I first saw Tabitha Brown in a Buzzfeed video about vegan cooking. Her personality is amazing, she’s more than just an “influencer” and she makes me want to go vegan. We’ve covered her before, when she was putting out a vegan cookbook and an inspirational book. She just seems like a lovely person and she often goes viral for her videos giving inspirational quotes in her soothing voice.
Tabitha is also an expert in that particular way Christian southern women have of shading someone by praying for them. In fact she just taught a master class in it. Wendy Williams, who often attempts to drag women who are way out of her league, used Tabitha in her “Hot Topics” segment on Thursday. You can see that in the video below, I’ve queued it up to that part. Wendy basically said Tabitha’s marriage was going to fail because Tabitha told her husband he could retire from the LAPD after 15 years and pursue his dreams. Wendy’s audience clapped for Tabitha after hearing that, but Wendy shook her head “no” and projected her own issues onto Tabitha’s marriage. Wendy said “I was married to one of those. Go live your dreams, but stay with me. I see how that turned out.” Plus Wendy mocked Tabitha’s amazing voice. It was all very weak, like the time she tried to come for Dionne Warwick and got her ass handed to her.
Tabitha went viral for her incredible response to Wendy. She posted a video where she said she’s been with her husband for 23 years, that they started out broke together and that he worked so she could pursue her dream. Now that she’s successful he can retire to do what he wants like they planned. Then Tabitha prayed for Wendy and said she hoped Wendy would find a love like she has! It was awesome. You can see Tabitha’s response above and here’s most of what she said. I went overboard typing this because I love her.
First of all Wendy Williams, God bless you. People sent me a little clip and I said ‘oh my God, the pain this woman must be in.’ Wendy, the pain you must be in to feel this way and I’m so sorry.
23 years I’ve been with my husband. Broke for a very long time, together. Struggled for a very long time, together. Succeeded for the last couple of years, together. My husband took a job… 15 years ago to help support my dream… This was an agreement that my husband and I had. I told him 15 years ago… I’ll be able to take you out of there so that you’ll be able to pursue one of your dreams that you love. I was his dog in the fight and he believed in me… I did every year with him at LAPD and he did every year with me, with rejection and nos in this entertainment industry…
This is my prayer for you. I pray that love finds you, true love, I pray it finds you and it holds you tight. I pray that someone will love you enough to see you when you are not well. To see you when you need true support… I pray that somebody loves you enough to sacrifice their life for you. I pray that type of love finds you so that you can understand why I don’t want my husband to put his life on the line any more wearing a bulletproof vest if he don’t have to. I want him to be safe. I want him to coach children the way he wants to. My husband has a nonprofit…
We should all pray for people like Miss Wendy and others who have either been so hurt or never found a genuine love that fills their heart with such compassion and joy… Now, I want ya’ll to go about your business and have the most amazing day and even if you can’t have a good one don’t y’all dare go messing up anybody else’s.
I want a relationship like that! What an amazing story Tabitha has. Her husband isn’t retiring to go have a second family like Wendy’s ex, he’s doing charity work with kids! I need to learn how to respond to people like this. It’s like smothering your enemies with a concrete truck full of caramel. This is how Tabitha Brown makes enough money so her husband can retire. She’s so phenomenally good at responding to this bullsh-t and at telling her story. In fact in the last post I wrote about her I wondered why she didn’t have her own show. It’s coming, just wait.
Wendy’s segment on Tabitha (it should start at that point, but if not it’s at the very end):
Petition to replace the Wendy Williams show with the Tabitha Brown Show
— Sahil Alvarez (@SahilAlvarez) July 1, 2021
Tabitha Brown done told Wendy Williams “mind ya business, heal, and find real love you, sad, miserable bitch” but in the King James version. 😭 https://t.co/IEv4tQsX6M
— Richie D’Menace ✨ Lykaaa (@_RichieDinero) July 1, 2021
I don't even know what Wendy Williams said about Tabitha Brown and her man, but when Tab started that IGTV with "God bless you" and "Wendy, the PAIN you must be in" I said "wait lemme go make a cup of tea and settle in"
— vivrant thing (@beequammie) July 1, 2021
This is a post from Tabitha’s husband, Chance. His Instagram is full of genuine love and support for his wife. They have two children, Choyce and Queston.
What an absolute Queen.
It was masterful. And what’s even better is I believe Tabitha is being sincere. Not just “bless your heart”ing Wendy, but truly hoping good things for her. That makes me love her even more.
exactly. tabitha is amazing. i found her during the pandemic and watched her even though i’m not on social media. she helped me leave an abusive partner by reminding me what’s important in life when my own parent had been sick and unable to remind of these things for years. and wendy williams mindset is what is wrong with this world. it’s not good for her to have a platform. tabitha for justice. peace out.
I’ve never heard of Tabitha before, but this was an absolute master class. And with true positive energy and good vibes pouring out of her. I will be following Tabitha from here out!
@local russian hill I’m so happy that Tabitha gave you that help to find your strength. Wishing you all the best.
THIS, exactly. There isn’t an ounce of malice in her statement, she’s such a kind, emotionally mature person. Love her to bits (and her vegan cooking really helped me during the panorama, when I was just having pasta for every meal, even in breakfast fritter form… not ideal).
How on earth could you begrudge a woman the opportunity to let her husband retire from police work, especially a black man in LA?
Right? I’m puzzled as to why Wendy would take any issue with that, other than, as Tabitha said, she’s projecting her own pain and issues.
Tabitha seems delightful, and how nice that her husband is going to retire and focus on coaching kids.
Jealous.
She’s just projecting her own experience and pain..she gave her husband financial freedom and he thanked her by cheating on her and humiliating her. I understand her knee jerk reaction but those feelings would have been better shared with a therapist than a national audience.
This is classic “hurt people hurt people.” She’s hurt, so she wants to hurt Tabitha. But Tabitha is a whole fully formed woman with faith in her marriage. She’s not going to play the game.
Yes, exactly.
Whew. I watched the entire video of Miss Tabitha’s gathering of Wendy and felt it in my SOUL. I have never seen a reading so on point and REAL. I hope Wendy listens for her sake.
Black twitter was all about this yesterday. So many hilarious tweets.
On a serious note, i love this response to Wendy because it is so accurate. I hope Wendy takes a moment for self-reflection but I doubt it.
I spent a ton of time reading those! They were epic!
Wendy likes to crap over everyone. I get that she’s bitter about what happened to her but you don’t have to view everybody else through the same toxic filter.
wendy is truly toxicity personified.
Been following Auntie Tab for more than a year because she is a bright light in the world. Her recipes are on point and the products she promotes are all terrific (looking at you Symphony Chips). She needs to run a clinic for people like me who would have respnded with a tirade full of expletives.
Sidenote: Can WW just be put out to pasture already?
Why do people listen to her? I agree with you, put her out.
I only know her from blog posts or articles. Never seen her before but I am in Canada. How is she on air? How does she have a show? She’s awful. Such a bully. Why do people like that???
Tab’s energy and voice are a salve to the soul.
She read her for filth & so sweetly. You have to be pretty unhappy to be as as nasty as Wendy & Tabitha got to the heart of that
Girrrrl, that was some grade A Southern shade Mrs. Brown threw. Beautiful. Genuine. Necessary.
I hadn’t heard of Tabitha prior to this post. I am now a fan. Her viewpoint towards other people’s pain coming out as anger and hatred – it’s phenomenal and aspirational. And the tweets you posted made me laugh (“King James version…) Thank you for sharing her!
I never heard of her before this, but she seems so great and I am buying her cookbook.
Shallow moment: As far as I can tell, Tabitha is wearing little to no makeup in that clip, and still looks radiant. She has a gorgeous smile.
But anyway, as snappy as her response was, I can believe that she means it genuinely, and it didn’t come across as mean-spirited. She’s just that happy and confident with her own place in life, that she doesn’t feel the need to make personal attacks or slap down someone less fortunate in their relationships.
Shallow moment pt 2: her husband is a veryyyyy attractive man.
They are a gorgeous couple inside and out
@cassandra agreed. He is so handsome, she is radiant, and together they are just fire.
Tabitha is an angel. What a perfect response.
Tabitha is a true treasure. I’ve been following her since she made me want to try to make her vegan carrot bacon (yes really!) a few years ago. Her voice is so calming, she’s been though so much in her life yet she brings an incredible joy and positivity to her corner of the internet. I wish her all the good things, and her marriage seems solid.
Wendy seems so deeply, deeply unhappy. Why she would pick on tabitha and her husband is beyond me. I’m taking notes on how Tabitha responded. This is goodness. I don’t think she meant it for shade at all. She’s a genuine person.
@Abby
I suspect jealousy.
I also suspect this Wendy person, (i have no idea who she is or what she does TBH) from what I am reading here, has been deeply wounded and has a real problem with happily married people. “I’m miserable, you should be too”
In any event, Ms. Brown pulled a chapter from the Southern women i grew up with. Kill her with kindness and move on. If she were my Mom, Wendy’s name would go up on the “board of concern” at her church and have ALL them Southern Baptist women praying for her
Whereas I would call her out. Loudly. Daily. With lots and lots of cues words
I adore Tabitha, too. I found her during the pandemic explaining some vegan meals, and then some of her videos on movement really touched me. She spoke about how she has had chronic pain for years due to injury, and how she deals with good days and bad days. She talked about her mom’s struggle with ALS, and how it made her appreciate that ability to move, to give hugs, etc. She’s really such a special person. Her energy is so benevolent and filled with grace.
I appreciate the shade, but is it weird I was also tearing up a bit reading her statement? Not only was it classy as f*ck, but it was tender, compassionate, and definitely reignited the fire I have in my belly – I wish my husband and I had done this from the get go instead of now where we’re both planning some major career moves, supporting the other, but with 1 year old twins and a 5 year old. I live to hear stories like hers, and the fact there is LITERALLY NOTHING Wendy can say back is just…*chef’s kiss*. I’m going to make a big effort to internally recite something similar to those who project their pain.
It was perfection and made me tear up too. She has beauty just radiating from her soul and I think she instantly saw Wendy’s pain and took it as a moment to teach (not just Wendy, but others who needed to hear it).
I see what Wendy is saying, because the reality is that it happens more often that not, but I disagree with her. She has a right speak her mind as a talk show host about gossip, but that means she put herself out there to get read like a book!
Tabitha read her ass down in the way only a southern Auntie can and it’s what Wendy deserved.
But the vitriol that people have for Wendy Williams regarding this matter seems a little hypocritical. After all, don’t we all come on this site everyday and give unwarranted and sometimes WRONG opinions about people we don’ t know? You cannot like what she says but if people want Wendy’s shows gone, they should also want these sites gone too.
We have to be honest here. Our indulgence of gossip in anyway is not productive for society and we are often speaking on things we really don’t know, only what we THINK we know.
I’m fine with calling Wendy out, but at the same time…we do the same things.
1. There’s a difference between mean and fun. Wendy Williams doesn’t know the difference. (Or if she does, she doesn’t care.)
2. I DO think there’s a place for social commentary, especially from a feminist, pro-Black perspective. For example — This site is one of a very, very few online media forums where the writers not only don’t hate Meghan, but do understand her situation in the context of misogynoir specifically and do support her. That’s actually hugely significant.
3. Gossip can be hurtful, but it’s also been studied as resistance, sharing information important to marginalized groups, such as insights on resisting white supremacy and patriarchy, in an accessible form. Can’t paint it all with the same brush.
Williams likes to trash people out of spite. That’s a way different kettle of fish than expressing an honest opinion.
Elizabeth, that’s what is said to justify what we do. But I’m sure the people who we gossip about everyday see things differently. Everybody’s idea of what’s mean is different. I don’t think Wendy said anything mean, I don’t think she had to say it, but what else do you expect from a gossip talk show host.
This isn’t really social commentary, for Christ’s sake, we’re talking shit about celebrities more than we are not. Their private life doesn’t have anything to do with their jobs as entertainers, so what are we doing spending our time talking about their private choices? Unless they are breaking a serious social law or committing a crime. They don’t spend time talking about ours.
Wendy said what she said, and Tabitha said what she said. Wendy did her job. And the reason why she has a job like that is because we as Americans in
love gossip and we love talking shit about public figures because we like building folk up and tearing them down for the same things many of us do everyday.
She didn’t do anything out of spite, Wendy, because she said herself she didn’t even know her like that. Tabitha’s retirement video was all on the Black blogs and Black platforms of social media for days before Wendy, that’s how Wendy got caught up in it. And Tabitha was getting trashed by other people too saying what Wendy said.
But I do think Wendy does the most. I don’t watch her personally. But I’m not upset about her and how she gets her bag because the people who make this website also get their bag from idle gossip. It would be crazy to pretend otherwise.
And I don’t know necessarily if I agree with your last observation. There have been plenty of African American people on this website who try to give their perspectives about certain things but are banned, or their comments are deleted because it doesn’t go with what is is palatable for caucasian consumption and understanding of cultural dynamics.
And Bitchy was shady towards Meghan too in the beginning as were many of the commentors. And many times, they will delete comments by African Americans who give a different take on Meghan, not in a vicious way. But if it’s anyway objectively critical, it will get taken down.
We’ll see if this particular post makes it.
I think Wendy is BITTER and just down right mean. She made her career outting people or casting aspersions on them. She is a horrible, horrible person. I’ve never watched her show because nothing she says or does has a sense of fun it’s about destroying people and being nasty. She had no business projecting her mess on someone under the guise of “advice” and she got read for it. She deserved it.
@vicky, I agree with you. Wendy’s job is literally to gossip and be snarky so idk why she gets criticized for it. We do it here! I don’t think Wendy is a mean person. I don’t get the hate for her, I love her show!
Tabitha’s cooking videos almost make me want to go vegan too. Too many mushrooms though (I just don’t like them).
She spreads kindness and we all need some of that. I would watch her over Wendy every day.
Ooh, Ms. Tabitha just got a new fan. This lady wasn’t even on my radar but she just got a new fan. Talk about killing you with kindness. That just made my day. Bet Wendy will keep her name out of her mouth from now onward.
Ms. Tabitha could tell you to go to hell and you will end up looking forward to that trip
Wendy made a career out of bringing down and ‘exposing’ people, especially Black women. It has to burn her that Tabitha is with a man who is out there trying to leave the world a little better for the future instead of making a public fool out of her.
She was always a bitter woman who made sure no one had joy.
I would feel more empathy for her if she would find some damn growth.
And what an unusually gorgeous man he is too, wow…
Wendy Williams has always been horrible. She made her name at one of the biggest NYC stations; was unnecessarily nasty to a lot of people; but then got kicked off for insulting one person too many. By all rights, her career should have ended there, but no rest for the bitchy. 🤮 Tabitha is more generous than I would have been. Nicely-played. 🤣
Team Tab all day. Been following were awhile now. She is amazing. Wendy is jealous!
Well that was just nasty of Wendy. And Tabitha is a treasure. What grace.
Even Wendy’s audience was seriously uncomfortable with her rant. They just got more and more silent as she went on her near-tear barrage, until she had to order them to clap in agreement with her. And they signed up for her brand of crazy!
Even Wendy’s audience was seriously uncomfortable with her rant. They just got more and more silent as she went on her near-tear barrage, until she had to order them to clap in agreement with her. And they signed up for her brand of crazy!
Tabitha’s videos always uplift me, and make me hungry!!