Taylor Swift & Joe Alwyn have spoken about their future together & ‘feel very secure’

Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn have been together for five and a half years or thereabouts. This is Taylor’s longest relationship and, by the looks of it, probably her healthiest? Joe has his own career but it’s not like he’s headlining blockbusters every six months. He’s more like a character actor working consistently. He doesn’t seem to be in his feelings about being with a wildly rich and successful woman either. I’ve heard rumors that they’re genuinely pretty low-key, or as low-key as a couple can be with homes in London, Nashville, New York and LA.

Every six months or so, there are “rumors” about an engagement. So far, neither Taylor nor Joe has confirmed anything, ever. Although if we learned that Joe and Tay had slipped away and eloped a few years ago, I would not be surprised. Anyway, we’re in another round of engagement rumors and I think this ET piece was the reason why:

Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn have figured out the secret to making their relationship work. A source tells ET that the 32-year-old singer and 30-year-old actor “are very happy in their relationship,” and prefer to “keep their private life private.”

“They’ve been enjoying their time as a couple,” the source says. “They have spoken about their future together and feel very secure about their relationship.” As for how they’re able to balance both work and romance, the source notes, “They’re supportive of each other’s careers and of each other in general. Both of them have been busy with work and they completely understand how to balance hectic schedules and still make time for each other. It’s part of why their relationship really works.”

[From ET]

When Taylor released the music video for “I Bet You Think About Me,” I kind of wondered if the visuals were supposed to be some kind of cue directed at Alwyn. I mean, it all takes place at a wedding and she even wore a wedding gown and had a “dance” with a groom. It was like: HEY JOE LOOK AT THIS. Even the Snake Fam noticed that and they were speculating that Taylor wants to get married soon. I don’t know! Whenever I write these JoeTay engagement rumor stories, I always think back to her appearance on Graham Norton years ago when she made a joke about prenups and losing half of her money in a divorce.

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  1. Jezz says:

    It would be refreshing and sweet to learn that they were married when that video came out, and that really was her dress.

  2. Arizona says:

    Deux Moi has been saying they’re engaged, that seems to be where the rumors are coming from recently.

    I wouldn’t be surprised if they were already engaged or even married, although I suspect Taylor would want the opportunity to have a wedding ceremony, even if it was pretty private.

  3. Noki says:

    That snake backlash she endured via Kanye and Kim K really seems to have made her revist how she wanted to conduct this relationship especially after the OTT with Tom H.I am not quite convinced she has burried her childish and vengeful ways yet look at what just happened with Jake G. Five years is a long time she has a whole lot of material on this guy once he crosses her.

    • Selene says:

      I think most of her vengeful lyrics are righteous; the guys did what they did and she didn’t cheat back or humiliated them, she just retaliates with songs. Notice how she didn’t ever write something disparaging about Tom Hiddleston and that’s because he behaved like a gentleman. They misbehave or treat her like $hit, well, she writes. We should expect it, I mean, Beyonce wrote Lemonade.

      • Laura says:

        She’s been calling Tom Hiddleston an old dumb fool since Reputation.

      • Selene says:

        If I’m not mistaken, she wrote Getaway Car, which was about her being a dumb fool and ruining that relationship.

      • Lindy79 says:

        I felt Getaway Car was unnecessarily cruel and cold to a bloke who didn’t do anything at all to her.

      • Laura says:

        @Selene Hmm, I guess that’s not the way I take Getaway Car. I take it more as Tom should have known this 26 year old 2 weeks out from her first long-term relationship wasn’t looking for anything serious. “We never had a shotgun shot in the dark” “Don’t pretend it’s such a mystery, you should have known I’d be the first to leave” “it’s no surprise I turned you in”

      • Lindy79 says:

        Should have known…but did she actually say it. It might not have been a surprise to her, but that doesnt mean it wasn’t to the other person. The tone I feel is very much, “oh come on, how could you not see what was going on?” implying he didn’t know and she kind of threw him under the bus as a jump off.

        I just felt it was a bit of a sucker punch to someone who didn’t really do anything to her. Like I get writing songs about heartbreak but this was really “whoops sorry I used you but come on you should have known”

        Look I don’t think she’s the devil incarnate or that he wasn’t benefiting from their public love tour (they both benefited) but it just seems unnecessarily mean, coupled with the “Tom’s only using her for publicity” stuff that was likely leaked by her team at the time when she was looking for an out after the mocking they both got.

      • Concern Fae says:

        My niece is a huge Swiftie and has been pre-school. She’s in high school now, so basically her whole life. When Reputation came out, I did sit her down to talk about how a lot of the lyrics are huge relationships red flags. That “look what you made me do” is a walk out the door moment, whether you hear it or find yourself saying it. Basically, yes, what Taylor sings about in these songs is normal and human, but also a sign to step back and ask yourself if this is your best self.

    • Ohcomeon says:

      @ConcernFae, Well said. What you’re doing with your niece will help a generation of women crawl out from under self-imposed victimhood. Bravo.

    • CocofromCanada says:

      I think it’s funny that the bozos that treated her badly keep doing it when they know she will write a song about it

  4. Abby says:

    I love the theory that they are already married—that they got married during the pandemic. But I also know girlfriend has done a TREMENDOUS amount of work during the last 2 years, and I don’t know if I would be that focused on work if I had just gotten married.

    I like to think that they’re happy, maybe they’re married, just living their life together. Of all the guys she could be with, he’s not who I would have thought she’d ended up with (they look like siblings to me) but if they’re happy and stable, I’m here for it.

    I hope in any case that she got a really good prenup. I think she’s learned the hard way how important it is so have these kinds of agreements in place to protect her work.

  5. Robyn+Castellani says:

    I sort of suspect they’re married also. Her mom, who she adores, has metastatic cancer that spread to her brain a few years ago. I think she would want her mom to be part of her wedding and would not have waited. And I’m proud of her if she managed to get married and keep it to and for herself and her family.

    • Harper says:

      I worry about her mom too, and also think they may already have wed so she could be there. Wasn’t there a blip sometime ago with one of Joe’s sisters calling Taylor her sister-in-law?

    • HelloDolly! says:

      I totally see this. If it were me, I would try to speed things up. My father died of ALS a few years before I got married. I couldn’t even bring myself to have a formal wedding because my dad would not be there–it was too much.

      My husband and I instead got married in a beautiful patio of a wine-country restaurant, and we simply stood in front of everyone (and a beautiful old building) and exchanged vows. Our friend read a non-traditional small sermon-like talk and honored my father in the talk.

  6. Amanda says:

    I might be in the minority here, but I think it’s possible that they are one of those types of couples that don’t feel like they need to be married to be committed to each other. It is still possible that they just had a small ceremony, or just signed the papers at the court house too.

    • Laura says:

      I don’t think Taylor is that kind of person though, and she’s also written songs about marrying him so I think she does eventually want that to happen.

  7. lucy2 says:

    A few years ago I would have said no way she’d get married without a huge, princess for a day wedding, but now, I could see it. She’s keeping her life more private, so good for her.

  8. albalilium says:

    Their kids will be sooo tall

    • Leanne says:

      As a tall woman who married a man an inch shorter, I’m happy for her that Joe is so tall! She can wear heels without really thinking about it.

  9. Songs (Or It Didn't Happen) says:

    She spent a lot of her 20s trying to find “the one” and hoping every relationship she had would end with marriage and forever. A lot of women do that, this isn’t a slam against her. She also wanted to be very public about her love life. It seems like she’s really grown and knows herself a lot better now, though. The public probably cares a lot more about her marital status than she does.

  10. SaraTor says:

    I’m curious about how Taylor envisions her future. Does she want to be married with kids, splitting time between London and NY? Or do they like it how it is, as partners without needing to get married or have kids? For some reason I feel like it’s the former, and since she’s early 30s, I sort of expected we’d hear they already got married and a couple years later that they had a kid, sort of Ryan Gosling/Eva Mendes like. But the longer there’s no announcement, the more I’m curious if everyone is wrong about having this expectation of what Taylor really wants.

    • Case says:

      I’m a big fan of Taylor’s, and tbh, I think the concept that she wants marriage and babies comes from her image when she was 20, not the woman she is now. I absolutely don’t see her having children. But I also don’t see her marrying Joe for various reasons and that’s an unpopular opinion, so.

      • Laura says:

        She just released a song where she said she’d give him a child, though. And when Paul McCartney asked about that line specifically, she said it was personal not fictional so… I’m thinking she does want to have kids.

  11. RoSco says:

    My money’s on them already being married. I feel like Taylor has been in this game long enough and been stung so many times that she’s made a clear delineation between career and home. It seems like she’s still confessional because she’s releasing Taylor’s Version of her old albums but her actual newly created content (Folklore, Evermore) is more removed.

  12. AmyB says:

    She wrote she’d marry him with “paper rings” on the Lover album. The title song from that album also touched on marriage so I don’t think a music video three years later would be a way to “communicate” her desire to him. Like others have said they are probably committed to each other in some way either engagement or marriage and they won’t announce it. Maybe if there are children but there are plenty of couples who don’t get married and have kids. Swift’s parents are divorced so its not like she has a fairytale image of it.

  13. Ohcomeon says:

    Funny how these stories about the fairytale that is this relationship come out when TS is being dragged for shading her exes and siccing her rabid fanbase on them. I hope she pays her PR people well because they are working some mad OT trying to make her look good.