Armie Hammer’s ex, Courtney Vucekovich: ‘I wasn’t safe… He’s not well’

Armie Hammer wears Calvin Klein at the 22nd Annual Hollywood Film Awards

I was waiting to see if one of Armie Hammer’s mistresses, girlfriends or victims (or all three) would give an interview. Before now, the stories of his abusive behavior and obsession with BDSM were mostly just copies of DMs which (frankly) were not all that verifiable. Now one of Hammer’s exes, 30-year-old Courtney Vucekovich, has spoken out to Page Six. Vucekovich dated Hammer from June to August last year, but she shrugs off the idea that she was behind any of the DM leaks to the “House of Effie,” which published a lot of submitted messages to and from Hammer’s other victims and girlfriends. She has seen the DMs and she says that none of them really surprise her, including the cannibalism messages. Vucekovich goes in further detail about Hammer’s weirdness and abusive behavior and a lot more. You can read the full Page Six piece here.

No really, Armie Hammer is into cannibalism: “He said to me he wants to break my rib and barbecue and eat it,” app founder Courtney Vucekovich exclusively told Page Six. “‘F–k that was weird,’ but you never think about it again. He says, ‘I want to take a bite out of you.’ If I had a little cut on my hand, he’d like suck it or lick it. That’s about as weird as we got.” [She says the cannibalism DMs didn’t shock her.] “He likes the idea of skin in his teeth,” she claims.

Her relationship with Hammer was not only weird and gross but also emotionally abusive. “He enters your life in such a big way. He’s such a captivating person. He has such a presence and he’s aware of that and he uses it in such a way that most women would think, ‘Oh my gosh, this is amazing,’ but especially young women, that’s kind of the scary part — how good he is at active manipulation and making you feel like he’s never felt this way about anybody. He quickly grooms you in the relationship. He kind of captivates you and while being charming, he’s grooming you for these things that are darker and heavier and consuming. When I say consuming, I mean mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, just everything.”

He’s an emotional vampire: Vucekovich claims Hammer is a “chameleon” who transforms into “exactly who you need him to be. He sucks out all the goodness you have left,” she said. “That’s what he did to me. I gave and gave and gave until it hurt.” Eventually, Hammer’s behavior turned “obsessive,” Vucekovich claims. At one point, she and Hammer spent three weeks together, 24/7, and when they weren’t together, she says, he would text her 100 times per day.

She wasn’t safe: “I wasn’t safe. He kind of makes it like, ‘I’m going to teach you things.’ I’m smarter than that, but where was I during that? I knew the whole time. I had this gut feeling the whole time that this was not right. He’s not well.” Vucekovich claims “The Social Network” actor would drink and do drugs “all the time,” which left her feeling compromised and scared. “He did some things with me that I wasn’t comfortable with. For God knows what reason, he convinced me that these things were OK and he put me in some dangerous situations where I was not OK, where he was heavily drinking, and I wasn’t drinking that way and it scared me. I didn’t feel comfortable. You end up doing things that are very out-of-character for you, including sex acts.”

She says he’s a profoundly broken man: “He makes you feel bad for him, and that’s really scary and keeps you [close to him],” she explained. At one point, Vucekovich found herself paying for everything, including gas for his truck, because he’s allegedly broke. “He needs you. He actually needs you. It’s a full-time job when you’re with him the way that I was. I was trying to catch my breath the entire time I was with him. You’re drowning in this dark hole trying to stay afloat. There will be random moments of good that convince you to stay.”

How it ended: Vucekovich said the relationship ended following an explosive fight and Hammer left. “He blows up [women’s] lives like that and walks away,” she said.

She needed help afterwards: She went into a 30-day partial hospitalization program for PTSD and trauma. “I didn’t want to carry that into my future,” she told Page Six. “As a strong mental health advocate, I knew that this relationship was something I needed to process with help from people who specialize in trauma and PTSD. That is my experience.”

[From Page Six]

Whew. I believe her. Lies, emotional abuse, sexual sadism, alcoholism and financial abuse all in a mere three-month relationship which left a 30 year old woman so traumatized that she had to go into intensive therapy. I’m sure a professional psychiatrist could do a better job diagnosing him, but the sexual sadism definitely leaps out as a big indicator of a massive, dangerous pathology at play.

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  1. Wiglet Watcher says:

    The intimate acts of 2 co denting adults aside… everything she and others have described in this Hammer mess are horrible! I hope more victims come out.

    • Ronaldinho says:

      It depends what consenting is.
      If you are love bombed and groomed – coerced and cajoled, frightened, overwhelmed.
      When does it stop being consenting and start being abusive? When do we realise? When do we stop hiding abuse as something consenting adults do?

      • Julie says:

        Well stated. I think we must declare violence beyond the realm of consent. The Dom engages at his own risk. If she decides that there was no informed consent despite explicitly granting it in the moment then the law should back her up. Only the sub should have the power to determine what was and wasn’t informed freely given consent and it should be a power she can exercise retroactively. Of course the prospect of being potentially declared a rapist afterwards would excite some of these sadists but I do think the increase in normalization has led many girls into performative pleasure because God forbid to you be labelled “vanilla”.

      • Evenstar says:

        @Julie

        So much falls under the terms “violent” and “Dom?” Do you consider a hand around the neck and spanking violent, or are you talking about intense sadism/masochism? And why are you assuming all Dominants are men? That is blatantly untrue. Let people like what they like. Consensual role play and scenes between educated partners is NOT what this is about. Plenty of people involved in the lifestyle on this site and elsewhere have come out to condemn this monster because he allegedly violated some of the core tenets of BDSM, especially safewords and aftercare.

      • Wiglet Watcher says:

        Ronaldinho
        Yes. Consent also means you’re not manipulated/coerced.

      • Julie says:

        @Evenstar I’m using pronouns that match the story we are discussing. I think even a five year old understands that you cannot legislate a crime solely against one gender so I’m confused by your confusion.

        Secondly, theres a legal definition to the word violence and yes, it would include slapping, choking, spitting on, spanking and yes, pulling hair. The sexual context should never have been allowed to shift the definition of violence or assault. If you don’t mind having these things done to you then simply don’t press charges. Those who do, should be allowed to file charges even if in the moment they went with it. The law should recognize the complexity of power dynamics, the prevalence of manipulation in sexual relationships, and the unforeseen physical and psychological harm. And the only way to do that is to place the power to redefine events in the hands of victim (aka the sub)

      • Evenstar says:

        @Julie

        What you are suggesting is dangerous, plain and simple. If someone fully, enthusiastically consents to a sexual experience with full knowledge of what is to happen and nothing beyond what was agreed to beforehand happens, it is completely unreasonable to allow someone to RETROACTIVELY withdraw consent and expect the other person to face consequences. How would that even work, legally? If one partner asks the other to slap hem hard in bed, and they do because they asked, and then a few months later the first partner retroactively withdraws their consent to that act and presses charges, how can you possibly justify that?

        Of course if in the moment there was not full, enthusiastic, educated consent, then that is abuse, and Hammer’s accusers made it clear they were manipulated and coerced, which is not consent.

      • Anna says:

        Thank you @Evenstar

    • Anony83 says:

      I think most responsible members of the BDSM community would look at the dynamic described above and *strongly* disagree that it sounds safe, sane, and consensual. Just saying.

      Also, I don’t know why he’s ALWAYS given me bad vibes. I can’t even enjoy Call Me By My Name (partially because I hate underage coming of age stories that revolve around sex with older people) but, like, that movie made me want to run into the scene and pull Timothee away from A.H. and I’m feeling like my instincts are being vindicated.

      But, still, good God.

      • Eleonor says:

        This.
        I am not fully in this lifestyle, but everything is based on consent and trust.
        Here I see drugs (which is a huge red flag for me) and sadism: a lethal combo for an abuser.

    • MM2 says:

      Agreed & many things were not consensual with these women & Armie, so that’s the issue.
      This story highlights society’s blind spot around these issues- agreeing to a bdsm relationship does not give the man the right to do whatever he wants to the woman, full stop. Armie ignored creating safe words, ignored the word no, and told women that he would not do certain things, then did those things. Agreeing to a kinky relationship does not give the man the green light to emotionally, psychologically & physically abuse the woman who gave her trust to him around something else specific.

  2. Elizabeth Pope says:

    He screams sadistic lust killer, like Bundy or Dahmer. Like, he’s literally telling us what he is: a psychopath who gets off on hurting people. I believe him & all the women.

    • Mac says:

      The cannibal fantasies say serial killer in the making.

      • (TheOG) Jan90067 says:

        I gotta say…made me wonder if there are small animal graves all over that family island in the Caymans that he grew up on.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      and it makes me wonder if there weren’t other, more vulnerable and anonymous women, like sex-workers who are working on the streets, that he took further advantage of.

      or even…I won’t say it.

      I hope that every woman who was a victim of this man comes forward with their story so there is NO WAY he can be like “well, ONE bitter ex said…” and so no studio will touch him ever again.

      • paranormalgirl says:

        He absolutely started with sex workers.

      • whatWHAT? says:

        yeah, I feared as much. and due to their relative anonymity, and their (please understand *I* don’t think this way!) relative low value to most people in society, he could easily have…um…”gone further” with one of them and no one would ever know.

        ugh, this makes me sick.

      • Sandra says:

        Yes, like American Psycho.

    • MF1 says:

      I 100% believe he is a psychopath. His charm, ability to manipulate, enjoyment of pain and violence, it all fits.

    • Sandra says:

      I have always felt that there is something off about him. Like he’s dead behind the eyes – sociopathic stuff. It goes beyond him being the most boring actor ever – there’s just nothing there with him.
      I was surprised when this woman said he has such a presence when you meet him. But that’s an abuser for you – they reel you in and charm you at first.

  3. Léna says:

    All of these stories remind me of the first chapter of any documentary about a rich white old male who killed his wife… Gross, awful for these women, but sadly not even surprising?

  4. Susan says:

    I used to find him SO attractive…and eew, I can’t even look at pictures of him now. His eyes terrify me. Maybe it’s projection but definite Ted Bundy vibes now.

    • lucy2 says:

      Same – he was really handsome in The Man From Uncle, and I so badly wanted a sequel to that, but now I never want to see his face again.

      • Betsy says:

        Yeah, now I feel bad having liked him in that. Ugh. That’s going to be a no-watch from me from now on. Ick. Ick ick ick.

    • Heat says:

      It kind of freaks me out to think that I would probably have fallen for that schtick, once upon a time.

  5. jbyrdku says:

    There’s a lot to unpack here, but I am genuinely curious about his possible diagnosis. I’m always curious about what factors have to converge to create the kind of pathology that’s on display here.

    • Julie says:

      Superficial charm hiding a disregard for others. Entitlement. Recklessleaving behind of evidence as if he was untouchable. Let’s start with clinical narcissist and definitely scores high on the dark triad.

    • Eenie Googles says:

      Well being raised in THAT family has to come with a walk-in closet of skeletons.

      • ArtHistorian says:

        Is his family famous? Your comment indicates that it is, and it is fucked up, so I’m curious what’s known about his family.

      • Billie says:

        As an art historian you would love to look up Armand Hammer, I think.

        He definitely dealt in Russian Art, which was probably a means of laundering money for the Soviet Union, art which was definitely not acquired in honest ways (it was all seized) The sheer volume of his access has led most people to speculate that he was a Soviet spy at worst, and a money launderer for the Kremlin at best.

      • Eenie Googles says:

        I’ve always been under the impression his family had strong Getty -family similarities in terms of its structure.
        I may be confusing them with someone else. But being THAT rich and THAT powerful (with origin stories THAT shady) has got to lead to some kind of messed up dynamic IMHO.

      • Laura says:

        I wonder if they’re mad that this idiot came along and wanted to be a famous actor and kind of put the spotlight on their family much more than it would have been otherwise.

      • julieJ says:

        How is he broke? I can’t figure it out. He’s steadily worked.

      • Deering24 says:

        Eenie Googles—yep, it’s the rare mega-wealthy family that doesn’t have psychological cray-cray out the backdoor. Dominating patriarchs seldom produce well-adjusted kids. I’m wondering just who groomed him the most. 😳😳

    • paranormalgirl says:

      solely based on the circumstantial evidence with no treatment of him, I would ballpark it as Narcissistic Personality Disorder with a side disorder of sexual sadism. And probably some antisocial personality disorder (of the psychopathic type) thrown in as a palate cleanser.

      • emma33 says:

        I’m interested in why you’d say Narcissistic Personality Disorder over anti-social. Could you elaborate a little?

        I was thinking the other way around, not sure why. To me, he doesn’t have some of the hallmark narcissistic traits like grandiose thinking, lack of self, extreme sensitivity to criticism, narcissistic rage. He seemed more sociopathic – charming, controling, sadistic, lack of empathy, disorganized. The way he just coldly cuts off relationships when he’s done also seems to be more anti-social than narcissistic. (But, I’m no professional in this area!)

      • paranormalgirl says:

        I didn’t say NPD over ASPD. I think there are elements of both. There appears to be grandiose thinking, not taking responsibility, an amount of gaslighting… there’s definitely a sensitivity to criticism. The ASPD shows itself to me as more psychopathic. But again, I have never had a conversation with him, I have never treated him, and I am only going by reports of his behavior and reactionary behavior. This is why I try to steer clear of armchair diagnoses most of the time, because as a practitioner, I know a good diagnosis takes time .

  6. Mrs. Peel says:

    This Hannibal Lecter wannabe is scaring the bejesus out of me.

  7. Wowza says:

    I used to find him incredibly attractive as well. If he’d messaged me on instagram, I too would have jumped right in.
    He sure does have a type, huh? Vucekovich, his ex wife, the House of Effie girl – they all look pretty much the same to me, it’s almost scary.
    I would imagine that whatever is wrong with him is worsened by the drinking and now drugs. One of his victims posted on Insta that his fantasies started getting really violent around 2018. It seems that he has been increasingly spinning out of control for years.

    • Darla says:

      If a celebrity ever messages you anywhere I hope you would proceed with great caution. IMO it is almost always going to be predatory.

      Tho I do admit very few want to BBQ you and eat you. Still…

      • HeyJude says:

        ^1000% this as someone who’s worked with them.

        Their are chill celebrities but those type of people wouldn’t contact random people via DM cause that would be weird.

        The odds that a celebrity would contact a regular person that way out of the blue with noble intentions is almost nil. Only the creepy ones would go that direction and it’s more likely they wanna Cosby you, or a kidney, or for you to join their cult.

  8. Watson says:

    Dude is a predator. End of story.

  9. Donna Cipolla says:

    He’s a sick man. Someone needs to step in and get him help before he does something horrible.

    • Watson says:

      This may seem callous but I’m more concerned about the hordes of women he’s terrorized and who didn’t have the financial means to get therapy afterwards. He emotionally abused them, shared intimate photos of them amongst his friends, battered them financially.

      This man doesn’t need help before he does something horrible. He is the definition of horrible to me.

      • lucy2 says:

        Both need to happen. Those women need help to deal with what he did to them, and he needs help to stop hurting people.

      • HeatherC says:

        That is exactly what’s going to happen. It’s textbook reparative PR. He’s going to enter a 28 day “intensive” program for something, then give a glowing interview to People magazine about “conquering his demons” and “he’s sorry for anyone he inadvertently hurt” along with a cover. Watch this space.

      • Donna Cipolla says:

        I don’t disagree with you I just know he has young children and I’m afraid for them and anyone else he comes across.

  10. Alessandra says:

    He is garbage. This goes beyond kink and he need to be held accountable for the abuse he inflicted upon the women. This all brings up memories of when I was a teenager. This one kid because he was also a teenager as well did this same shit. The lies, head games and manipulation…pushing girls to see how far they would go for him. These women are so brave and I’m glad they are speaking out. I’ve kept my own pain hidden for years.

    • Noodle says:

      @alessandra, I honor you for speaking out about your own situation. I know it’s hard to admit, especially with an audience you don’t know. Thank you for bringing to us this awareness.

  11. Bettyrose says:

    Unchecked privilege. Even now, what will be the consequences? He’ll still be rich, he’ll still be famous. He’ll still have access to plenty of women whose eventual pleas for help will be unheeded. Let’s just hope he doesn’t run for president.

    • Wowza says:

      I thought the same. I don’t see anything happening to him legally. He has not actually been accused of anything that could be proved as illegal. But I do think his career is destroyed. I don’t see him coming back from this, he has a lot of projects lined up, and I think he’ll be dropped from those eventually too. No one wants to be associated with this mess and rightfully so.

      • Esmeralda says:

        Maybe I’m being naive, but I’m also hoping he’s done for, career wise. Hollywood can source another tall blonde American without the same baggage, he’s not this great irreplaceable talent.
        Hopefully his family will want to contain the scandal and will have him long term removed to an appropriate facility, well away from public interaction and potential victims.

      • Deering24 says:

        He hasn’t had nearly enough hits for Hollywood to overlook _this_. Tom Cruise-bankable he is not.

  12. C-Shell says:

    This is sickening, and I’m feeling awful that I have found him so attractive over the years, watching The Man From U.N.C.L.E. countless times largely because of his performance. I hope that more women come forward and we see a Weinstein, Cosby Effect that leads to criminal prosecution.

  13. BB8 Squirrel says:

    Ugh the more and more comes to light about how he treats women, the more I’m disgusted. I’ve discussed how sick he is emotionally and physically but I can’t believe that he was draining these poor women financially dry as well. I’m sure that just gave him more power in the couple dynamic that he was able to get women to buy him things.

    The dude has .0001% money. He for sure gets trust fund $$ from his family as much as he denies it.

    • Mindy_Dopple says:

      I’m still stuck on the financial draining as well. He HAS money but he made them believe or FORCED them to use their own money. So that they would feel needed, it made me think of one or two of my friends relationships where that seemed to be the case. Always paying for things then finding out later their partners had been stashing away their own funds and lying about their financial situation.

      • Lurking says:

        I’m stuck on the money thing too! I’m not buying that he’s truly broke but it is possible that he might not have be financially stable.

        He was married to Liz for 10 years and she could be getting a big one-time cash payment. If he’s failed drug tests during the divorce proceedings, it’s possible his access to their joint funds was restricted.

        Also if he’s “constantly” doing drugs + drinking, and has a taste for the expensive stuff (which you know he would), he could have easily blown through millions in the course of months.

        Even though he’s from a very wealthy family, his parents and/or trustees can restrict his access to those funds.

        I’m sure how his family manages their money but I’m guessing they have it with an investment firm given their level of wealth. Getting access to investment firm accounts isn’t always quick. My husband is from a generationally-wealthy family and when he wants to make a withdrawal from his trust fund, he must write a letter about what the money will be used for and submit related budgets + research, which is then reviewed and approved by the firm. Sometimes they do ask for more information and will not approve requests that look like a bad investment (e.g., investing in business that doesn’t pass the sniff test). The process from writing the request to getting the check in hand usually takes a few weeks.

        If somebody is an addict and the investment firm is notified of this, they can also apply more scrutiny and safeguards when they get a withdrawal request. My husband’s cousin is an addict and is not allowed any cash from his trust. He’s been able to use it to buy a house and pay for his kids tuition, but the money is directly wired to a 3rd party and his bank account remains low.

      • BB8 Squirrel says:

        @lurking:

        You’re totally right in that he could have a short leash financially with the divorce/situation and that’s why he was crying poor. However, the other women who stepped forward on house of Effie also claimed they were financially drained as well. This was while he was still married between the years of 2016-2020. The dude has cash and can pay to gas up his car. No one in his position needs to be begging for money.

      • February-Pisces says:

        I found the money thing very strange. His family is worth billions and even if they cut him off, he still has his movie money and does work on high profile projects, so there’s no way he’s broke. I read a fuller description from the woman about this and she said he lived in a rent free pool house, which I imagine isn’t where’s he’s really living being married with kids, but most likely used a friends pool house as a f*ck pad. Also he maybe worried about leaving a paper trail with these women in case his wife found out, plus it’s evidence. Also he managed to brainwash these women to such an extent that they would have done anything for him. Maybe it was a test of loyalty. He probably got a kick out of seeing broke women foot the bill.

      • Deering24 says:

        Money is just another form of control/punishment for this guy. Most likely, he used sources of pleasure to punish because pleasure is no longer enough—or he’s never been able to even feel pleasure. And given there’s a strain of rabid right-wing religion in his family, well… Everything truly isn’t everything. And F. Scott Fitzgerald was dead-on with his “The rich are different” analysis. 😳😳

      • Sandra says:

        I agree that it’s either he forced them to use their own money – draining their finances and making them more powerless in his eyes – or it’s a Johnny Depp situation where he had a bazillion dollars and blew threw a lot of it with his drinking habit.

    • Keen Kate says:

      I found the money thing odd too.

      I’d heard a few years ago that he regularly cheated on his wife with women he would message online. He would meet up with them for rough sex and take photos of their makeup smeared faces afterwards. However, he was said to be extremely financially generous with them, sugar daddy style. Did he burn through his readily accessible cash?

    • HeyJude says:

      I’m not so sure, both of his parents are fundamental Christians. They might have cut him off with his penchant for drugs, drink, cheating, and women.

      And just look at a list of big actors who’ve gone bankrupt. Yes, a person can really burn through their movie money very quickly.

  14. WintryMix says:

    I am 100% pro-kink but this has nothing to do with kink at this point. She is describing textbook abuse perpetrated by a mentally ill, emotionally disturbed person with a substance use disorder. Yikes. I’m really glad she recognized the need for professional treatment to help her move forward and I’m grateful the article included that—more people need to understand that help is available for this kind of traumatic experience.

    • Wowza says:

      It goes way beyond kink and BDSM. I just read that the difference between someone engaging in BDSM and a sexual sadist is that individuals practicing BDSM seek to provoke pleasure in their partner(s) with the (moderate or simulated) pain/humiliation that is involved, whereas a sexual sadist does not. A sexual sadist takes pleasure in the physical or psychological suffering of another person. That, I believe from having read the messages and descriptions of this man, describes him perfectly.

    • sunny says:

      Absolutely to all of this. I hope there are consequences for his behaviour’(doubtful) and I hope he gets help because this is probably weighing a lot on his family.

  15. Belig says:

    The whole part about “He quickly grooms you in the relationship” makes me think back to Lily James and how she might have had just that done to her… twice? To me, Dominic West has the same kind of gross, predatory energy to him as his dude…

    • Darla says:

      I was thinking about this too. I don’t know if there was any affair though, could have just been rumors. It started looking like a pile-on to me once the pics of her and West were published. It does make me wonder what she went through last year though. I don’t know.

      • Ann says:

        The people on set said they were very flirty with each other, and his wife alleges it. I have no idea if it’s true. James went through a sort of prolonged break-up from a five year relationship with Matt Smith starting around that time (and ending, I think, right before the West thing). She was probably vulnerable. West doesn’t give off THAT vibe to me but there is something off there too.

        James also lost her father when she was a teenager and took his first name as her stage surname. I’m not saying she has Daddy Issues but I did find it unusual that a young actress who surely has plenty of dating options would go for a married guy that much older than she is….one who has played her father twice in acting roles.

      • Darla says:

        Ann I totally agree, West doesn’t give off Hammer-cray vibes,but there is something off. And the daddy thing coupled with the breakup, yeah. Well, I hope she’s okay.

      • Dollycoa says:

        Thats a good point actually. Or she has some real self hatred issues both these douchebags were drawn to. Two smug nasty pieces of work in the space of a year, both married sounds like shes either a horrible person or has serious issues.

    • whatWHAT? says:

      “To me, Dominic West has the same kind of gross, predatory energy to him as his dude…”

      YES. and the way West was so nonchalant about standing next to his wife grinning smugly wearing the same clothes when he was snapped with James. I could TOTALLY see him being like Hammer.

      • Lisa says:

        Trust me, West doesn’t need to groom anyone. He is probably the most charismatic actor out there in person. Women throw themselves at him. I’ve seen it.

      • Darla says:

        Really Lisa? I don’t see it onscreen but that’s interesting. Huh.

      • Dollycoa says:

        That was gross. He must have kissed her goodbye at the airport, driven home to his wife and gone and done that ridiculous photocall. He didnt even bother to lie to defend her and say it was misconstrued. It was just a humungous, public slut shaming of her.

  16. Case says:

    I hate to make generalizations, but his eyes give off a detached, serial killer vibe to me. Always have. There’s no warmth there. I absolutely believe Courtney and I hope she’s doing better now.

  17. Onomo says:

    Wow. Just wow. I knew he was an ahole and narcissistic when he just abandoned his wife and two young kids in the middle of a pandemic to go date women and do construction with friends but this is sickening and my heart goes out to those women he abused.

    I hope the survivors are prioritized in all of this and get the help and safety they need, like Tarana Burke says.

    Also – The Loveland Foundation provides therapy for a year for women and Serena Williams also started a Purple fund I think it’s called to help women escape domestic abuse. I feel like I need to donate after reading these stories.

  18. Implicit says:

    He’s frightening good to know

  19. MM2 says:

    I am a big proponent that people can break the sick cycles in their families and are not responsible for their family’s sins. I also think our familial cycles impact us deeply, and if we don’t have awareness, we are bound to recreate these patterns. I was not surprised to read that Armie comes from a line of sick men who have had the hand in the death of women before. The boy is not alright & applaud these women for warning other women.

  20. Rachum says:

    I do think it’s necessary to believe women but at what point did it become acceptable to armchair diagnose someone with all kinds of serious mental illnesses and make assumptions about their nature based on what is thus far conjecture? This isn’t just harmless gossip calling him a creep etc. there are words with a lot of power being cast upon him and I wonder if that’s fair when the labels hold such weight?

    • Onomo says:

      I try to center the victims. He’s a very very rich, white, cis hetero male. He’ll be fine and has all the money and time in the world to get help if he so chooses. Someone erroneously labeling someone powerful (remember when people said it was wrong to label trump too?) doesn’t erase their harmful actions.

      If he ever took accountability and apologized then what you said would maybe start to matter.

    • MM2 says:

      I don’t understand why someone would want to paint numerous victims stories & proof in the form of texts, voicemails & pictures as “conjecture”. That is what you should be wondering is or is not acceptable. You are correct, this is not harmless gossip & packaging it as such would be a disservice to us all.

    • Myra says:

      There’s a reason I haven’t sought out those DMs. This isn’t the type of gossip I can get behind. It’s gross. I appreciate the discussion around it however as it can help other young girls/boys to identify red flags in their own sexual/BDSM relationship. Even if people don’t want to join on the bandwagon of calling out Hammer directly, it’s important to point out that what is being described here by the ex-girlfriend and the anonymous account oversteps the boundaries of consent, it is absolutely manipulative and yes it is sexual sadism aimed at torturing and humiliating the victim. Since the ex-girlfriend has called him out openly by name and has said that she required treatment after only a three months relationship with him, I believe her.

      • cassandra says:

        @ Myra

        Same. I’ve read the commentary and the articles on the situation but I’m refusing to read the actual messages he sent. I don’t need that in my brain right now

        Also anybody remember a few years ago when he got in deep shit because he told a magazine his wife liked to be tied up? This puts that in a whole new light

  21. a reader says:

    Good lord this interview triggered me big time. I have said almost the exact same things about my sociopath ex.

    And I don’t say that lightly. My ex was an actual sociopath and I recognise everything this woman spoke of.

    Women of the world, RUN FAR AWAY from this man.

    • Tink says:

      Same here, @a reader, same here! Reading what she wrote just gave me chills, and not in a good way. Good for her for realizing that she needed professional help to process what she had been through with him.

    • Andrea says:

      @a reader Same! I had a sociopathic ex who stalked me for years and was a professor who would groom 18 year old girls I later found out. Scary stuff!

  22. jferber says:

    He is such a shit person. He sounds like he’d make a good suspect in unsolved serial killings.

    • Deering24 says:

      Counting down to the inevitable L&O: SVU take… And Criminal Minds covered a couple of perps like him.

  23. Gobo says:

    Skin between teeth. Sounds like Armie’s a biter.

  24. Valerie says:

    What’s even scarier about this is that he will probably escape the consequences. He’s a rich white dude.

  25. KhaoManee says:

    Jesus. This is so disturbing. I feel awful for the women he has abused. Hopefully his career is over.

  26. Coco says:

    Yeah, even if never acts another day in his life. materially he’ll be fine.

  27. Filmie says:

    Sounds like a classic malignant narcissist / sociopath borderline psychopathic behavior

  28. Mtec says:

    This is deeply disturbing, and he’s a danger to women. I wish it was easier to hold people like him accountable. Sounds like he’s been testing and abusing boundaries for years and the longer it goes unchecked the more dangerous he will be, not to diminish the trauma he has already caused, ’cause it’s evident that’s been plenty.

  29. AmyB says:

    I am involved in the kink and BDSM lifestyle, including the masochist/sadism dynamic in terms of the Dominant/submissive relationship (with me being the submissive) THIS? is soooo fucking beyond what kink and BDSM is!! Consent is the cornerstone to everything about BDSM!! I do agree that some broken people are drawn to this lifestyle, because they fully don’t comprehend the dynamics, but manipulation, emotional sabotage, narcissism, and the other disturbing things this woman describe as Armie Hammer’s behavior is horrifying – and depicts nor represents NOTHING of kink or a Dom. It is psychologically dangerous, and he clearly sounds like a psychopath. And the addition of what sounds like a substance abuse addiction, and the manipulation of money on top of all of that – Good Lord – he is very damaged and should be avoided at all costs! Thank goodness this woman got away, and got some therapy to help heal herself from the trauma of that experience.

    Kudos to her!! I will never be able to watch his movies again!! UGH – so gross!

    • emma33 says:

      thanks for your perspective. I’ve never thought before of how the BDSM lifestyle would attract predators like him. I think the key difference is that what you’re describing of the lifestyle, it sounds like it is for pleasure, whether you are the dom or the sub, with a clear understanding of boundaries and the fact that it is ‘play’. I hope I got that right? This guy, OTOH, sounds like a sexual sadist and a manipulator, he’s out for control and it has NOTHING to do with pleasure on his partner’s part.

    • LondonGal says:

      THIS to infinity. As a domme, I can tell you everything this man is doing to these women is the opposite to anything the BDSM community would recognise. Consent and trust are utterly key and the driving forces behind the sexual and emotional intimacy and deep bonds that BDSM couples create and enjoy together. This man is a sexual sadist who is also highly sociopathic. He displays the vast risk taking behaviours we would expect to classically see, as well as the utter lack of remorse or guilt even when it is made clear he has caused harm and distress. He weaves like a true narcissist, having carved out a home for himself as a misunderstood maverick genius. He is dangerous. Chambers is to be viewed both seperately and alongside him, as it is becoming clear she has facilitated his continued abuse of women but we must also remember she was abused by him herself. I used to love him, now I genuinely hope this ends his career.

  30. ME says:

    There is a video of him cracking open a beer while driving. This man does not give a f*ck. It’s too bad because one of my fave movies is “Call Me By Your Name”. Now whenever I watch it I’ll think of him taking a bite out of Timothee…yikes !

  31. Mar says:

    He be looking creepy as hell

  32. Caroline Zhang says:

    He sounds very much like my ex. The love-bombing during the infatuation phase, crossing your boundaries but framing his narrative so that you find yourself making excuses for him. Its a rabbit-hole as some people will strive to be unhappy no matter what sacrifices you make to help them.

  33. Sushiroll says:

    I just want to point out that this woman, Courtney, has voiced her ordeal in a very eloquent and thoughtful way. Her words hit VERY hard. I for one am very grateful she is speaking out, but her ordeal sounds nothing short of devastating. She’s doing a service of education to absolutely EVERYONE by outing this bastard. Fuck anyone who hurts others in this vile manner.

    Mad props to her and I hope she and all the women that have experienced sadistic abuse heal and lead awesome lives.

  34. Deering24 says:

    Sheesh. Who knew Maxim de Winter was more bad news than Rebecca? :/

  35. Deering24 says:

    Jesus. If he’s the end product of his family’s pathologies, imagine what their secret history is like. And what the person/people are like who groomed him. 😳😳

  36. Jayna says:

    OMG I just read all of those text messages he wrote. What a sicko. Cannibalism and so graphic about it? If I received texts like that, I would change my number and move ASAP.

  37. Viktoria says:

    So I am not sure I believe all that is floating around the internet is real and in today’s environment shit gets shared so quickly – nonetheless if even half of that is true it’s clear that he has issues. Also I believe 100% he was whoring around outside his marriage because I believe pretty much all celebs do (even the „good“ ones) because it’s simply too easy…so my first thought when it came out that he had in fact had what appears to be multiple lovers wad that I hope all of the get tested immediately…maybe I do him injustice but he doesn’t strike me as the type to insist on a condom and my god I don’t even want to think about where that d*** has been. So yeah, I hope they all got tested and none have a STD. Also have any of you guys seen the videos from his private Insta on the daily Mail? Like the one where he has a hooker/lover waiting on all fours on the bed while he is describing the room. In another he is bragging that the court ordered drug test he must do to see his kids doesn’t test for all the drugs…dude obviously has a mental breakdown and spirals out of control my god what a waste…

    • Liquorice says:

      Yes, reading all of these stories about Hammer’s amazing extracurricular program (how the heck did he get all that time?! his wife must have been doing all the looking after the kids), one of the thoughts that frequently occurred to me was how all these ladies better get thoroughly tested. In one of the alleged DMs he was talking about kissing his wife after eating that “kitten’s” a**. I nearly threw up. I feel sorry for the wife.

      And yes, his FINSTA (private instagram) appears all about bragging about his sex life and drug taking to his friends, who must all be just as deep, intelligent, and reflective as Mr Hammer seems to be.

      Just to add, if his aunt Casey’s allegations (detailed in a memoir) are 100% factual (and I don’t know anything about any of this and have no reason to doubt it’s not factual but just have to put a caveat out there as I haven’t read the book and have only read 2ndhand opinions online), Armie’s father comes from a very dysfunctional family and Armie might have had a seriously dysfunctional upbringing himself.

  38. True says:

    I always believed that Hollywood hotties were very rotten, that industry people take care of them only for their appearance or popularity. If Harley Weinstein had a more handsome appearance, they would not blame him for abuse, but for sex addiction.