births have no hospital or doctor affiliations. Often they are ill equipped and untrained/unable to handle emergencies like Fern cited above.

        Homebirth for a first baby is risky here (the US) generally, because of the fact that midwives who attend homebirths operate in large part outside of the medical system, so they don’t have the equipment or personnel to handle an emergency, and if a patient is transferred to a hospital/doctor’s care, there is usually no patient history to consult. I would agree that it would be a safer choice to find a birthing center attached to a traditional hospital where they can proceed with an unmedicated birth attended by a nurse practitioner/midwife instead of a doctor if that’s her wish, but where she and the baby are steps away from the full suite of hospital medical care if needed.

        Disclosure; I had both of my babies in a hospital setting and would not choose otherwise. My daughter was born with the cord wrapped around her neck and required interventions to get her breathing. I was unaware when it was happening, and we are lucky that she is perfectly healthy, but my husband said it was the scariest thing he’d ever seen. If we had chosen a home birth, we might have lost her. She was my second of two uncomplicated, textbook pregnancies/births, and there was no way to tell until it was happening.

      • Züri says:

        @fern You are not her doctor, ergo not your place to judge. There are ways in which to phrase your comment without being disrespectful and infantilizing. “As an ob/gyn, it is my professional opinion that…” I come from a similar educational background as you and have learned to educate people and respect their wishes and values, no matter how much I might disagree with them. Yes, there are going to be messy cases where “we” have to clean up, but that’s the nature of the job. Two questions: did you forget the part of the Hippocratic Oath that requires you to fulfill a patients’ needs when required? And, do you disrespect your patients this egregiously?

      • Suz says:

        My sister and her baby were both healthy and the birth was going just fine until he tore her cervix on the way out and she hemorrhaged. My sister would have died and my nephew would be without his mother If she hadn’t already been in the hospital.

      • petra says:

        @Zuri. OB/GYNs have the highest level of expertise regarding pregnancy and complications of pregnancy. Their professional opinion and expertise matter more than a lay person. A 41 year-old woman who has never given birth before is at high risk for complications, and maternal mortality in the U.S. is high. Standards for midwifery in the U.S. are variable. And we are in a pandemic, where access to ICUs and hospitals may be limited depending on disease activity. These facts and more have led Fern to express an opinion, based on clinical expertise. The Hippocratic Oath is not based on customer satisfaction and making people feel good about their dangerous choices. It is grounded in reality and human pathophysiology.

      • Nikki* says:

        Do you think we should have a “live and let live” philosophy about people who don’t choose to vaccinate their kids? Some issues have health consequences, and it’s hardly intolerant or judgey to point out that things can go very wrong SO fast in a delivery, when being in a hospital means the difference between life or death, or a healthy child versus one who’s suffered irreversible brain damage. My son had the cord wrapped around his neck 2 times, and it was a matter of minutes before he’d have had permanent brain damage. An emergency C-section and a week’s stay in the ICU were the only reason I ended up with a healthy baby. There’s too much at stake to gamble.

    • Léna says:

      I’m with you Fern. In my hometown a midwife (or the french equivalent) was sentence to homicide because the home delivery went wrong and the baby died. Tragic situation that could have been avoided because the hospital was way too far to save the baby

      • Stacy Dresden says:

        No special or high risk factors and yet it is likely I would have not made it to the hospital in time for emergency surgery after the birth of my first child. Being a drive away from a surgical center can be a death sentence for mother or child.

    • Sunnee says:

      My mother had 8, and only 2 of us were hospital births. If I wasn’t born right after a hurricane I would have been born at home, but the house was destroyed and they were being housed with two other families.
      My grandmother was a midwife and delivered countless babies. Everyone in her town went to her.
      I also got pregnant with my 5th child one month after I had turned 40. I was in denial for three months. I thought I was in Pre-menopause, lol.

    • vanessa says:

      Thank you Fern. The safest place to have your baby is in the hospital. The risk of infant death and neurological damage is higher with home births. Of course everyone should make their own choices, but it’s hard to understand why anyone would take a chance on the life of their child. We talk a lot on this forum about science and statistics, but when it comes to home birth we should ignore the science and go with our feelings?

    • Maple 🍁 says:

      I completely agree with you
      I have no idea why anyone would want to risk their safety and the safety of their child and do a home birth.

    • didi says:

      thank you Fern for your comment, i dont know why people dont see you are giving factual information that could save someones life or their baby’s… im sure these celebrities have a lot more medical support on standby anyway, but romanticizing home births for your ‘everyday people’ is wrong in my opinion. i considered a home birth for myself for a bit, but its only after something goes wrong and i started reading more about it that realized how much the mortality and birth complication rates have decreased when hospital births became the norm! its an important achievement that has greatly contributed to better women’s health and i think it shouldnt be lightly dismissed.

    • LeiDub311 says:

      @Fern, I had my first at a hospital with a regular OB-GYN and my last two at a birthing center with a midwife, and let me tell you, I was safe and more cared for by my midwife than the OB. My OB suggested she sweep my membranes without telling me what it would really do to me right before she went on vacation so she wouldn’t have to bother delivering my baby who was early thanks to her. Also was threatened with a C-section at the hospital where they were pumping me full of pitocin to get my contractions going since my water had already broke thanks to my “doctor”. So quit telling people what to do.

      • Jordana says:

        @leid I’m so sorry you were threatened. I think this is the biggest reason women avoid hospital births. It’s hospitals that want to “manage” the birth. They want to manage it with a lot of unnecessary interventions. I think what a lot of women want is a safe place to labour, and have the hospital in the background in case medical intervention is necessary.
        I was also threatened by my doctor, she said she would do an episiotomy if I didn’t push “better”. I stopped pushing, looked at her and said “you will not cut me”. And that was the end of it. My daughter was born,perfectly healthy, and no one had to butcher me.
        Hospitals have their place in birthing, but most births don’t need interventions. My view in it was,yeah I’m in a hospital, but unless the baby and I are in danger, the doctors should be hands-off as much as possible.

    • ennie says:

      my mom lost her second child due to a bad doctor, he was lucky my parents decided no to go against him, but they’ve should.
      After that traumatic experience, she had 2 home births, me being the youngest.
      I heard accounts of my birth and I judged her because I was too big a baby and she risked both our lives. I could’ve ended with brain damage because it was a difficult birth. She already had had a slight infection during pregnancy that left me with a congenital eye cataract.
      Glad for both of us everything was ok, but we were lucky.

    • Delilah says:

      Thank you! Took the words right out of my mouth. All of that just to throw it all away with a home birth? I’ve never heard any sound reason to have a home birth given all the possible medical mishaps. Not wishing her ill.

      This “just let go” anecdote is very problematic. If medically you cannot conceive but still hope the doctors are somehow wrong and you’ll get lucky is disheartening. I think it interferes with the healing and moving on process if indeed one is barren. Me for instance—no way can I achieve a natural pregnancy. Before I had a Myomectomy I secretly hoped by some miracle it would happen for me. The denial of how impossible my situation kept me stuck. I just couldn’t come to terms with my infertility. The myomectomy helped me embrace my infertility. Otherwise, I’d be one of those infertiles reading this article and think it was my fault I haven’t experienced the great miracle of positive pregnancy test when least expected. It’s dangerously feeding delusion.

      • Nikki* says:

        Yes Delilah. Above, there’s a comment by another woman who was very upset by that unwelcome old chestnut “If you relax and stop worrying, you’ll get pregnant.” Very hurtful indeed.

    • Joanna says:

      I agree with you Fern. It boggles my mind that with all the medical advantages women in the US have over women in other countries, we choose to do home births. It’s insane to me

  5. wildwaffles says:

    There’s typo in the middle where you refer to her as “Meghan”.

    Congratulations to her and her husband. Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and delivery. Babies are awesome.

    • CuriousCole says:

      I caught that too! We’re all hoping Meghan gets a happy second pregnancy so it’s understandable.

      • Christa says:

        In pregnancies of advanced maternal age, the placenta ages more quickly. Even in normal pregnancies it becomes cloudier and chalkier by 42 weeks. The placenta is what delivers the nutients and oxygen. This aging process is why normal pregnancies are not recommended to go beyond 42 weeks and 39 weeks for advanced maternal age pregnancies. In advanced maternal age, intrauterine fetal death starts to exponentially increase after week 39.

      • KL says:


        Dude, those studies were done on white mice and rats. Not human women. No large-scale study with human subjects has been conducted on that hypothesis.

        And placenta calcification is more often found the YOUNGER the mother, as her body is not mature enough to provide nutrients to both herself and the fetus. The most common cause of premature calcification in adult pregnancies is smoking. So basically: being a smoker is an exponentially higher risk to pregnancy than age. Age carries risk, but let’s put it in perspective.

  6. Norman Bates' Mother says:

    Recently I’m terrified that I’m already getting too old for a first baby because I’m 31and it won’t be a good time to have a baby for a while due to financial reasons. But on the other hand – I don’t want to wait because I’m worried about the chances to conceive and about the baby’s health. Seeing all these older mothers gives me hope and peace of mind. I hope all will be well for them, although the home birth seems risky.

    • Green Desert says:

      31 is SO young, don’t worry. There’s a lot of misinformation out there about fertility. My provider educated me about some of this. Until age 40, you’re about as likely to conceive as you ever are (85% chance until 35, then 82% chance til 40). Many women still conceive without intervention in their very early 40’s. And many commenters here have shared their experiences of conceiving even later!

      I wasn’t ready until I was 37 and conceived right away and had a healthy pregnancy and baby!

    • Taylor says:

      Might help to track your cycle, I used Clue (app) for a long time and then just switched to the Apple Health app. I am 31 and pregnant now and not only was lucky enough to be fertile, but I think I was able to time the conception well because I had like 7 years of data to show when I would likely be ovulating. Lol. Might be something to ease that anxiety.
      I can also say that if my partner wasn’t already 42, I would have probably preferred to wait until 33-35ish age. I feel like there is still a lot of life out there and am slightly jealous my partner got to make it to his 40s and have SO much experience in his life prior to settling down.

  7. SJ Knows says:

    Congrats on the baby and Best of Luck, I say.
    It’s so nice to hear she is doing well, she kind of hit the huge PR machine when American Beauty was a B.O. hit.
    And, I was pg at 36 first time, you would not believe how many rude things I had said to me, you’d have thought I was 136 years old. Mind your own biz people.

    I never thought AB was an Oscar level movie but I no longer can see Kevin Spacey w/o and Ick response.

    Julia Stiles still rules because of 10 Things I Hate About You, I will watch it anytime it pops up.
    Heath and Julia had great chemistry, and Larry Miller as the Dad, lol.

  8. Keira says:

    People tend to assume that once the mother is of “advanced maternal age,” any infertility problems are hers however in my case we believed it was probably my then husband’s. After about eight months of trying, I conceived at age 40, immediately following using a sperm-friendly lubricant, which I happened to read about in a magazine. (Apparently, conventional lubricants or not kind to sperm.) Prior, he and I had gone through the battery of tests which indicated my systems were all a go, and he had not many, slow sperm.

  9. Eyeroll says:

    I love Mena! So happy for her and her family.

    That said, I absolutely agree with Fern the OB who called her out for having a home birth as a first time mom in the US (home birth in the UK is quite different from here). Yes her body her choice is something I get behind, but not in this context. I’m a NICU nurse and what I’ve seen will devastate you. These moms all think it’s worth the risk until it’s their child with nerve damage and sepsis and all the other awful complications. People see celebrities doing this and feel it’s validating of their choice. But these celebrities generally have access to better care than us mere mortals before during and after delivery. And not for nothing, but you know what is natural- maternal and neonatal death. Why risk everything?

    Thanks Fern for putting it out there.

    • whynot says:

      Agreed. Luckily we found out a few weeks beforehand that my baby was breech but something like that is extremely dangerous. It’s totally her choice but I don’t understand how she can take such a risk with what is likely her only shot at having a biological child.

  10. Lunasf17 says:

    Aww happy for them! 41 really doesn’t seem “old” anymore IMO. Especially since she obviously takes good care of herself and looks really fit. Obviously fertility is tricky but keeping yourself in good shape seems like it would help no matter what age.

  11. whynot says:

    I got pregnant within a few months of trying at age 38 and had my first kid – healthy pregnancy and child – at 39. I got pregnant again many times after that but lost them all. Another issue besides infertility is that your eggs do get older and may not be viable after 40. I hear stories of many women having their last child at 47 but I can’t go through it again with the large chance of another loss. We’re happy with one kid now.

    Many women in their early 40’s do have successful pregnancies but the odds are that even if you do get pregnant, you will likely miscarry. I’m very happy Mena is having a healthy baby but unfortunately it’s not in the cards for many others over 40.

  12. dlc says:

    She…doesn’t sound very bright. Omg, we tried for months! At 41 she was surprised it took a few months to get pregnant? And she’s a higher risk pregnancy and planning a home birth….AND the insensitive it happened when we let go comment? Smh.

  13. Sass says:

    When I was in high school, someone had carved in to a desk that they loved one of her brothers (I forget the first name, I think it began with an I): “I love ______ Suvari” I was like, ohhhhh, that’s right, she grew up here. (Charleston, SC.) Just a funny little bit of trivia.

    Congrats to her! That’s so lovely. 🥰

  14. Chocolatt says:

    Janet Jackson, hello!!

    My niece is 45, and having a baby in November, all natural. She looks like she is in her mid 30’s… Im 40, and people think I’m 28.

    Me and my fam look like Janet’s fam before the 80’s tho..🙂
    Maybe genetics has something to do with it, I don’t know..
    Mena should re evaluate the company she keeps. Bad energie Is not good for the baby.